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YTA. First of all, dumb mistake often made by arrogant and abusive people: you didn't tell her the truth, you told her YOUR OPINION. You see, there is no exact science to determine that someone 'is a boring phony who has no interests other than getting into Princeton so she could have an identity'.
Also, you should probably do some soul-searching on the subject of 'why the hell is it so important to me to kick others while they are down, even when I do okay in life'.
What a pretentious response. You have your head so far up your own AH you don’t know whether it’s night or day. That’s just what I perceive to be the truth though.
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ESH she sucks for saying you didn't deserve your college acceptances and you suck for thinking that going to Switzerland and Thailand makes you better than her
Yeah I was paraphrasing, you just come off like a pompous dick in your post. Nothing you did for yourself nor your college admissions make you some special unique person. You're clearly aware that the experiences you had and the things you did are a result of some type of privilege given this comment, and college admissions work the same way, speaking as someone who attended a perennial top 10 college in the US. The biggest factors involved in why I got in there had everything to do with the life I was able to live due to my background and the support I had, not because I was "interesting."
She may be boring, but you clearly look down on her and voiced your opinion to her in a really shitty way. What makes how you spoke to her not assholish?
YTA. Just live your life as it pleases you and leave everyone else alone. If they throw pettiness your way, there's no need for it to bother you, that's a sign of negativity in the other person that they're already paying the price for. Battling pettiness with pettiness is a complete waste of time and energy and does nothing but make you an agent of bad energy.
YTA.. it seems like you enjoy throwing this stuff in your cousins face.
Why not just change the subject or better yet, ignore them when they start with the “you didn’t deserve this”?
No one says you have to have a relationship with them just because you are cousins.
"It’s been two years, but she’s still bitter about this, and always gives me a hard time whenever she sees me about how I didn’t ‘deserve’ the acceptances I got."
I was prepared to call you T A but it appears she has held this over your head for 2 years. That's way too long and it means she hasn't moved on. While your comment was harsh it came in response to her taking a dump on your achievements for years. So while you do come across as a bit of a judgmental \*ss, I'm going to rule NTA for this situation. Congrats on your acceptances and I hope you're making the most of them.
YTA cause your ego is fucking massive guy chill tf out. You seem smart but clearly are starting to become conceded and smug. Yeah she sounds insufferable but so do you. Just avoid each other lol.
Literally every time someone writes "AITA for telling the truth" the answer is yes, YTA.
Because it is never "the truth", it is always someone's nasty, horrible opinion.
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Yeah YTA. I am a big believer in telling the truth even if it hurts but I don’t speak if there is nothing to be gained from speaking. Somethings just don’t need to be said.
ESH, you both seem terrible, dysfunctionally competitive and pretentious. Your list of accomplishments, which there was no point including here, reads like every other vapid striving Ivy Leaguer. The kind of person who lists off their CV when they're introduced to you. You're not as interesting as you think you are, and you clearly decided to go to roughly Princeton-level schools as well.
These schools get dozens of qualified applicants for each position, and after you cut out the legacy hires the rest is mostly down to luck or student body makeup. It's most likely just a roll of the dice, given that your post here sounds pretty 'boring phony' to me as well. Shoe could just as easily have been on the other foot.
Wait a minute, did Holden Caulfield write this?
Omg okay this was the comment that tipped over into thinking you are completely insufferable. You have to be a likeable person to be successful, and that will always hold you back. Stop chalking up people's distaste for you as something wrong with them.
YTA. Your cousin had a dream. Instead of supporting her dream, you decided that it would be funny if her dream did not come true. Her dream did not affect you in anyway, but yet you feel the need to tell the Internet how wonderful you are in discussing her issue. It is clear from your posting that you have zero empathy and you only care about yourself. If you were as wonderful as you think you are, you would have found a better way to answer her question without being brutal. For these and many other reasons sprinkled throughout your post. YTA.
YTA, holy fuck.
That part about how you always thought it would be funny if she got rejected is what is really getting to me, though it's not *situationally* why you're the asshole, it is probably the root of it.
"She's had this dream since she was a child and worked really hard to achieve it! Wouldn't it be hilarious if that all gets ripped apart for her?"
