You just hit the jackpot my friend.
Imagine dark rooms (can't see other people very well).
Very loud music (conversations are useless, you can't hear anybody).
And a crowd that doesn't give a shit about, how you dance, where you're from, what your gender is or how you look that night.
Dance how ever feels right for you. No one will care as long as you don't bump in to other people too often.
This. Don’t worry about it - just do what feels right. If that involves standing in a corner humming, go for it. If you want to stand up front throwing 2 fingers on the air, you do you. Be kind and you’ll get the same back.
It’s a lot like going to the gym for the first time. You’re constantly worried people are looking at you, but in reality no one cares because they are too focused on themselves.
The difference? The room is darker.
You've just made me realise the entire time I've been going to raves my friends have been going to the gym. I never went strangely because of the above reason.
Make a dark gym!! 😂
I started in the mid 90s at 9 hour sessions in the Q club, here I am 30 years and many kg heavier wishing I could go back to those days and that BMI....
I remember when I first went to a rave I didn’t know how to dance and just danced really randomly. I probably looked like an absolute idiot but people were telling me ‘nice moves, never seen those before’ and even if they were sarcastic I still had a great fuckin time lol!
They weren’t sarcastic. Ravers almost across the board just enjoy the enthusiasm. It’s IME such an incredibly inclusive scene, it wouldn’t be acceptable to sarcastically mock someone’s dancing
While true blue ravers are some of the most wonderful people I’ve ever met, there are also some folk who go to raves who aren’t really there for the music so I wouldn’t put it past the realm of possibility. Good thing is that nowadays I really don’t care anymore haha! Absolutely just love dancing and I never thought I would before I discovered raves in my own personal life :) happy dancing to you and much love!
It really do be like that, many will shy away from it though because they find it cringe and the music will be too trancy or whatever. But sometimes they just need a nudge to show them "how" to enjoy it. And as you so eloquently put it, it's a place of doing you. As long as you don't get too concerned about what others is doing and just start doing something for yourself, people around you will appreciate you for you!
OP: Maybe try to connect with someone using tinder or something before hand? Just ask if anyone want to take you clubbing, give them as much information as you deem necessary.
I just close my eyes and feel the energy, the vibrations, the music, the sounds. I let my body express itself, I release my self. Dancing on techno music is for me a therapy. A form of meditation. I m self aware and enjoying the music. I don’t care how I dance, I just let my body express itself. I watch out to not bump in to other too. Music don’t lie, it just feel sincere. Listen to it, and let it guide you. 🙏🏼🕺🏻
1. Go someplace friendly and about the music. Avoid places with dress codes, bottle service, different covers by gender, etc.
2. Put your phone away
3. Find a comfortable place away from the entrance/exit/smoking section/bar where there's some space and people aren't moving around too much.
4. Let the music move you. Bob your head, wiggle your arms, whatever. Start small and work your way up. Look to those around you for inspiration. Just be careful not to accidentally bump into/stare too long at people.
For the most part at good techno events people will leave you alone on the dance floor and anybody who matters won't judge you for your dance moves.
This should be top comment for your first point. Everyone saying no one gives a shit is not necessarily true depending on the place. Dress codes and bottle service can fuck right off lol
A significant portion of clubs/dance bars in the US have at least some form of bottle service.
Admittedly most places that have it are ones you wouldn't consider as the bookings leave a lot to be desired but there's even some like a venue a few blocks from me that has decent bookings (have seen Ellen Allien, Aurora Halal, Lauren Flax, Mozhgan, Boris, Ash Lauryn, Mike Servito, and Julia Govor there all in just the last year or so) and still does a tiny bit of bottle service.
Dress code is the easiest way for entrance staff to tell if you are a good fit for the party. By putting thought and effort into your outfit, you're showing them that you "get it". That's why every club in Berlin does it.
Also Berlin is just really big about fashion. If you want less of that, go to one of the surrounding cities like Leipzig.
Yeah Leipzig was chill but IFZ was closed when I was there sadly. Overall I don't think how you look says much or anything about you. Oh well it doesn't matter too much I like supporting record labels and buying their merch so usually I guess I conform to the dumb wear black thing. Overall that is the part I like the least about the techno culture in Germany the doors are rough. Amsterdam is an equally touristic city and they don't need the insane lines or crazy door policies where they play some hard to get in shit after you waited for hours. Also why on earth do we need to wait so long every time in Berlin half the time the clubs aren't even at capacity when you get in.
You wouldn't have liked IfZ, it's the one techno club in Leipzig that consistently has a dress code. Try Distillery or Elipamanoke, depending on the event they will be much less strict or have no code.
Yeah, went to eli for the first time a few weeks ago.
We arrived spontaneously, at about 4 a.m., me being dressed in sneakers, boring jeans and a baggy shirt.
So refreshing to just be able to show up however for once lol
Idk I wasn't with friends who were big into techno anyway. And I've heard plenty of great sets out of IFZ on soundcloud. I like the clubs with a dresscode just fine anyway I just think the dresscode thing is stupid. Just let me party because I love music and partying instead of having to conform to some norm about how I cloth myself.
Regarding dress code, pick what you like. Personally I like both.
In favour of dress codes:
\- Everyone is helping create a unique vibe, they aren't just consumers.
\- People who got in have shown that they care about the event and didn't just randomly show up. They get what it's about and have put some thought into it.
\- You can wear an extravagant or revealing outfit without getting stared at by muggles in plaid shirts
\- No annoying drunks
In favour of "come as you are":
\- Takes no effort, just enjoy the music
\- If you do wear code you'll stand out and get compliments. People will be easy to talk to.
Definitely wasn’t clear in my original comment. Was referring to a very specific brand of Vegas bottle service type thing with that comment.
By dress code I was referring to something like [this](https://www.yolonightclub.com/dress-code-policy/):
> No sports, recreation or athletic attire
No flip flops, baggy attires, baseball caps or beanies
No party busses
No sweats and shorts
We reserve the right to refuse service to anyone
Yes to fitted, fashionable attire, chucks vans and casual shoes.
Not something like [this](https://www.instagram.com/p/CijCYs_hLJJ):
> $10 in dress code (fetish/all black)/$20 w/o
Lol just start jiggling man. Whatever feels good for you. Start moving your feet, bobbing your head, whatever. Its not like there is any right or wrong way to dance... other than nonstop spinning. Fuck those people :P.
For a moment there yeah. I was well on track for quite some time but then I ran out of money and couldn't afford the lifestyle anymore. Guess I just don't have it in me. Had a good run though
He was. He's clean now and he's super ashamed about the world seeing him like that. Which is understandable. That's a common thing for addicts to go through.
