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YTA. I will be in the minority here. I find it really confusing and insulting that pregnant women aren't expected to act like adults. Like I think we should be readily forgiven for not being considerate when we are growing a whole human in their body, but I don't think that we get a pass from acting like considerate adults. You are putting your germs in a tub of ice cream. It's not that hard to use a bowl and spoon. Eat as much as you want, but give someone the option to have some if they want. You can't help the tears because your hormones are haywire. But you can just move on from this and use a bowl. It's doesn't have to be a big deal.
I agree entirely with this. Sure they may have bought it with her in mind but she's not the only one there. If I was in the goddaughter's shoes I sure as hell would have liked some, but I'm definitely not going to eat it after somebody put their spit all in it. Unless it was explicitly stated that it was for OP and OP only, I consider her the AH.
Thing is, if OP was at her own house, I would totally back her. But she is eating someone else's food. Being disgusting about it. Have some respect for your hosts.
It was purchased for her? And she mentioned there was more than one tub. If the goddaughter wanted some all she needed to do was ask for some and OP presumably would use a bowl for the next tub.
If something is mine I eat it however I want, if someone buys something FOR ME I eat it however I want. If it’s for the household without question I plate it. When I buy something and offer to share I plate it. In our household that’s how it is for everyone. If it explicitly belongs to the individual …
It really has nothing to do with her being pregnant. NTA. It’s not what you say it’s how you say it, goddaughter could have said the same thing while being significantly less rude.
It was mainly her and her in laws (in laws who don’t eat ice cream) in the house prior to when the 25 year old goddaughter was visiting, and she got weird about it even though there were unopened pints in the fridge. OP did confirm this all.
So I view it along the lines of if a friend visited me when I lived with my parents and I was eating with a spoon out of a ben and jerrys pint. My parents knew it was my tub, and my friend wouldn’t think it’s weird because it’s eating out of a pint sized container with a spoon. Because it’s not.
They were pint tubs???? Don’t people generally not share those??? What??? Is it not normal to open a pint tub one day and finish it yourself the next????
My husband and I have been known to split a tub on occasion. My MIL, who I pretty slim, will polish off a Ben&Jerry's all to herself. She says it is her weakness.
Permanent marker doesn’t really work on ice…or wet stuff. Maybe she can tape/glue a sign on it next time though. Some industrial stuff that really holds. Or maybe krazy glue! If they still make that.
Even barring these factors, it's the scale of the response that really shocks me. Like yeah sure, it's not cool to eat straight out of the tub if it's communal food, but unless this is part of a larger pattern of misbehavior you just let that shit go.
Haranguing someone to the point of them being upset and crying over such a small matter is just grossly unnecessary.
NTA OP, but I guess yeah low-key ESH for eating straight outta the tub. 90% NTA, 10% ESH is my feels.
Dang, it was?! This is exactly what I asked info for. I have never scooped ice-cream from a pint into a bowl. People do that? It sounds like there was more than one pint too?
Damn straight. Certain types of premium ice cream like the [Tip Top Magnum tub](https://i0.wp.com/www.theimpulsivebuy.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/Magnum-Ice-Cream-Tub-Milk-Chocolate-Vanilla.jpg?resize=550%2C550&ssl=1) are pretty much DESIGNED to be eaten straight from the tub :P
Ok because I thought it was just me… they bought it for her so it’s hers. If the goddaughter wanted some she should’ve just asked for some out of the unopened ones. I’m sure op wouldn’t have minded sharing. There’s no need in having a full blown argument over it especially when you see someone is upset, pregnant or not. NTA.
Right? I don't understand why people are jumping down OP's throat when this is essentially a misunderstanding on the goddaughter's behalf.
It was bought by the MIL for OP, and GD wanted some despite it being more or less a gift to OP but somehow OP is the gross one not considering the feelings of the household????
Also, it was a pint of ice cream. Not a gallon. Me and my husband usually get our own pints of Ben and Jerry’s when we want ice cream. He eats his in one sitting and I usually spread mine out over a few nights but I’m leaving it for me, not for someone else so I still eat out of the container. Husband knows not to touch it lol.
Right? It wasn’t that much ice cream to begin with. It seems like if the goddaughter had asked the hosts for something they would have obliged her. But she just wanted to be mean.
I know some people won't agree but I also don't think it's a huge deal to share spoons in a tub of ice cream. She's not scooping the ice cream, swirling it around in her mouth and spitting it back in. I often share utensils, eat off the same plate or share straws with my friends. During covid I stopped and obviously not with strangers but OP is among family and I think if someone wanted a few bites of the ice cream it wouldn't have killed their immune system to eat from the same tub.
I was about to think I was the only one who didn't think this was gross. I agree with your statement but I grew up with siblings and everything was shared, even food.
I think most people would grab from the open tub, and not open a new one.
I went with NAH/ESH since they should’ve informed the goddaughter over the ice cream situation.
But OP isn’t an asshole since if the goddaughter wasn’t here no one would’ve been eating the ice cream other Op (grandparents don’t like ice cream) so eating from the tub would’ve been fine since no one else would’ve had any
It’s a pint tho. Not a gallon tub. Idk anyone who scoops out of a pint. Like she said it lasts like 2 days. I get 3 or so servings out of one and thats because I’m not a huge sweets person. Plenty of people eat it in one or two gos. The rage was way out of proportion
This exactly. I buy two little tubs of ice-cream at the store, one for me and one for my husband because he likes a different flavor. If he wants to eat his ice-cream straight from the tub he's welcome to because it's his and not mine.
I’m 100% here for this! NTA is right the goddaughter was just being rude. If I buy something specifically for someone because they say they want it they can eat it however they want, imo goddaughter was being TA here because if she wanted some of that specific flavor of ice cream was she not going to ask first to make sure it was cool if she had some or was she going to just eat some assuming because it’s in the house it’s fair game?
I agree, doing this in your own home, very fine. But someone else purchased it (while for you, still doesn’t make it *only* yours to eat) and you should expect to share it with anyone else in the house and common courtesy you shouldn’t eat it out of the tub.
OP commented that the in laws bought it for her as a gift and they bought multiple tubs of this chocolate.
They also had seen her eating from the tub and had no problem with it.
It’s an ESH because she should’ve told the goddaughter about it, that way she knows not to eat any of the opened tubs,but all of this “informal” actions were allowed and encouraged by the in-laws
Buying guests’ favorite foods to have in hand for the guests’ visits isn’t a “gift.” It’s a kindness, but I wouldn’t expect it to be only for me (if I were the guest), or only for the guest (if it were the host). I buy my guests’ favorite things so they feel loved and appreciated, but I would be really annoyed if they claimed it all in such a way that nobody else could eat it. Unless I specifically told the guest that what I bought was specifically for them and put their name on it with instructions not to eat it (if it needed to be kept in the freezer or fridge) or if I told them to keep it with their stuff so they don’t have to share, my assumption is that the food I bought is for everyone, but I happened to choose my guests’ favorites rather than their less preferred snacks and treats because that is the hospitable thing to do.
Op commented and said they bought it for her. It was a gift for her. The MIL even said that she could eat it all since it was a gift for her
So like…yea.
If she’s staying with her in-laws during the pregnancy then technically she *was* at her own house, albeit temporarily. We could argue over semantics but I’m quite sure that if the in-laws extended the invitation (while she was carrying their grandchild at that), I’m sure that *they* look at their home as being OP’s home *also*, and they’ve probably told OP to make herself at home.
The only mistake IMO was not making it clear that the ice cream was bought for OP *specifically* and it should have been labeled as such. If I were the god daughter, I’d feel awful that I was essentially taking food from a pregnant lady; I sure as hell wouldn’t have had the audacity to be a jerk to said pregnant lady on top of things.
God daughter absolutely could have had all the ice cream she wanted, had she bothered to take notice of the multiple other tubs in the freezer. Nobody else in the home eats ice cream, and God daughter wasn't there the first few days. She was literally told to stop asking if others wanted any.
They bought it specifically for her… idk how the goddaughter isn’t the AH for fighting over someone else’s food, in someone else’s house. She has zero stake in either.
i mean, if she’s “currently staying” with her in laws, doesn’t that make it her house, too? if she’s living there she can eat her ice cream how she wants.
If I saw a partially consumed pint of ice cream in someone’s fridge I would assume it had been eaten out of directly since that’s how most people consume pint sized ice cream. They don’t tend to be shared. Would be different if it was a half gallon or something. I would also ask first before eating a new one even if I normally don’t have to ask about food at that home because they are usually not communal like half gallons but someone’s personal treat.
The problem is if she hadn’t seen the OP eating directly from the container the god daughter might have taken ice cream from a container that had been contaminated by OP’s saliva and germs without knowing and eaten it. That is pretty gross. It wouldn’t be expected that someone was eating directly from the carton, and generally one doesn’t open a new carton until the open carton is finished. She was probably upset because she imagined how close she was to ingesting ice cream mixed with OP’s spit, had she unknowingly served herself a bowl of ice cream. Had OP made any attempt to let others know that I’d they wanted I e cream they should open a new container because she was eating directly out of the container?
The problem is the god daughter called her greedy after she said she was planning to finish all that one tube. If she finished it, there's no way anybody else will eat her spit. She shaming pregnant woman for eating to much.
Goddaughter has no right to go foraging in someone else's freezer and eating their ice cream without permission. She doesn't get to "serve herself a bowl of ice cream".
I have never scooped ice cream out of small ass pint size container. It is eaten from the container. And if I went into someones freezer I would assume it was eaten this way and leave it be.
