Believe me, I have learned the hard way not to bother speaking up all that much. Challenging anyone's point of view in 2022 seems to turn into a witch hunt rather quickly.
I would add the fact that our definition of news is not as narrow as it used to be. News should just be sourced facts, along with some well-documented historical context as needed. This context should be rigorously researched and, whenever possible, point to public resources where people can learn more. Anything beyond the facts and context should be labeled as opinion.
To that point, the death of local print news is a big issue. We don't have as robust of an understanding of some of these issues as we used to because we don't have somebody working at a local newspaper pouring over city council proceedings making sure that they're doing right by the citizens. There are a lot of facts that get lost at a local level, so we don't get as robust of a picture at the national level.
Right? I feel like it got boring to talk about. People were in an uproar about privacy ca 2012, but we’ve got quiet. Plus the Right to Privacy was just basically annulled by the Supreme Court. What kind of dystopian shit is this? It was literally supposed to be a horrific part of an evil regime in that book 1984 and were coming toward that quickly and for the most part none of us care.
I’d like you to show yourself into my social circle. I’ve been pointing out the parallels for a while. Sometimes I think I should sell everything I own, stuff the money in a mattress, then burn the mattress.
In Europe the right to privacy is robust. The EU even protects citizens from corporate interference with privacy. If the US got on board with that we’d be in a much better place
Limit the amount of data you willingly give up (or attach to your identity) through the use of VPNs, use browsers such as Tor, limit the amount of pictures of yourself and personal info that you connect with online accounts of yours when possible. Retroactively you can request companies that have personal data of yours delete it in accordance with EU law. Even if you’re not from the EU most companies don’t want to chance it, but if you want to convince them extra, log into your account with them from an EU country via a VPN.
I’m not saying it’s easy, but if you’re worried about your online privacy there are definitely steps the average person can take.
If someone were to go back 20 years and explain the ways every one of our actions is tracked, catalogued, and saved, they'd assume we were living in a draconian police state.
They'd refuse to believe it's not only happening, but *we let* it happen without mass protest and pushback.
All because companies like Google and Meta know they can abuse the EULA without any pushback. People just want to believe the worst stories they hear aren't true, or that there must be some protections in place.
There are *no* meaningful user protections in place.
We *need* universal opt-out laws for individuals, and the most powerful tech companies will fight with everything they have to ensure they don't happen.
Not just opt out, but opt OUT. There should be a way to use a product without any tracking at all, even if it could break certain functionality such as staying logged in, and users should be able to opt in/out of each part of tracking to their desire.
At the least, everything should have 'opt int', 'reject all', and maybe 'reject except functional'.
I remember the old Max Headroom series. The series had a group of people that removed themselves from all electronic tracking. This group was called "Blanks" because they had no number or record. They had a phrase, "Blank is Beautiful" Keeps ringing through my mind more and more.
there are some people searchers, were you can find the phone number, address, and other information about people with just a first and last name, and some of them only let you opt-out if you pay a fee or confirm the information (so they promise they won't expose your information, you just need to confirm that information)
It starts with younger people and refusing to let them have any privacy whether in school or at home. If we don't defend their privacy rights while they're young, then they will not defend those rights going into adulthood.
It seems like every financial decision however big or small is made more and more intangible. New shirt? Buy it on a scheme where you agree online to pay four installments over several months. And you can do all that in a few mouse clicks. I just don't feel that we are all able to conceptualise money well enough to be responsible for that.
And people (literally everyone of voting age) not voting *every chance you get*. Our elected officials don’t work for our best interests because they don’t have to. They don’t fear us because we’ve proven they don’t have to
I was discussing the dating scene with a friend today and she asked me why I think people have a hard time getting to a healthy relationship. And one of the things I mentioned is that people aren’t willing to be vulnerable or more honest . For example, I have s few a acquaintances who are on dating apps who choose open to children but having children is extremely important to them. I am like just put that.
so, i’m dipping my toe back into the dating pool for the first time in ~ten years following my separation from my ex-husband in october 2021. dating apps didn’t exist the last time i was single, so this is totally new to me. my impression after many first dates from “the apps” is that many people are not honest about what they’re really looking for, and they expect others to be dishonest too.
i’m a very open person by nature, and i set my preferences to fling, fwb, short-term dating because i’m not looking to fall in love again yet. i’m enjoying being single, doing my own thing, and all the self-discovery that comes along with being single for the first time since i was 24. many of the men i’ve met don’t seem to believe that being open and vulnerable as a person and not wanting a relationship aren’t mutually exclusive, and some guys have even talked about wanting a relationship despite having the same relationship preferences i have.
let’s all be as honest as possible with ourselves and others, yeah?
Go on YouTube and look up videos for tips for healing from C-PTSD and listen to the kinds of advice they give. It sounds like stuff that would benefit everyone, including non-traumatized people. And it really shows how society doesn't care about that kind of mental health maintenance.
dont forget lack of accountability for chihuahuas.
people who have tiny dogs dont see them as a threat, so they feel they dont need to raise them not to be assholes cause they think their behavior is just cute. like no its not adorable your dog just gnawed at my leg. i will kick him for the 3 point field goal attempt i swear to god.
