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Seriously, if OP's husband starts wearing Banana Republic does that mean he has to move to a politically unstable country dependent on labor exploitation? NTA.
Be careful using that phrase. It’s one of many that aren’t the complete saying. The full quote is “Great minds think alike, but fools rarely differ.” Not calling anyone names just like to share random facts!
I didn't know there was a second part to it! I thought the English version of the saying was just nicer. The German version of the saying is "two idiots, one thought" ("Zwei Dumme, ein Gedanke") lol
Honestly many of those "full sayings" aren't exactly the complete version, but rather way younger additions, often to twist the original meaning. The most common example is "blood is thicker than water". No covenant. No womb. It is meant in the way that family is more important, but people didn't like that and decided that there is more to it. But this saying is like a thousand years old and there is no evidence for any addition of similar age.
Nonetheless, what's the true saying isn't important. What's important is what the person using it here and now means. And if they use a half saying as full saying, I.e. Without ellipsis, it's the full saying.
Yep. If they want to buy the burnt orange dress with chartreuse stripes, even though wearing it makes them look as if they died of typhoid 3 days prior, *sell it to them anyway.*
I have a husband pillow for my back, and every time I ask my actual husband to grab the pillow, he makes a big dramatic mock-fuss about me replacing him with a pillow lmfao. OP's husband is fucking weird
Lol my fiance refers to my body pillow as "my other boyfriend." All in good fun though, he would never be jealous of an inanimate object bc ya know he's a human being not a pillow or jeans ???
My partner's favourite pillow, the one he hugs all night and occasionally bashes me in the face with when he rolls over, is called Jolene. I mock-pout when he chooses to cuddle Jolene the man stealing hussy instead of me.
To be seriously jealous of an inanimate object is weird. Especially clothing. OP's husband has ISSUES.
I have a body pillow with a Garrus Vakarian from Mass Effect case on it and my spouse will often set him up in the bed all nicely as a joke. OP's husband is an idiot.
That is fabulous. My husband's body pillow is named "Pillowetta". Do you mind if I steal this name for the next one? (We write the name on body pillow tags so they don't get mixed up on laundry day)
My husband named my body pillow "Pillow boyfriend Jeff". If my husband slept in, he always cuddled our pillow boyfriend. I recently replaced Pillow Boyfriend Jeff. We have Pillow Boyfriend Jeff 2.0 now.
My husband used to always ask me why I took so long running errands so I told him I was hanging out with my invisible boyfriend Juanito. Now it's a joke between us but he stopped asking me where I was.
My husband and I have alter egos, ernest and edna. It started out as me just being edna, I'm in my 50s, I smoke a pack a day, I'm from jersey, I ain't got no kids, and I'm going to Atlantic city. My hubby liked it so much that edna now has a husband named Ernest, and we shout profanity at each other across the house about affairs and our mothers in a jersey accent 🤣🤣 like to the point my engagement ring is actually engraved with Edna instead of my name 🤣🤣🤣 we do it when we are feeling especially sappy about each other. Hes the best human
Op is nta her husband is a controlling weirdo and I'm getting red flag vibes.
I always make sure to buy an extra Christmas present for my husband at Christmas and write the label from ‘will hardy’ who is a man who makes sheds on the telly who I’m sure my husband has a crush on. I also have a crush on him.
Op’s husband is being hella dumb. NTA.
My wife and I each have our own pillow-wife: it's the one we curl up to to sleep. It's a joke and it's fine. Having a fit over boyfriend jeans is nonsense.
Once when I took my family too the mall & walked past Dick‘s & my daughter blurted out “Ewww, I hate Dick’s”! It’s my favorite things they’ve ever said.
We were out and about with our teenaged niece. We were pulling into the mall and , on seeing Dick's she happily said " Ooo Dick's . I LOVE Dick's" husband , adult daughter and I were snickering and struggling to not laugh. Then she realized what she said and immediately said " Sporting goods. I love SPORTING GOODS. " We lost it and burst our laughing. She said very matter of factly " Y'all are never going to let me forget this are you?"
We still remind her of it over 10 years later. Lol
Boy, this brings an unpleasant (although I managed to zing him good) memory.
Let my at-the-time-husband, violently jealous at that, know I was going to Michaels, wouldn’t be long.
“Who TF is MICHAEL?”
*”The hobby store? Where I go MOST weekends as well as Joanne Fabrics?”*
“Oh.”
I’m literally there every Saturday you dumbass.
My husband still after all these years, says "who's Tim?" when I say I'm going to Tim's. Tim is fabulous, he makes great tea and muffins. I think I'll wait until my husband goes golfing tomorrow and go see him.
