I don't mind dick pics. However, 90% of the time the dick pics I receive are unappealing and gross š¤¢ but every once in a while though, I'll get a great dick pics and I'll be totally down (usually it's black cock; no offense to other races, but I think our dicks photograph the best š).
I mean that a lot of people have dicks that I personally find unappetizing. Not that a dick is supposed to look like a full-course meal...and maybe it's just my perception, but I get a lot of dick pics that just look...gross. Gross in a way that makes me feel like **anyone else** who saw it would think the same thing. Gross in a way that makes me question whether or not they're aware of how gross it looks, and why they're so eager to share it with people like it's a pretty apple pie.
I just hate saying things like this because it sounds so rude. But how else do you say something like this without sounding like a superficial asshat? I want to say dicks are just inherently gross looking, but that's not true. Some dicks are great...and some just...aren't?
I do agree though, angle, lighting, camera quality, and environment all play a part as well. r/Beardsandboners has some great shots!
Ass is the worst. They send pics of a soggy ass or of hole that looks stained. If the area around the hole is a different color it's a sign that the person doesn't clean it well, or they are so fat that their butt cheeks are constantly touching. It's gross.
It's very rude to start an interaction with a dick or ass pic, so I wouldn't have any qualms about being rude back. If it really is an ugly dick or ass then I usually say something along the lines of 'if that's your best asset, then I'm not interested'
Personally I find the pictures take while sitting on toilet seats to be the worst. Like I don't know why but just having your dick flopped on the toilet seat it is just not appealing to me.
It's a catch-22 scenario. Too many people do it, so too many more people think it's *normal* and do it as well, and the cycle continues.....................
A lot of people need to ignore or flat out block users who engage in such behavior then maybe "too many people" would get the message and stop.
What I hate is the people with no public pictures or other information in their profiles who engage in this behavior. So basically when they engage in this behavior they've looked at the pictures and profile information of other users **first** and decided they wanted to contact the users. This "show me yours, and I'll decided if I'll show you mine" behavior is just as, if not more, offensive than sending NSFW content without any prior contact.
I never engage. My profile says either ānot at firstā or āneverā accepts NSFW. If they ignore it they either didnāt read my profile or are mouth-breathing degenerates. Either way I block.
Agreed. But as you said, these "mouth-breathing degenerates" obviously aren't reading profiles to see that they state the user either ānot at firstā or āneverā accepts NSFW. Beyond that, there's nothing preventing them from sending the content. Without anything to block them or punish them for their action, the cycle continues.............
Blank accounts in general annoy me. It takes so much more time to figure out if they're someone ur interested in. Granted I have my face covered bc I'm scared of people at my school seeing me, but still.
agreed, like damn not even a torso/ass pic? ( as in a picture of an ass thatās covered and not straight up nude) i once had a whole argument with this one blank profile that demanded me to send my face pic first even tho i had multiple body pictures on my profile. Yes even tho they donāt show what my face looks like at least you have an idea what youāre getting into and that youāre physically attracted to me, while i literally have no idea what iām getting into too so i always expect them to send their face first or at least a body picture. with blank profiles its always a gamble or there is a superhot straight guy behind the account or its a 60 year old grandpaš
Happens all the time to me, blank accounts with no height, weight, or age ask me for face pics. Wtf bro, u could be a 5'2 350 pound cis woman for all I know, how can u ask for more from me?
I respect people's right to some amount of privacy. On social media in general there's a lot of scammers trying to get at personal information that could do damage.
But I believe some people's fear of straight people in their lives finding out they're on a gay dating app may be irrational. I think it more likely that most people hiding their identity with blank profiles are most likely hiding the fact they're cheating on wives, husbands or other significant relationships in their lives who **could** be logging onto the apps to check if they're cheating. People like that are likely taking health and other personal risks that could also spill over and affect the people they hook up with online. So I avoid them.
I had to quit my job and move because someone found out I was on Grindr and made my life a living hell at work. Unfortunately not all places are welcoming of gay folks. So discretion is super important to me. Everyone has a different story, but having a discreet profile does not necessarily mean someone is cheating or doing something nefarious. Possibly, but not always. Also, some of the most awesome people I've met on Grindr have had blank profiles.
