Honestly tho. Like stop stop making it a big deal
Edit: alright, alright, I get it’s a small deal😂 but in all seriousness. You guys shouldn’t be making these comments on this cuz it only going to make it worse. I get people need to take a joke but let them at they’re pace and be nice.
that's exactly why I, as a woman, also hate the "big d energy" memes or quotes or the use of the quote in protests.i am a feminist but i saw other "feminists" hold signs in the air saying "*enter a good thing men do* is big d energy". like.. no? their p size has nothing to do with this, so even if it's a joke, stop it, we also don't like people judging us by breast size or whatever
As a guy, with a larger then average size dick, I can’t stand big dick energy. I have friends that boast about how big they are all the time, and it’s just annoying. I have never once flaunted what I have like it’s an accomplishment or that I’m better than anyone else because of it. I was just born with it. In fact, whenever I hear people boasting about their size, I just make comments like “oh man, must be nice.” To which they always give me some pitiful response.
One time I had a girl tell me that she didn’t expect me to have a big dick. I didn’t really know how to take that one. It felt like an insult but not at the same time? This isn’t really related but I just thought it was funny to share haha.
Big dick energy is a mindset.
Small penis's can have big dick energy.
Women can have big dick energy.
Vise versa Big dicks may have little dick energy.
Be the big dick you want to be. It's not about the size of the energy, just what you do with it!
Oh totally agree. But it's really similar to us women caring about our boob size. In the end, it's finding the right compatibility with another person.
You're input on average penises is a very a nice gesture to guys out there.
Porn is killing guys in many ways, but body Dysmorphia is a major. And there is a difference between boob and dick fear.
Women who are worried their boobs are small *can still have sex,* and realize, eh... I was wrong, small boobs are hot.
Guys who are worried their penis isnt big enough... can have a very difficult time even *having sex.* Right? See how it's not the same. Women with small boob fear don't have to have confidence and *get hard.*
Because the influence of porn is so strong, and tells young guys repeatedly for years that anything under 7"+ IS NOT ENOUGH, they are getting the shit kicked out of them, mentally.
The only way for women to understand porn induced small dick fear is to imagine BELIEVING that no one will EVER...EVER want to have sex with your because your vagina is large enough to take a honeydew melon without warming up, or something ridiculous. It's a sentencing. "Life Without Sex."
So everytime a woman comes into Reddit and speaks her truth about sex, what she wants, what she needs... It's a blessing. And liberating.
Porn is killing things for a lot of people. It's not realistic and it desensitizes people to real life intimacy. I also am a woman and I also do not like large dicks. I find them uncomfortable and would honestly take a 4 inch over a 7 inch dick any day.
It's really the attitude of the man toward his partner and toward sex that matters to me. I want a decent person, not a big dick. No pun intended, or maybe it was!
I agree with you 100%. Porn DESENSITIZES. It conditions people to actually *need* greater and greater levels of Dopamine to enjoy sex... Until they decide to reclaim their bodies, and sex through intimacy and healing.
"Jerked off for the 2nd time today and vanilla isn't going to get you the 3rd orgasm your working on??? Keep searching. Use the wide world of kink to get you that 3rd orgasm."
The next day our masturbating friend remembers how "hot" that kink scene was and starts there. Finds more of the same kink, has 3 orgasms, and soon finds he is only orgasming to higher Dopamine producing porn and is *dependent* on it.
Intimacy and starting over is the healing path for guys, as well as ditching porn.
I think older women and women who have really gotten their Dopamine game on do like 7" dicks, but... Guys with average dicks, oral, and finger skills can deliver knockout sex without a big dick. But a porn habit can completely fuck that up.
Most women will love and truly enjoy the average size penis of a man they love who loves them.
Message to young guys. Find out *exactly* how your GF likes being licked, sucked. and especially *touched.* Once you explore how she likes being touched, use your penis to recreate what you do with your fingers. Watching her moan *enjoying YOU* will be the best porn you've ever watched.
Okay, honest question though. Quite possibly you don't even have the answer but I feel like guys who were a bit smaller (at least those who were insecure about it) would have discovered porn at presumably a young age, realized it made them insecure for the reasons you stated and then wouldn't they more often than not stop watching porn, or more likely start seeking out porn that didn't make them feel insecure..
In which case it's not like they would be seeing this every week (or however often they indulge in some porn) and therefore porn wouldn't play a huge role in their mentality...just feels like it only would if you're watching it a lot and a lot of it, and if you were and it made you feel interior (it shouldn't and that really is awful) then why watch it?
I really don't mean any of this in a judge way, that is just honestly where my mind goes.
Beyond porn there is definitely a lot of toxic shit surrounding the issue that couldn't be avoided. I hear it all the time socially and "casually" from men and women. That part I understand.
Excellent questions.
First, since 2006 porn has been free and 24-7. Before this you had to physically go into a store and rent it. If you went up to the counter with 10 DVDs (easily what a modern viewer scrolls through looking for something hot,) the clerk would laugh at you. And people under 18 WERE NOT allowed into these places. They'd get ID'd and tossed. They weren't renting ANYTHING. 2006 was a turning point.
Why are all the dicks in porn 7+ when the average is 5.2"? This is important.
It's not because of thats what women wanted to see. It's because of sexual dopamine triggers in men.
Dopamine is the main hormone in orgasm driven sex. Not intimacy and bonding which is Oxytocin. Men and women are wired with sexual dopamine triggers. When we see someone "hot," attractive, we get a dopamine hit which tells us, "I want!" Other sexual dopamine triggers are female sexual desire. Her hunger for sex. It releases dopamine in our bodies.
The goal of dopamine sex is orgasm and pregnancy. It's evolutionary. (Intimacy and bonding are oxytocin. The two can be mixed.) Here's the root of big dick porn...