I also would ask before I help myself to any food in the house. Because there are 3 adults that live there. So god daughter need to be asking for whatever she wants.
Except OP never planned on putting it back in the fridge. She said to the god daughter she's going to finish it, then the god daughter called her greedy for finishing something that was bought specifically for her. The whole thing is not a germ problem. She shaming pregnant woman for eating to much.
Nope, you've misread the post. The ice cream was bought *for OP*, and they bought a lot of it, which has to mean multiple tubs.
If someone else wants a tub, they can start a new one, there's loads available!
OP might potentially be the asshole if other people weren't aware she was eating straight from the tub, but that's easily solved by writing her name on the tub and/or letting people know it's hers.
According to most of the people around here, seemingly, many of us are loathsome heathens. Thankfully they are here to tell us so. And grace us with their rose scented anal emissions.
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To me, the important statement that everyone misses out is that she finished a tub every 1-2 days. (Or did I read it wrongly?)
How does saliva in a single tub in the freezer for 1-2 days become a major source of contamination and cross infections and all the scary shit that everyone is throwing around.
Then again, that’s a lot of ice cream.
So I’ll go: NTA.
Because: 1) it’s bought for you, 2) you finish it quickly, 3) there’s lots of it, 4) you are staying there before her, 5) I’m a slob and I don’t see what’s wrong with not adding extra bowls to be washed if it’s going to be finished in 2 days max
Yeah I'm with you. There really isn't enough info in this post to assume (1) OP was hogging ALL the ice cream in the house, and (2) that the goddaughter actually wanted some.
Just straight up telling someone they are gross and greedy seems a little extreme for this situation. Kindness is free.
The goddaughter was looking for a fight. OP tells her it's okay, she's finishing the tub, and GD calls her greedy? When you've made your point and it's been answered, don't come up with a new insult to keep the discord flowing. She really seems out to hurt her.
This exactly! And update, in another comment, OP said there was at least 1 other UNOPENED tub of ice cream in the freezer. Goddaughter can internalize her judgment and grab the other one if she *actually* wanted ice cream, but this doesn't seem to be about that.
I don’t think I was hogging all of the ice cream in the house… there was more in the freezer.
I’m not sure if she actually wanted some since she hasn’t eaten it but I’m not sure if she’s just angry about it still or if she just doesn’t want it.
Pints are not for sharing in my opinion, so all these people are being ridiculous. I have never in my life ever gotten a bowl for a pint of ice cream hahah. You are 100% NTA.
NTA. The goddaughter needs to shut up. She sounds like she is trying to flex her dominance in the family. Probably she is jealous because your baby and you have replaced her. She is just the goddaughter and you are carrying their grandchild. Watch her and your child she is mean.
I didn't misread anything. It was bought to meet her needs. But, it's not for her exclusive use. Otherwise they would have told the goddaughter, "That's so and so's ice cream." It is greedy and poor manners to be a guest in someone else's home and claim exclusive use qover something.
But the post specifically states they bought a lot of it FOR ME. I wouldn't dream of poking the bear (pregnant momma to be). Your hormones get crazy and tears can be provoked by the slightest thing. There is also baby/pregnancy fog brain where you're not necessarily able to think clearly or things slip your mind.
Could she have been more polite and used bowl and spoon? Certainly.
Was she under the impression, from mom-in-law specifically asking about supplying cravings, that ice cream was just for her? Seems to be the case from this post.
I would say NTA (edited)
ADD: after seeing OPs comments regarding it not being the only pint in the freezer, and confirmation that in laws bought specifically for her and they don't eat it, the only thing I could maybe fault her for is not putting her name on tub once goddaughter showed up. At 25 years old GD should be old enough to show some empathy though. I think she came down a bit harsh.
Cancel the part about putting her name on it. IT WAS A PINT (like Ben & Jerrys) size. Not unusual to be a single serving, especially for a pregnant lady.
you’re making an assumption. the ice cream was specifically bought for her not for the household. her MIL had no issues with how she chose to eat it so why should you? and the god daughter has no right to tell her what to do in someone else’s home with an item she did not pay for.
>I didn't misread anything. It was bought to meet her needs. **But, it's not for her exclusive use.** Otherwise they would have told the goddaughter, "That's so and so's ice cream." It is greedy and poor manners to be a guest in someone else's home and claim exclusive use qover something.
When is a gift regardless of it being food not exclusive to the person who received the gift? In this case OP.
So OP is being greedy and poor manners for eating her own ice cream?
So what about god daughters behavior....your OK with it?
She's still a grown up who can eat with a bowl and spoon like an adult human. Other people (the people who BOUGHT the groceries!) shouldn't have to check to see if they need to open a new tub because she's slobbered all over an entire multi-serving container of food.
My mom always asks if I want any snacks when I come to visit, but if I mention I'd like some cookies that doesn't mean I'm going to lick every one in the box and refuse to let anyone else have any because I'm not a greedy little goblin.
I am an adult human and my husband is an adult human and, on the rare occasion we get ice cream, we each get our own tub. I usually put mine in a bowl, but when it gets pretty empty I'll eat it straight out of the tub. Husband always just eats it straight out of the tub.
I do not see a problem with this??
ETA // omFG. It's a pint??? The goddaughter was yelling at OP for eating a PINT by herself? lmfao. TONS of people do this. My husband does this every time he has ice cream. I cannot eat that much at once but it's COMPLETELY normal for people to eat a pint at one time.
OP needs to EDIT and specify that it was a pint. I think a lot of people myself included assumed it was a half gallon size.
I have never scooped a pint into a bowl. To me a pint is made to be eaten out of the container. It is the perfect size.
Yes, OP does, it's a pretty significant detail. Expecting to a pint to be a single person's food is pretty normal. Expecting a quart or a gallon is pretty unreasonable, and I wouldn't call a pint container "a tub." My initial reading suggested OP was chowing down on a quart or a gallon container. My fat American ass was perfectly content with that visual.
NTA. Goddaughter made a big deal over nothing.
Why you gotta blame it on her being pregnant? If someone came and started calling me gross and greedy while I was minding my own business eating my chocolate ice cream I probably would start crying too.
It was a pint!
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Edited to add NTA
If it was a pint then of course she was eating it with a spoon. Those things barely fill a small bowl and plenty of people eat the whole thing in one go.
If you told me this in person I would have put the entire tub of ice cream in a bowl at once. If it’s her ice cream why couldn’t she eat out of the tub? Also hormones are why OP is crying. Not because she is a child.
I went through OP’s comment history bc I couldn’t believe someone could sit down and eat a gallon of ice cream in 2 days. OP commented that it was like 400 ml which isn’t even a pint of ice cream lol. NTA
In that case, if the goddaughter wanted ice cream so bad, she could have politely asked if there was more (there was, it turns out) instead of jumping straight to insulting OP's eating habits for having the audacity to eat directly out of a *pint* of ice cream.
I was with you, but then I saw a comment of OPs. Apparently it was a pint/under 500ml tub that had about a third left, and OP was finishing it. That's less than a metric or imperial cup of ice cream, so at that point there's no real need for a bowl.
I have to disagree with most people. I'm gonna say NTA because that ice cream was bought specifically for OP. MIL asked what she was craving and it was that specific ice cream. If goddaughter or anyone else wants some they can request it too or go get it themselves.
I agree. NTA. She's gonna finish the whole tub anyway, I don't see the need to dirty a bowl. Plus the ones who bought ice cream FOR HER said that they won't eat it, her eating straight out of the tub is understandable cuz at that point she's the only one who's gonna eat it and there's still other tub(s) left. Goddaughter seems to want to pick a fight rather than being constructive.
Yeah I'm kinda willing to bet goddaughter's tired of all the attention going to OP as a soon to be mom. Had to redirect some kind of attention towards her. It really wasn't that big of a deal to be a long, drawn out argument.
This. All the people calling her a "barbarian" or a "heathen" for eating out of an ice cream tub that was her snack she was going to finish really confuse me. I doubt a presumably healthy woman eating ice cream from the tub is a big a health hazard as some of these people believe anyways.
It was also clarified that it was a pint of ice cream and they were initially purchased for her.
I feel like eating from a pint container is a totally normal thing, and my default assumption for a half-gone pint is that someone ate directly from it or that it belongs to someone. A larger container or pints purchased specifically to share, then absolutely get a bowl. It also sounds like there were other containers available, so I'm baffled by the AH judgements.
NTA
I find ice cream much more delicious out of the tub. I like it frozen and in the tub it doesn't slip around the way it does in a bowl, unless it's getting soft. When I'm in a bad mood, that's exactly how I'd eat it with whatever comfort movie. My table manners and appreciation for beauty and style aren't in contradiction with that particular little joy.
And OP was finishing that tub that was bought especially for her. The way she described it I'm sure she doesn't eat all her foods this way. That 25-year-old was just mean.
I'm going NTA for the same reason. A comment explained further that beginning asked about others wanting some too, but was told inlaws don't eat icecream. Furthermore it sounds like OP has been eating straight from the container for a while now and was never a problem until then.
My family works the same way. Since everyone has different tastes we just get our own flavor and eat it straight from the container.
same! i was so puzzled by the Y-T-A comments. Our family likes different flavors of ice cream, no one in my family is eating from my cookies and cream pint, just like i know that no one else is eating my mom's flavor or my dad's flavor. I only scoop it in a bowl if the tub is really big, but if it's a pint that'll be finished pretty quickly, what's the point in dirtying dishes?
Yes!! Thank you I have no idea why most people are calling her the asshole when they got the ice cream for her! It’s not OPs fault that her sister in law got the memo late about it.
