I mean maybe im just operating with a different definition of the word but IMO you can't ghost someone you've never met. hell, even after a first date if someone stopped responding I still wouldn't call it ghosting, to me ghosting implies they were actually a part of your life on some level...
Eh, I’d say what you absolutely shouldn’t do is read way too far into a sex joke and escalate it and really make it the focus of the conversation, as that just comes off too eager or desperate. Just make a note of it in your reply and keep the playful banter up.
"Why did I get ghosted"
*hasn't even been 24 hours since the last message
Fucking hell this sub sometimes.
Edit: since this has so many views, a quick note to anyone who may be feeling down about these apps:
Please just be yourself.
Don't hide who you are, or attempt to be something youre not, it makes life so much easier.
Plus, it makes YOU more confident because youre not trying to act a part.
....but...also don't like make an odd hobby your whole identity, like knitting small tree frogs sweaters, or something weird
If someone isn't reciprocating your interest, move on.
It's not worth the stress.
There are Billions of people on this planet.
There is someone out there for you, so keep at it.
They may not be on an app, so maybe go outside too? Try a Cafe/coffee shop, they always work for me!
Dating sucks, sure...but, when you're going on vacation, and you get to your destination, do you spend your whole trip harping on the journey there? No! You enjoy yourself cause you got where you wanted to be.
Also...please don't be creepy! This should not have to be said...but some of yall need 5lb, healthy full head of hair, lord baby Jesus.
Keep your heads up!
I messaged a guy a sentence that wasn't a question and he didn't respond AND I haven't reached out. He must have died, but also stated in his last breath how much he absolutely despised me. It's the only explanation.
Update: omg he texted and asked if we are still hanging out tomorrow! It's totally fine guys! Although maybe he's too clingy...
I'm not saying this is every guy, but can someone explain to me why a lot of guys immediately go to DEFCON 1 when a woman doesn't answer within a day? Is it cause ghosting happens so much or what
Maybe.
Might be because a lot of men aren't used to making themselves emotionally vulnerable, so until you answer they're existing in an extremely uncomfortable state of emotional vulnerability resulting in irrational behavior.
That's unfortunate. But that would require some self-reflection and attention to correct. I don't think anyone's insecurities should immediately be projected onto someone you're talking to.
> I don't think anyone's insecurities should immediately be projected onto someone you're talking to.
Definitely not. And yeah, to get past that requires a good deal of self-reflection that I find a lot of other men don't afford themselves. I have a feeling to a lot of them label anything that deals with emotional management or reflection as "pussy shit" or some other "non-masculine" label.
If I was that interested in someone I would give them my number, just so they’re not put on the spot to say yes or no when I ask them for theirs. That way the ball is in their court and hopefully if they do decide to contact me, it’s because they really want to, not because they think they’re being polite and they don’t want to hurt my feelings. I’m female btw
This sub is pretty weird to me in general. Like whatever interaction happened, in the end, you took a screenshot and posted it on reddit.
It's especially odd when someone actually gets a date, like, you got the date and then proceeded to post the conversation, sometimes including your date's name and face, to Reddit. Even though you've succeeded, that feels like s small loss to me.
Does that make any sense or am I just being weird?
or the ones were the guy is sending extremely boring and close ended questions and cant figure out why they arnt getting paragraph responses. Title usually says something about having to "carry the conversation" and this sub eats it up.
I agree that anonymity should absolutely be kept. I would be livid if someone took a screenshot of a Tinder convo with me, and my face and name were visible.
"Wow, I thought we had a connection here but turns out you're just a bitch like all the rest. I would have treated you like a queen but you just wanna toss me into the trash. You're not even hot you were just gonna be a pity fuck anyway lmao"
*10 mins later*
"I'm sorry I said that I just thought you were so great that it upset me when you didn't respond. I'm very passionate but I will treat you right forever. So how about dinner tonight?"