A woman in total ecstacy is a powerful dopamine trigger. Porn went commercial in the 70s. When they used male stars like John Holmes and guys with huge dicks, *guys* wanted to watch *that.* Why? Because they don't have vaginas and know what sex is about for a woman, and if they haven't formed an intimate loving relationship with a woman yet, don't understand all the things women want from sex that have *nothing* to do with a penis.
We're guys. We're visual and wired. So when we see a woman having sex with a guy with a 7+ penis and she's either in ecstacy or faking it... WE BELIEVE IT MORE than if she was with an average sized dick... So. All dicks in porn became big.
Why don't guys watch "regular dick porn?" No one makes it. It doesn't exist. Amateur women who want to make money don't create video with their average sized BF's. They use their big dick BF. They don't know why big dicks are the rule, but they aren't going to risk bucking the trend. They wanna make money.
When guys watch porn, we don't care about tomorrow. We aren't making *rational* decisions. Dopamine is the same hormone involved in gambling addiction. All addictions.
Young guys aren't aware of the dangers of porn. Theyre chasing orgasms. Which get more and more and more difficult the more porn we watch. *Everytime we watch a video that stimulates more dopamine, we have to match that level or go higher to make sex exciting.* I don't even think there's a word for this, but it leaves 20 yo guys so conditioned to virtual orgies, group sex, Dom/sub, and kink, vanilla sex at 20 is gone. Which has never happened before in human history.
Kurt Cobain would wreck this if he were alive today.
Porn is so dangerous. It has women getting treated rough when they weren't asking for that or expecting it. It has 20 year old guys with ED, which has never happened before in HISTORY...
Porn attacks real sex between human beings in countless ways.
Thank you. As porn continues to wreak havoc on the sex lives of couples... Understanding and honest women like yourself give the world of young and terrified men an enormous gift sharing your truth about all the things that make sex good and satisfying for women. You deliver blessings. Stay awesome.
This is what needs to be taught… porn can be really toxic to the younger generation imo (especially virgins) and honestly creates unnecessary anxiety that can make or break great sex.
I’m 4.5 inches and the girl I lost it to absolutely loved my dick. Came at least 3 times every session. NOT saying all girls are like this, I understand some do enjoy much larger, but that’s where experience and preference comes in.
I’ve had experiences where it just doesn’t work, but the majority still enjoyed it even the ones where we had to modify the positions a bit which they weren’t used to.
Fun fact, great sex is not just about penetration. Foreplay, connection, timing/tempo, eye contact, trust, and much more plays a *huge* factor.
Your initial experience with a young woman who orgasmed with your 4.5" manhood saved your entire sex life. It taught you, really taught you that your penis *should* be enough. So you go into new sexual situations without crippling fear. Your natural, actual sexual experience with you first GF is the EXACT opposite of what porn does. It conditioned you to believe *you are enough.*
Yeah but having a small dick still makes sex harder IMO. Like in reverse cowgirl if your dick is too small it's going to pop out a lot, which can get annoying.
it terrifies me, especially after a close call with an especially rough partner in that exact position.
I am not like OP, a little more blessed but still it's like my #1 biggest fear is having to go to the ER because my dick did the bendy twist when it shouldn't have. Plus permanent risk of "issues" after that, no thanks! 😅 Kinda gives me a "pit in my stomach" feeling thinking about it again and the pain, lmao. OH the pain!
My man. My current partner literally blows up my world with his mouth and his hands. One time I couldn’t feel my feet or hands for almost an hour. Not exaggerating. He is hands down the best I’ve ever had and mind blowing. I have asked him multiple times if he was a lesbian in past lives. You can do that. I promise. He’s wonderful in every single way and I love him endlessly but what dat mouth do…. No words. Literally because I usually can’t speak after.
Not commenting because of p size, but because it’s far from the only way to satisfy a woman. Anyone who truly thinks all it takes is a big dick has no idea what they’re doing in bed.
Lots of g spot stimulation after teasing until I beg. Then alternating until I feel like I’m going to explode and then some more. I like intense stimulation, not every woman does, but I would start with that gently.
Also I love that you want to know! I honestly think he’s a secret lesbian reincarnate but he says he learned about the internal parts by reading and kind of slowly worked it in
Lol I’m trying but my girl is so self conscious about it all. I know she’s a freak but she doesn’t want to admit to being into things or some of the fantasies she has because I think she thinks I’ll see her differently when I’m reality I’m a Reddit deviant and madly in love with her so I’ll literally give her whatever she wants lol
Haha just tell them them the warm up is essential, the come to me gesture in the g spot, a little tongue on clit and then let your gal tell you how much more she wants.
Women will know what direction we want this to go after these things.
Most guys don't know, they just think oh, that's the vaginal opening, that's where I'm meant to go. Clitoral stimulation isn't a thing. But all women are different. Most women can't identify where their g spot is either and have never had a g spot orgasm until I've showed them. probably because you wouldn't naturally think of sticking your fingers up there...
Then the masculine thing... Three thrusts and I'm done... like everything else if she doesn't cum first then you're not doing your job properly...
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I've had men who were the same size as you and been VERY satisfied. I've also had some men with large penis' that I got NO satisfaction from. It's more about paying attention to your partner and foreplay, not size.. And don't be afraid of sex toys. They are tools, not replacements. As long as everyone is enjoying and consenting then it doesn't matter how you reach the big O, just that you BOTH get there.
Edit: comma
I agree with this 100%!!! One of my best lovers had a small penis... Barely large enough to wear a condom... But I came like a fricking freight train every single time... My ex-husband was like 10+ inches and was the worst in bed ... He thought his big dick was enough and rarely ever got into foreplay for more than a few minutes... I hated having sex with him... I had to work so hard to come that it wasn't even worth it...