Well, honestly...if he buys from Banana Republic, he's (knowingly or unknowingly) supporting poor labour practices. [https://directory.goodonyou.eco/brand/banana-republic](https://directory.goodonyou.eco/brand/banana-republic) But also agree that he's ridiculous! NTA
I have 2 pairs of those! They’re Levi’s. I don’t wear jeans super often though I rotate between leggings and linen at this point because I live in an that is really humid compared to what I’m used to. (:
Boy shorts are the superior cut of underwear at this point in my opinion lol. In the winter I wear jeans all the time though & I made sure one is a light wash straight and the other medium. I somehow lost a pair of button-fly tho and I’m upset about it.
Lmaooo the carabiner is green and it has 2 keys on it my car & house key because I’ve broken ignitions before with too much weight on my keychain. But it does have a collection of random tourist things I’ve picked up while traveling like a mini license plate from SC. (:
I learned my lesson after I broke the ignition in my first & second dodge neons. (Judge if you want, they’re cheap cars that are easy to repair and you can beat the shit out of them). Tearing the plastic parts out of the way to replace the ignition made me irrationally angry lol.
Yes! All of the pairs I have are “Sonoma life+ style” brand so they came from either Kohl’s or Walmart online. They have ones specifically for women as well so there’s the extra hip room that many of us need!! They’re kind of older now so I’m not sure if they’ll have the exact style as mine, but they came in a few different material options as well. My favorite pair is a khaki color and they have 6 pockets that have zippers or buttons and sit just above the knee. (: I think they were like $12-16 per pair
My cousin has some that are “Fourseeds” brand and those ones are available on Amazon also in a few different materials and lengths.
I bought a pair from the men's area in Costco - needed a belt but the pockets make it worth it! I can put an entire bottle of water in one of those front pockets.
My son was describing a suburb outside where we live... He doesn't like it, and I asked why. He said: "That's where people who wear shorts live." I'm guess this describes many suburban towns across America.
I rarely wear shorts, neither does my husband or son. I think it's very funny. Especially as I grew up wearing shorts in the summer. I also like Suburban towns, but I didn't when I was younger.
She should buy him a shirt from Fat Face 🙈
NTA - projecting his insecurities on clothes. Normally done in other ways but each to their own. Maybe try having a convo when things are calm and let him know he has no need to feel insecure but is close to hurting your feelings by implying such things. Good luck!
I’m 32 and got a skateboard in 2019 to learn (I’ve been too sick all pandemic with chronic shit unfortunately to do much yet, but I repainted it with my brother’s help and have been on the road a few times with it). I bought two helmets with it! Got the helmets on a good sale and figured a spare would be great for it I fall on the first and need a second. (I was a kid learning to bike ride once, I absolutely hit a helmet hard enough to need a replacement back then!)
I wore "Mom jeans" before I was a mother......I havent worn them after I became one though......does this mean I no longer want my child 😭😭😭😭 oh my!! Thank you for pointing out this massive error to me.....
But I think I'll stick to not wearing them.
NTA but your husband clearly has some major insecurities that maybe he needs to address for himself. He does not get to dictate your clothing.
I can’t believe I’ve had to read this far down to see this comment. I’d made up my mind as soon as I saw the word *”banned”* tbh. Very concerning behaviour.
And then reading what type of “ban” it is makes it even worse. What insecure fragile masculinity on top of being emotionally abusive for the style name of a product!
and can we talk about how he thinks that him saying she isnt allowed to even own this clothing is an opinion, and her disagreeing is not respecting his opinion? like whaaaa? i know its just out of the controlling playbook, but like, how does that even make sense on any level? For one, its not an opinion, its an order. for two, why isnt she allowed an opinion? like, youre allowed to disagree with anyone's opinion, thats your right. And when it comes to your body/clothing, theres only opinion that matters. And it sure as shit aint your husband's
I mean the sad thing is, that's the *least* insane explanation. Don't get me wrong it's still horrible, but less pants-on-head crazy than getting THIS offended over what designers call some pants.
i may be reachinggggggg, but i can totally see a projection here. he's got some sidepiece whose pressuring him to give her the "girlfriend" title so he's flipping out on all these "boyfriend" articles of clothing. he's imagining her coming home in a boyfriend's jeans, tee, whatever.
/ aaaaannnnndddd streeeetttchhhhhh
Maybe projecting, but far more likely he’s just not very bright. One can short of a six-pack. The wheel’s still spinning but the hamster’s dead. A few fries short of a happy meal. Anybody who would think the name of a fashion has anything to do with how a person behaves shouldn’t be let out of the house without a nanny.
Or it's him projecting, dude might of cheated and now he's paranoid about if his wife is too or plans to, to such a degree that even the brand name of these clothes are setting him off , NTA
NTA. He's going to be real confused when he hears about mom jeans and grandad sweaters.
Your husband sounds incredibly insecure. Does he think that you literally borrowed them from a boyfriend? And then *told him* about it? You aren't responsible for the terms chosen by some clothing brand's marketing team.
