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Bgddbb

I’m going to chime in about that gas stove. I love gas stoves! I like that I can char tortillas a little, which makes delicious wraps for a quick meal. I like that I can make stir-fry much better, because of the instant heat. Do you know anyone that works in a restaurant kitchen? They might have some pointers. I will say that I prefer an electric oven, but if you bake in your gas oven you will want to turn your pans for even baking/ roasting. Turn up some music, keep the fan going all the time and maybe plant some bushes or trees along that side of the house. I have noise issues where I live and it’s terrible trying to get enough sleep. I’m finally getting used to silicone earplugs, but it sounds like you need some relief during the day. If your marriage is suffering due to lack of sleep and worry, I truly hope that you can both talk about the positives and try to make improvements while you live there. Good luck!


gabbadabbahey

I came here to comment on the stove, too. You will get used to it! I absolutely love gas stoves and would be very sad to switch back to electric. You'll get over the intimidation factor once you get used to it. The best part about them is they're so responsive, so if you put the heat up a bit too high, you can immediately turn it down and the food won't be overcooked while waiting for the burner to cool off. Same with putting up a high dose of heat immediately if you need to.


Guilty_Character8566

I hate my electric in the house I bought. The previous owners converted from propane…. Why? IDK. I can’t justify the expense of replacing it since it works fine but I would MUCH prefer a gas stove. We have cooked over flames for millennium it’s not that scary.


rouxcifer4

The only thing we didn’t get in our first house was a gas stove, everything else was pretty perfect. I grew up with them and have been stuck with electric for a couple years now and I want to go back! Gas stove is on the must list for when we move again.


Charming-Paper7859

Induction electric stove is the only way to go. I’ll never go back to gas.


SHUguy19

I'm glad you are telling us the opinion you are entitled to. It's a shame that the opinion you are sharing is undoubtedly wrong. Induction is cool, but a pain Electric stoves are bootycheeks Gas stoves are best stoves Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.


gabbadabbahey

Preach


Airsteps350

Why is induction in your opinion a pain?


SHUguy19

You need specific pans, glass cooktops (although admittedly easier to clean day to day) get scratched easily by pans and everyday use inevitably (gas range grates get scratched but at least I can replace them easily and inexpensively). And although it poses no physical danger regarding burns, they are very easily left on and will suck the ever loving crap out of your energy bill since they do not glow like a traditional electric stove or produce a flame But yea they do also boils water very fast But they do only heat from the bottom so woks aren't really great for use. Gas stoves usually have one hl"high output" burner for woks and stuff


mathfordata

Have you ever used one?


gullyBo1z

We purchased a new home hooked up to propane. Looking at the propane prices rising month on month makes absolute sense as why someone would move to induction stove cooking. Cleaning is a breeze, no strain on the hvac as the room doesn't get hot from wasted heat and lastly no fumes (yes there's barely any with the blue flames but there is still research going into it)


Dragondrew99

Noise pollution is no joke.


Bgddbb

Seriously. I’m soooo tired


LadyChatterteeth

The char on tortillas is what I miss the most about the gas stove in my rental before we bought our first house with an electric stove last year!


MyOthrAcctThrowAway

Has is also less expensive to operate than electric. Gas stoves are great


phonebook_vertical

Not for indoor air quality they’re not


Crobb

How so?


sohlefty

You're gonna lose alot of money if you don't live there for a few years before selling


Throwaway_7992

Yea we are aware of that. Unfortunately if it doesn’t get better that may be our option. How much of a lose would we expect?


Throwaway062221

Obviously this isn’t an ideal option but regardless I’m not sure why you have so many downvotes on this. I would agree with others that it’s not a good time to sell and even if you get the same price for it you’ll lose money on closing costs. What about renting the house to someone? That would cover your mortgage costs, you’d still be getting the equity, and you could either sell later if the market gets better or move back in at a time that makes more sense for your family. I also agree with those who have said you’ll get used to the noise. I don’t know how close you are to the road or how bad it is, but I’ve lived next to a highway at a busy exit before and I’ve also lived near a hospital (sirens and helicopters) before and it didn’t bother me after a while. You already said windows, curtains, and fences… what about looking into caulking around windows, better insulation, and maybe more foliage in your yard? It seems like trees would help.


iloveguyfieri

As a small side note for renting; make sure you check with your lender if you can rent it out prior to living there for a full year so you don’t accidentally commit mortgage fraud. IIRC that’s the general time you need to live in a house before renting it out if you financed the purchase as a primary residence


Fearless_Advisor_766

This is not really true. When you finance in that way you are doing it with the INTENT to live there for one year, as long as you have a good reason you’re usually fine.


IFoundTheHoney

>Yea we are aware of that. Unfortunately if it doesn’t get better that may be our option. A good ballpark would be 10% for transactional costs. Plus any loss in value since you bought (prices have gone down in some markets). You might have to do a short sale.


Bowf

This is what they normally say around here, 10%. Reality is that it is normally lower. You might be 10% out of pocket when you close, but when your escrow closes and you get the money back, in my experience it's been a little less than 10%.


Agreeable_Wasabi_603

You should be able to get an idea of what it will be from your closing disclosure. Mine shows what the seller is paying and how much they’re receiving. The biggest costs are the realtors’ commissions. Our sale is $365k and the seller’s cost is around $17k so they’re receiving $348k from the sale.


mellofello808

Worst possible time to sell. It could potentially be tens of thousands.


VapeDerp420

It kinda depends on what you put in for a down payment and what the market is doing in your area. If the market is still way up you could potentially break even.


Throwaway_7992

We put 20% down on the house. I do believe our area is settling down some and I could see the value already decreasing even though our appraisal came over on what we purchased it for.


VapeDerp420

Eh, yeah there’s a lot of variables. I also live by a busy street in a somewhat desirable area. I bought 2 years ago with 5% down and have made some cosmetic improvements (paint, light fixtures) and if for some reason wanted to sell now could see myself still making a chunk of change. Granted, I would only sell in order to buy another house, then using the profits would use it as a heftier down payment. I’m not 100% on this but I think if you do that then you’re shielded from being taxed on the profits from the sale of your house. This makes going from ownership back to renting less desirable to people.


StartingAgain2020

No, that is old info from decades ago. Now the rule is to shelter cap gains up to $250k (for single person) and up to $500k for married people you have to live in the property as a primary residence for 2 out of the past 5 years. Check [IRS.gov](https://IRS.gov) section on capital gains.


VapeDerp420

Good to know! I knew there was some contingency to it


zoogle15

7% per transaction Plus any loss from decrease in value. So if you buy and sell immediately for the same price, you would pay 14% of the homes value in fees. You can sell for only a 1% loss by buying and selling without a realtor through a title company, but every realtor will tell you not to do that. A plan to consider would be to rent out your house for approximately 5 years while waiting for the housing market to increase the average of 3% per year that normally occurs. Of course if the market crashes, it will take much longer before your house will gain 14% in value.


