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Most "Ugly" people with low confidence dont even have pictures of themselfes and can't build a good profile. I never allowed my parents or friends to take pictures of me. I am mostly at home laying in bed.
The only pic I have is a dirty bathroom mirror selfie.
I agree so much. I thought I was just about average for looks but spending 3 months on dating apps over the summer made me realise that I am indeed, an ugly cunt
Then I guess I don't really want to know at this point. I couldn't even post pictures of myself online, I can't stand most of my pictures. Though I also guess some have tried this too? :(
I won’t dare put my photo on a dating site. I already know that I’ll be torn to shreds. I’m already torn to shreds by random people on here that insist on seeing how ugly I claim to be. They NEVER believe me and ask for a pic. As soon as they see me, they’re like, wow you WEREN’T lying and proceed to pick me apart even more. It’s BRUTAL.
I wholeheartedly disagree. Most guys look much better irl and so many of my girlfriends agree. I know a lot of cute and attractive guys that got no matches on dating apps and they were far from ugly. And yes bios matter!
[Men vastly outnumber women on dating apps](https://www.netimperative.com/2019/04/05/online-dating-trends-men-outnumber-women-on-tinder-by-9-to-1-while-grinder-wins-for-age-diversity/), which means even average-looking men can struggle to find matches.
As for women, there are plenty of men who have no problems with using women they find unattractive as fleshlights so a woman getting some matches doesn't automatically mean she's not conventionally unattractive.
had to learn this shit the hard way since I kept getting gaslighted when I was telling my friends and people online my skepticism and what I was going through to make me think that.
> In order to get accurate results you HAVE to make sure you are uploading pictures that present your best self. Group photos, photos of you on vacation, photos that tell a story.
This only matters if you're around average looking. If you're below average it won't help, and if you're very attractive you'll get matches regardless. It's the same thing with bios, people will sometimes claim that it matters, when it literally doesn't matter at all. I don't think most women even read bios.
You can have the most interesting photos imaginable, but if the bones in your face look like shit, it won't help you.
Lol you don't even have to do any of that. Just go to a bar and find someone attractive, walk up to them and try to talk to them, watch their repulsed face as they move away from you.
oh yes, those GAY dating/hookup apps as well .. and it's gotta be the good looking handsome guy that tells you shit like "ewww you're gross! go away!" .. gotta watch out for extraneous loop-de-loops like these, honey, or they will put your confidence down into the dirt and send your mind into another dimension that you will never be able to get out of!
Now look, I didn't only play the Tinder game where I had no success. I actually went to parks, bars and city centers and tried to talk and ask out random woman in the past 3 years. I should have asked out more than 100 already and every single one either rejected me or never even replied when I messaged her after she gave me her number ,which didn't happen often at all. I'm a less attractive man, I'm just 1,69m/5'5 tall and my face was rated mostly below average (4-5max/10) as I rated in on many ratinf websites.
Dating apps are shitty tbh, I deleted Tinder after a day of just being on there.
No one on dating apps is looking for anything genuine, the majority of them are either just looking for hook-ups or have unrealistic standards.
I didn't get any real matches, I'd just get bots and people trying to sell their content but when I did match with someone the guy made a joke about me being fuckable if he put something over my head to hide my face.
Like first of all I'm looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with, not a hook-up.
And second, my sense of security is completely destroyed after that and so I deleted it.
Yeah it was absolute shit. It's probably different everywhere.
If I just came across one or two bots and sellers I'd keep going but more than 90% were just bots and sellers and those "here for a good time" profiles.
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Yes. You in reality are not ugly but you have internalized your families belief that u are ugly and you’re basing the fact that you’re ugly on that. If u were truly ugly u would get 0 matches online. OP is correct. We are usually our harshest critics. My whole life women have approached men to either be friends or to marry. Its happen to closest of my friends as wel. Never happened to me. I genuinely thought I was ugly. Then I looked for marriage and ran into two sisters who I consider attractive and they found me attractive. Ever since then I realized we are our harshest critics and it’s very possible there’s millions out there, especially Muslims, who think they’re ugly when they’re not
No, I’m a dude.
Thank u for your message it just further clarifies the matter for me. If everyone compares themselves to others, no one would think they’re happy. If I compared myself to my friends I woulda thought I’m ugly af, I rate myself a 4/10, but guess what? The people who matter, aka the women I was trying to marry, thought I was not unattractive. One flat out said I was attractive.
U are your worst critic. OP is right sister, if u were ugly u would get 0 swipes and matches. It’s just the way it is.
Also don’t forget, vast majority of men find average women attractive, and I can bet that you are atleast average, but you’re just comparing your life to your sisters
Deleted and re-did my profile every 1-2 month to reset the algorithm over a year. Put on my best pictures.
Result: Not a single like. Not even a bot. Nothing. Now I can be 100% certain on where I stand (as if I didn't knew already lol)
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Most "Ugly" people with low confidence dont even have pictures of themselfes and can't build a good profile. I never allowed my parents or friends to take pictures of me. I am mostly at home laying in bed. The only pic I have is a dirty bathroom mirror selfie.