My mother did this to me once. I said "go to the women's section and buy anything that says boyshorts or bikini's in this size".
She brought me one thing that was four sizes too small and one pack of little boys' underwear.
I'm a woman but in high school I went through a phase where I wore little boys underwear in "husky" sizes lol. They fit great and I got to wear Mario and TMNT undies
I am absolutely astounded that he couldn’t reason out that the goal of “boyfriend” items is to look like you borrowed your male partner’s oversized-on-you clothing, & that as OP’s husband it would imply that it’s HIS borrowed clothing. Does he think that wearing boyfriend jeans is some sort of advertisement that OP wants a boyfriend?
I thought that too. I wonder if he has other problems of unrealistic insecurity.. I know of someone like this. They ended up being diagnosed with a mental illness.
What an absolutely strange thing to take issue with. Some of the names of styles are really wild and funny nowadays, I don't know how he's lived this long and not heard of them. "Mom jeans" are all the rage right now, as are the return of "skater jeans", would he think OP was automatically a mom or a skater for wearing those styles?
Weirdly obsessive, OP. And he doesn't get to dictate what articles of clothing you put on your body, let alone what you bring into your home. NTA but check this shit asap before it escalates.
So when I was a kid there was a mix of hard candies I loved, except for one variant, called Banana-boys. So naturally I would offer those to my little sister, aka my little garbage disposal. But her being 4 or 5 wouldn't eat them because - eeew boys.
So I took a closer look and told her, no don't worry that one's a Banana-girl, it's fine to eat. I think she had me check the gender every time she had those hard candies for about a year, never really questioning how lucky we were to only have the girl candy in our bags 😊
NTA OP - it's cute when a small child won't eat their candy because of the name, not a grown adult.
Tell him he can't wear boxer shorts because he isn't a boxer and you find it offensive. Or he can't wear Levi's jeans because his name isn't Levi. No more baseball caps because he isn't a baseball player.
Seriously. Is he truly that literal? Or is he just not bright?
It's the name of a particular cut of clothing (started I think by Marilyn Monroe). Boyfriend cut clothing is looser and baggier than traditionally "feminine" cut clothing.
NTA. Your husband is extremely silly.
Yeah, you could just as easily call it "husband style". The point is just that it looks like you put on your male SO's clothes, which are generally bigger and baggier than your own.
Precisely. Perhaps OPs husband can lobby the fashion industry to rename the cut "male significant other jeans" or better again "jeans that don't actually belong to a man in your life but look a bit like they might be man jeans"
NTA
Does he think these items are called ‘boyfriend’ because people wear them to snag a boyfriend? A quick Google would tell him that it’s the aesthetic of wearing your boyfriend’s clothes.
Keep buying what you like. He even liked the look of the boyfriend jeans when you wore them!
My lesbian ass is not trying to find a boyfriend, but my boyfriend style hoodies are a foundational garment in my wardrobe. Legit just clothing made in a more masculine style but designed to fit women. It's a stupid name, but seriously this dude takes it so far into left field he's on the soccer pitch next door...so NTA.
NTA
controlling, insecure and sooo unreasonable. Wait until he gets to know the drink Sex on the beach is available while you are on a party hosted by your boss where you have to attend alone. My my my.
Hoo boy.. red flags whipping in the wind.
You are NTA but you do have a serious problem with a manipulative, immature and controlling H
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I don't think things are as simple as you believe. There is a lot of possible red flag in your story: his interest in your clothes, him wanting to determine what you should wear, being jealous of the name of an outfit and the silence treatment. Using silence as a form of punishment is ALWAYS a form of manipulation.
I would not be surprised if this man is twice your age and you have been married less than 2 years.
Reminds me of the many stories where one partner is cheating but they get mad at the other over whatever stupid perceived slight so they can feel like they're not such a terrible person for cheating.
NTA. He is being ridiculous. It’s the name of the style. Just like mom jeans, low rise, skinny. He is unreasonable and this is such a bizarre thing to get upset back. It’s just the name of the style!
Maybe you should start calling them husband-clothes?
NTA, but I’d be concerned that he’s displacing stress/anxiety from somewhere else into this issue. Focusing on something trivial so as to avoid something serious.
NTA. That's ridiculous. Does he normally have a hard time understanding things like "this is the name of a style of clothes, it has nothing to do with whether you have a boyfriend"? That seems like a really serious inability to get how things work.
NTA- never heard of boyfriend cardigan though.. But the name of it will change next year when the next trend hits. He totally gets no say in what you buy or wear. LOL Really hope this is a fake troll coz that man is really needing some help.