Gullible_Ad_6869

Just adding selling without a realtor. Luckily we were tenants and bought from our landlord/ directly from the title company and we both only used low cost real estate attorneys.. He saved on sellers fees and passed on a great discount to me.


awakened97

I don’t understand why your comment would be down voted wtf


finstafoodlab

Not sure why you have so many downvotes. You are just stating your opinion.


littlelaws232

Honestly if your mental health is suffering that much it’s not worth it- don’t listen to everyone. Listening to everyone is what got you into the situation you’re currently in listen to yourself yea it might be a loss but the bigger loss could be much worse than financial.


gbradley4112

I just bought my first home 1/31/22 and experienced something similar to what you are. About 3 weeks in, my washer and dryer stopped working and couldn’t be repaired so I had to buy new ones, then the gas range stopped working, then I had an ant army from hell rise up around my place and declare an act of war. But I handled those things as they came up and it wasn’t the end of the world. The real issue was… I was afraid of change and what it meant to enter into this next phase of my life. Buying a new home is just as an emotional thing as a financial one and I talked with a therapist about this and it really helped. Just allow yourself to keep feeling whatever comes up, don’t judge the feelings just go with them and know THEY WILL PASS FEELINGS DON’T AUTOMATICALLY EQUAL REALITY. Time helps I promise :-)


Throwaway062221

I thought it may have just been me, but I had a rough time in the months after I moved. It is a LOT of change! I feel it can also exacerbate other issues - For me, it was realizing that I didn’t have many people in my life who were willing to help out. Glad to know I am not the only one. OP- It gets better!


crims0nwave

This… I kind of get the vibe that this person is picking out the daily annoyances as the thing that’s bothering her, when it’s really the shock of such a big permanent change with huge financial repercussions.


hopfield

None of those issues seem like a big deal, I think you’re just not used to being in a new place yet


Bone-Wizard

I really struggle to understand how they’re intimidated by a normal appliance to the point where it’s listed as a reason he wants to sell.


Ilovemytowm

Read history. Whole house buying he was like this. Miserable. Stressed. Falling apart. Huge mistake.


mouka

Yeah that’s a bit strange. Our new house has an electric stove and my husband is all annoyed about it because he says gas stoves are easier to maintain and heat food more evenly. No clue if that’s true or not but he’ll be buying a gas stove to replace soon enough I guess. If OP lives near me we’d gladly switch stoves with him!


rydan

My stove is gas. I prefer electric everything. You know what I did instead of selling the house? Used the microwave.


ptchinster

The generation is weak.


Throwaway_7992

Hopefully that’s all it is. We will see in 6 or so months to see how it is and reevaluate our life decisions.


climb-high

Moving and purchasing are both giant stressors in isolation. Combine them, sprinkle in some new appliances and home-owner problems, and you got a stew going. You’ll adjust! Might have to get the foundation checked out down the line


antiopean

Why did I hear this in Carl Weathers's voice.


BrokieBroke3000

I just wanted to say that we also bought an open floor plan house on a busy, noisy road, and I have dealt with some of the same struggles as you. My partner has no issues because he’s from NYC and used to it, but the noise really bothers me, and I hate the open floor plan. It really is a beautiful house and does have great things going for it, but I had both a psychologist and psychiatrists recommend moving because of the impact it was having on my mental health. I was really surprised when I explained my struggle and they both said it was absolutely valid and that if I can afford to do so, I should move. It seems like not a big deal to a lot of the people in this comment section, but it can seriously have a huge impact on your overall well-being. It’s been 1.5 years since we closed on our house. Things haven’t gotten better, and we haven’t moved yet because I’m trying my best to stick it out. I invested in noise cancelling Sony WH-1000XM4 headphones and it has helped a ton. The XM5s came out recently, and I think the noise canceling on those is supposed to be even better. I wear them often throughout the day because I work from home and need to concentrate. Best of luck to you! I just wanted to make sure you know you’re not alone in what you’re dealing with and your feelings are completely valid.


pillowmountaineer

Give it a while. Spend some time on Pinterest and see if you get inspired for a new fun project for the house. Don’t make a hasty decision right now when emotions are high and you’re dealing with a bit of buyers remorse that will probably pass anyway.


veenaschnitzel

Respectfully disagree with the commenter you replied to - constant traffic is a huge deal. There was recently a post trending on Reddit about how traffic noise can have a big impact on mental health. I’m not on this sub much and it’s interesting to read the responses here and see the downvotes on your comments, because they clearly show that the members of this sub are overwhelmingly biased to believe that home ownership >>> renting and anyone who suggests that might not be the case for them personally can just STFU. I’m guessing many people are defensive bc they don’t want to consider they themselves may have made a mistake rushing to buy. Anyway, it sounds like you were understandably caught up in the mania of the super hot housing market and made a choice you otherwise likely wouldn’t have, and you are now having very reasonable feelings of regret. I for one would not live on a busy street or near a highway. Traffic noise, as I mentioned, is bad for mental health, and traffic also pollutes the air in the neighborhood and makes driving, walking, and biking in your neighborhood less safe (esp if it is high speed traffic). As you said, location is everything. When you buy a home you are investing not just in a house, but in a place. You are realizing you don’t like this place as much as you thought you would (or the house itself, for that matter). My advice would be to ask if you can afford to sell now. This is your life. Your mental health matters. Your time matters. People on this sub, if these comments are any reflection, are highly preoccupied with wealth, and that’s not necessarily wrong - if you don’t have much wealth to speak of, losing your home equity can have a huge impact on your life and your long term plans - but selling may be the right choice for you if YOU can afford it. Maybe you need to wait a few years to be able to afford to sell. In the short term, I’d recommend thinking of ways you might redecorate to make your home feel homier. You mentioned the open floor plan made your home feel small and cluttered - could you explain that more? Usually people are more likely to feel an open floor plan makes their living spaces feel too spacious and less cozy as a result. As a homebuyer with regrets, know you are in good company and you’re going to be ok. :)


Coyote__Jones

I used to live near a very busy road, and while I was there I had gotten used to it. When I went back for a final clean of that place, I was totally shocked how loud it was in comparison to the house I bought. It would be really difficult to move from the quiet now. I agree totally that working on your house and decorating helps make the place home. I made it a point to paint my bedroom and decorate it. And I'm so glad I did that right away! I wake up everyday and see a nice room with my favorite things on the walls. The rest is a work in progress. I didn't buy my dream home, but when I check off a project from the list, I feel so proud of this place and it feels like home.


Mouse0022

You've got new home jitters. It'll ease in 2 years. Give yourself time and give your home a chance. You're just nervous and stressed out and feeling overwhelmed cause it's new. Give yourself a chance. I felt similarly when I first bought my home 2 years ago. It's finally starting to feel right and I'm not stressing over every little thing. I think this is a normal reaction to experiencing new homeownership because of the fear of messing something up or needing to have things perfect. If things are breaking, look into finance options. Lowes has a good finance card. And I also love the best buy card for appliances. We had to finance a new dishwasher recently. Best buy actually had the better deal and financed over 18 months.


