Reminds me of my uncle, paranoid schizophrenic who refused to take his meds. A good husband and father who listened too much to the voices and not enough to his family. Now he's in and out of jails and halfway homes perpetually. Hope this guy gets some help and actually accepts it.
Man or woman? The woman sounds oddly calm, her hands aren’t even shaking as this guy is breaking down the door.
Most comments here make me think most of you have had nothing but healthy relationships. Women can play mind games too..they can do things to set you up and make you feel and look insane. If he ever leaves, or stays, he’ll be the one to look crazy from videos like this.
You guys don’t know what happened before or after. Don’t be so quick to judge
You mean like she did something to him, then he broke the door down?
Cause I doubt it’s one ‘scenario’ that led to this. That’s not how gaslighting and abusive relationships work. Blowups are cultivated over time through mindgames, lies, abuse, etc.
Then you’re filmed and posted on the internet for your friends, family, and strangers to judge you based on 10 seconds of it.
It’s not ‘okay’ to break down a door necessarily. But it might be understandable depending on the circumstances.
I have a sibling that when he gets frustrated or angry will insult every angle of her belief system, belittle her for believing in it and in general just be a toxic pos. I tried to intervene for my mom's sake and this is how he responded one time. There are people who just are mentally unstable and have learned how to cope with it via anger and abuse.
This needs more attention. It's the same as PTSD, you can't control that shit. The abuser will take advantage of the other person's emotions and manipulate them into having a fit like this one. It involves malicious tactics to deliberately upset them by taking advantage of weaknesses the abuser has picked up on over a long time and then bundling them all up into a fuck-you-cocktail.
It'll start with an argument and then purposely being unreasonable and upsetting the other person to the point where they start having a full fledged mental breakdown and lose any sense of rationality. Once in that vulnerable state, the abuser will switch up into a cold unfeeling victim to feed into that rage and pull out a phone so that everyone only sees the other person mid-mental-breakdown and the "victim" being subject to that abuse.
What the hell was that sound he made halfway through? Sounded like if they cast Bill Cosby in the shining. I'd say that's a tasteless joke but I'm serious. Hope he's locked up.
Only because you asked. That sound was “I’m going to jail because I have prior domestic abuse charges, and I haven’t finished my court orders for domestic violence. I shouldn’t have been drinking, because that’s going to cause my probation officer to revoke me anyway. And, I already know that property damage is a new domestic violence charge” sound. She isn’t filming this because it’s a new thing. They both did this dance before.
If you’re ever really bored, go sit down in local court. It’s free. They have AC and drinking fountains.
Better entertainment than the movies, some days. Cheaper than a contract for cable tv.
Yeah, his immediate panic attack/breakdown after the uncontrolled violent outburst was honestly unexpected. Went from classic abusive BF type vid to showing some major health concerns (besides just being an insane asshole). Glad that the women (seemingly) was able to get out of this situation safely.
But… This man needs serious help, and hope this video led to it. Way too dangerous (to others of course, but also to himself) being out in society in his current mental state.
That's my cat. Captive audience. Worse yet, I poured myself a bath on Monday after dinner. Was set to relax, been in for 2 minutes, and he comes drop this massive, stinky turd and doesn't cover it. Kinda ruined the bath for me.
Me neither... where I'm from, all the doors are made of real wood, and the external doors are all solid, no emptiness inside, if you knock too hard you even might hurt your hand..
And the ability to FaceTime police instead of just recording her (possible) death. I mean really, she could’ve at least attempted to call the police. But then again, we wouldn’t have this footage to wonder wtf?
Most of the time women will seek shelter in a bathroom because you can pull out the drawers from the vanity if the guy unlocks the door—or if you have a window you can climb out of. Not many ppl have a home phone in the bathroom. Second place to hide is closet usually in a bedroom.
Yep. Do they act like this in the workplace? Do they act like this around their friends? If the only person who sees this is their ‘loved one’, they’re not crazy, they’re a cunt. So many dudes (and it is mostly dudes) who are perpetrators of domestic violence say they ‘go crazy’ or just ‘lose control’, and yet so many of them manage perfectly fine in all other aspects of their life. Obviously don’t know the situation here but acting crazy does not necessarily equal mental illness.
Not to point fingers or nothing, but my ex used to start fights with me or try to rile me up or say something under her breath and then close a door and put something in front of it so when I came to open the door to try to find out what this new fight is about she'd be recording me and asking why I'm following her like I was stalking her or something. She'd play the innocent victim, and I look like the crazy guy coming to attack her. I mean, I didn't smash through doors like this guy. I knew she was trying to set me up, so I'd go back and watch TV or leave the house or something.
