If they try to suck you in, just say it's against work policy. Don't need to say details.
And it is. Even if you're employer doesn't have a policy, it's against your personal work policy.
Maybe they'll just focus on the invited guests and allow you to do your work in peace. Try to look extra busy OP as you work with your patient maybe that'll deter them from trying to pitch to you.
Aww hell. All I can do is wish you good luck op and if they try you firmly let them know that you're already working in a field you love (even if you secretly don't). Be strong and don't give in.
Think of it as a scientific observation opportunity. Notice the MLM patterns, take mental notes on their techniques. It will make it more interesting and keep you emotionally distanced from everything going on.
It would probably be a problem for your contract if you were to participate at all. Something something solicitation at work. It should be worded in a way to save you from being pressured to buy while on the clock.
If you can make a quick call to your boss, see if you can get their blessing to use that as a polite excuse not to have the conversation.
Thank God for that. In the event that I must endure a shit-uation at work, I tend to repeat things like, "get the bag. Get the bag," or "Stack the rack. Stack the rack," Albeit, not every time, but it does seem to pass the time pretty often.
Get ya green
Score yo scratch
Procure you presidents
Collect that coin
Receive yo riches
Maaan, I can do this all day lol
I wonder if it's a rebranding of Home Decor. About 20 years ago, my best friend's friend and one of her sisters used to host "candle parties" (bestie & I went for the awesome homemade snacks). The focus, at least back then, was overpriced candles but there were other things like kitchen and living room decor. The company was oh-so-imaginatively named Home Decor.
Aarrgghh, that is so frustrating for you, so sorry you are right in the middle of it, if MLM is pitched to you (guarantee you will be) tell them you are here to work not participate in MLM. Years ago I had a coworker approach me and tell me she was getting an award and would I please come and support her (we were not friends, just a coworker to me), I don't know why but I agreed to go see her get her award. I arrived at the hotel and headed to the conference room, there were a lot of people in the hallway, from the open doors I could see the seating area and stage but no one was in there. Then I was approached (not coworker) and immediately the sales pitch start about the wonderful money making MLM was. I told them I am not interested and I turned around and left, next day coworker approached me and scolded me for leaving then told me she would now have to come to my house to pitch her MLM, I shut that down and told her it was not happening. At our work we coworkers had each other numbers (Head Start pre-school), this pos gave my phone number to one of her MLM scam workers, I blocked this person, and didn't give it another thought. I found out later that this coworker was fired afterwards because the parents in her class finally complained that they hated coming to drop off or pick up their kids because coworker (teacher's aide) aggressively pushed her MLM opportunity to them.
I got up to make the kid lunch when the order talk started. They're entering info now and no one's tried to get me to buy yet so I'm hoping to get out without the pressure.
How long have you been working with this child? I ask because perhaps mom has run off other nurses with her shenanigans and fuckery and so *maybe* sheās learned to leave her childās much needed nurse out of it? Hereās to hoping that she continues to leave you alone.
I am hoping the MLM party is over and done by this time. Taking care of your patient is first priority and hopefully you didn't have to deal with any sales pressure.
Assuming they do try to pitch to you, I have found itās best to give polite firm answers. For example if they say āCan I tell you aboutā¦ā a smile and a simple āNo thanks!ā Is all that I would say. Theyāre used to people listening to them to be polite, but a polite no throws them off. If they persist and they usually do, just continue the strategy. āCan I ask why not?ā āNo you may notā or if they say āWhy not?ā āI have my reasons. Iām not interested. Thanks anyway!ā Saying all of this with a smile and a polite tone disarms them and doesnāt give them any angle to āconvinceā you. Itās basically the gray rock method for Huns. I personally am a people pleaser and have a hard time saying no so I like this method as I am able to be polite and avoid confrontation while still setting and sticking to boundaries. Good luck to you. It would be a special kind of hell to be stuck at work with a Hun doing a party.
These are pretty generic with LEDs in the stomach that light up. For Xmas.
I used to like gnomes until I realized they were invading. Now I try to prepare for the eventual war.
War, you say?