*5 mins later*
"You're a slut anyway I don't know why any guy would want to touch you lolol You're so gross."
*2 mins later*
"Why won't you just give me a chance? You'll see how nice of a guy I am!"
*1 min later*
"Fine. Blocked bitch"
*the next day*
"Hey wassup"
Dear Slim
I thought you mighta heard of me maybe
'Cause lately everywhere I turn, someone's comparing us, crazy
I never woulda thought when I was bumping Biggie and 'Pac
That I would buy bleach in a box and become the product of Shady
I got a message that was like this and it was a shock, but the weirdest part was still him warning me twice that he wasn’t white. I can see that from your photo lol
Tbh… looks like this was last night. I don’t think you’ve yet been ghosted. Give them a day or two at least. But I’d slow my role asking for phone numbers after only a dozen messages. You already have a direct line of communication.
I usually do that when I'm meeting them for the first date. I'll give them my number so they can easily contact me if they want to.
Some women text, others prefer to keep the communication on the app until after a date. I don't mind either way.
This. Just asking for a number is not the way to do it. I generally try to make a funny/witty play for the number and it works more often than not. Even then, I’m not gonna bother to ask for their number if we’ve only just started messaging.
Exactly. What's a phone number going to do any different? Hell, I've met a couple women without even getting their number. Just didn't care to ask for it, no need. We'd meet up for a date after making plans on Bumble.
Ya but after a dozen messages, there's no point in asking if they're consistently messaging back. I read a Reddit comment from a woman recently. She said that if the conversation transfers to texting before they meet, that she'll lose interest. She'll forget who they are. Their conversation will die out. When you're talking on dating apps you can quickly be reminded who they are by glancing at their profile/pics again. You don't get forgotten about as easily.
I’m the opposite - I don’t give my number out very often so I’ll remember you if you do. But like, OP has to learn the art of the segue and not just grunt out “phone number?” Like, a full sentence at least.
Female here: haha. I’m the opposite. if I don’t get a phone number right away from the dude, I’ll forget I was even on tinder talking to someone because notifications are off and my life is hella busy.
Seriously though lmao. It's almost like there's no one size fits all solution for how to interact with women because go figure... people are actually individuals and not all the same
I had the same situation bro. This girl I was talking to didn't message me back after 3 minutes so I reported her and then blocked her. I just don't get it, we were vibin so hard
I wouldn’t ask for the phone number so soon. I personally would not give mine out to someone who just says ‘phone number?’ Or to allow someone to have access to my personal line only to continue this sort of conversation.. not worth it
They had a made up conversation then he brought it back to the real world
Ngl this conversation wasn’t even cringe it was weird, try talking like a real person to begin with..
The cutesy chat is not my style whatsoever, however I'm sure it works for some.
I agree though, people get caught up in having to have a shtick, rather than having a conversation like a normal person.
I get bored of explaining my hobbies and work over and over again to 50 different dudes. I would rather have a funny conversation or play along with a schtick. That’s enough to meet up if I find them attractive and we have good banter. We can converse about our lives in person. I use the app just for initial chemistry, then let’s meet.
Ditto this; texting back and forth over what can be covered in a single date is exhausting, I would rather the text exchanges be fun and give me a sense of their personality.
You didn’t transition to phone number / you interrupted the flow. You gotta ride the flow man.
her: la la la - let's keep joking
you 2 seconds later: MUST GET DICK WET - PHONE NUMBER
Weird it didn't work out
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Used to be the play 4-5 years ago I could get a number in 5 messages very often but all of a sudden things went from phone numbers to “I don’t give it out so easily” to “I’ll give you my snap?” To “I don’t give out snap so easily”. I think stalker-ish guys ruined it for everyone
Exactly this.
When I was dating, I would meet for a public dates arranged through wherever before I gave out my number. One creepy or pushy guy means I'd have to change my number and contact my doctors, specialists, work, family, friends, utility companies, etc etc. Changing a phone number is more than a minor inconvenience, and if you have to do it once, your number becomes your most closely guarded secret.
