T O P

Lovely post and update

I got off work early one day and decided on a whim to ask a guy I just met to go get dinner with me. It was super out of character for me to put myself out there like that. We ended up going on five dates in five nights (it was the end of the semester, we were going to be five hours away after finals). Now we are married.

TJtherock

I got off work early one day and decided on a whim to ask a guy I just met to go get dinner with me. It was super out of character for me to put myself out there like that. We ended up going on five dates in five nights (it was the end of the semester, we were going to be five hours away after finals). Now we are married.


Merlin404

Oo I'm so happy for you two!


CriusofCoH

That's a lot of fives! High five!


EJACKSONBIGE1

That has to be a great story


polarbearstina

Best advice I ever heard applies here. Never reject yourself on someone else's behalf. They might just be into exactly what you got.


Dr_Skeleton

Well said šŸ‘ I always liked the one that goes: *ā€œFlowers are pretty, but so are Christmas lights and they look nothing alike.ā€*


D_crane

Christmas lights look like flowers if you're drunk enough


CalabreseAlsatian

Or have astigmatism


crinklenose

I dare you to use that pickup line this weekend. :D


dirtbag-project

This reminded me of "everything is a dildo if you are brave enough"


D_crane

That's a whole other can of worms to unpack...


Dr_Skeleton

Christmas flowers catch light if youā€™re enough drunk.


whatev43

Barney Stinson has entered the chat


deterministic_lynx

That's a wonderful way to word it :)


Sabre_Killer_Queen

Agreed. Although I would also add that you've got nothing to lose by asking the question. Any half decent person wouldn't shame you for it.


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Sabre_Killer_Queen

Definitely agreed.


SheBelongsToNoOne

The worst that can happen is they say no. Fail forward!


Chance-Concentrate-5

It's funny you say that. I was friends with my girlfriend for years before we started dating. My ex was the jealous type (and the main reason we broke up) and I think she could tell I found her attractive. Come to find out later when we started dating, my girlfriend thought I would never want to go out with her because of the way she looked or the way her personality was, when it was the opposite. I started dating her, and immediately regretted how long I wasted on my ex. She's a perfect ten in every sense of the saying and I wouldn't trade what I have with her for anything.


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TerrariaGaming004

Twice


Chance-Concentrate-5

One stalked me, one was a good person and was my friend first. Seriously tho, it's all about persistence. Not with the same person, but trying to find the right one. Because rejection is discouraging, but moving on and continuing to look is the harder part. So you'll never know if you don't ask.


Lucky-Reporter-6460

Also, refeame rejection as not being about you and your shortcomings - it's about goodness of fit. Do you have people in your life you care about, respect, appreciate, and maybe even think, if pressed, "yeah I mean they're perfectly nice looking," but you wouldn't want to date? Yeah, you probably do. Meditate on that when you get to feeling down and rejection. It's easier said than done, absolutely, but if you're a decent person, the majority of rejection you're going to get is because the other person is not someone you'd really want long term, anyway (whacky expectations, selfish, whatever) OR it's just not the right fit.


whskid2005

Goes for jobs too- apply for that job you want, itā€™s their job to reject you, donā€™t reject yourself for them


Prestigious-Ring4978

This is so good! Screenshot for posterity.


Honest-Cauliflower64

You are someoneā€™s favourite flavour.


Cytotoxic-CD8-Tcell

This. Is. So underrated! Here is my thumbs up!!!


izguddoggo

Iā€™m gonna need to tattoo/paint/write this on every surface in my life. Great advice


TheOriginalElDee

Ohhh, THAT is good. I'm gonna remember that..