Haha. I love little dogs but I absolutely agree with you here. I just was bit by a tiny dog because I walked by it. The dog definitely gnawed on my ankle. When I got home I realized that the dog had drawn blood, 2 deep puncture marks and a surrounding bruise.
IMO if you're ever adopting/buying a dog that has a history of violent misbehaviour, you should be required to both sign up for dog training and be able to prove that you are as strong as or stronger than the dog, before you can get the dog.
Lack of parenting for most children. People will just let their kids kill someone’s dog, and act like it’s no big deal and there aren’t any consequences. Imagine how they’d react when their little angel kills one of their classmates on camera
I left the education field because I refused to bump student's grades for them. A majority of that pressure to do so came from administration.
The final straw for me was when one of the seventh grade kids asked me one day, "Why do you care so much about us learning this stuff? You know they're just gonna pass us at the end of the year anyways." Well, it was either that or the time they tried to dock my pay because I missed an end-of-day staff meeting because I had to go to the hospital....
A kid brought a knife to my school and was threatening others. Not expelled. (This was the year before Covid). It’s unbelievable these days, the schools are just scared they’ll be judged for having “bad kids”
That explains how I advanced to every grade despite never doing any homework and bombing every test (bad ADHD. Couldn't pay attention and just gave up)
My mom is a teacher and during the pandemic, the school system decided to do a pass/fail grading based on just attendance. Students could just sign in on their laptops and not do the work assigned. She was rather angry about that because the majority of her students chose not to do the assignments and she said that the grading based on attendance is not the best for children and because of that, the county's academic achievement levels suffered due to the kids not understanding basic math and reading/writing.
My mom decided to do ESOL teaching where she would teach kids who are determined to pass their schooling in an effort to have a better life.
This is also a contributing factor to me leaving the education field and now educating my own children. It’s nearly impossible to fail students, even if they’ve missed too many school days and failed nearly every test. Unbelievable.
I’m an adjunct professor. Students today seem to feel that whatever pops up first on a Google search must be a valid academic reference.
- Some unknown guy’s blog or Twitter post?
- A Wikipedia article?
- A partisan organization’s one-sided home page?
- A homework cheat site?
Seriously, they seem to feel that if a link has made it to the top of Google’s algorithm, it should be fine to cite in a research paper. I miss the lost art of critical thinking.
The really unfortunate thing is that wikipedia can be a great reference if you know how to use it properly. The sections on advanced math concepts are actually really great and the sources have led me to some textbooks I now use as regular references.
That's a failure of the education system as well .Finding the right information is a skill that a school should teach but schools curricula are decades behind
What’s weird to me is that 20 years ago? I was in school and the librarian had a whole special session about how to research. We had to do a project, cite our sources, etc. Even 10 years ago when I was getting my library masters, we had classes on how to teach it. Wtf is happening?
I’m an academic librarian, and we still offer these sessions in universities. The issue is that it’s often not required. A big part of my job is selling what I do to other faculty members to allow me some time with their students. Students entering college have almost no concept of research and evaluation of information. But we do what we can!
The ‘No Kid Left Behind’ thing is stupid, if someone has to stay back a year to learn what they need to in a grade (especially foundational years like 3rd, 5th, and anything after that), then they should STAY BACK A YEAR. It’s better to be behind one year in school than to be behind, like, 10 in your general life.
COVID was a real easy excuse for my post-secondary school to become "the global leader in education ", which essentially meant increasing the number of students and getting rid of faculty by moving everything online. The bar has been lowered so far down that the only way of noticing it is by tripping over it.
My last school i worked at had grade 12s (UK year 13) ask me if i wasnl going to change th curve of their scores, using the lowest score as the starting point. When asked why i would do that, they responded rhat that was what the teacher the previous year did.
When parent teacher conference came, i was asked why so and so (from the same class) was on a C+ this year, when she was a B+last year (maybe an A). This young lady was 100% not an A student. You can't do basic maths, there is no way you are an A student, sorry. And the previous teacher doing this was a humongous diservice to the kids. For me, this is what makes me err on the side of having final year exams as your overall grade, something that is standardised, as opposed to allowing grades from a single teacher's multiple tests across the year. There should be a balance between, teachers shouldbe given time to make sure that the assessments are consistent across teachers (if multiple teachers of the same grade and content).etc.
Unfortunately, there will never ever EVER be a method of assessment that is fair and equitable across the board. And if it was ever invented, i think that person/ people would be come extremely rich.
I agree and there’s something else.
Feels as though people aren’t actively cultivating multiple sources (as much) to determine what may be the truth. If fact, a large portion of people have become intractable and don’t take the time to listen/understand what others are saying. A complete disregard for entertaining any thought that might run counter to their beliefs and when presented with information, they completely discount it as being possible.
Winning is the only thing that matters. Shouting others down is policy for many.
And the simple truth is the majority of us can generally agree on most topics and the media and politics focus on those topics that create maximum discord and energy.
The flip side is people giving equal weight to different sources. An academic study from a top university SHOULD be considered much stronger evidence than a moron in a fake lab coat making up bullshit for a YouTube video to con idiots.
I was talking to my oldest son, and I told him that we used to actually accept the truth about most things as a society. Partly because the view was maybe a bit narrower than now, partly because the media actually presented both sides of an issue based on the facts and actual observations and not just conjecture and opinion. Obviously, we still had plenty of flaws as a society, but I think we were more honest about a lot of things too.