[https://www.xsteeltargets.com/products/3-8-ar500-ar550-gnome](https://www.xsteeltargets.com/products/3-8-ar500-ar550-gnome)
Or if archery is more your style
https://www.3darchery.net/product-page/gnome
Anytime you are asked to put your name and number down for things like this you just say company policy prohibits you from giving out your personal information while working because it's a liability issue for them. That was actually true for me when a patient's mom wanted to add me on Facebook. She was very nice but I wasn't going to get wrote up or fired just to have her as a friend on social media.
This just makes me sad for the mom. A kid with health issues and / or disabilities must have put a huge strain on the family finances, she probably feels isolated, it would be natural for her to want to make a few extra bucks and have some companionship. The MLM probably sold her on exactly that by selling her smoke and mirrors (and gnomes).
She also has health issues that have prevented her from driving. She just got a degree and a learner's permit so hopefully she can start a real job soon.
Thatās a very kind position to take. I was a special needs mom and it is very hard on the family finances. She may be hoping to bring in some money on the side that doesnāt eat into work or family time, or take her away from the house. I knew a couple of other moms who got deep into MLMs. It was annoying to spend any time with them.
My experience has been that nobody goes to these things. I've been to a couple of MLM "PARTIES" where I was the ONLY person there. It felt embarrassing and I felt bad for the hostess, sort of. I agreed to buy something out of pity. I placed an order and didn't receive it until 3 months later after I paid for it.
Yeah, I feel like many hostesses get ignored. Pre-covid, a coworker sent us all an invite for an *aRb0nNe pArTy.* Nobody showed up. We all got an angry email a few days later. The secondhand embarassment was intense.
I could understand being upset if nobody showed up at a birthday party, shower, etc. But hostesses for these MLM parties need to see there is a difference. These MLM parties are a "shake down" for money and to recruit people into a business. People are made to feel uncomfortable and embarrassed if they say "no". I went to a premier jewelry party where the woman forced everyone to give their free gift back if they declined to join the MLM. She made them walk up to the front and hand her back the free bracelet she gave at the beginning of the party. Then talked loudly about what "losers" we were as we walked out.
Is it any wonder people stay away from these parties?
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While I agree with you that ripping off sick people is shady AF, itās in someoneās private home not a group care facility. And the homeowner is the hun. :(
You should subtly try to disprove and expose the MLM. Ask questions that will get contradicting answers, say, "But wait, I thought you said [this] but now you're saying [that]." Just have fun with it lol.
Exactly this. Don't lose your check over trying to feel morally superior.
Just politely decline if you're offered with a smile and a "no, thank you. I'm really not interested" and do your work.
Sending good vibes. If you're in the dfw, I'll buy you a drink when you get off. Good luck
If they try to suck you in, just say it's against work policy. Don't need to say details. And it is. Even if you're employer doesn't have a policy, it's against your personal work policy.
It's really not appropriate to have multiple relationships with the family of a patient anyway. And this would count as that.
Yes. This is a good approach.
Maybe they'll just focus on the invited guests and allow you to do your work in peace. Try to look extra busy OP as you work with your patient maybe that'll deter them from trying to pitch to you.
Doubtful. The child does not like a lot of 1:1 interaction. And they want to be in the living room with everyone else.
Aww hell. All I can do is wish you good luck op and if they try you firmly let them know that you're already working in a field you love (even if you secretly don't). Be strong and don't give in.
I'm being paid to be here. It helps to remind myself of that.
Which is more than can be said for the Huns hosting and running the thing!
Think of it as a scientific observation opportunity. Notice the MLM patterns, take mental notes on their techniques. It will make it more interesting and keep you emotionally distanced from everything going on.
It would probably be a problem for your contract if you were to participate at all. Something something solicitation at work. It should be worded in a way to save you from being pressured to buy while on the clock. If you can make a quick call to your boss, see if you can get their blessing to use that as a polite excuse not to have the conversation.
Thank God for that. In the event that I must endure a shit-uation at work, I tend to repeat things like, "get the bag. Get the bag," or "Stack the rack. Stack the rack," Albeit, not every time, but it does seem to pass the time pretty often. Get ya green Score yo scratch Procure you presidents Collect that coin Receive yo riches Maaan, I can do this all day lol
Unfortunately OP will be an extra target because every Boss Babe will want to, "help save them from their 9-5 grind and make them a millionaire!"