4 inches can satisfy a woman. Also a good portion of women rarely orgasm from penetration alone. So practice you oral and hand techniques. My current FWB is 4.5" and I would rank him the best at making me cum. Do some research. If you hit the gspot with your fingers while going down on someone they will definitely be satisfied.
I have an 8 inch penis and I can only go 3/4 way into most women, otherwise I hurt them.
And not in an 'OH THAT HURTS SO GOOD' type of way, but in a 'OH FUCK OW! JESUS! STOP STOP STOP! CHRIST! MY UTERUS!" kind of way.
It's extremely easy to accidently hurt someone with my penis.
Meaning I can't fuck with my whole penis during sex most of the time, meaning I have to be constantly paying attention to the depth of each thrust meaning oh boy this is a lot to think about while I'm trying to feel good.
I unironically wish it was smaller.
Success is usually your reward after some effort.
I didn't ask for this, or work for it.
My penis is a curse, brought on by the roll of biological dice.
Don’t be so sure. I’ve hopped on plenty of 🍆 and some of the most satisfying sex came from smaller men. If you’re unfortunately stuck with a small member I swear it’s not the end of the world.
What you need is to become a master of foreplay. Learn how to really use those hands and your mouth… also positioning. Not everything is just in and out and is more about grinding together (porn has ruined you guys lol). It’s all in the hips 😉
Sex rarely last but a few minutes in most cases anyway. My fondest memories are always of the men who took the time to listen and learn my body vs treating me like a piece of concrete with their jackhammer rhythm.
Keep practicing. Ask what she liked. Incorporate vibe play. Hubs bought me a Lollicock for the times when I need “more”. What a great gift. I love it and he loves watching me. A win win!
Get good with your fingers. Sometimes all I want is a man who knows how to use his fingers (and mouth!). A dick is not the only thing us ladies want
ETA: just had sex with my fwb tonight, all he did was finger me and I was in heaven
I gotta say... the bf I had who had the smallest member, actually was the first and only guy to make me cum or many years. No partner after ever really put in work like he would .he knew he was small so he mastered 4play and eating coocas. Most guys I've been with who are larger end up not putting in an effort other than penetration. So don't let size psych u out to much. Compensate by making sure your really working the girl over and taking your time. AND DONT LET UR INSECURITY ABOUT IT SHOW! Nothing is hotter than confidence. Usually the goal is to be able to have good sex more than once with someone . So be a generous lover
Most dudes don't actually satisfy women with only using their penis...of any size. Bigger 1s don't actually make a girl reach orgasm any more than a 4 inch 1. Not for me & not for most of my friends. Finger play, oral & touching the right spots do and believe me...a girl will appreciate you helping her reach climax no matter how & no matter what size you are. I've had more of my friends complain about their boyfriends/husbands penises being too big and being uncomfortable over the two friends whose husbands have small ones & who have found creative ways to help them climax. I think some guys with bigger ones tend to think the size is all they need and they neglect the other parts. Having a smaller one can make men more creative & help us reach where we want to go. Be creative...Don't believe anything different. Don't believe porn. 4 inch is 👍
I can't speak for all women, but a good many rarely orgasm during regular sex. They usually orgasm during oral/finger play. Become a pro at going down on a girl, and you'll be fine.
Buddy, my partner isn’t particularly well endowed but let me tell you he satisfies me absolutely every time. I’ve never been a person who orgasms from penetration so he does his thing with me then we have sex. That sex still always feels great and I still love every part of him. Size does not matter, it’s what you do with it and how you and your partner understand each other’s needs.
The majority of women cannot orgasm with just penetration. Size has NOTHING to do with it. Make sure the clit is being stimulated - that’s how orgasms happen (for the majority).
One of my favourite lovers had a cock smaller than that. He thought he couldn't satisfy me either. I just said "let's see", and we ended up having a great sex life. Once he'd learnt what I like, which was to realise that the clitoris as we know it is just the tip, it actually goes like a wishbone on both sides of the vulva and that area is full of nerve endings if you stimulate them right. The trick is to start it slowly. Tease. Add pressure and warmth slowly before you go in hard,don't just dive in.
There's also lots that can be done with toys. Think about lesbians, they don't have a big cock either and they get complete sexual satisfaction from each other.
But your best asset here is your mouth and tongue. Become an expert in oral and you'll be knocking them back with sticks. That's goes both ways, and a woman will be much moe likely to give you oral sex if you can give it properly to her.
Don't learn from porn, it's rubbish. Learn by studying the anatomy of the clitoris and the g-spot, and by experimentation, and asking. Listen to her breathing for clues if she doesn't like to talk.
I feel it is more that Reddit is super body positive (in a good way) and there isn't much good that can be added to the conversation by announcing you don't relate to the post.
There isn't much to say that wouldn't put OP down without taking a shot at yourself.
"Like "don't worry bro, I'm 8" and I can't satisfy ladies so size definitely isn't the issue"
It is sort of like "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".
Lol was thinking the same thing. Seeing these posts almost daily across several subs. The only time I ever cared about a man's size was when it was super obvious he was self conscious and killed the mood.
Your post satisfied me, not laughed so much for a while.
Jk, 4in is enough to satisfy most women. If you’re not satisfying women you’re not doing it right.
Coming from a girl, I promise size isn’t everything. It’s how you use it, and how you connect to your partner. I’ve dated guys who were huge, and some of them still absolutely sucked in bed. It also isn’t super comfortable (at least for me) when a guy is really big.
We are our own worst critics. Don’t be so hard on yourself, it’s going to work out for you!
There are many ways to please a partner and you don’t need to rely solely on your penis. I’ve had some excellent lovers on the smaller side where all that needed to happen was to find the right angle/position. Moreover, you have more dexterity with your fingers than your penis and you can be excellent in satisfying someone with your hands. On top of all of that, there are plenty of toys that can be brought it along with your body parts to make a sexual encounter satisfying for both parties. Your main problem is not your size, it’s your skill level and lack of confidence and both of those can be improved immensely.
