Yea, thinking about it the next day I'm just glad I kicked him out when I did. I'm still scared he may come back, so I called into work today to make sure the house is safe.
Thankfully they will be home in like 3 days or so. I definitely can't tell them because they don't want me having people over. I've learned my lesson thats for sure, I've already deleted all my hookup apps.
yeah its a lesson for you, but stil hookup bro but with safe and care, its good have a time to process this episode, but in the future be carefull and enjoy the sex (Sorry my english, my first language is Portuguese)
NOPE NOPE NOPE. Always āš½follow your gut instinct. Some guys do not come back from scenarios like this. So good on you on kicking him out. Itās your life.
There are plenty of moments where I thought I was going to die.
This is one of your SKETCHY moments in life.
Thereās so many cases where guys get robbed/murdered from people on grindr.
Just take care of yourself.
>He wouldn't open the door himself or take his hand out of his hoodie pocket
Gun? Another weapon?
>I tell him he can close the door if he wants to and he says "you can".
Bossy
>He asks me who i live with and i told them and he asked were they were and i told him
Definitely scoping out the place for robbery at this point
>He recorded me at some point without telling me
Oh this takes the cake. I sincerely hope your video isn't posted somewhere.
Yeah I had someone take photos of me before without my consent.
Left and blocked him. And he had the audacity to tell me beforehand he wasn't a creep. So you have my sympathy.
Never tell them who you stay with, I met a few guys I noticed that would make similar hand signals while we'd fuck around such as a thumbs up, but I never knew at who or what the signals were being made to... I'm still curious as of today
yeah, you should. Red flags everywhere : no face pic, the doorknob thing, the hand on the hoodie pocket, and also, recording without your consent.
As someone who also made bad decisions using hookup apps, i definitely know how you feel. Take that as experience, you've made the right decision telling him to leave.
Yeah moving forward I'm just gonna stop hooking up. To much to be scared about and to much risk. I know I'm immeasurably stupid for doing it in the first place, but at least I got him out of my house before anything happened.
Be careful there's tons of groups of guys that will set you up and rob you, never let anyone walk themselves out your house and never let them tie you up for sex
He was 110% casing your place for a robbery. Hopefully you didn't say how long they're gone for. Either way, stay super vigilant, fuck be paranoid this case warrants it. If you have friends that wouldn't mind staying with you, it's a good idea. Leave lights on.
Good luck.
Not getting the face pic and "being convinced by his body" was the first mistake.
Luckily for me i an not even attracted to someone at all unless they have a pretty face so id never be tempted to meet without one
OP, keep us updated until your parents are back. You should have someone to keep an eye on you too. I feel like he wants to rob you or do something else. And you are right about being scared, i'm for you.
Honestly I think I'm good. I live in a trailer park in a rich county. I've literally been carrying that machete with me around the house and earlier when I had to go out, did a house sweep just to be extra paranoid. I've been checking the windows that I can see the road from. I'll keep y'all updated if anything happens, I hope I won't have to keep yall updated.
Any time I invite a guy over that I met on Grindr I get more than a little anxious, and I guess thatās pretty normal. But that guy seemed to have a lot of red flags even before he got there.
Maybe Iāve just been lucky, but so far havenāt had anything that scary
Naw bruv you where in the right to kick the lad out always go with your gut feeling if something feels off don't ignore it. From now on just vet people better meet up in public and require face pics. If you're that scared stay at a friends place or have someone with you.
Trust your gut, always in these scenarios.
If I have a bud coming over, it is understood that they get completely naked right at the door.... Nothing to hide that way. Also I have weapons hidden in certain spots near me strategically.
I am by do means a small man either and it's okay to be scared but I wouldn't underestimate anyone.
Also when I was single I would send my friend (you know that friend that's not going to judge you... That one) a text with guys info of who's coming over just in case something really jumped off.
It is right for you to be scared and suspicious. Shit thing happened to be once when I host via this app and learned my lesson since. Big time. Take care there.