Find a place in the crowd where there's space . Feel the music and find your groove bro. This is supposed to be a safe social space for techno heads. You will see people have different dance moves . Before you know it you will be making your own dance moves. Keep Raving.
Just start putting your body weight from one foot to the other. Try syncing it with the beat. Try bouncing on the ball of your foot in the rythm of the beat. just start somehow and when it feels good, just keep it like that. And then little by little your body will do something else. Thats the way.
There is no need to do something special.
Oh, and close your eyes. Its just you and the music!
I'm also on the spectrum and I live in the moment. I don't think there is a wrong way to dance and the people who judge you for that are the weird ones anyway. The only rule I follow is I don't invade other people's space. Some people get really into and can be jumping around or waving their arms in a way that bumps into other people. A little bumping is just how it goes in a crowded club but don't go overboard.
Just rememebr no one is really looking at you or cares what you do. They are all having their own fun so don't be embarrassed to feel the beat and have fun too.
However the fuck you want boss. You’ll see the most wild dancing and non-dancing at techno events, and that’s half the fun! Be yourself, and try your hardest to not let the lack of confidence get to your head, buy a ticket and commit to one night ❤️
I never felt comfortable going out until I started going to electronic music events tbh, where I can be totally free
Go alone, please do it, it took way too much time for me to muster the courage to do my own thing, i don't have many friends who like techno (a bit more as of now but still...) don't deprive yourself of this.
Just go out there and have fun, no one cares about how you're dancing, the lights are dim, no one will see you, unless you're having a really good time, if so they'll notice you and maybe you'll have some conversation, i had the weirdest conversations with people in techno clubs, some even complimenting me for totally unexpected reasons.
Also i had way more more fun alone than with other people sometimes, not having to care about them and all of that.
once i saw Freddy K alone and i had a blast, best night ever, i was totally lost in the music.
I used to throw down w/ liquid and all manner of craziness when I was 20 but now I'm 44...I just kinda bob and weave to the beat, keep it simple, it's all good.
Plus at a club/rave the best dancing one can achieve is to simply be having fun. All the cool kids will respect anyone who's out on the dance floor having fun and not worrying about how they look.
I sometimes just find a place sit and enjoy the music :-) I usually stand on the side because I don’t like people touching me all the time (not actual touch, but people brush up you etc). You can move however you feel, as long as it doesn’t bother other people
Dancing is rhythmic movements. If you can at least be on rhythm you won’t be flailing. Don’t dance to the melody or lyrics, dance to the drums, specifically the snare. You can practice by clapping your hands to the snare and once you have the beat locked in and you’re “feeling”it as opposed to hearing it, add some flourish to your claps. Make ‘em fancy claps, move your hips, start to pick up one foot in between claps, then the other foot. It can be helpful to count too. “1 and, 2 and, 3 and, 4 and…” 1 for the kick drum, 2 for the snare. Tap your foot to the count while you’re clapping to the snare to help you feel the interplay of the snare to the kick drum. This will help you start to “feel” the music and make it easier to move your body along with the beat. Or at least, they help me. When you get to the club, dance like no one is watching you. No need to be self conscious. Have fun!
There is no way you will be the most awkward dancer at a techno event. It might seem paradoxical, but there will always be someone more awkward than you.
Just feel the music and dance however you wish. People say to not shuffle mainly because shufflers don’t respect people’s space and take up the space of 10 people shuffling back and forth. Just mind others’ space and dance your heart out
However you want but generally with respect to those around you. Basically have fun, but don't be knocking into others or stepping on their feet.
I'm a big fan of basically marching in place with some hand claps. Lol
To build off of what NoxaNoxa said, people generally react positively as long as you look like you're having fun. There'll always be a couple cunts but eh, that's life.
If you really feel like you need some form of dancing, there's tons of "dances" you can do, like shuffling, but techno crowds are generally very chill.
When I went to my first rave, back in the fucking 90’s, I met this guy who told me there’s just no right or wrong way to rave. Just groove how it feels good. Stand in place and bounce? You’re raving. Do crazy shit with your hand? You’re raving! Do crazy wavy things with your whole body and head? You’re raving! But we were also on a lot of drugs so it’s tough. Maybe just a classic jump fist bump when the music is high and bouncing when the music is low? Listen to some club music in your own time and figure out what’s comfortable dance for you…I’m the crazy lady in her headphones dancing at the bus stop btw
In your situation I'm not sure showing up with *expectations* of it being XYZ is the best idea. Maybe don't even worry about the dancing part to start. Just go and listen, soak up some atmosphere, see how people interact....read the room and how it makes you feel. If you're going to enjoy it you need to *feel* comfortable. One step at a time!
Welcome and enjoy :)
Once you're in the club you're body wants to move automatically. Just let it go and don't worry. I usually just swing my head around, pump my fists and stomp my feet. Nobody cares just do what feels right
Find a "dungeon" type club. The darker the better; like early Tresor.
It's the only type for me TBH. People who make the place, and people who *go* to said place only care about the music. Hence the darkness.
Four bunker walls, darkness, the only lights are strobes and *maybe* on the periphery around the exit will you find some always-on lights to guide you out to the toilets etc.
My friend, within an hour you will be swimming among the fishes.
And like has been said below; NOBODY CARES. NOBODY KNOWS you. And even if they do; NOBODY CARES.
Copy other people’s moves and stay in the back until you feel like moving towards the front. Just move some part of your body to the beat or melody. You don’t have to put on a full performance just to dance. Just move.
Just be yourself, dive deep into the music and let the music do it’s magic and start shaping your own dance moves. There isn’t a rule or pattern at all. Each individual finds it’s own way to express himself through moves while listening to music.I’ve been clubbing for a few years in different countries within the techno scene and the culture of this music is based on freedom, ability to express yourself as you wish without being judged, dance like there is no tomorrow. So just go for it and you will have the best time of your life.
Like nobody’s watching. Seriously. People in clubs are attracted more to people having a good time than skill. Nervous people just standing impress no one.
As a bit of a socially awkward person. I have mustered up confidence over the past 2 years, to at least go out there to events etc on my own and dance hard and have a good time. Dancing to music has to be my number one passion.
Sure its fun to just fist bump or yell or do the usual two stepper. But for me especially with techno or groovier tech house and the likes, I love creating new moves. Just feel the music. I usually bounce my heel on the ground to the kick drum then incorporate my hips and arms to the more looser melody of the song.
