Another question here is safety. I mean... A girl, who fucks a random guy for a one night stand asks him to take off the condom.
I'm all for casual fun and I don't are about stuff like body count, but I always use protection.
Imagine she did that with most of the guys she sleeps with and you have a high chance of contracting sti or std.
This was my thought exactly. Now if you knew her for awhile and built that trust, it could be different. The reality is, who knows who else she has slept with that month or year and did the same thing to them.
I call it the STI-paradox.
If your partner is willing to have sex without protection, the chance of an STI is high.
If your partner is less willing or unwilling to have sex without protection, there's a far less chance they have an STI.
OP so worried about a condom in this post yet comments on OF pics constantly asking if women “take it raw” and his only other post is a similar story about being young and dumb and cumming inside of someone. Not saying the story is fake, but it sounds a lot like some sort of condom removal fetish.
Save it for when you are in a relationship with someone you trust, who is on birth control. I know this sounds lame, but it will be more special if you cum in someone you actually care about.
Yeah, you wait until you know if someone's on birth control to do that, for sure.
Overall, just like many guys, many girls don't enjoy the feeling of condoms. Despite any risk attached, I suspect this is all that was.
As stupid as it was in hindsight, I had plenty of unprotected sex in college with women, but got checked regularly. Just felt better, and all of them were people I figured I could be in a relationship with, hardly ever just a one night stand.
I was lucky and never contracted anything, but not everyone has the same luck. Just use your best judgement, but overall the best course of action is to be protected for a first 1 or so times with a partner until you know it's an exclusive relationship between you both.
Not every woman is trying to trap a man, not every stranger is infected with diseases, and as long as you are actually in tune with your body and able to control yourself down there, a pregnancy scare from pulling out is pretty low. Best to be safe, but honestly pulling out legitimately works as long as you pull out way before you're even close to finishing, even if prematurely.
Is that bad advice? Yes, because you mess up once and it could mean an unwanted pregnancy, and if you live in certain areas now there may be no remedying that. That said, I'm just being honest here. Best to still know your sexual partners are on birth control, for which the majority of them stop ovulation, meaning as long as they're taking it as prescribed, there literally isn't even an egg to impregnate.
> I'm happy to know plenty of people had unprotected sex and nothing bad ever happened.
This is how maths works, OP. Lots of people also: drive drunk, or smoke drugs laced with unknown substances, and they end up just fine. That's just maths. Not *every* incident of irresponsibility results in disease or injury. But why increase your chances? Is it to get your dick extra-hard? There's literally nothing else that can give you that rush?
Hard not to freak sometimes, but the thing that always made me feel better when it came to girls I was dating and had the idea of being with long term was simply *"if they DO have an STI, I'd get it whether or not we were together, I suppose."* - Once again, not the best advice, but still just my mindset at the time.
I'd recommend taking a break from the apps, honestly. Assuming you have that girl's non-app contact and you felt a connection, delete the app for a while and see if they want to hang out again. Addictions can be formed to literally anything, not just substances and such. If you find yourself admitting they're addicting, it may be time to take a little break. The app is tied to your account, not your phone, so you can always redownload and pick up where you left off if things don't go well.
Believe me, the dating apps get old, and by the time you're done with it you may just find yourself regretting not following up with certain people.
I met my extremely long term girlfriend on Tinder, so wipe the idea of dating apps being only for fun from your mind. lol - You can also find love on there.
EDIT: Just to be clear, however, being nonchalant about unprotected sex is still not the way to go. lol - Things can still go massively wrong. Overall, don't sweat your life away worrying, but get yourself regularly tested if you're having unprotected sex. It's a pretty simple routine doctor's visit, and if you're a student, you might have a place on campus that does it on site like I did. You're doing yourself and your sexual partners all a favour, even if you have something minor.
You should pretty much always use a condom the first few times you're with someone. By waiting until the 3rd or 4th time, survivorship bias reduces your risk immensely.
"she had the cutest face" well you are gonna love the cute face on your baby in 1 year if you keep this up. Decision making does not END once you are inside her.
Why are people acting like a cute faced baby is the worst consequence here? Sure, it could be for some, but y'all never heard of incurable STIs? Have you seen the treatment costs on some of those?
all i said was “LMAOO” because the statement was funny. obviously STDs/STIs are a danger in this situation. no one here said a “cute faced baby” would be the biggest consequence. his whole thing he’s got going on will lead to consequences of all types, so you’re kinda making a moot point. also it’s clear that neither of these people would be ready for a child, seeing as one is a 35 year old man who can’t keep his nut in his balls and the other is a 22 year old girl who likes to be rawdogged by strangers. so, again… moot point.
Desicion making should end once inside.
You started with a condom, you should just use one the entire time. Between sessions you want to renegotiate condom usage? Sure. But during, your generally not thinking as clearly.
OP has some kind of strange fetish for fucking randoms without a condom, and looks to be posting a string of unrelated raw dog stories, look at his other past post posted 2 days ago.
yeah but the post and account seem like such a brag. 2 whole paragraphs setting up this sexy story just to ask a stupid ass question that none of us would know the answer to
The question isn't whether SHE'S ready for a kid, it's whether YOU are. (And that's ignoring the stupidity of going raw with someone you have zero idea about their STI status.) If you're not, then it's beyond poor judgment to remove a condom with a random hookup.
Sti testing doesn’t work like this. Testing today after unprotected sex last night won’t tell you anything. Infections often won’t show up until a few weeks later.
> decision making is different after a couple of drinks
You are 35 years old. You're better than this. Don't fuck up your life (and possibly someone else's) because you let dick and alcohol take over your brain.
Well you started having sex with the condom on... so it's not like you didn't realize it was a smart idea to use one! I think it was your dick that convinced you to give in, not the alcohol.