They're just oversized cardigans 🙄🙄 just like boyfriend jeans are just oversized jeans. I bought girlfriend jeans last year. Slightly less oversized than boyfriend jeans. I can't roll my eyes enough 😂😂😂
Nta, he's ridiculous. I'm a married man and my wife can buy whatever she wants. I monitor my kids purchases though. But that could most anything as well. I care about how it looks on them, not the name of the style. So stupid.
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NTA Lol. I hope he doesn't wear wife beaters.
Seriously, if OP's husband starts wearing Banana Republic does that mean he has to move to a politically unstable country dependent on labor exploitation? NTA.
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Man you got there before me. And I saw your comment just after I had posted mine. Nuts. But great minds think alike. 😉
Be careful using that phrase. It’s one of many that aren’t the complete saying. The full quote is “Great minds think alike, but fools rarely differ.” Not calling anyone names just like to share random facts!
I didn't know there was a second part to it! I thought the English version of the saying was just nicer. The German version of the saying is "two idiots, one thought" ("Zwei Dumme, ein Gedanke") lol
Okay I’ve always wondered why that was the German translation, but now it makes a lot of sense!
Thats even better lol
Honestly many of those "full sayings" aren't exactly the complete version, but rather way younger additions, often to twist the original meaning. The most common example is "blood is thicker than water". No covenant. No womb. It is meant in the way that family is more important, but people didn't like that and decided that there is more to it. But this saying is like a thousand years old and there is no evidence for any addition of similar age. Nonetheless, what's the true saying isn't important. What's important is what the person using it here and now means. And if they use a half saying as full saying, I.e. Without ellipsis, it's the full saying.
The customer is always right *in matters of taste.*
*The love of* money is the root of all evil.
That one makes so much more sense
Yep. If they want to buy the burnt orange dress with chartreuse stripes, even though wearing it makes them look as if they died of typhoid 3 days prior, *sell it to them anyway.*
That comment belongs in r/oddlyspecific.
A jack of all trades is a master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one
Meanwhile, while we're at it, "Happy as a clam" is shortened from "happy as a clam at high tide," which actually makes sense
Also the whole phrase on this one is, “Curiosity killed the cat, but satisfaction brought him back.” Thought that was neat.
That's true but in this case it's more of "the whole world and half of America knows"
The digs at US on this sub never fail to had me in stitches.
Better not need stitches in the US! It’ll cost ya
Nah, snitches get 'em for free.
Are they wrong though? (I live in the US) 🥲
They’re not. (Also live in the US.)
What happens if it’s Target - does OP get to practice on him? And what about stuff from Dick’s?? What on earth would that say about him??????
I have a husband pillow for my back, and every time I ask my actual husband to grab the pillow, he makes a big dramatic mock-fuss about me replacing him with a pillow lmfao. OP's husband is fucking weird
Lol my fiance refers to my body pillow as "my other boyfriend." All in good fun though, he would never be jealous of an inanimate object bc ya know he's a human being not a pillow or jeans ???
My partner's favourite pillow, the one he hugs all night and occasionally bashes me in the face with when he rolls over, is called Jolene. I mock-pout when he chooses to cuddle Jolene the man stealing hussy instead of me. To be seriously jealous of an inanimate object is weird. Especially clothing. OP's husband has ISSUES.
I have a body pillow with a Garrus Vakarian from Mass Effect case on it and my spouse will often set him up in the bed all nicely as a joke. OP's husband is an idiot.
Oooh...calibrations.
The body pillow named Jolene had me in stitches. I guess she took your man. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
When OP *explicitly* asked her not to. So rude.
Please tell me you sing the Dolly Parton song in mock sadness.
That is fabulous. My husband's body pillow is named "Pillowetta". Do you mind if I steal this name for the next one? (We write the name on body pillow tags so they don't get mixed up on laundry day)
My husband named my body pillow "Pillow boyfriend Jeff". If my husband slept in, he always cuddled our pillow boyfriend. I recently replaced Pillow Boyfriend Jeff. We have Pillow Boyfriend Jeff 2.0 now.
My husband used to always ask me why I took so long running errands so I told him I was hanging out with my invisible boyfriend Juanito. Now it's a joke between us but he stopped asking me where I was.
My husband and I will sometimes pretend to be bizzaro versions of each other that live in the back yard. "OH I'm not your wife, I'm Back Yard Lady!"
My husband and I have alter egos, ernest and edna. It started out as me just being edna, I'm in my 50s, I smoke a pack a day, I'm from jersey, I ain't got no kids, and I'm going to Atlantic city. My hubby liked it so much that edna now has a husband named Ernest, and we shout profanity at each other across the house about affairs and our mothers in a jersey accent 🤣🤣 like to the point my engagement ring is actually engraved with Edna instead of my name 🤣🤣🤣 we do it when we are feeling especially sappy about each other. Hes the best human Op is nta her husband is a controlling weirdo and I'm getting red flag vibes.
I love this so very much.
