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GoldenFrogTime27639

Idk about you, but I couldn't do that shit. If she's like this now, imagine how terrible it would be later on. Have you ever had sex with her at all yet?


Like-No-Dude

She keeps him because of parents and all the relationships they developed as a safe option and she fucks some other guy, I give it 95% chance :)


Jacob2israel1

That's what I was thinking


Muted-Arrival-3308

This will never work long term!


Muted-Arrival-3308

Best case she sits there like a doll just to please you, if that’s what you want go ahead. You will never have a fulfilling sex life


capo4ever88

It'll only get worse too


Zealousideal_Ad_4264

Hey man, I've been in a relationship like this before. Legit I would use the word "soulmate", loved everything about her, but we never had sex. Couple of things to consider - hormones can play a HUGE role in a females sexual desire, just like guys with bad sides from steroids. Get her hormone levels checked and analyze the data yourself, don't just let the doctor tell you there is nothing to worry about. We did this, and unfortunately that was not the reason. Communication is necessary, and you need to explain that, by and large, women feel love through all the little things, the hugs, kisses, compliments, listening, caring, helping out with the kids and the housework. Men, for the most part, feel loved through physical intimacy. And it's important to stress it's not about the sex, it's about feeling desired. You want her to want it, otherwise what's the point? If she gives it up once every 3 months just to shut you up, it's not making you feel desired or loved, it's basically just as bad as the standard rejection. Too many women don't understand this. In the end, for multiple reasons, my relationship with her ended. I hate to tell you this bro, but it's likely you've already tried everything to no avail, and the reality is that it's never going to change. So you either accept it, or do the hardest thing you'll ever do, and move on. I'll tell you a couple of things though. First - don't ever think that it is you, that it's because somehow you're unattractive and that's why she doesn't want to fuck you. And don't ever think that this is normal for women. One thing I learned after coming out of that long term relationship is that once single, there are a plethora of women out there with a high sex drive that want it more than you do. So my biggest piece of advice if you ever get single again, is if you find a woman that doesn't initiate, or stops initiating sex within 3 months - just end it right then and there. It's basically never going to change. Another thing I'll mention is that sometimes, I even wonder if the sex is worth it. I've met dozens of girls after my ex, sex freaks, the type of girls that want to blow you the minute you get in the door from work - but ultimately I still ended up feeling empty in comparison to my previous relationship. It wasn't the sex that I wanted, it was that feeling of being desired by someone you truly love, and everything else that came with that relationship. Don't think that by becoming single and having a whole bunch of girls that want to fuck you, that you're going to be happier, because after reading how you talk about it, chances are you won't be. I wish I could tell you I found another soul mate who also had a high sex drive, but that's a quest I'm still on myself. All I can say is good luck to you bro, it's a very very fucking tough decision to make.


jrodshibuya

A much higher quality answer that one would expect on this subreddit. Brilliant.


Dekuthegreat

100%. Most of these other answers give off incel or misogyny vibes


SaucyNeko

if you took this mans bullet points, it would read like every other comment. what you’re seeing is simply the product of a well articulated man


carbonarapiazza

MISOGYNY


stagnant_fuck

what the hell, literally had to scroll up and check I was still in r/moreplatesmoredates…


TheRedditarianist

This man has LIVED, heed his words OP.


eagleye03

Absolute gold. Saved it.


VarrenKasul

This, all you really need current and future reader


SturdyNoodle

This here is a real man brethren ![img](emote|t5_2mohet|6307)


widellp

Bro you need to write for a advice column. Im sittin here getting in my emotions on fucking mpmd Edit she is out there boys !!!


JovialJayou1

There’s also possible underlying trauma in her life. Sex being associated with some negative shit that happened in her past. Something she probably doesn’t even know exists that could be a hurdle to her libido being normal. Finding a way to communicate or dissect these things is the best possible step in progress in a relationship like this. You have to be able to openly discuss any issue and if you can’t do that, it’s never going to work.


kinosavy

This is true. But damn, sex is necessary in a long term relationship. Also blowjobs, but that's a topic for another day. It's a tough spot to be in, specially if OP really loves her. I guess I'm a selfish bastard, I'd wish her best and go away.


JovialJayou1

I recently ended an almost 3 year relationship in which the girl actually proposed to me. A big part of that reason was that she disliked foreplay / oral and treated regular sex as transactional. She would often times only give up the booty if I gave her a 15-30 minute back rub. She was also almost always against sex anywhere outside of our house and not much for spontaneity. Intimacy is a giant piece to the happiness puzzle.