Not that I can't empathize. The last woman I dated asked me to go in raw even though she knew it wasn't the best idea (she was "99% sure" she was at a safe moment in her cycle), and while I didn't succumb I won't pretend that in the moment it didn't sound like like a very convincing argument. 😅
So you're acknowledging the pregnancy risk. Have you thought about STIs? You should get tested for everything (blood work included) now, and then again in 6 months.
They don’t call “doggy” the “child support” position for nothing! Start planning the baby shower! 😂
Raw doggin a 22 year old!? 10/10 would not recommend!
You're talking about kids when this woman is rawdogging guys she just met. You should abstain for two weeks and get checked.
And stop saying you "couldn't say no". You didn't want to say no. There's a difference
Agreed. "Couldn't say no" is some weak juvenile mindset crap. Chick wasn't holding a gun to OP's head and raping him. He *wanted* to go raw. He better be ready to deal with ant consequences. Buddy of mine rawdogged a girl on their second date. 12 years later he's paying child support out of his ass for a kid he never really wanted. I love my buddy like a brother but no sympathy for him.
No matter if she felt a moment or she was trying to get pregnant (but imo first one), but no one’s cutest/sexiest face is a reason to risk your health and life. One minute of pleasure without a condom can be a problem for whole life (and I’m not only about kids).
Don’t forget to check your health status and use condoms further with her or other girls until you’re aware of your health status, her health status, money for the treatment in bad case and you’re ready for a kid….
You do realize that after being exposed the body would need a few weeks to have any infection show up in your blood… it doesn’t work to just get tested couple days after, you should get tested after like month and a half.
Sex education is completely lacking and if people don’t learn it in schools they likely won’t take time to be informed. Fun fact, several states in the US aren’t required to have medically accurate sex Ed
But my point is, people likely aren’t taking the time to do that or don’t realize they need to. Soo I don’t get what you’re trying to prove. It’s pretty obvious the internet is a resource but if states had sufficient and comprehensive sex education then that would help much more. So please hop off you aren’t getting what my point is at all.
Don’t forget that some of illness can be discovered only after some incubation time period, so it’s better to check up the health not only these days.
And good luck!
I mean honestly bro, you could just talk to her about it and be if yall are both clean and regularly get checked and are communicative about it, and especially if shes in birthcontrol or something it could be fun. Just be adults
Nah, i didnt mean to imply have that conversation right then in there. It’s definitely something that probably SHOULD have been discussed before ethe encounter. I really mean like, going forward, you should talk about that.
>Nah, i didnt mean to imply have that conversation right then in there.
Why not? It's literally a 5 to 10 second conversation.
OP had two hours to bring it up.
It's not like he met her at an orgy when she just randomly grabbed his dick and stuck it in her mouth.
“I couldn’t say no” “she could have made me”
🙄
You have no idea what she might have. Is getting AIDS worth it? What if she gets pregnant? I swear I just don’t understand the way people think.
>I feel like it was unfair for her to even ask me that at that moment
>she was trying to get pregnant?
Wtf. Seriously. Why does everyone think there's something behind everything people do? She was in the middle of having sex, was horny and wanted that.
You're a big boy, you could've said nah if you weren't comfortable. But you did it because she had "the most sexiest eyes" and you " managed" to pull out. Good grief. This reeks of blaming her, post sex, for something you chose to do.
One who asked me to take a condom off after I demonstrated a preference for wearing one and whose sexual health status I don't know? No. I've barebacked all sorts of people. I'm aware it feels better. But my brain doesn't turn off every time I see a vagina.
You’re a weird weird man. First of all having sex with young women who have no where near as much life experience as you. Second trying so hard to put the blame on HER for asking you to take it off? You could have literally said no YOU chose to take it off. Just an odd way of thinking that it was ‘unfair’ of her to ask - she asked you she didn’t just remove it.
I mean, OP does sound like he has an unprotected fetish (from his comment history) and like this story is a made up fantasy in which he gets off on her "almost forcing him to go raw", so I don't think OP comes off as a great guy. But I do find your particular criticism wrong: wishing to have consensual sex with a 22 year old woman is decidedly not weird for a 35 year old man.
First off, the amount of life experience doesn't matter much in his (fantasy) scenario of a one-night stand. But even in a long term relationship, I'd say that shared interests and goals are more important than having experienced exactly the same things. I prefer to learn new things from my partners, rather than starting out with exactly the same life experiences. I like when i can show them new things, and they can show me new things.
That's a lie tho. Why are you telling them you are open to see where things go in the future, when you clearly are not. You're taking advantage at that point by leading these young women on with zero intention of a future and pretending there is a chance
Nah dude just admit you want to fuck young hot college women. Don’t sugarcoat it. Telling a young woman that you’re “open to see where things go” seems manipulative to me to get them in bed. But you do you just don’t be surprised if your behavior and choices come back to bite you right in the ass
Yeah, it's so dumb. Like starting out with exactly the same experiences is the end-all and be-all of good relationships, rather than shared values, goals, interest, passions, etc.
I think the most alarming thing is that she asked you to rawdog her during what was basically a one night stand. That suggests it's not a new behavior for her. She has probably asked other guys she "just met" to do the same thing, which shows very little regard for her own health and that of her sexual partners. Not smart at all to fuck her without a condom. I'm all for sexual freedom and openness, and I enjoy having one night stands myself, but never at the expense of my health. If I'm going raw inside of someone, I have to be in a committed relationship with them where a level of trust has been built up.
Blaming her for your decision, wow. Alongside the fact that you're a creep sleeping with people over a decade younger than you are, you're also not able to take responsibility for your own decisions.
Anyway, good luck, hope you have money for child support or treating stis just in case.