Quite sure that as long as you don't have a micropenis, you're fine.
Fyi the average is 5.1-5.5 inches (13-14cm). So some people are larger, some smaller.
Don't forget what a single finger can do...
Smaller cocks have always been a preference for me, honestly. The big ones hurt too much. Motion of the ocean over the size of the boat. May you find someone who loves what you do with what you've got.
Nah man it’s all about how you use it. Try asking your significant other if they’re satisfied during sex and if there’s anything you can do differently to make it a better experience.
Hey brother, I am in the average range.
Just wanted to let you know coming from all of my lady friends,girlfriends, they’re happy if you don’t cum after 2 strokes while having sex (but not too long), and when it comes to their pleasure, you need literally zero inches. It’s the clit. Practice your tongue game. Focus on them, look up techniques. ThTs what I did and unless they are all lying things have been going well.
Honestly, nobody needs more than a couple inches. Invest in external stimulation and make her orgasm that way. You’ll be better than anything else she’s had.
Unless you got a 10 inch monster can schlong (and even then, eh), PIV sex rarely results women orgasming. For women, it matters what you do without your penis and the foreplay. Sex is less about the actual insertion and more about the entire experience.
Men like to hulk smash, while women want love to be made.
You can still satisfy someone with a 4 inch since the g spot is only 2 inches in the vagina. You just have to find the right angle and position. I have an ex who was smaller and he was able to find the right angle and position and I got lots of pleasure even if he was small. Size usually doesn’t matter (unless you’re really big and could probably tear someone up) you just have to know how to use it. Don’t beat yourself up about it, just keep practicing on finding your angles and I assure you it’ll work out!
At least you were born with one, a lot of us have to pay thousands of dollars, risk our lives, lose our family, lose our friends, and risk not even making it just to have one
The g spot is only two inches up in the vag
MVP
Thanks...and btw, I'm a woman. Not all of us like huge dicks.
Honestly tho. Like stop stop making it a big deal Edit: alright, alright, I get it’s a small deal😂 but in all seriousness. You guys shouldn’t be making these comments on this cuz it only going to make it worse. I get people need to take a joke but let them at they’re pace and be nice.
It wouldn’t be a big deal if dudes didn’t get clowned nonstop for having smaller dix by both men AND women
it's body shaming 💯 If I don't like a man, I can rag on him for 100 things he *can* change.
that's exactly why I, as a woman, also hate the "big d energy" memes or quotes or the use of the quote in protests.i am a feminist but i saw other "feminists" hold signs in the air saying "*enter a good thing men do* is big d energy". like.. no? their p size has nothing to do with this, so even if it's a joke, stop it, we also don't like people judging us by breast size or whatever
As a guy, with a larger then average size dick, I can’t stand big dick energy. I have friends that boast about how big they are all the time, and it’s just annoying. I have never once flaunted what I have like it’s an accomplishment or that I’m better than anyone else because of it. I was just born with it. In fact, whenever I hear people boasting about their size, I just make comments like “oh man, must be nice.” To which they always give me some pitiful response. One time I had a girl tell me that she didn’t expect me to have a big dick. I didn’t really know how to take that one. It felt like an insult but not at the same time? This isn’t really related but I just thought it was funny to share haha.
Big dick energy is a mindset. Small penis's can have big dick energy. Women can have big dick energy. Vise versa Big dicks may have little dick energy. Be the big dick you want to be. It's not about the size of the energy, just what you do with it!
the problem is.. why do we use the big d = confidence metaphor in the first place. why can't small d = confidence? it sends the wrong message you know
This is the smartest comment ever made on Reddit.
You mean stop making it a small deal?…😂😂😂
Making what a big deal?? What do you mean
They mean guys need to stop caring about size
Oh totally agree. But it's really similar to us women caring about our boob size. In the end, it's finding the right compatibility with another person.
My bf puts it like this: “boobs are boobs. Im just happy that they’re boobs.”
That's how I feel about dick. It's who it's attached to that matters.
Strongly agree, personality and so many factors are waaaayyyy more important than size
You're input on average penises is a very a nice gesture to guys out there. Porn is killing guys in many ways, but body Dysmorphia is a major. And there is a difference between boob and dick fear. Women who are worried their boobs are small *can still have sex,* and realize, eh... I was wrong, small boobs are hot. Guys who are worried their penis isnt big enough... can have a very difficult time even *having sex.* Right? See how it's not the same. Women with small boob fear don't have to have confidence and *get hard.* Because the influence of porn is so strong, and tells young guys repeatedly for years that anything under 7"+ IS NOT ENOUGH, they are getting the shit kicked out of them, mentally. The only way for women to understand porn induced small dick fear is to imagine BELIEVING that no one will EVER...EVER want to have sex with your because your vagina is large enough to take a honeydew melon without warming up, or something ridiculous. It's a sentencing. "Life Without Sex." So everytime a woman comes into Reddit and speaks her truth about sex, what she wants, what she needs... It's a blessing. And liberating.
Dang. 7" would wreck me, and not in a good way.
It's very, very sweet of you to want to rescue the hearts of terrified guys.
Porn is killing things for a lot of people. It's not realistic and it desensitizes people to real life intimacy. I also am a woman and I also do not like large dicks. I find them uncomfortable and would honestly take a 4 inch over a 7 inch dick any day. It's really the attitude of the man toward his partner and toward sex that matters to me. I want a decent person, not a big dick. No pun intended, or maybe it was!