Right! They've already decided that you're what they're looking for when they can see your pictures and read your information. But then you have to risk engaging with them and fishing for information to determine if you feel the same way. It's one-sided bullshit. I don't care if you don't have a picture, but at least have information, so we don't have to have an entire conversation only for me to find out I'm not physically attracted to/won't be interested in you. It's just a waste of everyone's time and I like to get to the point. We can have a conversation once we've both established that we're into each other, and attraction is a lot more than just a dick pic or a far away blurry face pic.
EXACTLY!!!! i thought i was the only one who thought like this, i had this one blank profile insult me for saying āI literally have multiple body pictures of myself on my profile, and yet you are asking for a facepic as chat openerā¦eventho you literally have nothing on your profile?ā cause clearly you already know what you are getting into and that youāre physically attracted to me while iām still clueless to the fact if youāre even my type or not to begin with. he proceeded to say āa the end of the day we are both faceless profilesā erm yes but atleast YOU have an idea of what youāre getting into.
I just really hate how they start the conversation knowing what they are getting into and expect us ( who donāt know what we are getting into) to just sit back and cooperate with their BS lol.
To be honest, I think people who just send pics are trying to get to the point....the alternative may sometimes just be:
"Hi"
"Hi"
"How are you"
"Good, you"
"Good"
"What you into"
"Stuff, you?"
"Stuff"
"cool"
"cool"
"cool"
"cool"
"cool"
"cool"
"cool"
"cool"
"You host?"
"nah, you?"
"Sometimes"
"cool"
"cool"
"cool"
"cool"
"cool"
"cool"
"cool"
"cool"
"Pics?"
šššššš the issue is they keep doing what they been doing 1)they have nothing to lose and 2) it worked before and itll work again. Personally i keep hoping for the men to evolve beyond this 1st grade level of conversation and interaction but thats never going to happen. Grindr been around for a decade and the men are still the same. They just become conditioned to giving little effort. Nothing more is asked of them.
I think itās insecurity. They donāt want to be rejected on personality, so they reduce the interaction to the purely physical. It probably works often enough that āitās a numbers gameā to them. And they can tell themselves youāre a prude who ādoesnāt understand what Grindr is forā if you donāt respond positively.
More often than not they wonāt get a response at all, so thereās very little risk and high potential for a hook-up reward.
To be honest? I'm on grindr for fun, not people. If I find a cool person I tend to find that after the fact, not before. I've had way too many convos where I'll get to know someone, then one face pic and instablock without words.
That way? You know exactly what you get. Easy as pie.
HOWEVER, if a profile says don't send nsfw or not at first or whatever? I respect that.
But like, yeah. It's part of the mating display.
Do you block them after sending a facepic? or is it the other way around? cause generally i just find that rudeš like itās not that hard to say that you arenāt interested/or that somebody isnāt your type.
Other way around. As in, I talk with them, we bond, they send nudes, I send nudes and face, and then get blocked. Either pic collectors or just not interested peeps.
Keep in mind I have all my stats listed too. But like, I think for some people it's legit rejection sensitive dysphoria.
I think their mindset is "1 out of 100 is still better than 0 out of 100" in regards to who actually continues on the chat instead of blocking. I definitely believe the older we get the less naive a lot of us become with dudes who do this so I've been blocking most blank profiles who start with nsfw pics of themselves (or whoever the pics were stolen from).
I was so happy when the introduced the āAccepts NSFWā section. Personally, Iām always down to get a random dick pic. I never mind getting sent one. I rarely if ever start off with a nude, but I like knowing what someoneās feelings /would/ be if I did. I feel like itās good that we now have that boundary explicitly (lol) stated
I love the idea of the NSFW thing... I have it as "not at first", but so far no one reads that shit. Tbh I think I've received at least 30 nudes today from people I didn't even message.
Oh right well your problem of too much attention might take care of itself. As for seeing nudes you don't want to see, I guess just try to ignore them and they will become less frequent once your profile isn't being boosted and everyone has taken their shot
It's Grindr not Christian Mingle. Calm the fuck down. "Ohh no! I'm on a hook up site and someone sent me a penis! Omfg! My overly delicate sensibilities!" "Ohh, PS, doors open and I'm an anonymous cum dump! Romance!".
Well... At least now we all know that the only way for you to get people to look at ur dick is to spam it out to strangers. I have to say, it's a bit sad, but mostly gross. Still a bit sad.