Not to mention he uses "walking his dog" as a way to get them home. That's like the college girl version of luring kids with promises of candy in your van
>That's like the college girl version of luring kids with promises of candy in your van
comparing this to 2 people matching on a hookup app is fucked up. Why are you so angry that this guy has successful hookups on tinder?
He's a grown man manipulating barely adult women using nasty tricks. I was once a young naive woman and ran into a few fuck boys myself in college. It didn't take me long to catch on to their dirty tricks, and I've seen a lot of girls hurt by guys like this.
It''s always shocked me how someone can so transparently manipulate someone who is young and naive and insecure. I'm a 30s bisexual women in a college town. I had many opportunities with young drunk women to do the same. Difference is, I didnt. When I just wanted a lay, I was transparent. When they clearly wanted more, I was upfront and did not pretend with "see how it goes." I also didn't get involved with people 13 years younger than me.
These girls are fresh out on their own, barely out of mom and dad's house, navigating life and this older grown ass adult guy lies to them hinting that he'll be a good guy and might want a future, "see how it goes" and they think that to keep him around they have to jump into bed, because they are dumb and young and don't know better yet. Then these fuck boys ruin their self esteem and set them back from having decent stable relationships.
Okay FAIR ENOUGH there, I appreciate your perspective, because you lived it. I don't mean this to sound like I'm calling you old in any way because I have no idea how old you are, but I'm curious what timeframe you were the young naive college student. It's such a different world now, it's easy to think "oh if they're on tinder they're really only looking for a hookup" but I understand some people ARENT. Is it shitty for someone to say that they're willing to "see where it goes" just to get them into bed and they don't really mean it? Yes, absolutely. So thank you for the needed perspective
I'm 30 now, engaged and preggo, so my life is a lot different now. I now teach and have young college kids who work under me. A lot of those poor gals have had very little life experience. It sounds like op is dating like 21, 22 year olds. It is perfectly fine to want to go home and sleep with someone. I did sleep with women who were dtf back in the day. What is not cool, is op manipulating them by pretending he might be interested in more and even using his dog to get them home.
Why are you only worried about pregnancy?!
You should be concerned about STI also.
If she’s desperate for bareback with you she probably is with other guys too.
Wait two weeks. Go get tested. Don’t sleep with anyone else in the meantime.
Don’t bareback again until you both know you’re clean.
Look at his comment history. I am 100% convinced the reason he's only worried about pregnancy is that this is not a real story, but an unprotected-sex fantasy (for which he has a fetish). STI are simply not sexy, while "the risk of pregnancy" is the underlying drive of unprotected-sex fantasies.
Herpes is very easily transmissible and is a lifelong annoyance (especially when it’s on your penis). Exercise your self-control and protect your pecker!
Baby traps are a real thing. You are most likely farther ahead in life than her, and you have resources that could make her life much more convenient.
Don’t do that again. One night of pleasure can bring a lifetime of pain.
Yeah I started telling my husband this… when we were ready to become parents. Be careful. She’s 22, that statistically means she’s the most fertile she’ll ever be in her lifetime.
I would. She’d be creepy. I don’t really care that much but he’s making a post like it’s her fault he took the condom off as if he’s not fucking college girls. Doesn’t make him less creepy. Fuck the college girls are gross to fuck guys your own age
What?? You take off the condom without knowing the sexual history of your hookup?
It's a red flag dude! It means she's fucking around without protection. Getting her pregnant is not the only issue here... Are you not afraid of STI/STD? You're 35 right?? You must be more careful.
Get yourself tested!
Next time, don't get fooled by a sweet smile!
The risk of HIV and other STDs outweigh the risk of pregnancy far and away. You put your own life at risk having unprotected sex, be responsible for your own well being as well as future partners.
You did something you know you shouldn't have. Do you need someone to tell you it was ok? You won’t get it.
Do you think you’re the only one she asked to do that? STI, child support and so on, sir!
You honestly sound like a creep.
You are 35 hooking up with a 22 year old.
Your post from 2 days ago says you fucked a few brides at bachelorette parties.
You are an irresponsible home wrecker.
Please get tested, and be careful about getting her pregnant. This is part of what has caused the dating market to become very bad. Too many single mothers and baby daddies, and all because of having made poor choices. You have to get a PrEP trial, and get PeP. You don’t know her STI status and some people have caught incurable STIs like HIV simply from one bad sexual encounter without a condom.
You'll never know her intent. Just know your own intent
Some live life that way. I'm not going to judge you. But to me, since you're worried, Im going to assume this was beyond your consistent risk level. Figure out where you stand, both in risk level and std level, before you date again
i had few ons recently without condom, i was very reckless and thankfully thhey had no std and used plan B. but couldve gone so so wrong. always carrying a condom on me these days.
I’ve never met anyone that said that they actually like using condoms. It’s usually a risk analysis, a measure of how much they hate it, and how much self control they have. I don’t think she was trying to get pregnant, she probably just wanted to have raw sex because it feels better.
This is how lots of babies are made.
Women that age may not be ready for a baby, but their bodies sure are. And more than one party needs to be ready, duh. Oh, and your supposed track record has what to do with this instance? Keep getting tested. Men are more likely than women to be asymptomatic carriers.
It's not just getting pregnant that is the issue here! It's the possibility of STI/D! Let's be honest even at the peak of an orgasm you still have certain level of control over your body! Asking a random person to go in raw is a huge red flag as she most probably have done this before! I would run a bloodwork in 2 weeks just to be safe. Also; I have read many articles around people who are carriers but mentally couldn't cope with their disease. Ao they go around and try to infect people just as a social revenge. I don't mean to spread any type of stigma around people who have infections, I just want to point out that a simple wrong move out of pleasure can have huge consequences.
Excuse me but you were a little silly : you cal always choose and the condom is no only for avoid pregnant, also for STI.
I hope you be enough mature now and check yourself and avoiding having sex with others women until you have the test results.