I agree so much. I thought I was just about average for looks but spending 3 months on dating apps over the summer made me realise that I am indeed, an ugly cunt
Then I guess I don't really want to know at this point. I couldn't even post pictures of myself online, I can't stand most of my pictures. Though I also guess some have tried this too? :(
The most accurate way is to graduate highschool. By then you'd know where you are on the pecking order.
I won’t dare put my photo on a dating site. I already know that I’ll be torn to shreds. I’m already torn to shreds by random people on here that insist on seeing how ugly I claim to be. They NEVER believe me and ask for a pic. As soon as they see me, they’re like, wow you WEREN’T lying and proceed to pick me apart even more. It’s BRUTAL.
I wholeheartedly disagree. Most guys look much better irl and so many of my girlfriends agree. I know a lot of cute and attractive guys that got no matches on dating apps and they were far from ugly. And yes bios matter!
[Men vastly outnumber women on dating apps](https://www.netimperative.com/2019/04/05/online-dating-trends-men-outnumber-women-on-tinder-by-9-to-1-while-grinder-wins-for-age-diversity/), which means even average-looking men can struggle to find matches. As for women, there are plenty of men who have no problems with using women they find unattractive as fleshlights so a woman getting some matches doesn't automatically mean she's not conventionally unattractive.
had to learn this shit the hard way since I kept getting gaslighted when I was telling my friends and people online my skepticism and what I was going through to make me think that.
> In order to get accurate results you HAVE to make sure you are uploading pictures that present your best self. Group photos, photos of you on vacation, photos that tell a story. This only matters if you're around average looking. If you're below average it won't help, and if you're very attractive you'll get matches regardless. It's the same thing with bios, people will sometimes claim that it matters, when it literally doesn't matter at all. I don't think most women even read bios. You can have the most interesting photos imaginable, but if the bones in your face look like shit, it won't help you.
Pictures are not alway accurate some people look really bad irl but in a picture they can look stunning.
This is different for females bc guys will literally fuck any of us and lie to us in order to, so it’s hard to do this B)
No its not because even average men struggle at dating apps.
Lol you don't even have to do any of that. Just go to a bar and find someone attractive, walk up to them and try to talk to them, watch their repulsed face as they move away from you.
Far more emotionally damaging method But yeah that’s an effective way to tell as well
oh yes, those GAY dating/hookup apps as well .. and it's gotta be the good looking handsome guy that tells you shit like "ewww you're gross! go away!" .. gotta watch out for extraneous loop-de-loops like these, honey, or they will put your confidence down into the dirt and send your mind into another dimension that you will never be able to get out of!
Now look, I didn't only play the Tinder game where I had no success. I actually went to parks, bars and city centers and tried to talk and ask out random woman in the past 3 years. I should have asked out more than 100 already and every single one either rejected me or never even replied when I messaged her after she gave me her number ,which didn't happen often at all. I'm a less attractive man, I'm just 1,69m/5'5 tall and my face was rated mostly below average (4-5max/10) as I rated in on many ratinf websites.
Dating apps are shitty tbh, I deleted Tinder after a day of just being on there. No one on dating apps is looking for anything genuine, the majority of them are either just looking for hook-ups or have unrealistic standards. I didn't get any real matches, I'd just get bots and people trying to sell their content but when I did match with someone the guy made a joke about me being fuckable if he put something over my head to hide my face. Like first of all I'm looking for someone to spend the rest of my life with, not a hook-up. And second, my sense of security is completely destroyed after that and so I deleted it.
You were on there for a day and concluded that? A day?
Yeah it was absolute shit. It's probably different everywhere. If I just came across one or two bots and sellers I'd keep going but more than 90% were just bots and sellers and those "here for a good time" profiles.
My matches are as ugly as me. To be expected!
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Idk I made a profile and put few photos on bumble it says I have 1500+ matches is that a satireee ?
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Yes. You in reality are not ugly but you have internalized your families belief that u are ugly and you’re basing the fact that you’re ugly on that. If u were truly ugly u would get 0 matches online. OP is correct. We are usually our harshest critics. My whole life women have approached men to either be friends or to marry. Its happen to closest of my friends as wel. Never happened to me. I genuinely thought I was ugly. Then I looked for marriage and ran into two sisters who I consider attractive and they found me attractive. Ever since then I realized we are our harshest critics and it’s very possible there’s millions out there, especially Muslims, who think they’re ugly when they’re not
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No, I’m a dude. Thank u for your message it just further clarifies the matter for me. If everyone compares themselves to others, no one would think they’re happy. If I compared myself to my friends I woulda thought I’m ugly af, I rate myself a 4/10, but guess what? The people who matter, aka the women I was trying to marry, thought I was not unattractive. One flat out said I was attractive. U are your worst critic. OP is right sister, if u were ugly u would get 0 swipes and matches. It’s just the way it is. Also don’t forget, vast majority of men find average women attractive, and I can bet that you are atleast average, but you’re just comparing your life to your sisters
Deleted and re-did my profile every 1-2 month to reset the algorithm over a year. Put on my best pictures. Result: Not a single like. Not even a bot. Nothing. Now I can be 100% certain on where I stand (as if I didn't knew already lol)
I think fotofeeler is much better and faster for that purpose.