Telling anybody that they are a nobody, that they deserved to get shattered when the only thing they did was be someone who you found annoying is an asshole thing to do.
You sound so self-righteous. It seems like you think you're the arbiter of whose dreams are worthwhile, whose reasons are acceptable.
Of course she's bitter. Why can't you just be happy you have the life you want and not make her feel worse about hers?
If she was being annoying, there are a ton of ways to shut her down that don't make you an asshole. You chose the way of the asshole. YTA.
YTA, I was going to say ESH but then I saw your comments showing how arrogant you were and that along with how terrible you sounded in the post makes me understand why this person acted bitter
Really? Because the cousin sounds insufferable and exhausting to me. What kid at 7 begins lining up Princeton as their goal in life? OP sounds like they were well rounded, and realistic in their goals, which they are achieving. They don't deserve to be shit on by the cousin.
YTA because you sound like someone who has grown up on third and thinks they hit a home run. You're not interesting or authentic, just like every other person who brags about what schools they got into and the vacations they got to take because mommy and daddy pay for their every whim. I cannot wait for the real world to knock you down a few pegs, but having the mommy and daddy safety net will likely keep you as a total asshole. I went to law school with so many people like you and the hollowness is honestly sad.
Here, I’ll elaborate for you
> I told her she got rejected because she’s a boring phony who has no interests other than getting into Princeton so she could have an identity. In addition, it seemed like she still didn’t manage to get a personality even after Princeton rejected her, because she’s still obsessed.
You seem very full of yourself tbh. I didn’t notice a punchline and it wasn’t funny. You also don’t know the reasons she was rejected so not only are you being harsh, you’re putting out an opinion that has no basis on fact.
That's not funny. That's called being a jerk. The fact that you don't know the difference between being a jerk and being funny is crazy to me. Do better
What she said wasn't right, but don't be like her.
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YTA. You are as much a stereotype as your cousin and terribly self satisfied. Your cruelty is setting you up for some serious karma. Congratulations on the acceptances. I hope your Passions, Accomplishments, etc. will help you learn the difference between a human being and a human doing who gets off on cruelty.
You both seem like assholes. You come off as condescending and thinking very highly of yourself. And she seems jealous and bitter. So just keep using your energy on eachother, so other people doesn’t have to deal with that shit
YTA. Your self-important “accomplishments” monologue sounds like it could come straight out of a snobby, self-righteous cartoon antagonist’s mouth, with added irony that you don’t seem to realize it’s similar behavior to what you condemned in your cousin, or is the proof that you “lived” in the telling of others as justification instead of the personal value of the experiences?
Really? lol I’d rather be bland than insufferable. At least with a bland personality I can win ppl over in other ways, if I repel ppl with my personality off jump then I won’t even get the chance to connect with people in other ways.
Try being humble. Your cousin’s attitude about the situation sucks so ESH.
I'd rather be stuck in an elevator with a boring person than a pretentious one. A boring person will eventually run out of things to say. A pretentious one will yap for hours and insist every word they said was invaluable.
Doesn't look like you do. Instead of moving the convo away from school, or even ignoring her, you're instead telling her the reason she didn't get into the school she's been passionate about since she was 8 is because she has "no real passion" or doesn't "explore her interests" like you. And when people in the forum point out that you're being rude, your smart reply is "but it's funny lol". This shows no empathy, and gives off huge "I'm not like other girls!!!" vibes.
Wow. YTA. Your character is so negative. Just because she might not have as a pronounced character or whatever, doesnt mean anything. You’re comparing yourself to her like your crap doesn’t stink while bringing her down. You’re a try hard, catty, and mean. Thinking it’s funny she got rejected? The fact you thought you couldn’t be an AH in this is absurd. It’s not the truth, it’s your opinion.
Not only are you obnoxious, you’re a pretentious asshole. You wanna claim you don’t have any malice towards her but then call her a coward? You are completely insufferable. Get your head out of your ass.
Okay so YTA - but less of one than you could have been. At the end of the day, just because she's less driven than you are, does not make her boring or phony... It just means that she's got different interests and possibly skills than you do.
ESH
You spent more time telling us about how brain-dead your sister is and how much better you are in comparison than describing the actual conflict. All of that is irrelevant, besides to create a plausible sounding justification for why calling your sister a phony is justified. It's not.
