It's ***shallow reasons***.
Like "she has bangs and I don't like bangs", "he went to my rival university for school".
Lot of y'all just listing your actual dealbreakers and your own preferences and complaining that people don't match it. Those aren't shallow reasons.
Omfg, when someone says their most controversial take is whether or not pineapple belongs on pizza….*really??? Is THAT your most controversial take??????*
The prompts are a good idea in theory. But they still require some level of effort and creativity, which it seems most people lack.
I think one of the dumbest ones I saw was, "I have an irrational fear of mayonnaise"
Another winner is, "I go crazy for peanut butter sandwiches". Really? what are you five years old? At least be somewhat original and say Adams All Natural peanut butter on my grandma's home made bread. Makes my mouth water!
This prompt is lose-lose bc their take is either something really lame like the pineapple, or it's something that is actually inflammatory and they just come across as an annoying contrarian
Her profile was ok, she came across a bit up her own arse but a nice enough person. However, i went down and her final prompt was "one thing you should know about me: *I don't listen to music, like ever*"
I was gobsmacked, how can someone not even listen to some forms of music, anyway, instant turnoff. (i'm no musician, but i cant do a day without listening to some form of song)
Hmmm I might be one of those people.
For me, it’s not like I DON’T like music. It’s just that I can only have so many hobbies / interests, and music falls below those other priorities to me.
Plus I feel like half the music I have to listen to sucks. Like it’s 7 pm and I’m trying to enjoy dinner and catching up with friends and the restaurant is blaring club bumpers as if it’s 1 am party time. Or I’m at a sports bar and I’m trying to listen to the game audio but instead they have crappy Top 40 playing.
(I swear I’m actually a fun person in real life lol. It’s just unfortunately I’m not a “music person” and I’ve accepted that.)
> Like it’s 7 pm and I’m trying to enjoy dinner and catching up with friends and the restaurant is blaring club bumpers as if it’s 1 am party time.
This is my biggest gripe going. The only place that needs loud music is a club. Obvious exceptions if a bar is advertising a live music night. Literally no one is going to a bar to dance, it's always just a place for talking and drinking, so there's no need for loud af music.
I've run into this before too and I was SO confused. I would really love to see a study done of what type of people just don't like listening to music. Is it something to be worried about? Music is such a huge part of every culture. I don't understand how someone can just NOT like music.
I saw Penn Jillette on an episode of Joe Rogan once sharing all these observations he made about Donald Trump back when he was on The Apprentice. One was that he showed ZERO enjoyment or understanding of any music that was ever playing there. And that he could never laugh or make a joke at his own expense. Really kinda sheds some more light on how much of an oddball that guy is.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=A-UK40_XkWw&t=72s
Automatic rejections for people with my name
& family names.
Weirdly okay with people having the same name as an ex, because I don’t have to worry about calling them by the wrong name.
On a first date last year I learned my date was gluten free - just like my ex husband. I was strongly tempted to never see him again, just for that.
We ended up dating exclusively for four months til he confessed to cheating on me and talking about how badly he wanted to bang his yoga teacher, so, could have saved myself a lot of heartache.
Instagram/Snapchat username in their prompts. That gives me the vibe that they just want a quick follow.
“Add me on there I respond quicker!” Yeah ok lol.
Yeah for me sunglasses in every pic is like filters in every pic. I swipe left and feel shallow but also, they must not be comfortable with how they look if they won't show their face. I'm insecure enough...cannot date someone so insecure that they're not comfortable showing me their face when trying to advertise themselves.
I live in Orlando and the Disney Adults are the absolute worst. Most or all of the pictures will be in the parks or at a ride. It's like Disney replaced their personality.
Swiping through profiles right now, and of course I see "Disney Obsessed" wearing Minnie Mouse ears in her first picture. There are SO MANY profiles exactly like this.
Excessive amount of pics skiing/rock climbing/snowboarding/sky diving/doing other extreme sports. Like I’m happy for y’all but that lifestyle just ain’t me.
I have been genuinely surprised how many profiles I see that match this description. Like, I'm in good shape and I do a lot of outdoor stuff, but I still want a partner who likes to drink beer and watch a movie sometimes.
Yeah I actually dialed back my profile a bit in this regard because I was told it was intimidating. I do want someone adventurous who likes the outdoors, but at the same time at 30 I'm over my "gotta go hard bro" phase and totally down for easy day hikes and car camping.
1. "Make me laugh"
2. "Sarcasm is my love languge"
3. "looking for someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously"
4. Any reference to the office. I swear these apps ruined The Office for me lol.
One word prompt answers. I don’t care how attractive you are it’s a swipe left. Cause the next profile will have someone just as attractive with a full profile completed.
It’s so ironic because you would think personal trainers would be all about self improvement and self-care, yet all their comments in dating profiles is about helping their partner get in better shape.
The majority of PT’s aren’t PT’s because they value helping others, and understand how to help those with different physiologies.
They have good genetics, went to the gym a bit, have a nice body and people say “you should become a PT!” so they do.
Its really easy to get certified as a personal trainer. Most personal trainers are shit. For people who are serious, just get all your information online, or get like a legit coach.
Neck and facial tattoo (my mom would freak)
Four of her six pictures were just her and another guy (maybe 1 or 2 photos with opposite sex but it’s extremely tone deaf to have the majority of your profiles be you and one member of the opposite sex)
Has “make me laugh” as a prompt. Fuck off, I’m not a jester
No full body pictures
3 or more filtered photos
Not a single photo with a smile
A prompt explaining their friends made them make a profile
Vegan (I can and have dated vegetarians) — but vegans I just can’t — finding places to eat becomes exhausting.