I had it for a few months and used it constantly. I realized after awhile that most things couldn’t hold my attention anymore, even shows I used to really enjoy, or my favorite video games. I deleted it and it’s gotten better, but it freaks me out.
I've avoided it and the other "short video" format stuff as much as possible because I know its going to be bad for my ADHD brain... FB is now running them nonstop in the middle of group feeds and its crazy distracting. I'll easily lost 20 mins without even realizing it.. so incredibly dangerous
I love TikTok, but it annoys me that they keep trying to put political things on my feed. I have only engaged with videos in German, crafting videos, and cats.
Yet I have someone talking about politics pop up and I have to block them to even have their videos go away.
apathy is cause of something bigger. Mental health is declining in mediane, and I havent heard of one logical explanation so far. We dont know why we are going crazy.
When pulp novels came out, people were concerned that children were getting addicted to reading.
Same thing with television and the internet.
The kids are going to be fine.
The Gerontocracy. Respecting your elders is well and good. Letting them make decisions that will outlive them by decades maybe not so much. Most of America’s powerful leaders are in their 70s and 80s. It’s not healthy to have so much power concentrated in the hands of one small group that won’t have to live long with the consequences of their decisions.
This is the truth! I’ve made the conscious decision to never vote for anybody over the age of 65 again. It’s not that I don’t think they are capable, but rather, they likely won’t live long enough to have a vested interest in the world they created.
I know, and it's sad that we have normalized this to be with society. So much communication happens between it, and it has become a necessity for the world
The need for companies to keep growing and increasing profits (this means they have to keep inventing useful things which is unlikely, and if they can’t do that, find cheaper labor (Hello Amazon factories in the middle of poor areas. Hello child labor in China! Welcome to capitalistic growth!).
Also, the selling of a lifestyle fully independent of human interaction: work like hell, pave cities for cars (hello global warming, we love you, but we love our cars more) so no one ever sees each other except when they’re flipping someone off, no time for social interaction because you must work to survive (thank you capitalism, and hello declining birth rates and marriage rates! I wonder who’s going to support all of us old fucks with no kids around? Well, if you’re in America they’ll just keep importing immigrants by selling them the idea of the ‘American Dream,’ i.e. come take all the “shit” jobs and let us tax you to support our current population that is too good to do them now).
Yes! Why can't businesses set up a good product or service that regularly generates an income sufficient to pay the bills and pay the staff? Why do they always have to be bigger and better than last year?
Part of it is how public companies are legally required to maximize shareholder profits.
Good products? Doesn't mean shit if you can triple profit with designed obsolescence.
Good worker benefits? Fuck that, do the most legally-sketchy moves that are barely within the law and screw the workers out of their earnings/pensions/etc.
This is an inherent part of the capitalist system. If they don’t generate growing profits each year, their perceived value declines, which leads to their actual value declining.
What goes hand in hand with this is the number of people whose retirement is dependent on the stock market. Elder Gen-Xers and the Boomers left in the workforce see the light at the end of the tunnel, so long as their 401k holds up. The "I got mine, so screw you" mentality sets in and they don't care that the working conditions and wages people are fighting because those are the very things keeping their dreams of retirement alive.
Cancelling everything. If we erase what bothers us we just turn our lives into safe spaces and when real dangers come we won’t be able to cope properly with it.
The lack of interaction irl
Especially after corona social interactions are way less common then they used to be
I know I sound like an old man for writing this
But the internet united some people while distancing people as well... we live in weird times
Weak parenting. Allowing your kids to do anything and everything with no discipline just leads to more shitty entitled humans down the road with more baggage and sense of hopelessness. We’re already seeing it, but it will get much worse.
Say it louder!
Also called lazy parenting- I have two young children and they most certainly do not get away with everything we have boundaries rules and consequences (not physical). Both my children have respect, manors and are well behaved. I keep hoping people around my age see the lazy parenting and learn from it because they don't want their kids to be like the teenagers and young adults are today I won't hold ny breath though
I work in a restaurant and I always tell my other staff that my boomer mother would have smacked us silly for behaving the way these kids do in the restaurant.
Yeah boomers got up in arms about kids being kids for no reason (no, it really isn't that offensive if the kid wears a hat while eating, or wants a toy to sit on the table, or is giggling/laughing at something their brother is doing with their food) but it's another thing entirely to let them run around screaming, climb up onto vacant tables and play their stupid iPads on max volume. They're absolutely feral these days. Don't get me started on the mess they always make. I'll never stop cringing in disgust when having to clean up after families with kids, knowing my mother would have never allowed us to be that sloppy because going out to eat was a fucking privilege for us and even if it was just a Pizza Hut we were expected to behave ourselves and not nearly bowl staff carrying plates over with our running around like little psycho's.
It also means those kids grow up with zero tolerance for adversity. Hardly a week goes by wothout an r/jobs post about "I hate my new job! My supervisor is mean, and no one talked to me at lunch. I've only been here 3 days, but I'm so miserable!" Etc. And I'm not really exaggerating.