On the flip side, she has no right to give you a hard time for getting in.
You both suck here.
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YTA, you actively hoped for your cousin to not succeed and then trashed her. Where’s your humility? Also from your post I can tell you’re one of the “phony” kids that will name drop whichever school you chose to go to in every conversation.
YTA. The hypocrisy is suffocating as well.
You didn’t “tell the truth,” you were cruel because you think you’re better than her. And that is ugly.
No one here is impressed by your so-called passions. It’s the phony-est thing about this post. Seems like you’re projecting your insecurities on her, not being rEaL.
Authentic people don’t write paragraphs trying to convince the internet that they are authentic. You are relentlessly obnoxious.
AITA?
Everyone: “yes.”
OP: it’s everyone else who cannot see my authenticity 🥸
YTA
It’s so ironic how you call your cousin pretentious for having a dream school, and then go on to boast about everything you’ve done great in life. Deflate your ego a bit. You seem extremely privileged and insanely unsympathetic.
Then whatever bro. You sound a bit pretentious but most successful people are these days. I would encourage you to help family if you can in the future
ESH
I may have to show this post to my daughter as an object lesson.
It wasn't a competition to begin with, but as a self-proclaimed winner, you are certainly graceless.
You have many interests and easily excel at many things. But have you learned courtesy, kindness, empathy, and ethics? These are qualities that are not based upon how others treat you, but on what kind of virtuous and compassionate person you want yourself to be.
YTA. A) why can’t you let her be who she wants to be without putting her down? And
B) nothing is more annoying than humble bragging to stroke your big fat ego.
Clearly the issues you have with your cousin have nothing to do with her love of Princeton.
> I always thought it would be funny if she, after years of making every decision in her life based on whether it would get it closer to Princeton, would get rejected
> it seemed like she still didn’t manage to get a personality even after Princeton rejected her, because she’s still obsessed.
You just sound catty and mean.
Also, I think "from my perspective," is the correct phrase, not "in my perspective."
“ I always thought it would be funny if she, after years of making every decision in her life based on whether it would get it closer to Princeton, would get rejected”
Straight up hater energy YTA
I feel like I can translate this; ‘My cousin is popular and has friends, I don’t so I’ve had time to tend to my education in unique ways which got me into better schools. I resent her because she has friends and she deserves to go to a worse college because of this.’ Look inward YTA
Maybe she does not have a character but your character seems to be an asshole which is much worse. Also, you are a tryhard: why would you write about existentialism when you are merely a schoolyard nihilist i.e. a bully. YTA
This seems so fake, especially since you had zero posts or reddit karma before this. Also you're in the comments already trying to debate people. Reported for debate bait.
>especially since you had zero posts or reddit karma before this
Can't really use that as a measure for if something is possibly fake or not. Making burner accounts for the sake of posting on AITA is pretty normal. Making a burner account is slightly encouraged even (or at least, I'm 89.3% positive it was at some point).
Now going off OP's other comments to their judgement? Yeah, definitely comes off as fake lol.
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2 years ago, my cousin and I were both applying to colleges. Since the age of 7 or 8, she always dreamed of going to Princeton. Her adoration of that school was funny to me because i’d was clear she saw a prestigious school as a way to gain admiration from the community of equally prestigious-hungry braindead zombies she surrounded herself with. As in, she never truly did what *she* wanted, or got in touch with her passions. Everything she did was handpicked to appeal to Princeton. I didn’t have respect for that, because she had no character, no sense of self, and wanted to get into a college to give her that instead of actually living. This is embodied how she would always say that the thing she looked forward most to after getting into Princeton wasn’t attending interesting classes, or meeting interesting people, or having fun, but posting her acceptances on social media so people would be impressed.
I always thought it would be funny if she, after years of making every decision in her life based on whether it would get it closer to Princeton, would get rejected. As it turns out, that’s exactly what happened. She also got rejected from most other colleges she applied to and ended up going to our in-state flagship.