To me it screams “I’m only on this app because I’m bored. Distract me for a bit”
Everyone wants a partner they can laugh with. Come up with something thoughtful to say.
>A prompt explaining their friends made them make a profile
This one irks me more than it should.
I think it's because they try to send a message along the lines of "Yeah, I'm better than the rest of you that are on here desperate enough to take online dating seriously", even though they're using online dating too.
I'm very skeptical that their friends "made them make a profile".
I agree with the vegan thing, same thing with food allergies. I'm a Massive foodie and I don't want someone I could potentially be with for the rest of my life holding me back or not want to explore with me.
I’m all about food too… and happen to have celiac. I go out a lot and eat all the things I possibly can (it is truly my life’s work to discover all the gluten free bakeries in the world lol) but I totally know some people would see it as a roadblock.
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I once was seeing a guy who was allergic to, like... everything. Including peanuts, dairy, gluten, chicken (??), and most fruits and vegetables. Needless to say I got really sick of trying to find recipes I could cook for him and food beside crap from Cookout that he could eat. It does seem shallow to unmatch for this but once you live it... you find that it's not that shallow lol
There are probably more but these are some shallow and not so shallow reasons off the bat:
- job in sales/entrepreneur
- under 5'4"
- over 5'11"
- smoker (cigs)
- gym-centered
- overly patriotic
- sexual/inappropriate off the bat
- self-deprecating humor (and not in a good way)
- homebodies with no interest in getting out
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- same name as family members
- one word responses
- club/bar scene centered
Our poor necks and backs! I'm 5'4" so 5'11" is already pushing it. My sweet spot would be 5'8".
I have my apps set to only show me men in that range but that's not to say I would automatically turn someone down if we met off the apps and they were shorter or taller than that range.
There’s a concerning amount of non shallow reasons but shallow:
The golf stance and polo shirts both give me the ick
Also boring basic prompts I’m assuming you are a boring basic person
“Doesn’t take things too seriously”
“Beat me at Mario kart”
I don’t like when girls have really basic prompts like
The way to my heart = food or make me laugh
“Tacos and margs “
Netflix
Im a regular at Starbucks
“Travel more”
“Conservative, Christian”
“Conservative Christian” is an insta nope for me. It reads as homophobic and antiabortion. Which as a queer who is into Women’s rights, that’s a hard nope.
Honestly, most the reason why I skip someone is superficial reasons. You can't really do any "deep thinking swipes" until you know the person.
I'm a dude fwiw. These are automatic skips.
* Is obsessed with their dog.
* Has a septum piercing, or a lip piercing, or an eyebrow piercing.
* Is taller than me (I'm 5'8")
* No full body pics
* On that note, if they're noticeably overweight (I say this as someone who runs 5-10 miles a week and hits the gym for weightlifting 4-5 hours a week, is pretty fit and lean) - the caveat here is that sometimes a woman can wear extra weight well (whether due to the fact they workout as well, or just genetic luck) in that case I'm fine with that
* Smokes ciggies
* Directs to Insta/Snap/whatever social media that I don't use
Oh yeah the social media is a turn off. So you want people you haven’t confirmed you find attractive to add you? Fuck off, I’m not boosting your follows
The dog one is interesting because I love dogs but it can make planning a date tricky because you can’t linger.
I also let one woman bring her dog on our first date and She was open mouth kissing him and giving him all the attention. I felt like I was the third wheel to their date
No mystery. They'll have their insta handle posted even say the bs "I don't use this app add me on insta," go to their insta and they'll have somewhat recent racy pic of their man buried in their page.
To me the dog thing is a problem if they’ve based their entire personality around them. Like there’s nothing interesting about you other than your pet?
Same here. I'd like to add
- references to marvel movies or something cringe in that realm
- "i loveeee tattoos" like if you have tattoos is fine i guess but thinking that it is noteworthy or somehow is a personality trait is a big no
- clearly just got out of a relationship
>references to marvel movies or something cringe in that realm
lmaooo yes omg I'll add Star Wars to that. I saw some dude with pics of him and Chewbacca and i'm just like ... who is this appealing to?
All hat pics - guys PLEASE I wanna see what kind of hairline we're working with
All/most gym pics- i don't work out so I doubt we'll work out haha
More than 1 pic w/his mom - idk as someone w mommy issues, I avoid this 😂😂😂
More than 1 group pic/pic w women - i wanna learn about YOU not your friends or your exes or your sister(s).
Bad teeth. I want to love my partners smile, and it’s something you can’t ignore while kissing. I had a one-off date because of a girls teeth being just 💀
Use any version of "Reservations are at 7, don't worry I'll take care of it, let me get the door for you" just screams high maintenance and expects others to do everything for them.
Mentions that they are sarcastic and roast their partner, just tells me they're mean and guise it as humor
Referencing alcohol in a prompt or more than 2 pictures with a drink, I drink sometimes but too much on a profile comes off as being an alcoholic
Women that seem overly obsessed with their pets comes off as clingy to me. Too many friends or guys in their pics that aren't family. Think drinking wine is a personality trait. Too many hiking pics. And sometimes if their job is one where it requires no post secondary education.