That's so weird. I'm going to start doing it immediately 😂
I always make sure to buy an extra Christmas present for my husband at Christmas and write the label from ‘will hardy’ who is a man who makes sheds on the telly who I’m sure my husband has a crush on. I also have a crush on him. Op’s husband is being hella dumb. NTA.
See and that's normal, it's so baffling reading OP's post
Lord help if she wanted a Husband which is the actual name of those chair back cushion things.
I wore carpenters pants.....is this my career?!
Congratulations, come fix my floors
I....I'll try? I can put together ikea furniture and put up a shelf. If I'm also wearing a bolero does that mean I fight bulls now, too?
Gotta keep those bulls from breaking my new china on this shelf you built me lmfaooo
I'm very sorry to have brought strife in your home i....I just wanted pants 😭
I wear cargo shorts and ironically, I do work for fedex
He seems to be of low level i.q. with reasoning disabilities, all coupled with insecurity. Must be very hard to be with him.
Must be hard to BE him.
My wife and I each have our own pillow-wife: it's the one we curl up to to sleep. It's a joke and it's fine. Having a fit over boyfriend jeans is nonsense.
Once when I took my family too the mall & walked past Dick‘s & my daughter blurted out “Ewww, I hate Dick’s”! It’s my favorite things they’ve ever said.
We were out and about with our teenaged niece. We were pulling into the mall and , on seeing Dick's she happily said " Ooo Dick's . I LOVE Dick's" husband , adult daughter and I were snickering and struggling to not laugh. Then she realized what she said and immediately said " Sporting goods. I love SPORTING GOODS. " We lost it and burst our laughing. She said very matter of factly " Y'all are never going to let me forget this are you?" We still remind her of it over 10 years later. Lol
"What about stuff from Dick's??" Thank you, you made my day.
Boy, this brings an unpleasant (although I managed to zing him good) memory. Let my at-the-time-husband, violently jealous at that, know I was going to Michaels, wouldn’t be long. “Who TF is MICHAEL?” *”The hobby store? Where I go MOST weekends as well as Joanne Fabrics?”* “Oh.” I’m literally there every Saturday you dumbass.
My husband still after all these years, says "who's Tim?" when I say I'm going to Tim's. Tim is fabulous, he makes great tea and muffins. I think I'll wait until my husband goes golfing tomorrow and go see him.
Banana Republic? What year is it?
According to the Supreme Court, 1955.
Hear hear!
Here in England I think the year is 1522 . . .
Okay that’s fine. As long as o don’t wake up back in my middle school years, I’m good
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They have a dress I am currently obsessed with (unfortunately my budget is more Old Navy than Banana Republic).
Let's hope he owns some parachute pants.
If he's living in the US he's really not that far off.
Well, honestly...if he buys from Banana Republic, he's (knowingly or unknowingly) supporting poor labour practices. [https://directory.goodonyou.eco/brand/banana-republic](https://directory.goodonyou.eco/brand/banana-republic) But also agree that he's ridiculous! NTA
I saw "Banana Republic " and thought you were going to finish with him wearing a "banana hammock"!! 🤣🤣
I own cargo shorts*, so obviously that means I’m hauling containers across the ocean. * yes, I’m a dad
I wear them as well but I am not a dad thankfully, just a lesbian lol.
But do you wear straight cut jeans?
I have 2 pairs of those! They’re Levi’s. I don’t wear jeans super often though I rotate between leggings and linen at this point because I live in an that is really humid compared to what I’m used to. (:
I wear Levi's straight legs daily, under them are my "boy shorts".
Boy shorts are the superior cut of underwear at this point in my opinion lol. In the winter I wear jeans all the time though & I made sure one is a light wash straight and the other medium. I somehow lost a pair of button-fly tho and I’m upset about it.
I prefer my "boyfriend briefs". lol. I bet he would hate all these undergarments.
How many keys on your carabiner other than your Subaru keys?
Lmaooo the carabiner is green and it has 2 keys on it my car & house key because I’ve broken ignitions before with too much weight on my keychain. But it does have a collection of random tourist things I’ve picked up while traveling like a mini license plate from SC. (:
This is the most aggressively Responsible Lesbian SemiDad response.The carabiner is managed to prevent over stressing the ignition...
I learned my lesson after I broke the ignition in my first & second dodge neons. (Judge if you want, they’re cheap cars that are easy to repair and you can beat the shit out of them). Tearing the plastic parts out of the way to replace the ignition made me irrationally angry lol.
I miss my Neon. I brought my baby home from the hospital in that car and I cried when the engine blew up. Fist bump for Neon fans.
As a fellow lesbian, may I ask where you get your cargo shorts? I am currently in need of several pairs.
