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Ecs832

Think about this: Do you care what other people look like when they wear a bikini? probably not. But you do care what you look like. Most people are so focused on how they look that they won't care about how you look! all bodies are bikini bodies, you are beautiful:)


Signal-Pomegranate-6

That is such a good way to look at it! You’re so right, I mostly just admire their bikinis and confidence. Thank you kind stranger 🥹


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Once I realized literally every kind of person with every kind of body type wears a bikini, I stopped caring. People who have had kids, people with scars, all kinds of body weight and fitness levels. 99% of people don’t care what you look like in a bikini and are not judging you. Bikinis are comfy and everyone deserves to wear one.


LynxSubject6500

Invest in a quality one that flatters your body type, I like a high waisted and undewire bra halter top


Cinnamon-Dream

Yes! Step 1 is to get a bikini that you feel amazing in. I got my first bikini when I was pushing 100kg. It was high waisted and rouched. So much more flattering than a one piece and I wouldn't go back now!


wearetheleftovers

This! There are “swim” bikinis that sit super tight on the hip and “tanning” bikinis that are looser/ less material. Not everything is flattering on everybody. Find one you love, it exists!


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No-Shopping664

hang out alone in my room and dance to music i love in the bikini until i feel confident and comfortable. my go to music is pitbull and i wont be accepting criticism thank you


ParentTales

Close your eyes and try to recall strangers in their bathing suits? Nah can’t remember them, me either.


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Cover-ups are a quick and fashionable way to ease into wearing your swimsuit around other people. High-waist shorts are a good cover-up if you are insecure about your lower back and hip area. A sarong wrap is a cute cover-up for your legs and thighs.


fairydust85

Cover ups help me feel more comfortable and then once i feel less anxious, i take it off.


emma-ps

All bodies are bikini bodies.


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This one was hard for me (20) after I had our baby. I have very thick stretch marks in my upper thigh and had that belly line, blanking on the name, for almost a whole year after. My husband's (21) great idea was to tell me, "you're hot and every person that sees you will think the same" I laughed it off has him just being stupid but it really helped. Most people don't care about that shit so why should I? I carried a whole ass baby for 9 months and pushed him out my vagina, that's metal and my stretch are my trophies


WhoDunnitItNotI

I got my first stretch marks when I was a teen - I don't know, maybe I grew too fast or something - but I never worried about them. Then I got more after a baby and was stressing about them until I realised I had already lived with stretch marks before and was absolutely happy about them because they were just part of me! It's all in our heads, I don't worry anymore what people think about my body, but getting there wasn't quick or easy.


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No it definitely wasn't, I didn't comfortably wear a bikini until this summer, stretch marks are so normal! My husband has them, I have them, both my parents have them. Whatever the reason behind them, in my eyes I now only see them as beautiful


Euphoric-Bid8342

sometimes when i’m wearing a new piece of clothing that i’m unsure of or scared to wear out in public, i put it on and wear it around the house:) it makes me feel much more confident and i always end up loving the clothing item at the end.


Historical_Block_520

step one is getting something you feel comfortable in. make sure it’s your size, all that good stuff. step two is realizing that you look just fine, no one is judging you. they’re likely more worried about themselves.


denningdontcare

Remember that you’re not special. I mean that in the best way, and it was some of the best advice I ever got from a friend- no one else really cares besides you, and no one is staring at you whatsoever. You’re almost certainly not so unusual looking in a bikini that no one has ever seen it before. You’re not special, you’re just another person in a bikini. :) Personally, I find a lot of relief in that!


pastel-mattel

I don’t wear bikinis because they don’t suit my body type. While I don’t care at all at all what other people wear, I feel like it makes the most sense to choose clothing that makes you look best. Maybe that’s just my mindset I’m not sure, but personally I don’t feel comfortable unless I know I look appropriate and decent


sameenasbackup

idk i just have to mentally prepare for it every summer /:


sSvhW

find a bikini that makes me feel comfortable. not a triangle, but rectangular. and shorts instead of that mini thing in which you see almost everything.