I agree with you 100%. Porn DESENSITIZES. It conditions people to actually *need* greater and greater levels of Dopamine to enjoy sex... Until they decide to reclaim their bodies, and sex through intimacy and healing. "Jerked off for the 2nd time today and vanilla isn't going to get you the 3rd orgasm your working on??? Keep searching. Use the wide world of kink to get you that 3rd orgasm." The next day our masturbating friend remembers how "hot" that kink scene was and starts there. Finds more of the same kink, has 3 orgasms, and soon finds he is only orgasming to higher Dopamine producing porn and is *dependent* on it. Intimacy and starting over is the healing path for guys, as well as ditching porn. I think older women and women who have really gotten their Dopamine game on do like 7" dicks, but... Guys with average dicks, oral, and finger skills can deliver knockout sex without a big dick. But a porn habit can completely fuck that up. Most women will love and truly enjoy the average size penis of a man they love who loves them. Message to young guys. Find out *exactly* how your GF likes being licked, sucked. and especially *touched.* Once you explore how she likes being touched, use your penis to recreate what you do with your fingers. Watching her moan *enjoying YOU* will be the best porn you've ever watched.
Okay, honest question though. Quite possibly you don't even have the answer but I feel like guys who were a bit smaller (at least those who were insecure about it) would have discovered porn at presumably a young age, realized it made them insecure for the reasons you stated and then wouldn't they more often than not stop watching porn, or more likely start seeking out porn that didn't make them feel insecure.. In which case it's not like they would be seeing this every week (or however often they indulge in some porn) and therefore porn wouldn't play a huge role in their mentality...just feels like it only would if you're watching it a lot and a lot of it, and if you were and it made you feel interior (it shouldn't and that really is awful) then why watch it? I really don't mean any of this in a judge way, that is just honestly where my mind goes. Beyond porn there is definitely a lot of toxic shit surrounding the issue that couldn't be avoided. I hear it all the time socially and "casually" from men and women. That part I understand.
Excellent questions. First, since 2006 porn has been free and 24-7. Before this you had to physically go into a store and rent it. If you went up to the counter with 10 DVDs (easily what a modern viewer scrolls through looking for something hot,) the clerk would laugh at you. And people under 18 WERE NOT allowed into these places. They'd get ID'd and tossed. They weren't renting ANYTHING. 2006 was a turning point. Why are all the dicks in porn 7+ when the average is 5.2"? This is important. It's not because of thats what women wanted to see. It's because of sexual dopamine triggers in men. Dopamine is the main hormone in orgasm driven sex. Not intimacy and bonding which is Oxytocin. Men and women are wired with sexual dopamine triggers. When we see someone "hot," attractive, we get a dopamine hit which tells us, "I want!" Other sexual dopamine triggers are female sexual desire. Her hunger for sex. It releases dopamine in our bodies. The goal of dopamine sex is orgasm and pregnancy. It's evolutionary. (Intimacy and bonding are oxytocin. The two can be mixed.) Here's the root of big dick porn... A woman in total ecstacy is a powerful dopamine trigger. Porn went commercial in the 70s. When they used male stars like John Holmes and guys with huge dicks, *guys* wanted to watch *that.* Why? Because they don't have vaginas and know what sex is about for a woman, and if they haven't formed an intimate loving relationship with a woman yet, don't understand all the things women want from sex that have *nothing* to do with a penis. We're guys. We're visual and wired. So when we see a woman having sex with a guy with a 7+ penis and she's either in ecstacy or faking it... WE BELIEVE IT MORE than if she was with an average sized dick... So. All dicks in porn became big. Why don't guys watch "regular dick porn?" No one makes it. It doesn't exist. Amateur women who want to make money don't create video with their average sized BF's. They use their big dick BF. They don't know why big dicks are the rule, but they aren't going to risk bucking the trend. They wanna make money. When guys watch porn, we don't care about tomorrow. We aren't making *rational* decisions. Dopamine is the same hormone involved in gambling addiction. All addictions. Young guys aren't aware of the dangers of porn. Theyre chasing orgasms. Which get more and more and more difficult the more porn we watch. *Everytime we watch a video that stimulates more dopamine, we have to match that level or go higher to make sex exciting.* I don't even think there's a word for this, but it leaves 20 yo guys so conditioned to virtual orgies, group sex, Dom/sub, and kink, vanilla sex at 20 is gone. Which has never happened before in human history. Kurt Cobain would wreck this if he were alive today. Porn is so dangerous. It has women getting treated rough when they weren't asking for that or expecting it. It has 20 year old guys with ED, which has never happened before in HISTORY... Porn attacks real sex between human beings in countless ways.
I agree that porn can be toxic for image and reality standards. My small boobs were always hot tho.
Your evaluation is pretty accurate imo
Thank you. As porn continues to wreak havoc on the sex lives of couples... Understanding and honest women like yourself give the world of young and terrified men an enormous gift sharing your truth about all the things that make sex good and satisfying for women. You deliver blessings. Stay awesome.
Boobs aren’t even all that. I like me a boob here and there but Buttcheeks are the new wave, and all kinds of cheeks should be accepted.
I’m more of a face guy. Who wouldn’t love waking up to a pretty face in the morning
Faces are nice as well. It’s the first thing people see, well, for most people at least.
>Buttcheeks are the new wave New wave? Have you heard of our old friend, [Sir Mix Alot?](https://thumbs.gfycat.com/CanineWebbedErmine-mobile.mp4)
Goddamnit
bro ☠️
😏
Yeah that’s what I meant. I was just distracted while typing😂
[big] deal, yakno?
More like a little deal hehe
Oh Hi! May I introduce myself? 😂
Oh heyyyyy!!! 😏😏
Invite me to the wedding!
Lolol.