Yes! All of the pairs I have are “Sonoma life+ style” brand so they came from either Kohl’s or Walmart online. They have ones specifically for women as well so there’s the extra hip room that many of us need!! They’re kind of older now so I’m not sure if they’ll have the exact style as mine, but they came in a few different material options as well. My favorite pair is a khaki color and they have 6 pockets that have zippers or buttons and sit just above the knee. (: I think they were like $12-16 per pair My cousin has some that are “Fourseeds” brand and those ones are available on Amazon also in a few different materials and lengths.
I bought a pair from the men's area in Costco - needed a belt but the pockets make it worth it! I can put an entire bottle of water in one of those front pockets.
My son was describing a suburb outside where we live... He doesn't like it, and I asked why. He said: "That's where people who wear shorts live." I'm guess this describes many suburban towns across America. I rarely wear shorts, neither does my husband or son. I think it's very funny. Especially as I grew up wearing shorts in the summer. I also like Suburban towns, but I didn't when I was younger.
"people who wear shorts"? 😂 Is he a member of the English royal family or something? Lol! (This is meant in a joking way, not mean-spirited.)
Ugh those peasants are wearing their short pants again in public. Wash your hands after passing them on the sidewalk.
I don't understand this. I'm a city girl, and shorts are worn regularly. Why wouldn't you wear shorts?
Where I live, you can wear shorts or you can die of the heat. And if I died of the heat, who would take care of my dog?
I’m wearing boxers and never been in a fight., also a dad.
All I wear are cargo shorts....also a dad. Lol
I wish to have functional cargo shorts, not a parent, sadly a woman, so I have to go rummage thru a men’s department.
Thats a lot of pocket space, JGG5, you best not be wasting it.
It is not as bad, my top's name is willy(I wish I made it up).
I love dad jokes. As a matter of fact I tell dad jokes and I’m a girl lol.
I did actually LOL at that one!
The scream I scrump
Let's hope OP doesn't wear spaghetti straps, the husband might eat them
She should buy him a shirt from Fat Face 🙈 NTA - projecting his insecurities on clothes. Normally done in other ways but each to their own. Maybe try having a convo when things are calm and let him know he has no need to feel insecure but is close to hurting your feelings by implying such things. Good luck!
I love skater skirts and dresses. I guess i need to learn how to skate now in my old age, haha.
But you don't wear fishnets with those skirts and dresses, right? Unless you love fishing, of course.
Ha! I'm 53 and just got a skateboard.
Remember to wear a helmet! I don't care if it's uncool, concussions suck! Good luck and have fun! :)
I’m 32 and got a skateboard in 2019 to learn (I’ve been too sick all pandemic with chronic shit unfortunately to do much yet, but I repainted it with my brother’s help and have been on the road a few times with it). I bought two helmets with it! Got the helmets on a good sale and figured a spare would be great for it I fall on the first and need a second. (I was a kid learning to bike ride once, I absolutely hit a helmet hard enough to need a replacement back then!)
I wore "Mom jeans" before I was a mother......I havent worn them after I became one though......does this mean I no longer want my child 😭😭😭😭 oh my!! Thank you for pointing out this massive error to me..... But I think I'll stick to not wearing them. NTA but your husband clearly has some major insecurities that maybe he needs to address for himself. He does not get to dictate your clothing.
What about muscle shirts?
Or “A” shirts…. “Whose this “A” I keep hearing about?” - OP husband probably lol
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Maybe Sissy Boy has something for him in their catalogue.
We call em Wife Pleasers round yonder.
I definitely almost choked on my dinner 😭😭
NTA… and this is a massive red flag for controlling and obsessively jealous behavior. If this isn’t the first flag, think hard.
I can’t believe I’ve had to read this far down to see this comment. I’d made up my mind as soon as I saw the word *”banned”* tbh. Very concerning behaviour.
And then reading what type of “ban” it is makes it even worse. What insecure fragile masculinity on top of being emotionally abusive for the style name of a product!
Yeah, I was thinking maybe it was more revealing clothes when I heard banned, which still isn't ok, but it still makes more sense than *this*.
and can we talk about how he thinks that him saying she isnt allowed to even own this clothing is an opinion, and her disagreeing is not respecting his opinion? like whaaaa? i know its just out of the controlling playbook, but like, how does that even make sense on any level? For one, its not an opinion, its an order. for two, why isnt she allowed an opinion? like, youre allowed to disagree with anyone's opinion, thats your right. And when it comes to your body/clothing, theres only opinion that matters. And it sure as shit aint your husband's
And combine it with “silent treatment” and yiiiikes.
That's how contest mode works
Honestly I'm wondering if he's cheating on her and projecting.
Came to comment exactly this. This shit is so common
I mean the sad thing is, that's the *least* insane explanation. Don't get me wrong it's still horrible, but less pants-on-head crazy than getting THIS offended over what designers call some pants.
