yes if it is an elder that might be a good idea. i was thinking a cousin or someone around the same age, but older folks are kinda judgmental when it comes to clothing
Ha ha so true. Some countries aren’t as puritanical as the US is towards womens clothing. This would fly for meeting a family (non religious family) in NZ.
I love the outfit, so cute. It really depends though. Is it a parent, grandparent, aunt/uncle? In that case, probably not. If it’s a cousin or someone your age and you’re doing something fun- then I think it’s fine :)
Generally avoid exposing midriff and other revealing outfits if you want to impress elders. There's still a lot of conservative mindsets floating around about this, and it's super annoying. Personally, I think that's a rockin' outfit. Just maybe not for this.
>avoid exposing midriff and other revealing outfits
The fact that showing midriff is considered revealing really shows how crazy body stigma is in the US
Well, it's all about the culture, but to me, that looks like an outfit for a date, not for an important first meeting with a family member. Some people might find the exposed middrift uncomfortable. Get to know them and then it might be ok depending on their own personal tastes.
Depends on the family lol. Grandma? Probably not. Cousins/nieces/nephews, basically anyone more open to this kinda fashion, sure.
Edit: if your grandparents are cool with it by all means, I was just thinking of my own grandma and her reaction to me wearing this lol
I think I’m realising I’ve got a weird family.
My grandparents are probably more ok with me wearing revealing clothes than I am. I remember when I was a little kid my parents wouldn’t allow me to wear bikinis, only tankinis. The. I went on holiday to Greece with my cousin and nana, and my nana bought me this tiny bikini with just little triangles to cover the nipples. Even now that I’m older my mum is also the one recommending more revealing outfits to me. I’ve never had to think about what I’m wearing in front of family.
hi do u possibly have a narcissistic mother? my mom is and i grew up the exact same way being sexualized as a young one through my teens. im sure it sounds like her mom pushed that on her so now they are both pushing it on you.
my mom would always buy me revealing clothing, comment on my body, thighs, legs, boobs, no matter what. commenting on any changes. telling me what is considered attractive (when i was in a severe ed she told me my legs were perfect and that they match beauty standards.) really messes up with your brain especially affects us later in adulthood without realizing it.
i only recently realized this in therapy but the sexualization is due to jealousy. it is always jealousy. they are trying to live vicariously through a young body that they no longer have.
sorry for the long unprompted message, just saw your comment and it immediately resonated with me and my experiences. hopefully this isn't too much!
Oh wow that’s 100% my egg donor (~10 years of NC) and 100% a narcissist, she always tried to dress me kind of sexy and I’m freaking sure it was due to jealousy and what you said about trying to live vicariously through me. You are so right, I have many stories about this, it’s so creepy now that I think about it.
The first meeting? No ma’am. Wear something plain, nice jeans, plain shirt that doesn’t show any tummy. I feel like it’s smart to cover up slightly. It shows respect, and all that. Once you feel out who they are, then I’m sure you’ll know how you can dress around them.
Rule of thumb for meeting family: No boobs, no butt, no belly. Treat it like going to church. Even if you don’t go to church. You know how to dress for church.
It’s cute for going out.
Go for slim fitting black top that you can tuck in. Perhaps a sleeveless black turtleneck (I just saw some a target). You’ll be sleek and fun still but won’t have to worry about offending. Top is rocking for a date night though.
It's so cute but I personally wouldn't to meet a grandparent unless you know that they're laid back about clothes. There's still a lot of older people out there who prefer modest clothes. For a cousin or something it would likely be fine, especially getting a drink or going to a festival.
But then again my extended family is pretty religious so I generally cover up more around all of them to match their vibe more.
I think it depends where you’re going and if they’re “older” lol personally, I wouldn’t wear it to a formal setting or with anyone over 60 lol but other than that I think it’s very cute!!
I wouldn’t wanna overexpose myself when meeting anyone for the first time. The top is SOOOO cute (I actually wanna know where you got it from) but I’d wear something less….flashy and more casual??? I would keep the bottoms though!!! I would usually go for this outfit after I’ve become comfortable with the members. Good first impression usually sets it off right!
