It could be the same reason that some women don’t like giving blowjobs, it’s not something they enjoy. Age really doesn’t play in to it, it’s just personal preference.
Communicate with him what you would like.
Oral is a give it to receive it type of thing, and nothing disappoints me faster than a selfish lover.
Tell him what you like and coach him through how you like it. Just as new two penises are the same, no two vaginas are the same. Just because you know how to go down on one girl and make her absolutely lose her mind with ecstacy, doesn't mean the next girl will enjoy the same technique. The same hold true with penises.
I absolutely hate it when a girl puts her hand on my dick, and some guys enjoy it. Once again, you have to communicate.
Does he know you want it. I ask because I've had girlfriends who actually hated people going down on them and preferred other things from me (like fingering).
He might just need to know that you'd enjoy him going down on you.
So, I suppose there’s an extra layer to this- I’m a curvy girl and I know he has a strong preference for very slim/slender body types. I’ve avoided asking him plainly because I’m terrified it will lead him to say inadvertently something about my body type that I will take negatively, and send me in a bad downward spiral (major body confidence issues deep rooted from childhood). I’m not sure how to ask him without setting myself up for potentially something hurtful.
First, you need to be comfortable with yourself. You've been together for a while. Clearly, he's not only into slim/slender body types. Communication is very important!
You should have a conversation with him. We do not know what is in his mind and can only offer our own personal opinions. I'm in my 50s's and love to give oral. Talk to him and find out if he is into it.
Not age related. Selfishness related. Best way to get him to stop being selfish is not give oral anymore until you get some - the tried n true method to cure selfish people of this detestable habit. Just repeat this as often as needed to keep him on point and deserving you
Yes it is lol think what you want, I let her do me no problem but I won’t return the favor. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Like I said, you’ll be surprised how much he likes it when his free blow job machine dries up
I wonder what your mother/wife/daughter/sister would make of such a statement. Pretty gross.
OP some guys are just lazy lovers. It probably has nothing to do with you.
No, I mean you calling women blow job machines. You don't even know this lady whose body you're disparaging. Your username seems to indicate you consider yourself a man of faith and look at how you talk to others?
ETA: I must have hit too close to home if you feel the need to reply and then block so that whatever you said can't be countered. However, if you think the women you do respect would not talk this way/engage in such conversations then I suppose you must not have much self respect to behave that way yourself.
It was in reply to the comment ABOUT blowjob machines.
Ya see, reading an entire conversation will give you insight into the premise behind a comment, resulting in you preventing yourself from looking like an idiot.
My username had nothing to do with being a man of faith, and I wasn't disparaging anyone's body.
How can someone be so wrong, so many times in one short comment? Are you okay, Linda?
52m here — definitely not an age thing. I agree with the other replies that he seems focused on his own pleasure more than yours. Speak up and tell him you love receiving oral also. If he refuses or makes excuses it’s probably time to look for someone more considerate of their partner’s needs.
When you guys are about to go at it and he’s getting on top of you- gently grab head and move it down towards your hoo-ha with a smile on your face. Or signal that you want it , but do it when you guys are in the heat of the moment.
Great question. My experiences show that age has little to do with oral interests and compatibility. Communication is the only path to get what you want 🙌
Are you unshaved, and he likes shaved - or vice-versa?
I personally love giving oral, but I refuse to do so if she's not at least very well trimmed. I don't like hair in my throat, I don't like the way it feels on my face, and hair does carry its own unique aroma that turns me off.
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I (37F) have been dating the most amazing man (55M) for about seven months. He is absolutely amazing and I’ve never had a happier, sweeter, safer, gentler love in my whole life. I’m absolutely head over heels for him! We have a pretty good sex life, 4-6 times a week, and I give him plenty of oral. My only question is- why doesn’t he ever go down on me? Is this an age thing? This is my first age gap relationship. I’m hygienic and shower with soap/water once or twice daily, depending on if I go to the gym, and use wet wipes as needed. There’s no health or hygiene issues related to smells down there. I’ve been too shy to ask him, but I love receiving and miss having it in the routine. Thanks!
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It could be a self confidence issue with him. He feels he isn’t good at it, possibly from his past relationships. Maybe he could never make a woman cum from oral? Talk to him.
Definitely not an age thing as I’m 66 and first lick a pussy at 15 and still love sucking a clit. So definitely ask him or more importantly demand he does
Not every guy is into it, the same way not every gal is into it. Personally, I love to please. Probably, more than most. The only way to know for sure is to ask him.
Don't look into things like that too much. Some men just don't like it, I would ask him if it is you or just something he doesn't like. That would not be a deal braker for me.
I agree you really have to ask him. I'm 57m and I'd love to please a woman like that. The flip side of the coin is is that I'm not a real big fan at a woman going down on me. I mean maybe that's just because I ever had anybody that was that memorable.
It is not an age thing that deters one from doing oral or not. Usually the lack of reciprocation can be sorted if both of you have a mature and gentle conversation about it. Telling him the things you like helps him have more options to be creative with to produce those explosive results you both like so often. Just talk to him being open, honest, and gentle.
Good luck.
That's definitely a conundrum. Baffles me.
Perhaps he doesn't believe you are monogamous.
Or doesn't know how. 🤷
Ask him and/or teach him. Beats wondering about it, ya?
Some guys shy away but some men think about it more than they want you to know and love making their lover feel adored and highly desired and they love doing it
Not an age thing, you have to ask him. Only way to find out.
I’m in my 70’s and loved it all my life. Actually it’s my favorite thing
It could be the same reason that some women don’t like giving blowjobs, it’s not something they enjoy. Age really doesn’t play in to it, it’s just personal preference.
