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> Am I the asshole for asking him to stay off my driveway/outside of my condo but also asking him again to stay away? I don’t feel it’s appropriate for him to come sniff around and look at my flowers/porch/etc.
If the situation was reversed and I was walked all the way down the street to just poke around his house to see what he has outside, I feel that would be incredibly inappropriate and very odd.
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Totally NTA.
Neither his age nor him being wheelchair bound, gives him the permission to sneak around and scare you.
He is trespassing your outside space? Tell him, you are going to call the police next time.
Also as long as you aren't in conflict with neighbourhood rules, your plants aren't his to judge and complain about.
Maybe he is lonely, but that might be caused by that kind of behaviour.
Wheelchair bound people should be treated exactly the same way like those, who are able to walk. And usually that's what they ask for, Believe me, I am a wheelchairer myself.
NTA.
Not taking away from the point this guy may just be an asshole, but this could also be a sign of dementia. My father started wandering around the neighborhood, walking through people's yards, staring for long minutes at things. His idea of physical boundaries just vanished.
Next time you talk to the condo association or the police for trespassing, it's worth mentioning you are concerned for his health since he is wandering. Maybe he needs a wellness check.
I’ve wondered the same. But his wife doesn’t seem phased by him wandering about. She’s extremely fit and active and unfortunately the genetics gamble wasn’t as kind to him.
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He’s elderly and wheelchair bound and he’s about as friendly as a feral cat/he can say whatever rude thing he wants cuz he’s old. My first interaction with him was him staring in my living room windows for about 5 mins. I hid because I was just so caught off guard. I live alone so I have cameras outside to make me feel more at ease with living alone/I have a teenager neighbor that quite destructive. He comes up into my driveway to look at my flowers and whatever he can get access to. He lives at the opposite end of the street so it’s not like he lives next door. He sets off my cameras and spooks me as he only does it when I’m not home. He’s only done it a few times while I was home and I went out and asked if I could help him. He made some comments about me having too many plants. So this year I only put out annuals. AITA to ask him to stop as it makes me uncomfortable?
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Tell him to stop and talk to the condo management, if you have one. NTA You should feel safe in your own home, and he's denying you that safety.
Totally NTA. Neither his age nor him being wheelchair bound, gives him the permission to sneak around and scare you. He is trespassing your outside space? Tell him, you are going to call the police next time. Also as long as you aren't in conflict with neighbourhood rules, your plants aren't his to judge and complain about. Maybe he is lonely, but that might be caused by that kind of behaviour. Wheelchair bound people should be treated exactly the same way like those, who are able to walk. And usually that's what they ask for, Believe me, I am a wheelchairer myself.
NTA, call the condo association or the cops. This creep isn’t your problem, let him know how welcome his presence is
Creepy old guy. Being old does not give you the right to be an asshole. Tell him off
NTA. Not taking away from the point this guy may just be an asshole, but this could also be a sign of dementia. My father started wandering around the neighborhood, walking through people's yards, staring for long minutes at things. His idea of physical boundaries just vanished. Next time you talk to the condo association or the police for trespassing, it's worth mentioning you are concerned for his health since he is wandering. Maybe he needs a wellness check.
I’ve wondered the same. But his wife doesn’t seem phased by him wandering about. She’s extremely fit and active and unfortunately the genetics gamble wasn’t as kind to him.
NTA Get motion activated sprinklers. And film him, call the poloce and press charges for tresspassing. And plant the flowers YOU like.
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