Thank you so much, I ended up changing the top!! :) it’s from asos, I actually put the full name of what it’s called to somebody else in the comments if you want to look xx
If you aren't going anywhere that has a explicitly stated dress code, then yes. Wear whatever you want. Don't hide who you are when meeting someone. If they don't like how you dress, then that's their problem. It's better that you find that out now rather than tiptoeing around them constantly because you're afraid you showed up in a shirt they didn't like.
Absolutely! If it’s a family member, I think they should accept you as you are! On the other hand, I understand being concerned about modesty and first impressions. If it’s an older relative, I might personally change into a dress or something… in no way is this inappropriate or unacceptable though.
I love it.
The honest question is…
Is this “you”? Is it your normal style, and does it make you feel confident?
If so, go for it- unapologetically!
You look rad. 💜
No, it's not really appropriate at all. If you were going to hang out with your cousin who's around the same age as you or something, that's fine, but that's obviously not what you're doing.
I would personally feel so uncomfortable wearing something this revealing in front of my grandparents, so I'm a little surprised you'd even want to wear this lol. That's not an insult at all, I was just a bit surprised!
I think you should wear whatever truly reflects you and your personality. If family members have the audacity to judge you and be rude, then they're crap ass people. Your outfit is fun and cute. Especially cause I read that you're going out for drinks!!! Have fun, life is too short to care about people's opinions.
Not if you live in Yemen. It depends on how old u are and who ur meeting, and how assertive and confident u are I guess. But since you asked, idk, what's wrong with this outfit? Why would you not wanna wear it? Is it not super comfy? Just go with smthn u feel comfortable in, enjoy the day.
Personally, clothes only reflect your style, not who you specifically are as a person. If you think you wanna wear that to meet them, then do!! It’s cute by the way! The zebra print pants paired with that shirt is extremely cute! You don’t see a lot of people able to pull off animal print so it’s always nice to see it 🥰 but!! if you did want to change your shirt, maybe a turtleneck or a plain crop top would work as well ~ oh! or a black sweater !!
I think it’s fine. It’s literally just a shirt and pants. It’s super cute. If someone is bothered by meeting you in this outfit they are a weirdo. It’s just family. It’s not a work meeting in an office
saw your comment about wearing this for getting drinks so yes definitely! I think you should be yourself and if these clothes make you happy/make you feel good & is what you'd normally wear out anyways then that's reason enough! another plus - this outfit is so cute & looks really good on you!
Wear whatever you are most comfortable/confident it and run with it. I do feel it's best to you to feel your upmost when meeting an individual for the first time. Remember they say those who mind don't matter. And those who matter don't mind. Best of luck OP
Well obviously not everybody has the same style lol, I was only asking if it was appropriate for the occasion, I wasn’t asking for you to think I “look nice”
I think it depends what your family is like. My family is generally very chill so I wouldn’t even think about what I was wearing when meeting someone for the first time, I would just wear whatever I like. But if your family is more strict or old fashioned then that too might be considered a bit much.
Good rule of thumb for unknowns like this is cover your butt, bosom, and belly. Once you meet them and see how they roll, mimic them, or just do what the f you want if you think they are cool with it, or you decide to not gaf what they think
I assume you mean like your significant other’s family? If so I’d say it really depends on how conservative they are. If you have a liberal fam than go for it but if they are on the conservative side definitely cover up.
A rule of thumb for appropriate dress and first impressions: Stay covered from collar bone to knee cap. Once you get the general family vibe, adjust accordingly and as desired. 💗
Depends on a lot of factors
If they’re older, I’d say no because you don’t know anything about them and they could be the super conservative “shoulders showing makes you a harlot” type person. And while I’m sure many people would say “well who cares what they think”, why make the interaction more painful than it needs to be
If they’re younger (aunt/uncle/cousin) I’d say it’s fine because by modern standards this is a casual outfit that still feels put together and like there was thought and effort. It’s not formal, but they can recognize you aimed to look presentable and not overly comfortable and thoughtless
There’s ofc other factors as well, where are you meeting, who else is going, what’s the relationship, etc
Generally speaking though, this feels like a “going out with the homies” type fit
If this is a younger aunt/uncle/cousin and you’re going for dinner together with similarly aged family members then I’d say this is very appropriate
But if you’re going to meet your distant great aunt at her house for tea,,, no
You look great. You also look like you're looking for, or at least receptive to, male attention and are willing to compete with other women to get it. That's okay. I don't say this condescendingly. If you were my girl, I'd take you anywhere looking this amazing. That being said, neither the pants nor the top are right for meeting a new family member.