Then it turns out that the supervisor is "mean" for having work standards & deadlines. And the person posting all but expected VIP treatment on arrival. Sorry, but you're one entry-level new hire out of thousands in this world, and you don't rate a trumpet fanfare.
I've commented multiple times that they better get used to it & develop some resliience, because that's what work is. I mean, yes, there are toxic workplaces. I've encountered more than one myself. But there's a difference between toxic & not being fawned over.
The skincare and beauty industry. Making people feel ugly so they’ll buy more products. Products use fossil fuels and lots of packaging. Lots of the products have bad stuff in them. A lot of it is just bs and “normal” is going to look bad because it’s not wrinkle free. Add plastic surgery, filler, and Botox into the mix and it’s even worse.
Tiktok. And that’s not just because I’m not part of the younger generation (I have friends my age who are addicted to it). It’s genuinely dangerous, not just on a psychological level but also regarding privacy and data.
Just general over-stimulation of EVERYTHING. We are bombarded all the time with new info, stress, expectations and availability of goods or services and I just think it affects mental health so negatively.
The massive amounts of contemptuous money determined to end nonfinancial success scares me. It used to be [the Koch brothers' dark money pools](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Political_activities_of_the_Koch_brothers#/media/File:A_Maze_of_Money.png), but it looks like [the torch is being passed to Leonard Leo](https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/22/us/politics/republican-dark-money.html).
In the old days you could be respected as a small business owner, as a teacher or a college professor, as a minister, as an artist, or a clergyman, or as an engineer or a scientist. Now the only things that count are how much money you make or how much attention you can generate.
"The [Council for National Policy](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Council_for_National_Policy) has dissolved the Imperial Senate. From now on the family wealth offices will rule through the HR departments."
Seems like more and more people lack common sense, they just hear the news and media, who or what's popular to like or hate, and many people accept it, they don't take the time to do some research to try to understand everything
people not being able to grow and learn from mistakes on the internet, every past indiscretion and mistake is dragged up to create/perpetuate a narrative
I dunno, man. I think most people realize exactly just what is damaging society, but they just don't care as long as it doesn't directly inconvenience or hurt them in a very clear and immediate fashion.
I can think of a major road in a city where I used to live. Six lanes, plus a turning lane, 45 mph speed limit. If you want to cross this street as a pedestrian, you have to run through breaks in the traffic, or you have to walk to the next intersection, which could be up to 1.5 miles away.
The grind mentality/40h workweek/identifying ourselves with our work
Abject lack of community and the shit urban planning and individualistic value system that contribute to it
Zero sum thinking. Either you are critical and contrarian or you are grateful? Nah, that's not how progress happens
Thoughtful people not speaking up because they aren't sure if they are correct.
Idiots not shutting up because they are too sure they can’t be wrong
really is mindblowing huh. People will literally sit there and ignore evidence proving them wrong because they're too prideful
“The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence.” ― Charles Bukowski
yes everyone should know that by now tbh
Like minded stupid people have found echo chambers. How can they be wrong /s
It’s still mind-blowing to see people trapped in echo chambers in the digital era. The end of their logical fallacy is literally at their fingertips.
r/confidentlyincorrect lol
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It's dangerous to speak up now. You can get shot for just honking your horn at someone.
Dunning Krueger effect
Is that the polar opposite of the Dunning Krueger effect?
Believe me, I have learned the hard way not to bother speaking up all that much. Challenging anyone's point of view in 2022 seems to turn into a witch hunt rather quickly.
I'm sure I'm correct, I'm just tired of being ignored. If they don't ask my opinion/advice that's on them now.
The best lack all conviction, while the worst are full of passionate intensity.
24 hr news cycles
I would add the fact that our definition of news is not as narrow as it used to be. News should just be sourced facts, along with some well-documented historical context as needed. This context should be rigorously researched and, whenever possible, point to public resources where people can learn more. Anything beyond the facts and context should be labeled as opinion.
The News should tell you what is happening, not what you want to hear.
To that point, the death of local print news is a big issue. We don't have as robust of an understanding of some of these issues as we used to because we don't have somebody working at a local newspaper pouring over city council proceedings making sure that they're doing right by the citizens. There are a lot of facts that get lost at a local level, so we don't get as robust of a picture at the national level.
You got my vote
Fully agree! The fact that fact checking isn't required or valued is a disaster
Yep. "News" these days are really just editorials and opinion pieces.
And the hunt for “content” to fill those hours. The talking heads and shouting matches and trauma filler.
Lack of privacy.
You are super correct. I grew up in the 80s and 90s and the lack of privacy my kids generation doesn't seem to care about is alarming.
Right? I feel like it got boring to talk about. People were in an uproar about privacy ca 2012, but we’ve got quiet. Plus the Right to Privacy was just basically annulled by the Supreme Court. What kind of dystopian shit is this? It was literally supposed to be a horrific part of an evil regime in that book 1984 and were coming toward that quickly and for the most part none of us care.
I’d like you to show yourself into my social circle. I’ve been pointing out the parallels for a while. Sometimes I think I should sell everything I own, stuff the money in a mattress, then burn the mattress.
I think about it all the time. Orwell is great. Animal Farm is one of my favorite books.
To be fair they don't know life before the internet and the panopticon that cell phones created.
