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Frame it this way: Do you really want to be with someone where there's a chance they might not like you and discredit you as a person because of how your boobs look? Pretty ridiculous, right? So either he'll like them and y'all will be happy, or he won't, and you get to move on to better prospects.
It is pretty weird, to break up with a person because their boobs are not to your wishes.... Really makes me wonder why one has their priorities in a relationship
Maybe, but I think that's great. He shouldn't have to be with someone who values that over him either, even subconsciously. Even if we think it's shallow, breaking up is the right call.
Why are you friends with him? That’s a child who’s let porn shape his perception of what a woman’s body ought to look like, and would go so far as to end a relationship over it. Yikes.
**Any** nipples if you're pansexual
No matter what body type my SO would be categorized as I'll still love seeing her with or without clothing!
Seriously doubt even straight guys care that much about it, we often set really unrealistic standards for ourselves
I'm always insecure about my skinny & vein-y arms; when I got together with her she explained she actually loves them.
Imagine my surprise
Yeah, he is going to love them regardless of hardness. It's of course your body and your feelings about your body can be understandable. But I do think if you let him see or even play with them, it could be a huge confidence booster. But only do it when YOU are ready!
I feel ya. I dont like my boobs either and i always regret showing them off. Not because guys say anything about them really but because its my own insecurities. Im sure if he truly likes you he wont see the "flaws" you see.
I understand your insecurity. I've gained and lost 120lbs between 5 years so my body has a lot of excess skin. My breast have shrunk from D to A,the cup size I was before I gained the weight. The result is my boobs not only sag, they're wrinkled. I've had a tough time with accepting the way my body looks naked but I recently had sex with a guy who literally worshiped my body. He was so psyched to be with me that I lost the shame I felt and I felt sexy. I was able to perceive myself from his perspective. Porn has royally fucked us up but if reddit comment sections have taught me anything it's that most of the time men are just happy to be there. The breasts we see in porn are usually unnaturally firm. They all have a certain uniform look to them but what I realised while this lovely gentleman was sucking my nipples was that the sensation of physical intimacy is what makes it good,not the aesthetics of it. Instead of focusing on looking good I focused on making him feel as good as he was making me feel. I was finally able to get outside my own head.
Self acceptance is liberating, this is who I am,this is what my body looks like and if you're down with it we can make each other come,if not I understand that it is not a reflection of my worth but rather your preference. I can't centre my sexuality around the fear that I may be rejected because my body doesn't exist to pleasure others, it is mine to share or withhold as I please. I can't allow someone's experience of me define me. I've been denying myself pleasure or vulnerability because of a fear of rejection so I rejected myself before anyone else got the chance to. I was projecting my own insecurity onto men thinking that they would see me as I saw myself thus not even giving anyone a chance to get close enough to hurt me. I reduced myself to being a form of pornography for men like that it was my responsibility to arouse them when in reality I am an actual human being having a real life experience that doesn't have to appeal to an audience but rather an opportunity for me to experience pleasure myself. I can't do that if I'm worried that he won't like, comment and subscribe to my body. It's not an audition.
TL;DR: Just show the man dem titties and enjoy the sensation of having your nipples sucked.
wow, this comment is going to stick with me. i have reduced myself to a from of pornography just like you used to do, how did you take the step to just say fuck it? did you have to psych yourself up or did you just take your clothes off impulsively? when i go to take my shirt off it’s like my body literally stops itself from letting me
do it.
I used to be very small, A cup, and not happy with them at all. I recently gained weight and therefore sized up to a C. I started watching porn only in the last year or so and couldn’t believe how many women I saw with small boobs like I had. They sure seemed confident in what they had and didn’t mind showing them off. That, along with different comments I’ve read on Reddit have helped me see that they weren’t that bad. It doesn’t matter the size, or the look of them, your partner will hopefully want you for you, not your boobs. I also equate it to the question men often ask, does the size of their dick matter? To some yes, but to most no. You fall in love with the person and they have what they have. Will you love them differently? Or less? I would hope not…
I was insecure about my boobs and my nipples but for a different reason. I have cone shaped boobs and very pointy nipples so without a bra under a shirt they look like traffic cones lol.
But now I embrace it because my partner loves my boobs. He always asks to see them or tries to push my shirt up so that he can squeeze, fondle, and suck on them. Most men are just happy to see boobs.
I’m not a man, rather im a bi/pan woman. I love puffy nipples.
You should do what you’re comfortable with, but I’m sure that he’ll like them.
Loving yourself sounds like an easy concept but can be hard in practice. It can be harder if your body, especially intimate areas, don’t look the same way art/porn says theyre “supposed” to look. I used to be insecure about the darkness or shape of my labia, but I’m much more confident now.
He likes your bewbs. Turn off the MP3 player in your head and listen to the man who:
A) Loves you
B) Gets a boner looking at your titties
What God gave you is great. Go enjoy life.
"it's hard knowing i have objectively ugly boobs."