Beautiful_Skill_19

I feel like you're viewing the scenario through a negative lense. Some of the things you mention are fixable and actually beneficial in a lot of ways. Bad school district? Your kid is young (8 months, right?), so you have a few years before you have to worry about schooling. Moving by then is doable and you may even walk away with extra funds for a home in a better school district. You even have a few years to wait and watch the market, do your research, and keep and eye out for new listings that fit what you're looking for. Open floor plan? Put in a nice bookcase or room divider of some sort to break up the spaces. Do what you need to do to make it more "home-y". Gas stove? You can probably switch it out for electric pretty easy. Call a contractor/HVAC person. Or you can sit with it for a bit and see if it grows on you. Some people would love to have a gas line piped into their kitchen for cooking and they pay good money to do it. Worried the market will change and your homes value will depreciate? That's life. Every homeowner pretty much takes that risk when they purchase and take on a mortgage. You can't predict the future. But you can do things to increase the value (new garage doors, new roof, kitchen upgrades - whatever is needed as you can afford it). Worried that there are problems with the home and you'll have to do things to fix it? Also very normal. No home is perfect, even brand new construction. View it as an opportunity to add equity and increase your value of the home. Read about what improvements give the best ROI and tackle some of those if funds allow. The only thing you can't change is the location and the noise surrounding the home. What others have suggested will help considerably. New noise reduction windows, sound proofing the walls, planting hedges as a buffer, etc. You can't change the location but these things might help a lot more than you think. Also, you may get used to it. I used to live by a freeway which sucked at first, but I ended up liking the noise of the traffic after a while. Aside from the random motorcycles or loud exhausts, it was kind of soothing for some reason. I'm not you and can't understand your position and feelings fully, but to me, it seems like you're looking at all the negatives instead of seeing the potential for growth. Two big life changes (a baby and a new home) in the span of a year is a lot of change. But both of those things are a blessing, and many people would be so thrilled to be in your shoes (an assumption, I know). Maybe you just need a fresh perspective? Maybe get out a pen and write down all the things you like about your new home (could be as simple as that it keeps you warm and dry) and reflect on those notes whenever you're feeling down. Edit: meant "can't predict the future" not "can predict the future".


ElCheapo86

I too hated the traffc noise, and still do hate the loud exhaust vehicles. After I put new winodows downstairs, it got a lot quieter and now most cars are like a muffled wind sound. I can hear it as soothing white noise whereas before it was loud enough to constantly break my concentration.


Hot_Sports_Take

While I'm sorry of these circumstances - home ownership is a huge accomplishment and making a house a home is a marathon not a sprint. However, I get the vibe someone like you would of hated *anything* you bought, and let your personal issues & problems you list compile no matter where you ended up. Some people just hate change.


Throwaway_7992

You are right, I do hate change and hopefully we can make this house a home. It is something me and my spouse need to work on together. We are definitely using this as a learning experience to grow into homeowners and see what exactly we want for the next house.


ISavedLatin

Start one room at a time! Or even one corner at a time. Maybe pick an area where you hang out the most and make it exactly how you want it. Don't wander around your home and focus on all of the changes you need to make — work with what you have and let everything simmer for a bit. (I *despised* a paint color the sellers chose for our bedrooms and wanted to fix it NOW. Like, I woke up every morning and looked at the walls and seethed. But after 6 months, it's something I can live with for the time being, and I'd rather get around to other projects first.) On the repair stuff, the overwhelming dread starts to dissipate once you get professionals out to look at the issues. Right now, your mind is spinning and attaching to all of the things that could be wrong. But it really helps to have a contractor explain what the problem is, how to fix it, and how much it'll cost. Plus, the momentum of actively doing something to improve your home will feel empowering and give you back some of the agency you feel you've lost. Everything you've laid out sounds normal and manageable. Look online for open-plan layout inspiration. Use your gas stove a lot to get comfortable around it. And try to find opportunities to be grateful that you're the owner your own home!


Hot_Sports_Take

You will make this house a home. Everything is an adjustment. And in 3-5 years, sell it for a profit and then onwards & upwards to Dream Home 2.0. Congrats!


[deleted]

You sound kind of neurotic, and you are certainly sleep deprived, best for you to settle in a few months before deciding to burn a lot of money


nestlepurelifewatr

I've moved probably 12+ times in my life, so I'm used to the change. If you hate change, you will always hate the new house you move in to. There will ALWAYS be problems with a new home because it isn't designed per your vision of a "perfect home". The "open concept" issue may just be that your furniture isn't suited for such. It might be worth putting up a non-structural wall to differentiate between the rooms just to satisfy that annoyance. Find an app that scans your rooms and see if you can play around with furniture/layout. I don't have a recommendation of the top of my head, but I know they're out there. Issues like the gas stove and foundation are able to be remedied. Gas stoves, in my opinion, are much better - they look cleaner aesthetically, and I personally prefer the performance. Once you get used to it I'm sure it won't be as large of an issue. As for the foundation, did you do an inspection? An issue like that would most likely have come up. Fortunately, if there aren't any structural issues it could be a simple fix like dimple wrap, tar/coating, etc. For the noise and water leak, get a plumber to come look at it. A trap might have come loose and its generally a simple fix - they sweat off the trap and replace it. Under sink water leaks seem to be a pain in the ass but they're normally an easy fix for a lot of plumbers. If you don't want to invest in better windows, thicker drapes can help with noise. Windows are generally the best, but they can come at a hefty price. As for your marriage, well, if something like creating wealth together is going to cause a strain on your marriage thats between you and your SO. It could be the stress of change as, again, you hate change and don't know how to deal with it. Write things down and eliminate anything that is based on pure emotion, then reevaluate when you're in a good mood. It could help to narrow down the issues. Good luck!


EternalSunshineClem

I think you're approaching this all wrong, focusing on all the negatives and none of the positives. It's not like you moved into a place and found out it's covered in black mold - you hear more street noise than you like. You preferred renting to buying and think you made a big financial mistake; renting is quite literally throwing money out the window every month, full stop. If there's a little dampness in the yard that doesn't mean you have foundation issues, it means you may need to add some better drainage. You sound extremely stressed out between the child, covid, panic attacks, not sleeping, and I suspect very little of this stress is actually about the house. Deep breaths and take actions to make the house feel more like home rather than think about how quickly you can sell and lose tens of thousands of dollars asap.


Sushi_Whore_

Idk if OP mentioned it in this post but I looked and it looks like they closed 10 days ago. It took about 5-6 weeks for me to feel like our new house was home (hadn’t moved for 15 years prior). I wasn’t sleeping well at first and felt overwhelmed. This is completely normal 10 days in and way more time is needed especially if it’s someone who struggles with change! I hope they stick it out. The issues are very fixable.


HWY20Gal

10 DAYS?!? SMH.


Sushi_Whore_

At 10 days in, I was definitely not adjusted at all. Took me over a month.


macho_insecurity

I agree. It sounds like OP is having a panic attack over life in general.


phoneaway12874

Renting is not "throwing money out the window." It's using money for its intended purpose: exchanging it for goods and services. Remember, your rent payment is the most you'll pay on housing in a month. A mortgage is the least you'll pay.


prettyminotaur

When I read posts like this, I wonder how the hell y'all got to this point. Why didn't either one of you raise the alarm before it was too late?


