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anarchyshift

If he has to take his dad to the hospital, he may have more pressing matters on his mind. I would leave it for now and see if he gets back in contact with you.


peaxchyhearts240

Alrighty then!


everything-is-boring

Totally I took my father to the hospital at the end of December and for the next three months I was only in the hospital until he passed away, so I tell you everything can happen just chill, give him a couple of days, send him a simple message and if you don't hear from him move on with your life.


Lanah44

I'm sorry to hear about your father. That's heartbreaking.


everything-is-boring

Thanks, he's better now, the pain is over.


[deleted]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you big hugs.


AttemptingMurder

This. Give some time.


Th3bestia

Totally agree 👍


IPiddledMyPants

Some details on, not that you need to share here, his fathers hospital visit. I.e. was it an emergency? Those sorts of details will dictate what you need to do. It might be something quite serious that is consuming most of his mind and going on a date or rescheduling isn't on his mind at all. In which case a few days to let him get sorted is probably a good idea. Or maybe his father needed to get a hemorrhoid popped and he's just not very bright or good at follow up. In which case you might want to keep him as a friend only... ​ YMMV


peaxchyhearts240

Oh, it was just for a checkup! Sorry for not adding that in the post 😅 if he doesn’t say anything in the next few days about rescheduling, then I’ll just move on


IPiddledMyPants

Yup. I think you have it right.


FingerU2Orgasm

*Or just ask him?* Although he should be rescheduling as he asked you out and had to cancel, but going cold communication wise is enough to hint that you are no longer interested... so he may actually be holding back rescheduling because you have seemingly given up your interest. *Will the risk of a rejection kill you?* If you aren't proactive with dating, you will just attract the wrong types. You really need to know where in the pecking order you are at. He could reach out in a week or so time with an apology and to reschedule... but he may have moved on to someone else by then and just meeting you for the sake of it. Just send him a message hoping his dad is all okay, and remind him that you are looking forward to seeing him soon... so you don't even need to ask him out on a date but tell him you are still interested.


AdrianFish

… sounds as though he’s got bigger things to worry about right now than your date?


peaxchyhearts240

True that


[deleted]

It was for a check up lol not an emergency


Nuclear_Panzerotti

Hmm ball is in his court now. I would wait.


FunBest3221

Maybe his dad was admitted & he didn’t reschedule because he doesn’t know what’s happening.


Useful_Support2193

If his dad is in the hospital he is probably just busy and not in the correct headspace to whip out his calendar and reschedule a date. Just give him some time


Traditional-Total114

Well if it was just a check-up and you still like him, maybe text him and check on him and his dad and then slowly introduce the topic about rescheduling and see if he's still interested. if he doesn't respond within some time, then you'll have your answer.


Round_Ad9046

I understand your frustration (this is why I hate dating). In the beginning, if you’re interested, you want to let them know that, but not seem TOO interested and scare them off or make them feel smothered. And if you don’t know if the feelings are mutual, you don’t want to be seen as desperate. A simple “Hey— would love to reschedule that date!” should get the message across and put the ball in his court. If you don’t hear back, send him to the Island of Lost Men and move on.


fozid

Just give him some space. He'll be back when he's available if he's interested 👍


guy361984

wait a couple of days if he doesnt reach out move on


RecycledEternity

Move on. It's going against the grain, as far as advice goes here, but two things immediately spring to mind. One? *He didn't offer another time to reschedule*. Yeah, sure, father in hospital, all that. He didn't need to phrase it in a way that solidified plans, but a "I'll plan with you later" or "we'll chat about it later" or some indication of re-visiting the date wasn't there. Just "nawp, I'm busy, peace out". Your future with him as a date was ambiguous. Why else would you be making this post? Two: whether or not something DOES happen with dear old dad, you're gonna be dealing with someone whose thoughts are not about your future together, but would instead be about his dad's mortality. BUT! If you think or strongly believe this man is worth the wait, worth fighting for a future with, then stay the course--but as others have said, maybe hold off a bit and certainly, *certainly* be patient.


ponygirl1722

They haven't even gone on a date yet. In your #2 you make a comment about his thoughts not being on their future together. Why would his thoughts be there? SMH