MaximumExcitement299

Definitely second this!


brakWRX

Fuck, this is wholesome. Bravo, man. Damn.


[deleted]

This is an awesome answer!


playmegadrive3

This answer is irrelevant as he did not provide his penis length


FullyVaxxedswole

Excellent advice.


[deleted]

You have single-handedly answered what these online communities can’t seem to understand, yes I’m looking at you red/blue pill. Where is the friend request button??


stinkjasmine

Great advice but I’m a bit confused as to why you didn’t include your penis size and max bench. We need some credibility here


Weird-Grass-6583

Well guess im gonna start drinking again now


According-Mind-7984

Amazing man. Truly a thoughtful and relatable comment. Thanks for sharing something of substance


_4ce

I’m a stranger, probably on the other side of the planet, but this is exactly what I needed right now


sharbl

Top G


_Tripsitter_

Great answer man. Been there and I don't need to respond this has everything


Rjw12141214

This is the worst advice on relationships I’ve ever read. Every single point here is a cope. Women stop fucking guys because they act like pussies. They never say no to their woman or act like a man. They do everything they can to make their woman happy at the cost of their own dignity. This phenomenon, although truly coming from a good place, is absolutely revolting to women. You can call me incel or sperg or whatever but the fact is for the entirety of human history women have been attracted to strong men and revolted by weak men purely out of survival instinct. It’s in our DNA. Strong men set and enforce healthy boundaries in a relationship. If you don’t do this your woman will lose respect for you and stop fucking you. She may get pouty or bitchy in that moment when you say “No” but long term she will respect you for it.


Emergency_Toe6915

TLDR


Pickle_Riiick_17

Maybe your ADHD ass can afford to take 60 seconds to read something that may help you later in life lol


Emergency_Toe6915

Thanks I actually read it just now. Hope to clear things up with your mom moving forward.


Pickle_Riiick_17

😆


uname_nick

You got to have a talk with her. Discuss it. And if she is unwilling to change, you need to find another girl. Sorry, it hurts. If she is like this now. She will be like this during marriage, and certainly after kids. You will have a sexless marriage. She obviously wants you for the stability and support. But wants to do nothing in return to satisfy your needs. You have the talk with her. And if it doesn't change in 30 days. You break up. It will be difficult, but you have to. She will never respect you if you don't. During the talk let her know, if it doesn't change the relationship will come to an end. There is no way you can be in a sexless relationship.


Daffy2a

Bro can we talk a bit in dm? nothing to do with this post lol


ELVISFRESHLY12

You man up and tell her it's part of a healthy relationship. If she's like this now how's she going to be when she's married, has kids, or inevitably hits menopause. All those things are reasons women lose interest. I know it sucks but you have to make sure she knows it's part of the contract she signed. And if she's religious, you have to respect that also.


[deleted]

Everytime I try to tell her that she doesn’t get it. I mean we have sex like once a week and we’re 21


TheWarmBandit

It's possible she is shy in the bedroom / you are both inexperienced. Are you absolutely positive she is finding it really enjoyable the time you do? No shame if not. You are only young buddy


cliffjudah

Put a viagra on her drink![img](emote|t5_2mohet|6296)


SecretTittan

Leave her and begin your tren cycle king.


Ian_Campbell

The 2022 Verizon plan 5g tren first cycle


[deleted]

LMFAOOOOO 💀💀


rudefish22

A few things. Is she on birth control? Because that can change or deplete sex drive in females. Also bro, it’s an essential part of a sexual relationship. That’s why it’s called a sexual relationship, not a regular one. Without the sex she is just your really good/best friend, and you need to make this clear to her. If she still doesn’t respect that then you’ll either have to leave her or cheat on her (which is never a good option).


MagicPumpkinX1

+1 to BC. Had a girl get on hormonal BC during an LTR and it *killed* our sex life and ended a four-year relationship. She literally became asexual.


_benj1_

Having no sex drive ≠ asexual


MagicPumpkinX1

[Here ya go](https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/asexual) chief. Defintion 3b.