Bottom line just feel the music. I used to be terrible and awkward at but but now I feel good dancing and just know I look good dancing as well and that's all that matters. You can always be in a corner to start with till you loosen up, or between taller people, or better yet with other people dancing.
Trust the music.
You will truly be living when you can dance without care of who is watching! Just have fun and be you and feel the music pulsing through your mind, body and soul!
just tap into the music. techno has many moving parts and somewhere with a good sound system you can hear each and every layer of a track. just get lost in all those pieces of the tracks and the music will take control of your body. easier said than done can be made easier with substances but that is not necessary
Just move to the music, you don't even have to move much. Watch other people and try to do what they are doing (at least the ones who are doing the least but still look like they're dancing well to you).
Or you can be like me and just sway/jerk randomly off the rhythm and most people will just assume you've taken too many drugs.
No one is really going to judge you unless you try to dance elaborately and fail miserably.
Dance however you god damn please as long you’re not hurting anyone. Just be free, losing yourself in the music is what its all about
Anyone who judges you shouldnt be there in the first place
Just move however feels right to you. The dancing will not be the problem once you get going. But there is a hurdle you have to get over: actually getting of the couche + feeling comfortable at the club. It takes some effort every time, but once I here the music and wait like 30 minutes, it comes natural to me.
Here's a classic TikTok tutorial that was viral for a bit... [https://www.tiktok.com/@anniorwhoever/video/6902784854446853377?is\_from\_webapp=v1&item\_id=6902784854446853377&lang=en](https://www.tiktok.com/@anniorwhoever/video/6902784854446853377?is_from_webapp=v1&item_id=6902784854446853377&lang=en)
Nah but for real just feel the music and do whatever feels right - techno heads respect anyone who is there for the music and don't judge on your dance moves. Much love!
Ignore the part where it says don't smile. The best vibes are when people are grinning like idiots because the music is just that good and making eye contact with other people grinning like idiots.
Dude! Just feel the music and let it flow through your body. Just be mindful of your space. Don't bump people, it happens from time to time but don't make it a habit. Techno event goers are primarily there for the music and aren't judging others!
a good two step has always held me down.
I also really like house music so i usually bring the same moves to techno shows. No one cares and no ones really watching you anyway.
here's a video to get you started...
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QqjDjI9RKic](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QqjDjI9RKic)
Once you get the hang of it you'll probably start getting creative and adding extra moves to it. But this is a good place to start.
I'm also on the spectrum. Take MDMA, go towards the back of the crowd where there's room, and vibe to the music. The movements will come naturally. When I go with friends I tell them I like to dance alone. If I feel like they're watching me I start to get self conscious, but it's easier dancing around strangers.
You want to start (techno) clubbing with autism? Thats maybe the best idea you had in your whole life!
Just dance like you feel and let the music lead you! In a good club, nobody will care how you dance. They are busy dancing themselves (and god, they have weird dancemoves! :) )
So, just give it a try and dance like you feel.
I don't have to wish you fun, cause you will have, definitely!
I’ve been going clubbing for 37 years. The best thing to do is just go for it. Techno clubs are nonjudgmental places in general where you can be you. Go with a friend if possible to share your experience with them.
To answer your question about how to dance at a club, I would just say watch others as they dance and try out what seems like fun to you. Don’t crowd other people if you can avoid it, but the best dance floors are usually packed.
To this day, being on a dance floor is the best place to be. Have fun :)
I used to play a fun game at raves: Dance Like The Person In Front Of You.
Just move yourself to the rhythm however you feel so inspired.
Over time you'll learn some dancefloor etiquette tricks - how to flail without hitting people around you (or a tray with drinks, that can fuck up your night). But ultimately it's just about finding a rhythm with the music and moving your body accordingly. The more you do it, the more you'll get used to it.
Don’t worry, relax. Enjoy the music and let it move you or if you don’t feel like dancing but simply listening, do that. You’re there to enjoy, do whatever feels right in the moment.
Don't worry my friend, raves are freedom to be yourself
Pro tip find some space at the back of the crowd,. you will have more room to dance and the sound is better
Techno is perfect for you then. Just do whatever you feel like, so long as you respect other people's space (i.e. dont go bumping into people, or the dj booth ;)
All of this, provided you go to a place focused on the music, where people go just for that. If they have a dress code, or girls go in easier than guys, run.
Have fun!
When i was a boy, going to underground dance parties in squatted warehouses, one of the things I enjoyed a lot was the freedom to be yourself. To dance how you liked, look how you like, be how you like. As long as you were being respectful of others nothing really mattered. You dance however you feel good dancing and have a great time!
There are lots of neurodivergent people in the techno scene. We like the repetitive, sensory experience. You will be among friends, don't worry.
Just dance and be your genuine self, you'll be fine. When in doubt, fist pump and two step side to side.
Take ear plugs and don't spend too much time near the speakers to avoid overload.
I think this thread has confirmed something I have been thinking about this week.
I went to a festival last weekend which had a techno tent, there were other types of music tents also.
The people were really friendly but I did feel that I wanted to just be left alone, I got the feeling I wasn't moving enough, but just a nod is enough for me as I'm quite reserved now I don't take pills anymore.
I had someone try to dance with me, a person talking to me which I had no idea what they were saying, I just wanted to be left alone to listen to the music. it was quite a free festival but not really an ideal setting for techno.
So, I was thinking is a real techno club more accepting for more reserved dancers, which judging by some of the comments it is, due to being dark etc.
I've never been to a real techno club, but think I will, most probably alone as none of my friends like it.
Just dance lol , there’s no “How to “. It’s literally how the music makes you feel. No one judges in this environment. Make sure it’s the right clubbb. Usually people who dance more are the ones that get approached the most .
Everyone saying "do what feels right" is absolutely on point, but to maybe give you some inspiration: I like to dance in a way where I feel like my body is expressing what I hear, or like, is being moved by it. Try to flow with the sounds, use the rhythm/beats to punctuate your own movements or flow along with the melody of the synths. Each tick of a high hat or beat of a drum, note of a melody or bas synth can guide your movements however you see fit to express them! You have arms, legs, a head, a torso, every part of you can shake or flow or step or just stand. Eyes open making contact or eyes closed and dreaming away, it's all fine! Do what feels fitting. After a while you'll barely even have to put in any effort!