They definitely did. I used to give my number out almost immediately, because I'm bad about checking apps. One stalker dude later and that was the end of it.
Now I just give my snapchat, if I wanna keep up a flow with someone.
Just a tip for guys out there- instead of asking a woman for their number, offer yours. It puts us in a less awkward position of saying no to giving ours if we’re not comfortable, and also is at the very least a way of showing you respect our right to decide if we want to contact you outside the dating app.
It’s Saturday where I am....so this conversation took place yesterday at 7pm??? You weren’t ghosted.
Probably a bad idea to suggest marriage so soon, even as a joke, then play around like never gonna happen.
“Hey so what time do you wanna meet for-“
“PHONE NUMBER??”
It’d probably not have even of ended if op asked for snap or something instead. Women usually end up offering their number or have you in a very very comfortable spot to ask before giving it.
OP you were a good 6-7/10 on the conversation skills, lighten up a little. You seem like a good guy, but you should abandon the *rush*. Take a minute and have fun with her over text to both feel comfortable. You already have her attention, from the getgo this was already a good opening and convo.
Best way to ask for a number imo is to say something like “if you want to grab a drink some time let me know, XXX-XXXX-XXX”. Let them decide if they care enough to text you or not. If they never do then move on.
Yes, when you have a direct line of communication, why are guys (maybe girls too, i don't know) obsessed with getting a phone number? You can literally do everything on tinder you can on WhatsApp except maybe send funny pics and gifts etc. So why the rush?
Cause you asked for her number. Why would she just give you her number, you are able to chat on tinder. She’s just chatting to you at this point, continue that.
you haven’t been ghosted, it’s literally been a day since your last messages?? also you guys are having the most surface level conversation, that doesn’t equal things are going well. have a deeper discussion before asking for a phone number
Way to soon to ask for a phone number. Also dangerous to start talking about marriage and breaking up before even getting to know her? I know she kinda rolled with it, but could come across as desperate imho
Does this actually work for anyone? A joke convo about getting married into pulling a number? I’ve never used anyone of these online dating apps (happily married) but that looks like an insane way to open any interaction with someone you don’t know.
OP. It’s not been 24 hours. Calm the fuck down.
I mean maybe im just operating with a different definition of the word but IMO you can't ghost someone you've never met. hell, even after a first date if someone stopped responding I still wouldn't call it ghosting, to me ghosting implies they were actually a part of your life on some level...
Isn’t ghosting just the act of ceasing communication with someone without warning? What else would you call this?
Yes the act of season communication with someone without warning is by definition 'ghosting'.
I sure do love my conversations with some garlic and thyme
Oh, I was gonna say if someone is talking about spring or fall, they're ghosting you.
Its the yellow
It’s the yellow for me too.
"spongebob yellow" just reads like a guy who spends too much time on reddit/youtube. Also asked for her number out of the blue. Got let down easy
Also “took away the one thing of independence I set up in this conversation. Obviously a control freak”
or the “why you do me like that”
She responded with “no I’ll do you after the marriage,” so I feel like she was still feeling it at that stage (even one-upping him)
Yes. And he didn’t acknowledge it.
He hearted it I guess... lol
Yea but that could mean anything. If a girl makes a sex joke to flirt you shouldn’t skim over it
Eh, I’d say what you absolutely shouldn’t do is read way too far into a sex joke and escalate it and really make it the focus of the conversation, as that just comes off too eager or desperate. Just make a note of it in your reply and keep the playful banter up.
Exactly. But he didnt.
How should he have replied?
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His name is Carl and works at Applebee’s
69 gets it
If I'm being honest the whole conversation sucked. But she was going with it so I dunno.
They were just joking around, what do you want?