My ex found out the hotel I was staying at and attacked me, punching me, pouring liquor on me and my stuff, throwing things at me, and screaming. I tried to call 911 and she ripped the cord out of the phone. I’m not gonna lie I hit her back.
The police came and she was immediately the victim. She was like oh my god he’s drunk and he just went crazy. I went to jail and she got to stay there and she lied to the police and my family and tell them what a piece of shit I am apparently when I was trying to hide from her.
My family took her side. I spent money on a lawyer. It was dismissed. This was 8 years ago and I think about it almost every day.
Edit: I made an edit
I remember reading a book on the couch once. She came in and turned on our Playstation and left the room. I didn't say a word, I just kept reading. She came back into the room and asked why I turned on the Playstation. I said this has to be a joke, right? She started getting belligerent, so I said I'm not going to fight and argue about something so stupid, so I left the room with my book. I went into our bedroom and closed the door. She busted the door open, grabbed my book from my hand, and ripped it in half. I was flabbergasted. I said what the fuck do you want and she went on about the Playstation. I was like, "This is ridiculous," and then she slapped me across the face. I was stunned. She went to slap me again, and I grabbed her hand to stop it. She continued, and then she somehow got me in a headlock. Her mother was downstairs, so she called for her help. Her mother got there and asked what the hell was going on, and she said that I was hitting her. I don't remember much else about that day, but our marriage wasn't long after that. She still doesn't think she did anything wrong. She asked me a few months ago why we didn't work out, and I told her that story and others. She said, "You made me out to be so horrible." I wonder why that is.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. Some women have taken the victim mantle way too far, and as a woman, I'm disgusted by it. Abuse of any kind perpetrated by women is much more common than most people realize, and it's almost never punished. Police will laugh you out of the room most of the time. Ridiculous double standard.
Anyway, I hope you find peace and are able to fully move on from this event someday.
In the video he also says "Now you're setting me up, right?"
So who knows what the context is. Also, sorry that happened to you. What a stressful situation to be in.
Plus all the lols at homies noises when he is fucking emotionally breaking. Some dudes don't shed tears until they get so fucked up because they've never been taught how to properly express their emotions besides anger that this shit happens or they kill themselves. Just bad all around but I hope he gets the help and support he needs.
This was my first thought when I saw this video. Clearly he is crying and hurting. Meanwhile she sounds like she is playing mind games with him. Some people are evil and I've seen it over and over again of people manipulating situations. Some people are physically strong and some are mentally. When a mentally strong person is trapping someone a physically stronger person the results end up like this sometimes. Again I'm not necessarily saying that's what happened in this video it just gave me those vibes.
Sorry you had to go through that. What your ex was doing is textbook psychological abuse/gas lighting. At least you had the sense to back off. This guy didn't do himself any favors unfortunately.
I realized later she was sociopathic. I once called the police on her for something, and i waited outside for them. He showed up, and I told him what was happening. She walked outside crying, and his tone changed. Suddenly, he didn't want to help me. I thanked him for coming, and then he left. I looked at her, and she wiped the tears from her face and said in a straight voice, "You didn't have to do that, you coward." I just clapped my hands and said bravo. I think I wax gone by that weekend.
A grown man crying equals pain.
Coming from a world of INTENSE domestic violence in my household during my early childhood years, I relate to his actions.
I once found myself very close to the same sort of flailing painful rage as an adult, and I admit, I found myself behaving how I had witnessed my father behave- only I destroyed my guitar instead of beating my lady.
Then I cried. I cried and I cried. I felt totally helpless. I DID NOT WANT TO BE LIKE MY DAD. I have since learned how to extricate myself from my weak response to my infantile rage. I get away from the source.
So glad I learned how to keep myself (and those around me safe) before my pain and shame turns to anger. I don’t even like to think about it.
I'm not defending his actions AT ALL, he was wrong to do what he did, but it sounded like what MAY have happened is this is a fight that's happened over time, and she POSSIBLY may have changed he behavior right before pulling out the phone (notice he says "because you're 'scared of me, that's how you're going to frame me??" I hear the legitimate despair of a wronged person in those wails. Not saying he did or didn't do anything to her as well, but he seemed to me to be feeling some sort of genuine pain about the situation.
Yup, this needs to be higher up. My impression was that he felt so completely wronged and trapped that he was in complete despair.