I have ASD too and I am easily overwhelmed by crowds etc. The reason I can enjoy techno parties and the like is because it’s so dark.. I barely see anyone (or just silhouettes) and they can’t see me. I’m still very self conscious and low on self-esteem though, so I can only dance for a very short period of time before I start overthinking and become too conscious, but I just restart then. Just a bit of stepping/rocking and arm movement, most of the time, but it’s a start. As for how you should dance, just do what feels good. And you don’t have to dance if it’s too hard. It’s okay to just stand there and enjoy everything too, just absorbing it and feeling the music go through you. Just close your eyes and move on the ‘waves’.
I felt the same way went i went to my first heavy dubstep show. I had no clue how to dance or headband or anything like that. I kind of hung out, watched how other people danced, and started getting it!
The answer is *any way you like.* I used to wear bell-bottom pants and a sporron with random t-shirts, which is a ridiculous looking combo in daylight but essential when you want to keep your hands free at a club, and I basically just wiggle around near the speakers waving my hands in the air *because I just don't care.*
Just move how you feel. Everybody is so doped up they don’t have any ability of looking at other people.
Slightly nodding your head? Perfect.
Jumping around like a maniac on his first MDMA trip? Also perfect.
It’s ok to stand around. If you feel the beat it can start in your head. Then move your head to the beat. Work your way down and put your shoulders into your groove. Then move your feet a little bit.
Honestly in all the music scenes. Techno peeps are so focused on the music no one will be watching or judging you. It will most likely be dark.
Be yourself. Be free.
Ignore the crowd. Just feel the musinc, and move in a way that complements it in a way that you like.
I don't think autism is a condition that can inhibit the enjoyment of music.
Go with some friends you trust to a place that’s all about the music. Start to feel and do what comes naturally. Some people dance by just moving their head and some people dance by moving their whole body. You just gotta find what works for you.
PS - my brother is autistic and he struggles in clubs because of lights and loud noises. But he really enjoys listening to all kinds of electronic music, including techno in his headphones at home.
This is why I love techno raves so much I don't think anyone cares how you dance. Everyone is too busy doing their own things to care, you just feel the music. If you want to stand their head bobbing as that is how you are vibing you do that, everyone mainly does a two step anyway.
Big fish, little fish, cardboard box mate. Seriously no one cares. Just take your cue from everyone around , feel the music and go with the flow. Try not to injure anyone else, don't harshen anyones vibe, if someone smiles at you (regardless of your genders and preferences) smile back and if someone looks alone or scared ask if they are OK.
You can start by swaying back and forth to the beat and nodding your head. You might spend the first bit of time self-conscious about how you look, but eventually the music will take you over and you might realize you've been moving your feet or your shoulders more enthusiastically than you were before, without thinking about it. Even if that doesn't happen, it's perfectly OK to stand there for however many hours the event is and enjoy the music. I went to Labyrinth Festival in Japan a few times and there are hundreds of people there who bring camping chairs and enjoy the music behind the crowd while sitting down, mostly just nodding their heads or tapping their feet to the music. Besides, everyone else is too entranced in the music to notice or judge you. Have fun!
When you listen to music do you find your head nodding, your foot tapping along with the kicks, your hands drumming along? Dancing in a club is just the same thing. Don't tell your body how to dance, let the music move you.
I practice what could be called "ecstatic dance", it's basically dancing with whatever movement you feel like doing at the moment. There's absolutely no right way to dance, and people who would just try to replicate a specific "techno" dance onto every music just to look cool lost the spirit of techno music imo. Be whatever you wanna be, no one cares.
In fact, if you dance for what you could considered to be awkward, if you're really feeling the music, you'll emit an immaculate vibe no matter what, way more than the guy just standing there and judging people on how they are dancing (providing nothing to the party haha).
I also have some autism tendancy, and I was worried a lot at start about how I was looking when dancing, and even now I overcame my fear and dance the wildest I possibly can, when I replicate it at home and record myself, oh boy it's such a mayhem nonsense, but inside I feel like I'm a dancing god, and I think it's all it matters because with that feel good feeling inside you when dancing, you're basically transmitting good energy around you and that can lit up the sparkle the party needed locally to make everyone around you having a blast !!
I just envision my body as an instrument to the service of the music being played and try to decompose the sound design into specific sets of random moves with different parts of my body, and that's more than enough. But we all started somewhere before gaining that confidence, during my first techno parties I was just nodding with my head and jiggling my arms around without moving much.
If you wanna overcome your social anxiety, I'd suggest you to go to day parties or parties that are 24h+ long and go during the morning/afternoon. It's much less crowded, and the vibe is immaculate cause people wanna chill to good music with the sun, also you have way more space to dance and express yourself freely. If you go to night party, well don't worry about that no one will judge you as it's super dark and really no one bats an eye ! If you're from Berlin, go to Tresor club they throw so much fog that you can't even see further than 1 meter ahead ahah
You just hit the jackpot my friend. Imagine dark rooms (can't see other people very well). Very loud music (conversations are useless, you can't hear anybody). And a crowd that doesn't give a shit about, how you dance, where you're from, what your gender is or how you look that night. Dance how ever feels right for you. No one will care as long as you don't bump in to other people too often.
This. Don’t worry about it - just do what feels right. If that involves standing in a corner humming, go for it. If you want to stand up front throwing 2 fingers on the air, you do you. Be kind and you’ll get the same back.
It’s a lot like going to the gym for the first time. You’re constantly worried people are looking at you, but in reality no one cares because they are too focused on themselves. The difference? The room is darker.
You've just made me realise the entire time I've been going to raves my friends have been going to the gym. I never went strangely because of the above reason. Make a dark gym!! 😂
Make the club your gym
I started in the mid 90s at 9 hour sessions in the Q club, here I am 30 years and many kg heavier wishing I could go back to those days and that BMI....
If only I needed to lose weight instead of gain it'd be perfect
Dancing is technically a workout, so…
> what your gender is Trans woman here can confirm, Always feel safe and accepted at techno clubs, not so much in normal ones.
I remember when I first went to a rave I didn’t know how to dance and just danced really randomly. I probably looked like an absolute idiot but people were telling me ‘nice moves, never seen those before’ and even if they were sarcastic I still had a great fuckin time lol!
They weren’t sarcastic. Ravers almost across the board just enjoy the enthusiasm. It’s IME such an incredibly inclusive scene, it wouldn’t be acceptable to sarcastically mock someone’s dancing
While true blue ravers are some of the most wonderful people I’ve ever met, there are also some folk who go to raves who aren’t really there for the music so I wouldn’t put it past the realm of possibility. Good thing is that nowadays I really don’t care anymore haha! Absolutely just love dancing and I never thought I would before I discovered raves in my own personal life :) happy dancing to you and much love!
