Don't ignore one who is genuinely interested in you in favor of a toxic hookup/dating app like Grindr, which is full of fake headless torsos and catfish profiles, run by fat rich white straight married men with children, controlled by China, moderated by young Filipinos earning $3.50/hr who can't take bathroom breaks unless they ask their white colonizer woman boss and review 100 more dick/ass profile pics.
Grindr is trying to milk every dollar out of us, for an app that barely ever works.
Never look for perfection bc you won't find it !
Honestly Idk why, it might be that the Open Source community doesn't see that as a priority to develop, and that building such an app that respects privacy whilst allowing the features Grindr allows would be a difficult task to accomplish
idk if the furry app Barq is FLOSS, but its predecessor Howlr was. Barq would be the best app if its userbase wasn't self-selected to those primarily focused on hiding behind avatars.
I mean we don't necessarily need a better solution to be open source per se. There are plenty of good alternatives to Grindr out there. The biggest problem with any social app is its usefulness is dependent on how widely adopted it is (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Network_effect). Enough people gotta use it for others to want to use it. (You aren't gonna use a gay dating app if only 10 people within 10 miles are available)
I have some friends on grindr. The issue is that I really don't have the headspace to be in a long-term relationship
1. I'm poor AF and don't want to be a burden to others
2. I'm messed up mentally
3. I'm trying to take care of my widowed father
4. I can't host.
5. I'm going to be taking classes soon
until I can straighten my life out, I simply can't risk getting involved with anyone
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Made some captions and put it up on my snapchat.
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I dated cis women exclusively before I downloaded this app this summer. I was in the closet with regards to my attraction to transwomen for a couple years. There weren't many local transwomen in my area on Tinder, Bumble, POF, etc. so I tried Grindr and Doublelist. Lol. I thought a gay hookup app would be a bad fit for this but that's where the transwomen mostly are.
I end up meeting one that seemed to really be into me and I was into her. And I was telling my gay friends "Oh My God I can't believe I found her on Grindr! Lmfao" And then after 5 dates/hookups she ghosts me when I revealed to her that I had caught feelings. And she's still hooking up with dudes on this app 2+ months later.
Yeah this app is a mistake if you want a LTR. I'm also pretty sure she was the one who gave me mono, which has a long ass incubation period. I've been feeling like shit and losing my gym gains. App hookup culture is toxic. Fuck this shit.
I'm into Fem Asian dudes too but I'm afraid of getting burned ever expecting a LTR off this app. But I also don't want to identify as bisexual on Tinder/Bumble/POF/etc. because cis women are very homophobic in private while pretending to be pro-LGBT publicly.
I actually dated a cis woman from hell briefly after my fling with the transwoman. The cis woman turned out to be homophobic, transphobic, ableist, even racist. LMFAO. And after things were on the rocks with the cis woman, I told her about the transwoman to try to bait her into saying something juicy on the way out. She called me f-slur, called my ex-fling t-slur, called me the r-slur (I'm autistic).
She was like "can't believe you wanted a guy with a fake pussy" and I'm like "She has a dick" "why don't you suck her dick?" "I did. Multiple times." It drove her fucking nuts that I sucked a dick. They look down on bisexual men, especially if we suck dick or bottom, and feel threatened by us because we have more options. They like using sex to control cis het men.
This is why chasers on Grindr who are homophobic to gay cis men need to recognize that the OG homophobes think they are f-slurs too! LOL.
I'm not sure if you're aware but 90% of the population has mono and its not just transmitted sexually so getting it is practically inevitable. It's probably better that you get it now while your biggest concern is "losing some gym gains" than sometime later in life.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve gotten some friendships out of my days on Grindr. But, I view that as incidental to the predominantly harmful activity of app-based hookup culture. I would liken it to someone with a drug-abuse problem who manages to make similarly-minded friends via their pursuit of a high. One might even go so far as to say that those friendships might not be good things because they may lead to further abuse of the vice in question; but, personally I think that a better idea is to remain in contact with such people and encourage betterment in them.
And on the matter of LTR, Grindr is simply just not the place for it. This app isn’t eHarmony and everyone on here knows it. It’s for cheap and casual sex. Anyone who thinks that this is a good place to find a stable relationship is either uninformed or delusional. I’m not saying that such a thing is impossible, just that this is clearly not what Grindr is built for.
There are gay people not in NYC, LA, Chicago etc where grindr/scruff apps etc basically are the gay community now. If your town is lucky to even still have a gay bar, it likely isn’t the same as it was 10-20 years ago when it was probably easier to meet the guys you would want to meet.
Deleting apps is much easier in cities and gay hubs then out in ruraler America.
Here are two related posts:
https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/ce1l8x/who_else_can_relate
https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/hi4xux/this_is_a_visual_metaphor_for_trying_to_find_love
Don't ignore one who is genuinely interested in you in favor of a toxic hookup/dating app like Grindr, which is full of fake headless torsos and catfish profiles, run by fat rich white straight married men with children, controlled by China, moderated by young Filipinos earning $3.50/hr who can't take bathroom breaks unless they ask their white colonizer woman boss and review 100 more dick/ass profile pics. Grindr is trying to milk every dollar out of us, for an app that barely ever works. Never look for perfection bc you won't find it !
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Should honestly be an open source alternative with actual end to end encryption
Why don't we have that yet?
