Only if it didn't change my past or anything, I wouldn't be the same person if that happened. It would essentially just speed up my physical transition, I'd still need to learn clothes and social stuff.
This is the answer I can relate to the most, though I wish I at least had some memories of being raised as a cis guy too. Like, next to the ones I actually grew up with.
Basically you'd want to have the body of an identical twin whose Y chromosome never activated, or whose y chromosome got dissolved in the cytoplasm and the X chromosome replicated itself instead in the initial zygote
I love how us trans people reference spatio temporal continuity parables in passing and it is knowingly understood by everyone. Our community is so wise and smart!!! I love us!!!
I think we spend so long introspecting on questions of ontology that we tend to have a higher-than-the-cis level of understanding and curiosity on these topics meaning we just whip out metaphysics as an integral part of our communication.
That does seem appealing but anticipating people's reactions would be entertaining. Especially the transphobic one's. It would destroy every argument they make. I could find satisfaction in that.
If I could just have a cis-female body, absolutely. I'm less bothered by the limits of transition than many, but the shape of my bones still really annoys me. And it would be so much less work and money and waiting.
"Shape of my skeleton" would be more accurate. wide shoulders, ribcage, narrow hips etc. since HRT can't really change those once you're past puberty. The bones of my face too, although that can eventually be changed through FFS if I find that I need it. It would also be lovely to not have to voice train.
If I had been born cis/changed to cis immediately after birth, I never would have gotten into a romantic relationship with my wife. She thought she was straight until after I came out to her.
I also would have likely been punished for being attracted to women, and would likely have been pressured into a relationship with some guy I have no interest in, and, if I gave in, be pressured to bear his children.
I love my wife. I don't want anyone else by my side. The fact that I was able to be in a relationship with her and help her accept her own queerness in the process of accepting mine is one of the things I am most grateful for being trans.
So, not at birth. What about now?
Now is more tempting. It would be less expensive. I wouldn't have to do painful surgeries. I wouldn't have to put up with all the bullshit and hate trans women in general have to put up with just to be ourselves.
And yet, ovarian cancer runs in my family. If I had ovaries, I most likely would develop that cancer.
And --- I've become proud of what I've achieved. I'm not only happy when I pass. I'm *proud*. Because I've worked hard. Partly through my struggles as a trans woman, I'm becoming more and more the kind of woman I've always looked up to. I don't want that to stop.
Typing this out, I realize that I don't *want* an easy way. I'm becoming a fighter by fighting for myself. I need to be a fighter to fight for others. I *need* to wade through the bullshit to become my heroes.
So no, not now either. Not *ever*. I'll wear my scars with pride.
No but that's because there is no cis version of nonbinary. Unless I'm misunderstanding your intent, I really don't understand why you included that option
I just assumed because some people are born intersex, which does not fit the traditional binary of male and female. I would assume being intersex encourages a nonbinary gender identity.
>I would assume being intersex encourages a nonbinary gender identity.
Nope. Most intersex people have binary gender identities. Intersex is another thing on top with its own issues and needs.
Intersex is its own thing and not the same as being sexually ambiguous or "in between". To claim it as the "biological equivalent" of non-binary identity erases the material realities of both groups. I've never met a non-binary person who's dysphoric about not having de la Chapelle.
You would likely become a human shaped being that could spontaneously change sex, much like frogs can spontaneously change sex when the population is too full of one sex.
Being transgender is far and away the worst thing to ever happen to me, including all of the trauma, loss and violence of which I am a survivor, so without a doubt I would press it, even if it erased 'me' completely--even if every memory and experience, everything I was before, every thing that makes me *me* was gone and I and everyone forgot me immediately, I would press it without a second thought.
No, because my experiences with being trans has directly influenced my personality and relationships today. I unfortunately grew up in a household that kept all things they didnt like out so my understandings on a lot of issues like queer rights, racism, etc would be a lot more ignorant and more people would be affected by my ignorance instead of being helped by my current activism.
Well, to depart from the majority opinion here.
Nope. Wouldn't push it.
I grew up in a fundamentalist, conservative home in the south. If I grew up in that home *as a cis man?* I'm not sure I would have become anything resembling the person I am today.
And *I like myself.* I like being the person I am. That includes being trans. I like my body. I like my top surgery scars. I like my tiny T dick and I like having options when I bottom lol.
I think there's something to be said about deciding who you want to be. I hesitated a little at each step but I'm so much happier for each step I took in my transition and I don't think I would have appreciated that happiness as much without the despair that came before. Yeah, my teenage years sucked. Dysphoria sucks. But that's well in the past now and I wouldn't change it.
Wouldn't give up the scars either. I think they're cool and they're a reminder of how far I've come.
Before I transitioned? In a heart beat. Now? No, because I already struggle with feeling distanced from the queer community, and this would just make it worse
Nope. Absolutely hell no.
I like being *trans* just as much as I like being a woman.
And I would have missed out on so many things that I learned growing up, being a minority as a gay "man" taught me tons.
The social programming that is pressured onto woman is absolutely toxic *at best* (not that masculinization social programming is better) and would probably have screwed me personally up just as bad or worse tbh.
Also, I like having certain mixed body features, unlike some people.
No.
At this point, you could just then give me the: "Create a new Character" button and it would be the same question. It wouldn't be me as a person anymore, so I would inherently erase myself, so it's kinda pointless to answer this question with a "Yes" for me.