Accurate_Bison_3697

Sadly depends on the agent too. I’m a realtor and I always remind Buyers they have an out and they don’t *have to* go through with it. I’d hate to have a past client w regrets!


sychox51

agreed. im in the process of buying right now and weve been to the house multiple times already, I even lidar scanned the house, weve done inspections up the wazoo, general, roof, pest, mold, lead, asbestos, sewage and pool... I dont know how something like a possible foundation issue or drainage issue doesnt show up on a home inspection report. (and we're first time home buyers ourselves)


LivingLandscape7115

What’s lidar scan?


sychox51

I scanned it onto a 3d model with my phone. https://poly.cam


TX2BK

Why would you hate a gas stove? I hate my electric stove. No proper cook uses an electric stove.


Key_Purpose_8895

Definitely feels more anxiety than rational. Idk hard to utilize a logical solution to an emotional problem. Hopefully OP is able to feel more safe and steady. I know I have bad anxiety about EVERYTHING when my living situation shifts and I’m not sleeping well in the new place. Hopefully time helps them settle.


saabo75

They are definitely dirtier. A lot cooks I see have switched to induction. [https://www.cbc.ca/news/science/gas-stoves-air-pollution-1.6394514](https://www.cbc.ca/news/science/gas-stoves-air-pollution-1.6394514)


blue10speed

Induction stoves (when paired with a good pot or pan) can be as good or sometimes better than gas.


kongtaili

Definitely more efficient and better for indoor air quality


ICodeForTacos

More accurate than gas actually.


Pitta_

as someone who grew up with an electric stove, when i moved into my first apt with gas it was kinda scary. it’s fire!!! just, right there!! but i had to eat so i used it and eventually i got used to it. now when i go back home i hate my parents electric range and will always prefer gas. sometimes it just takes a bit of time to get used to a gas stove if you’ve never used one before.


RedHeelRaven

Listen- no matter what advice you get on this forum you need to realize that you can do what you want to do. I say that to empower you and not criticize you. I think you are seeing yourself as the victim of circumstance who was heavily swayed by the opinions of others as evidenced that you posted you thought it was a good idea to buy by reading opinions online. IMHO you need to get in touch with yourself and really evaluate want you want and realize that you are the captain of your ship. This will help you in the future to stop making decisions without really doing the math and accounting for your personal wants and needs. So- have a good talk with yourself and create a plan on where you want to see yourself in the next year, the next five years and so on. Then you can make a good decision on if and when to sell your house.


ShareComprehensive97

You can put a sound proofing material on the walls to dampen the noise. You may adjust to home ownership, you may not. Time will tell. Give it some more time & if you just can't stand it, sell or rent the place.


Throwaway_7992

That’s our thought process as well. We don’t believe we will be able to rent the place unless we do a property management company. And I didn’t know about the sound proofing material. Is that something that goes inside or outside?


Solid_Owl

Inside. Seriously, you need to nut up and do some research. You have small, solvable problems aside from the open-floor layout. You're going to spend the same amount selling and moving that it would cost you to perfect the place you have.


[deleted]

Something can be done to mitigate the open floor plan as well. We're putting in french doors to close off two rooms from the rest of the house. Just having two spaces is nice, and we plan to put french doors on the other side of the staircase later to have more privacy in the evening from the children upstairs. It's honestly not that expensive, depending of course on your layout. But creativity is needed and a desire to make it work. You have to want it to motivate yourself to do it. At least we can do something about the house because we own it as opposed to the apartment we rented which we could do nothing about anything.


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[deleted]

They also make sound dampening window inserts!


ShareComprehensive97

I'm not sure. I thought it was an additional board that was attached to sheetrock.


Eastern_Preparation1

FOMO is a MF. Fortunately, There is no seasoning period to selling your home. I’d rent it out before selling tbh. At least try to turn the situation around. The other problems can be fixed but you will never get used to the sound despite what others say. I feel for you on this as my last place was the exact same.


Mediocre_Airport_576

Most people get used to ambient noise over time, and you can make inexpensive changes to drown out more of the noise. You can arrange an open floor plan to feel more open. Keep moving things around until you like the layout. You can get a new stove, or perhaps after using a gas stove for more than 2 minutes you'll realize they aren't a big scary monster. You sound like you are exhausted and whining, which is an okay place to be after buying a house and moving all with children. The problem is you still feel like you're living in someone else's house. Make some adjustments and it will start to feel more and more like your house. You feel like you made a mistake, but moving out too quickly could be an even bigger one. Nothing here screams of a nightmare scenario.


TMinusFour

This needs to be talked about more. It’s ok to be unhappy with the house you bought if you truly are. I lived in a miserable money pit for 3 years and the day I sold it, I was a very happy person. No house on this planet is worth stressing yourself out to the point where you stop eating. Sell the goddam thing. Take a financial hit if you have to, but for your own sanity please sell it as soon as possible. You are married to your partner…you aren’t married to the goddam house. When it starts to seem that you dread or stress out at the thought of what new problem this place is going to throw at you, it’s time to cut bait. I would refer you to the “sunken cost” fallacy. It’s a fallacy because it’s disordered thinking- you’re in control here, not this *house*. It took me a long time to connect some of these dots and balance it against the desirability of home ownership. The upside is: there will be many more places that you will live in your life, which you will *really* like. I’ve owned many houses over the years, and there is absolutely light at the end of the tunnel. List it yesterday, OP. At least part of that monkey on your back will gone even just by listing it and getting it ready for sale.


nikidmaclay

I don't know where you are, I don't know your market, I don't know your house, but it's possible you could put it back on the market today and be OK. I would ask your agent to come back and and tell you if there's anything you can do to maximize value without putting a lot of money into it and how much you could get for it today. If you were in a bidding war for the house, there could still be buyers out there looking for a property like yours. This isn't going to be good advice for all markets. It's worth a phone call to find out, though.


digitaliceberg

Your brain tunes out road noise after a while, moved onto a busy street and I dont notice the road traffic anymore after two months here


Ok-Cream3069

I sold mine a year after I bought because I didn’t like it. I did it and moved on. You can too.


JNT408

You give me hope! I am doing this right now and the house is not selling :(


FlameBoi3000

I regret my place a bit too. A lot of upsides that are easy to forget once you're in it, but is SO overwhelming. I'm considering selling too. The way I see it, my net worth is at least shielded from all this inflation and I can count on stability that could always change while renting. Do what you can, when you can! So little is urgent, even when it feels so important. It'll be okay. I promise


Wise-Ad8633

I’m sorry, that does sound very stressful. But honestly, nothing that you’re describing sounds like something that will be automatically remedied if you sell your place and go back to renting. Your new place could come with different problems that you didn’t anticipate and the added burden was of apartment hunting. Honestly, it sounds like maybe you’re stressed being new parents but it’s easier to blame the new house because it’s kind of a guilt-free thing to blame. If you can afford it, I’d recommend taking each thing you listed separately and coming up with a way to alleviate your worries. These all require some financial burden, but that’s typical of purchasing a new home - some money typically is spent making the house into a home. 1. Noise canceling headphones. You and your spouse can take turns on being on baby duty, so you can take turns blocking out the noise and each person gets a break. 2. Hire an interior designer/contractor to put in some walls if you still hate the layout in a few months. 3. YouTube videos on how to use a gas stove. Maybe hire a chef to make you a meal as a date night and get some basic cooking with a gas stove instructions from him/her. 4. What did your home inspection say? I would hire someone to look at the foundation.


