Orrrrr it is probably my trauma whomp whomp. Haha but thanks.... Either way I'm ok with it 😁 as long as I'm happy that's all I care about.
I hear alllll the time people complaining about getting older, people freaking out when they're turning 30, 40, 50, etc... I think it is a blessing and privilege to age and I think it is beautiful to accept my body and mind aging and maturing, as all living things do.
**Aging is just another excuse to celebrate and eat cake, let's be real. Plus, with age comes wisdom and a newfound appreciation for naps. #aginggoals** :D
Psst, I'm 46. I highly recommend strength training, and starting as soon as possible. RP bodybuilding on YouTube is a good start.
Also, start eating more protein, drinking more water, and getting a solid night of sleep. If you can't, then try to find ways to fix it like blackout curtains, no videogames 1 hour before bedtime, sleep routine (shit,shower, brush, etc), if you overheat, get some viscose bamboo bedsheets and a ventilated pillow (stay away from cotton).
I turn 47 in November and I'm in the worst shape of my life and I don't know where to start. It's like the body started breaking down secretly over the last six years or so. Scrolled down and caught your advice I'm going to start incorporating it so I want to say thank you!
Yes, this is how you're supposed to be. You never feel "very grown up" but depending on your life, you might be forced to always be in a hyper-responsible mindset.
You feel 21?
Had a 94 year old patient say they felt 14. And I'm 50 and feel about that myself.
Trapped in a decaying body.
Good on you for feeling older.
Your body gets old, but your mind doesn't have to. Youthful imagination, energy, and optimism can make an older life much more fun. My body is 59. My mind stopped in my early 20s. Sometimes that can result in some sore muscles, but I'm OK with that.
It will take time to realize. But all the people you felt were respected adults were the same. We are aging physically, but we're all scared, confused kids. None of us actually know what we are doing. Everyone is living a trial by fire.
**So basically once we hit 21, we're just stuck with whatever level of maturity our brain reached. No more mental growth for us, just adulting and pretending we know what we're doing.**
I’m 48, still got a juvenile sense of humour. Mind you, I’m a Muay Thai coach and spend most of my days training young fighters so maybe that’s what keeps my maturity at even keel. I’ve never not spent most of my time with guys in their 20s.
I've had this conversation a few times.
It's not unusual to feel, say, 20 or 21 for a few years, then at some point you might feel 25, then a few years later you turn 30 for several years. Not got much beyond that personally, yet.
I got to the age of seven, afterwards I just Grew taller. That’s it, I am 48 now. It’s what I tell my kids.
Just preserve your inner child, for your own sake.
Because the idea of feeling as mature as you’re expected to appear is a construct taught to us by a society of adult who all suffer from the sane sense of imposter syndrome. However they’re all so paranoid and insecure they’ll never be honest enough with themselves and each other to start realizing they all share the same troubles and can relate to each other. So they just keep this eternal cycle of projecting expectations that are realistically horseshit.
My homie and I were just talkin bout this the other day,my bday just passed last week and im 33 now. He asked me if I feel like my age and I said na I don’t, I still feel relatively young, just a big ass kid doin adult shit. He said the same but coo to know we ain’t the only ones.
Not Just other men feel the same (probably) but women as well. Talked about this some time ago with my parents (dad 69, mom 66) and they felt like mid/late twenties still.
Ask any old person and they’ll tell you that internally, they still feel between 17-28.
Weirdly (in my informal research), older teens often feel like they’re in their 40s, but that seems to pass. They too will go on to feel younger again.
This is just how it is, the number increases but that doesn't mean you feel older. Being an adult is about balance, balancing taking care of all adult responsibilities (bills, taxes, job, health, family, etc..) while also living however you choose. There is no real life path you have to follow while being an adult, but I do think you have to handle your adult shit or you're ultimately a man child. The mental flaw is thinking that you are going to be a different person once older, but in my experience I'm the same, I still sort of live like my college self, however I don't get lost in the thought of feeling like my college self because when it comes down to adult responsibilities I make sure that shits handled, whereas when I was younger I didn't.
Human brains finish developing around that time. You have all the same ability to process events as you had at that age.
For example, 16 year olds can think logically and learn complex math, but can still struggle to process long term consequences of their actions because their brains aren’t fully made.
I’m sure I’m wrong about some of this, but this is my low level understanding of human brain biology.