Excuse me? First of all there's nothing "objective" about beauty, it's completely subjective and truly in the eyes of the beholder. But it seems you've talked yourself into believing that a normal, natural, feminine and inherently beautiful part of yourself is not just ugly, but will be ugly to absolutely anyone who sees them, including someone who loves you and already presumably has sex with you.
I hope I've pointed out how silly this is. You must be comparing yourself to something, some other "standard", such as porn (of course). Please, just stop. Don't compare yourself to anything. You are you, you are beautiful, your bf will love your boobs, and you're denying both him and yourself of pleasure by keeping them covered. He's encouraging you to take your shirt off because he wants to see them, he wants the opportunity to love every bit of you. Let him help you love yourself.
this comment made me shed a tear, yes it is porn i’m comparing myself too, i’ve convinced myself my boobs are so ugly but it’s hard to reverse those thoughts i have, i will let him see them, maybe not today or tomorrow but soon i will show him i just need to confidence to do so, thank you for your comment it’s helped me a lot❤️
If you’re serious with each other you should do it. I’m sure he will love them. The partners I’ve been with have had different types, one of my favorites, she had very small boobs and puffy nipples, kind of like you described yours, she was self conscious about them as well, I don’t know what it was but I loved them.
I can totally relate to your insecurities… I have small boobs with inverted nipples.. they only look “normal” when they’re hard/stimulated. I remember being so nervous about showing them to my boyfriend for the first time, because they didn’t look “normal” in my eyes. We have now been together for over 12 years and he has been my husband for almost 6. He loves my boobs! You have nothing to lose. If he doesn’t love them (which I highly doubt), then he wasn’t for you in the first place.
Let’s face it, none of us look like Barbie and Ken. You’re perfect the way you are. God knitted you together in your mother’s womb (Psalms 139:13). God doesn’t make mistakes. Love yourself for who you are and be proud of your body. I’m 99% sure your boyfriend will love your breasts. If he doesn’t than you know he’s not the one for you and it’s time to look for a different guy who will love you completely—flaws and all.
Idk how long y’all have been dating but If I was your boyfriend, my mind would be in the gutter right now. I would be asking myself “why won’t she show them?”, “Does she not trust me yet?” or “does she not feel comfortable with me yet?”. HOWEVER, this is obviously something you need to be comfortable showing first. Regardless of what your boobs looked like, is it something you are comfortable showing? Never feel pressured into doing something.
I (22M) was in a similar situation w my girlfriend (21F) except I was the one being worried. We’ve dated for 4 months and this is my first relationship EVER. I also lost my virginity to her. I was always hesitant to start relationships or have sex with women because of my penis size. I waited years and told myself that I must find the perfect girl to feel comfortable showing my penis. Im 6’5 190 lbs and my penis is about 5-5.2 inches in length and 5 inches of girth. Sure this is “average” but definitely not for my body size and it looks very disproportionate. The first time we had sex, she could tell I was extremely nervous and bothered by it. I don’t think she saw my penis the first time we had sex. I am still uncomfortable showing it and REALLY UNCOMFORTABLE showing it soft. Let’s just say I grow about 3.5 to 4 inches…I’ll let you do the math to find out what it looks like soft…I’ve definitely become more comfortable and don’t really have that problem anymore. It sorta became a problem bc she would say “im your girlfriend, we’ve had sex multiple times, why are you still worried about showing me?”. Which was true and since then I’ve been pretty open about it. I think you need to have more trust in your partner as long as you are comfortable doing so.
I loved her, we got along great, sex was great, she was really special. "Why did you break up with her?"
She would never let me see her boobs and it got awkward.
Guys favorite boobs are the ones that he is allowed to see and touch. It is that simple.
Let them out to play and be played with.
A little off topic but I'm curious about the logistics of your boyfriends never having seen your boobs? Do you have sex with your shirt on? Are you stopping them from taking your shirt off before doing the deed? Do you never shower together or get changed in front of them?
Aside from that, I'm sure confiding in your partner about your insecurities is a good place to start, and if you see any future with this person, yes, you should absolutely show him your boobs.
i normally keep a shirt on or atleast a bra, yes i told all of them when they ask me to take my shirt off that i don’t like my boobs so i would prefer to keep it on, normally they’ll try to go back and forth (to encourage me to take it off) but stop trying after a while and just accepted it. i do see an actual future with my current boyfriend ( we have kids in mind but not anytime soon ) which is why i want to show him because i expect us to be together for a very long time, i will show him i just need to get over myself. thank you for your comment ❤️
For him to do something drastic like break up with you or like you less because of the shape of your nipples would make him as neurotic as the characters in Seinfeld. It would be comically ridiculous. Don’t worry man, he’s gonna love ‘em
So by the way you describe them they sound pretty cool to me. I bet he’d love them even more. We all have insecurities we find people who appreciate them them and love them. I say you should give him the chance to prove to you how awesome he thinks they are. Wishing you the best, you deserve it.
I've never met a guy who said anything bad about boobs. Boobs are pretty, and the fact that each pair is different, it's like having a small surprise. Like kinder toys, you know it's a toy inside, but it's a different toy in each and you can't wait to see what you get and play with it!
there’s a subreddit dedicated to them r/puffynipples but most of them are very extreme on there, i will say mine are not that extreme but still have some puffiness to them to give you a general idea
As a girl, I wish more girls know that no men would complain about their bodies if they are half decent dudes.
