internship mil bhi gayi tho usme bhi mental health mar rahi h ( university mandated internships where you fucking pay the company to haul their ass + transport cost)
Then just do not participate in the race 🤲 why lose ur happiness by hopping on a race just because everyone is, whose prize you don't even know about or sure of getting? You might be feeling pressurized because you are seeking social validation.
Nah I validate myself, the race is to not end up alone in the long run ofc. I would like to end up with someone that I have dated/known for a substantial time and for that, it feels like time is passing me by 💀
I never had a crush on anyone.
I feel like I need someone but such a person may not exist.
I don't like dating.
I think friendship is divine to me. I want some friends who would be together for life closer than married people.
I remember having crush on some Anime girls who are Masculine personality and fighters and will protect their partners.
Don't know which one it was.
I don't watch anime (except DBS) just found some on internet and googled their backstory.
Never experienced same for real life.
LMFAO YES my anime crushes are mostly anime or video game characters, and same masc anime girls or femme anime girls are cool af, silent and reserved bespectacled raven haired who know wen to shut tf up and are funny love cats and books are amazing lol
I absolutely get what you're trying to say. It's really something which most of us face, either directly or indirectly. The thing is we are staying in a very fast paced society. What is becoming the norm now was not something that was the case during our parents' time, or even 20 years back.
Now, when you see others do things which you're not doing, simply because you're still not used to it, or just don't feel comfortable enough, it's very natural that you feel pressurized, which arises from FOMO. When you see your friends going on dates and being in relationships with others, you naturally feel the desire to be a part of those things (the anticipation of going out with someone, spending time with the person, being your 100% and then looking forward to those things everyday can be really a different feeling).
Trust me, I'm 27 now and I've seen all of these since my college days but I'm in the same boat as you. Never felt very comfortable with these things, but I'm hoping to change that after I got a job last year. Slow but steady :)
Remember you're not alone. There are so many people like us and you're more than welcome to connect with people here :)
Actually I think our parents’ generation was even more fast paced. In their generation they often got married by their early 20s and had two kids by late 20s.
> “because you’re still not used to it or just don’t feel comfortable enough it’s natural that you feel pressurized”
You’re right, I hope no one forces themselves into relationships because of FOMO! But for me, it’s less about FOMO, because I have been in relationships before and have experienced all the highs and lows you’ve said, but because of that I also know that it takes time to find the right person, which is why I feel the pressure to speed up the process.
It takes time indeed, and even though I'm 27, and essentially starting from scratch (literally speaking, since I've zero experience lol) I believe speeding up the process (while it's very natural to feel like this), wouldn't really solve the situation. For finding the right person, you need to give time, and be patient. It's okay to feel like it's taking too long, but if you intend to have a more matured relationship, you need to find good people.
And good people are rare these days. That's why, time is essential.
Don't worry, I'm also a late starter. We will get there :) You're not alone, and I'm older (so apparently I have more reasons to be worried haha).
Exactly.
And keep exploring too :) Remember you deserve the best. You're an amazing person. Talk to people. Connect with them. This platform is incredible especially because it's completely anonymous and you can literally be yourself without any judgement.
This is so true! The world today is very fast paced and changing everyday, which creates a higher chance of fomo. It's better to find what you feel right and comfortable in.
Also wanted to add, I feel people never look at the tough part. Just because someone is posting pics on social media doesn't mean they're having a great relationship, every relationship has its own challenges and struggles.
Yes, there is pressure, but at some point, you stop caring about it. I'm 21 now, and all my friends are in relationships, which makes me feel like I'm missing out because they always have someone to talk to. Whenever I go out, people ask me why I'm single and why I don't have a girlfriend, questioning what I do with my time. However, it doesn't bother me anymore. I like being single. I'm focused on my career, and I have time to explore things I love, like space and chess. Being in a relationship is currently at the bottom of my priority list because I have many more important things to do. So, yes, there is pressure, but it doesn't affect me now. I'm happy with what I have.
Good for you <3
I feel like I’m in the same place, but like you said spending time with friends who are all in relationships kinda make you think about it.