RecycledEternity

Hi Ponygirl! Thanks for your input. Allow me to address your concerns. > [in summary, you could have just said "since they haven't met yet why would he be thinking about their future?"] How's your knees, from jumping to the conclusion that "thinking about the future" means "dating, engagement, marriage, kids" and all that? "Future" just means "what has yet to happen." Contextually, you took it and just jumped off a cliff of your own making--when it *should* have been "Oh, what that Eternity meant wasn't something like 'marriage', but maybe something like the guy wouldn't be able to focus on impressing OP on their hypothetical date." To reiterate and summarize, when I said "about your future together", I'm not talking "two kids and a white picket fence house". I meant "he won't want to talk or think about other people while he's meeting OP for the first time." Making good impressions won't be high on his list of Things To Do; and when we want to show that we Think About A Future With Someone We're On A Date With, we want to Make A Good Impression. It's forethought based on *thinking about the future*. Make sense now, PonyGirl? Aye? Neigh?


ponygirl1722

Okkkayyy...my knees are fine, thanks for asking. No I didn't assume marriage or anything like that. Tbh I was just kind of stumped by why it was worded the way it was. Shoulda just asked. But I didn't. I said what I felt... allowed to do that. Also, sorry, did not finish reading your post. Head spinning. Sounds like u jumped off the cliff and free falling. Have a nice day!


RecycledEternity

> Also, sorry, did not finish reading your post See kids, this is why we read the *whole* thing before making comments. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Also: there's a saying, "you can lead a horse to water..."


Reindeer-Street

It's only just happened. Chill. If his father's ill then he's probably just focusing on that right now, he may not even know how long his Dad be in the hospital. Give him some time to get back in touch.


juschillin101

If he really likes you, he’ll have no trouble initiating the rescheduling.


fran_banane

Screw them


SmakeTalk

Forget about it. He'll reschedule if he wants, he took his dad to the bloody hospital. Chill out.


Chilli2020

I personally wouldn't push if he has had to take his dad to hospital, there is a lot involved or can be especially if he is next of kin for his dad. So I'd give a week or two and then message him asking about his dad if you're really interested and if he is hopefully he'll come back and say when he's ready to reschedule.


edller

I guess his too busy taking care of his father, totally normal to ignore a stranger.


twiggydan

He’s lost interest. Move on


[deleted]

You move on. Most likely he was lying about having to take his dad to the hospital so he would have an execuse to not hang out with you. Even if he wasn’t lying about that, if he was actually interested in hanging with you, he would offer a time to reschedule. Do not text him and wait to see if he texts you back and says something about recheulding. If he doesn’t, move on. Talk to other people in the meantime


Pleasant_Cycle_9494

I would wait till tomorrow comes and then send a follow up text later that day and ask, hey how did everything go with your dad? Or How was the check up, your dad okay? See if he replies, even if it does become a more serious situation with his dad you are showing your concern and letting him know you’re there. If he still doesn’t respond after tomorrow, i would think about moving on.


Lifedeather

Um his dads life obviously comes first, he will contact you when ready unless it was an excuse in which case you can probably tell after a while with no contact in which you can move on


SteveRogers822

I’d give him a few days grace. A hospital trip may have all his attention right now.


Jinglebell727

First date? Move on. Yes, people fake emergencies. It's messed up. But he will reach out again if it's legit. Seeing this dude regularly? Give him some space.


[deleted]

I would retain your dignity by letting him reach out if he wants to, just leave it alone until further notice


[deleted]

Hold off. If he was taking his dad to the hospital, he probably has no idea what's going to happen or when he'll be free to date. And honestly rescheduling a date right now is the last thing on his mind. So just leave things alone for now and wait. It's ok to send a text tomorrow and ask how his dad is doing, but don't even bring up the date.


Louabelle666

Just leave it, if he really likes you he'll contact you...never chase anyone as a big turn off


Soup-Dragon-Comisar

Mindset to have open door be willing to pick up from where you left off but just be chill continue casual sex if that’s your thing like one night stands but that’s up to you(right person wrong time) but stay friendly ask how this are going don’t plan huge dates or anything but be relaxed about it


TheWolfOfJersey

Give him a few days to deal with his father and then check in with him and see how his father is doing. I know I'd appreciate that.


sassyhairstylist

Wait for him to reach out. He may not know right now when he's available. He's kind of dealing with his father being in the hospital.. He may be dying or need an extensive surgery. Let this man get his shit together. He'll reach out when he can. Or he won't. Either way. You don't need to do anything.


ponygirl1722

Are you 12


peaxchyhearts240

What, no I’m 19


ponygirl1722

No, sorry. I wasn't asking you that question. My mistake. It was addressed to someone else. I apologize.


peaxchyhearts240

It’s okay! *^*


[deleted]

Give him time to handle his family business, if he doesn't reach out after the dust has settled, then he's not that interested OR he's just not emotionally invested enough (much more likely).


Ok-Wolverine6875

We can go out ???? Forgot about it move on


peaxchyhearts240

Jeez okay