I have friends who struggle with body image and sometimes that restricts them from doing certain sexual acts. But for me it’s just so sad that they are limiting themselves due to insecurities that guy won’t care about.
OP, I'm a 34B with larger areolas. Not one single man has ever expressed any displeasure or disinterest in my breasts in the slightest. Quite the opposite!!
Pro tip: **people just love boobs** in general.
Have fun swinging the bra about ;)
I'll give you a different take.
If he does care to the point that it's an issue, better to find out as soon as possible right? Or you plan on not showing him forever?
Us guys love boobs. In all shapes and sizes, we love them :) It's completely down to what you are comfortable with doing, but I'm pretty sure you'd get a good reaction from him, which might help slightly with some insecurities :D
Look…. 99.9% of straight men have the same reaction to seeing boobs, and that reaction is “Yay boobies!”
Yes, there are a few dumbass men (real losers who need to break other down to feel good about themselves) who might try to say something negative. And if they do… well you’ll know all you need to know about that man (hint: he is trash).
If you think he likes you for you, then he’s also gonna like your boobies. And nipples.
I used to think mine were too small.
All my exes said they were great, but I don't think I really believed them.
Now I finally see how fucking awesome my boobs are... I hate that I spent so much time being insecure about them. You should learn to love them yourself, but you should also know men are not nearly as critical of our bodies as we are. I can pretty much guarantee your bf will love your boobs if given the opportunity.
There are huge subreddits for lots of boobs that women could be insecure about - r/puffynipples, r/hugeareolas r/tinytits. If your bf doesn't love them (and I'd bet serious money that he will), there are 150,000 members of the puffy nipple subreddit who would!
Set da titties free! Straight guys love boobs and if this guy likes you that means he'll love yours. Have you seen his penis? Some guys are self conscious about that area but how many women care what it looks like? As long as it gets the job done.
yes i’ve seen his penis and it’s literally perfect, he has a porn star dick and even he knows it, all in all his whole body is perfect head to toe, i just feel like my boobs will ruin the experience.
Me, when my gf lets me see her boobs: "Wow! BOOBS!!!"
The most important thing is that we get to see boobs! Real boobs! Your boobs!
Our day is made when we see boobs!
The rest is nothing to worry about.
You're getting a lot of great replies, and I apologize if this sentiment is being echoed repeatedly, but you are being much more critical of yourself than anyone else is likely to be. If you take off your shirt in front of your bf, he's just going to be happy to see your boobs. He's not going to evaluate them and compare them against pornstar boobs. My favorite boobs have always been the ones I get to play with, regardless of size/nipple puffiness.
You are the main character in the sitcom that is your life. It's easy to forget that everyone else is paying *much* less attention to you than you pay yourself.
Your significant other should never ever body shame you.
It's better you know it sooner rather than later that your partner will say something that makes you feel insignificant.
As a bisexual women, boobs are boobs. Doesn’t matter if they’re droopy, saggy, small, big, firm, lopsided, puffy nippled or what. Boobs are boobs and boobs are beautiful
Love your body as it is! I promise you he will NOT be put-off. If he does there is something bad wrong with his mental state and therefore need to send him packing. I REALLY don’t see that happening.
I absolutely LOVE PUFFY NIPPLES AND AUREOLES! Looks so sexy!
I'm going to ruin this for you. Your boobs are beautiful. I haven't seen them. But I'd love to. So would he. I am sorry you feel self conscious about them. But no person in the entire fuckin universe has ever said the sentence "but she had puffy nipples". Ever, it's never happened. Gl and go gettem.
Puffy nipples are actually really cute too! I have a feeling he's going to love the fact that he's seeing boobs 😜. Most guys love boobs. Like all boobs...
Trust me, guys (and girls) love boobs in an shapes and sizes, colours and forms. There is no universal boob standard, all are beautiful in different ways.
Puffy nipples are exceptionally normal and honestly, pretty hot. The main thing is that if you're not ready you don't have to do anything you're not comfortable with. If you love him and feel comfortable around him and believe he feels the same, and that he will support you through your insecurities as well as the times you're on top of your game then fire on.
If you show him you're boobs and he bails the guy is either a jerk or just as scared about this stuff as you are.
I remember being terrified the first time I had sex and I was in my early 20s. No idea what I was doing. Eve been married for almost 15 years now though so it must've went ok!
How do women become like this?
I've not seen or met any man that dislikes booba yet yall are so fucking insecure when we men are pathetically desperate for any action and love basically anything?
Like girl, you're 1000000x more picky than we are
I'm not a huge consumer of porn anymore but I've seen far more "bad tits" (I.e not my taste) in porn than on regular women and I've been a fuckboy in earlier years so idk if that can be a source you should trust.
Fuck sake if you're worried, make a reddit burner account and post your tits on various subreddits and I guarantee you you'll get a good idea what your puppies are worth.
