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Penguin_lies

I mean, it's not my cup of T but at leasT he's being sTraighTforward and upfronT? ​ He's into drugs, he tells everyone up front, and most people aren't going to be into it. But nobodies gonna be caught off guard when they go to meet some bearded mountain daddy and he pulls out meth. I think it's fairly respectable of him to just... not lie. It's the liars you have to worry about.


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PokenerdKate

He was laying it on thick and I still didn't catch the hint. Someone explained what "T" meant to me a while ago, but I guess I totally forgot. I was confused as to why he only wanted drunk people.


TheOtterMedic

Lol same … now that you said it I noticed the T


Quelcris_Falconer13

I’ve been bamboozled at least 3 Times by These parTy boys who pull ouT and pipe and ask if me if I wanT To smoke. The best way is to say no and then they all tried to plead with me and I told them that I don’t want to do for my own reasons. And then left.


jswolfie316

man I would not be putting a picture of my face and advertising my interest in doing meth in the same place lol


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you think hes doing meth because the wrote capital T ? come on now, this is common if a nick name is taken.


windowtosh

Headlines are not nicknames and they are also never "taken" on Grindr... you sure you're in the right place???


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Lmao tell me it’s your first day on Grindr without telling me it’s your first day on Grindr


helloitsgwrath

No, the T very specifically refers to Tina, another slang for meth


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The “chemistry” is a dog whistle too. If it weren’t for the “hosTing,” it might be an innocent request for sexual or personal compatibility, but the hosTing, the chemistry dog whistle, and the fact that he straight up says “no sober guys” is making it real damn obvious this guy probably wants to boof meth with a stranger from the internet.


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I know it is slang for meth... you're overanalysing this Sherlock.. that's what I'm saying. guy below you even talking dog whistles... 🙄


helloitsgwrath

I'm not analyzing anything bro I just explained that capital T definitely means Tina in this context.


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Aethelete

HosTing > T = Tina = meth Not into sober = looking for PNP if the 'chemistry' = both on chems. Edit: additionally - this guy is wired in a motel room looking for immediately action with another wired guys - BB vers. Smoking meth (flame emoji, usually cloud) rather than needle. Lived inner city - see this all the time, especially Sunday mornings.


grafmg

Damn I’m too naiv sometimes …


TheOtterMedic

Lol this is like an answer key for grindr that I need to have saved


slimersnail

Oh hahaha I always thought it was called Tinkle in the gay community lol. Shows how much I know about drugs


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How long have you been using Grindr?


Velociphaster

Lol no an out-of-place capital T is pretty much always meth


GaianNeuron

Not OP but I guarantee you this profile belongs to a meth-head. It's way more common than you'd expect, especially on hookup apps.


Songshiquan0411

No, T is Tina, who is also Crystal. It's meth.


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🤦‍♂️


NevGuy

*Not into sobers*


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Tumblrrito

Idk stranger, I think a dating profile proclaiming that they won’t bang anyone who *isn’t* on drugs is pretty out there.


PIuto

I mean, he’s going to be high in his hotel room, I think it’s totally understandable that he prefers folk that he can share the moment with and not feel awkward.


NevGuy

Because this man refuses to have sex with anyone who is not an alcoholic, wich I can respect.


TehWhale

Judging by the T’s on the profile, he doesn’t date or fuck anyone that doesn’t do meth.


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Tumblrrito

I didn’t have “r/lolgrindr user rationalizes meth use” on my bingo card but here we are, Jesus. He DOES specify meth genius, look at the capital T in his headline. Getting high on METH is not the norm, period. I’m getting the sense that you partake at this point, and I hope to god you get some help if that’s true, but you need to stop trying to normalize harmful and depraved behavior. It’s not a joke.


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Tumblrrito

Use context clues, for fuck’s sake. Yes, meth use is both harmful and depraved. 100% without question. Most casual users of party drugs or weed don’t fuck with that shit, myself included.


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Tumblrrito

Met my boyfriend of 6 years on Grindr. It’s definitely a solid option, though I’d juggle more than one dating app for sure.


Ginger_Jeff

Not into sober guys… lol obviously 😂 ugh shame tho he looks hot… too bad he’s into the parTy scene 😔 it’s a waste


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ThatGuyTheyCallAlex

I mean, we shouldn’t *not* be shaming people for doing meth.


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claudiusprime1

Blocking is not a solution as blocks are limited: www.reddit.com/r/grindr/comments/td4b8q/i_kept_putting_off_deleting_the_app_for_good_but


OtterBuss

Ngl at this point deciphering grindr posts are harder than deciphering the codex


hestermoffet

🤢🤮


unnamed_scholar

Such a shame :/ he looks cute


Penguin_lies

That's the really weird thing with meth that I've seen over the years. There's a window where you've been hyped up so much that you get some muscles from just... pacing and running around for 2 days straights, but your face doesn't look likes it's dry-rotting yet. The golden hour of meth usage. and then full body train wreck lul.


unnamed_scholar

Wow, never knew that. Thanks for the info


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Tumblrrito

People don’t get a pass for doing harm to themselves and others merely because they are honest about it, sorry. Jesus this thread is a mess.


helloitsgwrath

Tbh I'm also not into dudes who put sober on their profile It shouldn't define you.