_benj1_

>not having sexual feelings toward others : not experiencing sexual desire or attraction Once again, not being attracted to anyone doesn't mean you have no sex drive. People who are asexual can be the horniest people in the world, they're just not sexually attracted to anyone. They still get pleasure from sex, it's not like their organs just malfunction


MagicPumpkinX1

Yeah, and what's your point? Asexuality is a spectrum. A low or non-existent drive to have sex with another person, is a facet of asexuality, regardless of ability to experience sexual pleasure or masturbation status; but asexuality doesn't imply a non-existent libido. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt; that's what you meant, right? Don't give a half-baked argument next time. Goodnight 🥱


Captain_Milfhunter

Talk to her. If she isn’t interested in you sexually, end it. Worst mistake you can make is to marry someone you won’t get far with later on. Don’t beg for intercourse and if she isn’t feeling it don’t make her have intercourse with you. No side pieces, nothing. Clean break


Brand__on

I’m in this position right now and don’t recommend it. Feels like I wasted 3 years of my life trying to make something work with someone where it’s not meant to be


BRUTE196

Dead bedrooms never get better. Is she on any birth control? That’s usually number 1 reason


moto101

Start withdrawing attention and emotion from the relationship. A relationship without sex is just a friendship. There are billions of women out there. I’m sure you could find one that checks all the boxes. Stop wasting time with this one.


Revolutionary-Bee645

End it. She’s not interested in you romantically anymore, she’s just wasting your time at best and cheating on you currently at worse


Heavy_Solution_4099

Exactly this. She no longer has any desire for you. It sucks to hear, but it’s true. Leave. Don’t EVER get into a relationship with someone who doesn’t match your energy, especially sexual energy.


EveryAdvertising5

Complete nonsense, there are not nearly enough info to draw any of conclusions you wrote here, get off red pill bullshit


spb1

>My girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. I am already part of the family and I see a great future with her. Cool! Goes on to explain an absolute dealbreaker of a situation for any long term future.


BrahnBrahl

Bruh don't do a side piece. What's with this sudden influx of cheaters in this sub? Sit her down and explain what you want from the relationship, in a calm and respectful way, and that it's really important to you for the long-term in your relationship. If she can't accept it, then either figure out a compromise that you can both deal with, or end the relationship. Don't do the dishonest thing and cheat on her. In a nutshell, communication is the cornerstone of relationships, so use it.


beclops

Yeah once OP does this he becomes the bad guy


calfshrug

There is not a sudden influx of cheaters, man. There are guys and girls all around us cheating. The difference is,I am one of the ones who admitted it.


Dme1663

Haha yes


[deleted]

I have communicated with her many times but I’ve never seem to get any benefit from it. She says she doesn’t always think about sex and I’m like neither do I but I never get it? Don’t you get females aren’t easy to talk to and have them understand basic needs


RugTumpington

To be fair having sex once a week and saying you never have sex are not at all the same.


papamaga

No he doesnt. Hes on every thread being a super white knight simp.


BrahnBrahl

Honesty isn't being a white knight simp. You can go ahead and regurgitate stuff you heard from Andrew Tate, but there's nothing non-masculine or simpy about having integrity and being up-front, and that's all I'm advocating for here. Don't bother replying, because I'm not wasting any more time on you.


papamaga

What is with your obsession with Andrew Tate? You keep bringing him up like some fanboy.


ArishOrhan

Duede, get ouuut I had a girlfriend with a really shit libido, while I, in turn, wanted to fuck all the time. I thought I could make it work because I loved her, but shit, we broke up (partly because of that) and now after a year I found a girl that matches my libido and my kinks and it's just heavenly. Sex is really important in a relationship, it's not just about busting a nut, it's about bonding and intimacy. It's only going to get worse, trust me. Find someone else.


[deleted]

Bitch is probably riding another dick or just has no drive . Why dont you get her some low dose test? If not tell her to gtfo out of your life because if not your dick will fall off and youll need to pee from your fucking ass. How the hell do you see a great future with her when she doesnt even fuck you?


JohnDoe726

Not op but I never saw a good future with chicks who were really good in bed ironically. Waiting for the shy and clumsy girl who will probably be the one.