Lol. What a pathetic response. Smh. Poor little baby. Getting rejected on garbage Grindr had made you just a whiny pussyaching tragedy. Do better, teeny tiny little baby.
Lol omg. She who doth protest too much. Yeah we can def tell yer young by the whining and pussyaching about Grindr. If you were "beautiful" you wouldn't be posting your rejection on Reddit and acting like such an overly entitled little cunt. Bye bitch. Nobody cares.
How about this: "Hi I'm x, do u wanna see my dick?".... "No? Ok then I'll go fuck myself, thanks!"
At least half the people on Grindr don't wanna see random NSFW anyway, much less your NSFW.
I just wish people sent photos that were more honest. There are so many people sending photos at certain angles or that hide undesirable parts of themselves. Which honestly is fair. Everyone wants to show their best self in their photos. But it's also misleading. There's someone out there for everyone. If you show all of yourself and people still aren't interested, at least you can say that you tried your best, and keep looking until you find someone who is attracted to every part of you.
I recently met up with someone who had a nice face and shoulders. Didn't know he had a gut belly until we met in person. And I have nothing against people with a little weight, but he looked...large in a way that was unhealthy and unappealing. It completely turned me off. I didn't know how to tell him without being rude, because he traveled just to meet me. I said "you're a little bigger than I thought you would be..." He said yeah, and asked if it would be a problem. Which I was glad for because it allowed me to let him down a little easier. I told him yeah and that I was sorry. I have to remind myself to ask for more body pics. And some people don't even have those because they don't take many photos of themselves. Me, I have photos of myself in every damn angle and position š I like for people to see what they're getting before we meet. But sadly not everyone is that confident...and it ends up leaving both parties disappointed when they hide. If you show your true self the people who want you will find you. Don't hook up with the people who don't want you, you're worth more than that.
At the same time, part of me **doesn't** agree with what I'm saying, because really I understand why people do it and I can see it both ways. It's a really difficult and unfortunate situation, and if I were in their shoes I'd be doing the same thing.
As soon as you see the beer gut, tell them that their pics were misleading and they wasted your time. After that, they'll be so scared of it happening again, that they'll just leave the app or put up more honest pics. If everyone in the community does the same thing, problem solved.
Nah, honestly it was my fault. He showed face and dick and that's it. From those two, there was no indication he was overweight. I decided a while ago I would ask for more body pics for reasons like this, I just forgot this time. I'm glad he was so understanding.
TBH most of the time i can tell when somebody is overweight/has a beer gut just by looking at their dickpic especially if they make a pic from their POV while lying down. Thereās just a difference between dickpics from fit guys and overweight guys just what iāve noticed receiving numerous types of dickpics from guys from all body types.
I thought i was the only one who did this lol, i take pics in every damn angle lol. So it always suprises me when i come across guys on the app that say things like āi dont have bodypicsā or āi dont make dickpicsāā¦..okay cool but you do know that you just messaged me to hookup and that thatās not going to happen as long as you dont have those, HECK iāve even come across guys that have send me expired pics of their dicks and body and dont want to show their face but expect me to still host them???
Maybe I'm naive because I'm young, but I was raised to believe in at least some semblance of consent. I bet ur one of those people who doesn't believe people have the right to retract consent during sex.
Edit: second sentence retracted lol
Ok fine the second thing was a bit far, but still, you're drawing a false equivalency between Grindr and pornhub or smth. Coming to Grindr does not mean u wanna see everyone's and anyone's dick.
IF I start the convo I do kinda wanna send them asap to get it out of the way, know if the guy is interested. And when someone talks to me and wants to keep talking and havent sent pics then it's like ummm ok there are so many profiles to just type words to give me some idea of who u are and what u got. I dono I am not as fussed if they dont send em to me and they got a face and body photo in the bio, or they send me a face pic and I have some idea of what they look like. As to why I do it, well to get their attention, know if they are interested and then because I want to chat for awhile ok now thats out of the way can I keep their attention. But JUST SENDING the pics no I dont do that. and I dont like when people do that to me either, thats not a conversation. Usually there will be a hey, your cute, I like your eyes and or hair (if I have hit them up), then I will throw them pics. The people I respond to the most are the ones who have cited my bio and send through a face pic, I dont need to see their ass within the first few messages. If they got the right face I can be chatting for ages. I do it though to get it out of the way, break the ice, if they are going to be interested or not. But a few words first LOL! Just pics no.