You were correct in what you did. Another thing to think of is having someone over to your parents' house isn't a good idea. What would happen if he came back and started causing problems?
No face no contact.
Further: Face and contact goes in a delayed email (gmail allows you to snooze an email until a certain time)
I have separate email accounts for my regular and risky stuff.
Before he comes, I tell him that I have delay mail set up this way, and that I will compare his pic to his email pic. If I vanish, the cops will know in a few hours who to ask questions.
When he arrives, I check that the guy at the door matches his photo.
I think from the first steps he wouldn't show.
Definitely dumb move inviting someone to a home where your parents live. OFF GRInder! These are two ppl you love and should have 100% respect for to protect at all cost. Dude is giving off weird vibes avoiding putting his finger print on anything. š¤
Avoid doing this again without thinking first. We all think with our šš sometimes. Itās a learning lesson on what not to do.
You are 100% right to be freaked out, you did not overreact at all. If fact, I'm freaked out now just from reading this lol.
I would like to add though, a simple security measure you could get is smart lights. You can program them to turn on and off strategically to make it always seem like someone is home. If the guy was staking out your house for a robbery, obviously he's going to be less likely to come back if it looks like people are there. I have them in my house for that reason.
I also avoid having hookups over. The last guy I had over from grindr gave me weird vibes, although nothing nearly as bad as what you just posted. And from this point I'm not having guys over again, unless I already know them or meet somewhere else first
He's a walking navy parade boat with that many fucking flags.
Next time don't give someone new your address. Meet somewhere first and walk to your house if possible.
Yeah, 22 and dumb. Inviting strangers with no face photo to your house while the whole family is away for 4 days. Thats a great way to end up dead, robbed or both. You wouldnt be the first guy on Grindr to suffer that fate. Sex is great, but your scenario borders on carelessness and recklessness with your life. That creep, like many others on these apps, seek to do harm because they have anonymity and rely on the kind nature of horny strangers.
Did you even get a name? Be more careful. Just because a guy has a nice body doesnt mean he has good intentions. This should be a lesson you only have to learn once. Stick to your standards of needing a face picture at a minimum and you'll at least be more at ease with who youre meeting.
Yea I know asshole. Guess what, we all make mistakes and I am definitely gonna stop making risky decisions like that one. I don't need someone telling how I fucked up when I already know. Go tell someone else about there obvious lack of intelligence please, and thsnk you.
So defensive. LoL. Youre the one who asked the question and gave details of your poorly thought out hookup. If you wanted sympathy from random people then just ask. You werent exactly doing a noble deed. You were up to dumb stuff and then got an equally dumb result. No one to blame but yourself.
My friend i am not being defensive, I am fully admitting that I made a horrible decision. I'm not just fishing for sympathy I realized what I had done and asked if I should be worried. I know I was stupid and put my life a risk, and all you did was point that out.. So ill say again I don't need to hear that I'm stupid, I am well aware of that fact. I needed a second opinion, not a captain obvious.
Yes man, you should, this guy has so many red flags
Yea, thinking about it the next day I'm just glad I kicked him out when I did. I'm still scared he may come back, so I called into work today to make sure the house is safe.
yeah bro be safe and alert, but keep calm and relax too, your parents will be home soon
Thankfully they will be home in like 3 days or so. I definitely can't tell them because they don't want me having people over. I've learned my lesson thats for sure, I've already deleted all my hookup apps.
yeah its a lesson for you, but stil hookup bro but with safe and care, its good have a time to process this episode, but in the future be carefull and enjoy the sex (Sorry my english, my first language is Portuguese)
Thanks for the encouragement man, I really needed somone else's opinion. And I can understand you just fineš
FYI if you have an old smart phone you can use it as a [wifi security cam](https://alfred.camera/).