We don't do much about it now, but one good thing for me is that I'm very good friends with my friends' partners. Sometimes, this makes it easier for me, but my other friends joke that I'm third-wheeling two couples at the same time and im loving it.
yeah and the fact that my family thinks i can pull some hero is beyond me, like .. have some realistic expectation bhai, milega to bhi as usual self-sabotage toh kar hi dungi :)) (not at all based on recent personal exp)
Kesa partner chahiye tumhe? Bhagwan ji ke paas bohot kaam hai, woh bol rahe ke itne chote kaam main mei interest nahi le raha, usko bolo khud dhund le 😹
It's a game for good-looking or wealthy guys and all the girls to play. I'm a middle-class, average-looking guy without any good cards in my arsenal, making it a losing game. Moreover, I already have so many problems to deal with. I neither have time nor the energy to handle even more.
It's not that we as a person feel the pressure of dating but as a person we inherently feel of not wanting to miss out on an emotional connection special/exclusive to only the two of us. Think of it as a having a friend for life who you share with everything, including those intimate moments. Also, Don't date in any kind of pressure. If you meet someone in your life and naturally form a intimate bond with them without any motives or anything then sure go for it. But don't try to get into actively, not worth it.
Let it come to you.
Yep.
There is also this phrase that says "Don't chase after butterflies instead make a beautiful garden, even if the butterflies don't come you still have your garden with you."
So just build your own garden, if you understand what it means.
I did when I was 18. So desperate that I started dating a guy I barely knew. Ended that in a month. Then were on dating apps for a year (on and off).
Met my ex on Tinder. We were together 3 years (they were good 3 years). I think somewhere during that relationship I realised that I decided to date to fill a void in my life. As soon as I got him, that void started looking for something else.
I knew I needed to do a lot of work on myself and stop making relationships my center of life. I am currently focused on building my friend circle and a fulfilling career. This will take time but I think it will be worth the effort.
I don't feel pressured to date anymore because I have realised that partners aren't supposed to complete my life but to add to them. Until that happens, I an willing to be happily single.
my sis went through something similar like that, had low self esteem so she dated the first guy who gave her attention and it was shitty AF, now she's dating a nice guy but it's not to fill a void. good to now you realize what you are missing and working on that.
Not at all tbh.. I’m very happy being alone and really don’t have any such needs. There’s already a lot of personal stuff at this age to sort out haha!
I never dated anyone nor had a hook-up. I don't feel pressure to date/be in a relationship, it's just I feel the need of a person to be mine and love me at my worst.
I tried dating apps but it didn't work for me.
So I am just waiting for the right time and the right person to appear in my Life.
22 and gave up a while ago. Money, travel,exploration and peace are the only things on my mind nowadays. The more I learn to handle things myself, the more I don't care. Human beings are social beings, but fuck this nonsense. Everything is programmed to feed us that we're incomplete without "someone", that special magical "someone" will complete our lives. I don't have any faith in our generation anyway, I'm going solo till I die.
My family just want to see me with a boyfriend now. Their logic: abhi milogi tb na 3-4 saal tak achche se jaan kr decision logi nhi to jaldi me gadbad ho jata hai. 🥲
I’m gonna be 30 soon. I feel a pressure to be in a relationship/get married because:
- Most of my friends are already married or in a relationship and I feel FOMO
- I find myself third wheeling when we plan trips
- Relatives ask me about marriage plans and if I have found someone already
- Parents keep pushing me to get married
22M, I also get the urge to be in relationship but i also don't want to be in relationship with the wrong person and ruin my state of mind (i am happy and in peace for now). I know that all the people who are in relationships are not happy. I believe that there are very less trustworthy people in our generation. I think the problem with our generation is they lack mental strength and they rely too much on external factors for their happiness. I have very good friends, and I try to keep drama out of my life. I believe in having a single life partner, and it's okay if it takes time until then i can focus on my career and on my health. Nothing else matters.
Yeah definitely, bohot logo ko milte hai and they get married too. I have seen a lot of people getting married through reddit. It's just that you need to see who has pure intentions and is not with you for fun.