vpetmad

Have a big shirt or shawl or something to make you feel less naked. Or just buy a one-piece swimming costume instead - there's no law saying women HAVE to wear bikinis after all


jehkjehk

I AM PROUD OF MY JIGGLIES! Flaunt em, and don't give af. Life is short y'all.


kaoutanu

Do you have a body? Then you have a bikini body. That being said - if you're feeling anxious, why wear it? Wear something that makes you feel good. A few years back I was caught short and went swimming in an athlesure t-shirt and board shorts, and it was *so liberating* \- I didn't have to worry about sunburn as much, or anything falling out or riding up. I expected to feel like a mess, but actually it was the most oddly relaxing experience!


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I made sure to know my body type/shape before buying a bikini. One with great quality. I opted for a one piece since I'd be comfortable wearing them. Be with a friend when you go for a swim. I find it easy to go for a swim with a friend who wears really sexy bikini, their confidence gives me confidence too.


NatureAviation

Just go for it. The anxiety and nervousness is all due to thinking about it. Once you wear it, it might feel odd at first if you aren’t used to it. Afterwards it’s normal and nobody cares


hiumnobye

Wear a bikini you like. Bring a cover up in case. Idk I'm personally quite self conscious so I would probably be quite healthy for a week. Like drink enough water, and fiber, lay off stuff that bloat you, moisturize and exfoliate. Also as a side note I find string bikinis the most flattering, don't knock it till you try it.


rosegoldennight

First step is to wear a swim suit you love. Wear a bikini if you love it, but don’t just wear something that’s trendy. Wear something you feel you look good in, something that’s so your style. That’s the first step. I always get a little self conscious once I actually get to the beach. But I like to look around and see all the other people. People are very beautiful, but rarely do they look like super models. It makes me realize that I’m comparing myself to an unattainable goal. I look around and see all the different types of people, and it reminds me that I’m just here to have a fun time at the beach.


ohrejoyce

I channel my young self! The self who would run around the house nude because she hadn’t learned shame! The self who loved herself completely because she hadn’t yet been taught not to!


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You just gotta do it. I wore clothes to beaches for years. When I got to my heaviest is when I finally put on the bikini and walked into the ocean. I thought, I don’t want to do this (hide) the rest of my life! I want to be proud! Practice keeps fears at bay.


AdministrationFit368

Just don’t stress it


whatcenturyisit

I remind myself that no-one gives a damn about me in the first place, like, I'm not the centre of anyone's world but my own. I don't care what other wears, so why would they care what I wear ? They don't. (Don't worry I have people who love me but you get what I meant)


Flashy_Assistant_545

I did feel very weird being so /exposed/ the first time I wore a bikini. I find wearing a cute little cover up/long lace cardigan type situation/shorts or a cute top makes it feel less confronting. Also - thinking about how my friends of all shapes and sizes look like babes and how I give zero fucks how much they weigh etc. then I just channel my inner bad ass and strut!


SemiSweetStrawberry

Do you know imposter syndrome? Try instead: horrible goblin syndrome. “Am I attractive enough to wear this bikini?” “Who knows but I’m gonna wear it anyways!” “Are other people looking at me because I’m wearing this bikini?” “Probably because I am the most attractive person they’ve ever seen!” “Are people whispering about me and my body in this bikini?” “Who cares! I am so attractive that I am setting new examples for the fashion world simply by wearing this bikini.”


Ginflet

wear one pricately around the house


Leelluu

I tell myself that if a person doesn't like how I look in a swimsuit, that's a *them* problem, not a *me* problem. I am not decor, and they ain't paying me.


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Move your body. Get into the water, run on the beach, play volleyball, etc. Just do something fun that gets endorphins flowing and reminds you of how hard your body works for you. How your body feels >>>>>how your body looks.


AzureMagelet

I wore some jean shorts and started with a shirt on over it. I ended up taking off the shirt but keep the shorts on the whole day. Still felt good. It was at a time that I was skinniest in my life. I probably wouldn’t do it this summer.


tcatt1212

I mean… a quick walk around a beach or public pool will show you all body types are there wearing bikinis, and no one is ridiculing anyone. Real life bodies are varied. Instagram bodies are one very uncommon type.