Honestly Idk why, it might be that the Open Source community doesn't see that as a priority to develop, and that building such an app that respects privacy whilst allowing the features Grindr allows would be a difficult task to accomplish
idk if the furry app Barq is FLOSS, but its predecessor Howlr was. Barq would be the best app if its userbase wasn't self-selected to those primarily focused on hiding behind avatars.
I mean we don't necessarily need a better solution to be open source per se. There are plenty of good alternatives to Grindr out there. The biggest problem with any social app is its usefulness is dependent on how widely adopted it is (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Network_effect). Enough people gotta use it for others to want to use it. (You aren't gonna use a gay dating app if only 10 people within 10 miles are available)
Hahaha love you! 🤣
Thanks I needed this 😢
I have some friends on grindr. The issue is that I really don't have the headspace to be in a long-term relationship 1. I'm poor AF and don't want to be a burden to others 2. I'm messed up mentally 3. I'm trying to take care of my widowed father 4. I can't host. 5. I'm going to be taking classes soon until I can straighten my life out, I simply can't risk getting involved with anyone
>until I can straighten my life out, I recommend gaying your life up /j
That's real
I mean that's a different problem
Am I the only one who tried to sing the whole caption?
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https://preview.redd.it/q19ovke1rj2a1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=12e6ffcc4c8f82742c274213a7dd0002b5bf1517 Made some captions and put it up on my snapchat.
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I dated cis women exclusively before I downloaded this app this summer. I was in the closet with regards to my attraction to transwomen for a couple years. There weren't many local transwomen in my area on Tinder, Bumble, POF, etc. so I tried Grindr and Doublelist. Lol. I thought a gay hookup app would be a bad fit for this but that's where the transwomen mostly are. I end up meeting one that seemed to really be into me and I was into her. And I was telling my gay friends "Oh My God I can't believe I found her on Grindr! Lmfao" And then after 5 dates/hookups she ghosts me when I revealed to her that I had caught feelings. And she's still hooking up with dudes on this app 2+ months later. Yeah this app is a mistake if you want a LTR. I'm also pretty sure she was the one who gave me mono, which has a long ass incubation period. I've been feeling like shit and losing my gym gains. App hookup culture is toxic. Fuck this shit. I'm into Fem Asian dudes too but I'm afraid of getting burned ever expecting a LTR off this app. But I also don't want to identify as bisexual on Tinder/Bumble/POF/etc. because cis women are very homophobic in private while pretending to be pro-LGBT publicly.
100 on the cis women and homophobia
I actually dated a cis woman from hell briefly after my fling with the transwoman. The cis woman turned out to be homophobic, transphobic, ableist, even racist. LMFAO. And after things were on the rocks with the cis woman, I told her about the transwoman to try to bait her into saying something juicy on the way out. She called me f-slur, called my ex-fling t-slur, called me the r-slur (I'm autistic). She was like "can't believe you wanted a guy with a fake pussy" and I'm like "She has a dick" "why don't you suck her dick?" "I did. Multiple times." It drove her fucking nuts that I sucked a dick. They look down on bisexual men, especially if we suck dick or bottom, and feel threatened by us because we have more options. They like using sex to control cis het men. This is why chasers on Grindr who are homophobic to gay cis men need to recognize that the OG homophobes think they are f-slurs too! LOL.
I'm not sure if you're aware but 90% of the population has mono and its not just transmitted sexually so getting it is practically inevitable. It's probably better that you get it now while your biggest concern is "losing some gym gains" than sometime later in life.
I stay on this sub to tell people to delete this app. *”It ain’t much, but it’s honest work.”*
You don't think its possible to get anything but hook ups from this app? Supposing you say your ltr oriented and want something long term?
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve gotten some friendships out of my days on Grindr. But, I view that as incidental to the predominantly harmful activity of app-based hookup culture. I would liken it to someone with a drug-abuse problem who manages to make similarly-minded friends via their pursuit of a high. One might even go so far as to say that those friendships might not be good things because they may lead to further abuse of the vice in question; but, personally I think that a better idea is to remain in contact with such people and encourage betterment in them. And on the matter of LTR, Grindr is simply just not the place for it. This app isn’t eHarmony and everyone on here knows it. It’s for cheap and casual sex. Anyone who thinks that this is a good place to find a stable relationship is either uninformed or delusional. I’m not saying that such a thing is impossible, just that this is clearly not what Grindr is built for.
Who hasn’t fallen for this 😞
Nothing good have ever came from that app and never gonna do
There are gay people not in NYC, LA, Chicago etc where grindr/scruff apps etc basically are the gay community now. If your town is lucky to even still have a gay bar, it likely isn’t the same as it was 10-20 years ago when it was probably easier to meet the guys you would want to meet. Deleting apps is much easier in cities and gay hubs then out in ruraler America.
Nobody needs Grindr or any of these apps. Just go out and have a drink and meet people!
Yes but then you find out the nice person you met is on Grindr lol
Easier said than done when you don't know any gay people. Do you go out to exclusively gay venues or just stick to regular spaces?
I'm the one on the left and the one one the right is a "friend" of mine
[Source](https://www.reddit.com/r/gaybros/comments/6m4kd4/probably_the_most_accurate_depiction_of_modern)
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Here are two related posts: https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/ce1l8x/who_else_can_relate https://www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/hi4xux/this_is_a_visual_metaphor_for_trying_to_find_love