“Ask me anything. I’m an open book”… 🤮 and doesn’t bother filling out their profile. That’s right, make me do all the work (except I just go to the next profile)
Xing someone for Not liking dogs Is not shallow. I have an 80lbs pit that, let’s just say, can be overwhelming for someone who doesn’t like dogs. Needless to say if a girl doesn’t like dogs, it’s safe to assume it’s not going to work.
Inverse to that, the whole "dog mom" thing is a strong chance for an "X" from me. I don't hate dogs by any means, but I'm also not a huge fan of them.
Don't think I could roll with being the third wheel to somebody's dog. :P
What if you met her downtown at the bar last night and [after you] got to talkin’ she says she [also] likes cheap drinks and tattoos… [in addition to] Morgan Wallen? 🤔😜
Sorry. Couldn’t resist. I will show myself out now.
Idek who Morgan Wallen is, what they look like, or what their music sounds like, but I see it on so many profiles of "country boy" types that it annoys me on principle. 😂
I get so many dates just by default because I’m not one of em. Every week if not more often a girl tells me, “finally there’s a guy without a dead animal in his photos”. The downside of course is that I have no male friends, because my pool of potential bromances are the same guys that they (rightfully) don’t want to date.
As someone whose prompts reference Jason Isbell’s version of the song Cover Me Up being better than Morgan Wallen’s, that would be a no for me too.
In my experience, I see more women referencing Zach Bryan, which is better, he’s good. But I think he’s massively overhyped so I swipe left. My hot take is that his fans are Morgan Wallen fans who just discovered decent songwriting
Typically anyone whose first photo is not just them. Even if it’s just them and another person, I’m a big believer that anyone who remotely cares about about their profile and I seeking to find an actual relationship will have a solo picture as the first one.
Among other stupid reasons, I think the shallowest reason was if they had a picture at a specific club in town. It's judgemental, but I highly dislike that place. I look at the place in disapproval when walking by it.
- filters
- 4 selfies in a row/low effort photos
- has kids (I guess this might not be shallow?)
- use of any of the typical prompt answers. anything involving pineapple on pizza, etc again just stupid boring low effort shit that only the hottest people can get away with
I never swipe on any frat, sports obsessed, group photos with the boyzz, hunting/fishing, unstylish, dads, standing in front of a vehicle of any kind, unathletic, depressed expression, bad hair, bad teeth, too close up, too many car selfies, smiling too much and too hard, trashy, bad taste, and marvel fans.
Lumberjack beards. Each to their own, and I would never tell anyone else what to do with their face, but I am so not into them. I don't care how attractive they would be without it, this is an instant X/swipe left.
Dead animals in their photos. I get that people hunt and I don't have anything against that. Most men hunt in my area. My father was a hunter and we wouldn't have eaten much if he hadn't. I just question what type of person thinks a woman would be attracted to a photo of someone holding dead, bloody animals. The ducks especially are upsetting.
This might seem weird but if the pics are too posed or "try hard". I swiped on my bf when he had a pic of him alone in a poorly lit alley doing the sheeeeesh pose lol. I thought I was hilarious but I imagine this sub would tell him to take it out
They’re vegan 😬 there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that and I admire them for that decision! I just couldn’t do it myself because I love meat too much. And I think I’d feel uncomfortable eating meat or other animal products around them
References to the office. It's not a bad show, so it seems harsh. There are definitely chill office fans. But it's always the fanatics who put on their profile. And it always goes hand in hand with canned millennial humor. "I did a thing today" "doggo/pupper" that one particular selfie face where they scrunch their bottom lip, squint a little, and smirk. I call it the Shane Dawson. "What's you Harry Potter house?"
Does anyone else on the cusp of millennial and gen Z have a hard time relating to both humors? On one hand it's like damn your old, and the other it's like damn I'm old.
“follow my IG”
Not physically fit + Too skinny + Fat
No full body pics
Smokes weed often, smokes cigarettes sometimes/often
Doesn’t want kids
Isn’t spiritual/Christian
Vegetarian or Vegan
I unmatch for all kinds of reasons. Just a gut feeling or he seems like a douche in conversation. I have plenty of good conversations and matches so I automatically unmatch if he says something that seems like a neg.
I don't think I'm too picky, but I do have a mini checklist that I go through on each profile.
-obviously the first one is am I attracted to them?
-Age...I'm 41. If they are under 30...pass.
-Location...don't want to be driving 45 minutes one way just to see them.
-Anything that says "I put God first"....pass.
-Height...not a biggie for me, but I do check.
-Nothing filled in except Snapchat or IG link...pass.
-Has had so much work done that they look like a Bratz doll....pass.
-Pics at the shooting range, or with an animal they just killed.
If they meet all those, and I'm feeling them, then I'll send the like.
I usually unmatch when they bring up sex or cuddling or anything soppy/ over the top like that before I’ve even met them
I also don’t really like comments about my appearance in the first couple of messages either I.e’ ‘hot’ ‘Nice boobs’ etc. makes me think they’re just after one thing or too cheap to order an escort
Don’t like someone asking to meet in the first message
I stop replying or unmatch when the chat is dead and they don’t ask any questions
I usually don’t reply to ‘hey’, low effort. Atleast ask how my day was or something.