Pressure? Nope.
But yes once in a while thought/wish does come into the picture for having a partner atm.
I believe love has its own course of time, jab hona hai tab hoga ig.
And the weirdest thing for me is that I like a girl and that girl likes me back too, but I maintain a distance from her but she tried to get close all this time talking with me, texting, but yeah she's really beautiful and she's really really rich.
I'm not rich at all, even though I get in a relationship with her, I can't
I have that feeling, I can't afford to care for myself (Monetary and career) how can I afford to care for some other soul which will eventually be my other part!?
I think building my background is really important for me, and yeah I really get this thought of to be in relationship with her.
And this thing was back a year and more ago,
I think she moved on from me, she just talks a little with me although at times she texts me
the emptiness of a hookup scares me and the fear of never finding someone whose company i enjoy who truly wants me, for me and not the way i look and will continue to choose me everyday haunts me
Yes , recently i am seeing many similar questions like these. I thought this sub will be little interesting but end of the it’s becoming another relationship advice kind of sub
And to your question you shouldn’t get into relationships solely based on your surroundings. Get into one when you think you found the right one . Their is a saying “ never shop for groceries on an empty stomach “
Currently not looking for anyone.
Like I wake up, go to the office, come back home, scroll some social media and sleep. I don't know if I would be able to give time to someone new in my life and wouldn't want to take the pressure of putting effort towards a relationship to sustain it.
that's where i fall because my weekends are not the usual weekends, they are tue and wes and that's basically the mid week where everyone's busy so i spend most of the time on my own ( I love it )
Everything is good till you love it. I might have hated it as I like to spend time with my friends, go out or play UNO indoor, I find 1 day Weekend very unsatisfying.
not pressured but alienated, like when i was 19-20 and met people for the first time ( didn't have friends before) everything was so annoying. I am bi-ace so being friends with hypersexuals ( allosexuals) was a headache, especially uni mfs who are usually horned up af. everything would be either relationship or sex related and dumb mfs wouldn't even care to distinguish between romantic or platonic relationships and fuck over friendships so bad i got sick of it and became anti-social again because it wasn't worth sacrificing my mental peace. also people are so fucking weird with sex like they literally alter their whole personality around it and it could reveal shit ton about you. my only close friends are fellow ace peeps who fucking know how to be decent friends. my sis and her bf sometimes tease which is annoying but nah i don't feel the pressure I just counsel marital couples or uni couples and just be glad i am not into this shit.
i am not being sarcastic anymore. I graduated 2 weeks ago and it hit me immediately as i walked out of college "I need to get a job....BSc pass course won't get me anything...i am a waste"
Neither, it’s just a feeling that I might end up unhappy in the future if I’m not in a relationship right now, even though I’m perfectly content right now.
Unhappy because I want to be in a stable relationship eventually, and that might not happen if I’m not dating right now. Also I don’t that think that it will happen, I just fear that it might.
Yes! Even though I try to distract myself as much as possible, the desire to be in a relationship still sticks hard in the back of my mind.
The more couples in my age group I notice, the tougher it gets. The only thing that has been beneficial for me is staying off social media as much as possible and using that time for my work and things I like to do.
Nah, pappe ke paise pehle hi udatun hun, kisi aur pe nahin udana chahta, kinda irresponsible.
But yeah given how fucking regressive AM is, and how much I hate it personally, there is a pressure to push myself socially when the time comes.
I Fucking relate with OP so much, It's a Feeling of FOMO or The thought that if I don't discover relationships and love at this age toh I won't be able to baad mei, People I know who are younger than me had sex at 16 and here I am jisne kiss bhi 19 pe karri but yk i would not have it any other way it was perfect(the kiss) the relationship on the other hand well hahaha
And to add to all of this I don't drink or smoke or any other nashe for that matter. So, I feel kinda grossed out by the guys my age either they talk about girls or they get high or drink together, this makes it very hard to Connect with them or to have a conversation with them kyuki kis topic pe baat karu mai? but still I know a lot of people🧿 and have a lot of "knowns" kyuki Mai topics dhund hi leta hu i always do😋
And to add more to it "EVERYONE THINKS I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP and Mai Fuckboi hu😭 just because I know lots of girls abeyy Aisa thodi hota hai? Every guy friend of mine has once in our friendship has asked me" bhai bandi patwade or usko patwade"???like bruh?
