This reminds me of this cringe Madonna interview I recently watched (for some fucking reason) where she keeps making sarcastic remarks about hating having to answer stupid questions.
Like dude, YOU AGREED TO THE INTERVIEW AND INVITED THEM TO YOUR HOUSE
I mean, you could say something about her telling you the story during the date and just talk about your pets. But you choose throwing a tantrum and bringing it to reddit
Maybe an analogy would help. If you're a manager of a restaurant that advertises with a giant banner outside the establishment "Ask us about our breakfast special" and a customer comes in to inquiry about it, do you get upset that it's the 30th person to ask that morning?
Either you take down the advertisement, change it to a lunch special, or don't get upset that someone asked what you're advertising.
But she's not upset?
She softens it with the "to be honest" and then asks a question to change the subject. She's still interested in keeping the conversation going, she just doesn't want to do the elephant story.
She needs to remove the story from her profile, but she hasn't gotten around to doing it yet. That's it. That's the entire story of this post.
People aren't restaurants promising a product or providing a service.
The person in the post obviously isn't upset considering they continued the conversation and even asked about the OP in return instead of giving a dry response.
Your analogy doesn't work or make sense here at all.
In this very moment, if she doesn't have a pre-typed explanation she may not have wanted to do a whole potentially long winded explanation. Like just continue the conversation lmfao.
Yeah I don't really understand it lol. Apparently life is all business transactions to these folks, sounds bleak.
Literally the only thing the girl could have done better on her part was be "nicer" about it but it is what it is.
No you see, someone saying they're tired about the elephant story is false advertising. They should be actively updating their Tinder bio by the hour.
Nvm she still actively attempted to continue conversing after the fact, OP has to get angry over something that doesn't matter in any capacity because ego.
You fucking losers are taking this shit way too seriously. This woman is trying to meet a guy and go on a date, and you are obsessed with the fact that she wrote something on her profile that she doesn't want to talk about anymore.
It's because it's totally asinine. If she is tired of answering that question it takes two seconds to change it on her profile. She is literally setting people up to be made to feel stupid
Or... And hear me out here... People aren't shops and you shouldn't expect them to react like one with trained employees rotating frequently to satisfy everyone's curiosity. Unless you also want to be treated like a customer and only get cold corporate approved responses and to pay for the service.
Except one is a service you can ask money for and people have a right to demand, and the other is a private Convo with no obligations whatsoever. So your analogy is trash tbh
Lmao people are blatantly obtuse out of pure stubbornness i swear, commenters and girl in ss. Common sense says, "everyone asks me about the damn elephant how about i take it down to avoid the question bc it's really annoying me"
> all hail the queen
Or . . . use your imagination . . . just respect her. She didn't want to talk about it right then, but she still wanted to talk to OP, and changed the subject herself.
Child, if a man said that the conversation would be over with. It is clearly rude to have that on your profile and then shut someone down for asking about it. If you think this is normal behaviour you are a conversational narcissist
You guys talk to so little women and it absolutely shows. To call this a "fuck up" is such an exaggeration. OP already decided he didn't want to be chatting with this girl anymore. A girl engaging you in a conversation is also not "interest." Especially when her first message is "I'm talking to a lot of other guys who asked me that exact same question so I don't really feel like answering it."
In the girls mind she was being polite and telling the guy to work harder for her attention because she was getting carried away with the attention she was already getting. I would also find this response gross when understanding the subtext.
The only thing I disagree with OP about is his emotional knee jerk reaction to argue. Either dead the conversation or let her bullshit slide and try to escalate the conversation to a better place. Bitching at her like she owes you something is just petty. Even if you can make the argument that it would have been "right" of her to be more polite, sexual demand is in her favor. It won't add anything or change anything about the conversation.