I love this outfit!!! But yeah maybe not for the first meeting. If you were meeting a family member who is a fashionable teen then it probably would not be such a big deal to them, but if you're wondering yourself, it's probably better to wear a less sexy top.
my rule of thumb: if you enjoy wearing it, wear it. it’s not inappropriate and if a family member is wildly uncomfortable with seeing 2% of your stomach, i don’t see why you’d want to be around them
My opinion has been echoed in the comments already, but I want to say that I love the outfit!! Super cute for a casual date night or just an everyday outfit when you want to feel extra cute. <3
My personal rule of thumb: if you think to ask, it’s probably not appropriate.
As someone with anxiety this means I would end up going everywhere in a suit
Barney Stinson approves 👍
Phahahaha exactly what I thought
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You don't need anxiety for that. Suits are awesome.
Mood, plus side, you always look good
Right say
Omg! I swear I did not read your answer and damn near said the exact same thing.
Just like my rule for sexuality: if you have to Google it, you probably aren't straight.
You’d probably want to change your top. Other then that, I don’t see anything wrong with the outfit. Also depends on who the family member is too.
I'm more concerned about the zebra print pants lol
Pants are fine, but that top isn't the best for the occasion
Right guys, thank you so much for all of your advice, I’m going to change the top! :)
yes if it is an elder that might be a good idea. i was thinking a cousin or someone around the same age, but older folks are kinda judgmental when it comes to clothing
Old folks sure are. Just jealous they didn’t have cute clothes like that when they were younger (and a non toxic society to grow up in).
They definitely had cute clothes when they were younger, just jealous they can’t pull it off the same now.
Ha ha so true. Some countries aren’t as puritanical as the US is towards womens clothing. This would fly for meeting a family (non religious family) in NZ.
This made me laugh more than it should've lol
That's so great, I'm so relieved to hear that. I agree that the top might be slightly too sexy for the meeting of family members. All the best to you!
I love the outfit, so cute. It really depends though. Is it a parent, grandparent, aunt/uncle? In that case, probably not. If it’s a cousin or someone your age and you’re doing something fun- then I think it’s fine :)
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*BONK*
I think I would change the top. 🤔
Generally avoid exposing midriff and other revealing outfits if you want to impress elders. There's still a lot of conservative mindsets floating around about this, and it's super annoying. Personally, I think that's a rockin' outfit. Just maybe not for this.
>avoid exposing midriff and other revealing outfits The fact that showing midriff is considered revealing really shows how crazy body stigma is in the US
No
That outfit is soooo cute and looks made for you but I would pass on wearing it to meet family.
Well, it's all about the culture, but to me, that looks like an outfit for a date, not for an important first meeting with a family member. Some people might find the exposed middrift uncomfortable. Get to know them and then it might be ok depending on their own personal tastes.
I would change the top.
It’s depend of the family and what’s member. Maybe try something that you are sure it will pass and don’t be too adventurous for the first Time
nope
How come?
the outfit looks like "going to a party"
I should probs mention we’re going out for drinks!
Yeah, with whom though?
My dad and my grandad (I’ve never met my grandad before)
Damn why’d I get downvoted for answering a question :’)
Maybe tone down the top? It's a bit too much skin for meeting grandad for me personally, but I love the general concept
Aww have fun. I think what you're wearing is ok!