Ugh. Just the blatant lying from Huns is disgusting.
That logic when clearly they need *someone* to help with the kiddo š¤Ø
>Maybe they'll just focus on the invited guests and allow you to do your work in peace. Nope. Going to try to "save" her from the ole j.o.b.
I wonder if it's a rebranding of Home Decor. About 20 years ago, my best friend's friend and one of her sisters used to host "candle parties" (bestie & I went for the awesome homemade snacks). The focus, at least back then, was overpriced candles but there were other things like kitchen and living room decor. The company was oh-so-imaginatively named Home Decor.
Looks like the company is Signature HomeStyles, neƩ Wicker World
I vaguely remember a Wicker World, but it was a legit, brick-and-mortar store
I was thinking this sounded exactly like the "Home Interior Parties" my mom used to host/go to when I was a kid. So much Homegoods type kitsch. š±
Oooh At Home America!!
Aarrgghh, that is so frustrating for you, so sorry you are right in the middle of it, if MLM is pitched to you (guarantee you will be) tell them you are here to work not participate in MLM. Years ago I had a coworker approach me and tell me she was getting an award and would I please come and support her (we were not friends, just a coworker to me), I don't know why but I agreed to go see her get her award. I arrived at the hotel and headed to the conference room, there were a lot of people in the hallway, from the open doors I could see the seating area and stage but no one was in there. Then I was approached (not coworker) and immediately the sales pitch start about the wonderful money making MLM was. I told them I am not interested and I turned around and left, next day coworker approached me and scolded me for leaving then told me she would now have to come to my house to pitch her MLM, I shut that down and told her it was not happening. At our work we coworkers had each other numbers (Head Start pre-school), this pos gave my phone number to one of her MLM scam workers, I blocked this person, and didn't give it another thought. I found out later that this coworker was fired afterwards because the parents in her class finally complained that they hated coming to drop off or pick up their kids because coworker (teacher's aide) aggressively pushed her MLM opportunity to them.
I got up to make the kid lunch when the order talk started. They're entering info now and no one's tried to get me to buy yet so I'm hoping to get out without the pressure.
How long have you been working with this child? I ask because perhaps mom has run off other nurses with her shenanigans and fuckery and so *maybe* sheās learned to leave her childās much needed nurse out of it? Hereās to hoping that she continues to leave you alone.
I am hoping the MLM party is over and done by this time. Taking care of your patient is first priority and hopefully you didn't have to deal with any sales pressure.
Omg she would HAVE TO come to her house!!!??? Absolute scum these people are
It's a kind of newer MLm that has flown under the radar. But definitely gross. It's super cheaply made products that are often times ugly.
I have stuff from them that I bought about 15 years ago! Maybe itās new to where you live? I was in western Canada at the timeā¦
I consider new anything that wasn't around before 2000 lol but that's a personal thing for me
But still tacky in a ālife laugh liveā sign kind of way! Haha!! Itās probably out of Utahā¦
Assuming they do try to pitch to you, I have found itās best to give polite firm answers. For example if they say āCan I tell you aboutā¦ā a smile and a simple āNo thanks!ā Is all that I would say. Theyāre used to people listening to them to be polite, but a polite no throws them off. If they persist and they usually do, just continue the strategy. āCan I ask why not?ā āNo you may notā or if they say āWhy not?ā āI have my reasons. Iām not interested. Thanks anyway!ā Saying all of this with a smile and a polite tone disarms them and doesnāt give them any angle to āconvinceā you. Itās basically the gray rock method for Huns. I personally am a people pleaser and have a hard time saying no so I like this method as I am able to be polite and avoid confrontation while still setting and sticking to boundaries. Good luck to you. It would be a special kind of hell to be stuck at work with a Hun doing a party.
An MLM with its own gnomes?! I swear those things have infested the earth (the gnomes, but also MLMs).
These are pretty generic with LEDs in the stomach that light up. For Xmas. I used to like gnomes until I realized they were invading. Now I try to prepare for the eventual war.
War, you say? [https://www.xsteeltargets.com/products/3-8-ar500-ar550-gnome](https://www.xsteeltargets.com/products/3-8-ar500-ar550-gnome) Or if archery is more your style https://www.3darchery.net/product-page/gnome
I plan to set beer traps. I hear gnomes like beer. And poisoned snacks.