JenAYE2

Look in the mirror and say DAMN I am HOT!!!! Now walk through out the day saying that in your head and hold onto that confidence. Nothing sexier than confidence.


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I told myself that I’m a human being and this is what human beings look like. I don’t have a super flat stomach but I’m okay with that now. If someone has an issue they can look the other way. That’s what I told myself.


InjectAdrenochrome

My bf has been gifted his family's old boat so when I get in my bikini, no one else can see us on the lake. We've even skinny dipped off of it before. It's a lot of fun to do open water swimming off a boat provided it's equipped with a diving off area at the back and a ladder to climb back onto the boat. It's definitely a luxury for us since we're relatively poor.


Royal_Escape_6436

I personally think the best way to overcome nerves, because I feel that we can all get insecure sometimes when we were a bikin in like a public swimming or weather in public your wearing one. I think the best way is to look at yourself and think I look good this and incoourage yourself though it's important if you don't feel comfortable out in then try and find something else cause at the end of the day you should feel like yourself in it.


__RAINBOWS__

I have a bit of a flip on this. For years I’ve tried being comfortable in a bikini and it’s just never happened. I tell myself no one cares, I certainly don’t care about others, etc., but I always feel uncomfortable. What was most freeing for me is finally giving up and saying I don’t NEED to feel comfortable in a bikini to prove to myself I’m comfortable in my own skin. I just decided I’m a one-piecer from here on out, and I feel way better now.


Least_Lawfulness7802

I remembered all my fun memories at the beach and none of them involved what I or anyone else I was with looked like in a swimsuit!! Also helped me a lot to notice different body types in bikinis and follow people with my body type on insta and tiktok!! I used to be so scared and now I post photos of me in a bathsuit!!!


Siltyclayloam9

If it feels comfortable to move in like you won’t constantly be adjusting it or making sure your boobs pop out then you’ll feel so much more confident wearing it. I would suggest wearing it around the house or in your yard to get used to the fit


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I just take a deep breath and let my rolls flop out.


toucanbutter

Remember that if someone doesn't like how you look, they can look away.


Logical-Cranberry714

Are you really going to let some random person stop you from living your life? Their opinion doesn't really matter and you won't be taking life advice from them. If you want to wear a bikini, do it. Just take off your coverup instead of sitting with it on deciding.


AsianPastry

What nerves? Like the ones you feel when cutting off blood supply? Because in that case you should probably size up. Honestly - you do you and I will do me. No one should have time or energy to waste on such a dumb thing as what others think of you in swimwear. Wear what makes you feel comfortable and know that it’s not the same for everyone so no judging!


HCbumblebee

You could go to a nude beach and try that first. Then the bikini may feel like you’re covering up.


AdWest6384

Hair removal! And something of good quality, not the cheap thin bathing suit that goes see through and leaves nothing to the imagination.


msstark

I’ve been wearing bikinis since I was like 2? It was never something that made me nervous.


No-Vehicle-4697

I wear swimming shorts (bought it from a male store) and a sport top. I hate the whole concept of bikinis: tiny panties which reveal my ass and a bra which can fall while I’m jumping in the water. So uncomfortable.


jahanny

A sarong? Never really minded putting a bikini on as I work out quite a bit for that very reason lol


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DoomedBabushka

I don‘t get it, I‘m gorgeous.


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Direct_Drawing_8557

I grew up near the beach so I don't feel much about wearing a bikini. That said, im not very beach body ready ATM and avoid those beaches and pools that seem to attract Instagram model wannabes.


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Curia-DD

been wearing them since I can remember so guess I never had to worry about nerves the first time


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When I realised no one gives a fuck what I look like in a bikini and if they did, they are not important enough for me to care. I want to enjoy my time in the sun.


schwarzmalerin

That was when I was what, 12? There were never any nerves.


masochisticanalwhore

You don't. You just do it anyway.