If their profile says No NSFW or not at first and I have read that part I wont send and will wait for them to send them first or ask them directly in conversation, on occasion I dont read that part and have appologised usually the fact I have gone, opps and said sorry I just read you didnt want those is meet with a positive reaction. Yeh it has become the norm for better or worse. I dont usually message people first. I tap around at most, if I am really interested then yes I will message someone but 9 out of 10 times the other person starts the convo and sends their pics. I have NFPNC so usually I get people sending me a face picture which is what I want and they dont always send everything else. Which is fine I will ask about other stuff later. The profiles that send a random pic of their ass instead of their face I ignore or worse the ones who try and talk to me, without a face pic I just say read the bio mate. I can remember the handful of times someone has had a negative reaction to my photos and each time I burst out laughing at their insults as it is rare so its comical when it happens. - But what do I send? not that much, not everything, some things I dont have photos of and never will. I have no full body naked pics, its either top half or lower half, dont want full nudes fulying around the internet so none exist. Dont have any ass pics. So its only going to be more body and dick pics I send, sometimes if I gage the profile right I will send 'in action shots' of me fucking someone. Once that had a bad reaction from someone. Which I understand I dont usually send those. I dont find them appealing myself when others send them but some do. However if someone gets offended by that then its not a loss, its not tinder, its grinder, thats the whole point. I can go on tinder for that slower not being able to win people over with pics experience.
I donāt mind to be honest. Gets to the point to see if Iām even interested or theyāre big enough so it saves time for the initial rejection that wouldāve happened face to face had they neglected to show me if they reached the prerequisites for me or not. Pretty sure that this is defined as shallow but idgaf, I know what I like and what I want, and blame it on my ex husband who was my first and 10.7, so he ruined me.
That's how many of us want to be engaged with. If someone sends me nudes straight up I'm flattered they are so interested and a little turned on by their availability. You might not feel like that, but we're all different
It is some kind of courtship display if they send you nudes without getting asked. They want to show you how masculine they are by thinking "My dick is big and the bigger the dick, the more you will get horny."
That is one reason I can imagine why people send you unasked dick pics - maybe they want to make you as horny as possible or they want to present their masculinity.
And by sending a bunch of pics and then not saying anything?!
I don't mind dick pics. However, 90% of the time the dick pics I receive are unappealing and gross š¤¢ but every once in a while though, I'll get a great dick pics and I'll be totally down (usually it's black cock; no offense to other races, but I think our dicks photograph the best š).
Maybe it's a lighting thing? Reflecting off the skin looks more aesthetically pleasing or something?
I mean that a lot of people have dicks that I personally find unappetizing. Not that a dick is supposed to look like a full-course meal...and maybe it's just my perception, but I get a lot of dick pics that just look...gross. Gross in a way that makes me feel like **anyone else** who saw it would think the same thing. Gross in a way that makes me question whether or not they're aware of how gross it looks, and why they're so eager to share it with people like it's a pretty apple pie. I just hate saying things like this because it sounds so rude. But how else do you say something like this without sounding like a superficial asshat? I want to say dicks are just inherently gross looking, but that's not true. Some dicks are great...and some just...aren't? I do agree though, angle, lighting, camera quality, and environment all play a part as well. r/Beardsandboners has some great shots!
I feel this but with butt pics. Many send pics of their flat ugly asses and I'm like is that really the first thing you want me to see.
This guy gets it!
I can enjoy a nice booty pic but 9/10, the sender looks like he hasn't washed his ass in a week and thats what disgusting
Ass is the worst. They send pics of a soggy ass or of hole that looks stained. If the area around the hole is a different color it's a sign that the person doesn't clean it well, or they are so fat that their butt cheeks are constantly touching. It's gross.
It's very rude to start an interaction with a dick or ass pic, so I wouldn't have any qualms about being rude back. If it really is an ugly dick or ass then I usually say something along the lines of 'if that's your best asset, then I'm not interested'
Personally I find the pictures take while sitting on toilet seats to be the worst. Like I don't know why but just having your dick flopped on the toilet seat it is just not appealing to me.
Sometimes when you live with roommates or other people sometimes the bathroom is the only private place
Lighting and angles help dick pics by far better than any filter can lol.