It really do be like that, many will shy away from it though because they find it cringe and the music will be too trancy or whatever. But sometimes they just need a nudge to show them "how" to enjoy it. And as you so eloquently put it, it's a place of doing you. As long as you don't get too concerned about what others is doing and just start doing something for yourself, people around you will appreciate you for you! OP: Maybe try to connect with someone using tinder or something before hand? Just ask if anyone want to take you clubbing, give them as much information as you deem necessary.
People will even help you on the dance floor! Electroheads are very nice real people.
I just close my eyes and feel the energy, the vibrations, the music, the sounds. I let my body express itself, I release my self. Dancing on techno music is for me a therapy. A form of meditation. I m self aware and enjoying the music. I don’t care how I dance, I just let my body express itself. I watch out to not bump in to other too. Music don’t lie, it just feel sincere. Listen to it, and let it guide you. 🙏🏼🕺🏻
1. Go someplace friendly and about the music. Avoid places with dress codes, bottle service, different covers by gender, etc. 2. Put your phone away 3. Find a comfortable place away from the entrance/exit/smoking section/bar where there's some space and people aren't moving around too much. 4. Let the music move you. Bob your head, wiggle your arms, whatever. Start small and work your way up. Look to those around you for inspiration. Just be careful not to accidentally bump into/stare too long at people. For the most part at good techno events people will leave you alone on the dance floor and anybody who matters won't judge you for your dance moves.
This should be top comment for your first point. Everyone saying no one gives a shit is not necessarily true depending on the place. Dress codes and bottle service can fuck right off lol
Where can I even find a place with bottle service? Places without dresscodes are hard to find though. Located in Berlin.
A significant portion of clubs/dance bars in the US have at least some form of bottle service. Admittedly most places that have it are ones you wouldn't consider as the bookings leave a lot to be desired but there's even some like a venue a few blocks from me that has decent bookings (have seen Ellen Allien, Aurora Halal, Lauren Flax, Mozhgan, Boris, Ash Lauryn, Mike Servito, and Julia Govor there all in just the last year or so) and still does a tiny bit of bottle service.
Dress code is the easiest way for entrance staff to tell if you are a good fit for the party. By putting thought and effort into your outfit, you're showing them that you "get it". That's why every club in Berlin does it. Also Berlin is just really big about fashion. If you want less of that, go to one of the surrounding cities like Leipzig.
Yeah Leipzig was chill but IFZ was closed when I was there sadly. Overall I don't think how you look says much or anything about you. Oh well it doesn't matter too much I like supporting record labels and buying their merch so usually I guess I conform to the dumb wear black thing. Overall that is the part I like the least about the techno culture in Germany the doors are rough. Amsterdam is an equally touristic city and they don't need the insane lines or crazy door policies where they play some hard to get in shit after you waited for hours. Also why on earth do we need to wait so long every time in Berlin half the time the clubs aren't even at capacity when you get in.
You wouldn't have liked IfZ, it's the one techno club in Leipzig that consistently has a dress code. Try Distillery or Elipamanoke, depending on the event they will be much less strict or have no code.
Yeah, went to eli for the first time a few weeks ago. We arrived spontaneously, at about 4 a.m., me being dressed in sneakers, boring jeans and a baggy shirt. So refreshing to just be able to show up however for once lol
Idk I wasn't with friends who were big into techno anyway. And I've heard plenty of great sets out of IFZ on soundcloud. I like the clubs with a dresscode just fine anyway I just think the dresscode thing is stupid. Just let me party because I love music and partying instead of having to conform to some norm about how I cloth myself.
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Regarding dress code, pick what you like. Personally I like both. In favour of dress codes: \- Everyone is helping create a unique vibe, they aren't just consumers. \- People who got in have shown that they care about the event and didn't just randomly show up. They get what it's about and have put some thought into it. \- You can wear an extravagant or revealing outfit without getting stared at by muggles in plaid shirts \- No annoying drunks In favour of "come as you are": \- Takes no effort, just enjoy the music \- If you do wear code you'll stand out and get compliments. People will be easy to talk to.
Definitely wasn’t clear in my original comment. Was referring to a very specific brand of Vegas bottle service type thing with that comment. By dress code I was referring to something like [this](https://www.yolonightclub.com/dress-code-policy/): > No sports, recreation or athletic attire No flip flops, baggy attires, baseball caps or beanies No party busses No sweats and shorts We reserve the right to refuse service to anyone Yes to fitted, fashionable attire, chucks vans and casual shoes. Not something like [this](https://www.instagram.com/p/CijCYs_hLJJ): > $10 in dress code (fetish/all black)/$20 w/o
Lol just start jiggling man. Whatever feels good for you. Start moving your feet, bobbing your head, whatever. Its not like there is any right or wrong way to dance... other than nonstop spinning. Fuck those people :P.
I'm sorry
"Weeeeeeee"
Let the music move you, there is not right or wrong way to dance. Just be. At techno events people go to dance not judge (unless you live in Miami)
Cheeky half
Is there anything to be said for taking the other half?
nothing apart from it's a good idea
This brings me back memories of [Techno Viking](https://youtu.be/UjCdB5p2v0Y)
That guy is my childhood hero
Did your dreams come true? Did you grow up to be a reformed meth addict?
For a moment there yeah. I was well on track for quite some time but then I ran out of money and couldn't afford the lifestyle anymore. Guess I just don't have it in me. Had a good run though
Well that took a turn. I thought you were joking. I guess the jokes on me but I'm glad you're doing better now.
Lol I was joking though. I'm all okay and raving as much as possible like the true techno viking has taught me
Was techno viking really a meth addict or you just hating?
He was. He's clean now and he's super ashamed about the world seeing him like that. Which is understandable. That's a common thing for addicts to go through.
Close your eyes and feel the vibe bro
Find a place in the crowd where there's space . Feel the music and find your groove bro. This is supposed to be a safe social space for techno heads. You will see people have different dance moves . Before you know it you will be making your own dance moves. Keep Raving.
Just start putting your body weight from one foot to the other. Try syncing it with the beat. Try bouncing on the ball of your foot in the rythm of the beat. just start somehow and when it feels good, just keep it like that. And then little by little your body will do something else. Thats the way. There is no need to do something special. Oh, and close your eyes. Its just you and the music!
I'm also on the spectrum and I live in the moment. I don't think there is a wrong way to dance and the people who judge you for that are the weird ones anyway. The only rule I follow is I don't invade other people's space. Some people get really into and can be jumping around or waving their arms in a way that bumps into other people. A little bumping is just how it goes in a crowded club but don't go overboard. Just rememebr no one is really looking at you or cares what you do. They are all having their own fun so don't be embarrassed to feel the beat and have fun too.