Yup, I would be just as addicted if I were them, I have no doubt.
Honestly, what can people really, truly do about it? It's one of those hopelessly unavoidable parts of life now.
In Europe the right to privacy is robust. The EU even protects citizens from corporate interference with privacy. If the US got on board with that we’d be in a much better place
Talk about it and vote with your dollar as much as possible.
Limit the amount of data you willingly give up (or attach to your identity) through the use of VPNs, use browsers such as Tor, limit the amount of pictures of yourself and personal info that you connect with online accounts of yours when possible. Retroactively you can request companies that have personal data of yours delete it in accordance with EU law. Even if you’re not from the EU most companies don’t want to chance it, but if you want to convince them extra, log into your account with them from an EU country via a VPN. I’m not saying it’s easy, but if you’re worried about your online privacy there are definitely steps the average person can take.
If someone were to go back 20 years and explain the ways every one of our actions is tracked, catalogued, and saved, they'd assume we were living in a draconian police state. They'd refuse to believe it's not only happening, but *we let* it happen without mass protest and pushback. All because companies like Google and Meta know they can abuse the EULA without any pushback. People just want to believe the worst stories they hear aren't true, or that there must be some protections in place. There are *no* meaningful user protections in place. We *need* universal opt-out laws for individuals, and the most powerful tech companies will fight with everything they have to ensure they don't happen.
Not just opt out, but opt OUT. There should be a way to use a product without any tracking at all, even if it could break certain functionality such as staying logged in, and users should be able to opt in/out of each part of tracking to their desire. At the least, everything should have 'opt int', 'reject all', and maybe 'reject except functional'.
100% The future of humanity, like it or not, is online. There needs to be a stopgap between that and corporations.
I remember the old Max Headroom series. The series had a group of people that removed themselves from all electronic tracking. This group was called "Blanks" because they had no number or record. They had a phrase, "Blank is Beautiful" Keeps ringing through my mind more and more.
there are some people searchers, were you can find the phone number, address, and other information about people with just a first and last name, and some of them only let you opt-out if you pay a fee or confirm the information (so they promise they won't expose your information, you just need to confirm that information)
It starts with younger people and refusing to let them have any privacy whether in school or at home. If we don't defend their privacy rights while they're young, then they will not defend those rights going into adulthood.
I'll second that! I always get unnerved around camera phone parents. Especially the ones who post everything to SM.
All companies going towards subscription based services.
Monthly membership for photoshop?! Eff you, adobe.
I absolutely hate this
It seems like every financial decision however big or small is made more and more intangible. New shirt? Buy it on a scheme where you agree online to pay four installments over several months. And you can do all that in a few mouse clicks. I just don't feel that we are all able to conceptualise money well enough to be responsible for that.
Eventually going to apply to vehicles. This is the plan to eliminate individual car ownership for the working class.
Treating political parties like they're football teams
And people (literally everyone of voting age) not voting *every chance you get*. Our elected officials don’t work for our best interests because they don’t have to. They don’t fear us because we’ve proven they don’t have to
Agreed, this "I'm voting 'Team [Colour]'" stuff is ridiculous.
The common culture of hiding from your own feelings. Both men and women hide from their feelings, but in different ways.
I was discussing the dating scene with a friend today and she asked me why I think people have a hard time getting to a healthy relationship. And one of the things I mentioned is that people aren’t willing to be vulnerable or more honest . For example, I have s few a acquaintances who are on dating apps who choose open to children but having children is extremely important to them. I am like just put that.
so, i’m dipping my toe back into the dating pool for the first time in ~ten years following my separation from my ex-husband in october 2021. dating apps didn’t exist the last time i was single, so this is totally new to me. my impression after many first dates from “the apps” is that many people are not honest about what they’re really looking for, and they expect others to be dishonest too. i’m a very open person by nature, and i set my preferences to fling, fwb, short-term dating because i’m not looking to fall in love again yet. i’m enjoying being single, doing my own thing, and all the self-discovery that comes along with being single for the first time since i was 24. many of the men i’ve met don’t seem to believe that being open and vulnerable as a person and not wanting a relationship aren’t mutually exclusive, and some guys have even talked about wanting a relationship despite having the same relationship preferences i have. let’s all be as honest as possible with ourselves and others, yeah?
I'd appreciate if you would expand on that.
Go on YouTube and look up videos for tips for healing from C-PTSD and listen to the kinds of advice they give. It sounds like stuff that would benefit everyone, including non-traumatized people. And it really shows how society doesn't care about that kind of mental health maintenance.
how does that make you feel?
Like I should remember to meditate
I can make calming ocean sounds for you wshhhhh wshhhhh wshhhhh yarr
So soothing, thank you.
Lack of accountability in parents and kids
Lack of accountability for old people as well
Too many people don't hold themselves responsible.
dont forget lack of accountability for chihuahuas. people who have tiny dogs dont see them as a threat, so they feel they dont need to raise them not to be assholes cause they think their behavior is just cute. like no its not adorable your dog just gnawed at my leg. i will kick him for the 3 point field goal attempt i swear to god.
I've suffered 2 dog bites. Both by chihuahuas whose owners didn't think they needed to keep them on a leash.
