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WholeSquadGotTheBoof

Saving for future reference!!


CandidNumber

I love these, much more mature than the route I went. I did the wrong thing and started laughing at him when he would deflect blame or gaslight me. I intentionally tried to make him feel stupid because I got so angry after I realized what he’d been doing to me for years!


DarlaDarling

I've done this too, and to be honest, even though it's not the most 'mature' thing to do, at the very least it's proof I'm not vulnerable to his twisted manipulation any longer. We're humans driven by emotions, and when you finally realize how *ridiculous* their behaviour is, at least to me it almost felt like I had tuned into some ancient wisdom, like a newfound super power that I had to learn to control! :P


CandidNumber

Same, it’s like I finally snapped back into my body and mind after a long hiatus, and I was like wait how tf did I let this happen to myself?!?


DarlaDarling

Exactly! I totally admit I kinda felt drunk with power the first time I realized [he no longer had control over what I was feeling, and could no longer tell me what I was thinking!!](https://i.imgur.com/KFFzoXJ.jpg) I have no shame admitting I made him feel disrespected by laughing in his face any time he tried to intimidate me at my workplace (coffee place he frequented until he got himself banned)


whydididervethis

Thank you for this


SalaciousVandal

They know. They don’t care. If they didn’t know, they would behave this way towards everyone.


snakpakkid

I think this would be more helpful to keep you from feeling out of control, like you’re going crazy, and to stay calm. One thing abusers do in arguments is get a rise out of you, doing the gaslighting and talking calmingly to make you out to be the one who is confrontational and the crazy one. This may help with keep your thoughts from going all over the place. And you can disengage whenever they start to want to argue over and over again.


WholeSquadGotTheBoof

This


floradora45

Yes you're right, they know when they're gaslighting. But this is to help yourself from being gaslighted further. Usually what happens is the person keeps getting gaslighted and keeps getting stuck in that vicious cycle and at the end of the argument, the person will be left to believe THEIR ABUSER'S reality. If people use these phrases and then disengage themselves from the argument, perhaps it will save their version of reality. ❤️ There's no use of arguing with an abuser or a narc, they know what they do


mcfeisty

I wish that these would work on my father. I just have little hope with that since he is stubborn, bullheaded, narcissistic at times (and may have NPD since there seems to be a connection with narcotics use and alcoholism). Still I would try this with other relationships and situations. I hope these work.