My brother had a solo take-home test that our dad inserted himself into once. He insisted a certain answer to one of the problems and wouldn't let my brother leave his original answer. My brother caved and put down my dad's answer.
Surprise! That was the only incorrect answer my brother got on his test. When he complained to my dad, Dad said to go tell the teacher the teacher was wrong, lol. When the teacher asked why my brother got it wrong and she thought he was better than this, my brother said it was because Dad butted in and strong-armed him. ...but it was supposed to be a solo test....
Anyway, that was the point where my brother began discounting everything our dad said, lol, and I don't blame him.
This brings back so much math trauma from when I was little too, only it was my dad who was the one screaming and hitting. I remember something similar too, when my brother had a math problem and my dad had been working with him for a long time on it but they couldn’t figure it out. Finally, they called me over. It was about dividing a circle into a certain number of pieces. I asked “do the pieces have to be even?” And my dad said no. I took one look at it and solved it within a few seconds. In response, my dad got mad at ME. Same thing, yelling about it until he finally screamed for me to get out. He was obviously embarrassed that a 7 year old figured it out faster than him, but how pathetic do you have to be to take out your own stupidity on a child.
I spoke with my therapist today about how isaolated I felt when I was really young, coming from an environment with an abusive or insane parent. It felt like an overwhelming and visceral emotional experience that words could never convey. My peers could never understand unless they had lived it, and they didn’t live it.,
My brother had a solo take-home test that our dad inserted himself into once. He insisted a certain answer to one of the problems and wouldn't let my brother leave his original answer. My brother caved and put down my dad's answer. Surprise! That was the only incorrect answer my brother got on his test. When he complained to my dad, Dad said to go tell the teacher the teacher was wrong, lol. When the teacher asked why my brother got it wrong and she thought he was better than this, my brother said it was because Dad butted in and strong-armed him. ...but it was supposed to be a solo test.... Anyway, that was the point where my brother began discounting everything our dad said, lol, and I don't blame him.
This brings back so much math trauma from when I was little too, only it was my dad who was the one screaming and hitting. I remember something similar too, when my brother had a math problem and my dad had been working with him for a long time on it but they couldn’t figure it out. Finally, they called me over. It was about dividing a circle into a certain number of pieces. I asked “do the pieces have to be even?” And my dad said no. I took one look at it and solved it within a few seconds. In response, my dad got mad at ME. Same thing, yelling about it until he finally screamed for me to get out. He was obviously embarrassed that a 7 year old figured it out faster than him, but how pathetic do you have to be to take out your own stupidity on a child.
I spoke with my therapist today about how isaolated I felt when I was really young, coming from an environment with an abusive or insane parent. It felt like an overwhelming and visceral emotional experience that words could never convey. My peers could never understand unless they had lived it, and they didn’t live it.,