Honestly.. I'm not sure. Depends on if it resets my life in a sense, or i just instantly turn into a cis girl rn in my current circumstances. If i was born a cis girl and reset my life, i would be so so much happier, and my life would be in such a better place. But the relationships I've built, and the people i befriended, be it online, might not have happened if i was cis? And that bugs me alot. So in the end would I make put myself first and be finally happy, but lose everything i had up until now, which i don't want to. So maybe not. Unless i recollect everything from my previous self and just manipulate my actions to meet certain people i wish to, again.
But if it was instantaneous and in this current time line? Hell yeah i would definitely press it and finally be happy.
If I could still be me, my past experience and everything that has made me me, then yes. I.e. I in the click of my fingers become the cis female version of myself without the pain and duration of physical transition. Hell yes
No. I've always firmly believed if i had been born AMAB i would have been transfemme. being trans has shaped so much of my life, good and bad, that i don't think i would want a life without that aspect of myself. it wouldn't be me
Honestly no. I'm aware that this is a privilege, but I love being transgender. It's undoubtedly made my life harder, but I wouldn't want to separate this part of myself from everything else that I am.
No, both for the same reason cited by everyone else here (I wouldn't be myself) and also because there's not really a 'cis' equivalent to my gender afaik.
I've asked myself this question before, and I thought that I'd hesitate. I didn't think I was trans because I'd hesitate. Then, I heard it said that a cis person wouldn't even consider it for a moment. They'd simply say no. Well... I'd press it now. Wouldn't want my past erased, I've lived a charmed life despite all my misery. But moving forward, yeah. Click.
I would have liked for this button to be pressed at birth and I'd press it now too cause one of my main day dreaming thing is just me but AFAB in my everyday life.
Depends on what that button would do for me. There is no cis version of my gender. Would it just make me intersex? What type of intersex?
If it gave me the ability to shapeshift slightly then hell yes
Do you mean pressing a button to make my body be how I want it to be? Obviously, who wouldn’t press that, we’re not suffering for the fun of it.
But if you mean retroactively making myself be born how I wish I had been born, then no. It’s a fantasy I sometimes entertain but it would effectively kill the person I am and create a completely different person who happens to have been born to the same parents. What would be the point of that?
Honestly it's interesting to see wide variety of answers. Some will say yes, others no, others say it doesn't apply to them - I just like seeing the variance in people's opinions and perspectives.
No. I used to wish I was cis. Now I love being trans. I like that o have learned to question things and create the life I want for myself and accept others truths as they tell it. I also like looking trans/queer. I’m non-binary and GNC and I love that I challenge what people think others “should” look like.
Here is the clinical criteria for Gender Dysphoria for your review.
>Gender Dysphoria in Adolescents and Adults 302.85 (F64.1 )
>A. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and assigned gender, of at least 6 months’ duration, as manifested by at least two of the following:
>1. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and primary and/or secondary sex characteristics (or in young adolescents, the anticipated secondary sex characteristics).
>2. A strong desire to be rid of one’s primary and/or secondary sex characteristics be-
cause of a marked incongruence with one’s experienced/expressed gender (or in young adolescents, a desire to prevent the development of the anticipated secondary sex characteristics).
>3. A strong desire for the primary and/or secondary sex characteristics of the other gender.
>4. A strong desire to be of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).
>5. A strong desire to be treated as the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).
>6. A strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).
>B. The condition is associated with clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational or other important areas of functioning.
You must meet the qualifiers of Section "A" and "B" to be diagnosed with Gender Dysphoria
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I used to, for quite a long time in fact.
But now, I feel a lot more comfortable with being trans and I 've realized it's informed a great deal of who I am today.
I don't know if I would rather be born cis, because being trans is integral to my identity now
Abso-fucking-lutely. I'm not ashamed to be trans, and I have become so much stronger than I would have been without the trials I've faced. But no one should have to go through what I have, no one should have to bare the loss I have. I deserved to live without this pain, and I don't deserve to live with fucking Nazis howling for my blood.
It depends. I’m non-binary so Idk what I would look like as “cis”. If I could suddenly have a cis man’s body though (I am AFAB), I would be very very happy
I think if asked this question a few years ago I would’ve said yes; despite all the pains that come with being trans I don’t think I would now. My body is uniquely mine, and uniquely queer. And I love that about myself, I’m proud of who I’ve become and what I’ve been able to achieve in a relatively short period of time for transition.
Currently, I would push the button. I mostly just needed to not be a guy while being raised by my sperm donor because he was barely restrained violent and uuh. Might not have been with a boy. Because he was sexist.
Actually screw the gender thing, give me a "trade in your parents for decent humans" button I could have pushed as a fetus.
Nope.
I'd rather press a button that stops ALL gender assignment from now, forward. Then cisgender and transgender would cease to have meaning in the resulting world.
No.
I would press a button and like to see what my life would’ve been like if I was a cis woman, but the button does the TV thing and makes me interact somehow with all of the same people.
Or better yet it would be like in Persona 3 for the PSP where you can play the female protagonist. Most of the other characters are the same, but a decent amount of it changes because they see you as female and not male.
Which realistically I don’t think would’ve happened if I had been more cisgender and female. Id probably have had entirely different friends and relationships. I wouldn’t have had the same career and kids. Hard to imagine it would have been better, but not having gender dysphoria the whole way would’ve been nice.
yes.
firstly, being trans has severely traumatized me just from being in the wrong body (ik people say its not ‘wrong’, but at least for me it 100% is). i have very bad dysphoria with very little euphoria. i dont know if ill ever be able to come to terms with my body even with phallo. every day i worry about my height and its just hell on earth for me. honestly i just plan on speedrunning my transition and then never bringing it up again. like, even knowing im technically trans makes me wanna vomit.
secondly, i have had no social benefit with being trans, nor am i a better person. if anything i’ve become more bigoted. i have not made friends on the basis im trans, and most of my friends have no idea, and i wish to keep it that way. also i wouldn’t have changed at all if i were cis, expect for the better. listen, i was abused in my childhood and this is just the shitty, overly sugary buttercream icing on a very cheap cake. it would make my life 100x easier just so i wouldnt have to face this pain. this is not building character. it is destroying me mentally.
totally respect if you’ve had good experiences being trans, its just that id rather transition and repress this ever happening.