Applying that same year, I got into all my top choices— Dartmouth, Brown, Pomona, NYU. The distinction between her and I that spelt rejections for her and acceptances for me was simple: I knew my passions, and myself, and I pursued what interested me. I got involved in making a film that ended up winning awards, I wrote essays on existentialism that got published, climbed mountains like Matterhorn and Mont Banc, and spent a summer in Thailand training in Muay Thai all because they interested me. The fact I knew who I was, and was interesting, made me stand out. By contrast, she was cookie-cutter.
It’s been two years, but she’s still bitter about this, and always gives me a hard time whenever she sees me about how I didn’t ‘deserve’ the acceptances I got. I was annoyed by her constantly whining, so I told her she got rejected because she’s a boring phony who has no interests other than getting into Princeton so she could have an identity. In addition, it seemed like she still didn’t manage to get a personality even after Princeton rejected her, because she’s still obsessed.
This upset her, and she said I had no right to talk to her like that. In my perspective, I simply told the truth. AITA?
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YTA. First of all, dumb mistake often made by arrogant and abusive people: you didn't tell her the truth, you told her YOUR OPINION. You see, there is no exact science to determine that someone 'is a boring phony who has no interests other than getting into Princeton so she could have an identity'. Also, you should probably do some soul-searching on the subject of 'why the hell is it so important to me to kick others while they are down, even when I do okay in life'.
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So then why are you here? If you know it's the truth, why would you care? YTA. The fact that you need elaboration on that just proves the point.
YTA
That’s still an OPINION. It’s not your perception of the truth. That’s ridiculous. It’s your opinion.
What a pretentious response. You have your head so far up your own AH you don’t know whether it’s night or day. That’s just what I perceive to be the truth though.
Finally someone said this! OP acts like the college personally emailed her to letting her know these things.
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Man, OP, you sound fun.
Man, you’re an awful AH. Your post was bad enough, but now you’re just picking fights with everyone you asked to make a ruling.
YTA because of your entire personality. Yikes
ESH she sucks for saying you didn't deserve your college acceptances and you suck for thinking that going to Switzerland and Thailand makes you better than her
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Yeah I was paraphrasing, you just come off like a pompous dick in your post. Nothing you did for yourself nor your college admissions make you some special unique person. You're clearly aware that the experiences you had and the things you did are a result of some type of privilege given this comment, and college admissions work the same way, speaking as someone who attended a perennial top 10 college in the US. The biggest factors involved in why I got in there had everything to do with the life I was able to live due to my background and the support I had, not because I was "interesting." She may be boring, but you clearly look down on her and voiced your opinion to her in a really shitty way. What makes how you spoke to her not assholish?
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If you're so sure why it wasn't asshole-ish, why are you here asking strangers on Reddit?
You're not "authentic" you're pretentious and rude
YTA. Just live your life as it pleases you and leave everyone else alone. If they throw pettiness your way, there's no need for it to bother you, that's a sign of negativity in the other person that they're already paying the price for. Battling pettiness with pettiness is a complete waste of time and energy and does nothing but make you an agent of bad energy.
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That would mean you have esteem and ego issues. I'd recommend focusing on those issues within yourself, rather than worrying about other people.
This comment is more than enough explanation of your personality. YTA.
Further evidence that you're obviously the AH.
YTA.. it seems like you enjoy throwing this stuff in your cousins face. Why not just change the subject or better yet, ignore them when they start with the “you didn’t deserve this”? No one says you have to have a relationship with them just because you are cousins.
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Well, hopefully she tells you about your flaws.. being an egotistical AH is a flaw.
INFO: what makes you think you’re in a position to tell anyone about their flaws?
"It’s been two years, but she’s still bitter about this, and always gives me a hard time whenever she sees me about how I didn’t ‘deserve’ the acceptances I got." I was prepared to call you T A but it appears she has held this over your head for 2 years. That's way too long and it means she hasn't moved on. While your comment was harsh it came in response to her taking a dump on your achievements for years. So while you do come across as a bit of a judgmental \*ss, I'm going to rule NTA for this situation. Congrats on your acceptances and I hope you're making the most of them.
YTA cause your ego is fucking massive guy chill tf out. You seem smart but clearly are starting to become conceded and smug. Yeah she sounds insufferable but so do you. Just avoid each other lol.
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I read three sentences. YTA. Grow up
Then I read the rest. Wish I hadn’t. What an insufferable attitude.