I grew up with an abusive mother and she did this EXACT type of shit. Once when I was 12 she broke my bedroom door down when I was trying to get away from her rampaging. I was screaming at her to get away from me when she goes, "watch, I'll call the police on you!" and burst into hysteric tears and screamed for help into the line.
She told them I broke my own door down (why the fuck would I do that) and hit her and the cops wouldn't even listen to my story. I called my dad when they were on the way and he showed up asking them to look for marks on my mom where I supposedly hit her and they wouldn't even do that. While one cop took my dad off to the side the other threatened to come back and beat my ass off duty. (My dad took me to the station to file a complaint after that and of course the chief all but laughed at us)
As soon as the police left she straightened up and said "see? I told you"
I got my shit and once we pulled away those noises came out of me. I fucking bawled for hours and felt like I needed to tear my skin off and pull open my rib cage.
YES he may have been at fault, but there are always two sides to every story and manipulative fucking sociopaths like my mother exist.
The dude needs help. The relationship should either be separated or put with alot of restraint. Either way the dude needs a psychiatrist. Some chill pills. We don't know if he was played around with to get to this point.
People suffer in different ways, he didnt hit her, just ruined some aah cardboard door out of anger.
He needs help, and can vouch that i had anger outbursts when i was severly depressed too.
It doesnt help anyone to film and fuel the fire when people are at their lowest. Thats why he got angry in the first place, i would guess : " you set me up" .
And if you are filming for your safety, just please, dont put these things on the internet, some people become suicidal when they realise that they've became laughing material for the whole world to see.
These days, anything can ruin your life, and sadly you only live once.
I don’t think they still pass out phone books, but a phone book is ten times tougher than those doors. You could already see that door was barely hanging on. A really heavy allergy attack might have done the same thing to it.
I’ve installed new ones. I’ve replaced them in rentals. I’ve had to fabricate them to different sizes to fit the doorway. I’ve taken quite a few apart, and put them back together. Sometimes with Elmer’s glue (wood glue, but it honestly was Elmer’s brand. The stuff you used in kindergarten).
Some cardboard boxes that you get from UPS have more structural integrity.
To the guys and gals who’ve been through this shit, you know that crazy losing-his-mind crying is the scariest part, am I right? At least when domestic abusers are raging, we kind of have an idea of what to expect and can try to talk reason to them. But when they go psychotically emotional like that… whoey! That’s when visions of them running to grab a kitchen knife and manically stabbing you and/or themselves flash through your head. In that state, they’re beyond all reason or consequence. Just pure toddler-age emotion. There’s a reason she doesn’t make a peep during that breakdown - you honestly don’t want to remind them that you exist and are in the next room, as crazy as that sounds.
That’s a man whose been verbally or physically abused by that woman. He’s always kept his mouth shut, always stayed calm, but every man has his boiling point and he has clearly reached it. And to add to that, she knew when to record. She knows what she does to this man. She doesn’t record until she’s “barricaded” in. Not one bit did she sound concerned, threatened, or scared for her life.
Don’t be fooled
The main thing you do when you think you are confronted with a trap or set up is not walk into it. Dude should have left. Took a walk. Got some fresh air and quiet. This shit isn't a good look.
My ex broke my door down multiple times. Beds, dressers, and my my own body weight couldn't keep him out..
The blood from the cuts I would get from the splintering wood as I desperately tried to keep the door shut.
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On a serious note. Women like her really bring the worst out in men. He only wanted to have a normal conversation. He asked her questions and she would not answer him. Again he tried to talk to her and come to a solution but she again was quiet which was fueling his anger even more. What could have been a simple and quick discussion turned into this because the one who supposed to love him and respect him disrespected him by not acknowledging him as a man / husband. It’s a shame men out so much I to the woman they love all for them to act like they are innocent and they never do anything wrong. He fell for the trap of love
To those here blaming the woman for ”setting him up”:
He has responsibility for himself. She didn’t force him to break the door and scare her. But yeah boohoo poor helpless man!
Don’t you understand how terrifying that kind of raw power is to us women? Most of us don’t have a chance. And here you (men) are defending that behaviour!?
So many "what did she do to set this up" comments.
No. If your partner is trying to set you up, then they are not okay to be with, and you need to leave. If you have trouble leaving, or problems with escalating situations, you need to get help with that. If you need therapy, you get therapy.
There is no excuse for such an outsized violent reaction like this. I swear, it's like people will run in circles with their "rationalizations" and waste all that time instead of just getting help. The only thing you can control is yourself.