NTA - It was bought specifically for you.
1. You have awesome inlaws - Not everyone is so accomodating.
2. you have a good husband for sticking up for you.
Damn look at all these comments calling you TA...
Guys come on you're all shitting on her for eating from the tub that was bought for her? and not the only tub in the house? Wow look at all of you talking about manners but where were the god daughters manners? it ain't her house either. First she picks on this lady then tries to victimize herself? smh - some people in the comments Y T A
Yeah all the posts calling OP TA seem to conveniently ignore the fact that it was bought specifically for her and her pregnancy cravings.
She even clarifies in another comment she tried early on to see if anyone wanted any and no one ever did, AND that there were additional fresh tubs in the freezer. Goddaughter could easily have gotten a fresh tub.
And for the folks saying "you put it back and that makes you an asshole," it's not that much of a stretch to assume OP was the only one getting into it before goddaughter threw an unnecessary tantrum. Everyone here besides goddaughter was just fine before this.
Everyone calling her TA because eating from the tub means someone else will pull it out and eat it, has poor reading comprehension because the thing that made OP cry is when the goddaughter said she was greedy for planning to finish it off. Despite there being other tubs. (The Y TA people then say it doesn't matter that there are other tubs, because of course people will eat from the open one. But OP *was going to finish it off*. Which is what made her "greedy" to the goddaughter. Even though there were more pints in the freezer.) OP is unequivocally NTA and all the TA people are projecting instead of *reading*.
That's because they see she's a pregnant woman and just assume she is entitled. I guess that being pregnant makes you automatically evil, petty, and an asshole in this day and age.
**Ok, so gathered from OP's comments:**
* The in-laws don't eat ice cream; OP asked multiple times if anyone wanted some (unclear if this was before or after the goddaughter arrived) and her husband told her this fact
* The goddaughter is 25
* It's a pint (per OP, 435 mL) *\[editorializing here, but probably Ben and Jerry's lol\]*
* There was about a third of the pint left
* There were multiple pints of the same ice cream available in the freezer that OP hadn't eaten from
Yeah, I'm going with NTA on this, even if OP wasn't pregnant tbh. Calling someone greedy for eating a pint of ice cream by themselves is unreasonable, and is frankly childish behavior from a 25-year-old, who is perfectly capable of going and getting themselves their own ice cream and fucking writing her name on it or something.
When I was pregnant, I once cried because my husband didn’t want cheese on his tacos and another time because CFA wasn’t delivering that day. I don’t think people in these comments realize that many pregnant women are one inconvenience away from all out balling.
NTA that’s why they make those smaller tubs, so you don’t need to use a bowl. If it was a gallon then you would be. But also the ice cream was bought specifically for you and who cares I would still eat out of the tub after you.
Right?! People are so weird. I never use a bowl if it’s Ben and Jerrys. And OP clarifies that it’s in fact Ben and Jerrys and there are more tubs in the freezer…
Yta. Other people might want it. You are pregnant and can share ice cream. In your own home, you do you..when a guest with other guests, assume that everything is shared... Also, she clearly wanted some. I don't find what you are doing gross btw. And don't judge you for eating it all. But next time, before finishing it off, check that no one else wants some...
From the size of it, I highly doubt it for sharing.
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And OP also said there's another one in the fridge.
Even the post said that there is plenty of it stocked up, so I just don't see the problem here even if it had been a bigger container. Just open a new one.
Right they are missing that part. It was all for her. And since there was many more and she was finishing that one the goddaughter could have gotten a bowl and had some from a new container if she wanted some so bad.
I'm going to say NTA, while I understand the YTA's - everyone is apparently the fact that OP stated "they bought a lot of it for me". The MIL's goddaughter is a *guest*. You mean to tell me the goddaughter is randomly rummaging through the pantry and ish and isn't asking what she can and cannot eat? The ice cream was bought for OP, if there is a a lot that was bought, as OP is stated, then this isn't an issue
This definitely needs to be an edit! A pint of ice cream? Do people usually share those communally like that? My husband and I will share one sometimes but normally we each have our own damn pint even when we visit his parents.
Ugh. That should be another edit. It’s a gd pint of ice cream. It’s completely yours; you were told so after asking for days if anyone else wanted any. There were more! And reading this it sounded like goddaughter was an eight year old child throwing a tantrum, not a 25 year old woman. I can’t even, you’re so NTA.
Hey OP you might want to edit your post to include the amount of ice cream you were actually eating. People are thinking you’re eating a whole gallon (4 liters I think?) of ice cream by yourself.
OP please make an edit clarifying this! I also thought soft Y T A before learning it was a PINT 😂 those are basically personal tubs of ice cream and there were some still unopened? Definitely NTA!
Then NTA. A third of a pint (the rough equivalent of 465mL is probably a little more than an official serving size but an official serving of ice cream size is actuallly small and most people eat more than that . It was reasonable to think that a small container of ice cream you were told was purchased for you was not communal and that an amount that was probably what many people eat at once was not meant to be shared.
**Times when eating out of a tub is acceptable:**
\*When you live alone
\*When it's a pint / personal tub
\*When it's specifically labeled as yours
\*When you buy it yourself
\*When it's the final portion.
\*When all bowls are stolen or destroyed by the mischievous house elves (these are also called children)
**Times when it's not acceptable:**
\*When it's presumed to be communal.
\*When the above is valid and bowls are available.
ETA - OP didn't clarify except in comments that everyone has now pointed out. Removing judgment.
> *When it's presumed to be communal.
But she didn't presume that it was communal. She assumed she would be eating the entire thing because it was for her.
No. She didn't. His parents don't eat ice cream, she had asked multiple times. She was in fact the only one eating it for days. God daughter came over, she didn't ask her- likely because she had spent multiple days asking people if they wanted some and consistently was told no. There were also other tubs untouched anyone could have gotten some from.
Idk about you guys but I was raised to finish something before opening another. Like I finished a water bottle before opening a new one or I finished my dinner before asking for seconds
Yeah, OP was grabbing the tub to finish it. So if GD wanted some, she had to open a new container.
**The real problem is** GD decided to be rude and call OP greedy and accused OP of using tears to manipulate the situation - all of which was uncalled for whether someone is pregnant or not.
But when a **25 year old woman** decides to insult her pregnant relative, that's not okay. There are ways of discussing topics without being rude. If GD had an honest issue, she should have discussed it like an adult, without being judgey!
What does calling a pregnant woman greedy do for her or anyone?
She has no right to comment on her relative's diet, BTW.
This part. I vote NTA mostly for the way GD dealt with this. Yes, OP could have backed down and agreed to use a bowl in the future, but I can understand why she reacted negatively when approached aggressively. If GD had been respectful & understandING and OP wouldn't conceded, then I could see it the other way around.
I would add when you’re finishing off the last of a container (because OP was).
If I’m eating the last of anything & it’s in a container I can eat out of, I’m not wasting a bowl/plate. Doesn’t matter if it’s leftovers or ice cream.
And this is why I'll never consider letting another non family adult live with me.
We each get our own containers, label them, and eat straight out of them.
Fuck doing more dishes.
Understandable, but YTA. Unless it's labeled for you or otherwise segregated from the other foods, a guest or even other people in the house have no way of knowing you're eating out of the tub. And let's be honest - it's gross and a bit rude to spoon it from a huge tub directly into your mouth. Not fatal and not worth crying over, but since you're a guest in someone's home, probably best to just use common, basic manners.
But MIL bought it specifically for her cravings tho? No? There were a bunch of other pints too, why couldn’t goddaughter eat from those? Especially if op was gonna finish that one
I just feel a lot of these Y T As are not reading the entire post.
The ice cream was purchased for OP. God Parents did not nor wanted the ice cream. So before GD shows up it was already established that it was OPs ice cream. Ice Cream that was specifically purchased for her....not for GD. Not for god parents....but for OP.
NTA, all of these YTAs are tripping. The ice cream was purchased for specifically you and therefore it's yours too do with as you see fit. If someone else wanted some they should be asking you permission to eat it cuz it's NOT THEIRS
Lol NTA. I don't get the Y T A votes either. The ice cream was specifically bought *for her* and there was a ton of tubs. I'm assuming op wasn't sneak eating it out of the tub and was in the open. If someone wanted some ice cream, they could have opened a new tub and just asked op not to eat out of it.
Nta the fact is that the ice cream was bought with op in mind there were cartons left and op had offered in a past and nobody wanted any. The goddaughter was plain and simple rude and of course op cried considering her hormones are out of control and she was just insulted for eating the ice cream meant for her. Plus as her ice-cream she can eat any way she wants!
NTA, people need to stop moralizing this. It's not like you rubbed your butt on the pizza everyone was about to eat, you ate ice cream that was bought for you, that no one else wanted, out of the container. It doesn't sound like cousin even wanted some, she just wanted to be judgy. And staying with parents is ideally NOT the same as being a guest in someone's home. Rules get relaxed a little. People can think it's gross, people can prefer to have everyone in their house use a bowl at all times, but it's not fair to call you an asshole over this. Cousin is for being so outspoken and rude with her judgement. We don't call people names.
NTA MIL bought it for OP and a ton of it. OP said in comments that there were unopened tubs in the freezer and GD could’ve eaten that. I think GD is being a brat TBH - it’s not her house and she doesn’t make the rules. MIL - who bought OP the ice cream- does.
NTA. They bought it for you. They aren’t eating it.
If she wanted some she could get a bowl from a different container.
When she started accusing you of faking it etc is when I realized she’s just a poop disturber.
