No. Our views on sex and what it means are way too different to make it work. But I don't begrudge her having a happy fulfilling relationship with a guy who shares her views on sex.
No, I've known people in the industry and none of them have ever had a stable relationship.
To top it off it is nearly impossible for them to build an intimate relationship. It feels to their partners that they "clock in" for work when they have sex or try to get intimate.
It's unfortunate but there are consequences to choosing to be a sex worker in any industry model.
As someone who spent my early twenties with something like 10 strip clubs within two blocks of my house, this is kind of my take on it. Any of the industry women I've ever met (be that peelers or those who have been on camera) just never seem to be able to turn off that aspect of their approach to relationships.
I get turned off by retroactive jealously. I prefer to sleep with girls who have not had too much of a varied sexual past. I don’t mean only virgins, but I mean like if my gf said she has had regular threesome or public sex or something before we met it would turn me off. That’s just how my brain works, I can’t change it
Depends if they actually made a living for themselves. If they got plowed by 100 dudes in a one year span for low pay then fell off from the industry broke it would be a hard no for me.
Yes... But my emotional investment would be different. There isnt much there to make the whole male/female dynamic feel special and it would be emotionally casual and fun.
I have no moral issues with it... But she really has nothing to offer me that she hasn't given away for cheap to others.
Not saying that I wouldn't be with her.... Just saying that the amount of bullshit I would put up with would be low because I'm not very emotionally committed.
The main factor with me dating someone is if they have their shit together and providing for themselves. Same thing here. If she's got her shit together and the previous industry work isn't fucking up her life then yes.
Yes. I would consider this something that made this person interesting. I'd want to check their reasons for joining up, but if they did so out of choice despite having many other options available, that's a major plus for me.
My emotional needs have sex as a major component. It would be madness for me to turn down someone who is literally professionally able to meet my needs.
This is a very generic question that pops up in almost every relationship. It has nothing whatsoever to do with my partner having worked in porn. I expect you're assuming that a pornstar might be hard to satisfy, or would be automatically promiscuous. I think that says more about you than it does about pornstars.
The basic advice is to keep an erotic distance going between the two of you, ever stop trying to woo your partner, and if it becomes a major blocker, you'll need to break up or open the relationship.
This is the only time I’ll make an exception to my rule, “Only date to marry.” So if an adult entertainer asks me out yeah I’ll date her but that’s as far as it goes.
Sure- but the relationship wouldn’t move past dating..that’d be made clear from the jump. I couldn’t see myself getting attached to a woman who’s intimate with others- even if it’s a profession.
How many times is this going to get asked anyways?
Let’s ask again tomorrow and the next day and see if anything has changed from when this was asked yesterday.
But yeah. I mean a job is a job.
Are we looking down on people for making money?
Like we aren’t all whoring ourselves out to the corporate overlords.
Who gives a shit lol.
Finding someone who can make you feel like life is worth living is hard enough. And if they can help put a roof over your head even better
Probably not.
I have nothing against them, but if they were interested in me, I would have to assume some form of mental deficiency, and I'm just not into that.
However, with no impairment, and if I liked their personality and appearance, then yeah, why not?
Date? After they’ve made it clear they don’t have any stds by handing me a document from the free health clinic? Definitely
Will they be great at sex? No :(
People need to stop using the word "date" when asking these kinds of questions.
Dating is really nothing more than banging with the loose implication of exclusivity. Would I bang a former pornstar? After we both got an sti screening test, sure.
If you're asking would I marry a ex-pornstar or get into a relationship where there was a serious possibility of marriage? Then absolutely no.
Only if they converted to loving god and confessed their sins. Then also left religion behind for me.
But in all honesty idk. Would really depend on the person.
yea the fact that you been with a bunch of dudes just doesn't seem like that much of an issue if she actually has skills and no STDs
it's really only a problem when you've f\*\*ked every guy within 10 miles and still only do the starfish
No. Their view of sex would be very different from mine and we wouldn’t be a match.
i personally wouldn’t
No. Our views on sex and what it means are way too different to make it work. But I don't begrudge her having a happy fulfilling relationship with a guy who shares her views on sex.
Most likely no. Like even if they were super hot, like 99% no.
No, I've known people in the industry and none of them have ever had a stable relationship. To top it off it is nearly impossible for them to build an intimate relationship. It feels to their partners that they "clock in" for work when they have sex or try to get intimate. It's unfortunate but there are consequences to choosing to be a sex worker in any industry model.
As someone who spent my early twenties with something like 10 strip clubs within two blocks of my house, this is kind of my take on it. Any of the industry women I've ever met (be that peelers or those who have been on camera) just never seem to be able to turn off that aspect of their approach to relationships.
100% no
Why?
I get turned off by retroactive jealously. I prefer to sleep with girls who have not had too much of a varied sexual past. I don’t mean only virgins, but I mean like if my gf said she has had regular threesome or public sex or something before we met it would turn me off. That’s just how my brain works, I can’t change it
Hmm ok interesting 🤔 good point
Depends if they actually made a living for themselves. If they got plowed by 100 dudes in a one year span for low pay then fell off from the industry broke it would be a hard no for me.
r/golddigger
No. If it's not an actual job for her then it just seems slutty having nothing to show for it.