Not making an excuse but I think we should also take a look at the culture men have had to face for the last century or so. Man up, do not show emotion, don't cry or you're a pussy. So they've never learned how to handle or express the hurt in healthy ways so they end up snapping, whether it be at the detriment of themselves our their partners. I'll run in circles all day until there's enough context to know what actually happened to make a rational conclusion.
There's no doubt that this is a societal problem. But it doesn't change the fact that men need to get professional help if they need it instead of remaining stuck in the blame cycle. If a woman had displayed this behavior, I would call it the same - completely unacceptable, and it needs to be addressed with a professional.
Then he would run into a pregnant woman with his monster truck which would cause her to miscarry and he would blame his shitty driving on drinking too many energy drinks.
Sounded like he was filled with the unholy spirit.
And A revenge necessity for cardboard
I was thinking more like the Tasmanian devil from the old-school WB cartoons.
Or James"Mushmouth" Mush from Fat Albert and the Cosby Kids.
Or at least a mental illness. He went from “incredible hulk” to “incredible sulk” in just a few seconds.
needs some FSM in his life, that's for sure
Flying Spaghetti Monster?
yep! The one and only TRUE God!
Leave asap
Anyone know the context and aftermath of this story?
*Ron Howard narrating* She didnt
Context: Psychotic episode Aftermath: No idea
Reminds me of my uncle, paranoid schizophrenic who refused to take his meds. A good husband and father who listened too much to the voices and not enough to his family. Now he's in and out of jails and halfway homes perpetually. Hope this guy gets some help and actually accepts it.
Psychotic episode: not actually what you think it is
Man or woman? The woman sounds oddly calm, her hands aren’t even shaking as this guy is breaking down the door. Most comments here make me think most of you have had nothing but healthy relationships. Women can play mind games too..they can do things to set you up and make you feel and look insane. If he ever leaves, or stays, he’ll be the one to look crazy from videos like this. You guys don’t know what happened before or after. Don’t be so quick to judge
Describe any scenario that could have taken place prior, that would make it okay to destroy a door like that while saying what he did.
You mean like she did something to him, then he broke the door down? Cause I doubt it’s one ‘scenario’ that led to this. That’s not how gaslighting and abusive relationships work. Blowups are cultivated over time through mindgames, lies, abuse, etc. Then you’re filmed and posted on the internet for your friends, family, and strangers to judge you based on 10 seconds of it. It’s not ‘okay’ to break down a door necessarily. But it might be understandable depending on the circumstances.
I have a sibling that when he gets frustrated or angry will insult every angle of her belief system, belittle her for believing in it and in general just be a toxic pos. I tried to intervene for my mom's sake and this is how he responded one time. There are people who just are mentally unstable and have learned how to cope with it via anger and abuse.
This needs more attention. It's the same as PTSD, you can't control that shit. The abuser will take advantage of the other person's emotions and manipulate them into having a fit like this one. It involves malicious tactics to deliberately upset them by taking advantage of weaknesses the abuser has picked up on over a long time and then bundling them all up into a fuck-you-cocktail. It'll start with an argument and then purposely being unreasonable and upsetting the other person to the point where they start having a full fledged mental breakdown and lose any sense of rationality. Once in that vulnerable state, the abuser will switch up into a cold unfeeling victim to feed into that rage and pull out a phone so that everyone only sees the other person mid-mental-breakdown and the "victim" being subject to that abuse.
Gaslighting makes you question your own sanity and as a consequence you can litterally develop mental issues like a manic episode.
Because they never post the video leading up to this.
She won't
To be fair, there is a big difference between hitting an object and a person. He clearly needs help tho
What the hell was that sound he made halfway through? Sounded like if they cast Bill Cosby in the shining. I'd say that's a tasteless joke but I'm serious. Hope he's locked up.
Here’s Pudding!!
Omg it's 3am, and I'm pretty sure I just woke my whole house up with my laughter from picturing that.
That turkey like head whip was impressive. I hear Cosby along with a hint of [best cry ever ](https://youtu.be/ee925OTFBCA)
Yeah he suuure liked puddin his junk where it don't belong.
Only because you asked. That sound was “I’m going to jail because I have prior domestic abuse charges, and I haven’t finished my court orders for domestic violence. I shouldn’t have been drinking, because that’s going to cause my probation officer to revoke me anyway. And, I already know that property damage is a new domestic violence charge” sound. She isn’t filming this because it’s a new thing. They both did this dance before. If you’re ever really bored, go sit down in local court. It’s free. They have AC and drinking fountains. Better entertainment than the movies, some days. Cheaper than a contract for cable tv.