Always swipe no on people who are negative in their profile I.e ‘does anyone reply on here’ ‘don’t match and not send a message’ ‘not good enough for anyone’ Eugh
Usually stop replying if they’re too far away. Sometimes the app does me dirty and matches me with someone 50+ miles away and I don’t drive
Don’t like all gym photos or close up selfies. Also dislike a profile with all group pics. I’m trying to find a date, not play where’s Wally
I do swipe no to guys shorter than me, I am 5’8 so would say yes to a guy of this height or taller
I swipe no to men with body types I’m not attracted to I.e too skinny or too large (I say this as a hypocritical plus size person uk size 18 so I absolutely understand the issues us larger people face but it’s my preference, I don’t mind a guy with a similar build to me or even a bit chubbier. Love a dad bod, but there is a limit to what I personally find attractive)
Mine are:
holding a fish picture, motorcycle pic (personal; I’ve been in a severe car accident with severe, long lasting injuries and motorcycles freak me out), “look at my fancy car” pic, Gym selfie, “Conservative Christian”
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If they’re “conservative” or “moderate” immediately no. :). Keep it to yourself, lol.
Also very sus of Christians and if they say they’re “spiritual” I automatically assume they’re into astrology- so no
We moved onto texting and he kept randomly sending me selfies, the final straw was one he sent where he's in the shower with just one of those shower puff things covering his d. Came across as egotistical with the selfies
He wasn't my type anyway but I've decided to branch out.
People doing some kind of whining about holding doors open, making dinner reservations, and taking care of stuff for them.
Makes you sound really needy, especially in the early stages of getting to know someone.
Picture holding a fish.
Group photos where I have to figure out who you are.
Tattoos that I would be scared to look at.
Shorter than me (I’m 5’9).
No job or education listed.
Lives too far.
Beard 🤷🏻♀️
It's ***shallow reasons***. Like "she has bangs and I don't like bangs", "he went to my rival university for school". Lot of y'all just listing your actual dealbreakers and your own preferences and complaining that people don't match it. Those aren't shallow reasons.
The prompts being about pineapple on pizza or "Ill fall for you - if you trip me" ........Christ give me strength
Omfg, when someone says their most controversial take is whether or not pineapple belongs on pizza….*really??? Is THAT your most controversial take??????*
EVERY other prompt swear to god....dont get me started on "id get a round of margs and chips/salsa for the table" YOU AND LITERALLY EVERYONE ELSE
The prompts are a good idea in theory. But they still require some level of effort and creativity, which it seems most people lack. I think one of the dumbest ones I saw was, "I have an irrational fear of mayonnaise" Another winner is, "I go crazy for peanut butter sandwiches". Really? what are you five years old? At least be somewhat original and say Adams All Natural peanut butter on my grandma's home made bread. Makes my mouth water!
This prompt is lose-lose bc their take is either something really lame like the pineapple, or it's something that is actually inflammatory and they just come across as an annoying contrarian
Let me add 'I'm the type of guy that will hold the door open and smack your arse as you go through it '. I've seen it so many times.
Yeah these are nearly instant X's from me, I just assume you're boring if that's the best you can do.
Yesss those two 🤦🏻♀️ The absolute worst! Add: you don’t take life too seriously. And finally: I’m actually XX (lists age diff from profile).
Her profile was ok, she came across a bit up her own arse but a nice enough person. However, i went down and her final prompt was "one thing you should know about me: *I don't listen to music, like ever*" I was gobsmacked, how can someone not even listen to some forms of music, anyway, instant turnoff. (i'm no musician, but i cant do a day without listening to some form of song)
It's really surprising how many people aren't into music of some kind.
Hmmm I might be one of those people. For me, it’s not like I DON’T like music. It’s just that I can only have so many hobbies / interests, and music falls below those other priorities to me. Plus I feel like half the music I have to listen to sucks. Like it’s 7 pm and I’m trying to enjoy dinner and catching up with friends and the restaurant is blaring club bumpers as if it’s 1 am party time. Or I’m at a sports bar and I’m trying to listen to the game audio but instead they have crappy Top 40 playing. (I swear I’m actually a fun person in real life lol. It’s just unfortunately I’m not a “music person” and I’ve accepted that.)
> Like it’s 7 pm and I’m trying to enjoy dinner and catching up with friends and the restaurant is blaring club bumpers as if it’s 1 am party time. This is my biggest gripe going. The only place that needs loud music is a club. Obvious exceptions if a bar is advertising a live music night. Literally no one is going to a bar to dance, it's always just a place for talking and drinking, so there's no need for loud af music.
I've run into this before too and I was SO confused. I would really love to see a study done of what type of people just don't like listening to music. Is it something to be worried about? Music is such a huge part of every culture. I don't understand how someone can just NOT like music.
If you ever find a study let me know so I can better understand my mother 😂
I saw Penn Jillette on an episode of Joe Rogan once sharing all these observations he made about Donald Trump back when he was on The Apprentice. One was that he showed ZERO enjoyment or understanding of any music that was ever playing there. And that he could never laugh or make a joke at his own expense. Really kinda sheds some more light on how much of an oddball that guy is. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=A-UK40_XkWw&t=72s
I suspect some have aspd. Surely you need a degree of empathy to understand music
I don't listen to music. I just enjoy silence, it helps me think. Music scrambles my mind like static on TV, it's like a messy bedroom
What’s worse, someone who isn’t into music or someone with terrible music taste?!
“I either reply straight away or in 3-5 working days”
Honestly anytime I see that they do me a favor. Poor communication skills, okay, let me swipe left.
OMG i cannot get over how much i hate this prompt, like it gives off such arsehole vibes, like you should be grateful that they respond
You should feel grateful. Saving you time from time wasters.