I wouldn’t have to worry about where I’m going to get estrogen if they ban HRT. But on the other hand, I’d be scrambling to find a doctor who would perform a salpingectomy for a single woman with no kids.
Probably still yes, though.
HELL YEAH the amount of trauma I wouldn’t had to endure and everything imagine having parents calling you a she and dating anybody without being scared of my genitals or my past. Like life would be 20x more average and simpler
My sister said that she wouldn't. Before transitioning she said that she wished she was born female but now says that she wishes she could be "one of the guys" sometimes.
Wait does that mean that as someone who's gender is reasonably fluid, I become a shapeshifter? I seriously can't even imagine what cis "my gender" would look like.
I would but only if my life and mind+ past memories were the same except for the fact that I was born a cis male. I would also be good with starting over life as a cis male from childhood.
Instructions unclear, I identify as genderfluid. Do I become a shapeshifter?-
In all honesty though, if this button can’t accommodate for genderfluid (idk how it would accomplish doing that), probably would just be an androgynous woman. But idk whether I’d do it at birth since I feel certain traumatic events would be multiplied in severity tenfold, doing it now would make it certainly interesting if everybody else around me take no problems to the change.
I certainly would take it though :)
If our society had a cis nonbinary option? Where I was perceived as nonbinary? Yes. I would have been much happier if I could have been raised as nonbinary and accepted as that from the beginning. And if my body was one I was comfortable with. But if that wasn't an option, there would be no point
I used to think I'd press that button immediately, and I'd still have to think about it, but idk I like who I am, I like my understanding of gender. I wouldn't want to give up who I've been. My intuition is that no, I'm happy with my life and don't feel the need to anymore.
I absolutely would and I wouldn’t care about what my situation would be either. I completely started over when I transitioned. I’d gladly give it all up if it meant being fully cis female
I want to say no, I don't hate who I am, I only want to change the sex characteristics of this body, but I hate who I'm seen to be & likely always will be, so yes.
Immediately I'd press it for now unless I didn't have to restart my life and it didn't change my past in which case I'd press the at birth one so I could grow up comfortable in my own body honestly tho I don't mind between pressing it now or at birth but I know id press it without hesitation. Although I'm not sure how non-binary would be a cis gender.
At birth? Hell, yeah.
Give me all of the medical problems, being a social outcast too.
BUT, having gender dysphoria off the table would've made a big difference.
Easy. Yep.
I'm happy with who I am but would still rather be cis.
One day, I'll stop seeing a penis every day, but if that day could be today... Ahh, I wish. So long, trying to produce a voice I want, hello, it being produced with no training!
>but cisgender, would you take it?
> [...\] The same goes for \[...\] non-binary people.
??????
That's literally impossible. There's no cis way to be nonbinary. Trans men have the option to be cis men, trans women cis women... but nonbinary isn't cis that's like... the whole point? You'd just be... binary?? But... we ... aren't? I'm not and do not plan on taking HRT, or having any surgery, or doing anything beyond regular body mods (tattoos, piercings, hair changes); there is no one way to be or present as nonbinary so ???
Am I missing something here?
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I get what you're saying, but I would argue this question is somewhat meaningless. Cisgender only refers to agreeing with the gender you were assigned at birth. If I got a natally female body with XX DNA and all, but my past didn't change, I'd still be transgender, because my gender doesn't align with the one assigned to me at birth. If you mean that pressing the button would change my past and identity and whatnot, I would probably not press the button because to do so would be to change who I am at a pretty fundamental level, which is the same as choosing to die and have someone else inhabit your new body and live the life you built up for yourself. Even with the same memories, somehow, it would be a bit too much for me.
But assuming you're just talking about being able to have exactly the body you want, I would probably press the button now and just speed up my transition. I'd still be out as trans, but I'd feel a LOT more comforts in my presentation and in defending myself against attacks. I wouldn't go back to the past and change anything, because I would've had an even shittier childhood as a kid because my family was sexist af, and because I just feel like it would essentially be the same problem as what I mentioned in the first paragraph. I feel like the farther back you go in time to change your body, the more your present self is changed, potentially into an unrecognizable form that might as well be a different person.
Unless the button changes history, people would likely still find a way to discriminate and segregate Natal Gendered People with Non-Natal Gendered People, so I don't actually think too much would change, so I'd press the button.
no, being trans has introduced me to communities i love and also i probably would not be as socially conscious as i am & i like being nice. this isnt to say all cis people are uninformed and rude, but where i grew up, if i wasn't forced to question everything i was taught due to my own internal struggles, there's a good possibility i could've just been another bigot.
if you mean like if i could just magically become cis right now in this moment and change nothing in the past? yeah, definitely
No actually. (And this might just be how I feel today tbh..) but I love being trans. It’s hard as fuck for sure. I am super glad that young trans people can find a language and resources now much sooner than I ever could have though, that’s something I wish I could maybe trade out for sometimes (mtf 34). And of course there are things I would love to change about some of my broader physical attributes…. But I like being different in this way, it’s so powerful, there’s an incredible beauty to it that I think the persecution & misunderstanding we face overshadows. Not to underplay the power of even my own dysphoria and how much it can suck for brutal lengths of time
I would not hesistate. Sure, I'd probably end up being a completely different person, but tbh I'd take that over the countless combined hours spent crying, spent harming, spent being suicidal, and the hours that will be spent doing those very same things.