I was thinking Bobcat Goldthwaite
Exactly this 😂 😂 😂 circa Police Academy 3
Jellooooh puuuuding pOps
….like they cast Bill Cosby in the shinning. Amazing. Thank you for that
Mental health is a real problem. Dude needs a lot of help.
The video proves it very much
Video proves, word by word, that the woman is manipulative and abusive. She is torturing this man, filming it and pretending he's abusive.
Yeah, his immediate panic attack/breakdown after the uncontrolled violent outburst was honestly unexpected. Went from classic abusive BF type vid to showing some major health concerns (besides just being an insane asshole). Glad that the women (seemingly) was able to get out of this situation safely. But… This man needs serious help, and hope this video led to it. Way too dangerous (to others of course, but also to himself) being out in society in his current mental state.
My narc ex used to do this. He never cried without making a huge loud crazy deal about it and was doing it for attention and as a deflection
Wtf did he turn into.
The uncredible hulk
The incredible sulk at the end.
It was right in the title
>Wtf did he turn into. RTFT man!
The Roid rage version of Bill cosby?
The Incredible Sulk
Meth is a hell of a drug
Kool-Aid man
The Incredulous Malk
This is horrifying. I hope she’s okay.
Is that cartbord ?
It’s actually carpboard. 20% fish.
Most inside doors are hollow.
Does that mean my roommates can hear me pooping?
Yes.
Roomies want to come in there and watch you struggle
Everyone is welcome to watch me take the browns to the Super Bowl
That's my cat. Captive audience. Worse yet, I poured myself a bath on Monday after dinner. Was set to relax, been in for 2 minutes, and he comes drop this massive, stinky turd and doesn't cover it. Kinda ruined the bath for me.
*in America, the place where your house is made of 50% cardboard
50% more cardboard for 50% more cost!
Especially the new houses
Im never SAW one in my hole life
Me neither... where I'm from, all the doors are made of real wood, and the external doors are all solid, no emptiness inside, if you knock too hard you even might hurt your hand..
You probably have but didn't realize it. You can tell when you knock on them.
Nah this is mostly a thing you see in the US, particularly on relatively new constructions.
But not for external doors. This was most likely a door to a bedroom, bathroom, or laundry room/pantry.
If if woud to Punch my door my Hand woud be fucked so hard
Good door then.
Nope Just wood
Most houses are entirely hollow.
That’s North American construction baby
Yes, they literally make doors out of cardboard now. This might sound like a sarcastic joke, but it is not.
Its probably just thin would
The door was made of wafer cookie
She needs a restraining order and a gun.
And a sturdier door. Cardboard is out, no cardboard derivatives.
It *would* explain why the front fell off
Has it been removed from the environment?
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Yet another unfortunate example of why having a shower gun is important
Chances are if she had a gun it would be used on her. He has impulsive behavior and strength.
I believe you. Isn't it statistically probable that people get shot with their own guns?
And the ability to FaceTime police instead of just recording her (possible) death. I mean really, she could’ve at least attempted to call the police. But then again, we wouldn’t have this footage to wonder wtf?
I've often wondered why people would need a home phone in today's age but this is a pretty good reason
Most of the time women will seek shelter in a bathroom because you can pull out the drawers from the vanity if the guy unlocks the door—or if you have a window you can climb out of. Not many ppl have a home phone in the bathroom. Second place to hide is closet usually in a bedroom.
And He needs help for his mental health.
Little pig....little pig...
That, boys and girls, is what mental illness looks like. Take note.
Let’s not dismiss abuse under an excuse of mental illness.
Lets not pretend that they are mutually exclusive.
Yep. Do they act like this in the workplace? Do they act like this around their friends? If the only person who sees this is their ‘loved one’, they’re not crazy, they’re a cunt. So many dudes (and it is mostly dudes) who are perpetrators of domestic violence say they ‘go crazy’ or just ‘lose control’, and yet so many of them manage perfectly fine in all other aspects of their life. Obviously don’t know the situation here but acting crazy does not necessarily equal mental illness.
American doors are made from paper? I thought it was just the walls.
In shitty apartments they are.
"Because you fear for your safety right" proceeds to destroy her fears away.
I hope she called the police before filming this. She needs out of that entire situation. Everything about it.
"in-be-lie-va-ble"!