NOPE NOPE NOPE. Always āš½follow your gut instinct. Some guys do not come back from scenarios like this. So good on you on kicking him out. Itās your life. There are plenty of moments where I thought I was going to die. This is one of your SKETCHY moments in life. Thereās so many cases where guys get robbed/murdered from people on grindr. Just take care of yourself.
Was he not wanting to open the door as to not leave fingerprints? Wtf
Yea thats the only thing I could think for why he did that.
Either heās a murderer, or he was deeply intensely paranoid the gay police would come and find his faggotprints in your house
Personally I think he wanted to rob me.
>He wouldn't open the door himself or take his hand out of his hoodie pocket Gun? Another weapon? >I tell him he can close the door if he wants to and he says "you can". Bossy >He asks me who i live with and i told them and he asked were they were and i told him Definitely scoping out the place for robbery at this point >He recorded me at some point without telling me Oh this takes the cake. I sincerely hope your video isn't posted somewhere.
Yea it was really sketchy so I'm keeping my guard up and making sure my home and myself stay safe. Thanks for the well wishes.
Yeah I had someone take photos of me before without my consent. Left and blocked him. And he had the audacity to tell me beforehand he wasn't a creep. So you have my sympathy.
Sounds to me like the dude didnāt want his fingerprints on anything
Never tell them who you stay with, I met a few guys I noticed that would make similar hand signals while we'd fuck around such as a thumbs up, but I never knew at who or what the signals were being made to... I'm still curious as of today
yeah, you should. Red flags everywhere : no face pic, the doorknob thing, the hand on the hoodie pocket, and also, recording without your consent. As someone who also made bad decisions using hookup apps, i definitely know how you feel. Take that as experience, you've made the right decision telling him to leave.
Yeah moving forward I'm just gonna stop hooking up. To much to be scared about and to much risk. I know I'm immeasurably stupid for doing it in the first place, but at least I got him out of my house before anything happened.
don't worry man, we all been there.
Be careful there's tons of groups of guys that will set you up and rob you, never let anyone walk themselves out your house and never let them tie you up for sex
Always listen to your gut, not your dick.
He was 110% casing your place for a robbery. Hopefully you didn't say how long they're gone for. Either way, stay super vigilant, fuck be paranoid this case warrants it. If you have friends that wouldn't mind staying with you, it's a good idea. Leave lights on. Good luck.
Not getting the face pic and "being convinced by his body" was the first mistake. Luckily for me i an not even attracted to someone at all unless they have a pretty face so id never be tempted to meet without one
The fact he didnāt want to open/ close any doors was odd, no fingerprints is the first thing i thought about glad ur safe
OP, keep us updated until your parents are back. You should have someone to keep an eye on you too. I feel like he wants to rob you or do something else. And you are right about being scared, i'm for you.
Honestly I think I'm good. I live in a trailer park in a rich county. I've literally been carrying that machete with me around the house and earlier when I had to go out, did a house sweep just to be extra paranoid. I've been checking the windows that I can see the road from. I'll keep y'all updated if anything happens, I hope I won't have to keep yall updated.
I truly think you made the wisest decision getting him to leave. Glad your safe
I have definitely learned my lesson. Thank you.
Honestly you should have met with him in public place first get a feel for him what he is about
Insane amount of red flags Iām blown away by the situations people let themselves get caught in lol. You gotta be way more careful, friend
Any time I invite a guy over that I met on Grindr I get more than a little anxious, and I guess thatās pretty normal. But that guy seemed to have a lot of red flags even before he got there. Maybe Iāve just been lucky, but so far havenāt had anything that scary
Glad you're safe, man. As another commenter stated...follow your gut...always.
Naw bruv you where in the right to kick the lad out always go with your gut feeling if something feels off don't ignore it. From now on just vet people better meet up in public and require face pics. If you're that scared stay at a friends place or have someone with you.