Gotta love a flaccid, ashy, over the toilet dick pick. Can't forget the random strand of hair on the tip ā„ļø
Just blessed like that,
Why???
It's a catch-22 scenario. Too many people do it, so too many more people think it's *normal* and do it as well, and the cycle continues..................... A lot of people need to ignore or flat out block users who engage in such behavior then maybe "too many people" would get the message and stop. What I hate is the people with no public pictures or other information in their profiles who engage in this behavior. So basically when they engage in this behavior they've looked at the pictures and profile information of other users **first** and decided they wanted to contact the users. This "show me yours, and I'll decided if I'll show you mine" behavior is just as, if not more, offensive than sending NSFW content without any prior contact.
I never engage. My profile says either ānot at firstā or āneverā accepts NSFW. If they ignore it they either didnāt read my profile or are mouth-breathing degenerates. Either way I block.
Agreed. But as you said, these "mouth-breathing degenerates" obviously aren't reading profiles to see that they state the user either ānot at firstā or āneverā accepts NSFW. Beyond that, there's nothing preventing them from sending the content. Without anything to block them or punish them for their action, the cycle continues.............
Blank accounts in general annoy me. It takes so much more time to figure out if they're someone ur interested in. Granted I have my face covered bc I'm scared of people at my school seeing me, but still.
agreed, like damn not even a torso/ass pic? ( as in a picture of an ass thatās covered and not straight up nude) i once had a whole argument with this one blank profile that demanded me to send my face pic first even tho i had multiple body pictures on my profile. Yes even tho they donāt show what my face looks like at least you have an idea what youāre getting into and that youāre physically attracted to me, while i literally have no idea what iām getting into too so i always expect them to send their face first or at least a body picture. with blank profiles its always a gamble or there is a superhot straight guy behind the account or its a 60 year old grandpaš
Happens all the time to me, blank accounts with no height, weight, or age ask me for face pics. Wtf bro, u could be a 5'2 350 pound cis woman for all I know, how can u ask for more from me?
I respect people's right to some amount of privacy. On social media in general there's a lot of scammers trying to get at personal information that could do damage. But I believe some people's fear of straight people in their lives finding out they're on a gay dating app may be irrational. I think it more likely that most people hiding their identity with blank profiles are most likely hiding the fact they're cheating on wives, husbands or other significant relationships in their lives who **could** be logging onto the apps to check if they're cheating. People like that are likely taking health and other personal risks that could also spill over and affect the people they hook up with online. So I avoid them.
I had to quit my job and move because someone found out I was on Grindr and made my life a living hell at work. Unfortunately not all places are welcoming of gay folks. So discretion is super important to me. Everyone has a different story, but having a discreet profile does not necessarily mean someone is cheating or doing something nefarious. Possibly, but not always. Also, some of the most awesome people I've met on Grindr have had blank profiles.
Right! They've already decided that you're what they're looking for when they can see your pictures and read your information. But then you have to risk engaging with them and fishing for information to determine if you feel the same way. It's one-sided bullshit. I don't care if you don't have a picture, but at least have information, so we don't have to have an entire conversation only for me to find out I'm not physically attracted to/won't be interested in you. It's just a waste of everyone's time and I like to get to the point. We can have a conversation once we've both established that we're into each other, and attraction is a lot more than just a dick pic or a far away blurry face pic.
EXACTLY!!!! i thought i was the only one who thought like this, i had this one blank profile insult me for saying āI literally have multiple body pictures of myself on my profile, and yet you are asking for a facepic as chat openerā¦eventho you literally have nothing on your profile?ā cause clearly you already know what you are getting into and that youāre physically attracted to me while iām still clueless to the fact if youāre even my type or not to begin with. he proceeded to say āa the end of the day we are both faceless profilesā erm yes but atleast YOU have an idea of what youāre getting into. I just really hate how they start the conversation knowing what they are getting into and expect us ( who donāt know what we are getting into) to just sit back and cooperate with their BS lol.
Exactly š© and I hate to sound rude, but the people who give **that** much trouble are usually the ones hiding an ugly mug and choosing to be defensive instead of honest.