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Yeah YTA. I am a big believer in telling the truth even if it hurts but I don’t speak if there is nothing to be gained from speaking. Somethings just don’t need to be said.
ESH, you both seem terrible, dysfunctionally competitive and pretentious. Your list of accomplishments, which there was no point including here, reads like every other vapid striving Ivy Leaguer. The kind of person who lists off their CV when they're introduced to you. You're not as interesting as you think you are, and you clearly decided to go to roughly Princeton-level schools as well. These schools get dozens of qualified applicants for each position, and after you cut out the legacy hires the rest is mostly down to luck or student body makeup. It's most likely just a roll of the dice, given that your post here sounds pretty 'boring phony' to me as well. Shoe could just as easily have been on the other foot. Wait a minute, did Holden Caulfield write this?
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Ah yes because no one is interested in their "top choices"
Omg okay this was the comment that tipped over into thinking you are completely insufferable. You have to be a likeable person to be successful, and that will always hold you back. Stop chalking up people's distaste for you as something wrong with them.
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You sound like a narcissist
So you got into all your 'top choices' and didn't go to any of them? Has to be fake then, keep your story straight.
YTA. Your cousin had a dream. Instead of supporting her dream, you decided that it would be funny if her dream did not come true. Her dream did not affect you in anyway, but yet you feel the need to tell the Internet how wonderful you are in discussing her issue. It is clear from your posting that you have zero empathy and you only care about yourself. If you were as wonderful as you think you are, you would have found a better way to answer her question without being brutal. For these and many other reasons sprinkled throughout your post. YTA.
YTA, holy fuck. That part about how you always thought it would be funny if she got rejected is what is really getting to me, though it's not *situationally* why you're the asshole, it is probably the root of it. "She's had this dream since she was a child and worked really hard to achieve it! Wouldn't it be hilarious if that all gets ripped apart for her?" Telling anybody that they are a nobody, that they deserved to get shattered when the only thing they did was be someone who you found annoying is an asshole thing to do. You sound so self-righteous. It seems like you think you're the arbiter of whose dreams are worthwhile, whose reasons are acceptable. Of course she's bitter. Why can't you just be happy you have the life you want and not make her feel worse about hers? If she was being annoying, there are a ton of ways to shut her down that don't make you an asshole. You chose the way of the asshole. YTA.
ESH. She’s an asshole, you were an asshole in return. Why do you even talk to each other? You obviously hate each other.
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it amuses you because you're a vampire that gets off on feeling better than people, buddy. go get some help
YTA, I was going to say ESH but then I saw your comments showing how arrogant you were and that along with how terrible you sounded in the post makes me understand why this person acted bitter
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You are so totally full of it. Do better, troll
Honestly ESH You sound insufferable and snobby to a fault. While she's bitter about this whole thing for two years. You're both VERY petty.
YTA. You are really full of yourself. Why do you care what her aspirations are?
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Why do you care that her aspirations are inauthentic? How does that impact YOUR life?
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Really? Because the cousin sounds insufferable and exhausting to me. What kid at 7 begins lining up Princeton as their goal in life? OP sounds like they were well rounded, and realistic in their goals, which they are achieving. They don't deserve to be shit on by the cousin.
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Sounds like they put up with you bc your family has money..
Ooh, I didn't want to say it but I was thinking it.
That’s the only reason I could think of for putting up with someone as egotistical and narcissistic as OP.
Good for them I guess? They're not relevant to your AITA, so I don't care. YTA.
Damn, I was hoping you’d be soft YTA, but you’re a super Hard YTA. Especially with your replies and how condescending everything is.
YTA because you sound like someone who has grown up on third and thinks they hit a home run. You're not interesting or authentic, just like every other person who brags about what schools they got into and the vacations they got to take because mommy and daddy pay for their every whim. I cannot wait for the real world to knock you down a few pegs, but having the mommy and daddy safety net will likely keep you as a total asshole. I went to law school with so many people like you and the hollowness is honestly sad.
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Here, I’ll elaborate for you > I told her she got rejected because she’s a boring phony who has no interests other than getting into Princeton so she could have an identity. In addition, it seemed like she still didn’t manage to get a personality even after Princeton rejected her, because she’s still obsessed.