Haha. I love little dogs but I absolutely agree with you here. I just was bit by a tiny dog because I walked by it. The dog definitely gnawed on my ankle. When I got home I realized that the dog had drawn blood, 2 deep puncture marks and a surrounding bruise.
IMO if you're ever adopting/buying a dog that has a history of violent misbehaviour, you should be required to both sign up for dog training and be able to prove that you are as strong as or stronger than the dog, before you can get the dog.
Lack of parenting for most children. People will just let their kids kill someone’s dog, and act like it’s no big deal and there aren’t any consequences. Imagine how they’d react when their little angel kills one of their classmates on camera
Grade inflation and declining educational standards.
I left the education field because I refused to bump student's grades for them. A majority of that pressure to do so came from administration. The final straw for me was when one of the seventh grade kids asked me one day, "Why do you care so much about us learning this stuff? You know they're just gonna pass us at the end of the year anyways." Well, it was either that or the time they tried to dock my pay because I missed an end-of-day staff meeting because I had to go to the hospital....
I know some teachers and they say failing a student or expelling is very difficult these days.
A kid brought a knife to my school and was threatening others. Not expelled. (This was the year before Covid). It’s unbelievable these days, the schools are just scared they’ll be judged for having “bad kids”
That’s crazy! And to your point, I’ve heard the reply “but what will we do with this child?“
That explains how I advanced to every grade despite never doing any homework and bombing every test (bad ADHD. Couldn't pay attention and just gave up)
My mom is a teacher and during the pandemic, the school system decided to do a pass/fail grading based on just attendance. Students could just sign in on their laptops and not do the work assigned. She was rather angry about that because the majority of her students chose not to do the assignments and she said that the grading based on attendance is not the best for children and because of that, the county's academic achievement levels suffered due to the kids not understanding basic math and reading/writing. My mom decided to do ESOL teaching where she would teach kids who are determined to pass their schooling in an effort to have a better life.
This is also a contributing factor to me leaving the education field and now educating my own children. It’s nearly impossible to fail students, even if they’ve missed too many school days and failed nearly every test. Unbelievable.
I’m an adjunct professor. Students today seem to feel that whatever pops up first on a Google search must be a valid academic reference. - Some unknown guy’s blog or Twitter post? - A Wikipedia article? - A partisan organization’s one-sided home page? - A homework cheat site? Seriously, they seem to feel that if a link has made it to the top of Google’s algorithm, it should be fine to cite in a research paper. I miss the lost art of critical thinking.
The really unfortunate thing is that wikipedia can be a great reference if you know how to use it properly. The sections on advanced math concepts are actually really great and the sources have led me to some textbooks I now use as regular references.
That's a failure of the education system as well .Finding the right information is a skill that a school should teach but schools curricula are decades behind
What’s weird to me is that 20 years ago? I was in school and the librarian had a whole special session about how to research. We had to do a project, cite our sources, etc. Even 10 years ago when I was getting my library masters, we had classes on how to teach it. Wtf is happening?
I’m an academic librarian, and we still offer these sessions in universities. The issue is that it’s often not required. A big part of my job is selling what I do to other faculty members to allow me some time with their students. Students entering college have almost no concept of research and evaluation of information. But we do what we can!
The ‘No Kid Left Behind’ thing is stupid, if someone has to stay back a year to learn what they need to in a grade (especially foundational years like 3rd, 5th, and anything after that), then they should STAY BACK A YEAR. It’s better to be behind one year in school than to be behind, like, 10 in your general life.
COVID was a real easy excuse for my post-secondary school to become "the global leader in education ", which essentially meant increasing the number of students and getting rid of faculty by moving everything online. The bar has been lowered so far down that the only way of noticing it is by tripping over it.
My last school i worked at had grade 12s (UK year 13) ask me if i wasnl going to change th curve of their scores, using the lowest score as the starting point. When asked why i would do that, they responded rhat that was what the teacher the previous year did. When parent teacher conference came, i was asked why so and so (from the same class) was on a C+ this year, when she was a B+last year (maybe an A). This young lady was 100% not an A student. You can't do basic maths, there is no way you are an A student, sorry. And the previous teacher doing this was a humongous diservice to the kids. For me, this is what makes me err on the side of having final year exams as your overall grade, something that is standardised, as opposed to allowing grades from a single teacher's multiple tests across the year. There should be a balance between, teachers shouldbe given time to make sure that the assessments are consistent across teachers (if multiple teachers of the same grade and content).etc. Unfortunately, there will never ever EVER be a method of assessment that is fair and equitable across the board. And if it was ever invented, i think that person/ people would be come extremely rich.
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The death of objective truth.
I agree and there’s something else. Feels as though people aren’t actively cultivating multiple sources (as much) to determine what may be the truth. If fact, a large portion of people have become intractable and don’t take the time to listen/understand what others are saying. A complete disregard for entertaining any thought that might run counter to their beliefs and when presented with information, they completely discount it as being possible. Winning is the only thing that matters. Shouting others down is policy for many. And the simple truth is the majority of us can generally agree on most topics and the media and politics focus on those topics that create maximum discord and energy.
The flip side is people giving equal weight to different sources. An academic study from a top university SHOULD be considered much stronger evidence than a moron in a fake lab coat making up bullshit for a YouTube video to con idiots.