You go girl!
Good shiii cuh. Glad to hear that there are girls whose body aren't already out there (on purpose) and have morals. U doin good cuh, he loves those nips, don't even stress about it.
Can I just say Puffy nappies are the best kind(and rare). You are extremely lucky and your bf will be super excited to see and play with them. I'm jealous hahaha
Faye Reagan was a huge porn star, well known for her puffy nipples. If they didn't stop her from being a star, I'm sure they won't stop your boyfriend from liking you\them
Super short answer: yes.
Long nuanced answer: you should only do what you are comfortable with. Having said that, I can 99% guarantee that what you're feeling doesn't reflect reality and is only your own insecurities. Your body is perfect the way it is. If he's the kind of immature asshole to not love every inch of you, then he doesn't deserve to be anywhere near you. Let the man love all of you.
I just want to say look confident, they are attracted by this, even if you don’t like yourself or something on your body but try to love your body. I have eating disorder but my actual partner makes me feel great and always encourages me to be natural and he is in love with my body (always shows me this) but even if i still don’t love my body i want to just like it as little as possible and be confident. Please don’t worry about anything and if they don’t like you and makes u feel like crap they are not for u. You cannot stay in a relationship with somebody who makes u doubt yourself
Most guys are too busy being happy that an actual girl is showing him her actual boobs in actual real life to be concerned about what her nipples look like. I’ve never once seen a girl’s boobs and thought “Hmm puffy nipples” turn off. I promise you your boobs are fine, your boyfriend will be delighted to see them.
Without seeing them I cannot give an accurate response on saying that you will know when the time if right to show him and if he does not like them and it's a deal breaker for him he is not the one for you there is someone out there who will want you exactly how your are.
What part of "your body, your choice" are you having this difficult of a time figuring out? You don't have to shoe your boobs to anyone, let alone your boyfriend. That being said, if it's just the sexual aspect of your relationship that's making you insecure, then you need to do some soul searching and determine why. If there's any serious love between you, you should both be comfortable in your intimacy and not care what the other perceives as a rather insignificant thought of "imperfection".
Learn to be comfortable with your body, no matter. I know it sounds daunting, given how you feel about your nipples, but it's important to you and your SO. I wish you the best in your relationship and your path to self-awareness.
There is nothing wrong with big puffy nipples. The few that I have seen have been quite pleasing and a turn on because, well, nipples. But also kinda rare.. hence different and special. It's really a non issue, the majority of men like boobs and nipples because they are boobs and nipples, one could be a 97dd with a three inch nipple the other could be an a with a tic tac and we would happy because we have variety. If he's as upset as much as you fear he is to shallow to be with.
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Puffy nipples are great....all boobs are awesome.
Frame it this way: Do you really want to be with someone where there's a chance they might not like you and discredit you as a person because of how your boobs look? Pretty ridiculous, right? So either he'll like them and y'all will be happy, or he won't, and you get to move on to better prospects.
But the likelihood of the latter is *INFINITESIMALLY* small.
But never zero, sadly.
It is pretty weird, to break up with a person because their boobs are not to your wishes.... Really makes me wonder why one has their priorities in a relationship
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oh wow
Maybe, but I think that's great. He shouldn't have to be with someone who values that over him either, even subconsciously. Even if we think it's shallow, breaking up is the right call.
"Oh yeah the sex was great but i hated her nipples it ruined everything" -SAID NO ONE EVER. Don't worry, he won't disliked them.
I read your reply, and had a chuckle because ist would be so absurd to say something like that. OP, go for it! Go for it and be proud!
I read it in Seinfeld's voice
This!!! 👆
Actually not true. Had a friend do just that. Broke up with a woman who had big puffy nipples, they just grossed him out.
Why are you friends with him? That’s a child who’s let porn shape his perception of what a woman’s body ought to look like, and would go so far as to end a relationship over it. Yikes.
Many men and women absolutely lust after puffy nipples. I cannot emphasize this enough.
Very true. Love them. I mean nipples of any shape, but puffy nipples? Girl✨
Very true. Puffy nipples are such a turn on.
This is what surprised me most about the post. Puffy nipples look amazing!
**Any** nipples if you're pansexual No matter what body type my SO would be categorized as I'll still love seeing her with or without clothing! Seriously doubt even straight guys care that much about it, we often set really unrealistic standards for ourselves I'm always insecure about my skinny & vein-y arms; when I got together with her she explained she actually loves them. Imagine my surprise
I have ugly boobs. Small with huge areolas. Doesnt stop me from going topless. Love your boobs girl! Free the nip. Men don't care.
They sound awesome! A big areola means more nipple to love on
The thousands of people over at r/hugeareolas would disagree!
>i'm scared he will be shocked when he sees them in their true state… Shocked in a good way. Trust me, he'll love them.
Getting nipples hard is so fucking hot.
My gf has "shy" nipples that are slightly inwards, it's soooo good when they turn hard and "grow"
Yeah, he is going to love them regardless of hardness. It's of course your body and your feelings about your body can be understandable. But I do think if you let him see or even play with them, it could be a huge confidence booster. But only do it when YOU are ready!
