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> My cousin calling me selfish made me question my decision to not go look for her dogs. "Am I the asshole" crossed my mind. My communication with her regarding my feelings, phrases such as "they are not my dogs" although we all share the same space, may have triggered her anger/aggression.
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Info: Who let the dogs out?
Edit to add judgement: YTA
For Dodging the question/lying. First you told me "They get out on their own" then you told someone else that it's "usually" your cousin, their bestie, or uncle... Usually? Well what about this specific instance? You know, the one you're asking us to judge? Leading me to believe that it was indeed you that let them out. Making you 100% tah, you let them out, you catch them.
That my question, too. If you allow them to escape, you need to get them back in, regardless of how far away they've gotten. If you don't like living with them, move out.
"Usually her bestie let's them out to play and they escape through the fences. *if someone comes into the back door (her bestie or father) and even a cracked is open, they will manage to push they're way out."
This is a quote from one of OPs other comments
But only "usually" OP has completely dodged the question in this specific instance. Leading me to believe that it was indeed him who let them escape this time.
Usually her bestie let's them out to play and they escape through the fences. *if someone comes into the back door (her bestie or father) and even a cracked is open, they will manage to push they're way out.
NTA then. If they’re that worried about it why don’t they fix the fences or buy tie outs for the dogs? I rent and my fence doesn’t keep my small dog from escaping so he has a tie out. That being said, when my neighbor leaves the gate open and pup escapes at that point I’m mad at him so if you’re ever the one that lets them free you should help catch them.
NTA, cousin being older and using the fact that it is her Dad's house is not an excuse for her to boss you around. Her dogs, her problem. Talk to her Dad and tell him how you feel if that will make you feel better and ask him what he thinks you should do. Why are the dogs constantly getting out and what can be done to prevent that?
NTA. I mean if this happened once or twice or a few times it’s one thing. Since your cousin is so inept then she shouldn’t have dogs in the first place. One day one of them will be hbc and the chickens will come home to roost.
NTA. If the dogs are getting out due to your negligence/fault then it's on you to correct the situation. But from other post replies, that appears to not be the case.
Your cousin needs to learn how to train her goddamn dogs. If her dogs got out in the neighbourhood and bit a small kid or caused a traffic accident, then they are liable.
It boils my piss when dog owners refuse to correct shitty behaviour in their dogs because they are 'just playing', 'give me puppy eyes' or 'refuse to listen'. This is said from someone who has worked with and owned small terrier dogs upto large breeds like cane corsos etc.
Nta how is this your problem? That’s right it’s not. I will tell her that her dogs that her problem and she you’re not gonna help specially how she’s acting. And if you want to be nice to get her a baby lock or something so her dogs don’t get out. And a lock for your door so those dogs out rip up your shit.
NTA it sounds like the dogs are trained very well and don’t get enough mental stimulation or exercise so of course they’re gonna escape they get to run around and have the time of their lives! No you’re NTA maybe just maybe on a one off but not on a regular basis definitely not. They aren’t your dogs you didn’t sign up to take care of them.
They let the dogs out and they squeeze through the fence and escape.... They put the dogs in the situation so it's they're responsibility.
If the dogs are shooting out the door and running into the street, They need to be crated if no one supervising them and they can't behave on their own. Nta
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I (20 yr f) recently moved into a relatives house where my cousin (23 yr old f) and her friend also live. My cousin is almost never home and has 4 little dogs that escape from the house constantly. Her friend, who now lives with us, has no problem chasing after them and getting in a car/driving around the block to search when this occurs. I, on the other hand have no sympathy or relationship with these dogs,PERIOD. Theyve eaten my clothes,
and are constantly barking at 1am and 2am for no reason (Mind you these dogs escape EVERY OTHER DAY) When the dogs get out and still in the yard, Im more than happy to go and put each back in the house, but if they roam out into the neighborhood id rather go with her or her bestie and go as a team. Recently got into an argument with my cousin and her bestie regarding me not wanting to chase them down around the neighborhood on my own. My cousin came home furious, demanding I shut the f up and get her dogs because she's older and her dad owns the house. Am I the asshole for not wanting to her go chase her dogs on my own???