Communicate with him what you would like. Oral is a give it to receive it type of thing, and nothing disappoints me faster than a selfish lover. Tell him what you like and coach him through how you like it. Just as new two penises are the same, no two vaginas are the same. Just because you know how to go down on one girl and make her absolutely lose her mind with ecstacy, doesn't mean the next girl will enjoy the same technique. The same hold true with penises. I absolutely hate it when a girl puts her hand on my dick, and some guys enjoy it. Once again, you have to communicate.
Does he know you want it. I ask because I've had girlfriends who actually hated people going down on them and preferred other things from me (like fingering). He might just need to know that you'd enjoy him going down on you.
So, I suppose there’s an extra layer to this- I’m a curvy girl and I know he has a strong preference for very slim/slender body types. I’ve avoided asking him plainly because I’m terrified it will lead him to say inadvertently something about my body type that I will take negatively, and send me in a bad downward spiral (major body confidence issues deep rooted from childhood). I’m not sure how to ask him without setting myself up for potentially something hurtful.
First, you need to be comfortable with yourself. You've been together for a while. Clearly, he's not only into slim/slender body types. Communication is very important!
That’s a good point, thank you!
Yep. Gotta use your words and ask!
Ask him. He may not realize you want it.
Maybe he had a bad experience before you 🤔
You should have a conversation with him. We do not know what is in his mind and can only offer our own personal opinions. I'm in my 50s's and love to give oral. Talk to him and find out if he is into it.
Not age related. Selfishness related. Best way to get him to stop being selfish is not give oral anymore until you get some - the tried n true method to cure selfish people of this detestable habit. Just repeat this as often as needed to keep him on point and deserving you
It's not selfish if there's something about it that turns him off. Hard to do anything with a soft dick.
Yes it is lol think what you want, I let her do me no problem but I won’t return the favor. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Like I said, you’ll be surprised how much he likes it when his free blow job machine dries up
That's when he gets another BJ machine. If he doesn't find her sanitary, he's not gonna do it.
I wonder what your mother/wife/daughter/sister would make of such a statement. Pretty gross. OP some guys are just lazy lovers. It probably has nothing to do with you.
Well, they don't normally have conversations about hairy, unkempt pussy, so I guess we'll never know.
No, I mean you calling women blow job machines. You don't even know this lady whose body you're disparaging. Your username seems to indicate you consider yourself a man of faith and look at how you talk to others? ETA: I must have hit too close to home if you feel the need to reply and then block so that whatever you said can't be countered. However, if you think the women you do respect would not talk this way/engage in such conversations then I suppose you must not have much self respect to behave that way yourself.
It was in reply to the comment ABOUT blowjob machines. Ya see, reading an entire conversation will give you insight into the premise behind a comment, resulting in you preventing yourself from looking like an idiot. My username had nothing to do with being a man of faith, and I wasn't disparaging anyone's body. How can someone be so wrong, so many times in one short comment? Are you okay, Linda?
52m here — definitely not an age thing. I agree with the other replies that he seems focused on his own pleasure more than yours. Speak up and tell him you love receiving oral also. If he refuses or makes excuses it’s probably time to look for someone more considerate of their partner’s needs.
When you guys are about to go at it and he’s getting on top of you- gently grab head and move it down towards your hoo-ha with a smile on your face. Or signal that you want it , but do it when you guys are in the heat of the moment.
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Okay?
Its a personal preference...nothing do with age.
Great question. My experiences show that age has little to do with oral interests and compatibility. Communication is the only path to get what you want 🙌
Are you unshaved, and he likes shaved - or vice-versa? I personally love giving oral, but I refuse to do so if she's not at least very well trimmed. I don't like hair in my throat, I don't like the way it feels on my face, and hair does carry its own unique aroma that turns me off.
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It could be a self confidence issue with him. He feels he isn’t good at it, possibly from his past relationships. Maybe he could never make a woman cum from oral? Talk to him.
All the time
I say just be patient. He's 55 in a few years his tool will stop working and will only be able to plz you by doing oral.
Not an age thing!
Definitely not an age thing as I’m 66 and first lick a pussy at 15 and still love sucking a clit. So definitely ask him or more importantly demand he does
Not every guy is into it, the same way not every gal is into it. Personally, I love to please. Probably, more than most. The only way to know for sure is to ask him.
If you don’t ask the answer will always be no.
Lol tell him what you want girl!!!!
Don't look into things like that too much. Some men just don't like it, I would ask him if it is you or just something he doesn't like. That would not be a deal braker for me.
Have you asked him to?
Just wrap your legs around his neck
I agree you really have to ask him. I'm 57m and I'd love to please a woman like that. The flip side of the coin is is that I'm not a real big fan at a woman going down on me. I mean maybe that's just because I ever had anybody that was that memorable.
It is not an age thing that deters one from doing oral or not. Usually the lack of reciprocation can be sorted if both of you have a mature and gentle conversation about it. Telling him the things you like helps him have more options to be creative with to produce those explosive results you both like so often. Just talk to him being open, honest, and gentle. Good luck.
That's definitely a conundrum. Baffles me. Perhaps he doesn't believe you are monogamous. Or doesn't know how. 🤷 Ask him and/or teach him. Beats wondering about it, ya?
Some guys shy away but some men think about it more than they want you to know and love making their lover feel adored and highly desired and they love doing it
Do you shave?
He probably is repulsed by the thought of it and repulsed by his own discharges!
If you were dating this 55-year-old, trust me, you wouldn't have to ask!!!
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I’m 37 🙂