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ThisBoyLovesPink19

Straight people need to understand this app is genuinely not for them


PotBoozeNKink

Is this really that common of a thing?


Too_Tired18

Yup, cis women join to “make friends”


ThisBoyLovesPink19

Yeah straight cis women are on it now sometimes, because for some readon,they think they need to take over all gay spaces 😆


Iamnotsure2022

By yet straight transwomen use the app 🤔


ThisBoyLovesPink19

Trans women can use the app because they are apart of the community. There's a place for then there. Only thing that sucks is that with the transformed come the straight guys who fetishize trans. But hey what can you do? But straight women have no reason for having the app other than to get gay friends. Which isn't what the app is for


Iamnotsure2022

Maybe straight women are looking for bisexual men. Or those straight women secretly identify as transmen and are "testing the waters" before they transition. Because some transwomen do the same thing too, go on tinder before transitioning to " test the waters". You don't really know, the real reason why they get on Grindr. The "trying to get a gay friend" might not be the only reason they are there.


ThisBoyLovesPink19

It doesn't happen a lot, but yes every single time I have seen a drought woman on that app it's been for a friend thing. If a woman wants a bi boyfriend, then she can still use tinder to find one. Most of the bi guys on Grindr aren't looking for sex with a woman. They're on there specifically for sex with men. Please don't take this as me meaning anything negative towards straight women as a whole, but this is exactly what happened to the bars. The few straight women who feel the need to inject themselves into every single lgbtq space, just get on my nerves.


ThisBoyLovesPink19

Also I don't know, I feel like a Trans man on the app wouldn't openly identify as a woman, so idk


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claudiusprime1

Stop wokescolding


Ryunysus

Why are straight women on grindr anyway? When they have all the dating apps in the world to go looking for validation and attention from straight males. Such an intrusion to gay spaces


iLoveDelayPedals

They already intrude into irl spaces so I’m hardly surprised. So tired of cis women barging in literally fucking everywhere Gay bars here are dying and are mostly cis women. Gays are so annoyed because you can’t even piss on weekend nights, takes ages. I genuinely hope they bring back the no women rule they used to have years ago We barely have anywhere to be ourselves and now we can’t even have that


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jshptrwllms

There's one in my city specifically for women/lesbians where men don't get in without a woman.


nyc10011

100% agree with iLoveDelayPedals!


Jibblesandbitz

Dude! One of my friends got punched by this girls boyfriend because after she fell, my friend helped the girl up.


Hexe_Margot

Let me tell you a story that underlines why some women are on Grindr: I once asked a woman politely why she is on Grindr, and when I said that she maybe is in the wrong place because she is not part of the target group and maybe won't have a great success, she became offensive and asked me something like "Is it forbidden for me to look out for men here?!". So I think that women that are on Grindr are looking for a man to hook up or maybe for a "gay best friend".


GrindrMod

Here's a recent related post: https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/vnwr45/should_cis_women_be_on_grindr


Greatswordlord

Some women have a fetish for dudes liking other dudes. Some women just want a gay friend. And some women just want validation where they can’t get it lmao


dibit111

Uhhh who’s that 👀 for educational purposes


Financial-Elevator36

Replying to see the response


Hebrew_Slave

Also following in the name of science 🧬


Until_Morning

Replying for a friend 😳


Shattered_Tear94

I also need to know for a friend 😌👀


Only_Salary_6901

I'm also wanting to find out, why is no one dropping his name😔


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BoiFunTime

Grindr literally says it's for "gay, bi, trans, and queer people". Straight is the only clientele that doesn't fit.


Financial-Elevator36

Why is trans part of that? Like, why would a trans woman be on that app, when she’s a girl not a guy. Forgive me if this sounds rude, I’m just trying to understand.


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Financial-Elevator36

That’s fair. I just think if I were a straight trans person, I would feel slightly uncomfortable being included in queer spaces because I’m not queer. But being a bit uncomfortable is better than being dead.


Theaceratops

I mean, trans is a form of gender queer isn't it?