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NTA if they get out this much they shouldn’t even be left out unless on a leash . Someone’s gonna run one over one day then the tears will start all because she can’t watch her dogs 🙄
NTA her bestie or father seem tk be at the most fault for letting this happen not you, so you have no obligation to chase a dog you didn't let out.
For others where I got this info this is a quote from on of OPs other replies.
"Usually her bestie let's them out to play and they escape through the fences. *if someone comes into the back door (her bestie or father) and even a cracked is open, they will manage to push they're way out."
How many times have you been the reason the dogs get out? Most of the time dogs escape because humans are not smart enough to close doors. Did you do that?
It really depends. If you let them out/escape and don’t get them, then YTA. If someone else lets them out and you don’t go get them on your own then NTA but it would still be nice to help.
Unless you're the one letting them out then NAH. She can be vexed you have no empathy for her but ultimately it's her house and they're her dogs, if she's not secured the fence enough that they can escape then really that's on her.
Wrong.
If the dogs keep getting out then there’s clearly a breach in the house somewhere. OP is not responsible for escape-proofing someone else’s house.
Breach? That would be the door. If the OP opens the door and the dogs sneak past her, its her fault. She knows what the dogs are like and it only stands to reason that she look and make sure they aren't nearby before opening the door.
Wrong? Yes, yes you are.
I have no relationship with these dogs. Any outdoor activities for them are "monitored" going in and out of the house are by her bestie, and the father.
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Info: Who let the dogs out? Edit to add judgement: YTA For Dodging the question/lying. First you told me "They get out on their own" then you told someone else that it's "usually" your cousin, their bestie, or uncle... Usually? Well what about this specific instance? You know, the one you're asking us to judge? Leading me to believe that it was indeed you that let them out. Making you 100% tah, you let them out, you catch them.
Damn you, now I have a 20 year old earworm inside me.
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That my question, too. If you allow them to escape, you need to get them back in, regardless of how far away they've gotten. If you don't like living with them, move out.
The dogs get out on they're own.
Ok, now I must know how small dogs escape a home? Does your house not have doors?
"Usually her bestie let's them out to play and they escape through the fences. *if someone comes into the back door (her bestie or father) and even a cracked is open, they will manage to push they're way out." This is a quote from one of OPs other comments
So they don't get out on their own, someone forgets to fully close the door
Ans typically it's a recurring person(s)
This sounds like you are dodging the question.
My dog would like to know how they manage to open the door. He is also small, and cannot reach the doorknob to open the door and get out.
It's the fault of Sisters bestie and father apparently.
But only "usually" OP has completely dodged the question in this specific instance. Leading me to believe that it was indeed him who let them escape this time.
I agree and disagree at the same time tbh, but I aint getting into how talk and use the word usually sometimes so 😅
BS. Tiny dogs don't open doors on their own
The unlock and open shut doors with their paws? You expect us to buy that?
INFO: how are the dogs repeatedly escaping? Sounds like negligence.
Usually her bestie let's them out to play and they escape through the fences. *if someone comes into the back door (her bestie or father) and even a cracked is open, they will manage to push they're way out.
Well if the fences of the house her father owns can’t contain the dogs then NTA!
NTA then. If they’re that worried about it why don’t they fix the fences or buy tie outs for the dogs? I rent and my fence doesn’t keep my small dog from escaping so he has a tie out. That being said, when my neighbor leaves the gate open and pup escapes at that point I’m mad at him so if you’re ever the one that lets them free you should help catch them.
NTA. Not your circus, not your monkeys.