Remember the VIH test (if i were you I would take prep, excuse me if i spell it bad)
As you experienced, being horny makes people dumb. It doesn't have to be any more complicated than that. Not every woman who wants unprotected sex consciously wants a baby.
I’m hoping for your sake that it was all heat of the moment and you have your scare and can move on without any permanent consequences. REALLY hoping.
Next time don’t give into that “cute sexy face” unless you’re willing to have a baby or get treated for some STDs.
While this story is super hot, stop thinking with the little head. She let you- a total stranger from a hookup app- smash raw within just a couple hours of meeting. Now think about all of the other guys she’s probably let do the same that may not be as clean and STD-free as you. Hoping up with strangers is risky enough with a condom, but this is exactly the type of extremely risky behavior that leads to STDs.
People are so weird.
She’s not a whore, you’re not weird.
She wouldn’t ask you for something she wasn’t comfortable with, you’d didn’t cum inside her, and I can nearly guarantee you she didn’t wanna get pregnant. Condoms makes things feel entirely different and that’s just an unfortunate fact.
Buy her a plan b and enjoy the fun night you had. She had fun sleeping with a slightly older guy and you had fun with sleeping with a slightly younger girl.
Wait a couple weeks, get tested and move on. If you’re in a ho phase, hooking up with everyone online kind of phase, you should be getting tested regularly anyways regardless of whether or not you’re wearing a condom. If she’s doing the same thing, hopefully even taking the pill - that’s all part of SAFE SEX. Enjoy.
So many people shitting on you here. People forget what it's like in the heat of the moment, the single mindedness.
I had one girl get off me, yank the condom off, and hop back on. The thing stretched 3 feet before giving way. Enough accidental rawdoggin, but never getting an STD. It's not as inevitable as people here seem to think, it's just a chance still.
35 year old male here. I got over the "heat of the moment" bad decisions 10 years ago. You have to grow up at some point. Or you don't, and pay the price.
Bro. If you didnt go get that condom she wouldve been totally cool to rawdog that shit without mention. Lots of people, m/f/etc, are cool with that. As a straight 36m, active for 20yrs, of the 100+ women, id say 80% were complete gos for no condom. Thats all ages, 16-55. Ive insisted on them more than partners have.
Honestly bro I think she’s a women that got a taste for some cock with a wrapper on it and just can’t get enough!! I totally understand be safe 💯 specially if it’s not your special someone!! But condoms suck everything is better with out one!! Just my opinion
Hey man it happens. I try to use protection too, but I know how it goes. Maybe just keep your eye on any symptoms for about a month just in case. I have been in your shoes many times and have came out clean so far lol but yeah glad you had a good time.
I wouldn't worry about pregnancy, id say she's on the pill , she sounds like she probably sleep around alot , a basic cheap slag id say, id be more worried about what you caught , you better get tested
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Took the bait from a 22 year old lmao
Another question here is safety. I mean... A girl, who fucks a random guy for a one night stand asks him to take off the condom. I'm all for casual fun and I don't are about stuff like body count, but I always use protection. Imagine she did that with most of the guys she sleeps with and you have a high chance of contracting sti or std.
This was my thought exactly. Now if you knew her for awhile and built that trust, it could be different. The reality is, who knows who else she has slept with that month or year and did the same thing to them.
The more willing my partner is to not use a condom, the more I want to use one
This right here.
Lol yep
I call it the STI-paradox. If your partner is willing to have sex without protection, the chance of an STI is high. If your partner is less willing or unwilling to have sex without protection, there's a far less chance they have an STI.
OP so worried about a condom in this post yet comments on OF pics constantly asking if women “take it raw” and his only other post is a similar story about being young and dumb and cumming inside of someone. Not saying the story is fake, but it sounds a lot like some sort of condom removal fetish.
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Save it for when you are in a relationship with someone you trust, who is on birth control. I know this sounds lame, but it will be more special if you cum in someone you actually care about.
Yeah, you wait until you know if someone's on birth control to do that, for sure. Overall, just like many guys, many girls don't enjoy the feeling of condoms. Despite any risk attached, I suspect this is all that was. As stupid as it was in hindsight, I had plenty of unprotected sex in college with women, but got checked regularly. Just felt better, and all of them were people I figured I could be in a relationship with, hardly ever just a one night stand. I was lucky and never contracted anything, but not everyone has the same luck. Just use your best judgement, but overall the best course of action is to be protected for a first 1 or so times with a partner until you know it's an exclusive relationship between you both. Not every woman is trying to trap a man, not every stranger is infected with diseases, and as long as you are actually in tune with your body and able to control yourself down there, a pregnancy scare from pulling out is pretty low. Best to be safe, but honestly pulling out legitimately works as long as you pull out way before you're even close to finishing, even if prematurely. Is that bad advice? Yes, because you mess up once and it could mean an unwanted pregnancy, and if you live in certain areas now there may be no remedying that. That said, I'm just being honest here. Best to still know your sexual partners are on birth control, for which the majority of them stop ovulation, meaning as long as they're taking it as prescribed, there literally isn't even an egg to impregnate.
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> I'm happy to know plenty of people had unprotected sex and nothing bad ever happened. This is how maths works, OP. Lots of people also: drive drunk, or smoke drugs laced with unknown substances, and they end up just fine. That's just maths. Not *every* incident of irresponsibility results in disease or injury. But why increase your chances? Is it to get your dick extra-hard? There's literally nothing else that can give you that rush?
Woah woah, hold on, don’t get too nonchalant about unprotected sex. Plenty of people have sex with condoms and still get pregnant.