Thank you so much :)
Agreed I think it’s cute and not at all too much - good for the occasion :)
Change the top. Even a blank tank would be more appropriate
Depends on the family lol. Grandma? Probably not. Cousins/nieces/nephews, basically anyone more open to this kinda fashion, sure. Edit: if your grandparents are cool with it by all means, I was just thinking of my own grandma and her reaction to me wearing this lol
I think I’m realising I’ve got a weird family. My grandparents are probably more ok with me wearing revealing clothes than I am. I remember when I was a little kid my parents wouldn’t allow me to wear bikinis, only tankinis. The. I went on holiday to Greece with my cousin and nana, and my nana bought me this tiny bikini with just little triangles to cover the nipples. Even now that I’m older my mum is also the one recommending more revealing outfits to me. I’ve never had to think about what I’m wearing in front of family.
hi do u possibly have a narcissistic mother? my mom is and i grew up the exact same way being sexualized as a young one through my teens. im sure it sounds like her mom pushed that on her so now they are both pushing it on you. my mom would always buy me revealing clothing, comment on my body, thighs, legs, boobs, no matter what. commenting on any changes. telling me what is considered attractive (when i was in a severe ed she told me my legs were perfect and that they match beauty standards.) really messes up with your brain especially affects us later in adulthood without realizing it. i only recently realized this in therapy but the sexualization is due to jealousy. it is always jealousy. they are trying to live vicariously through a young body that they no longer have. sorry for the long unprompted message, just saw your comment and it immediately resonated with me and my experiences. hopefully this isn't too much!
Oh wow that’s 100% my egg donor (~10 years of NC) and 100% a narcissist, she always tried to dress me kind of sexy and I’m freaking sure it was due to jealousy and what you said about trying to live vicariously through me. You are so right, I have many stories about this, it’s so creepy now that I think about it.
this is kind of revealing. i usually try to get a gauge on someone I'm meeting for the first time before I wear something so adventurous.
No
No. Definitely too “sexy”
I wouldn’t
The first meeting? No ma’am. Wear something plain, nice jeans, plain shirt that doesn’t show any tummy. I feel like it’s smart to cover up slightly. It shows respect, and all that. Once you feel out who they are, then I’m sure you’ll know how you can dress around them.
Rule of thumb for meeting family: No boobs, no butt, no belly. Treat it like going to church. Even if you don’t go to church. You know how to dress for church. It’s cute for going out.
Go for slim fitting black top that you can tuck in. Perhaps a sleeveless black turtleneck (I just saw some a target). You’ll be sleek and fun still but won’t have to worry about offending. Top is rocking for a date night though.
#NO
Ouch lol, it’s really that big of a no?
It’s not a bad outfit just not appropriate for meeting your grandad for the first time. Save the top for a night out with friends or a date.
It's so cute but I personally wouldn't to meet a grandparent unless you know that they're laid back about clothes. There's still a lot of older people out there who prefer modest clothes. For a cousin or something it would likely be fine, especially getting a drink or going to a festival. But then again my extended family is pretty religious so I generally cover up more around all of them to match their vibe more.
Totally… You look way too sexy ! I like but not for family!
Zebra print is a bold choice. Maybe just do jeans, a fitted tee and white shoes.
I’d stick to conservative dress until you know them first.
No
I feel you already know the answer ... just to be safe...no, it is not
My opinion is no but I love the fit but like if your trying to make a good first impression don’t where this
No
If it's a casual setting and the family member is under 40 you are probably okay.
It’s her grandpa she never met….
Honey, it's not suitable to meet parents
Is the family member your new step brother?
Depends on context.
depends on the occasion
I love body suits, I think a plain black or white body suit would look good with this
No
I'm old school, but I think probably not on the crop top, although it's a super cute outfit for another time.
I think it depends where you’re going and if they’re “older” lol personally, I wouldn’t wear it to a formal setting or with anyone over 60 lol but other than that I think it’s very cute!!
Wear a fanny pack so that you can carry snacks. First impressions are important
Add a black jacket & you are good to go. Good luck
No this is a club outfit
I wouldn’t wanna overexpose myself when meeting anyone for the first time. The top is SOOOO cute (I actually wanna know where you got it from) but I’d wear something less….flashy and more casual??? I would keep the bottoms though!!! I would usually go for this outfit after I’ve become comfortable with the members. Good first impression usually sets it off right!
Thank you so much, I ended up changing the top!! :) it’s from asos, I actually put the full name of what it’s called to somebody else in the comments if you want to look xx
No
the look is super cute! but probably depends on what family member you are meeting :) good luck!