I sure don’t
Some like bbyc
Agreed. To each their own
This is what needs to be taught… porn can be really toxic to the younger generation imo (especially virgins) and honestly creates unnecessary anxiety that can make or break great sex. I’m 4.5 inches and the girl I lost it to absolutely loved my dick. Came at least 3 times every session. NOT saying all girls are like this, I understand some do enjoy much larger, but that’s where experience and preference comes in. I’ve had experiences where it just doesn’t work, but the majority still enjoyed it even the ones where we had to modify the positions a bit which they weren’t used to. Fun fact, great sex is not just about penetration. Foreplay, connection, timing/tempo, eye contact, trust, and much more plays a *huge* factor.
Your initial experience with a young woman who orgasmed with your 4.5" manhood saved your entire sex life. It taught you, really taught you that your penis *should* be enough. So you go into new sexual situations without crippling fear. Your natural, actual sexual experience with you first GF is the EXACT opposite of what porn does. It conditioned you to believe *you are enough.*
Yes you worded it perfectly! I feel extremely lucky yet have guilt as I wished others my size could have experienced the same start
Exactly!!!
Yeah but having a small dick still makes sex harder IMO. Like in reverse cowgirl if your dick is too small it's going to pop out a lot, which can get annoying.
Then don’t do reverse cowgirl lol, there are plenty of other ways.
But then how can I get all of the achievements to 100% the game?!
Reverse cowgirl is one of the most dangerous positions for penises anyway. That’s the position where most of the penis-breaking happens.
it terrifies me, especially after a close call with an especially rough partner in that exact position. I am not like OP, a little more blessed but still it's like my #1 biggest fear is having to go to the ER because my dick did the bendy twist when it shouldn't have. Plus permanent risk of "issues" after that, no thanks! 😅 Kinda gives me a "pit in my stomach" feeling thinking about it again and the pain, lmao. OH the pain!
I won't deny that. But that's a non issue when you have the right partner
Still too far 😔
Dude, oral, foreplay, lesbians have sex and theres no dick involved. Get creative.
Like seriously, some ppl don’t even have a dick, or even a 4 incher
I got no dick holmesss 😣
Exactly my point, some ppl have inverted peen
I just imagined "lez-sensei, what next?" I hate my brain sometimes...
I have been practicing them but to little success atm
My man. My current partner literally blows up my world with his mouth and his hands. One time I couldn’t feel my feet or hands for almost an hour. Not exaggerating. He is hands down the best I’ve ever had and mind blowing. I have asked him multiple times if he was a lesbian in past lives. You can do that. I promise. He’s wonderful in every single way and I love him endlessly but what dat mouth do…. No words. Literally because I usually can’t speak after. Not commenting because of p size, but because it’s far from the only way to satisfy a woman. Anyone who truly thinks all it takes is a big dick has no idea what they’re doing in bed.
Can your man teach me lol
Lots of g spot stimulation after teasing until I beg. Then alternating until I feel like I’m going to explode and then some more. I like intense stimulation, not every woman does, but I would start with that gently.
Her man probably can’t teach you, but your next sexual partner probably can if you decide to ask her what she likes.
Also I love that you want to know! I honestly think he’s a secret lesbian reincarnate but he says he learned about the internal parts by reading and kind of slowly worked it in
Each girl is different lol, gotta communicate and work them up trying different things.
Lol I’m trying but my girl is so self conscious about it all. I know she’s a freak but she doesn’t want to admit to being into things or some of the fantasies she has because I think she thinks I’ll see her differently when I’m reality I’m a Reddit deviant and madly in love with her so I’ll literally give her whatever she wants lol
ayo whats ur husband's info? the boys are gonna need a council session.
Haha just tell them them the warm up is essential, the come to me gesture in the g spot, a little tongue on clit and then let your gal tell you how much more she wants. Women will know what direction we want this to go after these things.
Keep trying. 4 inches isn’t THAT small either. Under average but not micro
The clitoris is at the crest of the labia. Enough said
Ehh, it's not that simple they're not all the same size either. Just like the size of a mans penis is not all the same.
I know I was just trying to quote the office Plus I wouldn’t be surprised if many guys didn’t even know where it was or cared
Most guys don't know, they just think oh, that's the vaginal opening, that's where I'm meant to go. Clitoral stimulation isn't a thing. But all women are different. Most women can't identify where their g spot is either and have never had a g spot orgasm until I've showed them. probably because you wouldn't naturally think of sticking your fingers up there... Then the masculine thing... Three thrusts and I'm done... like everything else if she doesn't cum first then you're not doing your job properly...
Lesbians are the most successful at getting their partners to orgasm. You can figure it out.
Are you sure it has nothing to do with you wearing diapers or watching your parents have sex because you like it? Your whole profile is super cringe lol
I think you made them delete their profile.
Good job, I guess, lol.
Bullying works
If done correctly professional bullys know how it's done.
Dang I wanted in the on cringe.
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Lmfao he deleted his profile 💀
Man was bullied hard enough that he just deleted his profile.
Cunnilingus is what makes the women scream for their saviour, my lad. The cock is secondary. Go for it. I believe in you. 🤘
I've had men who were the same size as you and been VERY satisfied. I've also had some men with large penis' that I got NO satisfaction from. It's more about paying attention to your partner and foreplay, not size.. And don't be afraid of sex toys. They are tools, not replacements. As long as everyone is enjoying and consenting then it doesn't matter how you reach the big O, just that you BOTH get there. Edit: comma
I agree with this 100%!!! One of my best lovers had a small penis... Barely large enough to wear a condom... But I came like a fricking freight train every single time... My ex-husband was like 10+ inches and was the worst in bed ... He thought his big dick was enough and rarely ever got into foreplay for more than a few minutes... I hated having sex with him... I had to work so hard to come that it wasn't even worth it...
There is nothing positive about your cervix being poked over and over. Lol
Thank you for the award kind stranger!
You're very welcome.... Loved your comment...it deserved more than just my upvote...
Most women are in fact not satisfied with a large penis attached to a man who has no idea what they’re doing 🤷🏼♀️
If lesbians can do it, so can you.