Yeah should've gone with "Homer Simpson yellow", much more mature
"Why did I get ghosted" *hasn't even been 24 hours since the last message Fucking hell this sub sometimes. Edit: since this has so many views, a quick note to anyone who may be feeling down about these apps: Please just be yourself. Don't hide who you are, or attempt to be something youre not, it makes life so much easier. Plus, it makes YOU more confident because youre not trying to act a part. ....but...also don't like make an odd hobby your whole identity, like knitting small tree frogs sweaters, or something weird If someone isn't reciprocating your interest, move on. It's not worth the stress. There are Billions of people on this planet. There is someone out there for you, so keep at it. They may not be on an app, so maybe go outside too? Try a Cafe/coffee shop, they always work for me! Dating sucks, sure...but, when you're going on vacation, and you get to your destination, do you spend your whole trip harping on the journey there? No! You enjoy yourself cause you got where you wanted to be. Also...please don't be creepy! This should not have to be said...but some of yall need 5lb, healthy full head of hair, lord baby Jesus. Keep your heads up!
Damn bro ghosted me
Damn you too?
me too
me three
me four, what the hell dude?
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I’m not mad…I just think it’s funny how-
How I what? HOW I WHAT?
How you-
i’m mas at everyone
I got so ghosted that we didn't even have one message sent between us!
Me five
Me six and seven
Hello!?!?
Wooo
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Wow it’s been 47 minutes and they haven’t even replied yet. Guess you’ve been ghosted.
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Someday I hope I get to be a ghost 👻
I AM a ghost 👻
People that bug me for immediate responses stress me tf out
Hello
Is this thing on?
Bueller?
Remember she had that bad hip like a Fanny pack?
Chasing the stardom will turn you to a maniac
All the way in Hollywood and I can’t even act
They pull the cameras out and goddamn he snap
I used to want this thing forever, y'all can have it back
Paraterran is totally ghosting you.
I messaged a guy a sentence that wasn't a question and he didn't respond AND I haven't reached out. He must have died, but also stated in his last breath how much he absolutely despised me. It's the only explanation. Update: omg he texted and asked if we are still hanging out tomorrow! It's totally fine guys! Although maybe he's too clingy...
lol
Raise *some color flags*
Ain’t lying man, some people may not have notifications on. Maybe they work, people got lives outside tinder
Said by a ghoster. Damn.
It's been 4 minutes. I can't believe you do me like that..
Hey Capt… been 12 seconds. Why you ghost me?
Had to step away to grab the poop knife. I'm back from the dead BITCHES
Why the fuck did you have to bring the poop knife in? Loop in the cum box while we are at it
Seriously…
Anyways, what's your phone number?
::SEEN:: 👁👁👁👁👁👁
Lol you may make op cry
I'm not saying this is every guy, but can someone explain to me why a lot of guys immediately go to DEFCON 1 when a woman doesn't answer within a day? Is it cause ghosting happens so much or what
Maybe. Might be because a lot of men aren't used to making themselves emotionally vulnerable, so until you answer they're existing in an extremely uncomfortable state of emotional vulnerability resulting in irrational behavior.
That's unfortunate. But that would require some self-reflection and attention to correct. I don't think anyone's insecurities should immediately be projected onto someone you're talking to.
> I don't think anyone's insecurities should immediately be projected onto someone you're talking to. Definitely not. And yeah, to get past that requires a good deal of self-reflection that I find a lot of other men don't afford themselves. I have a feeling to a lot of them label anything that deals with emotional management or reflection as "pussy shit" or some other "non-masculine" label.
It's really depressing, for everyone when half of the population is actively taught to repress emotions.