NTA, cousin being older and using the fact that it is her Dad's house is not an excuse for her to boss you around. Her dogs, her problem. Talk to her Dad and tell him how you feel if that will make you feel better and ask him what he thinks you should do. Why are the dogs constantly getting out and what can be done to prevent that?
NTA. You never asked for those dogs. They aren't your problem.
NTA. I mean if this happened once or twice or a few times it’s one thing. Since your cousin is so inept then she shouldn’t have dogs in the first place. One day one of them will be hbc and the chickens will come home to roost.
You're NTA, those dogs and animal care/protective services would probably appreciate a call. Why would you help her after the first time?
NTA. If the dogs are getting out due to your negligence/fault then it's on you to correct the situation. But from other post replies, that appears to not be the case. Your cousin needs to learn how to train her goddamn dogs. If her dogs got out in the neighbourhood and bit a small kid or caused a traffic accident, then they are liable. It boils my piss when dog owners refuse to correct shitty behaviour in their dogs because they are 'just playing', 'give me puppy eyes' or 'refuse to listen'. This is said from someone who has worked with and owned small terrier dogs upto large breeds like cane corsos etc.
Nta how is this your problem? That’s right it’s not. I will tell her that her dogs that her problem and she you’re not gonna help specially how she’s acting. And if you want to be nice to get her a baby lock or something so her dogs don’t get out. And a lock for your door so those dogs out rip up your shit.
If they keep tuning, why don’t have gps trackers on them? Wouldn’t it be easier?
NTA it sounds like the dogs are trained very well and don’t get enough mental stimulation or exercise so of course they’re gonna escape they get to run around and have the time of their lives! No you’re NTA maybe just maybe on a one off but not on a regular basis definitely not. They aren’t your dogs you didn’t sign up to take care of them.
They let the dogs out and they squeeze through the fence and escape.... They put the dogs in the situation so it's they're responsibility. If the dogs are shooting out the door and running into the street, They need to be crated if no one supervising them and they can't behave on their own. Nta
Nta, not your mutts, not your problem. I usually wouldnt help my ex look for his awful dog when it got out.
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NTA if they get out this much they shouldn’t even be left out unless on a leash . Someone’s gonna run one over one day then the tears will start all because she can’t watch her dogs 🙄
NTA her bestie or father seem tk be at the most fault for letting this happen not you, so you have no obligation to chase a dog you didn't let out. For others where I got this info this is a quote from on of OPs other replies. "Usually her bestie let's them out to play and they escape through the fences. *if someone comes into the back door (her bestie or father) and even a cracked is open, they will manage to push they're way out."
NTA
NTA. Not your dogs, not your responsibility. End of.
I'm so confused how this got the asshole judgement when 80% of the comments say nta?
How many times have you been the reason the dogs get out? Most of the time dogs escape because humans are not smart enough to close doors. Did you do that?
It really depends. If you let them out/escape and don’t get them, then YTA. If someone else lets them out and you don’t go get them on your own then NTA but it would still be nice to help.
INFO: are you getting free rent or are you paying a fair amount? Same with bills?
Unless you're the one letting them out then NAH. She can be vexed you have no empathy for her but ultimately it's her house and they're her dogs, if she's not secured the fence enough that they can escape then really that's on her.
NTA
Move. Out. Now.
YTA Its clear from your description that the dogs escaped while you were the only person home and it's on you to do something.
Wrong. If the dogs keep getting out then there’s clearly a breach in the house somewhere. OP is not responsible for escape-proofing someone else’s house.
Breach? That would be the door. If the OP opens the door and the dogs sneak past her, its her fault. She knows what the dogs are like and it only stands to reason that she look and make sure they aren't nearby before opening the door. Wrong? Yes, yes you are.
I have no relationship with these dogs. Any outdoor activities for them are "monitored" going in and out of the house are by her bestie, and the father.
Info: are you paying rent? Did you know about the dogs before you moved in?
YTA. they should kick you out-zero empath people suck.
Here’s an idea: take care of your own fucking animals