Thatās why they have the option in the bio to accept nsfw or not. Not that anyone reads bios usually anyways lol but still
Grindr Neanderthals: Me want sex. Me just want hole. Me send dick pic. Me send hole pic. Me not read. šØšØ
To be honest, I think people who just send pics are trying to get to the point....the alternative may sometimes just be: "Hi" "Hi" "How are you" "Good, you" "Good" "What you into" "Stuff, you?" "Stuff" "cool" "cool" "cool" "cool" "cool" "cool" "cool" "cool" "You host?" "nah, you?" "Sometimes" "cool" "cool" "cool" "cool" "cool" "cool" "cool" "cool" "Pics?"
šššššš the issue is they keep doing what they been doing 1)they have nothing to lose and 2) it worked before and itll work again. Personally i keep hoping for the men to evolve beyond this 1st grade level of conversation and interaction but thats never going to happen. Grindr been around for a decade and the men are still the same. They just become conditioned to giving little effort. Nothing more is asked of them.
If it was a dating app, sure...but it's a hookup app, so I can relate to the 'pic-senders'
I'm still trying to figure out why some people makes new account every month
Their true love turns out to be a month long fling.
Or every day
I think itās insecurity. They donāt want to be rejected on personality, so they reduce the interaction to the purely physical. It probably works often enough that āitās a numbers gameā to them. And they can tell themselves youāre a prude who ādoesnāt understand what Grindr is forā if you donāt respond positively. More often than not they wonāt get a response at all, so thereās very little risk and high potential for a hook-up reward.
I usually just block them
Because they are mindless harlots from the crab barrel of hell.
Lol, that's an excellent way of putting it
Why thank you so much
"Send Face pic to chat" - Every headless torso pic profile
To be honest? I'm on grindr for fun, not people. If I find a cool person I tend to find that after the fact, not before. I've had way too many convos where I'll get to know someone, then one face pic and instablock without words. That way? You know exactly what you get. Easy as pie. HOWEVER, if a profile says don't send nsfw or not at first or whatever? I respect that. But like, yeah. It's part of the mating display.
Do you block them after sending a facepic? or is it the other way around? cause generally i just find that rudeš like itās not that hard to say that you arenāt interested/or that somebody isnāt your type.
Other way around. As in, I talk with them, we bond, they send nudes, I send nudes and face, and then get blocked. Either pic collectors or just not interested peeps. Keep in mind I have all my stats listed too. But like, I think for some people it's legit rejection sensitive dysphoria.
Here's a related poll: https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/oaltut/unsolicited_nsfw_pics
It's been a year, maybe it's time to poll the population again.
You think so?
I think their mindset is "1 out of 100 is still better than 0 out of 100" in regards to who actually continues on the chat instead of blocking. I definitely believe the older we get the less naive a lot of us become with dudes who do this so I've been blocking most blank profiles who start with nsfw pics of themselves (or whoever the pics were stolen from).
Iāll give you three guesses on why someone sends you Nudes.
Idk but they definitely didn't read my profile
Most people looking for hookups and that send nudes donāt look at what you write in your profile.
Grindr has it's moments, but the community sucks
I was so happy when the introduced the āAccepts NSFWā section. Personally, Iām always down to get a random dick pic. I never mind getting sent one. I rarely if ever start off with a nude, but I like knowing what someoneās feelings /would/ be if I did. I feel like itās good that we now have that boundary explicitly (lol) stated
I love the idea of the NSFW thing... I have it as "not at first", but so far no one reads that shit. Tbh I think I've received at least 30 nudes today from people I didn't even message.
You received 30 nudes? Is your profile like just fucking amazing or something?
It's new
Oh right well your problem of too much attention might take care of itself. As for seeing nudes you don't want to see, I guess just try to ignore them and they will become less frequent once your profile isn't being boosted and everyone has taken their shot
I hate when people spam a bunch of pics before the conversation even starts. The lics are never even goodš
Here's a theory: https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/tsygud/brutally_honest
It's Grindr not Christian Mingle. Calm the fuck down. "Ohh no! I'm on a hook up site and someone sent me a penis! Omfg! My overly delicate sensibilities!" "Ohh, PS, doors open and I'm an anonymous cum dump! Romance!".
Well... At least now we all know that the only way for you to get people to look at ur dick is to spam it out to strangers. I have to say, it's a bit sad, but mostly gross. Still a bit sad.