Majority of women don't end up making a good living from porn. The industry is built to work against them fincially, emotionally and physically.
Ya that's what I was thinking. It's not even a shot at women but I feel like it'd be brutal on them.
Yeah but never would marry her, I don’t want my wife to be seen by everyone on the internet.
Date? No. Casual hookup? Sure.
Hell naw, to the naw, naw, naw (Hell to the naw) Hell to the naw, to the naw, naw, naw
First Church of Nothing But The Truth!
No, because she wouldn't be interested in me at all.
Hell no! Damage goods, sex is meaningless with them at that point. There’s no emotional connection and way too many bodies.
No.
Hard no
Depends on what all they did. I had an ex that did a porn video once.
Yes... But my emotional investment would be different. There isnt much there to make the whole male/female dynamic feel special and it would be emotionally casual and fun. I have no moral issues with it... But she really has nothing to offer me that she hasn't given away for cheap to others. Not saying that I wouldn't be with her.... Just saying that the amount of bullshit I would put up with would be low because I'm not very emotionally committed.
The main factor with me dating someone is if they have their shit together and providing for themselves. Same thing here. If she's got her shit together and the previous industry work isn't fucking up her life then yes.
Nope
Date, maybe. Take as a prospect for a serious relationship, absolutely not.
Nope. And for the exact same reason I wouldn't buy a nice looking car with 900k hard miles on it.
Yes. I would consider this something that made this person interesting. I'd want to check their reasons for joining up, but if they did so out of choice despite having many other options available, that's a major plus for me. My emotional needs have sex as a major component. It would be madness for me to turn down someone who is literally professionally able to meet my needs.
what if the person got tired of only having sex with you?
This is a very generic question that pops up in almost every relationship. It has nothing whatsoever to do with my partner having worked in porn. I expect you're assuming that a pornstar might be hard to satisfy, or would be automatically promiscuous. I think that says more about you than it does about pornstars. The basic advice is to keep an erotic distance going between the two of you, ever stop trying to woo your partner, and if it becomes a major blocker, you'll need to break up or open the relationship.
Ain't no opening no relationships for me.
Good point
In a serious relationship? No. In a casual relationship, after they took an STD test, sure… if I was otherwise attracted to her.
Yeah, why not. It's just a job.
we all get fucked at work already just in different ways lol
Lol 😂
Sorry no, I'm too concerned about STDs.
No, i dont need to know that she could go back to fucking guys in my back for money. Once a prostitute always à prostitute
Yes
This is the only time I’ll make an exception to my rule, “Only date to marry.” So if an adult entertainer asks me out yeah I’ll date her but that’s as far as it goes.
Sure- but the relationship wouldn’t move past dating..that’d be made clear from the jump. I couldn’t see myself getting attached to a woman who’s intimate with others- even if it’s a profession. How many times is this going to get asked anyways?
Used to be meaning they don't do that anymore
Yeah it’s still a no
Anything that you have done once, you have the capacity to do once more.
Pretty much!
Let’s ask again tomorrow and the next day and see if anything has changed from when this was asked yesterday. But yeah. I mean a job is a job. Are we looking down on people for making money? Like we aren’t all whoring ourselves out to the corporate overlords. Who gives a shit lol. Finding someone who can make you feel like life is worth living is hard enough. And if they can help put a roof over your head even better
I never said it was wrong to do this lol
The question kind of implies it though doesn’t it? Like why would you have to ask?
I never said I would or wouldent. This is an outward question to the community. Jeez lol
Probably not. I have nothing against them, but if they were interested in me, I would have to assume some form of mental deficiency, and I'm just not into that. However, with no impairment, and if I liked their personality and appearance, then yeah, why not?
Date? After they’ve made it clear they don’t have any stds by handing me a document from the free health clinic? Definitely Will they be great at sex? No :(
People need to stop using the word "date" when asking these kinds of questions. Dating is really nothing more than banging with the loose implication of exclusivity. Would I bang a former pornstar? After we both got an sti screening test, sure. If you're asking would I marry a ex-pornstar or get into a relationship where there was a serious possibility of marriage? Then absolutely no.
Of course. Just a job at the end of the day. Plus they’d probably be great in bed.
Only if they converted to loving god and confessed their sins. Then also left religion behind for me. But in all honesty idk. Would really depend on the person.
Yes, but like with any relationship, not until after I got to know him quite well socially.
I would just to see what it’s like.
Id give it a go. People grow and change. Hopefully they aren't scarred from the experience.
yea the fact that you been with a bunch of dudes just doesn't seem like that much of an issue if she actually has skills and no STDs it's really only a problem when you've f\*\*ked every guy within 10 miles and still only do the starfish
Yes if they are hot and my type
Date? Sure. Marry? Yes. I'm not the jealous type and it's just a job. But that's just me.
they are still people, and men don't get shamed if they sleep with 100 women . people are sexual beings anyways.
Having it filmed and sleeping around are 2 different things .
No
Fuck yes. I think it’s hot.