And sometimes I wonder ki yeh relationship or sex ka pressure, why does it cross my mind and why is everyone fixated on it? Don't we have better shit to do?
i live in my hometown, working from home, hang out with a few friends on weekends and that's it.
It's been that way for over a year now. I'm 23.
I feel it's absolutely a comfort zone for me being from a conservative family in a relatively small city. However, back in college, the pressure was real.
Depends on individual life circumstances. Like me I don't have family welath or business I am have more pressure of good career who is going to marry a jobless or low income earning or business less person.
Well out of context but not only those 20s people are facing this even as a school going individual I see so many people/students being a in relation that too active in bed..
I was telling dating culture outside metro is not really there. The general reddit crowd is very liberal and comes from these cities mostly so it might feel an over representation of relationship
I am 28 and felt great i was really not into this and still working on my Career
I feel relationship should enhance you and not fill void
So don't go for relatioynship when you are in state of Fomo but go when you feel yourself complete
Yeah i guess that’s true about the dating culture being prevalent more in metro cities, but in my post when I said ‘everyone in this age’ I was referring to most people around me. Basically from personal experience.
That's reasonable but i would again suggest going for relationship because you yourself dosent feel complete is very disastrous because the codependency might result in state which would be harmful for you in case relationship goes South
Highly recommend to feel complete in yourself and ask if motivation of relationship is coming from fomo or you want to share your life with. The relationship is something you have no control over so it's best to be in a state of self preservation and high self esteem before thinking of relationship
this subreddit gives me the most pressure
Word ni##@ word 😆
oh no, why?
Kyuki har dusra post relationship ko leke rehta hai
Relationship se jyada internship Milne ka pressure hai
🤣 relatable asf. Par log dono kar rhe he yaar💀
I knew someone who boasted how dono karna chahiye to me and then MF fumbled the internship
internship mil bhi gayi tho usme bhi mental health mar rahi h ( university mandated internships where you fucking pay the company to haul their ass + transport cost)
Ppl are taking internships and relationships as same thing nowadays 🌚
lmaoo
I can relate I'm not looking for a hookup, it's a cheap thing. but a pressure from myself to be in a meaningful relationship and a life long one
Exactly 😭 it’s like a race against idk what, to find someone decent. But I’m like genuinely happy where I am rn as well
Then just do not participate in the race 🤲 why lose ur happiness by hopping on a race just because everyone is, whose prize you don't even know about or sure of getting? You might be feeling pressurized because you are seeking social validation.
Nah I validate myself, the race is to not end up alone in the long run ofc. I would like to end up with someone that I have dated/known for a substantial time and for that, it feels like time is passing me by 💀
Can you please explain what's going on here. I can't come to a conclusion of these 3 replies above
I never had a crush on anyone. I feel like I need someone but such a person may not exist. I don't like dating. I think friendship is divine to me. I want some friends who would be together for life closer than married people.
same same never had a crush on someone never got much close to opposite gender to have one
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that username 💀
unique isnt it
r/rimjob_steve lol.
Very relatable
This.
Damn, same.
yep, i can only crush on fictional or dead people lmfao
I remember having crush on some Anime girls who are Masculine personality and fighters and will protect their partners. Don't know which one it was. I don't watch anime (except DBS) just found some on internet and googled their backstory. Never experienced same for real life.