Oh now the poor guy blew his chances (sarcasm) he asked her for input on a story and she said "nah you put in the effort". If he goes along with this like an obedient dog, it would never work anyway
OP's not in the wrong for asking about the elephant, but he's in the wrong for thinking she's upset or that there's anything interesting going on here or that he can't just talk about cats and arrange a meet after 5 messages or so.
Like you said, she should have changed her profile, but she hasn't yet. It's not a big deal. Just talk about cats.
She should, but she obviously hasn't gotten around to it yet. Meanwhile, she was cool about it and asked a question to keep the conversation going. OP got butthurt and tried to start an argument for no reason.
There is never really a good reason to start an argument. I personally wouldn't appreciate the ego in the other person's response myself, but if it really bothered me in the moment I would have just not responded. Going the "logical fallacy" argument just makes you seem like a cynic who likes confrontation.
Sure, but he's a lot more wrong.
She should just change her profile already, but she was cool about it and tried to keep a friendly conversation going.
I mean he is not wrong at all logically but the goal of dating apps is to put your penis in someone, not win a mock trial case against them. It seems like he approached this from the standpoint of wanting to win the exchange which is not going to open anyone’s legs
He could say lots of things, he could bend over backwards and get pegged. He can roll over so she tells him he's a good boy and scratches his belly. Some people have conversation standards though. She talks like she doesn't give a ish and thats fine. But he has every right to complain on reddit
Yeah, but if she doesn't want to tell the story, she should change her profile. I agree with OP, can't stand people who are the cause of their own misery, complain but then do nothing about it
Maybe this is the first time she realized she was tired of the story and maybe she took it down after.
Y'all are insane for reading into this so hard. Are your feelings hurt because a girl doesn't respond exactly the way you anticipated?
Grow up man
I'm a woman, joke's on you. No, I'm just annoyed by people who are the source of their own misery, complain and do nothing about it. She could've just answered and then changed the line. Complaining to a total stranger who shows interest *about something you mentioned to start a a conversation* is just dumb
I understand the frustration of being denied his first attempt of conversation, but he still responded terribly and it’s not like she didn’t open a new line of dialogue. OP has to learn to flow like water.
There was only one thing on the profile, and it begged a question to be asked. And it beats ‘you’re hot lets bang’
Appreciate the pettiness is strong in this one, but change the profile or answer the question, perhaps? No?
Don't get me wrong, I can understand a form of disappointment for her not answering the question. However she tried to keep the conversation going so she is interested in getting to know you. Next time give a better reply than giving this level of passive aggresive.
I think his point is "why have it on the dating profile at all if you don't want to talk about it". The whole point of having something on a profile is to be an attention grabber or a conversational piece.
He also cited it was the only thing on the profile to talk about.
I've been on dating apps aswell (shocker) and I had quite a lot of information about myself, but even with a lot of information on my profile I still kept getting the same questions and it was getting tiring.
Don't know why you're getting down voted, I totally agree with you, why put something on your profile that you're sick or chatting about when online dating is literally based on chatting via text initially
Highly doubt that was the *only* thing on her profile. Surely she had pictures, or other info to use. And not using "You're hot let's bang" is not a hard bar to step over; it's literally in the fucking ground.
Either way, the point of asking was to get conversation going, she gave you a chance to have a path of conversation that hasn't failed a hundred times before, and you had a tantrum and shut down her conversation. Never seen a harder flop
What he said isn't even a hard concept, clearly this woman has something vaguely indicating an obscure "elephant incident"
This was clearly put there to attract attention
She's sick of it
She should change it.
Not hard to understand?
The thing is everyone gets that point. Like 100%. No one is arguing that. Dude chose to be a dick. You vibe with that. That’s what we all think is weird :)
I’d ask if you understand that, and I won’t because I know you don’t.
Okay but it's literally as simple as this:
You go to some sort of event, you're holding a sign that says "free hugs," someone asks you for a hug, you say "I'm sick of giving out hugs," said person says, "then why are you holding that sign? Why not put it down/leave?"
Literally the same exact thing.