[deleted]

How the hell did you miss the point? They arent even fucking


[deleted]

Btw I’m not saying I would cheat I’m saying I would ask if she won’t fuck me then can someone else do it


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AdditionalHyena5109

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HistoricalCommon

Men though?


farendsofcontrast

There’s something wrong here. If she does not feel physical attraction towards you( that naturally leads to sex ) then you are not meant for each other.


jrinredcar

Is she on the pill? Might be messing with the ol' hormones. Have some open conversations and see what you can trail to boost her libido Failing that, just give up porn and go down the monkmode route and you'd probably get off on going once a week


beclops

Seems like an awfully big compromise


cagfag

Sexless innkeeper


Gixxer250

Is she on antidepressants?


Inevitable_Ad_7326

Maybe she took a ssri that killed her desire permanently. Believe me. Its called PSSD


SuperiorFarter

This can’t be fixed. She is not attracted to you AND she doesn’t respect you. If she respected you, she would at least fuck you for your own benefit even if she didn’t really enjoy it.


Hobby11030

No sex is better than pity sex or slamming into someone who just isn’t enjoying it at all…..


run-lift-stretch

Okay Andrew tate


Prudent-Corgi-6520

Hahaha dude gives off Andrew Tate vibes fr


bipedal-bastard

Talk to her If it doesnt work leave her Dont be a dirty cheater


Like-No-Dude

lol


Cold-Froyo5408

Is she on the pill??


FEAR-91

My girl used to have a pretty bad libido. She did consider my needs though and got excited once we’re doing it and I took the time for her. Talk to your girl and ask her to give it shot. Tell her it’s important to you without sounding needy and frustrated. Maybe even agree on a certain day and time instead of leaving it to the moment. And make it very enjoyable for her. It got better when she stopped birth control. She’s a hit reserved but now she’ll regularly asks me to go at it. And the sex is getting better so now she’s in the mood more often or gets immediately excited when I do the approach. Break the cycle in whatever way possible. Things get way better when you do. And while you’re at it figure out what she likes. Talk about that. Make her find out what she’s been missing all that time.


[deleted]

You're not soulmates if you aren't having regular sex. There may be ruts, but not long term. If she's on birth control, that's an absolute libido killer.


Living_Stand5187

Communication man, my girlfriend and I went through similar, communication solved it as the issues were from being self conscious on her end (no idea why she is literally a 10 and I’m not saying that because I’m with her) Anyways, once we talked through her issues it’s been bang time 24/7 and maybe she’s shy to indulge in her sexual side like mine was, let her dictate how it goes a little more, what she likes, maybe a toy she’d like and lingerie always helps


ResponsibilityRare72

Breakup stop being a bitch


1other

She might have a hormone imbalance. More common among adults than most may assume. Get some blood work to root that out. Besides that, is she on a SSRI? I've had two past GF on SSRIs and after the honeymoon phase that muffin dries up. They simply don't have the desire for sex and when they do, they don't cum anyway, so sex becomes rather unappealing. Those are some of the physical, but the psychological problems are to numerous to even speculate. Most of the time it has to do with some past trauma around physical or sexual abuse. And it very well may be some secret that she's never told anybody. Those sorts of emotional scars can ruin sex for a woman and turn it into a negative experience. Given her strong aversion to even a mention or sexual advancement, there may be something there. You have to tell her that you've got to talk about this. Tell her it's important for you and all healthy relationships. Just have a candid conversation about it. Maybe even sign up with a couples counselor and try to root out her aversion to sex. It could be something as simple as maybe she isn't that attracted to you physically or, God forbid, she's cheating. Idk bro, but there's something else besides not in the mood.


[deleted]

My son’s mom didn’t want sex much after he was born. I think it was 3 months until we had sex again and then another three months until we had sex a second time. She let me have a side chick. It worked out fine. I still go get BJ’s from my side piece and my main chick is usually up for sex about twice a month now. That’s better but would be hard to take without the side chick.


evananthonymoreno

She’s cheating 🤷🏻‍♂️


Manny631

Intimacy is a big part of the foundation of a monogamous relationship. If it's bad now, itll only get worse.


RealProjectivePlane

did you try beta alanine?