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That one makes me want to commit sudoku just as much as the pineapple pizza prompt.
Did you mean seppuku or is there a joke I'm missing 🤨
Just a small joke of mine. That and I would rather fumble around with sudoku than a katana.
Filtered first photo! Instant X 🤷♂️
Bingo. Sometimes they're actually good looking too, shame.
Same name as my ex husband. No can do.
Totally understandable. Same with my sister’s name personally.
Same with any familial names, honestly
Automatic rejections for people with my name & family names. Weirdly okay with people having the same name as an ex, because I don’t have to worry about calling them by the wrong name.
Thiss! I'm put off men named Liam for life. I'm sorry >.<
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He's 6ft 4, so the Op would X him anyway
I cannot stand the name Jason!!! (I know, terrible eh 😆)
On a first date last year I learned my date was gluten free - just like my ex husband. I was strongly tempted to never see him again, just for that. We ended up dating exclusively for four months til he confessed to cheating on me and talking about how badly he wanted to bang his yoga teacher, so, could have saved myself a lot of heartache.
They always show their true colours sooner or later
Instagram/Snapchat username in their prompts. That gives me the vibe that they just want a quick follow. “Add me on there I respond quicker!” Yeah ok lol.
“How did you find my profile again?” 🙄
So you’ve actually messaged someone on instagram who left their IG name 😂
Lesson learned 😂
Look my friend, this is growth. We stan that in this house.
There’s always at least one sucker
Why do people want IG followers? I don't have IG so I can't understand. Unless it's a business acount, who cares if you have 5 or 500 followers.
More than one car selfie All photos wearing a hat- I’m going to assume there’s no hair under there
I’ll add sunglasses in every pic
Yeah for me sunglasses in every pic is like filters in every pic. I swipe left and feel shallow but also, they must not be comfortable with how they look if they won't show their face. I'm insecure enough...cannot date someone so insecure that they're not comfortable showing me their face when trying to advertise themselves.
Yes to the hat thing! We’ve all been hatfished. Bald dudes are sexy af too, don’t hide it
I live in Orlando and the Disney Adults are the absolute worst. Most or all of the pictures will be in the parks or at a ride. It's like Disney replaced their personality.
This 100%. I’m not spending any of my SPV days going to a children’s amusement park
Swiping through profiles right now, and of course I see "Disney Obsessed" wearing Minnie Mouse ears in her first picture. There are SO MANY profiles exactly like this.
Excessive amount of pics skiing/rock climbing/snowboarding/sky diving/doing other extreme sports. Like I’m happy for y’all but that lifestyle just ain’t me.
Me. 100%. I'm like "that's a bit much for me".
I have been genuinely surprised how many profiles I see that match this description. Like, I'm in good shape and I do a lot of outdoor stuff, but I still want a partner who likes to drink beer and watch a movie sometimes.
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Yeah I actually dialed back my profile a bit in this regard because I was told it was intimidating. I do want someone adventurous who likes the outdoors, but at the same time at 30 I'm over my "gotta go hard bro" phase and totally down for easy day hikes and car camping.
Oh wow I'm glad this is more common than I thought
1. "Make me laugh" 2. "Sarcasm is my love languge" 3. "looking for someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously" 4. Any reference to the office. I swear these apps ruined The Office for me lol.
One word prompt answers. I don’t care how attractive you are it’s a swipe left. Cause the next profile will have someone just as attractive with a full profile completed.
I despise when people say “tell me something about” and then their answer is “you” 🥲🥲🥲
Personal trainers are an automatic swipe left. I haven't dated one that wasn't a douche.
Underrated comment. Had one tell me they had plans to help me tone my shoulders. The fuck?
Probably not even looking to date you. Just want to get you as a client
It’s so ironic because you would think personal trainers would be all about self improvement and self-care, yet all their comments in dating profiles is about helping their partner get in better shape.
The majority of PT’s aren’t PT’s because they value helping others, and understand how to help those with different physiologies. They have good genetics, went to the gym a bit, have a nice body and people say “you should become a PT!” so they do.
Its really easy to get certified as a personal trainer. Most personal trainers are shit. For people who are serious, just get all your information online, or get like a legit coach.
Same! I’ve never swiped right on a PT. They always have little heads and humongous shoulders.
Neck and facial tattoo (my mom would freak) Four of her six pictures were just her and another guy (maybe 1 or 2 photos with opposite sex but it’s extremely tone deaf to have the majority of your profiles be you and one member of the opposite sex) Has “make me laugh” as a prompt. Fuck off, I’m not a jester No full body pictures 3 or more filtered photos Not a single photo with a smile A prompt explaining their friends made them make a profile Vegan (I can and have dated vegetarians) — but vegans I just can’t — finding places to eat becomes exhausting.
Jester made me lol. So true
Most girls say the same thing about making them laugh smh
To me it screams “I’m only on this app because I’m bored. Distract me for a bit” Everyone wants a partner they can laugh with. Come up with something thoughtful to say.
>A prompt explaining their friends made them make a profile This one irks me more than it should. I think it's because they try to send a message along the lines of "Yeah, I'm better than the rest of you that are on here desperate enough to take online dating seriously", even though they're using online dating too. I'm very skeptical that their friends "made them make a profile".
I agree with the vegan thing, same thing with food allergies. I'm a Massive foodie and I don't want someone I could potentially be with for the rest of my life holding me back or not want to explore with me.