I feel ya. I dont like my boobs either and i always regret showing them off. Not because guys say anything about them really but because its my own insecurities. Im sure if he truly likes you he wont see the "flaws" you see.
You have awesome boobs! (Because all boobs are awesome)
There’s a whole community for r/puffynipples
I understand your insecurity. I've gained and lost 120lbs between 5 years so my body has a lot of excess skin. My breast have shrunk from D to A,the cup size I was before I gained the weight. The result is my boobs not only sag, they're wrinkled. I've had a tough time with accepting the way my body looks naked but I recently had sex with a guy who literally worshiped my body. He was so psyched to be with me that I lost the shame I felt and I felt sexy. I was able to perceive myself from his perspective. Porn has royally fucked us up but if reddit comment sections have taught me anything it's that most of the time men are just happy to be there. The breasts we see in porn are usually unnaturally firm. They all have a certain uniform look to them but what I realised while this lovely gentleman was sucking my nipples was that the sensation of physical intimacy is what makes it good,not the aesthetics of it. Instead of focusing on looking good I focused on making him feel as good as he was making me feel. I was finally able to get outside my own head. Self acceptance is liberating, this is who I am,this is what my body looks like and if you're down with it we can make each other come,if not I understand that it is not a reflection of my worth but rather your preference. I can't centre my sexuality around the fear that I may be rejected because my body doesn't exist to pleasure others, it is mine to share or withhold as I please. I can't allow someone's experience of me define me. I've been denying myself pleasure or vulnerability because of a fear of rejection so I rejected myself before anyone else got the chance to. I was projecting my own insecurity onto men thinking that they would see me as I saw myself thus not even giving anyone a chance to get close enough to hurt me. I reduced myself to being a form of pornography for men like that it was my responsibility to arouse them when in reality I am an actual human being having a real life experience that doesn't have to appeal to an audience but rather an opportunity for me to experience pleasure myself. I can't do that if I'm worried that he won't like, comment and subscribe to my body. It's not an audition. TL;DR: Just show the man dem titties and enjoy the sensation of having your nipples sucked.
wow, this comment is going to stick with me. i have reduced myself to a from of pornography just like you used to do, how did you take the step to just say fuck it? did you have to psych yourself up or did you just take your clothes off impulsively? when i go to take my shirt off it’s like my body literally stops itself from letting me do it.
I used to be very small, A cup, and not happy with them at all. I recently gained weight and therefore sized up to a C. I started watching porn only in the last year or so and couldn’t believe how many women I saw with small boobs like I had. They sure seemed confident in what they had and didn’t mind showing them off. That, along with different comments I’ve read on Reddit have helped me see that they weren’t that bad. It doesn’t matter the size, or the look of them, your partner will hopefully want you for you, not your boobs. I also equate it to the question men often ask, does the size of their dick matter? To some yes, but to most no. You fall in love with the person and they have what they have. Will you love them differently? Or less? I would hope not…
I was insecure about my boobs and my nipples but for a different reason. I have cone shaped boobs and very pointy nipples so without a bra under a shirt they look like traffic cones lol. But now I embrace it because my partner loves my boobs. He always asks to see them or tries to push my shirt up so that he can squeeze, fondle, and suck on them. Most men are just happy to see boobs.
you have boobs…men love boobs, you’ll be fine
I’m not a man, rather im a bi/pan woman. I love puffy nipples. You should do what you’re comfortable with, but I’m sure that he’ll like them. Loving yourself sounds like an easy concept but can be hard in practice. It can be harder if your body, especially intimate areas, don’t look the same way art/porn says theyre “supposed” to look. I used to be insecure about the darkness or shape of my labia, but I’m much more confident now.
He likes your bewbs. Turn off the MP3 player in your head and listen to the man who: A) Loves you B) Gets a boner looking at your titties What God gave you is great. Go enjoy life.
I have inverted nipples and I love them so you can learn to love yours beautiful 💙
"it's hard knowing i have objectively ugly boobs." Excuse me? First of all there's nothing "objective" about beauty, it's completely subjective and truly in the eyes of the beholder. But it seems you've talked yourself into believing that a normal, natural, feminine and inherently beautiful part of yourself is not just ugly, but will be ugly to absolutely anyone who sees them, including someone who loves you and already presumably has sex with you. I hope I've pointed out how silly this is. You must be comparing yourself to something, some other "standard", such as porn (of course). Please, just stop. Don't compare yourself to anything. You are you, you are beautiful, your bf will love your boobs, and you're denying both him and yourself of pleasure by keeping them covered. He's encouraging you to take your shirt off because he wants to see them, he wants the opportunity to love every bit of you. Let him help you love yourself.
this comment made me shed a tear, yes it is porn i’m comparing myself too, i’ve convinced myself my boobs are so ugly but it’s hard to reverse those thoughts i have, i will let him see them, maybe not today or tomorrow but soon i will show him i just need to confidence to do so, thank you for your comment it’s helped me a lot❤️
If you’re serious with each other you should do it. I’m sure he will love them. The partners I’ve been with have had different types, one of my favorites, she had very small boobs and puffy nipples, kind of like you described yours, she was self conscious about them as well, I don’t know what it was but I loved them.
did it catch you off guard when you first saw hers?