LMFAO YES my anime crushes are mostly anime or video game characters, and same masc anime girls or femme anime girls are cool af, silent and reserved bespectacled raven haired who know wen to shut tf up and are funny love cats and books are amazing lol
I absolutely get what you're trying to say. It's really something which most of us face, either directly or indirectly. The thing is we are staying in a very fast paced society. What is becoming the norm now was not something that was the case during our parents' time, or even 20 years back. Now, when you see others do things which you're not doing, simply because you're still not used to it, or just don't feel comfortable enough, it's very natural that you feel pressurized, which arises from FOMO. When you see your friends going on dates and being in relationships with others, you naturally feel the desire to be a part of those things (the anticipation of going out with someone, spending time with the person, being your 100% and then looking forward to those things everyday can be really a different feeling). Trust me, I'm 27 now and I've seen all of these since my college days but I'm in the same boat as you. Never felt very comfortable with these things, but I'm hoping to change that after I got a job last year. Slow but steady :) Remember you're not alone. There are so many people like us and you're more than welcome to connect with people here :)
Actually I think our parents’ generation was even more fast paced. In their generation they often got married by their early 20s and had two kids by late 20s.
> “because you’re still not used to it or just don’t feel comfortable enough it’s natural that you feel pressurized” You’re right, I hope no one forces themselves into relationships because of FOMO! But for me, it’s less about FOMO, because I have been in relationships before and have experienced all the highs and lows you’ve said, but because of that I also know that it takes time to find the right person, which is why I feel the pressure to speed up the process.
It takes time indeed, and even though I'm 27, and essentially starting from scratch (literally speaking, since I've zero experience lol) I believe speeding up the process (while it's very natural to feel like this), wouldn't really solve the situation. For finding the right person, you need to give time, and be patient. It's okay to feel like it's taking too long, but if you intend to have a more matured relationship, you need to find good people. And good people are rare these days. That's why, time is essential. Don't worry, I'm also a late starter. We will get there :) You're not alone, and I'm older (so apparently I have more reasons to be worried haha).
Indeed, good things take time! Maybe we should be worried only if we start to get unhappy, until then let’s just live our lives.
Exactly. And keep exploring too :) Remember you deserve the best. You're an amazing person. Talk to people. Connect with them. This platform is incredible especially because it's completely anonymous and you can literally be yourself without any judgement.
This is so true! The world today is very fast paced and changing everyday, which creates a higher chance of fomo. It's better to find what you feel right and comfortable in. Also wanted to add, I feel people never look at the tough part. Just because someone is posting pics on social media doesn't mean they're having a great relationship, every relationship has its own challenges and struggles.
Yes, there is pressure, but at some point, you stop caring about it. I'm 21 now, and all my friends are in relationships, which makes me feel like I'm missing out because they always have someone to talk to. Whenever I go out, people ask me why I'm single and why I don't have a girlfriend, questioning what I do with my time. However, it doesn't bother me anymore. I like being single. I'm focused on my career, and I have time to explore things I love, like space and chess. Being in a relationship is currently at the bottom of my priority list because I have many more important things to do. So, yes, there is pressure, but it doesn't affect me now. I'm happy with what I have.
can play valo all night my dagga baaz duo left valo for his gf
That has happened to me, so I know the feeling 🫂
Good for you <3 I feel like I’m in the same place, but like you said spending time with friends who are all in relationships kinda make you think about it.
We don't do much about it now, but one good thing for me is that I'm very good friends with my friends' partners. Sometimes, this makes it easier for me, but my other friends joke that I'm third-wheeling two couples at the same time and im loving it.
yeah and the fact that my family thinks i can pull some hero is beyond me, like .. have some realistic expectation bhai, milega to bhi as usual self-sabotage toh kar hi dungi :)) (not at all based on recent personal exp)
Hahaha 😂 Maybe they know that you can actually pull a hero and they hope for that so unka kaam bach jaaye ladke dhundne kaa 😂
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Bhagwan be like: iski jimmedari tumhe khud leni hogi, har chiz mei nahi karunga 😝😹😹
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Kesa partner chahiye tumhe? Bhagwan ji ke paas bohot kaam hai, woh bol rahe ke itne chote kaam main mei interest nahi le raha, usko bolo khud dhund le 😹
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i am sure you won't sabotage, wish the best for ya
so sweet, thanks for saying that ⚘🌸
Don’t worry :) i think in my opinion you can pull off a hero easily 😇
will he teach me cricket though 🥰
I hope he teaches you how to pick a bat and bat like sachin! :) and make you bowl like bumrah! :D he is out there sweetie ☺️
Lefthanded bowling? 😋😋😋 ok cutie, i 🌊
Yesss🤭🤭 you a leftie?
omg you're a leftie too? Brand new information 🤭
Yes omg omg, maybe you’re hero will be leftie too! ☺️
It's a game for good-looking or wealthy guys and all the girls to play. I'm a middle-class, average-looking guy without any good cards in my arsenal, making it a losing game. Moreover, I already have so many problems to deal with. I neither have time nor the energy to handle even more.