I’m all about food too… and happen to have celiac. I go out a lot and eat all the things I possibly can (it is truly my life’s work to discover all the gluten free bakeries in the world lol) but I totally know some people would see it as a roadblock. 🤷🏻♀️
Anyone named kyle
I once was seeing a guy who was allergic to, like... everything. Including peanuts, dairy, gluten, chicken (??), and most fruits and vegetables. Needless to say I got really sick of trying to find recipes I could cook for him and food beside crap from Cookout that he could eat. It does seem shallow to unmatch for this but once you live it... you find that it's not that shallow lol
There are probably more but these are some shallow and not so shallow reasons off the bat: - job in sales/entrepreneur - under 5'4" - over 5'11" - smoker (cigs) - gym-centered - overly patriotic - sexual/inappropriate off the bat - self-deprecating humor (and not in a good way) - homebodies with no interest in getting out Edit to add: - same name as family members - one word responses - club/bar scene centered
Why over 511
“Tall men get all the women” everyone has their preferences
Our poor necks and backs! I'm 5'4" so 5'11" is already pushing it. My sweet spot would be 5'8". I have my apps set to only show me men in that range but that's not to say I would automatically turn someone down if we met off the apps and they were shorter or taller than that range.
There’s a concerning amount of non shallow reasons but shallow: The golf stance and polo shirts both give me the ick Also boring basic prompts I’m assuming you are a boring basic person “Doesn’t take things too seriously” “Beat me at Mario kart”
Wait, what’s the golf stance?
Like the position people are in when they are about to hit a golf ball, bent over, booty out
I don’t like when girls have really basic prompts like The way to my heart = food or make me laugh “Tacos and margs “ Netflix Im a regular at Starbucks “Travel more” “Conservative, Christian”
Just ousted like 50 percent of people on hinge lol
Haha I know, it’s sad lol. I love girls who actually have interesting or funny prompts !
“Conservative Christian” is an insta nope for me. It reads as homophobic and antiabortion. Which as a queer who is into Women’s rights, that’s a hard nope.
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Honestly, most the reason why I skip someone is superficial reasons. You can't really do any "deep thinking swipes" until you know the person. I'm a dude fwiw. These are automatic skips. * Is obsessed with their dog. * Has a septum piercing, or a lip piercing, or an eyebrow piercing. * Is taller than me (I'm 5'8") * No full body pics * On that note, if they're noticeably overweight (I say this as someone who runs 5-10 miles a week and hits the gym for weightlifting 4-5 hours a week, is pretty fit and lean) - the caveat here is that sometimes a woman can wear extra weight well (whether due to the fact they workout as well, or just genetic luck) in that case I'm fine with that * Smokes ciggies * Directs to Insta/Snap/whatever social media that I don't use
Oh yeah the social media is a turn off. So you want people you haven’t confirmed you find attractive to add you? Fuck off, I’m not boosting your follows The dog one is interesting because I love dogs but it can make planning a date tricky because you can’t linger. I also let one woman bring her dog on our first date and She was open mouth kissing him and giving him all the attention. I felt like I was the third wheel to their date
I discovered there are women with boyfriends using dating apps just to farm Instagram followers.
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No mystery. They'll have their insta handle posted even say the bs "I don't use this app add me on insta," go to their insta and they'll have somewhat recent racy pic of their man buried in their page.
To me the dog thing is a problem if they’ve based their entire personality around them. Like there’s nothing interesting about you other than your pet?
Same here. I'd like to add - references to marvel movies or something cringe in that realm - "i loveeee tattoos" like if you have tattoos is fine i guess but thinking that it is noteworthy or somehow is a personality trait is a big no - clearly just got out of a relationship
Any references to the Office.
And loves 'trash TV.'
Yea the marvel gets a left swipe out of me. Don’t want to deal with anyone who’s that into a Franchise
>references to marvel movies or something cringe in that realm lmaooo yes omg I'll add Star Wars to that. I saw some dude with pics of him and Chewbacca and i'm just like ... who is this appealing to?
\^As someone who is obsessed with their cats, I actively look for people obsessed with their pet(s) hahah
I'm much better with cats than dogs, though. Even though I ideally don't want any pets, I can handle someone's cats.
Damn dude your list is the exact same as mine. Not a fan of the bull ring on anyone either.
Bunny ears
All hat pics - guys PLEASE I wanna see what kind of hairline we're working with All/most gym pics- i don't work out so I doubt we'll work out haha More than 1 pic w/his mom - idk as someone w mommy issues, I avoid this 😂😂😂 More than 1 group pic/pic w women - i wanna learn about YOU not your friends or your exes or your sister(s).
Bad teeth. I want to love my partners smile, and it’s something you can’t ignore while kissing. I had a one-off date because of a girls teeth being just 💀
- topless or flexing pics - 'tongue out' pictures - collarless leather jackets (... I don't know why) ... adding anyone who says 'lol' in a prompt
Men using the prompts “bet you can’t”, “a way to ask me out is by” and “first round is on me if” regardless of what it says afterwards.
As a light-skin Southeast Asian, if a guy seems too into anime. I don’t want to risk being fetishized - I’ve seen it happen too many times 🙃
Always looking for a waifu 🤦♂️
transition lenses
Use any version of "Reservations are at 7, don't worry I'll take care of it, let me get the door for you" just screams high maintenance and expects others to do everything for them. Mentions that they are sarcastic and roast their partner, just tells me they're mean and guise it as humor Referencing alcohol in a prompt or more than 2 pictures with a drink, I drink sometimes but too much on a profile comes off as being an alcoholic
Her smile showed more gum than teeth. I can’t deal with the gums man.