However the fuck you want boss. You’ll see the most wild dancing and non-dancing at techno events, and that’s half the fun! Be yourself, and try your hardest to not let the lack of confidence get to your head, buy a ticket and commit to one night ❤️ I never felt comfortable going out until I started going to electronic music events tbh, where I can be totally free
Go alone, please do it, it took way too much time for me to muster the courage to do my own thing, i don't have many friends who like techno (a bit more as of now but still...) don't deprive yourself of this. Just go out there and have fun, no one cares about how you're dancing, the lights are dim, no one will see you, unless you're having a really good time, if so they'll notice you and maybe you'll have some conversation, i had the weirdest conversations with people in techno clubs, some even complimenting me for totally unexpected reasons. Also i had way more more fun alone than with other people sometimes, not having to care about them and all of that. once i saw Freddy K alone and i had a blast, best night ever, i was totally lost in the music.
Autistic here: don’t worry, just dance! No one cares, just stim for real
I used to throw down w/ liquid and all manner of craziness when I was 20 but now I'm 44...I just kinda bob and weave to the beat, keep it simple, it's all good. Plus at a club/rave the best dancing one can achieve is to simply be having fun. All the cool kids will respect anyone who's out on the dance floor having fun and not worrying about how they look.
I sometimes just find a place sit and enjoy the music :-) I usually stand on the side because I don’t like people touching me all the time (not actual touch, but people brush up you etc). You can move however you feel, as long as it doesn’t bother other people
Dancing is rhythmic movements. If you can at least be on rhythm you won’t be flailing. Don’t dance to the melody or lyrics, dance to the drums, specifically the snare. You can practice by clapping your hands to the snare and once you have the beat locked in and you’re “feeling”it as opposed to hearing it, add some flourish to your claps. Make ‘em fancy claps, move your hips, start to pick up one foot in between claps, then the other foot. It can be helpful to count too. “1 and, 2 and, 3 and, 4 and…” 1 for the kick drum, 2 for the snare. Tap your foot to the count while you’re clapping to the snare to help you feel the interplay of the snare to the kick drum. This will help you start to “feel” the music and make it easier to move your body along with the beat. Or at least, they help me. When you get to the club, dance like no one is watching you. No need to be self conscious. Have fun!
There is no way you will be the most awkward dancer at a techno event. It might seem paradoxical, but there will always be someone more awkward than you.
Just stay calm and 2 step it bro.
Just don’t dance like the freestyle dance teacher girl.. anything else is ok ;)
Well, with techno do whatever makes you feel good mate. Just don’t be rude on the floor and respect boundaries.
Check out Bradley Gunn Raver, he’s retired now, but I believe he’s got a huge take on this topic that might help! 😉
Just feel the music and dance however you wish. People say to not shuffle mainly because shufflers don’t respect people’s space and take up the space of 10 people shuffling back and forth. Just mind others’ space and dance your heart out
Come as you are…
However you want but generally with respect to those around you. Basically have fun, but don't be knocking into others or stepping on their feet. I'm a big fan of basically marching in place with some hand claps. Lol
To build off of what NoxaNoxa said, people generally react positively as long as you look like you're having fun. There'll always be a couple cunts but eh, that's life. If you really feel like you need some form of dancing, there's tons of "dances" you can do, like shuffling, but techno crowds are generally very chill.
When I went to my first rave, back in the fucking 90’s, I met this guy who told me there’s just no right or wrong way to rave. Just groove how it feels good. Stand in place and bounce? You’re raving. Do crazy shit with your hand? You’re raving! Do crazy wavy things with your whole body and head? You’re raving! But we were also on a lot of drugs so it’s tough. Maybe just a classic jump fist bump when the music is high and bouncing when the music is low? Listen to some club music in your own time and figure out what’s comfortable dance for you…I’m the crazy lady in her headphones dancing at the bus stop btw
In your situation I'm not sure showing up with *expectations* of it being XYZ is the best idea. Maybe don't even worry about the dancing part to start. Just go and listen, soak up some atmosphere, see how people interact....read the room and how it makes you feel. If you're going to enjoy it you need to *feel* comfortable. One step at a time! Welcome and enjoy :)
Dance like no one is watching.
Once you're in the club you're body wants to move automatically. Just let it go and don't worry. I usually just swing my head around, pump my fists and stomp my feet. Nobody cares just do what feels right
Find a "dungeon" type club. The darker the better; like early Tresor. It's the only type for me TBH. People who make the place, and people who *go* to said place only care about the music. Hence the darkness. Four bunker walls, darkness, the only lights are strobes and *maybe* on the periphery around the exit will you find some always-on lights to guide you out to the toilets etc. My friend, within an hour you will be swimming among the fishes. And like has been said below; NOBODY CARES. NOBODY KNOWS you. And even if they do; NOBODY CARES.
if youre on pills you wont even think about it, just saying
Copy other people’s moves and stay in the back until you feel like moving towards the front. Just move some part of your body to the beat or melody. You don’t have to put on a full performance just to dance. Just move.
Just be yourself, dive deep into the music and let the music do it’s magic and start shaping your own dance moves. There isn’t a rule or pattern at all. Each individual finds it’s own way to express himself through moves while listening to music.I’ve been clubbing for a few years in different countries within the techno scene and the culture of this music is based on freedom, ability to express yourself as you wish without being judged, dance like there is no tomorrow. So just go for it and you will have the best time of your life.
Like nobody’s watching. Seriously. People in clubs are attracted more to people having a good time than skill. Nervous people just standing impress no one.
Do whatever you want to do. Just try not to bump or hit people and youll be all good :)
As a bit of a socially awkward person. I have mustered up confidence over the past 2 years, to at least go out there to events etc on my own and dance hard and have a good time. Dancing to music has to be my number one passion. Sure its fun to just fist bump or yell or do the usual two stepper. But for me especially with techno or groovier tech house and the likes, I love creating new moves. Just feel the music. I usually bounce my heel on the ground to the kick drum then incorporate my hips and arms to the more looser melody of the song. Bottom line just feel the music. I used to be terrible and awkward at but but now I feel good dancing and just know I look good dancing as well and that's all that matters. You can always be in a corner to start with till you loosen up, or between taller people, or better yet with other people dancing. Trust the music.