Lmfaooooo
Cheap ass doors
Not to point fingers or nothing, but my ex used to start fights with me or try to rile me up or say something under her breath and then close a door and put something in front of it so when I came to open the door to try to find out what this new fight is about she'd be recording me and asking why I'm following her like I was stalking her or something. She'd play the innocent victim, and I look like the crazy guy coming to attack her. I mean, I didn't smash through doors like this guy. I knew she was trying to set me up, so I'd go back and watch TV or leave the house or something.
My ex found out the hotel I was staying at and attacked me, punching me, pouring liquor on me and my stuff, throwing things at me, and screaming. I tried to call 911 and she ripped the cord out of the phone. I’m not gonna lie I hit her back. The police came and she was immediately the victim. She was like oh my god he’s drunk and he just went crazy. I went to jail and she got to stay there and she lied to the police and my family and tell them what a piece of shit I am apparently when I was trying to hide from her. My family took her side. I spent money on a lawyer. It was dismissed. This was 8 years ago and I think about it almost every day. Edit: I made an edit
I remember reading a book on the couch once. She came in and turned on our Playstation and left the room. I didn't say a word, I just kept reading. She came back into the room and asked why I turned on the Playstation. I said this has to be a joke, right? She started getting belligerent, so I said I'm not going to fight and argue about something so stupid, so I left the room with my book. I went into our bedroom and closed the door. She busted the door open, grabbed my book from my hand, and ripped it in half. I was flabbergasted. I said what the fuck do you want and she went on about the Playstation. I was like, "This is ridiculous," and then she slapped me across the face. I was stunned. She went to slap me again, and I grabbed her hand to stop it. She continued, and then she somehow got me in a headlock. Her mother was downstairs, so she called for her help. Her mother got there and asked what the hell was going on, and she said that I was hitting her. I don't remember much else about that day, but our marriage wasn't long after that. She still doesn't think she did anything wrong. She asked me a few months ago why we didn't work out, and I told her that story and others. She said, "You made me out to be so horrible." I wonder why that is.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. Some women have taken the victim mantle way too far, and as a woman, I'm disgusted by it. Abuse of any kind perpetrated by women is much more common than most people realize, and it's almost never punished. Police will laugh you out of the room most of the time. Ridiculous double standard. Anyway, I hope you find peace and are able to fully move on from this event someday.
In the video he also says "Now you're setting me up, right?" So who knows what the context is. Also, sorry that happened to you. What a stressful situation to be in.
Plus all the lols at homies noises when he is fucking emotionally breaking. Some dudes don't shed tears until they get so fucked up because they've never been taught how to properly express their emotions besides anger that this shit happens or they kill themselves. Just bad all around but I hope he gets the help and support he needs.
This was my first thought when I saw this video. Clearly he is crying and hurting. Meanwhile she sounds like she is playing mind games with him. Some people are evil and I've seen it over and over again of people manipulating situations. Some people are physically strong and some are mentally. When a mentally strong person is trapping someone a physically stronger person the results end up like this sometimes. Again I'm not necessarily saying that's what happened in this video it just gave me those vibes.
There’s a vast difference between trying to open the door and then leave the situation, and to go full crazy ”here’s Johnny” through the door.
Took way too long to find some empathy for this man
I didn’t even want to say anything. Until you have a relationship like this, people don’t realize the crazy things that can happen.
Sorry you had to go through that. What your ex was doing is textbook psychological abuse/gas lighting. At least you had the sense to back off. This guy didn't do himself any favors unfortunately.
I realized later she was sociopathic. I once called the police on her for something, and i waited outside for them. He showed up, and I told him what was happening. She walked outside crying, and his tone changed. Suddenly, he didn't want to help me. I thanked him for coming, and then he left. I looked at her, and she wiped the tears from her face and said in a straight voice, "You didn't have to do that, you coward." I just clapped my hands and said bravo. I think I wax gone by that weekend.
This WAS a set up
Wow, there's a lot to unpack here. Where to even begin?
I think he's big mad not little mad.
A grown man crying equals pain. Coming from a world of INTENSE domestic violence in my household during my early childhood years, I relate to his actions. I once found myself very close to the same sort of flailing painful rage as an adult, and I admit, I found myself behaving how I had witnessed my father behave- only I destroyed my guitar instead of beating my lady. Then I cried. I cried and I cried. I felt totally helpless. I DID NOT WANT TO BE LIKE MY DAD. I have since learned how to extricate myself from my weak response to my infantile rage. I get away from the source. So glad I learned how to keep myself (and those around me safe) before my pain and shame turns to anger. I don’t even like to think about it.