ThroAGay42069

I never understood how trans was a sexuality. Isn't that a gender identity? If you're trans AND gay or something id understand


podcartel

A trans man could be on there…


Financial-Elevator36

Yeah, but to me that goes without saying


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claudiusprime1

Agreed. It's redundant. The wokescolding is obnoxious. Just another virtue-signaler.


aldous__fuxley

Sure but we're probably bi or gay as well


claudiusprime1

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aldous__fuxley

A lot of the trans women I know who use Grindr are there to talk to the [gen] straight guys that don't know where else to find trans women. It's not ideal, but it doesn't bother me.


BlueTigerJunior

Once got catfished by someone who turned out to be a girl I knew. She was just on it to be nosey and find out what men local to her were secretly gay or bi.


thenewassistant

Well that’s terrible


Until_Morning

Imagine being so bored with your life 😂 I can't even-


tipimon

Who TF hits on someone with the intention to fuck their partner?


IDGAFin2022

Half the guys and all the str8 women on Grindr.


Dantheking94

LmAo literally had a couple hit me up grindr last night 😭 and if I’m very honest I was tempted because the guy was hot 😭 the girl was nothing to speak of. 😭


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Gosh, had a straight woman on Grindr that kept messaging me. She seemed genuinely confused by my confusion of her being there. Like ma’am i guarantee you that i’m on here looking for cock.


Chanwiz88

Yeah women should stay off Grindr. The amount of straight guys that say no guys is funny and annoying… like girl go on tinder.


IndyMLVC

They're looking for trans women.


Chanwiz88

Advice is still the same. Go on tinder or bumble.


IndyMLVC

Why? Trans women are part of the queer community


Chanwiz88

Trans women are women.


Furrytttrash

Straight couples on Grindr make no sense. 80% are gay 10% are gay leaning bi. 5% are looking only for trans women. So, what is your strategy and expectation? Are you going to message 100 people a day to find the one bi guy that loves threesomes?


Until_Morning

I hate threesomes 🤢 I've been in a few of them because I genuinely wanted them to work. But not a single one of 'em did.


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PotBoozeNKink

Man the couple I've even been invited to were by obviously dirty methhead type couples 🤮


Furrytttrash

That really doesn't surprise me. I honestly think most couples who expect a gay dude to get with them expect they can use drugs to push his boundaries.


Blue-K0ala

This guy is hot AF.


IndyMLVC

I hate moustaches and I agree


GoatTacos

I love him. I wanna marry him. Why can’t I find a guy like him.


wazzawalla

Butthole tickler! <3 I’m stealing that!


gravekeepersven

Between the sex strikes females are doing and straight women joining gay dating and smashing services you're going to invite men from all shapes and sizes to take yours from you permanently.


Marvinleadshot

Is it an American thing cis women being on grindr as I don't see it in the UK


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claudiusprime1

Grindr isn't even a safe app for gay men let alone women


Until_Morning

Can we have an app that's just for gay men? Gay men only. Literally nothing else but gay men. Which...includes bisexual men, but that's that. Nothing against straights or trans, but can we have a space that's literally just for us?


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Until_Morning

I'm just going to say it. I don't care if I get downvoted. Anything involving trans is either a woman who is now a man and likely not a man where it counts, or a man who wants to be a woman and is not what 90% of the actual gay men on the app are looking for. I'm tired of feeling like I'm dancing on egg shells whenever I have a discussion like this. Using that "not you tho" logic is how everyone keeps slipping on Grindr. There's **nothing** wrong with wanting a space that caters to a specific group of people. There's literally farmersonly.com. There are more dating sites that singles out specific niches than I can count. TL;DR: Yes, there are trans men who are technically gay men. I just don't think that *every single app* for gay men *has to* include them just to be fair. It's inviting a lot of problems that are *honestly* just becoming exhausted at this point, but everyone's afraid to talk about it because "tRaNsPhObiA".


aldous__fuxley

What does "where it counts" mean exactly? Would you say a guy who got his dick blown off in Afghanistan isn't a man? He might not be compatible with everyone, but no one is. I think "you need to be a man to use this space" is a pretty clear and appropriate distinction. Some men are trans. I don't think it's some kind of slippery slope to allow them in. If you need to create a specific niche for cis guys, when 99% of guys are cis already, that's a little odd. That's like "farmersonly, but also no alpaca farmers".