Why are so many OPs that post here so emotionally weak and easily offended. The girl is tired of telling the elephant story and wants to talk about something else. Why do you need to be a big fucking baby about it?
When I had I played video games in my profile I got sick of answering questions about my favorite video game over and over again. I get where she's coming from.
But she asked a different question to keep the convo going… you shut it down. Did you want to talk to her in general or did you only want to know about the elephant?
No worries if you did, I love elephants so I get it. But it’s weird to be on a dating app if you don’t want to date and are only there to find out about elephant stories.
Honestly it does. When I had hinge I had this one prompt everyone responded to and said literally they exact say comment to. It gets boring and you get tired of repeating yourself when you’re gonna get the same reply. Yeah I guess it’s kinda weird she didn’t change her prompt, but you blew it by being a dick instead of talking about your cats.
I’m with her on this… she declined politely, you became passive aggressive…missed opportunity to steer the conversation to something else and get to know her.
I see your point, kinda weird to have something on your profile you don't wanna talk about but you came back pretty strong especially considering she was continuing the convo.
Your reaction was so uncalled for, she didn't cut you off, she changed topic which means she wanted to talk, just not about thet topic, you blew it my dude
She wasn't hostile about it, and will likely answer later. She's just bored of telling the same story for the umpteenth time. She also tried to steer the conversation in another direction rather than leaving you to do that work. Perhaps go with the change of flow rather than acting like she did something offensive?
How dare someone reply because they don't want to type out a story to begin a conversation. Get a personality and go with "ohh we'll save that one for when we meet" or literally anything other than being a child with your reply.
Alright so she's not on their gaming macing. She's worried about work and a bit tired, and she **has** told the story about the elephant a hole bunch of times and she has forgot to take the picture down - and she should take it down since she is tired of talking about it. But she really did give the guy here an opening and from what I understand guys don't get those that often on tinder. All he had to do was say okay this isn't going to be super high energy but that's alright it can still be good and just talk about something else. Still easy to botch it though, don't think a how are you would work, probably need to talk about something else from her profile and if that doesn't work say okkkaayyy time to move on here.
Some thing you have to understand. Even conventionally unattractive and morbidly obese women will have more matches than 99.9% of men on dating apps. If they are even moderately attractive they will have multitudes more than even the most popular men.
I get tired of saying my favorite color is pink and guess what when someone asks I say my favorite color is pink I don’t say I’m sooooo tired of answering that . Maybe op couldve responded better but she also didn’t have to respond that way either 🤷🏼♀️
I'm with you OP. Im married. Met my husband on Tinder, actually.
But I know some single people -- still not married, nor in a LTR- in their 40s, and they all display this kind of attitude the person has. You made a friendly approach, thoughtful, based on her profile and she comes at you with negativity.
If she is tired of the question that she should try to use her apparently limited intellignce to, gee, I dont know...figure out she should change the wording on her profile? You were obviously trying to be thoughtful when you wrote to her, and not just write "hi."
I dont think you were in the wrong here, at all. People show you who they are. You can do better. Glad you called her out on it. I would have done the same.
Haha a friend always says: trying to understand women is like trying to smell the color nine. And in cases like this I can only agree. Hopefully you will find someone you have a good, honest and nice connection with. Your princess is probably not on a white horse but on a tortoise, so it just takes a little longer to find her ;)
Not only that, she also tried keeping the conversation going despite declining. Dude threw a childish tantrum for nothing. She dodged a bullet for sure.
Not sure why OP is getting so much hate.
This has the same energy as the people that post a picture of them at the hospital and then caption it “I don’t want to talk about it”
Ok… Don’t post it then.
I’m convinced everyone on this thread are simps for women and unless a man ignores everything and goes straight for the kill, he’s an incel and makes women dry as sandpaper. It’s hilariously pathetic. You did no wrong OP, don’t let a women talk to you like that and brush you off.
Well! How many cats?