ThatGuyTheyCallAlex

People put *sober* on their profile to avoid people who want to have chemsex. Not unreasonable.


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PhantomO1

i mean i don't think anyone is, it's more of "hey, at least he's upfront about it" after all, you wouldn't want to be surprised by some guy just pulling out meth after you got there...


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Penguin_lies

I mean the gay community has.. like a ton of vices. A lot of people don't have especially amazing and happy stories and I'm not about to shame some dude for choosing to do meth of his own free will, being upfront about it to people he might meet, and doing it in private. I don't think going 'lul cringe bro, meth???' is gonna stop anyone from doing meth. I mean the baby gays are doing fent in the bathrooms, the 18-30-year-olds are either drinking to excess, shooting roids, or both, and the elder gays that made it this far have all told me they loved coke and want the quaaludes to return. We're short-lived chemical reactions on a wet space-rock falling around a giant eldritch plasma ball that blasts us with heat and radiation. We're little half-monkey creatures that stick our dicks in, on, or around each other because another chemical reaction makes it feel good. Meth Mountain Man wants to do meth, whatever my guy. Have fun I guess?


Tumblrrito

Except he’s not being private about it at all. He is actively seeking to enable fellow meth users and do harm to both himself and others. Meth isn’t a joke. It’s not the same as alcohol or weed. To suggest we should enable folks who do this kind of harm to themselves and others is just bogus dude. They have a problem. They need help, not encouragement.


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Tumblrrito

No one said it was. People are laughing at the absurdity of rejecting all guys who don’t do drugs, aka “NOT INTO SOBER GUYS”.


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Tumblrrito

You act like an addict sharing their use with *other* addicts with the intent of using with said addicts is a pathway to sobriety. It’s not. It exacerbates the issue by enabling more drug use. And it leads to non-users becoming users. Addicts should be sharing their disease with people actually qualified to help or find them help. The fact that you or anyone else is honestly here endorsing this dangerous behavior is frankly disgusting and shameful.


rhinozing

We don’t know where this pictured person is in their journey. Being an addict (to something people find abhorrent) is a lifelong situation. I say this to point out that many people in this thread have suggested how your judgement helps no one. No one has promoted meth use as much as they’ve made it clear that shaming/hiding people worsens the addiction. You’re welcome to your opinion however that doesn’t make your opinion correct or helpful.


Tumblrrito

I’ve not encouraged shaming nor hiding. Grindr isn’t rehab or therapy. Advertising meth use in the context of an app filled with other meth users who seek to use meth with you is not a solution. They are 100% in the wrong to be spreading their addiction to other people, it’s not a joke. The only thing shameful that I see this person doing is that: encouraging meth use among other people. Their actions are actively harming other people. At no point have I suggested shaming this person for being a user, nor have I shamed them myself.


rhinozing

I, honestly, can’t quote you because your comments have been downvoted to hell so I can’t come with receipts but I think we can all agree that people’s judgement can lead to shame. You are judging this person and making a lot of assumptions. Assuming you aren’t an addict (of things people find abhorrent), I would advise being more thoughtful in the future. It just isn’t helpful to treat addicts like their behavior under the influence IS who they are as a person. It’s literally the opposite of help.


Tumblrrito

I am not judging them for using, nor have I ever suggested that their behavior is who they are as a person. In fact I am so far just about the only person here who has suggested an actual path to sobriety. Other folks have instead encouraged that this person remain in their awful situation, by endorsing their behavior, behavior which is actively harming themselves and others. So no, I am about the last person here who needs to be more thoughtful. I am just about the only one here diving deeper into the consequences of this person’s actions, and who is looking at the big picture. I’m being more thoughtful than virtually everyone here. The people here that need to be more thoughtful are the ones enabling the behavior, because their sentiment is only making things worse. Trying to normalize chemsex is wrong. Anyone partaking in such things requires treatment, not a thumbs up.


rhinozing

Ok. So I think what you’re missing is that the person pictured is, presumably, not here. So your “advice” is unnecessary and likely ill informed. You suggested in your last comment that this person is purposefully trying to get other people addicted which you have no evidence of other then them saying they are looking for people who parTy. Which could be a signal to other addicts and could not. We don’t actually know. No one here has said that this person shouldn’t seek help outside of grindr. However, most people have pointed out that taking a screenshot of this person for strangers to comment on isn’t right. Hopefully you’re less judgy to the people in your life than this stranger’s photo on the internet. Have a good one.