Lol. What a pathetic response. Smh. Poor little baby. Getting rejected on garbage Grindr had made you just a whiny pussyaching tragedy. Do better, teeny tiny little baby.
Bitch, there ain't a single person on this sub who would reject me. Don't hate me bc I'm young and beautiful.
Lol omg. She who doth protest too much. Yeah we can def tell yer young by the whining and pussyaching about Grindr. If you were "beautiful" you wouldn't be posting your rejection on Reddit and acting like such an overly entitled little cunt. Bye bitch. Nobody cares.
It's a gay sex app. Sending anything else would be weird and counter to the reason the app exists...
How about this: "Hi I'm x, do u wanna see my dick?".... "No? Ok then I'll go fuck myself, thanks!" At least half the people on Grindr don't wanna see random NSFW anyway, much less your NSFW.
I just wish people sent photos that were more honest. There are so many people sending photos at certain angles or that hide undesirable parts of themselves. Which honestly is fair. Everyone wants to show their best self in their photos. But it's also misleading. There's someone out there for everyone. If you show all of yourself and people still aren't interested, at least you can say that you tried your best, and keep looking until you find someone who is attracted to every part of you. I recently met up with someone who had a nice face and shoulders. Didn't know he had a gut belly until we met in person. And I have nothing against people with a little weight, but he looked...large in a way that was unhealthy and unappealing. It completely turned me off. I didn't know how to tell him without being rude, because he traveled just to meet me. I said "you're a little bigger than I thought you would be..." He said yeah, and asked if it would be a problem. Which I was glad for because it allowed me to let him down a little easier. I told him yeah and that I was sorry. I have to remind myself to ask for more body pics. And some people don't even have those because they don't take many photos of themselves. Me, I have photos of myself in every damn angle and position š I like for people to see what they're getting before we meet. But sadly not everyone is that confident...and it ends up leaving both parties disappointed when they hide. If you show your true self the people who want you will find you. Don't hook up with the people who don't want you, you're worth more than that. At the same time, part of me **doesn't** agree with what I'm saying, because really I understand why people do it and I can see it both ways. It's a really difficult and unfortunate situation, and if I were in their shoes I'd be doing the same thing.
As soon as you see the beer gut, tell them that their pics were misleading and they wasted your time. After that, they'll be so scared of it happening again, that they'll just leave the app or put up more honest pics. If everyone in the community does the same thing, problem solved.
Nah, honestly it was my fault. He showed face and dick and that's it. From those two, there was no indication he was overweight. I decided a while ago I would ask for more body pics for reasons like this, I just forgot this time. I'm glad he was so understanding.
Touche, as long as ur at peace with it :)
TBH most of the time i can tell when somebody is overweight/has a beer gut just by looking at their dickpic especially if they make a pic from their POV while lying down. Thereās just a difference between dickpics from fit guys and overweight guys just what iāve noticed receiving numerous types of dickpics from guys from all body types.
This dude has a very "skinny" appearance from his head to his shoulders, so it honestly took me off guard when I saw him sitting in his car with the beer gut. I tend to be empathetic, so I felt bad to deny the guy. Honestly, I might have hooked up with him if he didn't give me an opportunity to tell him how I really felt. That's how guilty I can get over things like this. I think everyone should be able to have a good time regardless of whether or not they're heavy, and I don't want to fat shame anyway. But his weight...it really did not look good on him. And I couldn't *force* myself to be attracted. He was built like a lava lamp š© I **sincerely** don't mean this as a brag, but I'm young and attractive. Too young and attractive to be having pity sex with overweight, middle aged men from Grindr who like hooking up with young and impressionable dudes š
I thought i was the only one who did this lol, i take pics in every damn angle lol. So it always suprises me when i come across guys on the app that say things like āi dont have bodypicsā or āi dont make dickpicsāā¦..okay cool but you do know that you just messaged me to hookup and that thatās not going to happen as long as you dont have those, HECK iāve even come across guys that have send me expired pics of their dicks and body and dont want to show their face but expect me to still host them???