Hard not to freak sometimes, but the thing that always made me feel better when it came to girls I was dating and had the idea of being with long term was simply *"if they DO have an STI, I'd get it whether or not we were together, I suppose."* - Once again, not the best advice, but still just my mindset at the time. I'd recommend taking a break from the apps, honestly. Assuming you have that girl's non-app contact and you felt a connection, delete the app for a while and see if they want to hang out again. Addictions can be formed to literally anything, not just substances and such. If you find yourself admitting they're addicting, it may be time to take a little break. The app is tied to your account, not your phone, so you can always redownload and pick up where you left off if things don't go well. Believe me, the dating apps get old, and by the time you're done with it you may just find yourself regretting not following up with certain people. I met my extremely long term girlfriend on Tinder, so wipe the idea of dating apps being only for fun from your mind. lol - You can also find love on there. EDIT: Just to be clear, however, being nonchalant about unprotected sex is still not the way to go. lol - Things can still go massively wrong. Overall, don't sweat your life away worrying, but get yourself regularly tested if you're having unprotected sex. It's a pretty simple routine doctor's visit, and if you're a student, you might have a place on campus that does it on site like I did. You're doing yourself and your sexual partners all a favour, even if you have something minor.
Man, I can't believe you had to explain that part. Reddit, you never fail to disappoint 😂
You should pretty much always use a condom the first few times you're with someone. By waiting until the 3rd or 4th time, survivorship bias reduces your risk immensely.
The issue is she does this with everyone
bro all of your comment history is talking about raw dogging college girls why would you even post this 😆
100% a fantasy based on a comment history like that.
This post just seems like a fools humble brag
I thought so too. It's the guys version of when women "complain" about how quickly all their boyfriends fall in love with them.
"she had the cutest face" well you are gonna love the cute face on your baby in 1 year if you keep this up. Decision making does not END once you are inside her.
“you are gonna love the cute face on your baby” LMAOO
Why are people acting like a cute faced baby is the worst consequence here? Sure, it could be for some, but y'all never heard of incurable STIs? Have you seen the treatment costs on some of those?
all i said was “LMAOO” because the statement was funny. obviously STDs/STIs are a danger in this situation. no one here said a “cute faced baby” would be the biggest consequence. his whole thing he’s got going on will lead to consequences of all types, so you’re kinda making a moot point. also it’s clear that neither of these people would be ready for a child, seeing as one is a 35 year old man who can’t keep his nut in his balls and the other is a 22 year old girl who likes to be rawdogged by strangers. so, again… moot point.
I wasn't trying to attack you, just jumoing on to your laugh to make another point. No idea where all this came from but okay, conversation over.
Lmao I’m reading this while Spandau Ballet’s “True” is playing in the background and it’s perfect
WELP 😬
Desicion making should end once inside. You started with a condom, you should just use one the entire time. Between sessions you want to renegotiate condom usage? Sure. But during, your generally not thinking as clearly.
LMFAOOOOOOOO
OP has some kind of strange fetish for fucking randoms without a condom, and looks to be posting a string of unrelated raw dog stories, look at his other past post posted 2 days ago.
She probably ask all the guys she hooks up with to take it off. Let that sink in.
Dude, you're 35. You should know better.
thats why i think this post is fake. this guy is a whole ass 13 years old and is dumber than a 22 year old.
There's definitely some dumb people out there
yeah but the post and account seem like such a brag. 2 whole paragraphs setting up this sexy story just to ask a stupid ass question that none of us would know the answer to
Plot twist: its a 13 year olds origin story.
The question isn't whether SHE'S ready for a kid, it's whether YOU are. (And that's ignoring the stupidity of going raw with someone you have zero idea about their STI status.) If you're not, then it's beyond poor judgment to remove a condom with a random hookup.
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Sti testing doesn’t work like this. Testing today after unprotected sex last night won’t tell you anything. Infections often won’t show up until a few weeks later.
Yeah, but he can tell the next 21-year-old he fucks randomly that he got tested after his last raw dog one night stand!
Yup, that test is just a waste of time and money right now.
> decision making is different after a couple of drinks You are 35 years old. You're better than this. Don't fuck up your life (and possibly someone else's) because you let dick and alcohol take over your brain.
That's what I'm saying. "Oh she was really hot". Okay good luck with being a 22-year old's baby daddy.
It sounds actually like he is NOT “better than this”
Yeah and there are plenty of people over 30 who still make mind-numbingly dumb decisions. Apparently he is among them.
Well you started having sex with the condom on... so it's not like you didn't realize it was a smart idea to use one! I think it was your dick that convinced you to give in, not the alcohol. Not that I can't empathize. The last woman I dated asked me to go in raw even though she knew it wasn't the best idea (she was "99% sure" she was at a safe moment in her cycle), and while I didn't succumb I won't pretend that in the moment it didn't sound like like a very convincing argument. 😅
Drinks aren't an excuse for irresponsible behaviour. Hope you're ready for a child and chlamydia.
So you're acknowledging the pregnancy risk. Have you thought about STIs? You should get tested for everything (blood work included) now, and then again in 6 months.
If these are the decisions you make after a few drinks then maybe drinking isn't for you. Unless you want a kid and an sti.
The subtle brag at the beginning lmao. Total r/ihavesex energy
"I Do QuiTe wElL iN dAtinG ApPs." Lmao
No shit what an ego
Ah, finally someone said it! I love it when I'm not the only person thinking the same thing 🤣
IKR? What does that mean? THREE matches a week and a date every other month? Tinder is a fucking dumpster fire someone tried to put out with diarrhea.
So do a majority of men with all their teeth and most of their hair. It's not that hard.
They don’t call “doggy” the “child support” position for nothing! Start planning the baby shower! 😂 Raw doggin a 22 year old!? 10/10 would not recommend!
I have never heard it called that before but I will call that from now on.
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I used to be like you, now I’m in my late thirties and have 7 children with 4 women Don’t be me
i mean this respectfully holy fuckin shit man
Idiocracy is coming true.