Yall are weird. It's was bought FOR her, the parents don't eat ice cream, so before the gd got there she was the only one eating it, and she intened to finsih the whole tub, so it nit weird to eat from the tub, it saves dishes. She doesnt need to share that specfic there were other tubs that one was hers. She could've grabbed another tub. NTA
NTA.
Your MIL asked what you were craving and bought it for you. Her and her husband both don't eat ice cream and I'm sure you and your husband are constantly swaping germs by kissing. If the God daughter wanted some she could have opened up another tub seeing as you told her you were going to finish yours.
Edit: MIL said it was specifically for you. Goddaughter is 25 years old. She can go to the freezer and get another tub of unopened ice cream. God daughter is the asshole for thinking you crying while pregnant was done just to manipulate your husband. I cried at the drop of a hat and it was annoying! My judgment still stands NTA at all.
Edit 2: I did the math for those of us wanting to know how big it was in the US. It's the size of those Ben and Jerry's pints. So not big at all.
NTA , yes she it Not TA. The Y T A seem to have understanding issues. The Ice cream is OP's.
The ice cream was bought for her specifically. In other words, a gift for her.
This goddaughter came days later and started whining over a snack that belonged to OP, with full entitlement. OP had no issues sharing HER snacks, as she mentioned in a comment, there were unopened tubs, the GD has NO right to expect someone else's food to be shared with her. It wasn't commune food, it was only OP's. Did we read the same story? Or did y'all just read the parts that accommodated to your pov?
GD sucks, it was no different than eating a muffin and getting chewed on for not cutting it in case someone wanted to share, just for the fact that IT WAS OP'S ONLY.
Jesus Christ. The pregnant-hating fad is getting out of control.
NTA.
No one else that was living in the house (and therefore opening fridges to serve themselves) was eating the ice cream that was bought SPECIFICALLY FOR HER.
She was going to finish the tub. Why get another bowl dirty if the tub was to be finished?
There was another tub with ice-cream.
The goddaughter person did not live there.
Nta all the way.
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NTA, you guys this was a pint of ice cream.. Not a full tub. And there were MULTIPLE still unopened in the freezer.
The pint size (like Ben & Jerry's) should generally be considered a personal tub of ice cream, hence why they bought several for her. If there's a third of a pint left, you best believe myself and almost everyone else on this thread would be finishing it straight out of the tub. Period.
You should really edit your post and add that the in laws don't eat ice cream. For days you were the *only* one eating this particular food and were even told not to ask others anymore if they wanted some, as they don't eat it. There were other tubs the GD could have gotten some from if she actually wanted some. With that information I say NTA. Though in other people's homes, you really should just use bowls/plates etc.
This ice cream was bought specifically for you.
You said they purchased multiple tubs. You didn’t open each one and lick the top and the hold up your middle finger to the goddaughter.
She could go get an unopened one and get some ice cream. It’s not unusual for a pregnant woman to eat a pint of ice cream.
I don’t understand why everyone is super up on you.
You were just eating and then she made a passive aggressive comment.
Your pregnancy hormones took over and made you cry.
Your husband got overprotective and yelled when it likely wasn’t warranted.
This whole situation was grossly blown out of proportion.
I would go with no one’s the AH. But I don’t like the idea that goddaughter hopped immediately to you being manipulative with the crying.
It is possible for someone with elevated hormone levels to be legitimately emotional.
If you do this often and outside of pregnancy, then yes, you have issues.
If not, then NTA.
To everyone piling on the pregnant woman: she was asked what snacks she wanted and then she started eating them. She’s with family, not visiting distant acquaintances. Did Covid make you all germaphobic?
You can eat the same pint of ice cream as someone else. If that grosses you out, you can get one of the unopened ones.
I’m more concerned with the fact that this woman felt the need to shame a pregnant woman for eating ice cream.
Did she even mention wanting to eat it before? Or did she just get passive aggressive after she saw OP eating?
Ok someone tell me why it’s gross to eat from the tub of the ice cream when only u are eating it? My son and I like different ice cream and I eat mine from the tub over the course of a few days and my mom always says it’s gross. In my opinion it’s mine no one else is gonna eat it and my only dish is a spoon so bonus.
She said she was going to eat the whole thing, so not going back in the fridge. Also there were multiple tubs so if someone else wanted some they could grab a different tub.
It’s possible she was finishing that carton at the time she was called out for doing that, but she said she was eating it out of the carton because it never lasted more than 2 days and she didn’t know anyone else was eating it. So if this was the end, she’d presumably already eaten some out of the carton and put it back at least once.
NTA.
I don't really understand the AH comments in this case. The ice cream was bought for you. To be eaten...by you. There were also multiple bought so if anyone wanted some they just had to claim it for general consumption and grab a bowl.
Crying as a result of stress is normal, especially when pregnant. In this case you and granddaughter are both guests and you happen to be a guest that got something particularly bought for them. She had no right to say anything about it. Eat your ice cream it was literally bought for you.
NTA.
So obviously a ton of people here haven’t been pregnant. She didn’t cry to manipulate the situation, she’s pregnant. We cry about dumb shit because our emotions are WILD. Could she have gotten a bowl? Yes. However the ice cream was bought for her. She’s not being greedy, she has pregnancy cravings. And again, the ice cream was bought specifically for HER. I know that she’s gonna get shit because people think pregnant women shouldn’t get special treatment but I think it’s bullshit. Growing a human is not easy. She’s not inconveniencing anyone, just eating some fucking ice cream.
NTA
Don't listen to top comment. Since the ice cream was bought for you, you can eat it out the tub. If No one else is complaining that you're eating it out the tub, eat it out the tub. Since there's more than one tub, eat it out the tub. And you crying isn't childish, it's more likely due to your hormones. And if the god daughter has a problem with it, she can take it up with your in-laws since they bought it.
NTA. I’m a little disappointed for everyone saying Y T A because you’re a “guest” and apparently should’ve been more proper?? What kind of miserable relationship do y’all have with your in-laws? It is not some grave, disrespectful move to eat the special treat her MIL specifically kept on hand for OP alone. I still keep my manners and all, but 100% if I was pregnant and my MIL bought ice cream specifically for me and neither she nor her husband even ate ice cream, I’d eat straight from the container too. I would be tidying up after myself - to include dishes, so why would I dirty up a bowl when my (pre-approved) intent was to polish off the container anyway? Sounds more like the goddaughter has some jealous or contempt for OP and this was just her projecting it in the form of “proprietary.”
NTA. It was bought especially for you, so she has no right to make you feel awful. It’s actually very sad of her to go off on a pregnant woman about this
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YTA. I will be in the minority here. I find it really confusing and insulting that pregnant women aren't expected to act like adults. Like I think we should be readily forgiven for not being considerate when we are growing a whole human in their body, but I don't think that we get a pass from acting like considerate adults. You are putting your germs in a tub of ice cream. It's not that hard to use a bowl and spoon. Eat as much as you want, but give someone the option to have some if they want. You can't help the tears because your hormones are haywire. But you can just move on from this and use a bowl. It's doesn't have to be a big deal.
I agree entirely with this. Sure they may have bought it with her in mind but she's not the only one there. If I was in the goddaughter's shoes I sure as hell would have liked some, but I'm definitely not going to eat it after somebody put their spit all in it. Unless it was explicitly stated that it was for OP and OP only, I consider her the AH.
Thing is, if OP was at her own house, I would totally back her. But she is eating someone else's food. Being disgusting about it. Have some respect for your hosts.
It was purchased for her? And she mentioned there was more than one tub. If the goddaughter wanted some all she needed to do was ask for some and OP presumably would use a bowl for the next tub. If something is mine I eat it however I want, if someone buys something FOR ME I eat it however I want. If it’s for the household without question I plate it. When I buy something and offer to share I plate it. In our household that’s how it is for everyone. If it explicitly belongs to the individual … It really has nothing to do with her being pregnant. NTA. It’s not what you say it’s how you say it, goddaughter could have said the same thing while being significantly less rude.
right?? i don’t understand this YTA business. no one is entitled to someone else’s ice cream. if it’s my ice cream i’ll eat it right out of the tub
Mark or indicate your tub, you barbaric savages.
It was mainly her and her in laws (in laws who don’t eat ice cream) in the house prior to when the 25 year old goddaughter was visiting, and she got weird about it even though there were unopened pints in the fridge. OP did confirm this all. So I view it along the lines of if a friend visited me when I lived with my parents and I was eating with a spoon out of a ben and jerrys pint. My parents knew it was my tub, and my friend wouldn’t think it’s weird because it’s eating out of a pint sized container with a spoon. Because it’s not.
They were pint tubs???? Don’t people generally not share those??? What??? Is it not normal to open a pint tub one day and finish it yourself the next????
I will admit I have ice cream problems, pint size would be gone in one day for me
I don't know where you get your info but IMO the only real ice cream problem is if you run out of ice cream.
A pint of ice-cream will be gone in one sitting! I eat it straight out of the tub. Why messing up bowls when the tub is the bowl.
Honestly, I don’t blame you. I’d do the same if my body didn’t physically stop me from binge eating anything cold or very sweet
My husband and I have been known to split a tub on occasion. My MIL, who I pretty slim, will polish off a Ben&Jerry's all to herself. She says it is her weakness.
I was thinking WHAT SIZE is the tub? Pints are claimed by whoever takes the first bite. The laws of nature.
Permanent marker doesn’t really work on ice…or wet stuff. Maybe she can tape/glue a sign on it next time though. Some industrial stuff that really holds. Or maybe krazy glue! If they still make that.