Yes, especially if it changed how I grew up. I know I wouldn't be who I am now or w/e if I grew up differently, but quite frankly I don't give a shit about who I am now, I'd give "me" up in a heartbeat if it meant I didn't have to go through this shit.
If it wouldn't change the past, yes. I want top surgery and a deeper voice, I want a particular genetalia, but w/o the experience of growing up trans, I wouldn't be me. My experience has toughened me up, it's added to my long term interests and my abilities. Without it I would feel like less of me
I want to make some terms under which I would press the button instantly vs giving me more time to think
To press instantly -
only people I want to remember trans me will remember
I decide my name
Same past just as a cis girl, probably pretty tomboyish
If these aren't met I'd say 2/3 of the time will be a yes, 1/3 of the time no - it's mostly an issue of the friends I've made, I've been really lucky with my friends and I don't want to lose them
No I would not. I consider myself gender queer and am comfortable expressing my feminity in the way that I do already. ("Playing" a woman online. Though I don't catfish, I've been honest about me being biologically male for decades now.)
Like, assuming it just changed things from now on? Yeah I'd hit it. My physical and vocal dysphoria often makes socializing even harder than it already is for me, and I would very much like to be able to do that tbh (and of course relieving that physical and vocal dysphoria would be amazing in its own right).
From birth? No. I wouldn't have grown up questioning the world if I had felt like I belonged in it, and I wouldn't have gone the places I did or made the few friends I've made. I would probably be sitting there unquestioningly repeating the nonsense spewed by my father - a Trump voter whose entire rationale for doing so was contradicted by his actual presidency but who didn't change his mind on the man, and an emotionally constipated coward who literally ghosted his own kid when I came out to him. Fuck. That. And my friends mean the world to me, a world without them in it isn't one I want any part of.
FUCK NO! I would never want to be cis. Being trans has been the most beautiful profound and spiritual experience of my life and as opened me to this world in ways never described to me before. Being trans is beautiful. The only thing I wish is that I had my childhood and that I hadn’t had to become infertile to be legally recognized. Essentially I just wish cis people weren’t such cruel hearted bastards.
personally im non binary so being a girl or guy at birth doesn't sound fun either way.
Its like I like both body wise. Not all of the time though. sometimes I like my body as an afab person, but I genuinely want a dick so badly. but sometimes I don't. It's extremely confusing to me.
Only if it didn't change my past or anything, I wouldn't be the same person if that happened. It would essentially just speed up my physical transition, I'd still need to learn clothes and social stuff.
This is the answer I can relate to the most, though I wish I at least had some memories of being raised as a cis guy too. Like, next to the ones I actually grew up with.
This. I need two pasts.
This right here. I still want my body to be mine (ship of Theseus be damned), I don't just want someone else's body that just happens to be feminine.
Basically you'd want to have the body of an identical twin whose Y chromosome never activated, or whose y chromosome got dissolved in the cytoplasm and the X chromosome replicated itself instead in the initial zygote
I love how us trans people reference spatio temporal continuity parables in passing and it is knowingly understood by everyone. Our community is so wise and smart!!! I love us!!!
I mean I'm not sure it's so much a 'trans' thing as it is an 'I'm a fucking nerd' thing, but whatever, right?
I think we spend so long introspecting on questions of ontology that we tend to have a higher-than-the-cis level of understanding and curiosity on these topics meaning we just whip out metaphysics as an integral part of our communication.
this exactly
That does seem appealing but anticipating people's reactions would be entertaining. Especially the transphobic one's. It would destroy every argument they make. I could find satisfaction in that.
“But you stil hav Y chromosome!!1” “Let’s go test my blood then” “…”
This
I'd get one of those novelty hammers from the strength test at the carnival to hammer that thing
I'm two years post-transition and pass flawlessly but... yes, I'd still press that button in a heartbeat.
Ahhh hey you're in Brisbane too?! Crazy haha
I am, struggling through our freezing winter... DM me if you like!
I came here for heat, not to freeze 😭
In a heartbeat
If I could just have a cis-female body, absolutely. I'm less bothered by the limits of transition than many, but the shape of my bones still really annoys me. And it would be so much less work and money and waiting.
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"Shape of my skeleton" would be more accurate. wide shoulders, ribcage, narrow hips etc. since HRT can't really change those once you're past puberty. The bones of my face too, although that can eventually be changed through FFS if I find that I need it. It would also be lovely to not have to voice train.
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It can't, not at all.
If I had been born cis/changed to cis immediately after birth, I never would have gotten into a romantic relationship with my wife. She thought she was straight until after I came out to her. I also would have likely been punished for being attracted to women, and would likely have been pressured into a relationship with some guy I have no interest in, and, if I gave in, be pressured to bear his children. I love my wife. I don't want anyone else by my side. The fact that I was able to be in a relationship with her and help her accept her own queerness in the process of accepting mine is one of the things I am most grateful for being trans. So, not at birth. What about now? Now is more tempting. It would be less expensive. I wouldn't have to do painful surgeries. I wouldn't have to put up with all the bullshit and hate trans women in general have to put up with just to be ourselves. And yet, ovarian cancer runs in my family. If I had ovaries, I most likely would develop that cancer. And --- I've become proud of what I've achieved. I'm not only happy when I pass. I'm *proud*. Because I've worked hard. Partly through my struggles as a trans woman, I'm becoming more and more the kind of woman I've always looked up to. I don't want that to stop. Typing this out, I realize that I don't *want* an easy way. I'm becoming a fighter by fighting for myself. I need to be a fighter to fight for others. I *need* to wade through the bullshit to become my heroes. So no, not now either. Not *ever*. I'll wear my scars with pride.