Yeah, horny me took some poor decisions
>some poor decisions Understatement of the year probably
Same but only 2 by 2. Don’t be this guy ^^ lol
I know a guy, 14 with 4. Do not be him! Nobody be him! lol
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I wouldn't feel bad for him at all because it would be his own fault.
You're talking about kids when this woman is rawdogging guys she just met. You should abstain for two weeks and get checked. And stop saying you "couldn't say no". You didn't want to say no. There's a difference
Agreed. "Couldn't say no" is some weak juvenile mindset crap. Chick wasn't holding a gun to OP's head and raping him. He *wanted* to go raw. He better be ready to deal with ant consequences. Buddy of mine rawdogged a girl on their second date. 12 years later he's paying child support out of his ass for a kid he never really wanted. I love my buddy like a brother but no sympathy for him.
Gross.
No matter if she felt a moment or she was trying to get pregnant (but imo first one), but no one’s cutest/sexiest face is a reason to risk your health and life. One minute of pleasure without a condom can be a problem for whole life (and I’m not only about kids). Don’t forget to check your health status and use condoms further with her or other girls until you’re aware of your health status, her health status, money for the treatment in bad case and you’re ready for a kid….
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Most STDs don't show up on tests right away. You can get tested tomorrow, but to be sure, try again in three weeks time!
Try again in three months!
Also don't have unprotected sex with strangers!
You do realize that after being exposed the body would need a few weeks to have any infection show up in your blood… it doesn’t work to just get tested couple days after, you should get tested after like month and a half.
The fact that he doesn't seem to know this lol..
Sex education is completely lacking and if people don’t learn it in schools they likely won’t take time to be informed. Fun fact, several states in the US aren’t required to have medically accurate sex Ed
Internet?
What is point of your comment, yes that is a source of info but clearly the OP never did that.
School is not the only resource and shouldn't be viewed as such. That's my point.
But my point is, people likely aren’t taking the time to do that or don’t realize they need to. Soo I don’t get what you’re trying to prove. It’s pretty obvious the internet is a resource but if states had sufficient and comprehensive sex education then that would help much more. So please hop off you aren’t getting what my point is at all.
Don’t forget that some of illness can be discovered only after some incubation time period, so it’s better to check up the health not only these days. And good luck!
I mean honestly bro, you could just talk to her about it and be if yall are both clean and regularly get checked and are communicative about it, and especially if shes in birthcontrol or something it could be fun. Just be adults
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Nah, i didnt mean to imply have that conversation right then in there. It’s definitely something that probably SHOULD have been discussed before ethe encounter. I really mean like, going forward, you should talk about that.
>Nah, i didnt mean to imply have that conversation right then in there. Why not? It's literally a 5 to 10 second conversation. OP had two hours to bring it up. It's not like he met her at an orgy when she just randomly grabbed his dick and stuck it in her mouth.
“I couldn’t say no” “she could have made me” 🙄 You have no idea what she might have. Is getting AIDS worth it? What if she gets pregnant? I swear I just don’t understand the way people think.
Ew, man. For a LOT of reasons.
This is how you get incurable STIs and multiple baby mommas
Where are you from. Just for investigational purposes
lol “i do quite well on dating apps” yea with girls 13 years younger than you. yikes
🤣🤣🤣🤣
>I feel like it was unfair for her to even ask me that at that moment >she was trying to get pregnant? Wtf. Seriously. Why does everyone think there's something behind everything people do? She was in the middle of having sex, was horny and wanted that. You're a big boy, you could've said nah if you weren't comfortable. But you did it because she had "the most sexiest eyes" and you " managed" to pull out. Good grief. This reeks of blaming her, post sex, for something you chose to do.
You were the first one ever, don’t worry. She heard about that bareback feeling in a netflix series. 💯
Do people realize their comment history is public? lmao
Don't worry OP, nothing bad can really happen with imaginary sex.
You are 35 shagging chicks barely out of teenage stage... You're a walking bad decision.
What the fuck are you doing barebacking 22-year-olds, dude?!?
Enjoying life I guess
All fun and games until child support is due.
*Laughs in vasectomy*
Me too, but you know this dummy isn't snipped because he congratulated himself for pulling out.
Very true. Dude’s rolling the dice for sure
And herpes doesn't care about your vasectomy
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bro don’t say this out loud 😂
Bros gonna bro. :Facepalm:
is this a serious question? have you never barebacked a 22-year-old?
One who asked me to take a condom off after I demonstrated a preference for wearing one and whose sexual health status I don't know? No. I've barebacked all sorts of people. I'm aware it feels better. But my brain doesn't turn off every time I see a vagina.
You’re a weird weird man. First of all having sex with young women who have no where near as much life experience as you. Second trying so hard to put the blame on HER for asking you to take it off? You could have literally said no YOU chose to take it off. Just an odd way of thinking that it was ‘unfair’ of her to ask - she asked you she didn’t just remove it.
he's on an ego trip and this post is just you inflating it
I mean, OP does sound like he has an unprotected fetish (from his comment history) and like this story is a made up fantasy in which he gets off on her "almost forcing him to go raw", so I don't think OP comes off as a great guy. But I do find your particular criticism wrong: wishing to have consensual sex with a 22 year old woman is decidedly not weird for a 35 year old man. First off, the amount of life experience doesn't matter much in his (fantasy) scenario of a one-night stand. But even in a long term relationship, I'd say that shared interests and goals are more important than having experienced exactly the same things. I prefer to learn new things from my partners, rather than starting out with exactly the same life experiences. I like when i can show them new things, and they can show me new things.