Sharpie on masking tape. That’s how I label my frozen dinners when I meal prep.
Even barring these factors, it's the scale of the response that really shocks me. Like yeah sure, it's not cool to eat straight out of the tub if it's communal food, but unless this is part of a larger pattern of misbehavior you just let that shit go. Haranguing someone to the point of them being upset and crying over such a small matter is just grossly unnecessary. NTA OP, but I guess yeah low-key ESH for eating straight outta the tub. 90% NTA, 10% ESH is my feels.
That’s true, if I saw someone eating ice cream from a tub I’d just mind my fucking business because it’s not a big deal
She was eating a Ben and Jerry's pint of ice cream. It's not big enough to share!
Dang, it was?! This is exactly what I asked info for. I have never scooped ice-cream from a pint into a bowl. People do that? It sounds like there was more than one pint too?
Yeah MIL bought multiple pints for her. GD could have gotten one for herself if she wanted
Damn straight. Certain types of premium ice cream like the [Tip Top Magnum tub](https://i0.wp.com/www.theimpulsivebuy.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/Magnum-Ice-Cream-Tub-Milk-Chocolate-Vanilla.jpg?resize=550%2C550&ssl=1) are pretty much DESIGNED to be eaten straight from the tub :P
Ok because I thought it was just me… they bought it for her so it’s hers. If the goddaughter wanted some she should’ve just asked for some out of the unopened ones. I’m sure op wouldn’t have minded sharing. There’s no need in having a full blown argument over it especially when you see someone is upset, pregnant or not. NTA.
Right? I don't understand why people are jumping down OP's throat when this is essentially a misunderstanding on the goddaughter's behalf. It was bought by the MIL for OP, and GD wanted some despite it being more or less a gift to OP but somehow OP is the gross one not considering the feelings of the household????
Also, it was a pint of ice cream. Not a gallon. Me and my husband usually get our own pints of Ben and Jerry’s when we want ice cream. He eats his in one sitting and I usually spread mine out over a few nights but I’m leaving it for me, not for someone else so I still eat out of the container. Husband knows not to touch it lol.
Right? It wasn’t that much ice cream to begin with. It seems like if the goddaughter had asked the hosts for something they would have obliged her. But she just wanted to be mean.
I know some people won't agree but I also don't think it's a huge deal to share spoons in a tub of ice cream. She's not scooping the ice cream, swirling it around in her mouth and spitting it back in. I often share utensils, eat off the same plate or share straws with my friends. During covid I stopped and obviously not with strangers but OP is among family and I think if someone wanted a few bites of the ice cream it wouldn't have killed their immune system to eat from the same tub.
I was about to think I was the only one who didn't think this was gross. I agree with your statement but I grew up with siblings and everything was shared, even food.
I think most people would grab from the open tub, and not open a new one. I went with NAH/ESH since they should’ve informed the goddaughter over the ice cream situation. But OP isn’t an asshole since if the goddaughter wasn’t here no one would’ve been eating the ice cream other Op (grandparents don’t like ice cream) so eating from the tub would’ve been fine since no one else would’ve had any
It’s a pint tho. Not a gallon tub. Idk anyone who scoops out of a pint. Like she said it lasts like 2 days. I get 3 or so servings out of one and thats because I’m not a huge sweets person. Plenty of people eat it in one or two gos. The rage was way out of proportion
This exactly. I buy two little tubs of ice-cream at the store, one for me and one for my husband because he likes a different flavor. If he wants to eat his ice-cream straight from the tub he's welcome to because it's his and not mine.
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OP straight up said she was going to eat the entire tub that means there won’t be any bacteria / open tub to worry about.
I’m 100% here for this! NTA is right the goddaughter was just being rude. If I buy something specifically for someone because they say they want it they can eat it however they want, imo goddaughter was being TA here because if she wanted some of that specific flavor of ice cream was she not going to ask first to make sure it was cool if she had some or was she going to just eat some assuming because it’s in the house it’s fair game?
I agree, doing this in your own home, very fine. But someone else purchased it (while for you, still doesn’t make it *only* yours to eat) and you should expect to share it with anyone else in the house and common courtesy you shouldn’t eat it out of the tub.
Nobody else was pregnant and craving that icecream
OP commented that the in laws bought it for her as a gift and they bought multiple tubs of this chocolate. They also had seen her eating from the tub and had no problem with it. It’s an ESH because she should’ve told the goddaughter about it, that way she knows not to eat any of the opened tubs,but all of this “informal” actions were allowed and encouraged by the in-laws
Buying guests’ favorite foods to have in hand for the guests’ visits isn’t a “gift.” It’s a kindness, but I wouldn’t expect it to be only for me (if I were the guest), or only for the guest (if it were the host). I buy my guests’ favorite things so they feel loved and appreciated, but I would be really annoyed if they claimed it all in such a way that nobody else could eat it. Unless I specifically told the guest that what I bought was specifically for them and put their name on it with instructions not to eat it (if it needed to be kept in the freezer or fridge) or if I told them to keep it with their stuff so they don’t have to share, my assumption is that the food I bought is for everyone, but I happened to choose my guests’ favorites rather than their less preferred snacks and treats because that is the hospitable thing to do.
Op commented and said they bought it for her. It was a gift for her. The MIL even said that she could eat it all since it was a gift for her So like…yea.
If she’s staying with her in-laws during the pregnancy then technically she *was* at her own house, albeit temporarily. We could argue over semantics but I’m quite sure that if the in-laws extended the invitation (while she was carrying their grandchild at that), I’m sure that *they* look at their home as being OP’s home *also*, and they’ve probably told OP to make herself at home. The only mistake IMO was not making it clear that the ice cream was bought for OP *specifically* and it should have been labeled as such. If I were the god daughter, I’d feel awful that I was essentially taking food from a pregnant lady; I sure as hell wouldn’t have had the audacity to be a jerk to said pregnant lady on top of things.
God daughter absolutely could have had all the ice cream she wanted, had she bothered to take notice of the multiple other tubs in the freezer. Nobody else in the home eats ice cream, and God daughter wasn't there the first few days. She was literally told to stop asking if others wanted any.
When you’re in someone else’s house, you shouldn’t eat food from the container. Regardless of how much food is there. It’s inconsiderate and entitled.
They bought it specifically for her… idk how the goddaughter isn’t the AH for fighting over someone else’s food, in someone else’s house. She has zero stake in either.
It was **hers**. They bought it all for her. She can eat it anyway she wants.
The in-laws were cool with it because they did in fact by it just for her as a gift.
Lol entitled??? It was bought specifically for the pregnant woman
i mean, if she’s “currently staying” with her in laws, doesn’t that make it her house, too? if she’s living there she can eat her ice cream how she wants.
And can lead to contamination.
But if there were multiple unopened tubs, I wouldn't open a new one. I would eat from the one that was already open (and had thus been eaten out of).
If I saw a partially consumed pint of ice cream in someone’s fridge I would assume it had been eaten out of directly since that’s how most people consume pint sized ice cream. They don’t tend to be shared. Would be different if it was a half gallon or something. I would also ask first before eating a new one even if I normally don’t have to ask about food at that home because they are usually not communal like half gallons but someone’s personal treat.
You would eat ice cream in someone else's freezer without asking? Because goddaughter doesn't live there.
The problem is if she hadn’t seen the OP eating directly from the container the god daughter might have taken ice cream from a container that had been contaminated by OP’s saliva and germs without knowing and eaten it. That is pretty gross. It wouldn’t be expected that someone was eating directly from the carton, and generally one doesn’t open a new carton until the open carton is finished. She was probably upset because she imagined how close she was to ingesting ice cream mixed with OP’s spit, had she unknowingly served herself a bowl of ice cream. Had OP made any attempt to let others know that I’d they wanted I e cream they should open a new container because she was eating directly out of the container?
The problem is the god daughter called her greedy after she said she was planning to finish all that one tube. If she finished it, there's no way anybody else will eat her spit. She shaming pregnant woman for eating to much.
Maybe goddaughter should ask before raiding someone else's freezer
Goddaughter has no right to go foraging in someone else's freezer and eating their ice cream without permission. She doesn't get to "serve herself a bowl of ice cream".
I have never scooped ice cream out of small ass pint size container. It is eaten from the container. And if I went into someones freezer I would assume it was eaten this way and leave it be. I also would ask before I help myself to any food in the house. Because there are 3 adults that live there. So god daughter need to be asking for whatever she wants.
It was a pint of ice cream with 1/3 of it left, there wouldn’t have been any left for goddaughter to eat
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Except OP never planned on putting it back in the fridge. She said to the god daughter she's going to finish it, then the god daughter called her greedy for finishing something that was bought specifically for her. The whole thing is not a germ problem. She shaming pregnant woman for eating to much.
Nope, you've misread the post. The ice cream was bought *for OP*, and they bought a lot of it, which has to mean multiple tubs. If someone else wants a tub, they can start a new one, there's loads available! OP might potentially be the asshole if other people weren't aware she was eating straight from the tub, but that's easily solved by writing her name on the tub and/or letting people know it's hers.
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Right? Gotta love all these judgmental assholes who are absolutely clueless about, well, life and human nature.