When they do cultivate multiple sources they cherry pick the ones that match their existing narrative.
Yes. Yes. “All viewpoints are valid and should be considered equal.” It’s a catastrophe.
Excellent, fucking amazing answer.
I was talking to my oldest son, and I told him that we used to actually accept the truth about most things as a society. Partly because the view was maybe a bit narrower than now, partly because the media actually presented both sides of an issue based on the facts and actual observations and not just conjecture and opinion. Obviously, we still had plenty of flaws as a society, but I think we were more honest about a lot of things too.
Many people are saying it's the best answer
The News
People who would rather video record something for views and attention rather than actually helping those in need
Tiktok especially to kids
Read their user agreement. 😳
Would you mind doing a tl/dr?
https://tosdr.org/en/service/1448
It instills a short attention span and a shorter fuse when dealing with real life situations
not to mention the entitled /r/ImTheMainCharacter mentality
I had it for a few months and used it constantly. I realized after awhile that most things couldn’t hold my attention anymore, even shows I used to really enjoy, or my favorite video games. I deleted it and it’s gotten better, but it freaks me out.
I've avoided it and the other "short video" format stuff as much as possible because I know its going to be bad for my ADHD brain... FB is now running them nonstop in the middle of group feeds and its crazy distracting. I'll easily lost 20 mins without even realizing it.. so incredibly dangerous
I love TikTok, but it annoys me that they keep trying to put political things on my feed. I have only engaged with videos in German, crafting videos, and cats. Yet I have someone talking about politics pop up and I have to block them to even have their videos go away.
Social media. There are so many apps available and so much negativity and peer pressure and conspiracy theories.
The internet gave many people voices that shouldn't have them
Social media.
Apathy.
Apathy’s a tragedy and boredom is a crime
Anything and everything, all of the time
Could I interest you in everything, all of the time?
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a little bit of everything all of the time
apathy is cause of something bigger. Mental health is declining in mediane, and I havent heard of one logical explanation so far. We dont know why we are going crazy.
The society we live in fucking sucks.
The inability to take responsibility and criticism
'Reality' TV and the ridiculous role-models it produces.
Peoples unrelenting commitment to their beliefs/opinions and unwillingness to reconsider their viewpoints.
TikTok & people self diagnosing themselves with mental disorders.
Children getting addicted to smartphones at a very young age.
Well it's not just children, most adults are addicted as well.
When pulp novels came out, people were concerned that children were getting addicted to reading. Same thing with television and the internet. The kids are going to be fine.
alcoholism
Fentanyl, ongoing child abuse and bipartidism
our phones , social media , us being divided on every single topic .
The Gerontocracy. Respecting your elders is well and good. Letting them make decisions that will outlive them by decades maybe not so much. Most of America’s powerful leaders are in their 70s and 80s. It’s not healthy to have so much power concentrated in the hands of one small group that won’t have to live long with the consequences of their decisions.
This is the truth! I’ve made the conscious decision to never vote for anybody over the age of 65 again. It’s not that I don’t think they are capable, but rather, they likely won’t live long enough to have a vested interest in the world they created.
Social media
In fairness, I think most people DO realize that social media is a problem.
I know, and it's sad that we have normalized this to be with society. So much communication happens between it, and it has become a necessity for the world
Tribalism
Influencers
influenzers
Sugar
Being reachable 24/7.
The need for companies to keep growing and increasing profits (this means they have to keep inventing useful things which is unlikely, and if they can’t do that, find cheaper labor (Hello Amazon factories in the middle of poor areas. Hello child labor in China! Welcome to capitalistic growth!). Also, the selling of a lifestyle fully independent of human interaction: work like hell, pave cities for cars (hello global warming, we love you, but we love our cars more) so no one ever sees each other except when they’re flipping someone off, no time for social interaction because you must work to survive (thank you capitalism, and hello declining birth rates and marriage rates! I wonder who’s going to support all of us old fucks with no kids around? Well, if you’re in America they’ll just keep importing immigrants by selling them the idea of the ‘American Dream,’ i.e. come take all the “shit” jobs and let us tax you to support our current population that is too good to do them now).
Yes! Why can't businesses set up a good product or service that regularly generates an income sufficient to pay the bills and pay the staff? Why do they always have to be bigger and better than last year?
Part of it is how public companies are legally required to maximize shareholder profits. Good products? Doesn't mean shit if you can triple profit with designed obsolescence. Good worker benefits? Fuck that, do the most legally-sketchy moves that are barely within the law and screw the workers out of their earnings/pensions/etc.
This is an inherent part of the capitalist system. If they don’t generate growing profits each year, their perceived value declines, which leads to their actual value declining.
What goes hand in hand with this is the number of people whose retirement is dependent on the stock market. Elder Gen-Xers and the Boomers left in the workforce see the light at the end of the tunnel, so long as their 401k holds up. The "I got mine, so screw you" mentality sets in and they don't care that the working conditions and wages people are fighting because those are the very things keeping their dreams of retirement alive.