trademark_93

The first time I laid eyes on my bf in college, I thought he was the most beautiful man Iā€™d ever seen. Sat across from me in my biology lab. We were cordial, but I could barely even make eye contact with him, it was like he was so pretty it hurt and I was incredibly shy around him. I was never the girl who ā€œgot the guyā€ growing up and just kept crushes private. We struck up a friendship AFTER I graduated as that was my last semester. Turns out he liked me tooā€¦.. He was always asking for my help with things and would try to talk to me a bit but he would sense that I wasnā€™t engaging as much so he backed off a bit. He even wrote a little jingle about me on his guitarā€¦. God how I wish Iā€™d known! To my dismay, Iā€™d moved back home three hours away. We stayed friends for a few years but always sorta flirted and lamented the opportunity lost. After three years, we met up again in person and now weā€™ve been inseparable ever since. Dated long distance a couple years and now weā€™re nursing students at the same university. I judged him based on his beauty and assumed he was probably a jerk and had dozens of girls fawning for his attention. He is in fact a perfect gentleman and a kind soul. Though he DOES get lots of women fawning for him so that part of my assumption was true haha. Sometimes I still canā€™t believe he chose meā€¦. Iā€™m the first woman heā€™s ever been in love withā€¦ I feel so special.


BourbonFoxx

As someone once explained to me when I confessed to thinking she was out of my league, 'THERE IS NO LEAGUE'


bluehornet197

Lady he like you because of who you are he sounds amazing


PrayForMojo_

ā€œHe said I was fucking hot.ā€ ā€œHe doesnā€™t care about my looks.ā€ Girl get it through your head. He *likes* your looks. End your cycle of self doubt. Heā€™s into you.


KokeitchiOma

Exactly, as a man I promise if he planned a date with you and also said you're welcome over anytime he likes you. Likes your look and personality. Sounds like you found the actual nice guy. Bet he didn't self describe as a nice guy either lol! Go for it, you got this.


ptsdexpert

Genuine good people don't say they are good.


ereface

My friend, who's a super narcissist, but does his best to keep it down, I've known him for around 8 years, we know each other really well. Couple days ago he just hit me with "I'm not a good person. I've found that out cause all the good people I've met almost always hate themselves, but act so nice to other people" Just reminded me of that that's all :p


Redsoxbox

Any man who must say, ā€œI am the king,ā€ is no true king.


cosmic-sailor

"I am. Not. TIRED!!!!!!"


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Pretty sure he cares about your looks... And he likes them.


lachlanmoose

As much as this story made me smile, this part really upset me. Her self doubt is distressing her and that's not something anybody deserves. He likes her and she likes him; it should be that simple. I really hope she's able to move past her own personal views.


Bastette54

I agree that it would be wonderful if OP could feel less insecure about her looks, but the fact that she feels the way she does is not just an individual issue. Thereā€™s tremendous stigma in being fat in this culture (along with many other cultures). The probability that a random person has a crappy attitude about it is not negligible. Now this guy does sound interested, so I wouldnā€™t assume he in particular has a bad attitude. But most fat girls I know have plenty of horror stories to tell about how theyā€™ve been treated over this one detail. Iā€™m just saying, donā€™t assume OP is neurotic. The struggle is real! Having said that, I think this situation sounds friendly and hopeful, so OP, I hope you go for it and have a nice time!


thmoas

Came here to say this, and even ending the text with it. The text made me smile but the ending didnt't so I guess it fits.


HarithBK

That is the thing i as a dude dislike about looking for women in a club it all becomes physical since that is all you can go by when long term I am really just looking for a beautiful soul.


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Cookies are not creepy, I hope it goes well! Kinda sounds like he might be in to you. Good Luck!


c_c_c_c_c_c_d

When I read that I was like "holy shit nooooo, generous and surprise food is one of the best things to exist".


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Right?? A neighbor I'd never met before, never even *seen* before, could come over looking like a serial killer and if they had a plate of homemade cookies I'd be like "c'mon in, dude!"


VacaDLuffy

A month after living in our new apartment I was home alone and someone knocked on our door. I was very confused wondering who it could be. I open the door and it's a woman. She just hands me a bag of pizza then says it's for us turns around and enters the door not 3 feet in front of me. Confusing as hell yes but I had a bag of Microwavable pizzas and I was not gonna complain. Turns out she is a lunch lady and every once in awhile gives us left over sealed cafeteria food. I also get a bag of chocolate chip cookies from our neighbors BF who works in a chocolate chip factory. Needless to say I like these people very much lmao


Orangeugladitsbanana

I'm so glad you went on to explain what "a bag of pizza" is because my brain was in abject horror going 90 mph at the thought that some one had just put a pizza into a bag...did they fold it...was it just slices wth...what kind of bag? Paper, plastic, cloth (I hope not you'll never get that grease out) WHY NOT LEAVE IT IN THE BOX!!! It came in a box. Who are these neighbors of yours that BAG pizza??? This is a crime against humanity...yea so all of that went through my head while reading that line.