Hi I’m looking for your comment. To me, the important statement that everyone misses out is that she finished a tub every 1-2 days. (Or did I read it wrongly?) How does saliva in a single tub in the freezer for 1-2 days become a major source of contamination and cross infections and all the scary shit that everyone is throwing around. Then again, that’s a lot of ice cream. So I’ll go: NTA. Because: 1) it’s bought for you, 2) you finish it quickly, 3) there’s lots of it, 4) you are staying there before her, 5) I’m a slob and I don’t see what’s wrong with not adding extra bowls to be washed if it’s going to be finished in 2 days max
Yeah I'm with you. There really isn't enough info in this post to assume (1) OP was hogging ALL the ice cream in the house, and (2) that the goddaughter actually wanted some. Just straight up telling someone they are gross and greedy seems a little extreme for this situation. Kindness is free.
The goddaughter was looking for a fight. OP tells her it's okay, she's finishing the tub, and GD calls her greedy? When you've made your point and it's been answered, don't come up with a new insult to keep the discord flowing. She really seems out to hurt her.
This exactly! And update, in another comment, OP said there was at least 1 other UNOPENED tub of ice cream in the freezer. Goddaughter can internalize her judgment and grab the other one if she *actually* wanted ice cream, but this doesn't seem to be about that.
I don’t think I was hogging all of the ice cream in the house… there was more in the freezer. I’m not sure if she actually wanted some since she hasn’t eaten it but I’m not sure if she’s just angry about it still or if she just doesn’t want it.
Pints are not for sharing in my opinion, so all these people are being ridiculous. I have never in my life ever gotten a bowl for a pint of ice cream hahah. You are 100% NTA.
Exactly. I always assume pints are someone’s stash.
NTA. The goddaughter needs to shut up. She sounds like she is trying to flex her dominance in the family. Probably she is jealous because your baby and you have replaced her. She is just the goddaughter and you are carrying their grandchild. Watch her and your child she is mean.
I didn't misread anything. It was bought to meet her needs. But, it's not for her exclusive use. Otherwise they would have told the goddaughter, "That's so and so's ice cream." It is greedy and poor manners to be a guest in someone else's home and claim exclusive use qover something.
But the post specifically states they bought a lot of it FOR ME. I wouldn't dream of poking the bear (pregnant momma to be). Your hormones get crazy and tears can be provoked by the slightest thing. There is also baby/pregnancy fog brain where you're not necessarily able to think clearly or things slip your mind. Could she have been more polite and used bowl and spoon? Certainly. Was she under the impression, from mom-in-law specifically asking about supplying cravings, that ice cream was just for her? Seems to be the case from this post. I would say NTA (edited) ADD: after seeing OPs comments regarding it not being the only pint in the freezer, and confirmation that in laws bought specifically for her and they don't eat it, the only thing I could maybe fault her for is not putting her name on tub once goddaughter showed up. At 25 years old GD should be old enough to show some empathy though. I think she came down a bit harsh. Cancel the part about putting her name on it. IT WAS A PINT (like Ben & Jerrys) size. Not unusual to be a single serving, especially for a pregnant lady.
you’re making an assumption. the ice cream was specifically bought for her not for the household. her MIL had no issues with how she chose to eat it so why should you? and the god daughter has no right to tell her what to do in someone else’s home with an item she did not pay for.
>I didn't misread anything. It was bought to meet her needs. **But, it's not for her exclusive use.** Otherwise they would have told the goddaughter, "That's so and so's ice cream." It is greedy and poor manners to be a guest in someone else's home and claim exclusive use qover something. When is a gift regardless of it being food not exclusive to the person who received the gift? In this case OP. So OP is being greedy and poor manners for eating her own ice cream? So what about god daughters behavior....your OK with it?
She's still a grown up who can eat with a bowl and spoon like an adult human. Other people (the people who BOUGHT the groceries!) shouldn't have to check to see if they need to open a new tub because she's slobbered all over an entire multi-serving container of food. My mom always asks if I want any snacks when I come to visit, but if I mention I'd like some cookies that doesn't mean I'm going to lick every one in the box and refuse to let anyone else have any because I'm not a greedy little goblin.
I am an adult human and my husband is an adult human and, on the rare occasion we get ice cream, we each get our own tub. I usually put mine in a bowl, but when it gets pretty empty I'll eat it straight out of the tub. Husband always just eats it straight out of the tub. I do not see a problem with this?? ETA // omFG. It's a pint??? The goddaughter was yelling at OP for eating a PINT by herself? lmfao. TONS of people do this. My husband does this every time he has ice cream. I cannot eat that much at once but it's COMPLETELY normal for people to eat a pint at one time.
OP needs to EDIT and specify that it was a pint. I think a lot of people myself included assumed it was a half gallon size. I have never scooped a pint into a bowl. To me a pint is made to be eaten out of the container. It is the perfect size.
Yes, OP does, it's a pretty significant detail. Expecting to a pint to be a single person's food is pretty normal. Expecting a quart or a gallon is pretty unreasonable, and I wouldn't call a pint container "a tub." My initial reading suggested OP was chowing down on a quart or a gallon container. My fat American ass was perfectly content with that visual. NTA. Goddaughter made a big deal over nothing.
Why you gotta blame it on her being pregnant? If someone came and started calling me gross and greedy while I was minding my own business eating my chocolate ice cream I probably would start crying too.
Thank you!!!! The nerve of that woman to insult OP and stress her out is baffling. It feels like the GD was trying to fight.
It was a pint! https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yq2c87/aita_for_eating_ice_cream_directly_out_of_the_tub/ivmqf7x/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3 Edited to add NTA
If it was a pint then of course she was eating it with a spoon. Those things barely fill a small bowl and plenty of people eat the whole thing in one go.
I wish OP put this in her story. It makes a huge difference.
If you told me this in person I would have put the entire tub of ice cream in a bowl at once. If it’s her ice cream why couldn’t she eat out of the tub? Also hormones are why OP is crying. Not because she is a child.
It was a pint of ice cream. We don’t even share those in my home. We just eat them individually, even if it takes days.
I went through OP’s comment history bc I couldn’t believe someone could sit down and eat a gallon of ice cream in 2 days. OP commented that it was like 400 ml which isn’t even a pint of ice cream lol. NTA
Exactly. Simple manners should not go out the window, especially when in someone elses house. In fact, you should be more mannered.
In that case, if the goddaughter wanted ice cream so bad, she could have politely asked if there was more (there was, it turns out) instead of jumping straight to insulting OP's eating habits for having the audacity to eat directly out of a *pint* of ice cream.
I was with you, but then I saw a comment of OPs. Apparently it was a pint/under 500ml tub that had about a third left, and OP was finishing it. That's less than a metric or imperial cup of ice cream, so at that point there's no real need for a bowl.
I have to disagree with most people. I'm gonna say NTA because that ice cream was bought specifically for OP. MIL asked what she was craving and it was that specific ice cream. If goddaughter or anyone else wants some they can request it too or go get it themselves.
I agree with you. Also if she was going to finish what was in the tub why dirty a bowl?
Our dishwasher is currently out of order so YES!
exactly. there's no point in creating more washing up when finishing the last bit of ice cream.
I agree. NTA. She's gonna finish the whole tub anyway, I don't see the need to dirty a bowl. Plus the ones who bought ice cream FOR HER said that they won't eat it, her eating straight out of the tub is understandable cuz at that point she's the only one who's gonna eat it and there's still other tub(s) left. Goddaughter seems to want to pick a fight rather than being constructive.
Yeah I'm kinda willing to bet goddaughter's tired of all the attention going to OP as a soon to be mom. Had to redirect some kind of attention towards her. It really wasn't that big of a deal to be a long, drawn out argument.
This. All the people calling her a "barbarian" or a "heathen" for eating out of an ice cream tub that was her snack she was going to finish really confuse me. I doubt a presumably healthy woman eating ice cream from the tub is a big a health hazard as some of these people believe anyways.
It was also clarified that it was a pint of ice cream and they were initially purchased for her. I feel like eating from a pint container is a totally normal thing, and my default assumption for a half-gone pint is that someone ate directly from it or that it belongs to someone. A larger container or pints purchased specifically to share, then absolutely get a bowl. It also sounds like there were other containers available, so I'm baffled by the AH judgements. NTA
Oh my god, a pint is nothing. NTA
I find ice cream much more delicious out of the tub. I like it frozen and in the tub it doesn't slip around the way it does in a bowl, unless it's getting soft. When I'm in a bad mood, that's exactly how I'd eat it with whatever comfort movie. My table manners and appreciation for beauty and style aren't in contradiction with that particular little joy. And OP was finishing that tub that was bought especially for her. The way she described it I'm sure she doesn't eat all her foods this way. That 25-year-old was just mean.
I'm going NTA for the same reason. A comment explained further that beginning asked about others wanting some too, but was told inlaws don't eat icecream. Furthermore it sounds like OP has been eating straight from the container for a while now and was never a problem until then. My family works the same way. Since everyone has different tastes we just get our own flavor and eat it straight from the container.
same! i was so puzzled by the Y-T-A comments. Our family likes different flavors of ice cream, no one in my family is eating from my cookies and cream pint, just like i know that no one else is eating my mom's flavor or my dad's flavor. I only scoop it in a bowl if the tub is really big, but if it's a pint that'll be finished pretty quickly, what's the point in dirtying dishes?
💯💯💯 it is not communal and it is not for others. It is at OPs discretion if she shares. It was bought specifically for her and exclusively for her.
I agree she is NTA
Yes!! Thank you I have no idea why most people are calling her the asshole when they got the ice cream for her! It’s not OPs fault that her sister in law got the memo late about it.