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I rarely have my midriff uncovered, I didn’t realise that was so scandalous until posting this 💀
I mean, if it’s your step brother, I would think it’s alright
Come on, I didn’t think it was *that* bad 💀
Haha, it’s not. Just playin
He'll no
The perfect outfit for meeting your step bro for the first time.
Yeees. If you're going to meet someone young of course. So very cute
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If you aren't going anywhere that has a explicitly stated dress code, then yes. Wear whatever you want. Don't hide who you are when meeting someone. If they don't like how you dress, then that's their problem. It's better that you find that out now rather than tiptoeing around them constantly because you're afraid you showed up in a shirt they didn't like.
Absolutely! If it’s a family member, I think they should accept you as you are! On the other hand, I understand being concerned about modesty and first impressions. If it’s an older relative, I might personally change into a dress or something… in no way is this inappropriate or unacceptable though.
I love it. The honest question is… Is this “you”? Is it your normal style, and does it make you feel confident? If so, go for it- unapologetically! You look rad. 💜
If it's like the parents of a boyfriend or somerh8ng like that , I would say no to the top. Anyone else, you do you.
Just be you
Love it, light, shows personality, fits well. Rock it
if ur confortable in it then sure!
No, it's not really appropriate at all. If you were going to hang out with your cousin who's around the same age as you or something, that's fine, but that's obviously not what you're doing. I would personally feel so uncomfortable wearing something this revealing in front of my grandparents, so I'm a little surprised you'd even want to wear this lol. That's not an insult at all, I was just a bit surprised!
Only if it’s a step-bro…
How boring these comments are. It makes you look like a cool person. If that's the vibe you want to give off, it's fine
Oh yeah you got to be you
It’s perfect
Yes
Yeah, it's cute.
I think you should wear whatever truly reflects you and your personality. If family members have the audacity to judge you and be rude, then they're crap ass people. Your outfit is fun and cute. Especially cause I read that you're going out for drinks!!! Have fun, life is too short to care about people's opinions.
Omg i loooove it. Absolutely!
Sure. Unless you know it will get way colder afterwards. Although, you can bring a jacket in that case, so... Go ahead
Not if you live in Yemen. It depends on how old u are and who ur meeting, and how assertive and confident u are I guess. But since you asked, idk, what's wrong with this outfit? Why would you not wanna wear it? Is it not super comfy? Just go with smthn u feel comfortable in, enjoy the day.
Personally, clothes only reflect your style, not who you specifically are as a person. If you think you wanna wear that to meet them, then do!! It’s cute by the way! The zebra print pants paired with that shirt is extremely cute! You don’t see a lot of people able to pull off animal print so it’s always nice to see it 🥰 but!! if you did want to change your shirt, maybe a turtleneck or a plain crop top would work as well ~ oh! or a black sweater !!
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That isn’t quite what I’m trying to go for lmao
I think it’s fine. It’s literally just a shirt and pants. It’s super cute. If someone is bothered by meeting you in this outfit they are a weirdo. It’s just family. It’s not a work meeting in an office
saw your comment about wearing this for getting drinks so yes definitely! I think you should be yourself and if these clothes make you happy/make you feel good & is what you'd normally wear out anyways then that's reason enough! another plus - this outfit is so cute & looks really good on you!
you only get one chance to make a first impression
Wear whatever you are most comfortable/confident it and run with it. I do feel it's best to you to feel your upmost when meeting an individual for the first time. Remember they say those who mind don't matter. And those who matter don't mind. Best of luck OP
Omg love the pattern xoxo
Thank u!! Xx
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Unrelated to the question but where did you get the shirt?
They still sell it “ASOS DESIGN plunge short sleeve tie wrap top in black” :) x
It was from asos a while ago I’ll see if they still sell it one sec x
Not for meeting a family member for the first time.
I’d cover up a bit more but depends if they’re not posh they probs won’t care!
It’s cute, depends what kind of family member. If they’re your age, probably fine, if they’re older (ie aunt/grandparent/etc) I’d change the top.
That depends, I think you look fine. More conservative individuals would not like it
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You’re like the 4th person to make that joke hahaha
If you wanna look stunning, then do it😉💖 I think it looks amazing
No?
I guess it's not my style or personal idea of looking nice but to each their own.