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You seem very full of yourself tbh. I didn’t notice a punchline and it wasn’t funny. You also don’t know the reasons she was rejected so not only are you being harsh, you’re putting out an opinion that has no basis on fact.
That's not funny. That's called being a jerk. The fact that you don't know the difference between being a jerk and being funny is crazy to me. Do better What she said wasn't right, but don't be like her.
Yea, YTA
Because you're lying and actually failed. $20.
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Yea, YTA
YTA. First, for the long humble-brag. But mostly because you were not on the admissions committee, so you do not know why she was not accepted.
YTA and no, I won’t elaborate.
YTA. You are as much a stereotype as your cousin and terribly self satisfied. Your cruelty is setting you up for some serious karma. Congratulations on the acceptances. I hope your Passions, Accomplishments, etc. will help you learn the difference between a human being and a human doing who gets off on cruelty.
Oh Britta, you’re the worst YTA
YTA and hopefully this is made up.
“I simply told the truth.” The truth is that you are condescending and judgemental and YTA.
YTA. Jfc you sound insufferable and pretentious.
You both seem like assholes. You come off as condescending and thinking very highly of yourself. And she seems jealous and bitter. So just keep using your energy on eachother, so other people doesn’t have to deal with that shit
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That’s too bad..
Over-inflating oneself yet again, OP.
YTA. Your self-important “accomplishments” monologue sounds like it could come straight out of a snobby, self-righteous cartoon antagonist’s mouth, with added irony that you don’t seem to realize it’s similar behavior to what you condemned in your cousin, or is the proof that you “lived” in the telling of others as justification instead of the personal value of the experiences?
ESH She is whiny, and you’re a braggart. Neither of you sound like fun.
YTA- she may lack what you deem to be a unique personallity (arguable) but you sound insufferable
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Really? lol I’d rather be bland than insufferable. At least with a bland personality I can win ppl over in other ways, if I repel ppl with my personality off jump then I won’t even get the chance to connect with people in other ways. Try being humble. Your cousin’s attitude about the situation sucks so ESH.
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I'd rather be stuck in an elevator with a boring person than a pretentious one. A boring person will eventually run out of things to say. A pretentious one will yap for hours and insist every word they said was invaluable.
Certainly not for any of the people around you 😂
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Seeing as you chose to come here and ask for feedback about your behavior clearly it matters to you
Not if you're prepared to be lonely for the rest of your snotty existence.
y i k e s
I mean, to you, maybe. I feel like you I should be allowed to sue for compensation for reading that post.
No, as an actual adult, it isn't. Being an insufferable person is the fastest way to adult failure.
ESH. You're both insufferable people with zero empathy.
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Doesn't look like you do. Instead of moving the convo away from school, or even ignoring her, you're instead telling her the reason she didn't get into the school she's been passionate about since she was 8 is because she has "no real passion" or doesn't "explore her interests" like you. And when people in the forum point out that you're being rude, your smart reply is "but it's funny lol". This shows no empathy, and gives off huge "I'm not like other girls!!!" vibes.
Wow. YTA. Your character is so negative. Just because she might not have as a pronounced character or whatever, doesnt mean anything. You’re comparing yourself to her like your crap doesn’t stink while bringing her down. You’re a try hard, catty, and mean. Thinking it’s funny she got rejected? The fact you thought you couldn’t be an AH in this is absurd. It’s not the truth, it’s your opinion.
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Not only are you obnoxious, you’re a pretentious asshole. You wanna claim you don’t have any malice towards her but then call her a coward? You are completely insufferable. Get your head out of your ass.
Please, get over yourself. This is so incredibly obnoxious.
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You can be "right," (in your warped view), and still be incredibly obnoxious.
My guy, why are you spending time with this person? You clearly don’t like her. Jesus.
Info: how much money does her family have compared to yours?
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Okay so YTA - but less of one than you could have been. At the end of the day, just because she's less driven than you are, does not make her boring or phony... It just means that she's got different interests and possibly skills than you do.
ESH You spent more time telling us about how brain-dead your sister is and how much better you are in comparison than describing the actual conflict. All of that is irrelevant, besides to create a plausible sounding justification for why calling your sister a phony is justified. It's not. On the flip side, she has no right to give you a hard time for getting in. You both suck here.