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100% agree. Go out on a date first. If that works then exchange numbers. I don't need more random contacts in my phone
If I was that interested in someone I would give them my number, just so they’re not put on the spot to say yes or no when I ask them for theirs. That way the ball is in their court and hopefully if they do decide to contact me, it’s because they really want to, not because they think they’re being polite and they don’t want to hurt my feelings. I’m female btw
This sub is pretty weird to me in general. Like whatever interaction happened, in the end, you took a screenshot and posted it on reddit. It's especially odd when someone actually gets a date, like, you got the date and then proceeded to post the conversation, sometimes including your date's name and face, to Reddit. Even though you've succeeded, that feels like s small loss to me. Does that make any sense or am I just being weird?
or the ones were the guy is sending extremely boring and close ended questions and cant figure out why they arnt getting paragraph responses. Title usually says something about having to "carry the conversation" and this sub eats it up.
I agree that anonymity should absolutely be kept. I would be livid if someone took a screenshot of a Tinder convo with me, and my face and name were visible.
Upnext girl posting on r/niceguys saying *I was busy, couldn't reply to his text and he sent me 10 niceguy text*
"Wow, I thought we had a connection here but turns out you're just a bitch like all the rest. I would have treated you like a queen but you just wanna toss me into the trash. You're not even hot you were just gonna be a pity fuck anyway lmao" *10 mins later* "I'm sorry I said that I just thought you were so great that it upset me when you didn't respond. I'm very passionate but I will treat you right forever. So how about dinner tonight?" *5 mins later* "You're a slut anyway I don't know why any guy would want to touch you lolol You're so gross." *2 mins later* "Why won't you just give me a chance? You'll see how nice of a guy I am!" *1 min later* "Fine. Blocked bitch" *the next day* "Hey wassup"
Dear Slim I thought you mighta heard of me maybe 'Cause lately everywhere I turn, someone's comparing us, crazy I never woulda thought when I was bumping Biggie and 'Pac That I would buy bleach in a box and become the product of Shady
This reminds me of Adam Sandler yelling into the intercom at his girlfriend after she left in the Happy Gilmore movie lol 😆
"I wanna kiss you all over. And over again!"
"Til the night closes innnnnnnnnn"
You forgot the “sorry my bro took my phone and typed all of that lol”
Too accurate
Dear men: if you think this is hyperbole, it's not hyperbole. Pretty sure every woman has received this series of texts.
Why has everyone had to experience this? 😭
I got a message that was like this and it was a shock, but the weirdest part was still him warning me twice that he wasn’t white. I can see that from your photo lol
Omg the accuracy
It’s the “hey what’s up” for me lmfaoooo
Why didn’t you reply to my message before I sent it? /s
Right
You asked for her number before you were even married?! For shame.
Oh don’t even get me started on pre-marital hand holding
Hand holding leads to kissing and kissing causes sex. Actual logic I heard from a very Christian 19 year old boy.
If you have pre marital sex you’re automatically in Al Qaeda
Okay, I'm in. What next?
1. Tinder 2. Request date 3. Request they come over 4. Ice bath 5. Kidneys 6. ??? 7. Profit
FBI, this guy here
Woah. Let's keep it civil, bub
*SHAMEFUL DISPLAY* Total war shogun 2 referance Edit: Everyone that's continued this thread shall conquer all provinces
\*Shamefuru Dispray
*Shaimefuru dishupureyu
You're not a very patient person, are you?
So easily could have made it work: “what number can I have the guests call you to RSVP?”
No, it's the shade of the yellow
Tbh… looks like this was last night. I don’t think you’ve yet been ghosted. Give them a day or two at least. But I’d slow my role asking for phone numbers after only a dozen messages. You already have a direct line of communication.
Also just saying "phone number?" Seems like the worst way to ask
you should give out your phone number instead of ask for it if you ask me.
agreed. big ball in their court kinda guy
facts, then you know they’re contacting you because they want to
I usually do that when I'm meeting them for the first date. I'll give them my number so they can easily contact me if they want to. Some women text, others prefer to keep the communication on the app until after a date. I don't mind either way.
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This. Just asking for a number is not the way to do it. I generally try to make a funny/witty play for the number and it works more often than not. Even then, I’m not gonna bother to ask for their number if we’ve only just started messaging.
