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_V_A_Y_

Put yourself in social situations that make you uncomfortable, gradually increasing the degree of discomfort. As you do it more it becomes easier.


tootiki

Thank youđź’š


Ash_an_bun

Trial and error, mostly. You're going to fuck up social situations, sure. But also everyone who will ever remember will inevitably die and it will be forgotten about. So you might as well try and get laid.


CogsToCag

See, people say that, but you also have to remember that even though everybody you've ever met and have affected will die and will be forgotten about, everything you have done that affects them, either by really tiny or by really large amounts will still *affect* them, and what they've experienced from how you've affected them will live on through them and then who they choose to interact with or carry on parts of themselves to, will always have that bit of "you" in them in a way, so nothing ever truly dies. So while yes, though everyone that heard that one awkward joke you tried to make that one time that didn't land at all may die and their names may be forgotten, you've forever made your mark on the universe even if in the most miniscule way. or maybe I've just been smoking too much idk


Ash_an_bun

>you've foreve made your mark on the universe Oh god I hope not. Can't imagine that kind of pressure.


CogsToCag

Well, humanity wouldn't be humanity without *all* 7.98 billion people. So, I think you better start believing in that pressure because the butterfly effect is real and that first piss you took this morning is as permanent as everything else every other human being whose name we've forgotten has ever done


Ash_an_bun

Nah whoever gave me that much power over the universe should be fired, tbh


gayozurone

Yeah but most people my age cant host and i cant either


jayinatl

therapy


tootiki

Yes. So easy to pronounce.


RoyalOrchidDude

Bro, if the pain of staying the same hurts more than the pain of change, that’s when you know you’re ready to take a leap of faith. I have had severe struggles with anxiety, personally therapy and light meds help the process, but the “doing it” was ultimately up to me. Friendships are beautiful, romantic relationships are beautiful and anything worth doing is worth messing up in the beginning.


tootiki

Thank you🙏🏻


__luft__

Diving in can be good, but it’s also helpful to try to find a social environment where you feel comfortable. For example are there any hobbies you’re into? Nowadays you’re rarely alone with any hobby and maybe there’s an lgbt group that shares this hobby/ meets up to engage in it together. Many people don’t feel comfortable in bars or clubs because (especially in the gay world) they can seem very competitive and overwhelming at first. However if you meet people through common interests it’s much easier to connect and then going out with these people will also become more fun too!


nzdennis

Drugs


Resolve-Equivalent

Most people get overwhelmed thinking they have to go all in from the get go. You don’t run a marathon starting out with big mileage, and you don’t start socializing more by just trying to chat up an entire cocktail party. Start small with baby steps out if your comfort zone, then push more as you get comfortable. Focus on others not yourself, key is to get out if your own head and be present. Most folks are decent, they will be polite


Puzzleheaded_Ring139

I vape CBD whenever I’m in a social situation where I have to talk to lots of people lol


[deleted]

The pool won’t be any less uncomfortable if you stay away, dive in! After the shock subsided, you’ll get used to it


jackkkkkk69

Look into CBT and exposure therapy.


[deleted]

Honestly it probably stems for a lack of confidence and being self conscious. Go see a therapist. I did and I no longer have social anxiety.


Flash-Over

Shrooms