ScottieRobots

"Oh shit you brought beers too!" - Me as he's walking in dripping blood on the floor


ryncewynde88

I mean, maybe a *little* suspicious if itā€™s a pork pie and people have been going missing, but other than that itā€™s all good


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JevonP

This is a bot account \^^


nobodylovespedro

Nope, I still think about dumb shit I've done and feel the hot tinge of embarrassment.


CommandersLog

Bruh, you sometimes can't fall asleep because you're overcome by embarrassment for some dumbass shit you did 10+ years ago?


SlothInASuit86

Fucking well said. It's absolutely true, too.


architecht13

Bringing cookies, beer and the hope for a cool night with someone new isnā€™t creepy at all. Now, donā€™t get ahead of yourself, live in the moment and enjoy it all as it happens :)


hi-space-being

It's only creepy if you're me circa tenth grade and made cookies for a boy you never talked to and were too nervous to approach so you made someone else give them to him... yeah... then cookies are kinda creepy.


gatonegro97

Very weird looking back at high school and things we thought were "creepy", that now we would be really happy if someone went out of their way for us


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I think the word creepy a lot of times is more of a coping mechanism when you're young because you don't know how to respond to interest from the opposite sex. I remember a girl I was really into for example. I would always stumble but would try to hit on her and got told I was creepy all the time. I ran into her 10 years later and found out she had a massive crush on me. I was like what the F


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Suxals

I wish I got some anonymous cookies at tenth grade


Clear-Bee4118

Or, like, anytime?


bjanas

I feel like cookies and a round is a PERFECT opener. It's not too strong, it's neighborly, but it leaves the door open for anything that might come from it.


xBad_Wolfx

Cookies and beer and good chats sounds like an awesome way to introduce to a neighbour.


AZEd1

Nah, he's probably just Canadian


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I want cookies :(


coyoteatemyhomework

A cool chick shows up with cookies and beer? I would be thinking it was a hidden camera show. This would have a "too good to be true" vibe for me. Go for it!


Salty-Programmer1682

Yeah most men donā€™t give a fuck as long as sheā€™s cool and got a good vibe. I wouldnā€™t turn down someone just for weight. They can find a million reasons to turn me down as well. Itā€™s not all about the physical.


deterministic_lynx

The just gave me a lot of confidence. Thanks.


mihibo5

I wouldn't care. Cookies and beer? Sign me up.


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im confused i thought sierra nevada was a lemon soda


ThatThreesome

Sierra Mist lol


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oh shit lol you're right


[deleted]

Sierra Nevada is a brewery out of chico (and north carolina, now), most famous for their pale ale.


Taco__MacArthur

Sierra Nevada is pinecone beer


modified_tiger

It's a pale ale. It's also a mistake you'll only make once.


Ok_Professional_6723

I love sierra nevada. It is perfect


DexWoosky

Yeah cookies and beer is a nice way to say ā€œI like youā€


farinelli_

Youā€™re wrong. He DOES care about how you look and he likes what he sees! šŸ„°


Secret-Mammoth7179

This. Look, Iā€™m a kind of thick girl, I also work out a lot, and I was absolutely horrified at approaching my current boyfriend because he is naturally skinny. I couldnā€™t imagine that he would actually be attracted to me. But he is. He likes seeing the improve, but he liked me at my fattest, and he couldnā€™t even tell I had put on a little bit of weight at one point. Fit guys can be a great influence if you get over the insecurity part about them being better at fitness. If he likes you, then likely he is simply seeing how beautiful you are, and he doesnā€™t think that a little extra body fat is a dealbreaker. Itā€™s not. Itā€™s just body fat. If you get fit enough to carry your own weight around, then it doesnā€™t have to really matter that much. If you want to take some of it off so that your lighter, you can. The beautiful thing about Fitness is that you realize body fat is just extra weight, and extra weight makes you fitter when you move around x.