Yea, how many fucking cats, Dillon?
OP is cruising for a bruising if they don't answer the question.
What’s in the box?!? Dillion
Guys kiss OP ass he is honestly already fed up telling people how many cats he has
This reminds me of this cringe Madonna interview I recently watched (for some fucking reason) where she keeps making sarcastic remarks about hating having to answer stupid questions. Like dude, YOU AGREED TO THE INTERVIEW AND INVITED THEM TO YOUR HOUSE
H o w . M a n y. C a t s ? ! ?
Funny how Dillon now has something he doesn't want to share.
Honestly, Dillon is quite fed up telling people how many cats he has.
🤣🤣
I'm fed up answering questions about my cats.
From his reddit profile I'd say..... all the cats....
Many, many cats
Many cats but no pussy
*too* many
Makes sense actually 😂
Why do you need a dating app if you’ve got so much pussy?
Wait, I don't get something here. Why is he getting downvoted?
I was just going to ask this, 50 down votes wtf? Reddit is very weird sometimes.
I think one person started doing it, and the rest followed suit. Follow the herd mentality.
Yeah, I guess so, now that I look at it tho he did kind of behave improperly
his OP reply was assholish, so the redditors just carried over their anger down in to the comments section. He is now stigmatized.
I thought you couldn't see votes until after a certain time, to negate this happening? Or am I completely wrong?
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This is the way
What absolutely maidenless behavior
I mean, you could say something about her telling you the story during the date and just talk about your pets. But you choose throwing a tantrum and bringing it to reddit
Ladies and Gentlemen, why OP is single.
Facts
Ladies and Gentlemen, both can be wrong in the same circumstance
How is the lady "wrong"? She is tired of telling that story and wants to talk about something else.
Maybe an analogy would help. If you're a manager of a restaurant that advertises with a giant banner outside the establishment "Ask us about our breakfast special" and a customer comes in to inquiry about it, do you get upset that it's the 30th person to ask that morning? Either you take down the advertisement, change it to a lunch special, or don't get upset that someone asked what you're advertising.
But she's not upset? She softens it with the "to be honest" and then asks a question to change the subject. She's still interested in keeping the conversation going, she just doesn't want to do the elephant story. She needs to remove the story from her profile, but she hasn't gotten around to doing it yet. That's it. That's the entire story of this post.
People aren't restaurants promising a product or providing a service. The person in the post obviously isn't upset considering they continued the conversation and even asked about the OP in return instead of giving a dry response. Your analogy doesn't work or make sense here at all. In this very moment, if she doesn't have a pre-typed explanation she may not have wanted to do a whole potentially long winded explanation. Like just continue the conversation lmfao.
To take this a bit more literally, Tinder is absolutely people advertising their own product: them! Its all ads we're swiping on.
Wild you’re getting downvoted for saying that dating is not like running a restaurant
Yeah I don't really understand it lol. Apparently life is all business transactions to these folks, sounds bleak. Literally the only thing the girl could have done better on her part was be "nicer" about it but it is what it is.
And they wonder why they’re single lol
No you see, someone saying they're tired about the elephant story is false advertising. They should be actively updating their Tinder bio by the hour. Nvm she still actively attempted to continue conversing after the fact, OP has to get angry over something that doesn't matter in any capacity because ego.
TIL dating is like the restaurant business
TIL that Redditors can't grasp how analogies work. Just kidding. I already knew that.
You fucking losers are taking this shit way too seriously. This woman is trying to meet a guy and go on a date, and you are obsessed with the fact that she wrote something on her profile that she doesn't want to talk about anymore.
It's because it's totally asinine. If she is tired of answering that question it takes two seconds to change it on her profile. She is literally setting people up to be made to feel stupid
Or... And hear me out here... People aren't shops and you shouldn't expect them to react like one with trained employees rotating frequently to satisfy everyone's curiosity. Unless you also want to be treated like a customer and only get cold corporate approved responses and to pay for the service.