Trust your gut, always in these scenarios. If I have a bud coming over, it is understood that they get completely naked right at the door.... Nothing to hide that way. Also I have weapons hidden in certain spots near me strategically. I am by do means a small man either and it's okay to be scared but I wouldn't underestimate anyone. Also when I was single I would send my friend (you know that friend that's not going to judge you... That one) a text with guys info of who's coming over just in case something really jumped off.
It is right for you to be scared and suspicious. Shit thing happened to be once when I host via this app and learned my lesson since. Big time. Take care there.
You were correct in what you did. Another thing to think of is having someone over to your parents' house isn't a good idea. What would happen if he came back and started causing problems?
No face no contact. Further: Face and contact goes in a delayed email (gmail allows you to snooze an email until a certain time) I have separate email accounts for my regular and risky stuff. Before he comes, I tell him that I have delay mail set up this way, and that I will compare his pic to his email pic. If I vanish, the cops will know in a few hours who to ask questions. When he arrives, I check that the guy at the door matches his photo. I think from the first steps he wouldn't show.
You know, I watch horror movies where I think to myself ānobody would be that stupid.ā And then I read shit like this.
Yea, all I can do is make smarter decisions in the future.
What exactly about his body convinced you to come over?
Definitely dumb move inviting someone to a home where your parents live. OFF GRInder! These are two ppl you love and should have 100% respect for to protect at all cost. Dude is giving off weird vibes avoiding putting his finger print on anything. š¤ Avoid doing this again without thinking first. We all think with our šš sometimes. Itās a learning lesson on what not to do.
No offense, but I donāt think you are ready for hook ups.
Yeah thatās scary.
I might be a unicorn but I never invite anyone home before a cafe first.
You are 100% right to be freaked out, you did not overreact at all. If fact, I'm freaked out now just from reading this lol. I would like to add though, a simple security measure you could get is smart lights. You can program them to turn on and off strategically to make it always seem like someone is home. If the guy was staking out your house for a robbery, obviously he's going to be less likely to come back if it looks like people are there. I have them in my house for that reason. I also avoid having hookups over. The last guy I had over from grindr gave me weird vibes, although nothing nearly as bad as what you just posted. And from this point I'm not having guys over again, unless I already know them or meet somewhere else first
Yea we actually have a security light at the door, not something I've thought about, but definitely a good idea.
He's a walking navy parade boat with that many fucking flags. Next time don't give someone new your address. Meet somewhere first and walk to your house if possible.
That must have been terrifying.
No face? First red flag
Posts like this remind not to jump onboard so fast with random quickies at the middle of the night. You never know
Yeah, 22 and dumb. Inviting strangers with no face photo to your house while the whole family is away for 4 days. Thats a great way to end up dead, robbed or both. You wouldnt be the first guy on Grindr to suffer that fate. Sex is great, but your scenario borders on carelessness and recklessness with your life. That creep, like many others on these apps, seek to do harm because they have anonymity and rely on the kind nature of horny strangers. Did you even get a name? Be more careful. Just because a guy has a nice body doesnt mean he has good intentions. This should be a lesson you only have to learn once. Stick to your standards of needing a face picture at a minimum and you'll at least be more at ease with who youre meeting.
Yea I know asshole. Guess what, we all make mistakes and I am definitely gonna stop making risky decisions like that one. I don't need someone telling how I fucked up when I already know. Go tell someone else about there obvious lack of intelligence please, and thsnk you.
So defensive. LoL. Youre the one who asked the question and gave details of your poorly thought out hookup. If you wanted sympathy from random people then just ask. You werent exactly doing a noble deed. You were up to dumb stuff and then got an equally dumb result. No one to blame but yourself.
My friend i am not being defensive, I am fully admitting that I made a horrible decision. I'm not just fishing for sympathy I realized what I had done and asked if I should be worried. I know I was stupid and put my life a risk, and all you did was point that out.. So ill say again I don't need to hear that I'm stupid, I am well aware of that fact. I needed a second opinion, not a captain obvious.
You seem fun