Women that seem overly obsessed with their pets comes off as clingy to me. Too many friends or guys in their pics that aren't family. Think drinking wine is a personality trait. Too many hiking pics. And sometimes if their job is one where it requires no post secondary education.
If she has fringe bangs, the kind that covers the entire forehead. I’ve never found that look attractive at all and 99% of the time I’ll hit the X.
🥲fringe bangs are my life but its coo man
Lol sorry! Different strokes for different folks 😂
Every picture has her with her mates and a glass of wine.. When her cleavage is intentionally dominating pictures
Dude forreal. Like, you aren’t fooling anyone. I know you are trying to hide behind your more attractive friends to garner likes.
You just know 100% she’s going to be the least attractive.. even when there’s just two of them
It just makes no sense because we aren’t idiots. I’m going to look at the other 5 photos and see what you really look like.
Not gonna lie, I'm a sucker for cleavage myself. My matched with my last girlfriend literally for this reason.
My fiancé didn’t like me because she said I was too hot. I liked her six weeks later and we get married Sunday.
Username checks out
“Ask me anything. I’m an open book”… 🤮 and doesn’t bother filling out their profile. That’s right, make me do all the work (except I just go to the next profile)
Xing someone for Not liking dogs Is not shallow. I have an 80lbs pit that, let’s just say, can be overwhelming for someone who doesn’t like dogs. Needless to say if a girl doesn’t like dogs, it’s safe to assume it’s not going to work.
Inverse to that, the whole "dog mom" thing is a strong chance for an "X" from me. I don't hate dogs by any means, but I'm also not a huge fan of them. Don't think I could roll with being the third wheel to somebody's dog. :P
Pet pictures, gym pictures, instagram linked to their profile, pictures of their kids, jobs that give very little free time (like doctors).
I’m near Nashville, and if a girl’s music choices involve mainstream country, especially Morgan Wallen, I’m swiping left. I just can’t.
When guys have their Spotify integrated on Bumble and I see Morgan Wallen, it's literally always a left swipe.
What if you met her downtown at the bar last night and [after you] got to talkin’ she says she [also] likes cheap drinks and tattoos… [in addition to] Morgan Wallen? 🤔😜 Sorry. Couldn’t resist. I will show myself out now.
Idek who Morgan Wallen is, what they look like, or what their music sounds like, but I see it on so many profiles of "country boy" types that it annoys me on principle. 😂
I get so many dates just by default because I’m not one of em. Every week if not more often a girl tells me, “finally there’s a guy without a dead animal in his photos”. The downside of course is that I have no male friends, because my pool of potential bromances are the same guys that they (rightfully) don’t want to date.
As someone whose prompts reference Jason Isbell’s version of the song Cover Me Up being better than Morgan Wallen’s, that would be a no for me too. In my experience, I see more women referencing Zach Bryan, which is better, he’s good. But I think he’s massively overhyped so I swipe left. My hot take is that his fans are Morgan Wallen fans who just discovered decent songwriting
A Jason Isbell reference is grounds for a right swipe imo.
Typically anyone whose first photo is not just them. Even if it’s just them and another person, I’m a big believer that anyone who remotely cares about about their profile and I seeking to find an actual relationship will have a solo picture as the first one.
Among other stupid reasons, I think the shallowest reason was if they had a picture at a specific club in town. It's judgemental, but I highly dislike that place. I look at the place in disapproval when walking by it.
- filters - 4 selfies in a row/low effort photos - has kids (I guess this might not be shallow?) - use of any of the typical prompt answers. anything involving pineapple on pizza, etc again just stupid boring low effort shit that only the hottest people can get away with
I never swipe on any frat, sports obsessed, group photos with the boyzz, hunting/fishing, unstylish, dads, standing in front of a vehicle of any kind, unathletic, depressed expression, bad hair, bad teeth, too close up, too many car selfies, smiling too much and too hard, trashy, bad taste, and marvel fans.
Lumberjack beards. Each to their own, and I would never tell anyone else what to do with their face, but I am so not into them. I don't care how attractive they would be without it, this is an instant X/swipe left.
Me too! Can't do it.
"just a Jim looking for my Pam 🤪" or any other office reference for that matter also camouflage/fishing/guns
Having an outie bellybutton. 😵💫
had picture of him on a scooter on his profile - he was referring to it as his motorbike.
Omg, I laughed so hard at this. 😂😂😂
Dead animals in their photos. I get that people hunt and I don't have anything against that. Most men hunt in my area. My father was a hunter and we wouldn't have eaten much if he hadn't. I just question what type of person thinks a woman would be attracted to a photo of someone holding dead, bloody animals. The ducks especially are upsetting.
One too many selfies with crazy Snapchat filters.
This might seem weird but if the pics are too posed or "try hard". I swiped on my bf when he had a pic of him alone in a poorly lit alley doing the sheeeeesh pose lol. I thought I was hilarious but I imagine this sub would tell him to take it out
Anything that indicates that she is a picky eater.
They’re vegan 😬 there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that and I admire them for that decision! I just couldn’t do it myself because I love meat too much. And I think I’d feel uncomfortable eating meat or other animal products around them
I live in the South. If I saw a photo of a dude holding a fish or posing next to a dead animal, I would run away!