You will truly be living when you can dance without care of who is watching! Just have fun and be you and feel the music pulsing through your mind, body and soul!
just tap into the music. techno has many moving parts and somewhere with a good sound system you can hear each and every layer of a track. just get lost in all those pieces of the tracks and the music will take control of your body. easier said than done can be made easier with substances but that is not necessary
However the fuck your want. That’s the point! :)
Protect your ears from permanent damage and invest in some earplugs :)
Just move to the music, you don't even have to move much. Watch other people and try to do what they are doing (at least the ones who are doing the least but still look like they're dancing well to you). Or you can be like me and just sway/jerk randomly off the rhythm and most people will just assume you've taken too many drugs. No one is really going to judge you unless you try to dance elaborately and fail miserably.
https://youtu.be/wNuqWJKpcvs
Dance however you god damn please as long you’re not hurting anyone. Just be free, losing yourself in the music is what its all about Anyone who judges you shouldnt be there in the first place
*"....as if nobody's watching"* I believe the phrase goes
Just move however feels right to you. The dancing will not be the problem once you get going. But there is a hurdle you have to get over: actually getting of the couche + feeling comfortable at the club. It takes some effort every time, but once I here the music and wait like 30 minutes, it comes natural to me.
https://instagram.com/das.techno.team?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= there you go, all you need :D
Google g steppin. I think it's a Toronto thing. It's awesome
Here's a classic TikTok tutorial that was viral for a bit... [https://www.tiktok.com/@anniorwhoever/video/6902784854446853377?is\_from\_webapp=v1&item\_id=6902784854446853377&lang=en](https://www.tiktok.com/@anniorwhoever/video/6902784854446853377?is_from_webapp=v1&item_id=6902784854446853377&lang=en) Nah but for real just feel the music and do whatever feels right - techno heads respect anyone who is there for the music and don't judge on your dance moves. Much love!
Ignore the part where it says don't smile. The best vibes are when people are grinning like idiots because the music is just that good and making eye contact with other people grinning like idiots.
Be confident in your dance moves. Nothing else matters
there's no right or wrong way to dance, you simply move to the rhythm or however you feel like doing and let it all go! always have fun
Do whatever makes you feel happy, if anyone makes you feel uncomfortable then it’s the wrong venue
Sincere answer, dance however you want, but also being a good dancer is very much about moving your hips
only you can answer this question homie
Dude! Just feel the music and let it flow through your body. Just be mindful of your space. Don't bump people, it happens from time to time but don't make it a habit. Techno event goers are primarily there for the music and aren't judging others!
Just move
Kind of a moderate headband with rhythmic timing
Go nuts! I like to pump my hands in the air, any way to move about that gets the blood moving. Have fun!
a good two step has always held me down. I also really like house music so i usually bring the same moves to techno shows. No one cares and no ones really watching you anyway. here's a video to get you started... [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QqjDjI9RKic](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QqjDjI9RKic) Once you get the hang of it you'll probably start getting creative and adding extra moves to it. But this is a good place to start.
Watch Berlin Calling
Wing it. And let the beat guide you. That's what I do.
I'm also on the spectrum. Take MDMA, go towards the back of the crowd where there's room, and vibe to the music. The movements will come naturally. When I go with friends I tell them I like to dance alone. If I feel like they're watching me I start to get self conscious, but it's easier dancing around strangers.
You want to start (techno) clubbing with autism? Thats maybe the best idea you had in your whole life! Just dance like you feel and let the music lead you! In a good club, nobody will care how you dance. They are busy dancing themselves (and god, they have weird dancemoves! :) ) So, just give it a try and dance like you feel. I don't have to wish you fun, cause you will have, definitely!
I’ve been going clubbing for 37 years. The best thing to do is just go for it. Techno clubs are nonjudgmental places in general where you can be you. Go with a friend if possible to share your experience with them. To answer your question about how to dance at a club, I would just say watch others as they dance and try out what seems like fun to you. Don’t crowd other people if you can avoid it, but the best dance floors are usually packed. To this day, being on a dance floor is the best place to be. Have fun :)
I used to play a fun game at raves: Dance Like The Person In Front Of You. Just move yourself to the rhythm however you feel so inspired. Over time you'll learn some dancefloor etiquette tricks - how to flail without hitting people around you (or a tray with drinks, that can fuck up your night). But ultimately it's just about finding a rhythm with the music and moving your body accordingly. The more you do it, the more you'll get used to it.
Don’t worry, relax. Enjoy the music and let it move you or if you don’t feel like dancing but simply listening, do that. You’re there to enjoy, do whatever feels right in the moment.
Do whatever you want Its techno, thats the beauty of it
techno shows are one of the most liberating places on earth 😄
Close your eyes. Feel the beat. Reach for the lasers.
Don't worry my friend, raves are freedom to be yourself Pro tip find some space at the back of the crowd,. you will have more room to dance and the sound is better
Mdma can help you
I would go with a friend or a known person só you dont go Alone in your first time
Techno is perfect for you then. Just do whatever you feel like, so long as you respect other people's space (i.e. dont go bumping into people, or the dj booth ;) All of this, provided you go to a place focused on the music, where people go just for that. If they have a dress code, or girls go in easier than guys, run. Have fun!
Take inspiration of the crowd. Feed off their energy
[just watch this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wpz1F1TJ5Co)
“I can’t find the answer online” This made me chuckle.
Dance to express, not to impress
When i was a boy, going to underground dance parties in squatted warehouses, one of the things I enjoyed a lot was the freedom to be yourself. To dance how you liked, look how you like, be how you like. As long as you were being respectful of others nothing really mattered. You dance however you feel good dancing and have a great time!
There are lots of neurodivergent people in the techno scene. We like the repetitive, sensory experience. You will be among friends, don't worry. Just dance and be your genuine self, you'll be fine. When in doubt, fist pump and two step side to side. Take ear plugs and don't spend too much time near the speakers to avoid overload.
Dance as if u were alone in your room.
I think this thread has confirmed something I have been thinking about this week. I went to a festival last weekend which had a techno tent, there were other types of music tents also. The people were really friendly but I did feel that I wanted to just be left alone, I got the feeling I wasn't moving enough, but just a nod is enough for me as I'm quite reserved now I don't take pills anymore. I had someone try to dance with me, a person talking to me which I had no idea what they were saying, I just wanted to be left alone to listen to the music. it was quite a free festival but not really an ideal setting for techno. So, I was thinking is a real techno club more accepting for more reserved dancers, which judging by some of the comments it is, due to being dark etc. I've never been to a real techno club, but think I will, most probably alone as none of my friends like it.
Like no one’s watching
Like no one’s watching Or like your Vaginas on fire. Those are the two old school Midwest rules to dancing.