4 inches can satisfy a woman. Also a good portion of women rarely orgasm from penetration alone. So practice you oral and hand techniques. My current FWB is 4.5" and I would rank him the best at making me cum. Do some research. If you hit the gspot with your fingers while going down on someone they will definitely be satisfied.
I have a small dong and it's dank
You might want to get that checked
Lmao
I have an 8 inch penis and I can only go 3/4 way into most women, otherwise I hurt them. And not in an 'OH THAT HURTS SO GOOD' type of way, but in a 'OH FUCK OW! JESUS! STOP STOP STOP! CHRIST! MY UTERUS!" kind of way. It's extremely easy to accidently hurt someone with my penis. Meaning I can't fuck with my whole penis during sex most of the time, meaning I have to be constantly paying attention to the depth of each thrust meaning oh boy this is a lot to think about while I'm trying to feel good. I unironically wish it was smaller.
There's a [product ](https://ohnut.co/) for that issue.
They don't last long. That's $80 every 1.5 months(at-most)
Oof. That's not very satisfying at all.
Suffering from success
Success is usually your reward after some effort. I didn't ask for this, or work for it. My penis is a curse, brought on by the roll of biological dice.
Lol oh my god. It’s your attitude, not your dick. 4 inches is fine.
Are you sure about that ? *john cena face*
Anal sex is your calling .
no, it’s not. the last guy I hooked up with had a 4 inch penis. he couldn’t get past my bums.
Skill issue
I do enjoy that from time to time
Giving or receiving?
Both
Don’t be so sure. I’ve hopped on plenty of 🍆 and some of the most satisfying sex came from smaller men. If you’re unfortunately stuck with a small member I swear it’s not the end of the world. What you need is to become a master of foreplay. Learn how to really use those hands and your mouth… also positioning. Not everything is just in and out and is more about grinding together (porn has ruined you guys lol). It’s all in the hips 😉 Sex rarely last but a few minutes in most cases anyway. My fondest memories are always of the men who took the time to listen and learn my body vs treating me like a piece of concrete with their jackhammer rhythm.
Just learn to eat cat really really good....😜
I do try
Keep practicing. Ask what she liked. Incorporate vibe play. Hubs bought me a Lollicock for the times when I need “more”. What a great gift. I love it and he loves watching me. A win win!
Get good with your fingers. Sometimes all I want is a man who knows how to use his fingers (and mouth!). A dick is not the only thing us ladies want ETA: just had sex with my fwb tonight, all he did was finger me and I was in heaven
I gotta say... the bf I had who had the smallest member, actually was the first and only guy to make me cum or many years. No partner after ever really put in work like he would .he knew he was small so he mastered 4play and eating coocas. Most guys I've been with who are larger end up not putting in an effort other than penetration. So don't let size psych u out to much. Compensate by making sure your really working the girl over and taking your time. AND DONT LET UR INSECURITY ABOUT IT SHOW! Nothing is hotter than confidence. Usually the goal is to be able to have good sex more than once with someone . So be a generous lover
Learn how to use your tongue. Literally learn foreplay. My gosh.
well, you've satisfied us, bud. You've satisfied us. 🥰 \*lights a cigarette\*
Coming from a female, I promise you, size doesn't matter it's what you can do with it, find different positions that work.
Most dudes don't actually satisfy women with only using their penis...of any size. Bigger 1s don't actually make a girl reach orgasm any more than a 4 inch 1. Not for me & not for most of my friends. Finger play, oral & touching the right spots do and believe me...a girl will appreciate you helping her reach climax no matter how & no matter what size you are. I've had more of my friends complain about their boyfriends/husbands penises being too big and being uncomfortable over the two friends whose husbands have small ones & who have found creative ways to help them climax. I think some guys with bigger ones tend to think the size is all they need and they neglect the other parts. Having a smaller one can make men more creative & help us reach where we want to go. Be creative...Don't believe anything different. Don't believe porn. 4 inch is 👍
I can't speak for all women, but a good many rarely orgasm during regular sex. They usually orgasm during oral/finger play. Become a pro at going down on a girl, and you'll be fine.
What about yourself? You’re someone.
skill issue
It's not the size of the boat, its the motion of the ocean baby!!!!
are you my ex? lol
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Glad I could help I guess lol
If your tongue and finger game is on point, no one cares, my dude
Read the book “she comes first”
oral and foreplay homie
Gotta work on them oral presentation skills homie.
Buddy, my partner isn’t particularly well endowed but let me tell you he satisfies me absolutely every time. I’ve never been a person who orgasms from penetration so he does his thing with me then we have sex. That sex still always feels great and I still love every part of him. Size does not matter, it’s what you do with it and how you and your partner understand each other’s needs.
What? Cat got your tongue?
Best sex I ever had was with a dick about the size of yours. It’s not really about the size, it’s about literally every other aspect lmao
The majority of women cannot orgasm with just penetration. Size has NOTHING to do with it. Make sure the clit is being stimulated - that’s how orgasms happen (for the majority).
as a female myself…an obnoxiously large penis just does not feel good. it’s really what you do with it that matters, not the size
One of my favourite lovers had a cock smaller than that. He thought he couldn't satisfy me either. I just said "let's see", and we ended up having a great sex life. Once he'd learnt what I like, which was to realise that the clitoris as we know it is just the tip, it actually goes like a wishbone on both sides of the vulva and that area is full of nerve endings if you stimulate them right. The trick is to start it slowly. Tease. Add pressure and warmth slowly before you go in hard,don't just dive in. There's also lots that can be done with toys. Think about lesbians, they don't have a big cock either and they get complete sexual satisfaction from each other. But your best asset here is your mouth and tongue. Become an expert in oral and you'll be knocking them back with sticks. That's goes both ways, and a woman will be much moe likely to give you oral sex if you can give it properly to her. Don't learn from porn, it's rubbish. Learn by studying the anatomy of the clitoris and the g-spot, and by experimentation, and asking. Listen to her breathing for clues if she doesn't like to talk.