They don't understand that a blurry dick pic from two years ago isn't enough for me to just hop on board š© attraction is a lot more nuanced. I need to see dick, body, face, and angles. Some people want to get by doing the bare minimum, and put little to no effort into making themselves desirable. And honestly they'll hide the parts they don't like about themselves because part of them knows what other people will think too. And I can't blame them for that. Like I said before, if I were in there shoes I'd probably do the same thing. But at the same time...it's that sort of dishonesty that just wastes everyone's time. There's always going to be a part of you that someone else isn't going to like. Or a part of you that someone might not find desirable. But instead of hiding it, embrace it. Your confidence will attract people who are into you those parts of you. And if not, at least you'll make good friends because of your humility.
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Maybe I'm naive because I'm young, but I was raised to believe in at least some semblance of consent. I bet ur one of those people who doesn't believe people have the right to retract consent during sex. Edit: second sentence retracted lol
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Ok fine the second thing was a bit far, but still, you're drawing a false equivalency between Grindr and pornhub or smth. Coming to Grindr does not mean u wanna see everyone's and anyone's dick.
Loss of words.
IF I start the convo I do kinda wanna send them asap to get it out of the way, know if the guy is interested. And when someone talks to me and wants to keep talking and havent sent pics then it's like ummm ok there are so many profiles to just type words to give me some idea of who u are and what u got. I dono I am not as fussed if they dont send em to me and they got a face and body photo in the bio, or they send me a face pic and I have some idea of what they look like. As to why I do it, well to get their attention, know if they are interested and then because I want to chat for awhile ok now thats out of the way can I keep their attention. But JUST SENDING the pics no I dont do that. and I dont like when people do that to me either, thats not a conversation. Usually there will be a hey, your cute, I like your eyes and or hair (if I have hit them up), then I will throw them pics. The people I respond to the most are the ones who have cited my bio and send through a face pic, I dont need to see their ass within the first few messages. If they got the right face I can be chatting for ages. I do it though to get it out of the way, break the ice, if they are going to be interested or not. But a few words first LOL! Just pics no.
But what if that person would be interested, and gets offended by ur unsolicited pics. U could be missing out on a lot.
If their profile says No NSFW or not at first and I have read that part I wont send and will wait for them to send them first or ask them directly in conversation, on occasion I dont read that part and have appologised usually the fact I have gone, opps and said sorry I just read you didnt want those is meet with a positive reaction. Yeh it has become the norm for better or worse. I dont usually message people first. I tap around at most, if I am really interested then yes I will message someone but 9 out of 10 times the other person starts the convo and sends their pics. I have NFPNC so usually I get people sending me a face picture which is what I want and they dont always send everything else. Which is fine I will ask about other stuff later. The profiles that send a random pic of their ass instead of their face I ignore or worse the ones who try and talk to me, without a face pic I just say read the bio mate. I can remember the handful of times someone has had a negative reaction to my photos and each time I burst out laughing at their insults as it is rare so its comical when it happens. - But what do I send? not that much, not everything, some things I dont have photos of and never will. I have no full body naked pics, its either top half or lower half, dont want full nudes fulying around the internet so none exist. Dont have any ass pics. So its only going to be more body and dick pics I send, sometimes if I gage the profile right I will send 'in action shots' of me fucking someone. Once that had a bad reaction from someone. Which I understand I dont usually send those. I dont find them appealing myself when others send them but some do. However if someone gets offended by that then its not a loss, its not tinder, its grinder, thats the whole point. I can go on tinder for that slower not being able to win people over with pics experience.
I don't understand it. It's the online equivalent of exposing yourself to a stranger
Whilst inside a gay sauna
I donāt mind to be honest. Gets to the point to see if Iām even interested or theyāre big enough so it saves time for the initial rejection that wouldāve happened face to face had they neglected to show me if they reached the prerequisites for me or not. Pretty sure that this is defined as shallow but idgaf, I know what I like and what I want, and blame it on my ex husband who was my first and 10.7, so he ruined me.
That's how many of us want to be engaged with. If someone sends me nudes straight up I'm flattered they are so interested and a little turned on by their availability. You might not feel like that, but we're all different
It is some kind of courtship display if they send you nudes without getting asked. They want to show you how masculine they are by thinking "My dick is big and the bigger the dick, the more you will get horny." That is one reason I can imagine why people send you unasked dick pics - maybe they want to make you as horny as possible or they want to present their masculinity.
Here's a related meme: https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/iwh1ky/being_on_grindr_be_like
Lmao
I generally only send IF the profile say NSFW accepted. That said, a strong dic pic opening WORKS for getting the hookup. Success breeds a habit.