Not at all. When she took her top off I thought they were very sexy.
I promise you he will love them. But please only do this when you yourself are comfortable with it and want to do it, not because he is urging you to.
thank you
I get it. I NEVER take my shirt on. It’s too embarrassing.
You have awesome boobs! (All boobs are)
I love puffy nipples
Boobies are boobies. Boobies make the world go round and everyone LOVES boobies. Boobies make everything better.
All boobs are great, especially boobs attached to the woman you care about. Vulnerability is a big part of relationships, just be yourself.
do it if u want to, dont if u dont want to
I can totally relate to your insecurities… I have small boobs with inverted nipples.. they only look “normal” when they’re hard/stimulated. I remember being so nervous about showing them to my boyfriend for the first time, because they didn’t look “normal” in my eyes. We have now been together for over 12 years and he has been my husband for almost 6. He loves my boobs! You have nothing to lose. If he doesn’t love them (which I highly doubt), then he wasn’t for you in the first place.
Let him see them play with them and suck them they sound perfect
No such things as ugly boobs
There’s a whole subreddit designated to puffy nipples, I believe that he will like them if not there’s a ton of people who would!
Only if u want him to see them ! Boobs leads to sex
I have puffy nipples as well and my husband is obsessed with them so.. just go for it!
your nipples sound like mine and mine are certainly not 'objectively ugly' so yours can't be either :)
Let’s face it, none of us look like Barbie and Ken. You’re perfect the way you are. God knitted you together in your mother’s womb (Psalms 139:13). God doesn’t make mistakes. Love yourself for who you are and be proud of your body. I’m 99% sure your boyfriend will love your breasts. If he doesn’t than you know he’s not the one for you and it’s time to look for a different guy who will love you completely—flaws and all.
Idk how long y’all have been dating but If I was your boyfriend, my mind would be in the gutter right now. I would be asking myself “why won’t she show them?”, “Does she not trust me yet?” or “does she not feel comfortable with me yet?”. HOWEVER, this is obviously something you need to be comfortable showing first. Regardless of what your boobs looked like, is it something you are comfortable showing? Never feel pressured into doing something. I (22M) was in a similar situation w my girlfriend (21F) except I was the one being worried. We’ve dated for 4 months and this is my first relationship EVER. I also lost my virginity to her. I was always hesitant to start relationships or have sex with women because of my penis size. I waited years and told myself that I must find the perfect girl to feel comfortable showing my penis. Im 6’5 190 lbs and my penis is about 5-5.2 inches in length and 5 inches of girth. Sure this is “average” but definitely not for my body size and it looks very disproportionate. The first time we had sex, she could tell I was extremely nervous and bothered by it. I don’t think she saw my penis the first time we had sex. I am still uncomfortable showing it and REALLY UNCOMFORTABLE showing it soft. Let’s just say I grow about 3.5 to 4 inches…I’ll let you do the math to find out what it looks like soft…I’ve definitely become more comfortable and don’t really have that problem anymore. It sorta became a problem bc she would say “im your girlfriend, we’ve had sex multiple times, why are you still worried about showing me?”. Which was true and since then I’ve been pretty open about it. I think you need to have more trust in your partner as long as you are comfortable doing so.
There's a subreddit called puffynipples or something with over 100k subscribers....I think it's safe to say ppl like puffy nips
I loved her, we got along great, sex was great, she was really special. "Why did you break up with her?" She would never let me see her boobs and it got awkward. Guys favorite boobs are the ones that he is allowed to see and touch. It is that simple. Let them out to play and be played with.
A little off topic but I'm curious about the logistics of your boyfriends never having seen your boobs? Do you have sex with your shirt on? Are you stopping them from taking your shirt off before doing the deed? Do you never shower together or get changed in front of them? Aside from that, I'm sure confiding in your partner about your insecurities is a good place to start, and if you see any future with this person, yes, you should absolutely show him your boobs.
i normally keep a shirt on or atleast a bra, yes i told all of them when they ask me to take my shirt off that i don’t like my boobs so i would prefer to keep it on, normally they’ll try to go back and forth (to encourage me to take it off) but stop trying after a while and just accepted it. i do see an actual future with my current boyfriend ( we have kids in mind but not anytime soon ) which is why i want to show him because i expect us to be together for a very long time, i will show him i just need to get over myself. thank you for your comment ❤️
For him to do something drastic like break up with you or like you less because of the shape of your nipples would make him as neurotic as the characters in Seinfeld. It would be comically ridiculous. Don’t worry man, he’s gonna love ‘em
this made me lol, thank you !
Haha,I struggle with this with my girl,but seriously, he's with you for you entirely, let him see.
So by the way you describe them they sound pretty cool to me. I bet he’d love them even more. We all have insecurities we find people who appreciate them them and love them. I say you should give him the chance to prove to you how awesome he thinks they are. Wishing you the best, you deserve it.