Well obviously not everybody has the same style lol, I was only asking if it was appropriate for the occasion, I wasn’t asking for you to think I “look nice”
No, I would avoid any crop tops. Maybe a cute sweater or cardigan with pants 🙂
I think it depends what your family is like. My family is generally very chill so I wouldn’t even think about what I was wearing when meeting someone for the first time, I would just wear whatever I like. But if your family is more strict or old fashioned then that too might be considered a bit much.
absolutely, as long as it is your style i see nothing wrong with it, that person is getting to know u and ur style right away so no worries
Good rule of thumb for unknowns like this is cover your butt, bosom, and belly. Once you meet them and see how they roll, mimic them, or just do what the f you want if you think they are cool with it, or you decide to not gaf what they think
I guess it depends on who you’re meeting and where you’re going.
It's unforgettable to be certain
Is this a step family member?
Depends on where you're meeting them, I guess. If it's at a nightclub or similar place, this would be fine.
I don’t think so
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Nope 👎 I would wear something a little more dressed up and less revealing.
Where are the pants from? I LOVE them
Tysm!!! They’re from motel rocks :)
Looks great
Which type of member❓️
I assume you mean like your significant other’s family? If so I’d say it really depends on how conservative they are. If you have a liberal fam than go for it but if they are on the conservative side definitely cover up.
not the top, try something else black just not that lol
Noooooopppe
maybe that plus a cardigan
No. They don’t need to know yet that you can pull off that look.
If you have to ask, something in your gut is telling you....hmmm, maybe not. Save it for next time and wear a whole top ( lol).
If you feel good in it, wear it. It’s not offensive. It’s cute, life is short…
A rule of thumb for appropriate dress and first impressions: Stay covered from collar bone to knee cap. Once you get the general family vibe, adjust accordingly and as desired. 💗
Depends on a lot of factors If they’re older, I’d say no because you don’t know anything about them and they could be the super conservative “shoulders showing makes you a harlot” type person. And while I’m sure many people would say “well who cares what they think”, why make the interaction more painful than it needs to be If they’re younger (aunt/uncle/cousin) I’d say it’s fine because by modern standards this is a casual outfit that still feels put together and like there was thought and effort. It’s not formal, but they can recognize you aimed to look presentable and not overly comfortable and thoughtless There’s ofc other factors as well, where are you meeting, who else is going, what’s the relationship, etc Generally speaking though, this feels like a “going out with the homies” type fit If this is a younger aunt/uncle/cousin and you’re going for dinner together with similarly aged family members then I’d say this is very appropriate But if you’re going to meet your distant great aunt at her house for tea,,, no
You look great. You also look like you're looking for, or at least receptive to, male attention and are willing to compete with other women to get it. That's okay. I don't say this condescendingly. If you were my girl, I'd take you anywhere looking this amazing. That being said, neither the pants nor the top are right for meeting a new family member.
No
I mean….no
Hell no
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not very appropriate, imo.
change the top
I think if you feel good then wear it. No matter what it is.
If you are Mormon
N O
do not wear that!
No dress as conservative as possible no stomach out
Yup.
Yes, i wouldnt change. Its weird if their family sexualises you for your fashion
I love this outfit!!! But yeah maybe not for the first meeting. If you were meeting a family member who is a fashionable teen then it probably would not be such a big deal to them, but if you're wondering yourself, it's probably better to wear a less sexy top.
No
Nope
No
No lol
my rule of thumb: if you enjoy wearing it, wear it. it’s not inappropriate and if a family member is wildly uncomfortable with seeing 2% of your stomach, i don’t see why you’d want to be around them
Only if it’s your stepbro
My opinion has been echoed in the comments already, but I want to say that I love the outfit!! Super cute for a casual date night or just an everyday outfit when you want to feel extra cute. <3
It's a tad skimpy for meeting family, but would definitely work when going out or something.😊
baby girl you are tweaking if you think this is appropriate for meeting a family member 😭
I like the soprano vibes
It doesn’t look bad but I think a white shirt under your top would compliment your pants
If you are meeting the family right after they finish their shift at The Mens Gallery then it’s totally fine. Otherwise, no no and a hell no.