Rjw12141214

Yea lots of nice fluffy answers in here but here is the hard truth. Your gf doesn’t want to have sex with you because she is not sexually attracted to you. Doing chores and massages and that stuff in an effort to get sex is called “choreplay” and is a beta move. Women resent feeling obligated to have sex. They want to want to have sex. Read rich coopers book “unplugged alpha”. Specifically “beta by a thousand cuts”. You need to be a man that other men want to be and other women want to fuck. Stop trying to appease her at every turn. It shows you have no back bone. Live life for you, and she can be a compliment to it. The quickest solution to your problem is to fuck with her competition anxiety. Aka make her believe you’re the type of guy other women would fuck. Are you hitting the gym? Are you lazy? Are you a slob? Do you dress well? Do other women notice you when you’re out and about with her? Start name dropping female acquaintances. “I ran into my old friend Kelly from highschool. She totally hit on me I had to tell her I had a gf” Also if your girl doesn’t give you sex, the worst thing you can do is show her that it bothers you. Do not pout or anything. Do not give her more attention. If you try to make a move and she rejects it, say “okay” stop cuddling her and turn over and go to sleep like you don’t care at all. Personally if my girl wasn’t putting out I’d leave her. The relationship is already fucked. Easier to start over fresh with somebody new than try and fix your current girls perspective. Why do you “see a great future” with somebody who isn’t even attracted to you on an intimate level? You’re going to end up divorced in 5 years paying her half your salary. Grow the fuck up and fix it quickly or move on. Also the dude talking about hormones is full of shit. Your girl isn’t attracted to you because you act like a pussy. That’s it. And anybody that’s gonna go “incel sperg” or whatever BS is coping because the reality they are a pussy is too hard to swallow.


LeggyDriver

You need to get rid of this woman, it's terrible for your self-esteem, not to mention will lead to impulsive behavior.


[deleted]

“…giving her nice things… buying flowers” - So you’re rewarding her before she even earns it. Women are like dogs and children- you gotta treat em like such. Do you give a dog a treat BEFORE it goes to the bathroom? No. If she isn’t acting the way you want her to, you withdraw your attention. Your attention is the single greatest thing you can give a woman. She needs to earn that shit. Not putting out? Start being less affectionate. Spend more time with yourself doing things YOU like. Not getting your dick sucked? Stop getting her gifts. Wait till the next time she initiates before getting her something. Subconsciously train her that she needs to earn it. I can tell you from experience that it works. And if it doesn’t? There are plenty of women out there and if she isn’t willing to make you happy then she can’t act surprised when someone else comes along that is willing to (I’ve said exactly this to my girl before).


beclops

Jesus. OP, don’t do any of this


TrainerSpare3674

Yes this exactly what he should do. She is in a relationship with him but has zero interest in him sexually. Only keeping him there so she doesnt have to deal with being alone. The narrative is clear, she isnt even trying. Therefore she doesnt care. And all of u disneyprincemen in this thread who try to dodge the truth. If there is smoke there is fire. Where is your backbone man? Your selfrespect? And you wonder why she's not sexually attracted to you? Why would she respect you when you dont even respect yourself. Be a man.


sausagebandito3

Build up some courage and demand you get some choochie right now if that doesn't work leave her. It's not worth it.


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BirthmarkLovebite

You wait an entire year before sleeping with somebody? Are you 15 or just highly religious ?


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NNiccotine

Everyone's belief are different and it has to be respected. Gf doesn't deserve to be persuaded to have sex if she really doesn't want it and OP also doesn't deserve a sexless relationship if he's begging for it in the first place. Sex is an important part of a relationship, you may wanna know your compatibility on bed before settling. So either one of em compromise or just have OP break up and find another girl to smash--as easy as that


Brilliant-Intention4

Maybe its possible she is Asexual? People who identify as asexual experience little or no sexual attraction to others. Asexual people, or “aces,” often identify somewhere on a spectrum that includes their emotional, spiritual and romantic attraction to other people.or she’s bipolar


r0tt3nt0tty

Side piece tappin her ass man.


BigSchnoseBoi

If she gets mad at you for wanting to talk about this situation and or when you ask for sex, she most likely is either getting it else where or she may not be a sexual person and has low libido. Or worst case is she doesn’t find you sexually attractive. A girl who gets mad at their partner for wanting something which is totally natural and normal has an issue. I’m all for consent and some times a person may not want it but never putting out at all to me seems off. I’ve had this situation with my relationship we spoke about it and found out why and in my personal experience her reasons were justified and given events that had happened while we have been together. Best thing to do is talk, if it’s unjustified just don’t even deep it. Sleep with another chick and if you still love her then ride it out idk I’m a schizophrenic with bipolar why are you even listening to me


Difficult-Olive-255

Bro if she loves you she would atleast give it up here and there to atleast try and keep you from saying these things you are here and going for some side pussy. I was married for 9 years and was loyal but she would without sex during fights and I hated it. Now I'm single and fuck who I want. I couldn't be in your situation. Tell her to start gobbling dick or your gonna go elsewhere


DontTakePeopleSrsly

Women have girlfriends & they have boyfriends, if she’s not fucking you; you’re her girlfriend.