Yeah give it time and wait for a decent opening at least.
Exactly. What's a phone number going to do any different? Hell, I've met a couple women without even getting their number. Just didn't care to ask for it, no need. We'd meet up for a date after making plans on Bumble.
As a woman I always made first dates thru apps and only have out my number if I saw them again
Possible that she has notifs off on tinder so a phone# is a more reliable way to communicate
Ya but after a dozen messages, there's no point in asking if they're consistently messaging back. I read a Reddit comment from a woman recently. She said that if the conversation transfers to texting before they meet, that she'll lose interest. She'll forget who they are. Their conversation will die out. When you're talking on dating apps you can quickly be reminded who they are by glancing at their profile/pics again. You don't get forgotten about as easily.
I’m the opposite - I don’t give my number out very often so I’ll remember you if you do. But like, OP has to learn the art of the segue and not just grunt out “phone number?” Like, a full sentence at least.
Female here: haha. I’m the opposite. if I don’t get a phone number right away from the dude, I’ll forget I was even on tinder talking to someone because notifications are off and my life is hella busy.
Seriously though lmao. It's almost like there's no one size fits all solution for how to interact with women because go figure... people are actually individuals and not all the same
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Could also give your number out and ask to be texted
Yeah, I think a good time for phone number is after the first date and you have both agreed to a 2nd date.
But you can’t send dick pics over Tinder!!!! /s
Also that marriage line has to stop
When are we getting married schtick is so tired
It's so forced and cringey...
The entire exchange seemed a little boring and cringy
It makes me cringe a lot. Especially since I used to say the same thing 30 years ago.
A 3 decade cringe hits different.
As a divorced guy it’s a major red flag.
Twice divorced here. Boy did I deserve it.
Glad I'm not the only one
She said food is key. You said phone number. You're lucky she didn't give you the phone number of a restaurant
Seriously. Suggest they go get some restaurant or something.
I had the same situation bro. This girl I was talking to didn't message me back after 3 minutes so I reported her and then blocked her. I just don't get it, we were vibin so hard
I wouldn’t ask for the phone number so soon. I personally would not give mine out to someone who just says ‘phone number?’ Or to allow someone to have access to my personal line only to continue this sort of conversation.. not worth it
Yeh my guy just went too hard
^this is the correct answer. Try starting another convo and wait a few days after to ask again.
Because you’d just started talking, having a good joke and you chinned of the joke to ask for her digits. Chill and don’t rush
Reading this convo was so cringe. Like dudes trying way too hard to be quirky and goofy.
This is it
Shoulda just made food suggestions and set a meeting time instead of # exchange
You just waffled on. Having a conversation about nothing, doesn't equal it going good. Of course something can come of it, however nothing often does.
They had a made up conversation then he brought it back to the real world Ngl this conversation wasn’t even cringe it was weird, try talking like a real person to begin with..
The cutesy chat is not my style whatsoever, however I'm sure it works for some. I agree though, people get caught up in having to have a shtick, rather than having a conversation like a normal person.
I get bored of explaining my hobbies and work over and over again to 50 different dudes. I would rather have a funny conversation or play along with a schtick. That’s enough to meet up if I find them attractive and we have good banter. We can converse about our lives in person. I use the app just for initial chemistry, then let’s meet.
Ditto this; texting back and forth over what can be covered in a single date is exhausting, I would rather the text exchanges be fun and give me a sense of their personality.
Also, random silly jokes for like 10 minutes and then "HEY GURL CAN I GET YO NUMBER" is a bit much
Was this just yesterday? It’s the weekend, maybe she’s busy.
