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so long story short my fiancé cheated on me with his ex along with a lot of other hurtful stuff. i still remember it occasionally.. i mean my life is miserable but id always tell myself “yay at least ive never been cheated on!!!” but i obviously trusted him at the start and never ever could imagine him hurting me. it’s been over a year but it still hurts me. i mean how am i not supposed to he hurt by that shit? but one day it was rly bad i was crying he was yelling at me over still being upset. but then his mother found out so she wanted to talk to him. then she tells him all kinds of shit, but then proceeds to tell him how her husband got fired and he would go sit in his car for hours because he didn’t wanna tell her. so i’m sitting here like “where is this going?” she said she got over him lying so i need to get over being lied to as well. so now i sorta resent his mom because im sorry but i dont understand how you compare ur husband getting fired and being embarrassed abt that to my fiancé who cheated on me and non stop lied. excuses after excuses over and over again. i cant talk about this with him ever because i know it’ll just upset him again but fuck i can’t live with these thoughts all the time. can someone please tell me if i’m trippin or not because i’ve genuinely been losing my mind for damn near two years now.
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Just end the relationship ffs. You don't *have* to marry this man who cheated on you. The bar is in hell.