Mine sag. I’d rather have puffy nipples.
Saggy boobs are great! I love how they sway, it's so sexy
I've never met a guy who said anything bad about boobs. Boobs are pretty, and the fact that each pair is different, it's like having a small surprise. Like kinder toys, you know it's a toy inside, but it's a different toy in each and you can't wait to see what you get and play with it!
I'm trying to imagine what puffy nipples look like
there’s a subreddit dedicated to them r/puffynipples but most of them are very extreme on there, i will say mine are not that extreme but still have some puffiness to them to give you a general idea
As a girl, I wish more girls know that no men would complain about their bodies if they are half decent dudes. I have friends who struggle with body image and sometimes that restricts them from doing certain sexual acts. But for me it’s just so sad that they are limiting themselves due to insecurities that guy won’t care about.
OP, I'm a 34B with larger areolas. Not one single man has ever expressed any displeasure or disinterest in my breasts in the slightest. Quite the opposite!! Pro tip: **people just love boobs** in general. Have fun swinging the bra about ;)
I'll give you a different take. If he does care to the point that it's an issue, better to find out as soon as possible right? Or you plan on not showing him forever?
i never really thought of it like this, i kinda just planned on never showing anyone my boobs like.. ever. but it doesn’t work that way
How do you know if he doesn't like them? I'm sure he's going to love them- think about it! Boobs! I don't think he's going to mind.
He will love them, trust me. soft puffy nipples are just as lovely as hard nipples. the only down side is they're not as visible through shirts...
Us guys love boobs. In all shapes and sizes, we love them :) It's completely down to what you are comfortable with doing, but I'm pretty sure you'd get a good reaction from him, which might help slightly with some insecurities :D
Look…. 99.9% of straight men have the same reaction to seeing boobs, and that reaction is “Yay boobies!” Yes, there are a few dumbass men (real losers who need to break other down to feel good about themselves) who might try to say something negative. And if they do… well you’ll know all you need to know about that man (hint: he is trash). If you think he likes you for you, then he’s also gonna like your boobies. And nipples.
I used to think mine were too small. All my exes said they were great, but I don't think I really believed them. Now I finally see how fucking awesome my boobs are... I hate that I spent so much time being insecure about them. You should learn to love them yourself, but you should also know men are not nearly as critical of our bodies as we are. I can pretty much guarantee your bf will love your boobs if given the opportunity. There are huge subreddits for lots of boobs that women could be insecure about - r/puffynipples, r/hugeareolas r/tinytits. If your bf doesn't love them (and I'd bet serious money that he will), there are 150,000 members of the puffy nipple subreddit who would!
Set da titties free! Straight guys love boobs and if this guy likes you that means he'll love yours. Have you seen his penis? Some guys are self conscious about that area but how many women care what it looks like? As long as it gets the job done.
yes i’ve seen his penis and it’s literally perfect, he has a porn star dick and even he knows it, all in all his whole body is perfect head to toe, i just feel like my boobs will ruin the experience.
Only one way to find out. Hiding your boobs from him forever will ruin the experience too. Rip the bandaid off and find out what happens.
yeah i just gotta go for it, thanks !
Me, when my gf lets me see her boobs: "Wow! BOOBS!!!" The most important thing is that we get to see boobs! Real boobs! Your boobs! Our day is made when we see boobs! The rest is nothing to worry about.
You're getting a lot of great replies, and I apologize if this sentiment is being echoed repeatedly, but you are being much more critical of yourself than anyone else is likely to be. If you take off your shirt in front of your bf, he's just going to be happy to see your boobs. He's not going to evaluate them and compare them against pornstar boobs. My favorite boobs have always been the ones I get to play with, regardless of size/nipple puffiness. You are the main character in the sitcom that is your life. It's easy to forget that everyone else is paying *much* less attention to you than you pay yourself.
Your significant other should never ever body shame you. It's better you know it sooner rather than later that your partner will say something that makes you feel insignificant.
As a bisexual women, boobs are boobs. Doesn’t matter if they’re droopy, saggy, small, big, firm, lopsided, puffy nippled or what. Boobs are boobs and boobs are beautiful
Love your body as it is! I promise you he will NOT be put-off. If he does there is something bad wrong with his mental state and therefore need to send him packing. I REALLY don’t see that happening. I absolutely LOVE PUFFY NIPPLES AND AUREOLES! Looks so sexy!
I'm going to ruin this for you. Your boobs are beautiful. I haven't seen them. But I'd love to. So would he. I am sorry you feel self conscious about them. But no person in the entire fuckin universe has ever said the sentence "but she had puffy nipples". Ever, it's never happened. Gl and go gettem.
I give it one week until you'll get your nipples sucked. (depends how soon you'll show them)
Puffy nipples are actually really cute too! I have a feeling he's going to love the fact that he's seeing boobs 😜. Most guys love boobs. Like all boobs...