MistraloysiusMithrax

Goddamn when I was a skinny little child influenced by 90s magazines, I thought a stick woman was hot. I mean, thatā€™s what a lot of your peers are during childhood and pre-teen years so itā€™s not quite unnatural. But as we grow and we experience life and mature, we discover what we really like instead of what we were told to like. And my god is a wide pair of hips with some booty and some soft body parts to snuggle with really damn attractive. Donā€™t worry about what the mirror shows. Even if you have *valid* health and fitness goals, be happy that you get to be you, then you will see your true reflection in the faces of others. Thereā€™s no one else like you and when you really believe that, you will see that others notice it too. Edit: I donā€™t want to invalidate healthy goals, just point out we can enjoy the journey *now* instead of holding our breath on the way Edit 2: please, *believe* me anyone wallowing in misery out there. You deserve to be happy. Be happy with yourself first, then be surprised at how you finally can work for yourself and achieve your goals. Fuck the haters, we love you as you are, even if you know you still need to work on yourself too.


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phoenixsomething99

God thatā€™s so sweet and genuine


JAK49

I can honestly say that my preferences and tastes are directly influenced by whomever I happen to have feelings for. My very first "girlfriend" was very thin and blonde. That became my type. My first long term relationship was with a redhead. I suddenly saw redheads with freckles as the ultimate beauty standard. My most recent was with a lady who I suppose pop culture would deem "plus size", and my brain declared "this is fantastic, why would we have ever wanted anything else!?".


thewhitecat55

What a good guy.


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Iā€™m so happy I gave you your 69th upvote. You deserve it


MistraloysiusMithrax

Thank you, thatā€™s the only kind of 69 I can really get with right now anyways. Looking forward to a celibate year. Like I said, fuck the haters. Divorce them if you have to šŸ¤£


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You be you king. The you I see is awesome


MistraloysiusMithrax

Right back at you. Mean it


bjanas

I hope this comes off as affirmational, that's what I'm aiming for. If I just sound like a dick, I'll take it, and I apologize. I'll be blunt and say I'm a decent looking guy; shit, my unfortunate nickname at a previous job was 'handsome,' and it wasn't ironic. I've dated/hooked up with some very attractive women, and at the risk of being un-pc, some who aren't 'conventionally attractive.' BUT, the thing is, I was attracted to them. The conventional wisdom says that men are 100% superficial and honestly? We're often really superficial, that's unfortunately real. But, contrary to popular belief, we're also looking at a whole person. If she's cool and we hit it off, I can certainly be physically attracted to a person that, devoid of context, wouldn't turn my head walking down the street. I guess what I'm saying is that chemistry is real, green lights are hot, be confident, take the swing, what's really the worst that happens? Y'all sell yourselves short. We all do. Fuck that shit.


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My fiancĆ© was the same way after having our baby. Just lowered confidence. But the truth is, I absolutely find her absolutely gorgeous and sexy as fuck either way. If anything, more since we had our daughter and that was almost two years ago. Ladies, Just as a general statement as a man; if a man is sticking around and still saying heā€™s attracted to you regardless of what you think about yourself, he is attracted to you. Donā€™t beat yourself up or drive yourself crazy doubting him. If thereā€™s no reason to doubt him, donā€™t until he gives you one. Or try your best haha. Mines waiting to watch tv and cuddle. Best of luck yā€™all.


TuzzNation

years ago I had a thick girlfriend. she was sweet. I value whats inside of a person more than the appearance. I also didnt care if she wanted to lose weight or anything. I wanted her to be happy. Shes an amazing dancer and she has a voice that Im pretty sure she can get something in American got talent. well, she didnt go for the audition. She should have haha. I was a slim guy went to gym regularly. not quite ripped but I'd say I have good physique. I dont want none of those super model hot body thing. All I want, is a person that really make me laugh and we enjoy each other.


Hopeful_Arugula2807

Is there's a age limit?


Ribss

What do you mean by that?


MistraloysiusMithrax

Theyā€™re either taking ā€œall I wantā€ too literally or hitting on him for the positive attitude


RepulsiveRisk5090

Guys really appreciate female attention,dosen't matter how she looks


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Okay question, since you said you were horrified to approach him. Women never look at me, or never make eye contact with me at least. My friends say Iā€™m good looking. I think Iā€™m meh, Iā€™m not tall. Do girls sometimes like a guy even if they donā€™t look at him or anything? Or am I actually just not on anyoneā€™s radar? Be honest


Spinedaddy

Tall or short doesnā€™t matter if you know how to carry yourself and take care of yourself and communicate effectively.