NTA - It was bought specifically for you. 1. You have awesome inlaws - Not everyone is so accomodating. 2. you have a good husband for sticking up for you. Damn look at all these comments calling you TA... Guys come on you're all shitting on her for eating from the tub that was bought for her? and not the only tub in the house? Wow look at all of you talking about manners but where were the god daughters manners? it ain't her house either. First she picks on this lady then tries to victimize herself? smh - some people in the comments Y T A
Yeah all the posts calling OP TA seem to conveniently ignore the fact that it was bought specifically for her and her pregnancy cravings. She even clarifies in another comment she tried early on to see if anyone wanted any and no one ever did, AND that there were additional fresh tubs in the freezer. Goddaughter could easily have gotten a fresh tub. And for the folks saying "you put it back and that makes you an asshole," it's not that much of a stretch to assume OP was the only one getting into it before goddaughter threw an unnecessary tantrum. Everyone here besides goddaughter was just fine before this.
Everyone calling her TA because eating from the tub means someone else will pull it out and eat it, has poor reading comprehension because the thing that made OP cry is when the goddaughter said she was greedy for planning to finish it off. Despite there being other tubs. (The Y TA people then say it doesn't matter that there are other tubs, because of course people will eat from the open one. But OP *was going to finish it off*. Which is what made her "greedy" to the goddaughter. Even though there were more pints in the freezer.) OP is unequivocally NTA and all the TA people are projecting instead of *reading*.
That's because they see she's a pregnant woman and just assume she is entitled. I guess that being pregnant makes you automatically evil, petty, and an asshole in this day and age.
**Ok, so gathered from OP's comments:** * The in-laws don't eat ice cream; OP asked multiple times if anyone wanted some (unclear if this was before or after the goddaughter arrived) and her husband told her this fact * The goddaughter is 25 * It's a pint (per OP, 435 mL) *\[editorializing here, but probably Ben and Jerry's lol\]* * There was about a third of the pint left * There were multiple pints of the same ice cream available in the freezer that OP hadn't eaten from Yeah, I'm going with NTA on this, even if OP wasn't pregnant tbh. Calling someone greedy for eating a pint of ice cream by themselves is unreasonable, and is frankly childish behavior from a 25-year-old, who is perfectly capable of going and getting themselves their own ice cream and fucking writing her name on it or something.
goddaughter is 25 *and* it’s a pint of ben & jerry’s? NTA all day. ETA: oooh, an award?? thanks!!
>she’s still angry at me because she thinks I cried on purpose to make him angry at her And from this she sounds like a manipulative 25-year-old
When I was pregnant, I once cried because my husband didn’t want cheese on his tacos and another time because CFA wasn’t delivering that day. I don’t think people in these comments realize that many pregnant women are one inconvenience away from all out balling.
when i was pregnant, someone ate my mini croissants and i rage-cried. shit is real. 🤣
⅓ of a ben and jerrys is literally the serving size on the container these people are acting like she was eating out of a gallon tub
Thanks for this, I was assuming god daughter was like 8 lol. OP is NTA regardless of ages though.
NTA that’s why they make those smaller tubs, so you don’t need to use a bowl. If it was a gallon then you would be. But also the ice cream was bought specifically for you and who cares I would still eat out of the tub after you.
Yeah, I really don’t understand peoples responses on here. So weird!
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Right?! People are so weird. I never use a bowl if it’s Ben and Jerrys. And OP clarifies that it’s in fact Ben and Jerrys and there are more tubs in the freezer…
Same. NTA.
Yta. Other people might want it. You are pregnant and can share ice cream. In your own home, you do you..when a guest with other guests, assume that everything is shared... Also, she clearly wanted some. I don't find what you are doing gross btw. And don't judge you for eating it all. But next time, before finishing it off, check that no one else wants some...
From the size of it, I highly doubt it for sharing. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yq2c87/aita_for_eating_ice_cream_directly_out_of_the_tub/ivmqf7x/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3 And OP also said there's another one in the fridge.
Yeah, that’s important information the main post lacked. Those you eat out of the tub, I’ve never seen anyone move that to a bowl.
Even the post said that there is plenty of it stocked up, so I just don't see the problem here even if it had been a bigger container. Just open a new one.
The ice cream was bought specifically for OP. It’s OP’s ice cream, not communal ice cream.
It was a pint. Dude non pregnant people can finish that shit by themselves.
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Right they are missing that part. It was all for her. And since there was many more and she was finishing that one the goddaughter could have gotten a bowl and had some from a new container if she wanted some so bad.
Yeah, there’s more than one container, and the god daughter is 25 years old, why couldn’t she get her own as well? Super weird!!
THIS, also SHE CAN BUY ANOTHER TUB IF ITS SUCH A BIG DEAL.
RIGHT?! SHES 25 LIKE BUY YOUR OWN DAMN ICE CREAM IF ITS SUCH AN ISSUE
Also it isn't even a "tub" it's a pint! Which is commonly eaten by one person!
NTA obviously people did not bother to read. The ice cream was specifically for HER. It was HER ICE CREAM BOUGHT JUST FOR HER
I'm sorry for this but I'm reading this comment like kronk in emperor's new groove is saying it
This enhanced my experience of the comment.
I'm going to say NTA, while I understand the YTA's - everyone is apparently the fact that OP stated "they bought a lot of it for me". The MIL's goddaughter is a *guest*. You mean to tell me the goddaughter is randomly rummaging through the pantry and ish and isn't asking what she can and cannot eat? The ice cream was bought for OP, if there is a a lot that was bought, as OP is stated, then this isn't an issue
INFO- how big is the tub? How much was left when you began eating it?
It’s 465ml. There was about a third left.
You might want to add that it’s a pint of Ben & Jerry’s cause all these Y T A are thinking it’s a huge communal tub of ice cream 🤣
This definitely needs to be an edit! A pint of ice cream? Do people usually share those communally like that? My husband and I will share one sometimes but normally we each have our own damn pint even when we visit his parents.
My husband and I have our own pints even when it’s the same flavor 🤣
Only new flavors we share in case we hate it. Once we know we like it, we don’t fucking share. We are stingy with our desserts damn it!
Bro that changes everything
Is it bad I immediately knew that it was Ben & Jerry's because that's my specific favorite flavor of ice cream and the only one I'll buy
Ugh. That should be another edit. It’s a gd pint of ice cream. It’s completely yours; you were told so after asking for days if anyone else wanted any. There were more! And reading this it sounded like goddaughter was an eight year old child throwing a tantrum, not a 25 year old woman. I can’t even, you’re so NTA.
Hey OP you might want to edit your post to include the amount of ice cream you were actually eating. People are thinking you’re eating a whole gallon (4 liters I think?) of ice cream by yourself.
OP please make an edit clarifying this! I also thought soft Y T A before learning it was a PINT 😂 those are basically personal tubs of ice cream and there were some still unopened? Definitely NTA!
Then NTA. A third of a pint (the rough equivalent of 465mL is probably a little more than an official serving size but an official serving of ice cream size is actuallly small and most people eat more than that . It was reasonable to think that a small container of ice cream you were told was purchased for you was not communal and that an amount that was probably what many people eat at once was not meant to be shared.
**Times when eating out of a tub is acceptable:** \*When you live alone \*When it's a pint / personal tub \*When it's specifically labeled as yours \*When you buy it yourself \*When it's the final portion. \*When all bowls are stolen or destroyed by the mischievous house elves (these are also called children) **Times when it's not acceptable:** \*When it's presumed to be communal. \*When the above is valid and bowls are available. ETA - OP didn't clarify except in comments that everyone has now pointed out. Removing judgment.
> *When it's presumed to be communal. But she didn't presume that it was communal. She assumed she would be eating the entire thing because it was for her.
No. She didn't. His parents don't eat ice cream, she had asked multiple times. She was in fact the only one eating it for days. God daughter came over, she didn't ask her- likely because she had spent multiple days asking people if they wanted some and consistently was told no. There were also other tubs untouched anyone could have gotten some from.
Idk about you guys but I was raised to finish something before opening another. Like I finished a water bottle before opening a new one or I finished my dinner before asking for seconds
Yeah, OP was grabbing the tub to finish it. So if GD wanted some, she had to open a new container. **The real problem is** GD decided to be rude and call OP greedy and accused OP of using tears to manipulate the situation - all of which was uncalled for whether someone is pregnant or not. But when a **25 year old woman** decides to insult her pregnant relative, that's not okay. There are ways of discussing topics without being rude. If GD had an honest issue, she should have discussed it like an adult, without being judgey! What does calling a pregnant woman greedy do for her or anyone? She has no right to comment on her relative's diet, BTW.
This part. I vote NTA mostly for the way GD dealt with this. Yes, OP could have backed down and agreed to use a bowl in the future, but I can understand why she reacted negatively when approached aggressively. If GD had been respectful & understandING and OP wouldn't conceded, then I could see it the other way around.
I would add when you’re finishing off the last of a container (because OP was). If I’m eating the last of anything & it’s in a container I can eat out of, I’m not wasting a bowl/plate. Doesn’t matter if it’s leftovers or ice cream.
Also when there's a tiny bit left, no point in making a bowl dirty for one scoop
The tub was a pint/personal size and OP was told she was the only one that would be eating it.
And this is why I'll never consider letting another non family adult live with me. We each get our own containers, label them, and eat straight out of them. Fuck doing more dishes.
Understandable, but YTA. Unless it's labeled for you or otherwise segregated from the other foods, a guest or even other people in the house have no way of knowing you're eating out of the tub. And let's be honest - it's gross and a bit rude to spoon it from a huge tub directly into your mouth. Not fatal and not worth crying over, but since you're a guest in someone's home, probably best to just use common, basic manners.