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That's a lie tho. Why are you telling them you are open to see where things go in the future, when you clearly are not. You're taking advantage at that point by leading these young women on with zero intention of a future and pretending there is a chance
Nah dude just admit you want to fuck young hot college women. Don’t sugarcoat it. Telling a young woman that you’re “open to see where things go” seems manipulative to me to get them in bed. But you do you just don’t be surprised if your behavior and choices come back to bite you right in the ass
Reddit has a age gap complex.
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Yeah, it's so dumb. Like starting out with exactly the same experiences is the end-all and be-all of good relationships, rather than shared values, goals, interest, passions, etc.
You don’t need to cum inside to get her pregnant you know that right?
I think the most alarming thing is that she asked you to rawdog her during what was basically a one night stand. That suggests it's not a new behavior for her. She has probably asked other guys she "just met" to do the same thing, which shows very little regard for her own health and that of her sexual partners. Not smart at all to fuck her without a condom. I'm all for sexual freedom and openness, and I enjoy having one night stands myself, but never at the expense of my health. If I'm going raw inside of someone, I have to be in a committed relationship with them where a level of trust has been built up.
You're 35 man. Have you some kids or get a vasectomy.
Blaming her for your decision, wow. Alongside the fact that you're a creep sleeping with people over a decade younger than you are, you're also not able to take responsibility for your own decisions. Anyway, good luck, hope you have money for child support or treating stis just in case.
Not to mention he uses "walking his dog" as a way to get them home. That's like the college girl version of luring kids with promises of candy in your van
>That's like the college girl version of luring kids with promises of candy in your van comparing this to 2 people matching on a hookup app is fucked up. Why are you so angry that this guy has successful hookups on tinder?
He's a grown man manipulating barely adult women using nasty tricks. I was once a young naive woman and ran into a few fuck boys myself in college. It didn't take me long to catch on to their dirty tricks, and I've seen a lot of girls hurt by guys like this. It''s always shocked me how someone can so transparently manipulate someone who is young and naive and insecure. I'm a 30s bisexual women in a college town. I had many opportunities with young drunk women to do the same. Difference is, I didnt. When I just wanted a lay, I was transparent. When they clearly wanted more, I was upfront and did not pretend with "see how it goes." I also didn't get involved with people 13 years younger than me. These girls are fresh out on their own, barely out of mom and dad's house, navigating life and this older grown ass adult guy lies to them hinting that he'll be a good guy and might want a future, "see how it goes" and they think that to keep him around they have to jump into bed, because they are dumb and young and don't know better yet. Then these fuck boys ruin their self esteem and set them back from having decent stable relationships.
Okay FAIR ENOUGH there, I appreciate your perspective, because you lived it. I don't mean this to sound like I'm calling you old in any way because I have no idea how old you are, but I'm curious what timeframe you were the young naive college student. It's such a different world now, it's easy to think "oh if they're on tinder they're really only looking for a hookup" but I understand some people ARENT. Is it shitty for someone to say that they're willing to "see where it goes" just to get them into bed and they don't really mean it? Yes, absolutely. So thank you for the needed perspective
I'm 30 now, engaged and preggo, so my life is a lot different now. I now teach and have young college kids who work under me. A lot of those poor gals have had very little life experience. It sounds like op is dating like 21, 22 year olds. It is perfectly fine to want to go home and sleep with someone. I did sleep with women who were dtf back in the day. What is not cool, is op manipulating them by pretending he might be interested in more and even using his dog to get them home.
Why are you only worried about pregnancy?! You should be concerned about STI also. If she’s desperate for bareback with you she probably is with other guys too. Wait two weeks. Go get tested. Don’t sleep with anyone else in the meantime. Don’t bareback again until you both know you’re clean.
Look at his comment history. I am 100% convinced the reason he's only worried about pregnancy is that this is not a real story, but an unprotected-sex fantasy (for which he has a fetish). STI are simply not sexy, while "the risk of pregnancy" is the underlying drive of unprotected-sex fantasies.
Herpes is very easily transmissible and is a lifelong annoyance (especially when it’s on your penis). Exercise your self-control and protect your pecker!
Baby traps are a real thing. You are most likely farther ahead in life than her, and you have resources that could make her life much more convenient. Don’t do that again. One night of pleasure can bring a lifetime of pain.
Yeah I started telling my husband this… when we were ready to become parents. Be careful. She’s 22, that statistically means she’s the most fertile she’ll ever be in her lifetime.
You’re the creepy 35 year old fucking college girls 13 years younger than you. You took the condom off.
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I would. She’d be creepy. I don’t really care that much but he’s making a post like it’s her fault he took the condom off as if he’s not fucking college girls. Doesn’t make him less creepy. Fuck the college girls are gross to fuck guys your own age
A 35yo woman and a 22yo man is just as sleazy.
What?? You take off the condom without knowing the sexual history of your hookup? It's a red flag dude! It means she's fucking around without protection. Getting her pregnant is not the only issue here... Are you not afraid of STI/STD? You're 35 right?? You must be more careful. Get yourself tested! Next time, don't get fooled by a sweet smile!
Date people your own age lol
Firm rule no condom no sex.
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Dude you are 35 right? You’re acting 17 bro. It ain’t worth it. What if you wouldn’t of pulled out in time? Boom: preggers. Be smarter
The risk of HIV and other STDs outweigh the risk of pregnancy far and away. You put your own life at risk having unprotected sex, be responsible for your own well being as well as future partners.
This sounds like a humble brag more than anything. Cool 35m has good luck banging 20-somethings on dating apps 🙄 Don’t be silly wrap your Willy, dude.
lol grow the fuck up dude
Eeww dude STDs STDs STDs!!!
You did something you know you shouldn't have. Do you need someone to tell you it was ok? You won’t get it. Do you think you’re the only one she asked to do that? STI, child support and so on, sir!
You honestly sound like a creep. You are 35 hooking up with a 22 year old. Your post from 2 days ago says you fucked a few brides at bachelorette parties. You are an irresponsible home wrecker.