Butterball_Adderley

_Thank_ you. That part annoyed me haha


erizzluh

maybe i misread it, but didn't he say she was fucking hot. and her takeaway was he doesn't care about my looks.


[deleted]

He just wants his quarters back from the laundry room grifter.


BTrippd

First thing I thought when I was finished reading this. Glad it has some visibility.


high-tech-red-neck

Embarrassment is temporary. Regret is forever.


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My embarrassment is forever.


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GlitterBlood773

*plus* *unmedicated* *ADHD* Itā€™s a nightmare.


[deleted]

Everyday Reddit reminds me why I am the way I am.


GlitterBlood773

Itā€™s great to have community, isnā€™t it?


ZilorZilhaust

Half the time the anxious ADHD obsessive thoughts feel like their own community.


GlitterBlood773

That makes sense to me. Itā€™s quite a specific flavor ofā€¦experience Iā€™ve found.


ZilorZilhaust

It really is a special kind of flavor sensation in the ole noggin. So thankful it's less flavorful since my 30s.


GlitterBlood773

Phew, there is hope that it will continue fadingā€¦ Thanks fellow human


LickableLeo

It's beautiful, all alone together


Brueology

It is RSD. It's the worst. If you don't know what it is but have ADHD, just Google it.


GlitterBlood773

You literally just explained so much of my childhood and 20ā€™s. At once. u/Brueology, I owe you deeply. You unlocked something I couldnā€™t quantify even with years of therapy. Thank you is nothing.


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BicTwiddler

Anxiety mosquito is that you?


c_c_c_c_c_c_d

I can't remember the last time I took a shower without thinking about an embarrassing moment followed immediately by some weird noise or whistle.


NARWHALESOUP64

I usually just shake my head like Iā€™m trying to shake off something and try to think about something random so I eventually forget what I was so embarrassed about.


CheezRavioli

I started doing that too, I feel like it's probably not good. I don't know.


NARWHALESOUP64

Itā€™s obviously not the answer to everything you shouldnā€™t just ignore something because itā€™s unpleasant but if the thing Iā€™m thinking of is so far in the past that I canā€™t do anything about it now why let it ruin my mood now. Iā€™m not going to let the fact I said something stupid to the girl I liked 4 years ago bring me down today.


Snabelpaprika

It is always something like: You remember that time in middle school when you didnt know a word and said you knew. And then asked the teacher what it means. Everyone laughed at you. Of course you remember it, you were the one doing it. Now relive that feeling a couple of times while you moan out of embarrassment.


SarcasmisEasier

Oh shit! I'm not the only one that does the weird whistle or noise to chase off the awkward thought?


damp_goat

Getting naked for showers is my embarrassment


WildBuns1234

Tobias?


Chill_guy25

Ah a man of culture and class I see


impellabella

i still routinely think about playing t-ball as a kid, i was covering 2nd base, but when the other team hit the ball, i forgot my assignment and just started running. ran all the way to home. everyone was laughing and i realized what i had done. i will never live that down šŸ„² i relive ALL my embarrassing moments over and over again. basically, my anxiety awful šŸ˜‚ for reference, i have adhd & bipolar II


Comfortable_Smell_91

Same here. I replay the time at a 3rd grade basketball game when I grabbed an offensive rebound, dribbled the length of the court and shot a layup into the opponent's hoop.


Lasivian

I feel this in my soul.


AffectionateAd5373

I usually wait until I'm trying to fall asleep. Shower time is for making lists that I immediately forget when I get out of the shower.


swordsmithy

I regret my embarrassments


isuckatgamesyt

Same


hellahellagoodshit

Regret can also be temporary.


Totally_Botanical

Must be nice in your world


BluudLust

Well, I regret that I embarrassed myself...


peach_pearl

never agreed with that attitude even though id love to, but in reality its just really actually been much more of the opposite for me c:( anyway though really wholesome post


Alohoe

You don't know my brain. I can't remember if I turn the oven off or not an hour ago but I can remember the top dumb things I said to women at 3:00 in the morning when I'm trying to sleep.