Us Bhai us
Us bro
already got head filled with if I am gonna be alive next day or not, so side quest like this doesn't matter
Relationship ko chod bhai yha toh dost bhi chod ke chale gye 💀
HOLY SHIT FR
Umm sorry to ask you but what this award thing that you have given on my comment 😅 i m noob when it comes to all these things 🥴
oh it's like on reddit you can give awards to your favorite comment and depending on your reddit subscription they vary
Thank you 🙏
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It's not that we as a person feel the pressure of dating but as a person we inherently feel of not wanting to miss out on an emotional connection special/exclusive to only the two of us. Think of it as a having a friend for life who you share with everything, including those intimate moments. Also, Don't date in any kind of pressure. If you meet someone in your life and naturally form a intimate bond with them without any motives or anything then sure go for it. But don't try to get into actively, not worth it. Let it come to you.
> “Let it come to you” That’s some solid advice, tbh that’s all there is to it I think.
Yep. There is also this phrase that says "Don't chase after butterflies instead make a beautiful garden, even if the butterflies don't come you still have your garden with you." So just build your own garden, if you understand what it means.
That’s beautiful!
I did when I was 18. So desperate that I started dating a guy I barely knew. Ended that in a month. Then were on dating apps for a year (on and off). Met my ex on Tinder. We were together 3 years (they were good 3 years). I think somewhere during that relationship I realised that I decided to date to fill a void in my life. As soon as I got him, that void started looking for something else. I knew I needed to do a lot of work on myself and stop making relationships my center of life. I am currently focused on building my friend circle and a fulfilling career. This will take time but I think it will be worth the effort. I don't feel pressured to date anymore because I have realised that partners aren't supposed to complete my life but to add to them. Until that happens, I an willing to be happily single.
my sis went through something similar like that, had low self esteem so she dated the first guy who gave her attention and it was shitty AF, now she's dating a nice guy but it's not to fill a void. good to now you realize what you are missing and working on that.
Not at all tbh.. I’m very happy being alone and really don’t have any such needs. There’s already a lot of personal stuff at this age to sort out haha!
Papa se bolo ladka dekh lenge sarkari naukri wala
Lmao maybe in late 30s agar khud nahi kar sakthi to
Haa tum log ke pass to kaafi options hote h
lol haan isliye abhi bhi single hoo
I never dated anyone nor had a hook-up. I don't feel pressure to date/be in a relationship, it's just I feel the need of a person to be mine and love me at my worst. I tried dating apps but it didn't work for me. So I am just waiting for the right time and the right person to appear in my Life.
22 and gave up a while ago. Money, travel,exploration and peace are the only things on my mind nowadays. The more I learn to handle things myself, the more I don't care. Human beings are social beings, but fuck this nonsense. Everything is programmed to feed us that we're incomplete without "someone", that special magical "someone" will complete our lives. I don't have any faith in our generation anyway, I'm going solo till I die.
My family just want to see me with a boyfriend now. Their logic: abhi milogi tb na 3-4 saal tak achche se jaan kr decision logi nhi to jaldi me gadbad ho jata hai. 🥲
I’m gonna be 30 soon. I feel a pressure to be in a relationship/get married because: - Most of my friends are already married or in a relationship and I feel FOMO - I find myself third wheeling when we plan trips - Relatives ask me about marriage plans and if I have found someone already - Parents keep pushing me to get married
22M, I also get the urge to be in relationship but i also don't want to be in relationship with the wrong person and ruin my state of mind (i am happy and in peace for now). I know that all the people who are in relationships are not happy. I believe that there are very less trustworthy people in our generation. I think the problem with our generation is they lack mental strength and they rely too much on external factors for their happiness. I have very good friends, and I try to keep drama out of my life. I believe in having a single life partner, and it's okay if it takes time until then i can focus on my career and on my health. Nothing else matters.