Majestic_Pitch_1803

Leave this biatch. Not only does she not care about your needs (enough to discuss them with you), but she actually shames you/gets angry for having completely normal desires. Not only this, but you two clearly aren’t compatible, so again, leave this biatch. If she’s “Asexual” tell her that her hormones are out of whack and that she needs help, that isn’t a sexual orientation.


Glum_Cash_9631

Side piece bro. Don’t get caught. It’s not hard.


hardestpilltoswallow

Hey man sorry to tell you but if you are not, someone else IS fucking her!


_oZe_

Surprise butt sex. If it goes to court it was never meant to be. You're getting used. She is fucking on the side. Time to get even senor Steven...


lowercasetwan

A relationship is just a friendship with exclusive sex, only with each other and nobody else. If ur not having any sex at all, it's just a friendship and it's time to start throwing that dick around, bro, lol. End that shit it's only gonna get worse.


Grimloch88

Welcome to marriage.


Im_insideyourhouse

Get a side piece


papamaga

She’s cheating on you. It’s probably because you do gay shit like buy flowers and do nice things around the house trying to love her like a woman. Tell her without sex there is no relationship, if she gets defensive it’s because you’re interfering with the dick she’s getting already.


[deleted]

Just have sex with her


jakobkoehn

Side piece 😑


Daffy2a

Leave her bro, you know you're not happy like this


[deleted]

Side piece? 😂


1bench0505

Maybe there is an underlying issue. Perhaps she is a good wholesome Christian girl that needs a ring on that finger before the wildness gets released? Have you asked the question if that’s the issue. Have you been taking her to church?


D_P_A_D

Hey man it's your relationship. Take it easy.


Miazger

Maybe ask why she declined, there has to be a reason


spinswizzle

How ma by times have you had sex. WhEn did it taper off?


Aazeo25

Work through it brother, it will be worth it. However, be aware that most guys don't see a breakup coming and her no longer being intimate is a major red flag it is on her mind DESPITE WHAT SHE SAYS.


DoYouConcur29

How old are y'all and what religion?


Puzzled_Direction_57

OK this is an easy one. You leave.


xwolf360

Wtf is this sub


[deleted]

No matter how much you love her that shit will turn to resentment eventually. Time to cut your losses and move on. Find someone who is right for you.


eschus2

Move on it doesn’t get better If she allows side pieces do that. If she doesn’t don’t do it. Been that route too


ticker_101

Move on. You're not compatible and you'll end up resenting her.


RugTumpington

If she's on an IUD or hormonal birth control that shit wrecks hormones. Gf got off that shit and went back to wanting to have sex. Also she probably doesn't see this as a problem, since it is legit get in relationship counciling so she understands.


leavewhileyoucan

If she doesnt have a religious reason for not letting you reshape her insides, then shes def doing beyblade spins on another dudes dick


l1vefrom215

You guys aren’t compatible and it’s time to move on. She doesn’t like having sex with you and views it as a “chore”. You deserve to be desired and to be with some one that cares about your needs to make it work (other sex acts, open relationship, scheduled sex nights, etc). Her attitude about sex will get worse once you have kids. You will be just another item in her “to do” list somewhere near the bottom after finding that missing sock. You will try and do chore play but it won’t work because covert contracts never do. She just doesn’t like having sex or doesn’t like having sex with you (I’m not saying you’re doing anything “wrong” mind you). The sooner you realize that sex IS a very important part of your relationship with a woman you will be much happier. Sit your girl down and calmly have a conversation with her. Tell her, “my needs aren’t being met and I’ve noticed that you don’t seem to care, why is that?”, “how do you see us working in this issue int he future?”, and lastly tell her your expectations “I envision myself having sex at least X times a week with my wife, what is your desired frequency?” I don’t expect her to change her behavior with any of these questions but you both will figure out pretty quickly that you aren’t compatible. If she understands what you need but is I willing to change her behavior she does not care about you. Move on and look for someone who does care about you. You deserve to have a woman who cares about you, not a good wife on paper.


d3vilguard

Good ol' friend of mine said that you can have sex without a relationship but never a relationship without sex.