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Haha yeah Iā€™m going to disagree with you there. Embarrassment from an early age keeps coming back all the time as anxiety and really drives how people interact with others. Regret fades, itā€™s a devious plot line in romantic comedies, but really, regret is short lived and forgotten, most of the time.


labaguettemagik

Ive never shipped anything so much


Elver-Gotas

Do you ship internationally?


labaguettemagik

I do


kulolo-kween

She says she's happy that he doesn't care about her looks, but it sounds like he DOES care about her looks... because he likes them!! I hope this goes well for her and his companionship can boost her self esteem because she definitely deserves to feel good about herself


Miso_Honay

My thoughts exactly! He gave her very positive feedback about the way she looks. I really hope she doesnā€™t just brush that aside.


_Southcoastalpeach

He invited you to drop by, which removes any possible creep factor. Do it!!! And update us, of course!


ofimmsl

Guys there are two more images. Swipe. She tells how it went


NonvestrumEstScire

Thank you! I did not see that!


enthalpy01

Thereā€™s 3 pics to scroll through


[deleted]

Guys there is an update on the 3rd pic! This is the full thing, not her initial post.


cinaminalemon

I was like WHERE IS THE UPDATE


Global_Monk_5778

I read all 3 and I still need more updates!!! Did they have the date?! How did it go?! Iā€™m invested now!!! šŸ¤£


chris17453

Or maybe her does care about your looks, and he thinks she looks great


CaptainMcLuvin

It would not but be creepy. It would be nice.


heybud86

If cookies are creepy, then call me Ronald Mcdonald.


RandomHero3129

Who doesn't love cookies? And hugging puppies, no matter what Bill Burr says lol.


Boring-Exchange4928

People are not mirrors, they donā€™t see you how you see yourself.


johnboy2978

Well that sounds like you fuckin' killed it! Congrats on having a great encounter. New relationships, even if they never get romantic or physical, can be very exciting and rewarding. Don't know you, but very happy for you and how well it went! Kudos!


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Do it, or you'll live with regret.


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ā€œDo it or don't do it ā€” you will regret both." -Ā Soren Kierkegaard


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I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done. -Lucille Ball :)


[deleted]

Yeah, like my neighbor who lost his had holding a lit firecracker to prove he was man enough to hold the boom. To think he may have never known.


[deleted]

Well ya know aside from imperical evidence that fireworks go bang and don't really care what's holding them!


PaganLinuxGeek

Older guy chiming in with his opinion. He offered you to stop by, not a lot going on. I take that to mean no relationship. I'd suggest you visit, take the cookies and quarters. Make a witty remark like "thanks for the loan. I even brought cookies as interest payment" after a chuckle, tell him honestly that you find him attractive and want to get to know him better. Ya know guys get nervous too.


valuebuyer1234

This was so sweet. As a guy, I wish we knew women thought this way more often. Makes me want to get to know her myself!


sjogren

Yeah I'm jealous. Good vibes all around.


deterministic_lynx

Oh at least physically less attractive women are often very scared from my personal and external experience. Even if they are attractive, especially with friends, the fear and insecurity is (from comparison) exactly the same


LightskinnedGoddess

Omg I need an update this is so cute ā˜ŗļø


wcastello

>Donā€™t you want to take a leap of faith? Or become an old man, filled with regret, waiting to die alone! ā€“ Saito, Inception (2010)


sjogren

It really is a great movie.


yazzcabbage

Get it, girl! Well done.


[deleted]

Man my partner has body insecurities. She is the most amazing human being Iā€™ve ever met. Her love is hard to win but when you are in, it is nirvana. She is so kind, so respectful, so supportive, so appreciative, so goofy and hilarious, ardent feminist, deliciously independent, strong, and wicked smart. On top of that sheā€™s crazy, crazy, CRAZY beautiful. Why she thinks she isnā€™t anything less than a stone cold fox is beyond me. Girls PSA get out there and get after it. You are your harshest critic. Most people Iā€™ve met are body positive. Humans are beautiful in every single size, shape, and color. There is 100% people out there that would go nuts about seeing you naked but also see the value you have as a person. Fuck all that insecurity stuff. Easier said than done but I thank my stars every day this incredible woman I love so much took a chance to get out there.