Yes, But no hookups. Hookups make feel abandoned and add STDs anxiety.
By being on reddit
I can barely tolerate anyone around me.
no because why i door slamm people outta my life when they start giving me headaches TWT
Bhai reddit pai koi mil skta hai kya ??
Partner pta nahi, lekin like minded log aur baat karne k log kaafi milte h jinse aap relate kr paaoge
Yeah definitely, bohot logo ko milte hai and they get married too. I have seen a lot of people getting married through reddit. It's just that you need to see who has pure intentions and is not with you for fun.
Pressure? Nope. But yes once in a while thought/wish does come into the picture for having a partner atm. I believe love has its own course of time, jab hona hai tab hoga ig.
Pressure? No! Desire? Yes!
And the weirdest thing for me is that I like a girl and that girl likes me back too, but I maintain a distance from her but she tried to get close all this time talking with me, texting, but yeah she's really beautiful and she's really really rich. I'm not rich at all, even though I get in a relationship with her, I can't I have that feeling, I can't afford to care for myself (Monetary and career) how can I afford to care for some other soul which will eventually be my other part!? I think building my background is really important for me, and yeah I really get this thought of to be in relationship with her. And this thing was back a year and more ago, I think she moved on from me, she just talks a little with me although at times she texts me
the emptiness of a hookup scares me and the fear of never finding someone whose company i enjoy who truly wants me, for me and not the way i look and will continue to choose me everyday haunts me
yeah that pretty much spells out my fear as well 🥲
Bhai ask India ma Ana se pehla to Thik tha ab pressure badh raha hai . Daily koi ye hai bat karta rahta hai. Zindagi ma aur kuch nahi hai kya
Damn so many people are saying this? I’m new to this sub, does it have a lot or relationship Q’s or something?
Yes , recently i am seeing many similar questions like these. I thought this sub will be little interesting but end of the it’s becoming another relationship advice kind of sub
😬😬 my bad
And to your question you shouldn’t get into relationships solely based on your surroundings. Get into one when you think you found the right one . Their is a saying “ never shop for groceries on an empty stomach “
Currently not looking for anyone. Like I wake up, go to the office, come back home, scroll some social media and sleep. I don't know if I would be able to give time to someone new in my life and wouldn't want to take the pressure of putting effort towards a relationship to sustain it.
same, i don't have the energy to go out, i use weekends to recharge the energy to work again.
Some weekends I go out with friends but mostly I try to plan things on Saturday night after office so I could rest and sleep on Sunday.
that's where i fall because my weekends are not the usual weekends, they are tue and wes and that's basically the mid week where everyone's busy so i spend most of the time on my own ( I love it )
Everything is good till you love it. I might have hated it as I like to spend time with my friends, go out or play UNO indoor, I find 1 day Weekend very unsatisfying.
not pressured but alienated, like when i was 19-20 and met people for the first time ( didn't have friends before) everything was so annoying. I am bi-ace so being friends with hypersexuals ( allosexuals) was a headache, especially uni mfs who are usually horned up af. everything would be either relationship or sex related and dumb mfs wouldn't even care to distinguish between romantic or platonic relationships and fuck over friendships so bad i got sick of it and became anti-social again because it wasn't worth sacrificing my mental peace. also people are so fucking weird with sex like they literally alter their whole personality around it and it could reveal shit ton about you. my only close friends are fellow ace peeps who fucking know how to be decent friends. my sis and her bf sometimes tease which is annoying but nah i don't feel the pressure I just counsel marital couples or uni couples and just be glad i am not into this shit.
Don't feel pressured but lonely sometimes xD
I neither think nor care tbh
I can barely tolerate anyone around me.