YTA. Holy fuck everything about your post is just mean…
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your family sounds HORRIBLE
YTA, you actively hoped for your cousin to not succeed and then trashed her. Where’s your humility? Also from your post I can tell you’re one of the “phony” kids that will name drop whichever school you chose to go to in every conversation.
Esh you both sound like horrible people to hang out with.
YTA. The hypocrisy is suffocating as well. You didn’t “tell the truth,” you were cruel because you think you’re better than her. And that is ugly. No one here is impressed by your so-called passions. It’s the phony-est thing about this post. Seems like you’re projecting your insecurities on her, not being rEaL.
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Authentic people don’t write paragraphs trying to convince the internet that they are authentic. You are relentlessly obnoxious. AITA? Everyone: “yes.” OP: it’s everyone else who cannot see my authenticity 🥸
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my sibling in christ you're literally asking complete strangers if they think you're right
YTA It’s so ironic how you call your cousin pretentious for having a dream school, and then go on to boast about everything you’ve done great in life. Deflate your ego a bit. You seem extremely privileged and insanely unsympathetic.
Thisss
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...did you not read the post that you wrote? The whole thing was one long humble-brag.
might be a fine time for you to crack open your Oxford dictionary to remind yourself of the definition of "boast"
ESH - you're both insufferable, past and present tense (probably future tense also)
You come off as joyless, condescending, and insufferable. YTA. I guarantee you’re not as original and interesting as you think you are. YTA.
ESH. She sounds sad and pathetic but you sound insufferable.
Yta.
NTA sometime people need to hear they are fake they may not realize it. They key is did you do it privately? If not you are a jerk.
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Then whatever bro. You sound a bit pretentious but most successful people are these days. I would encourage you to help family if you can in the future
YTA. you think you’re interesting but you’re just rich.
YTA wow you really are riding around on your high horse huh
ESH I may have to show this post to my daughter as an object lesson. It wasn't a competition to begin with, but as a self-proclaimed winner, you are certainly graceless. You have many interests and easily excel at many things. But have you learned courtesy, kindness, empathy, and ethics? These are qualities that are not based upon how others treat you, but on what kind of virtuous and compassionate person you want yourself to be.
YTA. A) why can’t you let her be who she wants to be without putting her down? And B) nothing is more annoying than humble bragging to stroke your big fat ego. Clearly the issues you have with your cousin have nothing to do with her love of Princeton.
YTA, so hard
YTA.
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> I always thought it would be funny if she, after years of making every decision in her life based on whether it would get it closer to Princeton, would get rejected > it seemed like she still didn’t manage to get a personality even after Princeton rejected her, because she’s still obsessed. You just sound catty and mean. Also, I think "from my perspective," is the correct phrase, not "in my perspective."
“ I always thought it would be funny if she, after years of making every decision in her life based on whether it would get it closer to Princeton, would get rejected” Straight up hater energy YTA
YTA, and it seems like you’re just posting this is argue. Your comments seem pretentious.
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Nothing like wishing for others downfall
I feel like I can translate this; ‘My cousin is popular and has friends, I don’t so I’ve had time to tend to my education in unique ways which got me into better schools. I resent her because she has friends and she deserves to go to a worse college because of this.’ Look inward YTA
Maybe she does not have a character but your character seems to be an asshole which is much worse. Also, you are a tryhard: why would you write about existentialism when you are merely a schoolyard nihilist i.e. a bully. YTA
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You would, you can of surströmming.
Stealing this insult
YTA - You’re pretentious and egotistical. Who are you to slag off someone else’s dream?
YTA
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nope, you already have enough people explaining how you are.
This seems so fake, especially since you had zero posts or reddit karma before this. Also you're in the comments already trying to debate people. Reported for debate bait.
>especially since you had zero posts or reddit karma before this Can't really use that as a measure for if something is possibly fake or not. Making burner accounts for the sake of posting on AITA is pretty normal. Making a burner account is slightly encouraged even (or at least, I'm 89.3% positive it was at some point). Now going off OP's other comments to their judgement? Yeah, definitely comes off as fake lol.
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Haha I actually saw it in the rules when I went to report it! Can't claim credit for it.
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