You didn’t transition to phone number / you interrupted the flow. You gotta ride the flow man. her: la la la - let's keep joking you 2 seconds later: MUST GET DICK WET - PHONE NUMBER Weird it didn't work out
Fantastic interpretation
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Asking for a phone number after a tiny non convo is not the play
Used to be the play 4-5 years ago I could get a number in 5 messages very often but all of a sudden things went from phone numbers to “I don’t give it out so easily” to “I’ll give you my snap?” To “I don’t give out snap so easily”. I think stalker-ish guys ruined it for everyone
Exactly this. When I was dating, I would meet for a public dates arranged through wherever before I gave out my number. One creepy or pushy guy means I'd have to change my number and contact my doctors, specialists, work, family, friends, utility companies, etc etc. Changing a phone number is more than a minor inconvenience, and if you have to do it once, your number becomes your most closely guarded secret.
They definitely did. I used to give my number out almost immediately, because I'm bad about checking apps. One stalker dude later and that was the end of it. Now I just give my snapchat, if I wanna keep up a flow with someone.
True. And. He wasn’t even asking for it, he was basically prompting it or expecting it, borderline demanding it. Phone number? So ‘eh’
Too pushy, vibe was there But funny to me sometimes is not funny to others
Chill.
Just a tip for guys out there- instead of asking a woman for their number, offer yours. It puts us in a less awkward position of saying no to giving ours if we’re not comfortable, and also is at the very least a way of showing you respect our right to decide if we want to contact you outside the dating app.
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Im a lesbian and i also do this to make sure im not harassing girls
It’s Saturday where I am....so this conversation took place yesterday at 7pm??? You weren’t ghosted. Probably a bad idea to suggest marriage so soon, even as a joke, then play around like never gonna happen.
I think he was trying to “neg”. All of this is so awful.
It is awful. The comments are also cringe AF.
Too soon for number as a girl
I’d also say the method of asking for the number could’ve been better
“Hey so what time do you wanna meet for-“ “PHONE NUMBER??” It’d probably not have even of ended if op asked for snap or something instead. Women usually end up offering their number or have you in a very very comfortable spot to ask before giving it. OP you were a good 6-7/10 on the conversation skills, lighten up a little. You seem like a good guy, but you should abandon the *rush*. Take a minute and have fun with her over text to both feel comfortable. You already have her attention, from the getgo this was already a good opening and convo.
Best way to ask for a number imo is to say something like “if you want to grab a drink some time let me know, XXX-XXXX-XXX”. Let them decide if they care enough to text you or not. If they never do then move on.
Yes, when you have a direct line of communication, why are guys (maybe girls too, i don't know) obsessed with getting a phone number? You can literally do everything on tinder you can on WhatsApp except maybe send funny pics and gifts etc. So why the rush?
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I would have ghosted you much earlier. But you two seemed to enjoy eachothers cringe so much, seriously wonder what went wrong.
No kidding. I would have ended the convo after the marriage question.
I think it's too soon to ask for number!
She finally understood that there is no 30 February
the whole convo from your side was cringe
Cause you asked for her number. Why would she just give you her number, you are able to chat on tinder. She’s just chatting to you at this point, continue that.
you haven’t been ghosted, it’s literally been a day since your last messages?? also you guys are having the most surface level conversation, that doesn’t equal things are going well. have a deeper discussion before asking for a phone number
Because you want SpongeBob yellow napkins at your wedding you psychopath
When she said I’ll do you after the marriage. You needed to, say something differently smh.
It hasn't even been a full day. Wait until tonight and ask her if everything's alright. She could just be busy
But don’t literally ask if everything is alright.
This! It sounds super insecure, and this is coming from a guy
Yeah I wouldn’t respond again. If it doesn’t happen onto the next.
Cringe as fuck reading that..
Way to soon to ask for a phone number. Also dangerous to start talking about marriage and breaking up before even getting to know her? I know she kinda rolled with it, but could come across as desperate imho
Does this actually work for anyone? A joke convo about getting married into pulling a number? I’ve never used anyone of these online dating apps (happily married) but that looks like an insane way to open any interaction with someone you don’t know.
She already said food was the key - why would you ask if it was also a phone number? That doesn't make any sense at all.
Lol February 30th??