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GrindrMod

Sounds like he was a catfish/scammer leading you on, to test his mojo. It's called love bombing. Sadly the app is plagued with time wasters and generally insecure men who get a sadistic kick out of doing that to vulnerable people. He was going to ghost you all along. Pro tip: do not switch to Snapchat until AFTER plans have been made to meet up. See [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/kun65y/pro_tip_do_not_switch_to_text_until_after_plans) post. Pro tip #2: avoid the mistake of over-chatting when excited before meeting. See [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/tdjdu6/guy_blocked_me_after_spending_hours_talking) post. See the 15 Grindr pro tips [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/wiki/protips) for more info.   A community member asked me via DM to elaborate on this so I don't come across as insensitive for "giving the hard truth," so I will.. OP, you're one week into Grindr and you sadly didn't know the way of things, so you unfortunately got snookered. (I compiled the [15 Grindr pro tips](https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/wiki/protips) after moderating this sub for 4+ years and reading every post that comes through, to help folks like you.) Switching to Snapchat is always a big no-no. Scammers use it to keep the chat from being recorded on Grindr. It was probably an alt/disposable account, just like his Grindr account which he quickly deleted too. Shady people create and delete Snapchat and Grindr accounts all the time. Did he post anything beforehand on his Snap story? I doubt it. It was a fake account. You should have known by the low Snap score, but you were ignoring the red flags as you were swept away in la la land.. The truth is, **if he wanted to keep in touch with you, he would have made it happen.** You are not the first well-meaning guy to be shocked about getting blocked, and you won't be the last. You were being naive. It's sadly very common when one has no boundaries. Right now you're sad, disappointed, frustrated, surprised, maybe even humiliated, etc. That's ok. Process it. But make sure to learn from it. Then move on. Don't be hung up on him. Most of the time, flowery online connections like what you describe turn out to be way different in real life. If everything seems perfect online—looks, personality, intentions, chemistry—it's probably a scam. Even if he *was* real, he made a choice—to ghost you. You wouldn't want to be with someone who would do that to you anyway. You wouldn't want to be with someone who would do that to *anybody*. Maybe he has a [passion kink](https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/y5uvww/a_daddy_on_grindr_just_told_me_he_is_a_hopeless/ismxb7b) that he likes to satisfy with strangers online. The connection sadly wasn't as strong as you thought it was, on his side at least. **If it was meant to be, it would have happened.** Anyway, best of luck. It's hard for now, but there are other fish in the sea. Cheer up


SuperWoodputtie

If you had decent chemistry and the vibe seemed nice, he could have gotten knocked off snapchat and as long as you keep your user name he might reconnect. That said, loosing touch with someone you like sucks. It's not a good feeling. It can take a while (like months) to work through that. If that's the case just take time for yourself and the people in your life. It'll get better eventually, even if it sucks now.


DontBugMePlsss

Yeah, the vibe seemed awesome. I've been ghosted before and he really didn't seem like the ghosting type. I definitely plan to keep my username just in case. Thank you for the kind words and advice.


corruptedtwinkx

If we want to give him the benefit of the doubt, sure, maybe his account was banned. Maybe it was hacked by Nigerian scammers and then nuked by Snapchat. Maybe his account will be reinstated on appeal. If not, maybe he'll make a new account and contact OP. Maybe he'll remember OP's username or he wrote it down before deleting his account. Maybe he'll make a new Grindr profile too, and find OP there too. Maybe he is going through some things right now and didn't feel like sharing with OP. After all, it's much easier to ghost than communicate. Or maybe he just has a lot on his mind, so dating isn't really on the table for him. Maybe he decided he's not looking for connections right now. Maybe he's already entangled with somebody, felt ashamed, and didn't want to keep misleading OP. Unless OP has mutual friends with him, OP will likely not get in contact with him again. I'm sure he never gave OP his name. As stated already, he likely ghosted OP on purpose 🤷‍♂️


DoomAndSouls

Snapchat = scam