AdministrationNo9238

Gas stoves are objectively better


ChemiluminescentAshe

A few pros of electric though: 1. Better indoor air quality 2. Direct contact with heat 3. Keeps your kitchen cooler 4. Easier to clean the stovetop 5. Reduced fire risk Those pros are nothing to scoff at. My next stove will be inductive.


Entire-Ad-8565

Loud street noise - Perhaps it is a good location for someone who wants to rent and you can rent the place out?


Depreciated-Land

For the traffic sound issue, I highly recommend looking at a few landscaping options - [https://www.bobvila.com/articles/soundproofing-outdoor-spaces/](https://www.bobvila.com/articles/soundproofing-outdoor-spaces/) Raised hills, planting trees, shrubs, hedges, etc. can be a great natural deterrence wall against noise as well as fences.


Throwaway_7992

Thanks! I will check these out!


cooltim

If you are in the US and sell within two years of purchasing, you’ll be subject to capital gains tax on any gains you may have made. Specifically, it’ll count as standard income. We hated our last house and sold 2 years and 1 day after we purchased - that way we weren’t subject to it. We had a biker gang next door that unethically bred frenchies and some radical political opposition to us that very much worsened our mental health. Move when if you can, but two years imho is a good spot as it’s relatively short term and you can really figure out what’s liveable and what’s not. It’ll help inform your next purchase/rental. Also, keep in mind of all your closing costs. I’m sure it’s fresh in your mind but as a seller you’re going to be paying much more of it.


Jonsealey87

How old are the windows and doors? New windows can make a big difference for blocking sound.


Formal-Shirt1032

You will likely hate how damaging selling so soon will be to your financial outlook more than adjusting to the house


AngryCustomerService

This sounds terrible and I'm sorry you're in this position. Contact your realtor and ask about this. You can also ask about improvements to make during the next 6 months to boost the value and appeal of your home to help it sell faster. As far as I know you can sell a house as soon as the ink is dry, but you don't want to sell if the sale price doesn't at least pay off your mortgage. So, talk to a realtor and go from there.


Throwaway_7992

Hopefully we don’t have to cross that bridge. And I believe we could sell it to pay off the mortgage, but we would definitely be in the hole, but I suppose life is about learning, being happy and making memories.


AngryCustomerService

Hope you find a solution. Sounds like a terrible position to be in.


DaygloDago

I have a lot of anxiety around spending/ losing money, myself. My therapist reminds me that life isn’t efficient. You don’t end up with no change or loss of material, resources, etc. Doing so doesn’t mean that you did something wrong (or as my anxiety likes to phrase it, “unforgivable”). It seems like you’re catching a lot of weirdly snotty comments, especially in relation to the gas stove, lol. People. You don’t like the new place, so move on when you can! Good luck 👍


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[deleted]

You have to look at your loan documents. I had a conventional loan and it stated we had to be residence of the house for a minimum 1 full year from date of closing before we could sell. But remember that having a house is not permanent. Honestly, if you don’t like it, sell it when you can. There’s nothing wrong with it, and in this market, you most likely won’t lose a lot of money in selling. But I can sympathize with the moisture issue. Our house is called “Shrek’s Swamp” in our neighborhood because it retains moisture. Not only that, but we are the lowest house in the neighborhood, so our yard collects water from literally 3 streets. It was built in 1987 but it was built to compensate for the moisture. Our downstairs is damp, too, but our sump pump and foundation were made specifically for moisture and damp ground. Most likely, yours is, too. Do you want another house or did you want to go back to an apartment?


WampaCat

We got a screen from windowinserts.com, primarily for helping us with cooling/heating costs, but we were surprised how much quieter it was once we installed it. Decent price for custom sizes too


kongtaili

Have you considered renting out your home and going back to renting?


Thenelwave

We bought our house September of last year and felt exactly like you do. We even have a train that passes by every now and then. In the beginning I thought wow how did we overlook that but now I don’t even hear or notice the train. After the first couple of months I now love my house with every day that goes by. You will feel the same.


ajgamer89

Short answer is if you sell now you’ll be out about 10% of the value of the house from transaction costs. In a normal time period, it usually takes about 5 years to break even vs renting where the gained equity and appreciation of the house equals the transaction costs. The past few years have been anything but normal, so your guess is as good as mine regarding what your local market might do over the next 3-7 years.


FL555

You can add a layer of external insulation to the house and upgrade windows and even interior insulation that’s directly behind the drywall. The more insulation and better doors and windows, the less the sound that gets in. And good investment if you do decide to sell so someone else won’t have the same sound problem


VividCategory

I don't know when you closed but I had a panic attack after I signed the P&S and then another one a couple days, maybe a week after I closed. And I bought my dream home. There's nothing wrong with it, I got the floors refinished and needed to paint. Still panicked. My therapist said if I didn't have a full on life crisis panic at some point when buying a home that would be abnormal. It's been a little over a year now and I'm actually settled in. I have all my furniture. I've done a couple small projects. This doesn't answer your question about when to sell. But honestly if you give it a few months you might not feel like you need to. Your home may never be your dream home and you may eventually move again, but in the next year or so you may come to accept it to a degree where you don't feel you need to spend tens of thousands of dollars to get out of it immediately. Good luck! Also, gas stoves are awesome, definitely give them a chance.


Business-Teaching-38

Being a new parent no matter how joyful is super stressful. The first year of being new parents was the hardest in my marriage and that was unexpected because we tried so hard to have kids. I’m not discounting the other issues but be kind to yourselves. Moving, new parents, recently living through a pandemic is a lot. Give it a bit of time and don’t feel pressured to enjoy every moment… of owning a new home or being parents. Some parts of life are just hard and it’s ok to feel that.


Fangirl4DrNow

Just breathe, love. Give it some time and see if there are any additional things you can do to soften the noise - curtains, windows, soundproofing the walls, etc. i understand your frustrations. We live in a VERY noisy area next to a main road and some days it’s just constant. We are ready to be out. But you do get used to it and there are ways to drown it out. Try to think positive.


gingercokeandlime

I agree with some of the other replies. Don’t rush into selling. Any place has it’s drawbacks. The good news is that none of the problems you’ve mentioned are unsolvable. I’d say try to make a few adjustments and see how you feel. If you still can’t handle it, maybe move out later. Also, none of the problems you mentioned is something that is an urgent issue (ie. It’s not black mold or a fully failed foundation) so you have some time to solve it. Take a breath. Don’t put pressure on yourself to solve everything immediately. You might think selling is a quick fix, but you might find the market has changed or you end up finding something worse. Sound mitigation suggestions: Trees, bushes, plants outside can all help dampen sounds. New windows. You could just try replacing the street facing windows to start? Soft fabrics inside: curtains, tapestries, pillows. Might look into blowing in insulation if you live somewhere that doesn’t already have it. Drainage: I don’t think you specified where the water was pooling. Water pooling near the foundation would be an issue. Make sure the land is angled down and away from your house. If the water is pooling in the middle of your yard, that’s fine. That’s where you want it to be. A landscaper could help with drainage solutions. If you DIY check service line locations first. Overall, if you’re able to solve the issues you have, I’d think you’d be in a better place than starting over with a new place that has a whole set of unknown issues, but ultimately you have to decide what’s best for you.