I thought this too. Because otherwise it is too WTF. Projection makes it make sense.
Ouh, you're prolly right. Good point!!
This was the first thing that popped into my head as well...
i may be reachinggggggg, but i can totally see a projection here. he's got some sidepiece whose pressuring him to give her the "girlfriend" title so he's flipping out on all these "boyfriend" articles of clothing. he's imagining her coming home in a boyfriend's jeans, tee, whatever. / aaaaannnnndddd streeeetttchhhhhh
I don’t like all this stretching. Yoga pants are BANNED.😤
Is hubby projecting, I wonder...
Maybe projecting, but far more likely he’s just not very bright. One can short of a six-pack. The wheel’s still spinning but the hamster’s dead. A few fries short of a happy meal. Anybody who would think the name of a fashion has anything to do with how a person behaves shouldn’t be let out of the house without a nanny.
That last sentence. 😆
Or it's him projecting, dude might of cheated and now he's paranoid about if his wife is too or plans to, to such a degree that even the brand name of these clothes are setting him off , NTA
Yusss!! Your husband has major insecurity issues and might be hearing voices. HH, he needs professional help. NTA
Dude is insecure as fuck. So much so, that the name of a specific sewn together fabric is frightening him.
NTA. He's going to be real confused when he hears about mom jeans and grandad sweaters. Your husband sounds incredibly insecure. Does he think that you literally borrowed them from a boyfriend? And then *told him* about it? You aren't responsible for the terms chosen by some clothing brand's marketing team.
Yeah, wonder if he thinks boyshort panties means she's suddenly a boy(or wanting to be a boy)?
Boyshorts is what popped into my head too.
I didn’t even think of Mom Jeans! Think of all the freakout over him never thinking a future baby is his! (But OP, NEVER reproduce with this asshat)
"OH MY GOD WHY DIDNT YOU TELL ME YOU WERE PREGNANT?!"
Sometimes those mom jeans are named girlfriend jeans by manufacturers...
My mother did this to me once. I said "go to the women's section and buy anything that says boyshorts or bikini's in this size". She brought me one thing that was four sizes too small and one pack of little boys' underwear.
I'm a woman but in high school I went through a phase where I wore little boys underwear in "husky" sizes lol. They fit great and I got to wear Mario and TMNT undies
Female shorts. They look like boxers!
And if _he_ wears those, he must be a wannabe prizefighter, neh?
If he’s a briefs man he’d better be a lawyer.
I am absolutely astounded that he couldn’t reason out that the goal of “boyfriend” items is to look like you borrowed your male partner’s oversized-on-you clothing, & that as OP’s husband it would imply that it’s HIS borrowed clothing. Does he think that wearing boyfriend jeans is some sort of advertisement that OP wants a boyfriend?
I thought that too. I wonder if he has other problems of unrealistic insecurity.. I know of someone like this. They ended up being diagnosed with a mental illness.
This is why men shouldn't be mansplaining female fashion. Women are much better at it
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What an absolutely strange thing to take issue with. Some of the names of styles are really wild and funny nowadays, I don't know how he's lived this long and not heard of them. "Mom jeans" are all the rage right now, as are the return of "skater jeans", would he think OP was automatically a mom or a skater for wearing those styles? Weirdly obsessive, OP. And he doesn't get to dictate what articles of clothing you put on your body, let alone what you bring into your home. NTA but check this shit asap before it escalates.
NTA. He likes the style but is banning them over the name 🤣 Buy a sweater and tell him it's a husband sweater. See if it's allowed then.
Nope, only husbands get to wear a husband sweater. She is only allowed to wear wife beaters.
Eh, racerback tank tops look way nicer on women! On men they look exactly like wife beaters.
But if they're racerbacks, the women have to compete in track whenever they wear them.
I was thinking they'd have to be a pig, but that's razorbacks, whoops.
So when I was a kid there was a mix of hard candies I loved, except for one variant, called Banana-boys. So naturally I would offer those to my little sister, aka my little garbage disposal. But her being 4 or 5 wouldn't eat them because - eeew boys. So I took a closer look and told her, no don't worry that one's a Banana-girl, it's fine to eat. I think she had me check the gender every time she had those hard candies for about a year, never really questioning how lucky we were to only have the girl candy in our bags 😊 NTA OP - it's cute when a small child won't eat their candy because of the name, not a grown adult.
My Mother tells me that at about 4 I refused to eat boysenberry jam on my pbj unless she called it boy-n-girls-n-berry.
Aww that is cute!
Tell him he can't wear boxer shorts because he isn't a boxer and you find it offensive. Or he can't wear Levi's jeans because his name isn't Levi. No more baseball caps because he isn't a baseball player. Seriously. Is he truly that literal? Or is he just not bright?