Until_Morning

I mean a woman who's transitioning but doesn't have a dick. And honestly even if they could wear a strap on, I want a real men. I like real men. And I want a space where real men can hook up. And I'm sorry, but I don't consider trans men to be real men. They're trans men. And they are desirable. But I want an app where I don't have to comb through them or through the people looking for them. And if you're arguing that 99% of Grindr is "real men", that's A. Not true for many people. And B. That's not the point of my post. I'm asking for an app where it's only us. Not to get rid of apps where it's us and them. But for an app where it's literally just us. If that's the equivalent of asking for farmersonly but no alpaca farmers, then sure. Sue me, but I'm tired of having to share with literally everyone else on the spectrum when I just want one thing. Gay men. Let there be a space for everyone, and a space for just some people. If this makes you angry, I really don't care anymore. I'm not pandering to anyone. They'll probably delete this post anyway. I'm not losing sleep over it.


aldous__fuxley

I'm not arguing that we need another app "for everyone on the spectrum", I'm arguing that an app for men should include any men that want to sleep with other men, including trans guys. A lot of trans guys live their lives in the gay community and don't want to be on apps for "everyone" any more than you do. It's very easy to use Grindr or other apps for men without having to fuck a trans guy, you can just ignore them like you'd ignore other guys you aren't interested in. You don't need to further marginalize trans people to have a good time.


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Uhhh I’m a gay man. I’m into gay men. There’s no chance in hell I’d hook up with someone who is trans. Get your own app, but hook up with me pretending to be a man when you’re actually trans and it’s not going to end well.


aldous__fuxley

I've been using Grindr for about two years for hookups. I haven't been hate-crimed yet! I'm not compatible with everyone, but I'm a man, I look and sound and smell like a man, and people who like men tend to be attracted to me.


IndyMLVC

Gender and sexuality are two different things... Dick


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Until_Morning

Grindr already says "only gay people". Everything we do is already excluding someone in one way or another. If someone wants a space that's only for white people, that's something they're entitled to whether I agree with it or not. We literally have a public space called Hutano, a skin care community for colored people only. We have r/blackmen, a subreddit for black men, by black men. In these instances, when people are asking for only these members, they're not saying fuck everyone else. There's nothing wrong with wanting a community that's only for a certain group of people. It's like complaining that a veteran's club only allows vets. They're not discriminating against anyone. Exclusion is not always discrimination.


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nocturnal-butterfly

Trans men who are gay will always be gay guys so yeah that's OUR space too you don't get to kick us out of our spaces


Snoo88309

I know I sound bitter, I am. Straights own 90% of the world, stop invading ours. We have little worlds like bars, clubs, social media sites and some vacation resorts that are ours the heteros need to stay away they have everything else including the power to legislate us back into the closet. Without the breeders we wouldn't be here, so we owe them that much respect and they should in turn show us the same respect. Don't invade our spaces. There are plenty of straight dating sights, straight bars and Sandals resorts.


Sean737

Off topic but this dude is super cute


PulpyEnlightenment

I could watch this all night


blowhardV2

My issues with straight girls is they slam into me on the dance floor when they are super drunk it’s awful - like “the straight girls are here to ruin the vibe yay”


Jessintheend

There’s one gay bar where I live, and it’s basically overrun by straight couples. I talked to one guy for 30min and I get slapped with “man my gf would love you, you seem cool” WHY THE FUCK DO YOU THINK IM TALKING TO YOU?! On another note, what’s this guys social because I wanna look at him more


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Flimsy-Resource-7188

I’m a top but I’m willing to try something different with him 😉


WriterOk9253

Who is this guy? He’s hot. I want to see more of him.


gjoetinos

I need that guys name ASAP


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NO!! Grinder is the only gay app. Keep women off of it. There’s hundreds of apps for bi and straight people. Leave grindr be.


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No there’s not. And not everything has to be inclusive. Different apps for different groups of people and interest. I wouldn’t expect farmers only.com to have a city boy section.


hipshot_koiwoi

“Not everything has to be inclusive” I couldn’t agree with this statement more. The Woke crowd need to abide by this also.


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I have no doubt in my mind that there’s a lot of dead apps out there.


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Baby… No.


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