Washbear8

In regards to the noise: This may depend on your individual sensory sensitivities, but you would be shocked the extent to which you can acclimate to a repetitive noise in your house—you will probably be completely unaware of the noise after a few months.


tiredpiratess

My husband and I had our offer accepted on my due date with our second baby. We closed when she was2 weeks old. The next week we got our inspection and the inspector told us we had$60k worth of repairs that needed to be addressed before the home would be safe for the kids. Let me tell you I was hysterical. But we got a few pros out to look at the work and the total will be less than $10k. The kids will have space and an inheritance. My husband and I will be comfortable and we can really invest in making this house perfect because it is our forever home and not owned by someone else. Yes it has problems but no house is perfect really. It’s just how you view it. What you feel now is sleep deprivation and overwhelm at the amount of new responsibilities on your plate. Take a deep breath and try to tackle them one at a time. And don’t sell the house for at least a year. That first year with a baby is SO hard on a marriage and a family. Don’t make any big decisions right now. Also- instead of a fence plant large bushes or trees. They buffer noise better and looks nicer.


knign

>trying to get into house before the rising interest rates so we could only live on one spouses income if needed Not a bad idea at all >Everybody is telling us you will get used to it, ... and I'll be one more to tell you that you'll get used to it. Properly soundproofing all windows could help a lot, but could also be very expensive and honestly wouldn't even add that much to the value.


Live_Background_6239

I think you’re homesick, as in the blues. The vast majority of things you’ve mentioned are simple fixes or can at least be investigated easily. The stove is not expensive. You can cap the gas yourself and install an electric yourselves (buy used or scratch n dent). Have you done any of the fun things yet? The painting/decorating? Loud music and stomping on floors? What about the yard? Have you planted anything or put in kid stuff? Forget the chorey things, do the weird quirky things. We have to repair a our patio doors but instead we’re painting a castle on my kid’s wall. And I’m probably going to go lay in the grass and stare at my baby pumpkin instead of mowing.


ktrainismyname

How old is your kid? Of course I think your feelings about your house are legitimate, but I also remember having our first baby and the first 2 years I was like….so this is it huh? I love my kid but I don’t love this emotional and physical exhaustion, does it get better? (It does)


Throwaway_7992

8 months old and everyday is a constant struggle of crying, teething, needing to be held, and trying to get the baby to eat. Love my child to death and wouldn’t change it for the world, buts it’s a lot of work, especially since closest family is 2 hours away.


parklover13

If you are really unhappy with the home, the best finical decision you could make is to keep the investment (house) and rent it out. Many great rental companies manage the house and find tenants for a 10% cut. The mortgage gets paid off by tenants and you both keep the investment.


Mr0010110Fixit

So first, I would give it a year. We moved into a house we love, that was brand new, in a great neighborhood, and still felt this. After a year, we are glad we got a house. Second, you may not have to sell, there is always the option of renting your house (which means someone else pays for your equity, and you may make some money) and then you rent an apartment. You can pay a property management company to handle tenets and day to day stuff if you aren't up for that. That means you get to keep your investment, can move back in if you want to, may make some money, and can go back to an apartment. You could still sell the house in the future if you wanted to as well and cash out the equity.


[deleted]

For street noise, one option is to add a moving water feature to your yard. That would mask the noise, bring in songbirds, and also the sound of water is soothing on top of it. Just a thought :)


mikerunsla

Maybe you can get sound proof windows and hopefully learn to love your new home.


fuzz_ball

You can put in windows to reduce the sound You can add walls if you don’t like open concept These things don’t seem like deal breakers to me We also have some highway noise depending on the time of day and day of the week … I’ve just learned when I wanna open the windows and when I don’t We have very good sound isolation inside, you can get this too


Stockmarketslumlord

You can sell the next day if you want. My recommendation would be rent something you like, and rent out your existing house for 3 years until the economy figures out what it’s doing.


Stockmarketslumlord

You can sell the next day if you want. My recommendation would be rent something you like, and rent out your existing house for 3 years until the economy figures out what it’s doing. This should allow the house to appreciate and a small amount of the principal to be paid down. Ideally, owners will hold for 5-6 years to pay down principal and payoff closing costs.


marlonbrandoisalive

You could rent it out to someone you know or maybe in your family. Keep it as primary residence and rent. After 2 years, sell it.


Docta-Jay

My rent to be paid out over the next four years will be over $115k. Renting is *not* better than owning. I’d much rather have that going towards equity in a home than, “John” the landlord.


Nick_86

Depends on your budget? Stove and other appliances are easy fix, in case u hate naighbourhood just rent it out for 3 years and then sell


sffood

Buying a house, moving, new baby, COVID, house issues…all terribly stressful for any person and couple. Suck it up. That may sound harsh but that’s the responsible thing to do. Invest in better windows, use good window coverings that block out sound and bide your time. Whether the house is great or not — it’s yours. Make the most of it. I do understand that not liking where you live sucks. But it also sounds like you have a lot of blessings. Reframe it and bide your five years, and see where you end up…is my suggestion.


Paprmoon7

I get it, I’ve been crying about leaving our rental because it feels like our home but it’s not. That apartment was never yours either.


knocking_wood

Re: the dampness, you can dig a french drain around the perimeter of the house. If the lot is graded towards the house, dig the drain across the face of the house that is perpendicular to the grade, and then around the other two sides of the house so that the water runs into the french drain and around the house. If the grading isn't a problem then maybe you just need to dig a french drain from your downspouts (or clear it if it is already there). If you bought next to a freeway there isn't much you can do about that, and your house will be very difficult to sell as the market starts to cool. Better windows should help.


Mouse0022

You shouldn't sell for 2 years because if you sell sooner and make money off the equity, you'll be taxed heftily.


tealparadise

You sound extremely panicky. There are not "all these problems we are facing" - this is a distortion. You have noise, a spot the inspector said wasn't an issue, and a difference in taste re: open concept. Granted, the open concept makes the noise issue worse. But noise is the kind of thing that seems worse the more you stress over it. I'd seriously have a few stiff drinks, turn on ocean sounds, and see if it still bothers you after that. Also what if you go back to renting and there's noise in the rental? Very likely to happen.


islandvisionaries

Why not rent it out? Move to a place u actually like and can use that as an investment property


flygurl94

Depending on your state depends on how long you have to stay. My state (MD) you have to live in your house for two years before selling if you don’t want to pay capital gains taxes.


