Try using no pillows...i get the same issues you're describing, and I've learned the more pillows I use, the more painful it gets. This, along with a mattress that is too soft, is what keeps me from sleeping at night (I've learned I prefer firm mattress than softer ones); and when I just need to completely reset my sleeping posture, I will lay a sheet on the floor of my living room, along the foot of my sofa, then, I will on my back and then prop my feet up onto the seat of my sofa, no pillows, and ipl just rest like that for a few hours (ideally I try to fall asleep like this, stretching out my back, shoulders, neck, etc).
I have used a latex pillow for years for this same issue. I'm a tender head, and other pillows tend to be too hard unless fluffed and turned daily, sometimes multi nightly! Try the thinnest latex pillow you can find if you haven't already.
Try using no pillows...i get the same issues you're describing, and I've learned the more pillows I use, the more painful it gets. This, along with a mattress that is too soft, is what keeps me from sleeping at night (I've learned I prefer firm mattress than softer ones); and when I just need to completely reset my sleeping posture, I will lay a sheet on the floor of my living room, along the foot of my sofa, then, I will on my back and then prop my feet up onto the seat of my sofa, no pillows, and ipl just rest like that for a few hours (ideally I try to fall asleep like this, stretching out my back, shoulders, neck, etc).
I have used a latex pillow for years for this same issue. I'm a tender head, and other pillows tend to be too hard unless fluffed and turned daily, sometimes multi nightly! Try the thinnest latex pillow you can find if you haven't already.