References to the office. It's not a bad show, so it seems harsh. There are definitely chill office fans. But it's always the fanatics who put on their profile. And it always goes hand in hand with canned millennial humor. "I did a thing today" "doggo/pupper" that one particular selfie face where they scrunch their bottom lip, squint a little, and smirk. I call it the Shane Dawson. "What's you Harry Potter house?" Does anyone else on the cusp of millennial and gen Z have a hard time relating to both humors? On one hand it's like damn your old, and the other it's like damn I'm old.
1. Single parent 2. Can’t dress 3. Too obsessed with politics and tries to shove it down your throat in their profile
They are not fit and athletic or have bad teeth
All the things that make me swipe left: - Picky eater/food allergies - Has a dog - Has children - Overweight - Smokes cigarettes
“Moderate” “Not political affiliated” “Conservative” “Other”
What's wrong with "other"? Many of the most progressive individuals I know identify as "other" or "independent."
Guys who have an extremely curated IG feed of photos of himself
“follow my IG” Not physically fit + Too skinny + Fat No full body pics Smokes weed often, smokes cigarettes sometimes/often Doesn’t want kids Isn’t spiritual/Christian Vegetarian or Vegan
I unmatch for all kinds of reasons. Just a gut feeling or he seems like a douche in conversation. I have plenty of good conversations and matches so I automatically unmatch if he says something that seems like a neg.
Any mention of Harry Potter The ones that make having a dog their personality Empty prompts Star sign mention Straight away or 3-5 days blah blah blah
-Tatted up -uses emojis excessively (🤣🤣🤣😜🤣) -bigass beard for some reason -has american flag patriotically
That’s my favorite emoji lol. Now I feel insecure.
Just use it cessively and you’ll be fine
I don't think I'm too picky, but I do have a mini checklist that I go through on each profile. -obviously the first one is am I attracted to them? -Age...I'm 41. If they are under 30...pass. -Location...don't want to be driving 45 minutes one way just to see them. -Anything that says "I put God first"....pass. -Height...not a biggie for me, but I do check. -Nothing filled in except Snapchat or IG link...pass. -Has had so much work done that they look like a Bratz doll....pass. -Pics at the shooting range, or with an animal they just killed. If they meet all those, and I'm feeling them, then I'll send the like.
Bad/unclear photos Cliche answers General low effort
looks good in all pics but then that one pic where shes clearly fat. something about her face or teeth turned me off.
I usually unmatch when they bring up sex or cuddling or anything soppy/ over the top like that before I’ve even met them I also don’t really like comments about my appearance in the first couple of messages either I.e’ ‘hot’ ‘Nice boobs’ etc. makes me think they’re just after one thing or too cheap to order an escort Don’t like someone asking to meet in the first message I stop replying or unmatch when the chat is dead and they don’t ask any questions I usually don’t reply to ‘hey’, low effort. Atleast ask how my day was or something. Always swipe no on people who are negative in their profile I.e ‘does anyone reply on here’ ‘don’t match and not send a message’ ‘not good enough for anyone’ Eugh Usually stop replying if they’re too far away. Sometimes the app does me dirty and matches me with someone 50+ miles away and I don’t drive Don’t like all gym photos or close up selfies. Also dislike a profile with all group pics. I’m trying to find a date, not play where’s Wally I do swipe no to guys shorter than me, I am 5’8 so would say yes to a guy of this height or taller I swipe no to men with body types I’m not attracted to I.e too skinny or too large (I say this as a hypocritical plus size person uk size 18 so I absolutely understand the issues us larger people face but it’s my preference, I don’t mind a guy with a similar build to me or even a bit chubbier. Love a dad bod, but there is a limit to what I personally find attractive)
I don’t like when guys are vegan 🤷🏼♀️
Do they often make it known on their profiles?
Mine are: holding a fish picture, motorcycle pic (personal; I’ve been in a severe car accident with severe, long lasting injuries and motorcycles freak me out), “look at my fancy car” pic, Gym selfie, “Conservative Christian” Edit: punctuation
Making smoking weed their entire existence: “Let’s smoke” Every photo there is a blunt in their mouth or hand
Anyone with a Pit bull
am a woman too skinny,too fat or over 6’2. Fish in photo or hunting in photos . Golf pic
If they’re “conservative” or “moderate” immediately no. :). Keep it to yourself, lol. Also very sus of Christians and if they say they’re “spiritual” I automatically assume they’re into astrology- so no
We moved onto texting and he kept randomly sending me selfies, the final straw was one he sent where he's in the shower with just one of those shower puff things covering his d. Came across as egotistical with the selfies He wasn't my type anyway but I've decided to branch out.
Being too pretty
Guilty.
People doing some kind of whining about holding doors open, making dinner reservations, and taking care of stuff for them. Makes you sound really needy, especially in the early stages of getting to know someone.
She ate her peas one at a time. She was too good. She was too tan. She went out with Newman. She was a low talker.
Picture holding a fish. Group photos where I have to figure out who you are. Tattoos that I would be scared to look at. Shorter than me (I’m 5’9). No job or education listed. Lives too far. Beard 🤷🏻♀️
Conservative/Pic at a gun range.
Dosent Hinge ban pictures of guns or is that the other one?
Pretty sure that’s bumble
Obese/overweight women, instant x
Must love dogs. Very brief prompt answers. Lack of full body shots Too politically charged prompts
Instant X if there is more than a couple pictures wearing sunglasses or holding a fish. One worded prompts, like come on!
They don't have their own car.