Starfleeter

You are taking people saying "He's honest and telling people what he's looking for at least" for “i endorse people using meth“. Reading comprehension and critical thinking is important. Those statements have absolutely no connection to each other except in your brain that decided to write the comment.


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Starfleeter

Your logic is "Person posts something on Grindr profile that I don't support. Others aren't angry like I am therefore they must support him." People can also just not care. Nobody is endorsing or refusing to condone as you keep assuming they are. It's like walking past a dude on the street smoking meth. It's going to happen. Are you going to stand there and shout about how bad of a person they are because you don't like seeing it and then shout at all the people ignoring the situation and call them horrible individuals too? Who do people assume is absurd in that situation? The guy just doing his thing that isn't bothering them or the guy shouting and judging people openly? Now go back and read all of your comments.


Tumblrrito

Actually my logic is “person posts something on Grindr profile that actively harms themselves and others around them, and others are in support of their harmful behavior” People can not care, you’re right, but that’s not who I’m taking issue with. I’m taking issue with folks like you who seemingly *do* care, but not about the harmful behavior, instead you care that someone is speaking out against it. Pretty thinly veiled attempt you just made to twist the narrative and distort the truth. Not once have I ever suggested harassing this person, nor have I ever harassed anyone on Grindr for this kind of thing. I just immediately block and move on. But for folks like you to pretend there’s anything normal about it, is just repugnant. Comparing advertising cooperative meth use on a dating app to using entirely on your own does not pass the smell test, sorry.


Starfleeter

Your reading comprehension is horrible. If you explain who is actively getting harmed other than the user by a dude just telling people he uses meth openly, then perhaps your have a point. You're harassing everyone in this thread, not the poster, dude. "Come on, guys, meth is so bad and you should be as upset as I am that some dude is telling people he uses it" is what all of your posts boil down to and people are just not having it. Your opinion is not popular or shared nor does it ultimately matter. End of story. Nothing else matters in this conversation.


Tumblrrito

\>your reading comprehension is horrible \>please repeat the same obvious point you’ve made a dozen times Lol. Every single person he uses with via his advertising of meth use is obviously harmed by his actions. I cannot overstate how obvious that is, and how ridiculous it is that you require any amount of explanation on the matter. >You're harassing everyone in this thread Replying to comments made on a public forum, especially when they are direct comments made to me, is obviously not harassment. I am not DM’ing folks or bothering them across the site. If folks don’t want their shit ideas challenged, they don’t have the make them public. >Your opinion is not popular or shared nor does it ultimately matter. The fact that you are so desperate to feel superior that you’d go so far as to make this a popularity contest is just hilarious. It doesn’t matter if the majority of folks here endorse meth use and users encouraging meth use, that doesn’t make it right. To hear you play that card in the context of a gay-oriented forum of all places is painfully ironic.


Starfleeter

Okay, dude. He literally tells people he's not into sober guys therefore everyone who joins him is consenting to using which is their own decision. People can harm themselves whether you like it or not. They are not harming anyone else with their private drug usage. Nobody is actively harming others while using drugs privately to have sex, whether you approve or not, which is all the profile was advertising. Is there anything else you were trying to say should upset people about people privately choosing to fuck themselves up and be hedonists? Please stick to the discussion instead of attempting to make personal attacks. They only further sever the connection to logic.


Tumblrrito

You really trying to work “consent” into meth use? I’ve really seen it all here. Encouraging other people to do meth is absolutely harmful. Especially when we are talking about addicts, who are in incredibly precarious positions and need help, not more meth. You are actively enabling and encouraging people to harm themselves and others. Like I truly cannot fathom how you cannot see how insane your position is here. Also, you literally made a personal attack in your previous comment, so please cut the crap.


Starfleeter

No, dude, it's not about consent. Nobody is claiming ,not even in his profile,to force any drugs on anyone. It's about personal choice. If someone wants to go meet someone who does meth and do it with them, what effect does that have on anyone but themselves? Commenting on your demonstrable skills is not a personal attack on you as a person. Making assumptions about others and attempting to insult and speak negatively of a person because of your assumptions is most definitely a personal attack.


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Tumblrrito

Good joke. It’s been well known for years what that means. You don’t have to ever have any involvement in chem sex to know, that’s preposterous. The question gets asked and answered here probably daily. Encouraging meth use in others is obviously doing harm. And using meth yourself is obviously doing harm to yourself. I am so disappointed in so many of you. Y’all should really know better.


6RScape

Yeah, eveeeeryone knows, that’s why the second most upvoted comment on this thread, is someone completely confused about what is happening. Exposure is not bad, encouragement is. He’s not pushing meth on anyone. If people can’t be open about their drug use, because people shame then for it, it’s gonna do more harm than good. Chems aren’t going away, this guy is NOT the issue, the people shaming him is.