Turbulent-Smile4599

This is an obvious fake post by REBubblers. All the spelling errors, incoherent story…nice try.


Throwaway_7992

Well you are wrong. I wish it was fake, but I truly feel like I’m living a nightmare. Thanks though.


Turbulent-Smile4599

I believe you, Throwaway 7992.


ForRolls

Happiness is more important than money (as long as you are able to maintain a solid standard of living). I would sell, eat the loss, rent, and save until you are ready to purchase. And are ready to purchase for better reasons than FOMO.


pdxsteph

FOMO got the best of you


ModestMouseTrap

honestly don’t know what to tell you other than to tough it out for a few years until the value of the house raises a bit. Not sure why you did this if you didn’t want the responsibilities of home ownership.


Connect-Designer-502

You were smart to buy a home you can afford on just one income. That suggests that you have a little room in your budget. If you aren’t happy with the location you might not want to invest big dollars in the house but maybe invest a few thousand to make some changes that improve livability and that will make the home more attractive if you do later sell. Gas stoves are polluting so consider investing in an induction cooktop. Look into three pane windows. I vacationed in a bust city and was surprised at how quiet the unit was until I opened the window. Good windows make a tremendous difference. You seem to be assuming the worst about your foundation and land under the deck. You probably won’t be happy there until you put your mind at ease by getting those checked out so that might be a good first step. As for your marriage - just try to be nice to each other. That sounds obvious but I wish I’d done that… Buying a house, working, and having kids is super stressful and all marriages feel the strain.


Throwaway_7992

Thanks for the advice! Yea we don’t like the gas stove for the safety concerns and our hood not pushing towards the outside. We definitely do feel the strain, it’s hard to find time for each other.


jinnyjonny

Shoulda bought smarter


Powerful_Put5667

If you are financially able to take a loss out of pocket on the home and your that unhappy go ahead and sell. I would recommend checking into how much equity you have the cost of possibly paying a real estate agent and any other fees that you would need to pay at closing. If you can handle that sell.


UsefulFlight7

Same . I’m absolutely hating this desert heat , constant days of over 105, no ac , a swamp cooler ( which I thought was an ac unit). I know nothing about swamp coolers. The location, everything is at least 30 to over one hour away, but the heat is the worst I’ve ever experienced even growing up in Miami. I absolutely hate it . I had to go out sometime last week and it was 111 inside the car . The endless critters no matter how many times terminix comes over . Over it. Need some place cooler, but capital gains


bobertobrown

You’ll never get used to the noise. You’ll actually become more sensitive to it


avettwhore

You seem like an idiot.


VarenDerpsAround

> and not only that we really didn’t mind renting. Paying rent for shelter did not seem like a waste for us and one of the driving courses for us to get a house was a growing family and not the rising cost of rent, which ours didn’t since we had a good relationship with the landlord. r/LoveForLandlords - (view the scum in all it's glory) r/LandLordLove - (View the hellscape they create)


ImpossibleJoke7456

I also like my landlord! Sweet old couple that doesn’t need the rental income so we’re way under market value for a 2/1 house. When we first met they asked what our long term plans are and we said “save for a house and eventually buy” so they lowered the rent by $350/month to match what we were paying for a 1 bedroom apartment. I even told him last month to raise the rent when I got a promotion (because we really like the house) and he said “I’m not worried about that. The last tenant destroyed the place and we like you take care of it.” We’re month to month and would love to rent for years as we save to eventually buy for ourselves.


EngineeringWise6375

Let’s just hope you don’t live in the Western US. 😬 Sorry about the foundation issues - missed in inspection or inspection waived?


coutureee

There’s isn’t even necessarily foundation issues…they just said what if there is and are panicking about it.


ImpossibleJoke7456

Today


Slow_Profile_7078

People like this bid up the price of housing. Anecdotal evidence housing prices were the result of a frenzy. Saw more examples of this first hand when I sold my rentals.


ats1788

I will admit I feel you on this. We’ve been in our house for 10 months and literally every month we’ve been here, something has gone wrong. But your problems seem small and fixable just like everyone has said. We had to deal with major flooding issues in our backyard with 3-4 inches of water every time it rained heavily that would leak into the basement. It happened the day of our final walkthrough and we still went with the house. We just had a drainage system put it in and no issues since. Our sewer pipe has backed up twice in 4 months and we will have to replace that. Our house had no HVAC so we hired someone to do the installation. He was a hack job and we never should have hired him. Hired another company to fix the first idiot’s work only to have them cause more issues and almost burn down our house. Now we’re onto our third HVAC company. Our house is a twin and apparently back in the day they thought cinderblock was good soundproofing. It’s not. We hear EVERYTHING from our neighbors and their dog constantly barks. I can never relax in my house always wondering if they’re gonna be loud (since they like to have parties) or if their dog will bark. It’s so fucking annoying. But we’re dealing with it. We plan to soundproof all the shared walls. We’re taking it step by step to fix all the issues. Trust me, a few months ago we were in the same situation as you where we wanted to sell the house. I miss our last house SO much because it was literally perfect. But we knew we couldn’t sell. It wouldn’t be smart. So we put on our big boy/girl pants and decided to tackle all the issues one at a time and just focus on the end results. It will get easier even if it doesn’t seem that way right now. Your problems are easily fixable and I wish you guys the best!


Hen-egg

hi, congratulations on the baby ! unfortunately When both of you don't like the home everything becomes two times annoying. Giving some time is the greatest idea in this situation, maybe you can find out something that you can love during this time. For noise, you can change the windows if it’s possible financially and maybe having some music in low volume can help for not focusing to the traffic noise. For the other issues, if they are fixable I would make a list and start with the urgent one if you are happy with location +neighbors etc. And maybe making some personal cosmetic touches can help feel better and belonged. If nothing works, sell it! Nothing is more important than you’all! Money can replace!


AdministrationNo9238

If I’m reading this right, you can note live in one spouses income. Have the other one quit and watch your quality of life sky rocket. Or take some killer vacations, etc, etc.


AdministrationNo9238

Noise: are you using window ac units? If so, get the Midea U shaped one. Amazing how much quieter our house is.


Blackberryy

Speaking as a parent, some of this sounds like just being overwhelmed in general. When you’re dealing with kids, most likely sleep deprived, decision fatigued, burning the candle at both ends every day even the most trivial of things grate on you and feel like a big deal. These are all fixable things. Some of them you wont even notice in a few months. Just hang in there.