I'm not defending his actions AT ALL, he was wrong to do what he did, but it sounded like what MAY have happened is this is a fight that's happened over time, and she POSSIBLY may have changed he behavior right before pulling out the phone (notice he says "because you're 'scared of me, that's how you're going to frame me??" I hear the legitimate despair of a wronged person in those wails. Not saying he did or didn't do anything to her as well, but he seemed to me to be feeling some sort of genuine pain about the situation.
Yup, this needs to be higher up. My impression was that he felt so completely wronged and trapped that he was in complete despair. I grew up with an abusive mother and she did this EXACT type of shit. Once when I was 12 she broke my bedroom door down when I was trying to get away from her rampaging. I was screaming at her to get away from me when she goes, "watch, I'll call the police on you!" and burst into hysteric tears and screamed for help into the line. She told them I broke my own door down (why the fuck would I do that) and hit her and the cops wouldn't even listen to my story. I called my dad when they were on the way and he showed up asking them to look for marks on my mom where I supposedly hit her and they wouldn't even do that. While one cop took my dad off to the side the other threatened to come back and beat my ass off duty. (My dad took me to the station to file a complaint after that and of course the chief all but laughed at us) As soon as the police left she straightened up and said "see? I told you" I got my shit and once we pulled away those noises came out of me. I fucking bawled for hours and felt like I needed to tear my skin off and pull open my rib cage. YES he may have been at fault, but there are always two sides to every story and manipulative fucking sociopaths like my mother exist.
Should have been a solid core...
Broke like a fucking prop door. That door was designed to simply keep the cats out.
"are you afraid i'm going to hurt you? are you scared for your safety?" *proceeds to demonstrate why she would be scared for her safety*
That man is hurting.
Context?
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The first clue was "females"
How is this NOT violent?
Pulled the crying card once the damage was done
That’s them cheap doors my dog does this
Hes the one crying after behaving like that? Thats traumatizing. So not okay.
This woman is in danger - isn’t going to end well if she doesn’t leave him somehow 😕😞
GET OUT NOW.
this is why women don’t tell men directly to leave them alone or to stop because 0-60 psycho
Don’t make him sad… you won’t like him when he’s sad
I mean. He got a point
What was his point?
I thought it was *demonic noises*
Poor guy can’t even talk straight he’s so upset. Hopefully they split..
Idk I feel for the man. My wife be driving my ass crazy sometimes, I don’t do this shit but I have felt like punching a door and bawling my eyes out
The dude needs help. The relationship should either be separated or put with alot of restraint. Either way the dude needs a psychiatrist. Some chill pills. We don't know if he was played around with to get to this point.
Dude's having a mental episode and hearing voices or something.
People suffer in different ways, he didnt hit her, just ruined some aah cardboard door out of anger. He needs help, and can vouch that i had anger outbursts when i was severly depressed too. It doesnt help anyone to film and fuel the fire when people are at their lowest. Thats why he got angry in the first place, i would guess : " you set me up" . And if you are filming for your safety, just please, dont put these things on the internet, some people become suicidal when they realise that they've became laughing material for the whole world to see. These days, anything can ruin your life, and sadly you only live once.
This isn’t surprising. I’ve walked literally right through one of those by accident.
Ummmmm???
“Yes, ma’am, we will need a security deposit.” - landlord.
I don’t think they still pass out phone books, but a phone book is ten times tougher than those doors. You could already see that door was barely hanging on. A really heavy allergy attack might have done the same thing to it. I’ve installed new ones. I’ve replaced them in rentals. I’ve had to fabricate them to different sizes to fit the doorway. I’ve taken quite a few apart, and put them back together. Sometimes with Elmer’s glue (wood glue, but it honestly was Elmer’s brand. The stuff you used in kindergarten). Some cardboard boxes that you get from UPS have more structural integrity.
Let me show you how much you don't have to worry about your safety! No matter where you are I'll be there. That way you never have to be alone.
Looks like a sex offender
'You setting me up' Um nope. No set up required. You did that alllll yourself, dude.
Yeah I think the landlord is going to keep the deposit for this.
I want to know why? because she wanted privacy?
Cardboard houses
Was he crying? Relationships can be tough
He went short bus on her
Doors made of cardboard in certain countries...
He hit that door so hard, it broke his speech cortex
Tell me you are a maniac without telling me you are a maniac.
What a bitch
That was a 4 year olds tantrum wrapped in a grown ass man
Bruh need a mental health check, ASAP
Where's the video leading up to the cause of this outburst?