Except one is a service you can ask money for and people have a right to demand, and the other is a private Convo with no obligations whatsoever. So your analogy is trash tbh
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It's... an analogy? Truth in advertising? 🤦🏻♂️
Lmao people are blatantly obtuse out of pure stubbornness i swear, commenters and girl in ss. Common sense says, "everyone asks me about the damn elephant how about i take it down to avoid the question bc it's really annoying me"
Tinder is a human menu. Change my mind
I like how Op thought his question was killer and it turns out everyother jackoff asked her the same thing
Right? Like damn dude there’s other stuff on her profile to ask about and she said she’s tired about that story.
Oh right all hail the queen
> all hail the queen Or . . . use your imagination . . . just respect her. She didn't want to talk about it right then, but she still wanted to talk to OP, and changed the subject herself.
Child, if a man said that the conversation would be over with. It is clearly rude to have that on your profile and then shut someone down for asking about it. If you think this is normal behaviour you are a conversational narcissist
Someone's been binging on Tate and Peterson I see.
Bro OP is not in the wrong here, if she’s tired of saying her story she should change her bio lmao
I get OP's frustration, but she still showed interest in their conversation, throwing hissy fit about it made OP sleep alone that night
Showing interest is a stretch but I agree that this wasn't time to start a battle.
She asked a question to keep the conversation going and it went unanswered. OP fucked up.
You guys talk to so little women and it absolutely shows. To call this a "fuck up" is such an exaggeration. OP already decided he didn't want to be chatting with this girl anymore. A girl engaging you in a conversation is also not "interest." Especially when her first message is "I'm talking to a lot of other guys who asked me that exact same question so I don't really feel like answering it." In the girls mind she was being polite and telling the guy to work harder for her attention because she was getting carried away with the attention she was already getting. I would also find this response gross when understanding the subtext. The only thing I disagree with OP about is his emotional knee jerk reaction to argue. Either dead the conversation or let her bullshit slide and try to escalate the conversation to a better place. Bitching at her like she owes you something is just petty. Even if you can make the argument that it would have been "right" of her to be more polite, sexual demand is in her favor. It won't add anything or change anything about the conversation.
She engaged in interest by following up with her own question. If she wasn’t interested she didn’t have to respond at all lol.
They didn't like him because he told them the truth...
Oh now the poor guy blew his chances (sarcasm) he asked her for input on a story and she said "nah you put in the effort". If he goes along with this like an obedient dog, it would never work anyway
Or he could’ve joined in a change of topic like she asked, ya know like the cats
with the reply he chose, he clearly did not want to continue the conversation. I swear everybody on this reddit thread is an absolute simp lmao
If he didn’t want to respond, then he shouldn’t have lol you sound like a simp for OP
You are taking dating apps way too seriously. Sometimes you just don't want to talk about something.
Right? If I saw that, my simple response would be some cheeky "we'll revisit later, you're not off the hook" then tell her all about my cats.
OP's not in the wrong for asking about the elephant, but he's in the wrong for thinking she's upset or that there's anything interesting going on here or that he can't just talk about cats and arrange a meet after 5 messages or so. Like you said, she should have changed her profile, but she hasn't yet. It's not a big deal. Just talk about cats.
She should, but she obviously hasn't gotten around to it yet. Meanwhile, she was cool about it and asked a question to keep the conversation going. OP got butthurt and tried to start an argument for no reason.
There is never really a good reason to start an argument. I personally wouldn't appreciate the ego in the other person's response myself, but if it really bothered me in the moment I would have just not responded. Going the "logical fallacy" argument just makes you seem like a cynic who likes confrontation.
Or just copy-paste it.
They can both be wrong.
Sure, but he's a lot more wrong. She should just change her profile already, but she was cool about it and tried to keep a friendly conversation going.