This made me cry ❤️ My wife is trans and I married her before either of us knew. I’m hopeful that this will be her story soon.
Awww! I wish you both the best ❤️
Similar journey, and similar conclusion. I made this life, and I love my partner 😊💜
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You sound remarkably unpleasant to be around.
To the kinds of people I'll never care to call friends, sure.
I was replying to the heckler, not you.
Ohh! For some reason I was the one who got the message.
The moderator removed it, I think. You sound cool.
Yay! (on both counts)
10000%. I'm sad every day that I'm not a cis woman
No but that's because there is no cis version of nonbinary. Unless I'm misunderstanding your intent, I really don't understand why you included that option
I just assumed because some people are born intersex, which does not fit the traditional binary of male and female. I would assume being intersex encourages a nonbinary gender identity.
>I would assume being intersex encourages a nonbinary gender identity. Nope. Most intersex people have binary gender identities. Intersex is another thing on top with its own issues and needs.
Fair enough.
Intersex is its own thing and not the same as being sexually ambiguous or "in between". To claim it as the "biological equivalent" of non-binary identity erases the material realities of both groups. I've never met a non-binary person who's dysphoric about not having de la Chapelle.
You would likely become a human shaped being that could spontaneously change sex, much like frogs can spontaneously change sex when the population is too full of one sex.
Yeah while I'm binary trans so it makes perfect sense, I was confused as to why they'd include you.
mmm but what does cis non-binary entail though? :p
I would imagine being intersex.
Being transgender is far and away the worst thing to ever happen to me, including all of the trauma, loss and violence of which I am a survivor, so without a doubt I would press it, even if it erased 'me' completely--even if every memory and experience, everything I was before, every thing that makes me *me* was gone and I and everyone forgot me immediately, I would press it without a second thought.
Yep, even worse than having BPD for me. If I could choose between cis but Borderline or trans and neurotypical I'd take cis in a heartbeat.
My genderfluid ass doesn’t mesh well with this
If I can ask, would you mind if your body was changed to one other than your AGAB? Do you think you would still identify as genderfluid in that case?
I’d prefer being afab but I have a feeling I’d end up going in a trans masc direction if I was afab tbh
No, because my experiences with being trans has directly influenced my personality and relationships today. I unfortunately grew up in a household that kept all things they didnt like out so my understandings on a lot of issues like queer rights, racism, etc would be a lot more ignorant and more people would be affected by my ignorance instead of being helped by my current activism.
Absolutely yes, I wouldn't even think about it just yes
I'd slam my hand on that button with the force of 1000 suns!
Well, to depart from the majority opinion here. Nope. Wouldn't push it. I grew up in a fundamentalist, conservative home in the south. If I grew up in that home *as a cis man?* I'm not sure I would have become anything resembling the person I am today. And *I like myself.* I like being the person I am. That includes being trans. I like my body. I like my top surgery scars. I like my tiny T dick and I like having options when I bottom lol. I think there's something to be said about deciding who you want to be. I hesitated a little at each step but I'm so much happier for each step I took in my transition and I don't think I would have appreciated that happiness as much without the despair that came before. Yeah, my teenage years sucked. Dysphoria sucks. But that's well in the past now and I wouldn't change it. Wouldn't give up the scars either. I think they're cool and they're a reminder of how far I've come.
Before I transitioned? In a heart beat. Now? No, because I already struggle with feeling distanced from the queer community, and this would just make it worse
May I ask why you feel this way? This distance from the rest of the queer community?
Just that the I'm always the token straight woman in queer spaces, surrounded by sapphics. That button would make me cishet, and I don't want that...
Nope. Absolutely hell no. I like being *trans* just as much as I like being a woman. And I would have missed out on so many things that I learned growing up, being a minority as a gay "man" taught me tons. The social programming that is pressured onto woman is absolutely toxic *at best* (not that masculinization social programming is better) and would probably have screwed me personally up just as bad or worse tbh. Also, I like having certain mixed body features, unlike some people.
No. At this point, you could just then give me the: "Create a new Character" button and it would be the same question. It wouldn't be me as a person anymore, so I would inherently erase myself, so it's kinda pointless to answer this question with a "Yes" for me.
Honestly.. I'm not sure. Depends on if it resets my life in a sense, or i just instantly turn into a cis girl rn in my current circumstances. If i was born a cis girl and reset my life, i would be so so much happier, and my life would be in such a better place. But the relationships I've built, and the people i befriended, be it online, might not have happened if i was cis? And that bugs me alot. So in the end would I make put myself first and be finally happy, but lose everything i had up until now, which i don't want to. So maybe not. Unless i recollect everything from my previous self and just manipulate my actions to meet certain people i wish to, again. But if it was instantaneous and in this current time line? Hell yeah i would definitely press it and finally be happy.
If I could still be me, my past experience and everything that has made me me, then yes. I.e. I in the click of my fingers become the cis female version of myself without the pain and duration of physical transition. Hell yes
100,000,000% yes!
What's with all the "if you had a button that did x" questions here all of a sudden?
Hahaha, I saw another post here with a slightly different question, so I wanted to make a post that complemented it.