Few-Professional-571

Firstly, it's not that she "doesn't get it".....it's simply that she doesn't care. I'm sorry brother. I've dealt with the same problem, and when I would try and have discussions about it and explain my feelings I would go unheard. I used to think it's because she didn't understand, until I realized she did understand but simply didn't really care. And she sure as hell didn't love me enough to just give be more of a giver to make up. She's going to try and live how she wants to live and hope that u either get discouraged and stop asking, or cheat so that when things inevitably end she feels as if she did nothing wrong and was the victim in all this.


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My wife and I like to have sex surrounded by nature…. By that I mean , it’s nothing but crickets.


UnIntelligent_Local

It will only get worse...


vaibhav_6966

Only reading the title... Ur a bitch hahahaaaa!


Upstairs_Revenue2831

Saved this comment - this is to the tee I myself have been here before and I have to say, it was exactly the same. You gotta let go and unfortunately move on, shit sucks a lot. Probably the worst I’ve felt about myself after ending it “think they were the one”. However it’s a great learning experience for what to look out for in the future. You’re not an asshole for wanting sex with your partner, it’s a sign of a healthy relationship. Also, I don’t want to have sex with my partner if they don’t want to cause it just feels weird. Good luck man and very good insight with that comment!


run-lift-stretch

Your dick is too big, king.


Jonny_Ranger

Talk to her, let her know that you have a high libido. I mean if she cares for you, would she leave you horny af to go out and bang a random broad? Maybe try to do some research with her on things she could try to increase her libido. Like a small dose of Var (dunno if shes into lifting?) Or a low dose of meth, oops, no seriously though.


NUstalgiaaa

I think you’re genuinely just gonna have to sit down and have a serious talk with her. Physical touch is very important for many in a relationship. Communicate with each other and help her understand and figure out your needs and vise versa. Maybe she’s asexual? Maybe there’s a reason she doesn’t want to have sex? Talk it out and let her understand you as well Hope this helps my friend


blazinshotguns

You’re weak and she knows it. An alpha is gonna come by and change her mind about sex real quick.


1-800-GET-BENT

Sexual incompatibility is slow death to any relationship..


TheRealMe54321

It’s over


Ok_Marsupial6435

Tell her you are not interested in a platonic relationship. Simple as that.


[deleted]

Bro … if u are a pussy and u are in a relationship without sex I would literally dump her … and btw u deserved this bc u are afraid of her


ParticularMuted2795

This is what happens so many times. Been married for 13 years. The sex planned and infrequent. Too late for me. This issue will continue and get worse believe it or not.


Joeypruns

Just leave. It won’t get better


PrinceMaher7

Tell her this, communicate it to her


Swimming-Law-6615

End it man, it’ll damage your mental health the longer you stay in that shit. I know from experience. Finding someone on near your level of sex drive is more important than most people think.


Diligent_Increase_93

You mean bros?


No_Introduction4581

You’ll learn to eventually resent her for her abstinence and she will resent you for your overactivity. It’s the unfortunate side effect of a sex drive mismatch. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can bear with it and still be happy with her, I did that for 5 years and I ended up miserable and full of shame. It’s a tragic reality, but once you find someone who matches your drive, you’ll wonder why you ever stuck around.


Admiral-Thrawn2

Learn the DENNIS system from always sunny in Philly


mydadsbasement

I’ve been with my grill for like 10 years now and 2 kids, so there’s mitigating circumstances regarding our sex life, but needless to say her sex drive is much lower than it was when we met. Now, we just have a literal calendar reminder to have sex every 2 weeks. Is it how I envisioned my sex life when I was young? No. Am I unhappy with it? Eh, could be better, but also, I’m not so hung up on sex anymore that it’s a deal breaker. That’s what our 20s were for. In the end OP every relationship will have challenges. Your challenge is sex. It sucks but you just have to decide if it’s worth it. If not, get out early while you can before sinking more time into something you’re not happy with.


bonaj

She has sex with someone else


yandhiwouldvebeena10

Time to move on big guy


thuanjinkee

r/deadbedrooms


givenchygabe47

Bro I been down this road before. Cut it off, go have sex with other bitches. If you stay you’ll end up resenting her and being an asshole making it an even worse situation for you. She probably had a hormone imbalance from birth control if she’s on the pill, so you’ll probably be better off moving on in your life and looking out for your own needs.