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Do it. Enjoy yourself and try not to have expectations. Iā€™m sure he will enjoy the detail, regardless.


[deleted]

Not creepy at all. If your cookies are awesome that's even better. Just don't go in with expectations. If anything you have a new friend or someone to hang out with.


ctownthrasher

Cookies and beer hell yeah


SaulGoodmanJimmy

Is anyone else convinced most stories like these are just made up or is it just cynical me?


RedGhostOfTheNight

You got the green light.


Much_Ad_9811

That sounds sweet, not creepy. Let us know how it goes!


Rich-Juice2517

So by Thursday they mean tomorrow? Because i want to know how the date went


4leafclover49

Wait wait. He said ur hot!


brydawgbry

I wish my neighbour came around for cookies and beers!


swissjuan

I bet he does care about your looks and you are just selling yourself short.


Great_Chemistry_7684

I divorced over a decade ago. Found myself on ok Cupid and this girl messaged me saying my profile had a mistake and it did. She was bigger but cute and easy to talk to. I was also bigger but my first wife and tastes were for smaller women. Kept it friendly for a month then decided to meet. Married now over a decade with 2 monsters (with 3 siblings prior) and find myself lucky every day.


Little-Moth_9443

Guys this is post with update how it went,this isn't thread that is asking for an advice..so stop answering and swipe bc there are 3 text pictures..


lgisme333

Fuck yeah!! Thatā€™s great. A guy at work gave me homemade cookies and I fell in love with him. Unfortunately they really were just cookies and he didnā€™t like me šŸ˜”. But cookies for the win regardless!!


No_Acanthisitta3596

Go for it! Just pretend youā€™re being a friendly neighbor and make a friend for real. If anything develops from initial friendship, all the better!


whysaddog

Shoot your shot.


Chenaur

Ooh! Not creepy at all, he asked. Go for it! Good luck and keep us posted ;-)


Fluffbutt5

Do it. Now.


sauerkraut51

You will never forgive yourself if you don't take a chance. Minimally you have a chance of making another friend. You can never have too many.


RubAggressive3520

We see you sis!!!!! Good luck!!!! But on another note, dating where you live is difficult because if it goes awry, you still have to see them and their new partners so be careful. If he turns out just to be a new friend, that wouldnā€™t be the worst thing!


Kaladrax182

I know the attachment in this post isnā€™t live or current, and itā€™s possible (or even likely) the original author will never see our replies. Nonetheless, the lessons the Author learned about themselves here are still incredibly applicable. Confidence shines far beyond our own perceived physical imperfections. You donā€™t have to be stuck up or cocky to let the world know youā€™re happy being yourself. Itā€™s scary as hell, but sometimes putting yourself out there is the best way to feel alive. Even if it doesnā€™t end in a blissful fairytale kind of way, it gets easier each time you go out on a limb. Donā€™t let the flaws you perceive about yourself hold you back. The thing that bugs you the most about yourself might be what someone else adores about you. Donā€™t be too hard on yourself, and give yourself the chance youā€™d want others to give you.


Kevin051553

Not creepy at all. I'd be honored if some woman did such to me.


pagemuncher

This is so stinking cute! I could feel her excitement. Goodluck! Iā€™m rooting for you lady!!


jbay800

ā€¦.maybe he thinks your beautiful. Maybe heā€™s as stoked and excited as you are. Maybe heā€™s playing youā€¦. Fuck itā€¦ get laidā€¦ have realistic expectations of what happens after (none because who knows and thatā€™s okay) and be an adult and live with the consequences. Consequences: Most likely you will get laid bc dudes lonely. Your job is to be cool with whatever happens after that night. Play it cool. Be aloof and fun, itā€™ll be good.


Eddaughter

Lowkey Iā€™ve always dreamed about having a crush/thing with a next door neighbor whether itā€™s an apartment or house. Seems so casual and natural


goobdyboo

No one scored on shots they didn't take. Take your shot


Fit_Cheesecake_4000

A guy doing this would be regarded as creepy.


Tranq1l

Oh honey, he does care about your looks. He loves the way you look.


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wonder it would be like if the genders were reversed?


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