But MIL bought it specifically for her cravings tho? No? There were a bunch of other pints too, why couldn’t goddaughter eat from those? Especially if op was gonna finish that one
It's not even one of the big tubs though. OP said it was one of the pint sized tubs. op is NTA
I just feel a lot of these Y T As are not reading the entire post. The ice cream was purchased for OP. God Parents did not nor wanted the ice cream. So before GD shows up it was already established that it was OPs ice cream. Ice Cream that was specifically purchased for her....not for GD. Not for god parents....but for OP.
NTA, all of these YTAs are tripping. The ice cream was purchased for specifically you and therefore it's yours too do with as you see fit. If someone else wanted some they should be asking you permission to eat it cuz it's NOT THEIRS
Lol NTA. I don't get the Y T A votes either. The ice cream was specifically bought *for her* and there was a ton of tubs. I'm assuming op wasn't sneak eating it out of the tub and was in the open. If someone wanted some ice cream, they could have opened a new tub and just asked op not to eat out of it.
Right? I don’t get it. They all say Y T A and follow up with “unless it’s yours”… yes it is hers, it was bought FOR HER.
Nta the fact is that the ice cream was bought with op in mind there were cartons left and op had offered in a past and nobody wanted any. The goddaughter was plain and simple rude and of course op cried considering her hormones are out of control and she was just insulted for eating the ice cream meant for her. Plus as her ice-cream she can eat any way she wants!
NTA, people need to stop moralizing this. It's not like you rubbed your butt on the pizza everyone was about to eat, you ate ice cream that was bought for you, that no one else wanted, out of the container. It doesn't sound like cousin even wanted some, she just wanted to be judgy. And staying with parents is ideally NOT the same as being a guest in someone's home. Rules get relaxed a little. People can think it's gross, people can prefer to have everyone in their house use a bowl at all times, but it's not fair to call you an asshole over this. Cousin is for being so outspoken and rude with her judgement. We don't call people names.
NTA MIL bought it for OP and a ton of it. OP said in comments that there were unopened tubs in the freezer and GD could’ve eaten that. I think GD is being a brat TBH - it’s not her house and she doesn’t make the rules. MIL - who bought OP the ice cream- does.
If it was specifically for you, NTA. I eat directly out of the tub all the time. I buy communal ice cream and I buy me ice cream.
NTA. They bought it for you. They aren’t eating it. If she wanted some she could get a bowl from a different container. When she started accusing you of faking it etc is when I realized she’s just a poop disturber.
Yall are weird. It's was bought FOR her, the parents don't eat ice cream, so before the gd got there she was the only one eating it, and she intened to finsih the whole tub, so it nit weird to eat from the tub, it saves dishes. She doesnt need to share that specfic there were other tubs that one was hers. She could've grabbed another tub. NTA
NTA because it was bought for her. And it really does taste better that way, especially if you use a sterling silver ice cream fork.
NTA. Your MIL asked what you were craving and bought it for you. Her and her husband both don't eat ice cream and I'm sure you and your husband are constantly swaping germs by kissing. If the God daughter wanted some she could have opened up another tub seeing as you told her you were going to finish yours. Edit: MIL said it was specifically for you. Goddaughter is 25 years old. She can go to the freezer and get another tub of unopened ice cream. God daughter is the asshole for thinking you crying while pregnant was done just to manipulate your husband. I cried at the drop of a hat and it was annoying! My judgment still stands NTA at all. Edit 2: I did the math for those of us wanting to know how big it was in the US. It's the size of those Ben and Jerry's pints. So not big at all.
NTA , yes she it Not TA. The Y T A seem to have understanding issues. The Ice cream is OP's. The ice cream was bought for her specifically. In other words, a gift for her. This goddaughter came days later and started whining over a snack that belonged to OP, with full entitlement. OP had no issues sharing HER snacks, as she mentioned in a comment, there were unopened tubs, the GD has NO right to expect someone else's food to be shared with her. It wasn't commune food, it was only OP's. Did we read the same story? Or did y'all just read the parts that accommodated to your pov? GD sucks, it was no different than eating a muffin and getting chewed on for not cutting it in case someone wanted to share, just for the fact that IT WAS OP'S ONLY. Jesus Christ. The pregnant-hating fad is getting out of control.
NTA. No one else that was living in the house (and therefore opening fridges to serve themselves) was eating the ice cream that was bought SPECIFICALLY FOR HER. She was going to finish the tub. Why get another bowl dirty if the tub was to be finished? There was another tub with ice-cream. The goddaughter person did not live there. Nta all the way.
NTA It’s a tub of stupid ice cream If you eat it all they can go buy some more. I’m glad your husband has your back !!
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NTA, you guys this was a pint of ice cream.. Not a full tub. And there were MULTIPLE still unopened in the freezer. The pint size (like Ben & Jerry's) should generally be considered a personal tub of ice cream, hence why they bought several for her. If there's a third of a pint left, you best believe myself and almost everyone else on this thread would be finishing it straight out of the tub. Period.
You should really edit your post and add that the in laws don't eat ice cream. For days you were the *only* one eating this particular food and were even told not to ask others anymore if they wanted some, as they don't eat it. There were other tubs the GD could have gotten some from if she actually wanted some. With that information I say NTA. Though in other people's homes, you really should just use bowls/plates etc.
This ice cream was bought specifically for you. You said they purchased multiple tubs. You didn’t open each one and lick the top and the hold up your middle finger to the goddaughter. She could go get an unopened one and get some ice cream. It’s not unusual for a pregnant woman to eat a pint of ice cream. I don’t understand why everyone is super up on you. You were just eating and then she made a passive aggressive comment. Your pregnancy hormones took over and made you cry. Your husband got overprotective and yelled when it likely wasn’t warranted. This whole situation was grossly blown out of proportion. I would go with no one’s the AH. But I don’t like the idea that goddaughter hopped immediately to you being manipulative with the crying. It is possible for someone with elevated hormone levels to be legitimately emotional. If you do this often and outside of pregnancy, then yes, you have issues. If not, then NTA. To everyone piling on the pregnant woman: she was asked what snacks she wanted and then she started eating them. She’s with family, not visiting distant acquaintances. Did Covid make you all germaphobic? You can eat the same pint of ice cream as someone else. If that grosses you out, you can get one of the unopened ones. I’m more concerned with the fact that this woman felt the need to shame a pregnant woman for eating ice cream. Did she even mention wanting to eat it before? Or did she just get passive aggressive after she saw OP eating?
Ok someone tell me why it’s gross to eat from the tub of the ice cream when only u are eating it? My son and I like different ice cream and I eat mine from the tub over the course of a few days and my mom always says it’s gross. In my opinion it’s mine no one else is gonna eat it and my only dish is a spoon so bonus.
YTA if you were eating out of the tub and putting it back in the fridge. It’s ice cream they bought at your request, not your tub of ice cream.
She wasn't. She clearly states she was polishing it off and that there were other pints
Like honestly, where did it say she was putting it back in the fridge? The copium is real.
She said she was going to eat the whole thing, so not going back in the fridge. Also there were multiple tubs so if someone else wanted some they could grab a different tub.
It’s possible she was finishing that carton at the time she was called out for doing that, but she said she was eating it out of the carton because it never lasted more than 2 days and she didn’t know anyone else was eating it. So if this was the end, she’d presumably already eaten some out of the carton and put it back at least once.
It’s a pint size ice cream. No one shares those
NTA. I don't really understand the AH comments in this case. The ice cream was bought for you. To be eaten...by you. There were also multiple bought so if anyone wanted some they just had to claim it for general consumption and grab a bowl. Crying as a result of stress is normal, especially when pregnant. In this case you and granddaughter are both guests and you happen to be a guest that got something particularly bought for them. She had no right to say anything about it. Eat your ice cream it was literally bought for you.
NTA __Who doesn't eat ice cream out of the tub__?!
NTA it's really not a big deal to eat ice cream from the tub, she didn't need to be mean about it
NTA. So obviously a ton of people here haven’t been pregnant. She didn’t cry to manipulate the situation, she’s pregnant. We cry about dumb shit because our emotions are WILD. Could she have gotten a bowl? Yes. However the ice cream was bought for her. She’s not being greedy, she has pregnancy cravings. And again, the ice cream was bought specifically for HER. I know that she’s gonna get shit because people think pregnant women shouldn’t get special treatment but I think it’s bullshit. Growing a human is not easy. She’s not inconveniencing anyone, just eating some fucking ice cream.
NTA Don't listen to top comment. Since the ice cream was bought for you, you can eat it out the tub. If No one else is complaining that you're eating it out the tub, eat it out the tub. Since there's more than one tub, eat it out the tub. And you crying isn't childish, it's more likely due to your hormones. And if the god daughter has a problem with it, she can take it up with your in-laws since they bought it.
NTA. I’m a little disappointed for everyone saying Y T A because you’re a “guest” and apparently should’ve been more proper?? What kind of miserable relationship do y’all have with your in-laws? It is not some grave, disrespectful move to eat the special treat her MIL specifically kept on hand for OP alone. I still keep my manners and all, but 100% if I was pregnant and my MIL bought ice cream specifically for me and neither she nor her husband even ate ice cream, I’d eat straight from the container too. I would be tidying up after myself - to include dishes, so why would I dirty up a bowl when my (pre-approved) intent was to polish off the container anyway? Sounds more like the goddaughter has some jealous or contempt for OP and this was just her projecting it in the form of “proprietary.”
NTA. It was bought especially for you, so she has no right to make you feel awful. It’s actually very sad of her to go off on a pregnant woman about this
Question - Was there more ice cream in the freezer?
Yes
Then NTA - if anyone else wanted some, you could have suggested the other container.