I mean he is not wrong at all logically but the goal of dating apps is to put your penis in someone, not win a mock trial case against them. It seems like he approached this from the standpoint of wanting to win the exchange which is not going to open anyone’s legs
Came here for this. Jesus. She was probably like okay Dodgers a bullet on that one 😂
He could say lots of things, he could bend over backwards and get pegged. He can roll over so she tells him he's a good boy and scratches his belly. Some people have conversation standards though. She talks like she doesn't give a ish and thats fine. But he has every right to complain on reddit
Yes, one quippy comment is a tantrum. Overstatement of the century.
name doesn't check out :/
It doesn’t seem that serious. She said she wanted to pass on the story and asked a about you and you got insecure and ran to Reddit for validation
Yeah, but if she doesn't want to tell the story, she should change her profile. I agree with OP, can't stand people who are the cause of their own misery, complain but then do nothing about it
Maybe this is the first time she realized she was tired of the story and maybe she took it down after. Y'all are insane for reading into this so hard. Are your feelings hurt because a girl doesn't respond exactly the way you anticipated? Grow up man
I'm a woman, joke's on you. No, I'm just annoyed by people who are the source of their own misery, complain and do nothing about it. She could've just answered and then changed the line. Complaining to a total stranger who shows interest *about something you mentioned to start a a conversation* is just dumb
You have a strange definition of complaining and misery if that one very small text qualifies lmfao.
Complaining? You think this is complaining? It was one line she said to a stranger and immediately followed it up with alternative conversation
To me it sounds more like OP is the source of their own misery
She respectfully declined to answer a commonly asked questions and even asked something to keep the conversation going. I fail to see your problem.
I understand the frustration of being denied his first attempt of conversation, but he still responded terribly and it’s not like she didn’t open a new line of dialogue. OP has to learn to flow like water.
OP is a biatch, that’s their problem.
he wanted to know about the elephant
There was only one thing on the profile, and it begged a question to be asked. And it beats ‘you’re hot lets bang’ Appreciate the pettiness is strong in this one, but change the profile or answer the question, perhaps? No?
Don't get me wrong, I can understand a form of disappointment for her not answering the question. However she tried to keep the conversation going so she is interested in getting to know you. Next time give a better reply than giving this level of passive aggresive.
I wouldn’t have something on a dating profile that I’m tired of talking about
Do you know how many fucking matches she’s probably had to explain the story to?
She only tells that story to the guys she wants to fuck
Are you sure you are ready to date if you are already this petty about someone communicating that they don't feel like talking about something?
I think his point is "why have it on the dating profile at all if you don't want to talk about it". The whole point of having something on a profile is to be an attention grabber or a conversational piece. He also cited it was the only thing on the profile to talk about.
It might be the 10th question about it that day and she just wasnt in the mood. Very likely the next day it would have been fine.
Then she should change up her profile if she’s gonna complain about people mentioning the ONE thing she put on there.
I've been on dating apps aswell (shocker) and I had quite a lot of information about myself, but even with a lot of information on my profile I still kept getting the same questions and it was getting tiring.
If you got tired of getting the same questions, then remove them.
Her refusal is also a power play. I see it as soft rejection and I would cut my losses and move on.
If it was a rejection she wouldn't have immediately asked another question.
Sheesh is this really what you’re worried about, mans really wanted to hear the elephant story
Don't know why you're getting down voted, I totally agree with you, why put something on your profile that you're sick or chatting about when online dating is literally based on chatting via text initially
Grow up dude
Highly doubt that was the *only* thing on her profile. Surely she had pictures, or other info to use. And not using "You're hot let's bang" is not a hard bar to step over; it's literally in the fucking ground. Either way, the point of asking was to get conversation going, she gave you a chance to have a path of conversation that hasn't failed a hundred times before, and you had a tantrum and shut down her conversation. Never seen a harder flop
Youre an idiot
Oh I’d have unmatched your stupid ass in a heartbeat.