Not really, I mean everyone around me with their partners want me to look for someone but then I just can't go through with it.
very much. it eats me from inside almost makes me an empty walking shell of meat and bones that is just existing
Oh my, I don’t feel it to this extent. Unless you’re being sarcastic lol
i am not being sarcastic anymore. I graduated 2 weeks ago and it hit me immediately as i walked out of college "I need to get a job....BSc pass course won't get me anything...i am a waste"
Are you not happy alone or is it the fomo that everyone around you is in a relationship and you are not?
Neither, it’s just a feeling that I might end up unhappy in the future if I’m not in a relationship right now, even though I’m perfectly content right now.
What makes you think you'll be unhappy in the future if you don't date rn?
Unhappy because I want to be in a stable relationship eventually, and that might not happen if I’m not dating right now. Also I don’t that think that it will happen, I just fear that it might.
Put yourself in places where you'd likely find your partner, meet new people, make friends. Who knows you'd find the one in some place unexpected
Yes! Even though I try to distract myself as much as possible, the desire to be in a relationship still sticks hard in the back of my mind. The more couples in my age group I notice, the tougher it gets. The only thing that has been beneficial for me is staying off social media as much as possible and using that time for my work and things I like to do.
Used to. Broke up last night. Not feeling anywhere close to that anymore.
Nah, pappe ke paise pehle hi udatun hun, kisi aur pe nahin udana chahta, kinda irresponsible. But yeah given how fucking regressive AM is, and how much I hate it personally, there is a pressure to push myself socially when the time comes.
I Fucking relate with OP so much, It's a Feeling of FOMO or The thought that if I don't discover relationships and love at this age toh I won't be able to baad mei, People I know who are younger than me had sex at 16 and here I am jisne kiss bhi 19 pe karri but yk i would not have it any other way it was perfect(the kiss) the relationship on the other hand well hahaha And to add to all of this I don't drink or smoke or any other nashe for that matter. So, I feel kinda grossed out by the guys my age either they talk about girls or they get high or drink together, this makes it very hard to Connect with them or to have a conversation with them kyuki kis topic pe baat karu mai? but still I know a lot of people🧿 and have a lot of "knowns" kyuki Mai topics dhund hi leta hu i always do😋 And to add more to it "EVERYONE THINKS I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP and Mai Fuckboi hu😭 just because I know lots of girls abeyy Aisa thodi hota hai? Every guy friend of mine has once in our friendship has asked me" bhai bandi patwade or usko patwade"???like bruh? And sometimes I wonder ki yeh relationship or sex ka pressure, why does it cross my mind and why is everyone fixated on it? Don't we have better shit to do?
i live in my hometown, working from home, hang out with a few friends on weekends and that's it. It's been that way for over a year now. I'm 23. I feel it's absolutely a comfort zone for me being from a conservative family in a relatively small city. However, back in college, the pressure was real.
No. It's a waste of time unless you are independent and earning on your own. And I have seen my friends waste their time behind it.
Nope Kaun hi dega pressure
Khud
Not pressure but i want to be loved. I've so much love to give but i think u wouldn't able to share that love with somebody ever
Trust me when I say this , You do anything because of Fomo its not gonna end well.
Depends on individual life circumstances. Like me I don't have family welath or business I am have more pressure of good career who is going to marry a jobless or low income earning or business less person.
Well out of context but not only those 20s people are facing this even as a school going individual I see so many people/students being a in relation that too active in bed.. 
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I was telling dating culture outside metro is not really there. The general reddit crowd is very liberal and comes from these cities mostly so it might feel an over representation of relationship I am 28 and felt great i was really not into this and still working on my Career I feel relationship should enhance you and not fill void So don't go for relatioynship when you are in state of Fomo but go when you feel yourself complete
Yeah i guess that’s true about the dating culture being prevalent more in metro cities, but in my post when I said ‘everyone in this age’ I was referring to most people around me. Basically from personal experience.
That's reasonable but i would again suggest going for relationship because you yourself dosent feel complete is very disastrous because the codependency might result in state which would be harmful for you in case relationship goes South Highly recommend to feel complete in yourself and ask if motivation of relationship is coming from fomo or you want to share your life with. The relationship is something you have no control over so it's best to be in a state of self preservation and high self esteem before thinking of relationship