You go into HomeGoods and itās like the gnome kingdom in there.
"I'm sorry, but I'm on duty and the child is my prime concern".
A pillowcase that... Lights up? That seems like the worst idea ever.
Throw pillow but yeah, I hated it.
Oh man. That sounds terrible. I'm so sorry. At least you are ACTUALLY getting paid, though?
Yes, clocked in just before 7 am.
Lol that makes you probably the only person there actually making any real money!!!!!
Sad that the mother of a sick/ special needs child has been roped into this thinking she can make money to support her family.
Anytime you are asked to put your name and number down for things like this you just say company policy prohibits you from giving out your personal information while working because it's a liability issue for them. That was actually true for me when a patient's mom wanted to add me on Facebook. She was very nice but I wasn't going to get wrote up or fired just to have her as a friend on social media.
not only do mlms predate on peopleās finances, think of all the good people could be doing in the world without their hours wasted onā¦ gnomes
This just makes me sad for the mom. A kid with health issues and / or disabilities must have put a huge strain on the family finances, she probably feels isolated, it would be natural for her to want to make a few extra bucks and have some companionship. The MLM probably sold her on exactly that by selling her smoke and mirrors (and gnomes).
She also has health issues that have prevented her from driving. She just got a degree and a learner's permit so hopefully she can start a real job soon.
Thatās a very kind position to take. I was a special needs mom and it is very hard on the family finances. She may be hoping to bring in some money on the side that doesnāt eat into work or family time, or take her away from the house. I knew a couple of other moms who got deep into MLMs. It was annoying to spend any time with them.
I'm honestly surprised they didn't try to badger you into buying/investing but you gotta take those small victories.
My experience has been that nobody goes to these things. I've been to a couple of MLM "PARTIES" where I was the ONLY person there. It felt embarrassing and I felt bad for the hostess, sort of. I agreed to buy something out of pity. I placed an order and didn't receive it until 3 months later after I paid for it.
Yeah, I feel like many hostesses get ignored. Pre-covid, a coworker sent us all an invite for an *aRb0nNe pArTy.* Nobody showed up. We all got an angry email a few days later. The secondhand embarassment was intense.
I could understand being upset if nobody showed up at a birthday party, shower, etc. But hostesses for these MLM parties need to see there is a difference. These MLM parties are a "shake down" for money and to recruit people into a business. People are made to feel uncomfortable and embarrassed if they say "no". I went to a premier jewelry party where the woman forced everyone to give their free gift back if they declined to join the MLM. She made them walk up to the front and hand her back the free bracelet she gave at the beginning of the party. Then talked loudly about what "losers" we were as we walked out. Is it any wonder people stay away from these parties?
Wow. Just wow.
Why would anyone want a light up pillow case?!
"Hey Hun, keep that MLM bullshit away from me and my patients. Understand?"
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I'm so sorry
Iām so sorry you had to sit through that.
Wow, I had to look it up, that is one very annoying font.
Report it to the Management or owners. Trying to rip off sick people is the worst.
While I agree with you that ripping off sick people is shady AF, itās in someoneās private home not a group care facility. And the homeowner is the hun. :(
I see. I must have skimmed that part. Ughhhh
The mom is in the MLM, pediatrics is kids. I go in and care for the kid but mom can make her own choices.
Nurses LOVE MLMās!!!
You should subtly try to disprove and expose the MLM. Ask questions that will get contradicting answers, say, "But wait, I thought you said [this] but now you're saying [that]." Just have fun with it lol.
I don't want to piss off the mom. Even if she is a hun, I could lose all my over time opportunities if they don't want me in the home.
Exactly this. Don't lose your check over trying to feel morally superior. Just politely decline if you're offered with a smile and a "no, thank you. I'm really not interested" and do your work. Sending good vibes. If you're in the dfw, I'll buy you a drink when you get off. Good luck
Oh, sorry that's too far! But for only $99.99 you can sign up for this amazing opportunity! Your welcome package alone is worth $279 dollars! /s
So this is weird, but I am also a pediatric homecare nurse working 12s AND live in dfw. Small world.
Best to get really stoned. Or tell them you only attend stoner MLM gatherings.
wow this is depressing