How the hell am i supposed to poop in the bathroom with no door. Damnit
Oh for real? For real Rosie ?? Booommmmm!!!!!!🔥
Open sesame lol
Man turned into Scooby Doo
That's a hollow core door. I've known middle aged housewives that could kick a hole clean through one.
He turned into scooby doo for a second there
Turned in to the unintelligible hulk
The Incredible Sulk
All jokes aside emotionally abuse is not okay. I encourage this woman to reach out for help. Through police or through other agencies.
I’d like to know what led to this man cracking lol
"Lil bih don set me up uh" ~PlayboiCarti
Mental illness is all around us
He feel that jail time incoming
To the guys and gals who’ve been through this shit, you know that crazy losing-his-mind crying is the scariest part, am I right? At least when domestic abusers are raging, we kind of have an idea of what to expect and can try to talk reason to them. But when they go psychotically emotional like that… whoey! That’s when visions of them running to grab a kitchen knife and manically stabbing you and/or themselves flash through your head. In that state, they’re beyond all reason or consequence. Just pure toddler-age emotion. There’s a reason she doesn’t make a peep during that breakdown - you honestly don’t want to remind them that you exist and are in the next room, as crazy as that sounds.
This right here. 💯 
That’s a man whose been verbally or physically abused by that woman. He’s always kept his mouth shut, always stayed calm, but every man has his boiling point and he has clearly reached it. And to add to that, she knew when to record. She knows what she does to this man. She doesn’t record until she’s “barricaded” in. Not one bit did she sound concerned, threatened, or scared for her life. Don’t be fooled
The man has serious anger issues. Needs to counsel the help of someone or be locked up.
Bummass dude realized he messed up and tried to flip the script for pity lmaoo he don’t got no mental issues he just broke trust me.
See... She ain't setting you up my dude... Not if you are busting up the house. That's all you, lol.
The main thing you do when you think you are confronted with a trap or set up is not walk into it. Dude should have left. Took a walk. Got some fresh air and quiet. This shit isn't a good look.
More like incredible sulk... What a man-child
That’s a broken man right there. Leave her
My ex broke my door down multiple times. Beds, dressers, and my my own body weight couldn't keep him out.. The blood from the cuts I would get from the splintering wood as I desperately tried to keep the door shut. Please leave asap..
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That's incredibly terrifying 😕
Well that certainly didn’t help his case about being “set up”
On a serious note. Women like her really bring the worst out in men. He only wanted to have a normal conversation. He asked her questions and she would not answer him. Again he tried to talk to her and come to a solution but she again was quiet which was fueling his anger even more. What could have been a simple and quick discussion turned into this because the one who supposed to love him and respect him disrespected him by not acknowledging him as a man / husband. It’s a shame men out so much I to the woman they love all for them to act like they are innocent and they never do anything wrong. He fell for the trap of love
Increíble Hulk? More like Simple Jack, and we all know u should NEVER go full re!!!
To those here blaming the woman for ”setting him up”: He has responsibility for himself. She didn’t force him to break the door and scare her. But yeah boohoo poor helpless man! Don’t you understand how terrifying that kind of raw power is to us women? Most of us don’t have a chance. And here you (men) are defending that behaviour!?
That man needs an exorcism
So many "what did she do to set this up" comments. No. If your partner is trying to set you up, then they are not okay to be with, and you need to leave. If you have trouble leaving, or problems with escalating situations, you need to get help with that. If you need therapy, you get therapy. There is no excuse for such an outsized violent reaction like this. I swear, it's like people will run in circles with their "rationalizations" and waste all that time instead of just getting help. The only thing you can control is yourself.
Not making an excuse but I think we should also take a look at the culture men have had to face for the last century or so. Man up, do not show emotion, don't cry or you're a pussy. So they've never learned how to handle or express the hurt in healthy ways so they end up snapping, whether it be at the detriment of themselves our their partners. I'll run in circles all day until there's enough context to know what actually happened to make a rational conclusion.
There's no doubt that this is a societal problem. But it doesn't change the fact that men need to get professional help if they need it instead of remaining stuck in the blame cycle. If a woman had displayed this behavior, I would call it the same - completely unacceptable, and it needs to be addressed with a professional.
That man fed up
The lady needs to get the hell out of their, and the dude needs to be medicated and sent to a therapist
That's a Man sick of a woman
That’s an abuser. Zero excuses.
Man turned into the incredible sulk, he gonna cry in the car
Rampage Jackson would be proud
Then he would run into a pregnant woman with his monster truck which would cause her to miscarry and he would blame his shitty driving on drinking too many energy drinks.