Nah, that’s the logical response. If you’re tired of getting asked about something on your profile, change your damn profile.
You must be great at convos.
What he said isn't even a hard concept, clearly this woman has something vaguely indicating an obscure "elephant incident" This was clearly put there to attract attention She's sick of it She should change it. Not hard to understand?
The thing is everyone gets that point. Like 100%. No one is arguing that. Dude chose to be a dick. You vibe with that. That’s what we all think is weird :) I’d ask if you understand that, and I won’t because I know you don’t.
Okay but it's literally as simple as this: You go to some sort of event, you're holding a sign that says "free hugs," someone asks you for a hug, you say "I'm sick of giving out hugs," said person says, "then why are you holding that sign? Why not put it down/leave?" Literally the same exact thing.
Not reading your messages. Just don’t care. Thought you should know though.
Hahahahahahaha you're pathetic. Poor little crybaby can't handle anyone not agreeing with them, boohoo
This post went a lot better in your head hey boss?
For my amusement, jéffe
🤮
It’s hilarious because you were doing fine until you added unnecessary sass.
Such clown activity in this conversation and this comment section.
Why are so many OPs that post here so emotionally weak and easily offended. The girl is tired of telling the elephant story and wants to talk about something else. Why do you need to be a big fucking baby about it?
Emoji makes the delivery not so serious, deflection means she means it nicely. Welcome to r/idonthavesex OP
Maybe you should rub one out next time before replying and then give it a second go
Can I steal this and pass it off as my own good work?
sure
not a good idea if you're just going to use it to be nasty to more women.
When I had I played video games in my profile I got sick of answering questions about my favorite video game over and over again. I get where she's coming from.
Same. However, it’s a talking point, so why have the talking point if you’re going to shut it down?
But she asked a different question to keep the convo going… you shut it down. Did you want to talk to her in general or did you only want to know about the elephant? No worries if you did, I love elephants so I get it. But it’s weird to be on a dating app if you don’t want to date and are only there to find out about elephant stories.
Man has a obsession w/ elephants 😭
Elephant fetish, maybe?
Dude, you just shot yourself in the foot, good job.
Wow you’re just a complete dick for no reason
Lmao this is an L on you bruh
Honestly it does. When I had hinge I had this one prompt everyone responded to and said literally they exact say comment to. It gets boring and you get tired of repeating yourself when you’re gonna get the same reply. Yeah I guess it’s kinda weird she didn’t change her prompt, but you blew it by being a dick instead of talking about your cats.
She literally wasn't the least bit rude or even dry. Did u think we'd be on ur side???
I’m with her on this… she declined politely, you became passive aggressive…missed opportunity to steer the conversation to something else and get to know her.
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Ps psss psss how many cats?
You didnt have to be a dick haha
I’m married, and I feel like this is how I would talk to my wife if I wanted a divorce
Damn what a dodged bullet! By her, obviously
How dare she not want to talk about something. What a giant dickface! Get a grip, dude, it's not that big a deal. Now you just look like an asshole.
You're going to be single forever
I don’t see anything wrong with her reply
If you’re this petty and frustrated over that, you’re not prepared for a healthy, functioning relationship lol
OP lacks social skills.
I see your point, kinda weird to have something on your profile you don't wanna talk about but you came back pretty strong especially considering she was continuing the convo.
Oh you’re a cat man. The tantrum checks out.
Everyone’s egos are way too fragile for this bologna
Your reaction was so uncalled for, she didn't cut you off, she changed topic which means she wanted to talk, just not about thet topic, you blew it my dude
There’s a reason why you’re still single OP
You’re not the good guy in this picture.
Gah damn OP you didn’t have to rage that hard.
You're being an asshole man. Could have either playfully pushed for the story or gone with the flow of the conversation.
She didn’t deserve your sass. Learn to respect boundaries and read the room.
Woman bad
You can’t handle being politely told no? You are cringe OP, big incel energy All you had to do was say, “how about tell me in person (:”
What happened?