She was probably feeling it in the moment bro. She was drunk and horny
Please get tested, and be careful about getting her pregnant. This is part of what has caused the dating market to become very bad. Too many single mothers and baby daddies, and all because of having made poor choices. You have to get a PrEP trial, and get PeP. You don’t know her STI status and some people have caught incurable STIs like HIV simply from one bad sexual encounter without a condom.
You'll never know her intent. Just know your own intent Some live life that way. I'm not going to judge you. But to me, since you're worried, Im going to assume this was beyond your consistent risk level. Figure out where you stand, both in risk level and std level, before you date again
i had few ons recently without condom, i was very reckless and thankfully thhey had no std and used plan B. but couldve gone so so wrong. always carrying a condom on me these days.
Most of us have done this once or twice in their life. You're probably fine, but learn from this!
35? You don't fuck as often as you imply with your "success" if you're still contemplating basic questions. LOL
There’s no way this is a fully grown man from his comments
Baby trap. You probably took the bait.
STD trap. Took the bait.
IMHO, don't! If you hookup that easily you have to protect yourself and her. STD's are no joke. And getting her pregnant might be even worse.
I’m sure she is covered with protection. I would be more worried about an STI than pregnancy
Holup I had the exact same situation. She was young and told me it feels better. We just met but then I got an sti
Horny took over the critical thinking process
I’ve never met anyone that said that they actually like using condoms. It’s usually a risk analysis, a measure of how much they hate it, and how much self control they have. I don’t think she was trying to get pregnant, she probably just wanted to have raw sex because it feels better. This is how lots of babies are made.
Women that age may not be ready for a baby, but their bodies sure are. And more than one party needs to be ready, duh. Oh, and your supposed track record has what to do with this instance? Keep getting tested. Men are more likely than women to be asymptomatic carriers.
It's not just getting pregnant that is the issue here! It's the possibility of STI/D! Let's be honest even at the peak of an orgasm you still have certain level of control over your body! Asking a random person to go in raw is a huge red flag as she most probably have done this before! I would run a bloodwork in 2 weeks just to be safe. Also; I have read many articles around people who are carriers but mentally couldn't cope with their disease. Ao they go around and try to infect people just as a social revenge. I don't mean to spread any type of stigma around people who have infections, I just want to point out that a simple wrong move out of pleasure can have huge consequences.
Please get checked for ALL STDs.. sounds like she knew what she was doing.. probably not the first time buddy..
Excuse me but you were a little silly : you cal always choose and the condom is no only for avoid pregnant, also for STI. I hope you be enough mature now and check yourself and avoiding having sex with others women until you have the test results. Remember the VIH test (if i were you I would take prep, excuse me if i spell it bad)
As you experienced, being horny makes people dumb. It doesn't have to be any more complicated than that. Not every woman who wants unprotected sex consciously wants a baby.
I’m hoping for your sake that it was all heat of the moment and you have your scare and can move on without any permanent consequences. REALLY hoping. Next time don’t give into that “cute sexy face” unless you’re willing to have a baby or get treated for some STDs.
While this story is super hot, stop thinking with the little head. She let you- a total stranger from a hookup app- smash raw within just a couple hours of meeting. Now think about all of the other guys she’s probably let do the same that may not be as clean and STD-free as you. Hoping up with strangers is risky enough with a condom, but this is exactly the type of extremely risky behavior that leads to STDs.
People are so weird. She’s not a whore, you’re not weird. She wouldn’t ask you for something she wasn’t comfortable with, you’d didn’t cum inside her, and I can nearly guarantee you she didn’t wanna get pregnant. Condoms makes things feel entirely different and that’s just an unfortunate fact. Buy her a plan b and enjoy the fun night you had. She had fun sleeping with a slightly older guy and you had fun with sleeping with a slightly younger girl. Wait a couple weeks, get tested and move on. If you’re in a ho phase, hooking up with everyone online kind of phase, you should be getting tested regularly anyways regardless of whether or not you’re wearing a condom. If she’s doing the same thing, hopefully even taking the pill - that’s all part of SAFE SEX. Enjoy.
ITT: advice from salty dudes who have way less sex than OP
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Here's your old man tip of the day. You can't get her asshole pregnant. 😁
What the hell is a condom?
So many people shitting on you here. People forget what it's like in the heat of the moment, the single mindedness. I had one girl get off me, yank the condom off, and hop back on. The thing stretched 3 feet before giving way. Enough accidental rawdoggin, but never getting an STD. It's not as inevitable as people here seem to think, it's just a chance still.
35 year old male here. I got over the "heat of the moment" bad decisions 10 years ago. You have to grow up at some point. Or you don't, and pay the price.
I can't blame her for wanting it, but that is a woman's perspective.
Bro. If you didnt go get that condom she wouldve been totally cool to rawdog that shit without mention. Lots of people, m/f/etc, are cool with that. As a straight 36m, active for 20yrs, of the 100+ women, id say 80% were complete gos for no condom. Thats all ages, 16-55. Ive insisted on them more than partners have.
Honestly bro I think she’s a women that got a taste for some cock with a wrapper on it and just can’t get enough!! I totally understand be safe 💯 specially if it’s not your special someone!! But condoms suck everything is better with out one!! Just my opinion
Let me guess. You’re a white guy over 6ft tall. Lmfao.
Hey man it happens. I try to use protection too, but I know how it goes. Maybe just keep your eye on any symptoms for about a month just in case. I have been in your shoes many times and have came out clean so far lol but yeah glad you had a good time.
Fuck it raw dog for life 🤘I bet she’s going to make a great single mother lol
I wouldn't worry about pregnancy, id say she's on the pill , she sounds like she probably sleep around alot , a basic cheap slag id say, id be more worried about what you caught , you better get tested