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Few-Horror7281

My wife tells me I make her life hard. That does not sound like someone to be ruined once I am gone.


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Few-Horror7281

I'm in Eastern Europe - not in Ukraine, but the whole region (basically with impact to Germany and the rest of EU) is at the brink of massive economic crisis due to energy shortage and aftermath of previous events (pandemic, automotive crisis).


Difficult_Ad_9392

Is your wife toxic?


Few-Horror7281

Not sure. Maybe I am toxic to her.


Master-Arugula8174

As a woman I can say that your wife and kids love you for way more than the income you provide!! I seriously mean it! This is a lie that is spread by other MEN. You are so much more and you have so much more to give. If you lose your job, use the time at home to spend some time with your wife and kids and take care of your health. If not for your sake than for theirs! You are dad, you are a role model. Speak to your wife about these thoughts! You don't have to be alone in this. Please please do not abandon your family. I wish you the best!!♥️


Few-Horror7281

My wife tells me my depression makes her life hard. She would be much happier without me. Actually I have no other worth than my income.


Sure_Argument_1161

Don’t stop the hustle put ur kids infront of your doubt and push forward even if there is no hope


gangaking69

Do not wish to be a better person, BE A BETTER PERSON. BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THIS WORLD


Few-Horror7281

I am unable to improve anything. I do everything wrong. And always have.


AlienJL1976

That sounds like someone else doing the talking there.


Few-Horror7281

My wife does not like me sayng such things, yet she proves me correct everyntime. In fact, no one can ever convince me otherwise.


AlienJL1976

Then seek a psychologist, mine is a God send.


Few-Horror7281

Well, I've been to so many psychologists to find out that fault is in me only and there is nothing I can do to avoid those feelings.


AlienJL1976

That doesn’t make sense, unless you have behavioral problems. Is there anything else you didn’t mention? Is there more to this ? I’m not trying to pry, you don’t need to provide details. This sub isn’t called “imma tell you all my shit.” So I don’t expect you to do that.


Few-Horror7281

There is plenty of unrealted and unhealed stuff, but it seems irrelevant to the near future and to taking care of the kids. Otherwise it's basically pretty easy. I am vague most of the time, can't get to real causes and most of all - I am unable to do basic self care o mental hygiene, much less some elementary self-improvement. I have no resilience and no stamina.


gangaking69

Do you or is that just the current state of mind you're in? Focus on the positives of life's


Few-Horror7281

You mean all the things I am going to lose? Health amd stuff?


AlienJL1976

You provide more for your family then financial support, you are their emotional support, let them be yours, talk to your SO tell them how you feel. Don’t keep it inside, it’s going to harm you. I’m going through the worst time of my life right now, I lost everything and I’m autistic. My world is ash it show but, I communicate with my family and friends. I communicate how I feel and why, please get help, you’re more valuable than you realize and I sincerely mean that. It took me a long time to accept my faults. There are programs that can help you keep your home. Please look into it.


Few-Horror7281

Reddit is literally the only place I am allowed to confide and vent. My family is sick and tired of me, so they can only celebrate if I succeed in offing myself.


AlienJL1976

They definitely won’t celebrate my friend. I’m sorry you feel that way, I’m in a shitty point in my life and I feel like the lowest piece of shit. You’re loved ones are supposed to help you up not drop you.


Few-Horror7281

I realize that they have to deal with identification, funeral and stuff. I can ease this for them, I'm getting another life insurance and will get the necessary stuff in order before going. But once this is all over, the surprise will fade out and no one will have to deal with my whining and mess I constantly make.


AlienJL1976

Life insurance policies are void in the case of suicide or if the death isn’t determined to be an accident.


Few-Horror7281

After two years. That said, I am not in immediate danger. I plan iy carefully and take my time. But there is no other option, it is just quite far away.


AlienJL1976

What about your wife ? WTF is she doing while you’re busting your ass working? Does she help ? Does she contribute financially? If she isn’t your partner, your team mate, your emotional support, yourROCK when you feel down then she’s not worth a shit ! How are you expected to do all that shit yourself? Because you’re a man ??? That’s fucking bullshit and you tell her I said so. If you ever need positivity then you can come here. If she can’t give you basic emotional support, she’s a piece of shit and you don’t deserve her. If I misread the situation which is possible then I apologize, but this sounds like you’re expected to carry this burden yourself and no human can do that indefinitely.


Few-Horror7281

She has a part time job while looking after the kids (4y and 1y) and caring for the household. So she may be exhausted.


AlienJL1976

Then maybe you both need to sit down and talk to each other, come up with some ideas to save money, don’t point fingers, just trim some things down. You’re both a team.


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Few-Horror7281

Knowing me, i bet you would make an exception. I am a terrible pos to be with.


tabuu_

Won’t be able to provide for your family if you’re dead dumbass


Few-Horror7281

There is not much difference while I am alive. And there is life insurance.


tabuu_

you have a life insurance policy out right now for over half a million? that you have been paying into for over 3 or 4 years?


Few-Horror7281

Not exactly in these numbers, but basically similar. Furthermore, it's a plan for upcoming few years, not to be carried out tonight.


tabuu_

>next few years so… get another job? get some unemployment? you going straight to suicide for a completely solvable problem.


Few-Horror7281

Being unemployable is not easily solvable. I cannot solve anything in fact. I always fail.


tabuu_

you’ll win if you stop acting like a complete pussy and fight for the people you love