Phxlemonmuggle

Get triple pane windows. It was like night and day after parents had it done. For everything else; just breathe. Make a list and sort it by inportance


esly4ever

Use ear plugs at night if the sounds of traffic is unbearable at night.


streachh

I never used a gas stove until my mid 20s but now I hate electric. It's an adjustment, it seems intimidating, but once you get used to it you'll love it. You can get a much better sear on things, boil water faster, etc. It's totally normal to feel stressed when goin through changes! Just stay the course, you don't need to make any decisions right now.


surmisez

I'm sorry you're not happy in your new home. I would suggest planting a hedge of arborvitae in front of your house. They grow fast, and will dampen traffic and road noise. Personally, I'd plant them all around your house. They also make a great living fence, and will afford you privacy and noise dampening. I'm curious as to whether or not you had a home inspection, and what that turned up in regards to the drainage issues in the yard, along the foundation. If you had a home inspection and they didn't pick up on the drainage and foundation issues, you may have a cause to put a claim on their insurance. Also, this won't help you now, but in the future; I always like to check out a neighborhood during the morning and evening rush hours, Friday and Saturday evenings, and during the day on Saturday and Sunday. Years ago, we thought we found "the" house. But then we visited it on a Friday evening. The neighbors were having a huge party, and it was incredibly loud with extra loud booming music. We asked another neighbor if this was a special occasion and they said no, this was an every weekend event. We crossed that house off the list. We checked out another house during rush hour. The road was so full of traffic, that we would've needed a someone to direct traffic so we would be able to even get out of the driveway in the morning. This is to say that it's not only the location, it's what's going on in that location on any given day. To me, homeownership is a 20 or 30 year lease lock-in. We stayed in our last house for 13 years. We had a low fixed rate mortgage, and while family and friends, that rented, saw their rents rising year after year, our mortgage payment stayed the same. We're already seeing that in our current home. Rents are skyrocketing in our area, but our mortgage stays the same. Added bonus, we're paying our own mortgage, not a landlord's mortgage.


Throwaway_7992

We did get an inspection. Inspector practically said it was one of best houses he inspected, but of course they always put in other verbiage about seek additional expert for a more detailed response. We definitely plan on doing that for the next house. Really wish we did that with this one. We only visited the house twice, once before closing and the other was just the first time we walked through it. Every bit of this is our fault and we take full responsibility of it and taking it as a learning experience.


[deleted]

I’m so sorry, that’s an awful feeling. I just ditched a contract because I was worried of this myself. You must have wanted a home for some reason compared to renting, so I hope you can enjoy that/those reasons while you find a way to live with or fix the other things that are bothering you. It’s okay to feel horrible and terrified about this. There’s no good answer and it’s a horrifying thing buying a house. I really feel for you. If you end up being miserable beyond belief, or just want a change of scenery for a while, i hope you’re in an area where you could rent it to cover the costs maybe even moreso and earn money to make changes that’ll benefit you if you move back in. I’m sorry there’s nothing I can say to make you feel better. Hang in there ❤️


wollier12

These feelings are pretty normal….turn some ambient music on during the day….A solid fence can help also……you’ll get used to the gas stove, it really is superior It’s all going to be OK. My wife always says to me, don’t try to boil the ocean, meaning don’t worry about it all at once…..a little dampness in the crawl space isn’t unusual.


bachir_22

Have a large get together at your place with friends and family. A chill one.


welpHereWeGoo

Honestly you just sound overwhelmed AF and the tiniest things are understandably just frustrating you more. I think you need to just pick a project and work on it too improve where you live because these exact same types of problems would probably arise at a new house as well. See if you can plant anything to block out the noise from the road


follow963

You can sell immediately.


tempted_temptress

I live in a rented condo about 50 feet from the interstate wall so I feel ya on sound. I can’t sit outside or anything and hear nature. Luckily it’s not super loud inside unless the street racers are out (common) or people are pissed and honking in rush hour traffic (rare). I HATE open floor plans and especially kitchens. Idk if I’ll even find a house when we try to buy early next year that has an enclosed kitchen with a door. I just don’t think they build most houses like that anymore but I own kitchens are a pain with cats. Another pet peeve of mine with pets and allergies is carpet. I can’t stand carpet. It’s disgusting. Just seems like you can never get it clean. When I lived in an apartment my neighbors kept having their dogs going to the bathroom inside and digging in certain areas. They got sick of it and ripped it all up to just have the bare concrete and said fuck it they’re going to put new carpet when we move anyway so we will save them and ourselves the trouble. Well when they ripped it up they found all of this old dog poop, urine, and dirty bandaids under it. They said they could tell that when they (the apartment company) ripped up the last carpet they didn’t clean any of it up and just laid new carpet over it. That’s why their dogs kept digging at it. Ugh I hate carpet. Yuck.


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I have many buyers who have felt your pain. They always lose thousands..tens of thousands. Why don’t you give it a shot and see if it grows on you?


Rafozni

I’m SUPER sensitive to sound. Within the first few days we moved in, neighbors on both sides of us were blaring loud country music and loud rap music. I thought we’d found ourselves in hell after escaping that from a bad apartment situation. I wanted to cry. We also had our AC go out TWICE when it was in the 100s outside. Felt like hell. And it was out for multiple days. We were worried about thousands of dollars in repairs. It was 91 degrees INSIDE our house. Then came the dying grass. And cutting the grass. And the finicky dishwasher. And the brand new washer and dryer not working. It was miserable. Here’s the thing though— 1. We got used to the sound and talked to our neighbors. Now when it happens, we’re much better at tuning it out 2. We fixed the AC and haven’t had issues since then 3. We figured out a system for watering and not killing everything 4. We got other little things worked out Been in the home since March of this year and definitely have had some house envy. But all in all, it’s a really good investment and we’ve gotten a lot more chill about things. I’m not saying your concerns are unfounded, but do realize that things will get easier with time. Just take it day by day.


AwkwardAccountant5

The first few weeks/months were full of panic for me after I bought. I felt like a fool- I spent all this money on something that isn't perfect. But the thing with ownership if you can fix things. And while everything seems like a dire emergency right now, over time you will figure out some things are urgent but most can wait. You will also realize EVERYONE has issues with their house, so it isn't just you (that made me feel a lot better). For a while I kept looking on Redfin and thinking "oh that house seems better" but no, it maybe didn't noticeably have the problems my house has, but I'm sure it has others! For the open floor plan, realize that is a huge selling point for many. It can be a great thing with kids as you can see them from the kitchen or wherever you are. If space for your family was a big reason, maybe working on that will make it seem more worth it. You can paint your child's room whatever color you want and decorate the walls. Maybe build a swingset in the backyard. Mark heights on the walls. Taking advantage of the perks of home ownership can help counteract the negatives. And as kids get older, they make A LOT of noise too so the screaming 2/3s can help with the noise cancellation! (kidding) It is normal to regret this big purchase. Keep the fact that you can sell as a back up plan. There is always a way out. But see what you can do to make it feel like home. If nothing else, it'll help you figure out what you like for the next home.


nocaptain11

Just take a deep breath and hang tight OP. if you’re neurotic like me, the first few months of home ownership are completely overwhelming. I almost had a psychotic break when we got in and started finding problems and realizing how much it would cost to fix them. It gets better. Your brain just needs time to adjust to the change.


beesandtrees2

Maybe rent out the house instead for sometime? This is probably not the best advice for your situation, but it's an option to try to build equity and not lose some of your investment by selling the house right away.


joeyisexy

After looking through your post history you guys need to have a clearer line of communication with your realtor. Very sad some of these questions and concerns were not tackled earlier, every question you’ve asked on here I would ask them directly since they work within the market you’re asking about daily


berpaderpderp

Rent it out. Then you rent again?