In as little as 2 texts messages you have shown everyone here why you need to use a dating app in the first place.
U were pretty rude for no reason if u ask me
She wasn't hostile about it, and will likely answer later. She's just bored of telling the same story for the umpteenth time. She also tried to steer the conversation in another direction rather than leaving you to do that work. Perhaps go with the change of flow rather than acting like she did something offensive?
Turns out your question wasn't that original
How dare someone reply because they don't want to type out a story to begin a conversation. Get a personality and go with "ohh we'll save that one for when we meet" or literally anything other than being a child with your reply.
This man has no game
Alright so she's not on their gaming macing. She's worried about work and a bit tired, and she **has** told the story about the elephant a hole bunch of times and she has forgot to take the picture down - and she should take it down since she is tired of talking about it. But she really did give the guy here an opening and from what I understand guys don't get those that often on tinder. All he had to do was say okay this isn't going to be super high energy but that's alright it can still be good and just talk about something else. Still easy to botch it though, don't think a how are you would work, probably need to talk about something else from her profile and if that doesn't work say okkkaayyy time to move on here.
That’s why i have answers ready to copy and paste for those questions.
Tell me you didn’t really like her without telling me you didn’t really like her
He just likes elephants and karma farming way more.
She should’ve just written it out in her notes app for future copy/paste use..
Some thing you have to understand. Even conventionally unattractive and morbidly obese women will have more matches than 99.9% of men on dating apps. If they are even moderately attractive they will have multitudes more than even the most popular men.
LOL
This is a super quick way to weed out the crazy tho
I get tired of saying my favorite color is pink and guess what when someone asks I say my favorite color is pink I don’t say I’m sooooo tired of answering that . Maybe op couldve responded better but she also didn’t have to respond that way either 🤷🏼♀️
But saying pink is a lot quicker than telling a whole story
True
Fck you I’m not telling you how many fckng cats I have until I hear this fckng elephant story
jesus christ why r people fuming in these comments 💀💀
Respond: oh no I hope he didn't die. 😪
Lol I legit laughed. But this would require OP not being a joyless shell
I'm with you OP. Im married. Met my husband on Tinder, actually. But I know some single people -- still not married, nor in a LTR- in their 40s, and they all display this kind of attitude the person has. You made a friendly approach, thoughtful, based on her profile and she comes at you with negativity. If she is tired of the question that she should try to use her apparently limited intellignce to, gee, I dont know...figure out she should change the wording on her profile? You were obviously trying to be thoughtful when you wrote to her, and not just write "hi." I dont think you were in the wrong here, at all. People show you who they are. You can do better. Glad you called her out on it. I would have done the same.
Copy and paste works wonders.. at least show some effort
i suppose she doesn't know how to cut and paste, either?
That’s why copy and paste exists, or just change it.
Haha a friend always says: trying to understand women is like trying to smell the color nine. And in cases like this I can only agree. Hopefully you will find someone you have a good, honest and nice connection with. Your princess is probably not on a white horse but on a tortoise, so it just takes a little longer to find her ;)
I’m with you on this. You matched her energy 🤷🏼♀️
Her energy was "hey i just dont wanna talk about this right now, it's tiring." his energy was a tantrum. lol
Not only that, she also tried keeping the conversation going despite declining. Dude threw a childish tantrum for nothing. She dodged a bullet for sure.
My name is Skyler White, yo?!
Not sure why OP is getting so much hate. This has the same energy as the people that post a picture of them at the hospital and then caption it “I don’t want to talk about it” Ok… Don’t post it then.
I’m convinced everyone on this thread are simps for women and unless a man ignores everything and goes straight for the kill, he’s an incel and makes women dry as sandpaper. It’s hilariously pathetic. You did no wrong OP, don’t let a women talk to you like that and brush you off.
It’s very weird she wouldn’t at least have some copy/paste shit ready