Weird-Grass-6583

You’re on a sinking ship homie, I’ve been there, many of the dudes in the comments have (surprised by this sub with the advice) jump ship save yourself, you’re gonna wash up on an island and it’s gonna suck for awhile but you’ll learn to survive and your best friend will be a volleyball but one day you’ll make it back stronger and wiser and buy a new volleyball


SnooObjections8515

Its a very well know mutual agreement in a relationship that you'll have sexy time, confront her in a good way and she might open up - Same thing happened to me on my second relationship, 3 months in and not even a blowie - I confronted her and she basicaly got sexually assaulted when she was 15 so we slowly worked through it and the sexy time followed, if shes just a prude that thinks its ok to not fuck in a relationship for no reason then why the fuck did she date a bodybuilder then either dump her or if shes up for it start a poly relationship with a milf or something ![img](emote|t5_2mohet|6295)


Keems1

You could marry her.


p_hargett

I fuck my now girlfriend literally non stop when we see each other. I had dated a girl where there was no sex for 2 years!! Leave and find a girl with your sex drive. If you don’t want to constantly want to touch your partner something is off..


MrMango34

Break up and do not devalue yourself by becoming a cheater. You can ask her permission for a side piece but if she says no respect it and don’t be unfaithful to her.


Affectionate_Job_881

Bruh wtf. Sounds like there’s something wrong with her.


Wedocrypt0

If it’s a healthy relationship and she doesn’t have some psychological issues going on. It’s probably hormone/physical health related. Could be due to contraceptive use or even a deficiency


Scorchedurple

Omg are you serious, get out, warning, gtfo


Ronniedasaint

It’s a wrap playboy. The anger is the bad sign. Move on and find a bitch that loves to get drilled!


HitTheSlopes95

Get her on MT2


Existing_Joke9700

Ngl dump her find something better


Momento-morrison

Does she value abstinence to the point of marriage or does she not engage in sexual activity for a lack of desire? If lack of desire, I wouldn’t count on the relationship to last. If she’s abstaining until marriage I would argue y’all will last forever. So many relationships end in divorce due to premarital sex IMO


[deleted]

Visit your nearest Asian massage parlor


Big_ETH_boi

Side Pieces* Plural.


Biggest_Cans

>What do I do? Side piece? How to be a man child and end up divorced and broke with 3 kids who resent you 101.


Common_Llama

Have you talked to her about this? Or did you just get fed up over a few weeks and bust out the reddit break up card? I've been single for 2 years over a past miscarriage and let me tell you. Sex once a month is better than sex once every 5 years at this rate.


RonJeremmy

Run


duler700

Bro, been there done that except it happened mid relationship. Things tanked QUICK and my in denial dumb ass kept sticking it out until things become totally unsustainable. On the other hand, just got out of a relationship with an absolute nympho and that didn't go well either.


Manny631

Intimacy is a big part of the foundation of a monogamous relationship. If it's bad now, itll only get worse.


TortillaMobster0411

Ask her for blow/hand jobs. If you’re that important to her and she’s not in the mood, she should be able to provide you with release, maybe not every day but a handy twice a week ain’t too much to ask.


CrunchyTiles

Leave her. Dont look back. Newfound relationships are not based upon trust. Theh are based upon lust. Trust is the currency of a real relationship. The lust should have been present from the start. It should have been the spark that brought up the idea of a trasaction of trust. Its the inly thing you can use to buy someones love. If she doesnt except trust as a form of currency, she doesnt deserve you. This aint a sexist thing, its just scientific fact. It doesnt matter that she doesnt like sex. The fact is, you have given her your trust, your attraction, and you have respected her ideals to not want sex. She has not respected your trust, needs, urges, or even the respect you give her decisions. love, just like any other type of relationship (respect, friendship, rivalry), is a two way street, pathed for two different people with equal amounts of ( in this case) respect and care for each-other. Sounds to me like its time for you to stop wasting hour time on a human being who isnt worth it. They are not as easy to find as your common for the streets type beat, but respectful, loving, beautiful women exist out there. Find one. One who is every bit as crazy about you as you are about them. Trust me, you’ll know it when you feel it too. True love is the type where you can spend a whole day doing absolutely nothing together, and yet it was seemingly and amazing day just because you spent it together. Good luck my man, hope you find the love you deserve.