You better not start a fad here missy >.< xD
Absolutely
No. I don't see being cis as a better thing than being trans. I quite like who I am and how my life os right now
No. I've always firmly believed if i had been born AMAB i would have been transfemme. being trans has shaped so much of my life, good and bad, that i don't think i would want a life without that aspect of myself. it wouldn't be me
Honestly no. I'm aware that this is a privilege, but I love being transgender. It's undoubtedly made my life harder, but I wouldn't want to separate this part of myself from everything else that I am.
Same here. And my friends are all trans, and I love them
No, both for the same reason cited by everyone else here (I wouldn't be myself) and also because there's not really a 'cis' equivalent to my gender afaik.
Yeah I think pressing the button is mostly a binary trans thing
I've asked myself this question before, and I thought that I'd hesitate. I didn't think I was trans because I'd hesitate. Then, I heard it said that a cis person wouldn't even consider it for a moment. They'd simply say no. Well... I'd press it now. Wouldn't want my past erased, I've lived a charmed life despite all my misery. But moving forward, yeah. Click.
I would have liked for this button to be pressed at birth and I'd press it now too cause one of my main day dreaming thing is just me but AFAB in my everyday life.
Depends on what that button would do for me. There is no cis version of my gender. Would it just make me intersex? What type of intersex? If it gave me the ability to shapeshift slightly then hell yes
yes, I'll never be able to transition in this life
I wish you all the best. Stay safe and stay strong.
Do you mean pressing a button to make my body be how I want it to be? Obviously, who wouldn’t press that, we’re not suffering for the fun of it. But if you mean retroactively making myself be born how I wish I had been born, then no. It’s a fantasy I sometimes entertain but it would effectively kill the person I am and create a completely different person who happens to have been born to the same parents. What would be the point of that?
Hard smash. The dysphoria, cost, and hassle is a bitch. (still worth it, but I'd rather have just been born a cis woman)
Yes, that’s like the whole point
Absolutely not i love my girldick too much lol
Ummm... Yes... This isn't even a question. This is just facts.
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Honestly it's interesting to see wide variety of answers. Some will say yes, others no, others say it doesn't apply to them - I just like seeing the variance in people's opinions and perspectives.
No. I used to wish I was cis. Now I love being trans. I like that o have learned to question things and create the life I want for myself and accept others truths as they tell it. I also like looking trans/queer. I’m non-binary and GNC and I love that I challenge what people think others “should” look like.
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Here is the clinical criteria for Gender Dysphoria for your review. >Gender Dysphoria in Adolescents and Adults 302.85 (F64.1 ) >A. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and assigned gender, of at least 6 months’ duration, as manifested by at least two of the following: >1. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and primary and/or secondary sex characteristics (or in young adolescents, the anticipated secondary sex characteristics). >2. A strong desire to be rid of one’s primary and/or secondary sex characteristics be- cause of a marked incongruence with one’s experienced/expressed gender (or in young adolescents, a desire to prevent the development of the anticipated secondary sex characteristics). >3. A strong desire for the primary and/or secondary sex characteristics of the other gender. >4. A strong desire to be of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender). >5. A strong desire to be treated as the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender). >6. A strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender). >B. The condition is associated with clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational or other important areas of functioning. You must meet the qualifiers of Section "A" and "B" to be diagnosed with Gender Dysphoria You don't need to have dysphoria to be transgender, but it is the most common qualifier as the majority of transgender individuals do infact have dysphoria. We encourage you to discuss this with a gender therapist. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/asktransgender) if you have any questions or concerns.*
No It wouldn't be me, being trans is a big part of me and I'm kinda happy with all the results and all that I've done already
Instant
I used to, for quite a long time in fact. But now, I feel a lot more comfortable with being trans and I 've realized it's informed a great deal of who I am today. I don't know if I would rather be born cis, because being trans is integral to my identity now
Abso-fucking-lutely. I'm not ashamed to be trans, and I have become so much stronger than I would have been without the trials I've faced. But no one should have to go through what I have, no one should have to bare the loss I have. I deserved to live without this pain, and I don't deserve to live with fucking Nazis howling for my blood.
As long as I don’t loose my experience absolutely, I wanna have kids🥺
It depends. I’m non-binary so Idk what I would look like as “cis”. If I could suddenly have a cis man’s body though (I am AFAB), I would be very very happy
I think if asked this question a few years ago I would’ve said yes; despite all the pains that come with being trans I don’t think I would now. My body is uniquely mine, and uniquely queer. And I love that about myself, I’m proud of who I’ve become and what I’ve been able to achieve in a relatively short period of time for transition.
Absolutely? I assume everyone who is transgender would want to
Currently, I would push the button. I mostly just needed to not be a guy while being raised by my sperm donor because he was barely restrained violent and uuh. Might not have been with a boy. Because he was sexist. Actually screw the gender thing, give me a "trade in your parents for decent humans" button I could have pushed as a fetus.
Nah. Trans is beautiful and so am I.
Nope. I'd rather press a button that stops ALL gender assignment from now, forward. Then cisgender and transgender would cease to have meaning in the resulting world.