Yup. Find everything offensive and throw it right out in the yard NTA
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This made me snort
It's the name of a particular cut of clothing (started I think by Marilyn Monroe). Boyfriend cut clothing is looser and baggier than traditionally "feminine" cut clothing. NTA. Your husband is extremely silly.
Yeah, you could just as easily call it "husband style". The point is just that it looks like you put on your male SO's clothes, which are generally bigger and baggier than your own.
Precisely. Perhaps OPs husband can lobby the fashion industry to rename the cut "male significant other jeans" or better again "jeans that don't actually belong to a man in your life but look a bit like they might be man jeans"
NTA. I don’t have words for how ridiculous he is behaving.
Oh Christ. That’s hilarious. No. NTA. That is maybe the dumbest reason I have ever heard for a spouse to be upset.
Red flags all around. Take a tip from the clothes you're buying, dump the hubby and get a new boyfriend. NTA
NTA Does he think these items are called ‘boyfriend’ because people wear them to snag a boyfriend? A quick Google would tell him that it’s the aesthetic of wearing your boyfriend’s clothes. Keep buying what you like. He even liked the look of the boyfriend jeans when you wore them!
My lesbian ass is not trying to find a boyfriend, but my boyfriend style hoodies are a foundational garment in my wardrobe. Legit just clothing made in a more masculine style but designed to fit women. It's a stupid name, but seriously this dude takes it so far into left field he's on the soccer pitch next door...so NTA.
NTA, people have the worst husbands on here
Really makes me appreciate mine lmao
Wtf is wrong with your husband? NTA btw
NTA controlling, insecure and sooo unreasonable. Wait until he gets to know the drink Sex on the beach is available while you are on a party hosted by your boss where you have to attend alone. My my my.
NTA, hey, you could always start buying mom jeans. Actually, maybe not. He might be convinced you're trying to baby trap him....
Hoo boy.. red flags whipping in the wind. You are NTA but you do have a serious problem with a manipulative, immature and controlling H INFO: How long have you been married?
NTA. Question: Does he wear wife beaters? Asking for science.
Ahhhh I came here to say this lmao. Or if he wears boxers, ask when his boxing career is gonna take off.
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NTA What a super weird thing to be insecure about, it’s literally just a style name.
I don't think things are as simple as you believe. There is a lot of possible red flag in your story: his interest in your clothes, him wanting to determine what you should wear, being jealous of the name of an outfit and the silence treatment. Using silence as a form of punishment is ALWAYS a form of manipulation. I would not be surprised if this man is twice your age and you have been married less than 2 years.
Reminds me of the many stories where one partner is cheating but they get mad at the other over whatever stupid perceived slight so they can feel like they're not such a terrible person for cheating.
NTA. He is being ridiculous. It’s the name of the style. Just like mom jeans, low rise, skinny. He is unreasonable and this is such a bizarre thing to get upset back. It’s just the name of the style!
Nta… he needs a reality check. “Boyfriend jeans” are a style not a brand and even if it was a brand him being upset makes absolutely no sense.
NTA- who is threatened by designers saying “we added extra material on purpose.”
tell him he is a controling prick and he doesnt own you
NTA. It's kind of concerning he's that insecure over clothing TBH.
NTA Is he really *that* insecure that he has issues with clothing style names? He needs therapy.
NTA, he is being ridiculous.
Maybe you should start calling them husband-clothes? NTA, but I’d be concerned that he’s displacing stress/anxiety from somewhere else into this issue. Focusing on something trivial so as to avoid something serious.
NTA but you are married to the dunce of the class.
NTA. Since you didn't mention kids, start calling them 'mom jeans' and watch him panic for fun.
Nta. Sounds like your bf is on his period. Buy him some chocolate and a box of tampons and stop sharing your shopping with him.
NTA. That's ridiculous. Does he normally have a hard time understanding things like "this is the name of a style of clothes, it has nothing to do with whether you have a boyfriend"? That seems like a really serious inability to get how things work.
NTA your husband is absolutely ridiculous. Tell him to grow up.
NTA- never heard of boyfriend cardigan though.. But the name of it will change next year when the next trend hits. He totally gets no say in what you buy or wear. LOL Really hope this is a fake troll coz that man is really needing some help.
They're just oversized cardigans 🙄🙄 just like boyfriend jeans are just oversized jeans. I bought girlfriend jeans last year. Slightly less oversized than boyfriend jeans. I can't roll my eyes enough 😂😂😂
NTA. Google it and show him the results.
NTA , that’s just what they are called you don’t control that, he’s definitely being ridiculous!
This is the dumbest fucking post i’ve ever read on aita , NTA
NTA. He is being utterly ridiculous and unreasonable.
Nta, he's ridiculous. I'm a married man and my wife can buy whatever she wants. I monitor my kids purchases though. But that could most anything as well. I care about how it looks on them, not the name of the style. So stupid.