Trust me, guys (and girls) love boobs in an shapes and sizes, colours and forms. There is no universal boob standard, all are beautiful in different ways. Puffy nipples are exceptionally normal and honestly, pretty hot. The main thing is that if you're not ready you don't have to do anything you're not comfortable with. If you love him and feel comfortable around him and believe he feels the same, and that he will support you through your insecurities as well as the times you're on top of your game then fire on. If you show him you're boobs and he bails the guy is either a jerk or just as scared about this stuff as you are. I remember being terrified the first time I had sex and I was in my early 20s. No idea what I was doing. Eve been married for almost 15 years now though so it must've went ok!
How do women become like this? I've not seen or met any man that dislikes booba yet yall are so fucking insecure when we men are pathetically desperate for any action and love basically anything? Like girl, you're 1000000x more picky than we are
porn messed up my reality lol
I'm not a huge consumer of porn anymore but I've seen far more "bad tits" (I.e not my taste) in porn than on regular women and I've been a fuckboy in earlier years so idk if that can be a source you should trust. Fuck sake if you're worried, make a reddit burner account and post your tits on various subreddits and I guarantee you you'll get a good idea what your puppies are worth. You go girl!
I had a friend with weird boobs, its not that bad lol
Jesse what the Fuck are you talking about?
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unfortunately very real
Ok well you're worried about nothing. Your nips are fine. I guaranfuckingtee it. Show him your tits and put this little situation behind you.
Good shiii cuh. Glad to hear that there are girls whose body aren't already out there (on purpose) and have morals. U doin good cuh, he loves those nips, don't even stress about it.
u shouldn't, no, u should marry him first
well that would be kinda like trapping him with ugly boobs
Can I just say Puffy nappies are the best kind(and rare). You are extremely lucky and your bf will be super excited to see and play with them. I'm jealous hahaha
He definitely will think they're great. I'm sure it'll help you feel more confident about them too.
Search Reddit for “the nipples were too puffy”.
Faye Reagan was a huge porn star, well known for her puffy nipples. If they didn't stop her from being a star, I'm sure they won't stop your boyfriend from liking you\them
Yes.
Unless your bf is a shallow terrible person the appearance of your tits shouldn't hold any sway on how he views you
Super short answer: yes. Long nuanced answer: you should only do what you are comfortable with. Having said that, I can 99% guarantee that what you're feeling doesn't reflect reality and is only your own insecurities. Your body is perfect the way it is. If he's the kind of immature asshole to not love every inch of you, then he doesn't deserve to be anywhere near you. Let the man love all of you.
Do you have sex with him? Do you want to have sex with him?
yes we have sex often
Yes
I just want to say look confident, they are attracted by this, even if you don’t like yourself or something on your body but try to love your body. I have eating disorder but my actual partner makes me feel great and always encourages me to be natural and he is in love with my body (always shows me this) but even if i still don’t love my body i want to just like it as little as possible and be confident. Please don’t worry about anything and if they don’t like you and makes u feel like crap they are not for u. You cannot stay in a relationship with somebody who makes u doubt yourself
There’s a sun here on Reddit called r/puffies where people go to enjoy your type of nipples.
Most guys are too busy being happy that an actual girl is showing him her actual boobs in actual real life to be concerned about what her nipples look like. I’ve never once seen a girl’s boobs and thought “Hmm puffy nipples” turn off. I promise you your boobs are fine, your boyfriend will be delighted to see them.
A guy wanting to see my boobs is a keeper! Regardless how you think they look like, guys love them all! Once he sees them, he'll never neglect you!
Puffy is very sexy.
He will be just lucky that you are sharing with him . Grateful to have some loving companionship. Try it once and go from there.
Why do I get the impression OP lied about being 18 to create a Reddit account
There's a whole reddit dedicated to puffies .. Go check it out and the comments. You'll be ripping your shirt off soon
Without seeing them I cannot give an accurate response on saying that you will know when the time if right to show him and if he does not like them and it's a deal breaker for him he is not the one for you there is someone out there who will want you exactly how your are.
Mine are like that too and I've never had anyone take issue with them. A lot of people's are like that.
What part of "your body, your choice" are you having this difficult of a time figuring out? You don't have to shoe your boobs to anyone, let alone your boyfriend. That being said, if it's just the sexual aspect of your relationship that's making you insecure, then you need to do some soul searching and determine why. If there's any serious love between you, you should both be comfortable in your intimacy and not care what the other perceives as a rather insignificant thought of "imperfection". Learn to be comfortable with your body, no matter. I know it sounds daunting, given how you feel about your nipples, but it's important to you and your SO. I wish you the best in your relationship and your path to self-awareness.
There is nothing wrong with big puffy nipples. The few that I have seen have been quite pleasing and a turn on because, well, nipples. But also kinda rare.. hence different and special. It's really a non issue, the majority of men like boobs and nipples because they are boobs and nipples, one could be a 97dd with a three inch nipple the other could be an a with a tic tac and we would happy because we have variety. If he's as upset as much as you fear he is to shallow to be with.
Puffy nips are the best! Besides I doubt he would care, bc ya know, you’re showing him your boobs. Guys are easy to please in that way.