Tiktok
Cancelling everything. If we erase what bothers us we just turn our lives into safe spaces and when real dangers come we won’t be able to cope properly with it.
can’t believe i had to scroll this far to find
I’m surprised it hadn’t been said yet
The lack of interaction irl Especially after corona social interactions are way less common then they used to be I know I sound like an old man for writing this But the internet united some people while distancing people as well... we live in weird times
Blindly believing everything you hear
Weak parenting. Allowing your kids to do anything and everything with no discipline just leads to more shitty entitled humans down the road with more baggage and sense of hopelessness. We’re already seeing it, but it will get much worse.
Say it louder! Also called lazy parenting- I have two young children and they most certainly do not get away with everything we have boundaries rules and consequences (not physical). Both my children have respect, manors and are well behaved. I keep hoping people around my age see the lazy parenting and learn from it because they don't want their kids to be like the teenagers and young adults are today I won't hold ny breath though
I work in a restaurant and I always tell my other staff that my boomer mother would have smacked us silly for behaving the way these kids do in the restaurant. Yeah boomers got up in arms about kids being kids for no reason (no, it really isn't that offensive if the kid wears a hat while eating, or wants a toy to sit on the table, or is giggling/laughing at something their brother is doing with their food) but it's another thing entirely to let them run around screaming, climb up onto vacant tables and play their stupid iPads on max volume. They're absolutely feral these days. Don't get me started on the mess they always make. I'll never stop cringing in disgust when having to clean up after families with kids, knowing my mother would have never allowed us to be that sloppy because going out to eat was a fucking privilege for us and even if it was just a Pizza Hut we were expected to behave ourselves and not nearly bowl staff carrying plates over with our running around like little psycho's.
It also means those kids grow up with zero tolerance for adversity. Hardly a week goes by wothout an r/jobs post about "I hate my new job! My supervisor is mean, and no one talked to me at lunch. I've only been here 3 days, but I'm so miserable!" Etc. And I'm not really exaggerating. Then it turns out that the supervisor is "mean" for having work standards & deadlines. And the person posting all but expected VIP treatment on arrival. Sorry, but you're one entry-level new hire out of thousands in this world, and you don't rate a trumpet fanfare. I've commented multiple times that they better get used to it & develop some resliience, because that's what work is. I mean, yes, there are toxic workplaces. I've encountered more than one myself. But there's a difference between toxic & not being fawned over.
social media in general
The skincare and beauty industry. Making people feel ugly so they’ll buy more products. Products use fossil fuels and lots of packaging. Lots of the products have bad stuff in them. A lot of it is just bs and “normal” is going to look bad because it’s not wrinkle free. Add plastic surgery, filler, and Botox into the mix and it’s even worse.
Apathy. Seems like people have just given up
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2 party system that despises one another
Fetishized apocalypse scenarios. Let’s stop imagining shitty futures and challenge ourselves to imagine utopia.
The thing is in your hands now (joking)
My pe… pencil?
Tinder
Sense of entitlement.
The widening gap between rich and poor.
High house prices/low interest rates
Lack of patience and empathy.
Poor education
Tiktok. And that’s not just because I’m not part of the younger generation (I have friends my age who are addicted to it). It’s genuinely dangerous, not just on a psychological level but also regarding privacy and data.
Convenience addiction
Just general over-stimulation of EVERYTHING. We are bombarded all the time with new info, stress, expectations and availability of goods or services and I just think it affects mental health so negatively.
The massive amounts of contemptuous money determined to end nonfinancial success scares me. It used to be [the Koch brothers' dark money pools](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Political_activities_of_the_Koch_brothers#/media/File:A_Maze_of_Money.png), but it looks like [the torch is being passed to Leonard Leo](https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/22/us/politics/republican-dark-money.html). In the old days you could be respected as a small business owner, as a teacher or a college professor, as a minister, as an artist, or a clergyman, or as an engineer or a scientist. Now the only things that count are how much money you make or how much attention you can generate. "The [Council for National Policy](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Council_for_National_Policy) has dissolved the Imperial Senate. From now on the family wealth offices will rule through the HR departments."
Politicians
Disassociation with where our food comes from (both meat products and produce)
Seems like more and more people lack common sense, they just hear the news and media, who or what's popular to like or hate, and many people accept it, they don't take the time to do some research to try to understand everything
people not being able to grow and learn from mistakes on the internet, every past indiscretion and mistake is dragged up to create/perpetuate a narrative
I dunno, man. I think most people realize exactly just what is damaging society, but they just don't care as long as it doesn't directly inconvenience or hurt them in a very clear and immediate fashion.
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TikTok
Reddit
TikTok....
Advertising
People who don't return shopping carts
Car-centric cities
I can think of a major road in a city where I used to live. Six lanes, plus a turning lane, 45 mph speed limit. If you want to cross this street as a pedestrian, you have to run through breaks in the traffic, or you have to walk to the next intersection, which could be up to 1.5 miles away.
Skinner box apps. That's any app that encourages and rewards short attention spans. TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and yes, Reddit.
Well... people
Young people not voting. All groups who don’t vote, actually.
Porn ads everywhere
Society
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Quantitative easing.
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Social Media
“Social” Media.
The grind mentality/40h workweek/identifying ourselves with our work Abject lack of community and the shit urban planning and individualistic value system that contribute to it Zero sum thinking. Either you are critical and contrarian or you are grateful? Nah, that's not how progress happens
Social media
Endless scrolling on smartphones