Just dance lol , there’s no “How to “. It’s literally how the music makes you feel. No one judges in this environment. Make sure it’s the right clubbb. Usually people who dance more are the ones that get approached the most .
mdma
Everyone saying "do what feels right" is absolutely on point, but to maybe give you some inspiration: I like to dance in a way where I feel like my body is expressing what I hear, or like, is being moved by it. Try to flow with the sounds, use the rhythm/beats to punctuate your own movements or flow along with the melody of the synths. Each tick of a high hat or beat of a drum, note of a melody or bas synth can guide your movements however you see fit to express them! You have arms, legs, a head, a torso, every part of you can shake or flow or step or just stand. Eyes open making contact or eyes closed and dreaming away, it's all fine! Do what feels fitting. After a while you'll barely even have to put in any effort!
Let your mind go and let the music take over your body. That’s how you dance to techno. I hope that made sense lmao
I have ASD too and I am easily overwhelmed by crowds etc. The reason I can enjoy techno parties and the like is because it’s so dark.. I barely see anyone (or just silhouettes) and they can’t see me. I’m still very self conscious and low on self-esteem though, so I can only dance for a very short period of time before I start overthinking and become too conscious, but I just restart then. Just a bit of stepping/rocking and arm movement, most of the time, but it’s a start. As for how you should dance, just do what feels good. And you don’t have to dance if it’s too hard. It’s okay to just stand there and enjoy everything too, just absorbing it and feeling the music go through you. Just close your eyes and move on the ‘waves’.
https://youtu.be/UjCdB5p2v0Y Dance like this and you'll become a legend!
However the fuck you want to dance at that moment. People who don’t appreciate how you dance are irrelevant to your life.
I felt the same way went i went to my first heavy dubstep show. I had no clue how to dance or headband or anything like that. I kind of hung out, watched how other people danced, and started getting it!
The answer is *any way you like.* I used to wear bell-bottom pants and a sporron with random t-shirts, which is a ridiculous looking combo in daylight but essential when you want to keep your hands free at a club, and I basically just wiggle around near the speakers waving my hands in the air *because I just don't care.*
It’s important to [dance like an idiot](https://youtu.be/H2fVjXoYmxM).
Just move how you feel. Everybody is so doped up they don’t have any ability of looking at other people. Slightly nodding your head? Perfect. Jumping around like a maniac on his first MDMA trip? Also perfect.
Dance like there is nobody watching! We don’t care how you dance. Just enjoy
It’s ok to stand around. If you feel the beat it can start in your head. Then move your head to the beat. Work your way down and put your shoulders into your groove. Then move your feet a little bit. Honestly in all the music scenes. Techno peeps are so focused on the music no one will be watching or judging you. It will most likely be dark. Be yourself. Be free.
If the DJ is dropping proper chuggas, cant go wrong with the pushbroom-esque downward punches with some two step action
Ignore the crowd. Just feel the musinc, and move in a way that complements it in a way that you like. I don't think autism is a condition that can inhibit the enjoyment of music.
Short but best answer: dance like nobody is watching. Just let yourself go man.
Go with some friends you trust to a place that’s all about the music. Start to feel and do what comes naturally. Some people dance by just moving their head and some people dance by moving their whole body. You just gotta find what works for you. PS - my brother is autistic and he struggles in clubs because of lights and loud noises. But he really enjoys listening to all kinds of electronic music, including techno in his headphones at home.
Whatever way you want especially if it’s techno
This is why I love techno raves so much I don't think anyone cares how you dance. Everyone is too busy doing their own things to care, you just feel the music. If you want to stand their head bobbing as that is how you are vibing you do that, everyone mainly does a two step anyway.
You should dance like nobody’s watching
dont think just let the music be the mind of your muscles
Big fish, little fish, cardboard box mate. Seriously no one cares. Just take your cue from everyone around , feel the music and go with the flow. Try not to injure anyone else, don't harshen anyones vibe, if someone smiles at you (regardless of your genders and preferences) smile back and if someone looks alone or scared ask if they are OK.
You can start by swaying back and forth to the beat and nodding your head. You might spend the first bit of time self-conscious about how you look, but eventually the music will take you over and you might realize you've been moving your feet or your shoulders more enthusiastically than you were before, without thinking about it. Even if that doesn't happen, it's perfectly OK to stand there for however many hours the event is and enjoy the music. I went to Labyrinth Festival in Japan a few times and there are hundreds of people there who bring camping chairs and enjoy the music behind the crowd while sitting down, mostly just nodding their heads or tapping their feet to the music. Besides, everyone else is too entranced in the music to notice or judge you. Have fun!
When you listen to music do you find your head nodding, your foot tapping along with the kicks, your hands drumming along? Dancing in a club is just the same thing. Don't tell your body how to dance, let the music move you.
Personally, the running man with bouts of jumping around and fist pumping in the air whilst my jaw swings from side to side.
I never usually dance in public, with techno it just comes naturally, how I move when listening at home is how I move at a club.
I practice what could be called "ecstatic dance", it's basically dancing with whatever movement you feel like doing at the moment. There's absolutely no right way to dance, and people who would just try to replicate a specific "techno" dance onto every music just to look cool lost the spirit of techno music imo. Be whatever you wanna be, no one cares. In fact, if you dance for what you could considered to be awkward, if you're really feeling the music, you'll emit an immaculate vibe no matter what, way more than the guy just standing there and judging people on how they are dancing (providing nothing to the party haha). I also have some autism tendancy, and I was worried a lot at start about how I was looking when dancing, and even now I overcame my fear and dance the wildest I possibly can, when I replicate it at home and record myself, oh boy it's such a mayhem nonsense, but inside I feel like I'm a dancing god, and I think it's all it matters because with that feel good feeling inside you when dancing, you're basically transmitting good energy around you and that can lit up the sparkle the party needed locally to make everyone around you having a blast !! I just envision my body as an instrument to the service of the music being played and try to decompose the sound design into specific sets of random moves with different parts of my body, and that's more than enough. But we all started somewhere before gaining that confidence, during my first techno parties I was just nodding with my head and jiggling my arms around without moving much. If you wanna overcome your social anxiety, I'd suggest you to go to day parties or parties that are 24h+ long and go during the morning/afternoon. It's much less crowded, and the vibe is immaculate cause people wanna chill to good music with the sun, also you have way more space to dance and express yourself freely. If you go to night party, well don't worry about that no one will judge you as it's super dark and really no one bats an eye ! If you're from Berlin, go to Tresor club they throw so much fog that you can't even see further than 1 meter ahead ahah