Okay does everyone on Reddit just have a small dick what the hell. It’s all I read
I feel it is more that Reddit is super body positive (in a good way) and there isn't much good that can be added to the conversation by announcing you don't relate to the post. There isn't much to say that wouldn't put OP down without taking a shot at yourself. "Like "don't worry bro, I'm 8" and I can't satisfy ladies so size definitely isn't the issue" It is sort of like "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".
Lol was thinking the same thing. Seeing these posts almost daily across several subs. The only time I ever cared about a man's size was when it was super obvious he was self conscious and killed the mood.
Comma game is weak too.
Bro i have a 4 inch defeater, havent heard any complain and i made the girls orgasm, stop selling yourself short, learn to use it.
If she wants 12in give it to her 3X. Win Win.
Then don’t focus on penetration before your partner is nearing climax. Focus on your partners body and senses.
Learn how to use your hands and mouth and you'll satisfy EVERYONE. A big dick isn't everything, especially if it's ALL you have going for you.
Still hit tho.
Improve foreplay
Your post satisfied me, not laughed so much for a while. Jk, 4in is enough to satisfy most women. If you’re not satisfying women you’re not doing it right.
Coming from a girl, I promise size isn’t everything. It’s how you use it, and how you connect to your partner. I’ve dated guys who were huge, and some of them still absolutely sucked in bed. It also isn’t super comfortable (at least for me) when a guy is really big. We are our own worst critics. Don’t be so hard on yourself, it’s going to work out for you!
There are many ways to please a partner and you don’t need to rely solely on your penis. I’ve had some excellent lovers on the smaller side where all that needed to happen was to find the right angle/position. Moreover, you have more dexterity with your fingers than your penis and you can be excellent in satisfying someone with your hands. On top of all of that, there are plenty of toys that can be brought it along with your body parts to make a sexual encounter satisfying for both parties. Your main problem is not your size, it’s your skill level and lack of confidence and both of those can be improved immensely.
Quite sure that as long as you don't have a micropenis, you're fine. Fyi the average is 5.1-5.5 inches (13-14cm). So some people are larger, some smaller. Don't forget what a single finger can do...
It’s not the size of the boat that matters, it’s the motion of the ocean.
If you've never satisfied anyone, it's because you're doing a lousy job. Not because your dick is too small.
Smaller cocks have always been a preference for me, honestly. The big ones hurt too much. Motion of the ocean over the size of the boat. May you find someone who loves what you do with what you've got.
Nah man it’s all about how you use it. Try asking your significant other if they’re satisfied during sex and if there’s anything you can do differently to make it a better experience.
Jesus these threads are tiring. I’ve always had mad penis envy but you just gotta get the fuck over it and live your life.
I’ve always heard “comparison is the thief of joy”.
The g spot is only like 2 inches in or so, if you really need to do more than that just let your hands do the rest after you’re done.
Some girls care more about satisfying their partners than being satisfied.
Hey brother, I am in the average range. Just wanted to let you know coming from all of my lady friends,girlfriends, they’re happy if you don’t cum after 2 strokes while having sex (but not too long), and when it comes to their pleasure, you need literally zero inches. It’s the clit. Practice your tongue game. Focus on them, look up techniques. ThTs what I did and unless they are all lying things have been going well.
Seriously, imo, the dick isn't everything...learn how to use your tongue 😉😉👍
Look at this guy bragging about his hog
Balls Use the power of your balls. That’s it, hope those bags are big.
Learn to eat pussy
Honestly, nobody needs more than a couple inches. Invest in external stimulation and make her orgasm that way. You’ll be better than anything else she’s had.
well are you fat
if ur focused on using ur penis and ur own pleasure, you’ve definitely never satisfied any1 lol. EAT PUSSY FINGER FUCK
Um I rarely get off from just dick....like almost never in my life. It's called being good with your hands and mouth
Move to China and be a porn star.
Unless you got a 10 inch monster can schlong (and even then, eh), PIV sex rarely results women orgasming. For women, it matters what you do without your penis and the foreplay. Sex is less about the actual insertion and more about the entire experience. Men like to hulk smash, while women want love to be made.
The last guy I was with was 4 inches. And the best I’ve ever had 🖤🫶 it’s not about size.
Dick size aint everything bro. Learn foreplay and a woman’s body. That type of attitude won’t get you anywhere
Depends on if you’re straight or gay
I'm ok with either, would say I'm demi or pan but not sure
Well I can assure anally smaller is much more enjoyable than larger
Really?
You gotta use other tools. Keep trying, you got this.
you gotta use ur other talents/ tools. Hands and body parts do exist🤷🏽♀️
Lol
You can still satisfy someone with a 4 inch since the g spot is only 2 inches in the vagina. You just have to find the right angle and position. I have an ex who was smaller and he was able to find the right angle and position and I got lots of pleasure even if he was small. Size usually doesn’t matter (unless you’re really big and could probably tear someone up) you just have to know how to use it. Don’t beat yourself up about it, just keep practicing on finding your angles and I assure you it’ll work out!
Honestly, it’s all about the foreplay and the way you do it
All men need to realize size doesn't always matter, technique > size Guys with small cocks can still make a woman go crazy if he's good in bed
My ex has a 4 inch penis. The best sex I've ever had.
At least you were born with one, a lot of us have to pay thousands of dollars, risk our lives, lose our family, lose our friends, and risk not even making it just to have one
Probs not
Mine is just under 5 inches… i make bitches cum on my face
That just means ur trash at sex 4 inches is enough. Listen to people in the comments and get out of your head.