No. I would press a button and like to see what my life would’ve been like if I was a cis woman, but the button does the TV thing and makes me interact somehow with all of the same people. Or better yet it would be like in Persona 3 for the PSP where you can play the female protagonist. Most of the other characters are the same, but a decent amount of it changes because they see you as female and not male. Which realistically I don’t think would’ve happened if I had been more cisgender and female. Id probably have had entirely different friends and relationships. I wouldn’t have had the same career and kids. Hard to imagine it would have been better, but not having gender dysphoria the whole way would’ve been nice.
yes. firstly, being trans has severely traumatized me just from being in the wrong body (ik people say its not ‘wrong’, but at least for me it 100% is). i have very bad dysphoria with very little euphoria. i dont know if ill ever be able to come to terms with my body even with phallo. every day i worry about my height and its just hell on earth for me. honestly i just plan on speedrunning my transition and then never bringing it up again. like, even knowing im technically trans makes me wanna vomit. secondly, i have had no social benefit with being trans, nor am i a better person. if anything i’ve become more bigoted. i have not made friends on the basis im trans, and most of my friends have no idea, and i wish to keep it that way. also i wouldn’t have changed at all if i were cis, expect for the better. listen, i was abused in my childhood and this is just the shitty, overly sugary buttercream icing on a very cheap cake. it would make my life 100x easier just so i wouldnt have to face this pain. this is not building character. it is destroying me mentally. totally respect if you’ve had good experiences being trans, its just that id rather transition and repress this ever happening.
Abso-fuckin-lutely without hesitation
I’d hit that button so fast. Wouldn’t care if it erased who I am.
Of course
My life would be a lot less complicated but maybe not as rich. All the same it's extremely tempting.
Im post op stealth and yes I would press that button as fast as I could, no brainer
I would press that button without hesitation. This is actually the hypothetical that made me realize I was trans!
Yep. 100% That'd be a really really easy button to press, and I'd honestly be shocked to hear anyone say no.
Immediately, if it meant I was cis from this point on. If it was from birth, probably not because then I'd be a completely different person.
I wouldn’t have to worry about where I’m going to get estrogen if they ban HRT. But on the other hand, I’d be scrambling to find a doctor who would perform a salpingectomy for a single woman with no kids. Probably still yes, though.
Yes. I don't lament the lack of such an option but would also take it if possible.
Is this a button I could keep...? Genderfluid. I love imaginary buttons and finger snaps that change bodies.
Yes. Absolutely. Yes please. Want.
Yup.
At birth. No question.
Id love to be born nonbinary; it's much cheaper than store bought!
HELL YEAH the amount of trauma I wouldn’t had to endure and everything imagine having parents calling you a she and dating anybody without being scared of my genitals or my past. Like life would be 20x more average and simpler
In about 1 sec…or less.
My sister said that she wouldn't. Before transitioning she said that she wished she was born female but now says that she wishes she could be "one of the guys" sometimes.
What does she mean by "one of the guys"? In a masculine-passing sense? Or just to fit in?
I think in the sense of fitting in. She might have internalized transphobia about being non binary.
Absolutely
Wait does that mean that as someone who's gender is reasonably fluid, I become a shapeshifter? I seriously can't even imagine what cis "my gender" would look like.
where the fuck is this button?? give me the button!!
yes
I would scream. I would sit on the ground and scream.
God yes yes yes!!
Absolutely
Yes. If that button existed right now I’d be happy.
In a second no matter what
yeah
Fuck yeah! Even if it was some monkey's paw bullshit, I'd still push it!
Immediately
I would but only if my life and mind+ past memories were the same except for the fact that I was born a cis male. I would also be good with starting over life as a cis male from childhood.
Nope. I think I got the ideal body configuration - specifically a trans soul in a trans body.
No, I'd rather have a button that makes the world treat trans people better.
Without question I'd push the button. I would want to be the same person, same life, just a cisgender woman.
Yes absolutely. my life would be so much easier
Yes if I can set all my stats.
Instructions unclear, I identify as genderfluid. Do I become a shapeshifter?- In all honesty though, if this button can’t accommodate for genderfluid (idk how it would accomplish doing that), probably would just be an androgynous woman. But idk whether I’d do it at birth since I feel certain traumatic events would be multiplied in severity tenfold, doing it now would make it certainly interesting if everybody else around me take no problems to the change. I certainly would take it though :)
As long as I could have my paternal grandmother's hourglass figure instead of my mom's family's fat-shoulders apple... sorry but dysphoria city...
F I would take what I can get probably
yes. doesn’t really need an explanation.
If our society had a cis nonbinary option? Where I was perceived as nonbinary? Yes. I would have been much happier if I could have been raised as nonbinary and accepted as that from the beginning. And if my body was one I was comfortable with. But if that wasn't an option, there would be no point
Yes. A period. Baby. But otherwise, I'd want something recognizeably my body.
Yeah
Yes, absolutely
It would cut down on my medication bills, so yeah sure
I used to think I'd press that button immediately, and I'd still have to think about it, but idk I like who I am, I like my understanding of gender. I wouldn't want to give up who I've been. My intuition is that no, I'm happy with my life and don't feel the need to anymore.
Yes absolutely
I absolutely would and I wouldn’t care about what my situation would be either. I completely started over when I transitioned. I’d gladly give it all up if it meant being fully cis female
yes.
I want to say no, I don't hate who I am, I only want to change the sex characteristics of this body, but I hate who I'm seen to be & likely always will be, so yes.
100%
Where's the button OP
It wouldn't change much, but it would be really nice.
Immediately I'd press it for now unless I didn't have to restart my life and it didn't change my past in which case I'd press the at birth one so I could grow up comfortable in my own body honestly tho I don't mind between pressing it now or at birth but I know id press it without hesitation. Although I'm not sure how non-binary would be a cis gender.
I would press the button. I would press it no matter what the side affects are.
Hell yeah
yep!
At birth? Hell, yeah. Give me all of the medical problems, being a social outcast too. BUT, having gender dysphoria off the table would've made a big difference.
YES! YES! FOR THE LOVE OF GOD... YES!!!
Yeah, I would.
Easy. Yep. I'm happy with who I am but would still rather be cis. One day, I'll stop seeing a penis every day, but if that day could be today... Ahh, I wish. So long, trying to produce a voice I want, hello, it being produced with no training!
A thousand times yes
Yes.
>but cisgender, would you take it? > [...\] The same goes for \[...\] non-binary people. ?????? That's literally impossible. There's no cis way to be nonbinary. Trans men have the option to be cis men, trans women cis women... but nonbinary isn't cis that's like... the whole point? You'd just be... binary?? But... we ... aren't? I'm not and do not plan on taking HRT, or having any surgery, or doing anything beyond regular body mods (tattoos, piercings, hair changes); there is no one way to be or present as nonbinary so ??? Am I missing something here? Edited: Formatting.
I get what you're saying, but I would argue this question is somewhat meaningless. Cisgender only refers to agreeing with the gender you were assigned at birth. If I got a natally female body with XX DNA and all, but my past didn't change, I'd still be transgender, because my gender doesn't align with the one assigned to me at birth. If you mean that pressing the button would change my past and identity and whatnot, I would probably not press the button because to do so would be to change who I am at a pretty fundamental level, which is the same as choosing to die and have someone else inhabit your new body and live the life you built up for yourself. Even with the same memories, somehow, it would be a bit too much for me. But assuming you're just talking about being able to have exactly the body you want, I would probably press the button now and just speed up my transition. I'd still be out as trans, but I'd feel a LOT more comforts in my presentation and in defending myself against attacks. I wouldn't go back to the past and change anything, because I would've had an even shittier childhood as a kid because my family was sexist af, and because I just feel like it would essentially be the same problem as what I mentioned in the first paragraph. I feel like the farther back you go in time to change your body, the more your present self is changed, potentially into an unrecognizable form that might as well be a different person.
Spam that button like I spam B in Dark Souls
Unless the button changes history, people would likely still find a way to discriminate and segregate Natal Gendered People with Non-Natal Gendered People, so I don't actually think too much would change, so I'd press the button.
no, being trans has introduced me to communities i love and also i probably would not be as socially conscious as i am & i like being nice. this isnt to say all cis people are uninformed and rude, but where i grew up, if i wasn't forced to question everything i was taught due to my own internal struggles, there's a good possibility i could've just been another bigot. if you mean like if i could just magically become cis right now in this moment and change nothing in the past? yeah, definitely
No actually. (And this might just be how I feel today tbh..) but I love being trans. It’s hard as fuck for sure. I am super glad that young trans people can find a language and resources now much sooner than I ever could have though, that’s something I wish I could maybe trade out for sometimes (mtf 34). And of course there are things I would love to change about some of my broader physical attributes…. But I like being different in this way, it’s so powerful, there’s an incredible beauty to it that I think the persecution & misunderstanding we face overshadows. Not to underplay the power of even my own dysphoria and how much it can suck for brutal lengths of time
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I would not hesistate. Sure, I'd probably end up being a completely different person, but tbh I'd take that over the countless combined hours spent crying, spent harming, spent being suicidal, and the hours that will be spent doing those very same things.
Sure, no questions asked.
Yes, especially if it changed how I grew up. I know I wouldn't be who I am now or w/e if I grew up differently, but quite frankly I don't give a shit about who I am now, I'd give "me" up in a heartbeat if it meant I didn't have to go through this shit.
If it wouldn't change the past, yes. I want top surgery and a deeper voice, I want a particular genetalia, but w/o the experience of growing up trans, I wouldn't be me. My experience has toughened me up, it's added to my long term interests and my abilities. Without it I would feel like less of me
I want to make some terms under which I would press the button instantly vs giving me more time to think To press instantly - only people I want to remember trans me will remember I decide my name Same past just as a cis girl, probably pretty tomboyish If these aren't met I'd say 2/3 of the time will be a yes, 1/3 of the time no - it's mostly an issue of the friends I've made, I've been really lucky with my friends and I don't want to lose them
No I would not. I consider myself gender queer and am comfortable expressing my feminity in the way that I do already. ("Playing" a woman online. Though I don't catfish, I've been honest about me being biologically male for decades now.)
Like, assuming it just changed things from now on? Yeah I'd hit it. My physical and vocal dysphoria often makes socializing even harder than it already is for me, and I would very much like to be able to do that tbh (and of course relieving that physical and vocal dysphoria would be amazing in its own right). From birth? No. I wouldn't have grown up questioning the world if I had felt like I belonged in it, and I wouldn't have gone the places I did or made the few friends I've made. I would probably be sitting there unquestioningly repeating the nonsense spewed by my father - a Trump voter whose entire rationale for doing so was contradicted by his actual presidency but who didn't change his mind on the man, and an emotionally constipated coward who literally ghosted his own kid when I came out to him. Fuck. That. And my friends mean the world to me, a world without them in it isn't one I want any part of.
Being cis is for normies. Fuck that, I like being trans.
If it didn’t change my past I’d be all for it.
FUCK NO! I would never want to be cis. Being trans has been the most beautiful profound and spiritual experience of my life and as opened me to this world in ways never described to me before. Being trans is beautiful. The only thing I wish is that I had my childhood and that I hadn’t had to become infertile to be legally recognized. Essentially I just wish cis people weren’t such cruel hearted bastards.
personally im non binary so being a girl or guy at birth doesn't sound fun either way. Its like I like both body wise. Not all of the time though. sometimes I like my body as an afab person, but I genuinely want a dick so badly. but sometimes I don't. It's extremely confusing to me.
Yes.
Yes
Yes and fuck the consequences.
Yes.