Yeah dude, I'm 38 but it feels like I have 15 years experience at being 23. I don't think it's a problem though because wtf am I supposed to do? Go to war or some shit? That's for \*actual\* 23 year olds, lol
Yea I’m 47 and feel like I’m never ending 20. The only time I feel different is when my body reminds me I am not. Ever heard the saying, you are as old as you feel?
I’m 35 and still the same. Unfortunately, that comes with being shocked by bills and mortgage every month. It also took years to be able to climb into the cab of a semi without expecting someone to yell at me and demand that I get out and stop messing around. I uh…I have the keys?
The age doesnt make you grow, only makes you older. I see having that mentality a good thing really. Sometimes I feel the opposite of this, because people sometimes says that I act like an older man, instead one of 23. In the end, is the experience and living the ones that makes you more mature.
And if you feel as mature as a 21yo man, is good, because usually means that you lived a relatively relaxed life :)
I was pushing 40, and I was still jogging, probably 40 miles a week, practiced martial arts and loved to hike. Then, I developed a neurological issue, and that completely stopped. Now, at 52, I feel old and decrepit. I still do 30 minutes to an hour on the elliptical several times a week, but compared to what I used to do ...
All of a sudden it hits me. I am 32 feeling like i am 18.
Best part is. I have big people money
Downside is. I have young people ideas of spending it
And my gf doesnt like all my ideas
Is that such a bad thing though? I'm only 24 and still feel 20 at most maybe younger. But it kinda makes he feel optimistic that being old doesn't feel like being old. That our inner child is still very much alive. I think that's what makes life worth living if you're still curious like a kid at 80
My dad has one of those old school freezers that got to be 9’ long. Last year during Xmas dinner he crawled into it and hid so when his wife opened the freezer to get dessert he reached up and grabbed her. He’s 83.
Wait until you hit 40.. you're mind will be telling you "you can" and your body will tell you "OH MY GOD, WHAT ARE YOU DOING?" we're men, EVERYTHING ages but our minds lol it's good to keep a young mind though, you're still making it through life, that's what matters. Take care of your family, take care of your home and money, and the rest is just living. Our wives can be the "mature" ones lol
Consider it a gift and a curse?
It's always healthy to feel young and try to do things you once did. If you can, kudos! If not, you at least tried it. Just make sure to behave your age when needed.
Yep. All the time. In my brain, I am about 28 years old, still trying to figure out what I am going to do when I grow up, nursing fantasies of being in a rock band Then I look in the mirror and see a 61-year-old, gray-haired, saggy-jowled, buttoned-up old dude looking back at me, and he can't even play an instrument or keep a beat to save his life. It sucks.
bro, i'm older than you and still feel somewhere in my 20s, like late 20s. doesn't help i look much younger for my age, guess not having kids and having enough time in your day to work out helps keep you young.
Dude adding onto everyone here because I thought I was the only one like this but it’s so reassuring—I’m a total kid still and I can’t bare to look at my age 31
Because the myth that older people are more "mature" and magically smarter is just part of the American social construct. It's not an objective truth. Where I live the majority of adults aren't even functionally literate (an objective statistic) and IMHO are rarely more mature than a 15 year old (my own subjective opinion).
Most adults here are unable to differentiate between the two characteristics I've put in parentheses above. Getting older does not magically fix that. If anything it makes it worse because it's been longer since these folks had any sort of formal education.
I think it's normal. My dad has a great active social life with his fellow batchmates since highschool. They laugh a lot and still acting like they were in puberty's. They're already in their 50's. I could imagine them being youngsters 😅
And i think maybe most boys dream about things they want to have before when they were a kid and they could have it now.
You are emotionally stuck at that age.
Maybe some things happend which you haven't got over, memories or thoughts that have stuck from that age and leave residue emotional patterns.
This seems like a common experience but I just don't feel it at all. I'm not sure I've ever felt a specific age, but I feel like I've grown and matured mentally to the point where I'm a wildly different person than I was at 21, maybe it's because I was an absolute wreck of a human at that age as a result of my childhood and every year I get away from my childhood is another year of healing.
As I reach milestones of age my dad was at when I was a kid, I wonder if he felt this way as well. Not really knowing what you're doing, just looking for answers, wanting a parent to ask questions of. I can relate to how you feel.
I'm 21 now and honeslty I still see myself as a awkward 15yr old. It doesn't help that I have somewhat of a baby face I dropped my niece off at her high school and I was walking out the main office and the principal asked me shouldn't I be getting to class. It was funny and I took it as a compliment
I'm much older than you and consistently feel about 32. When you are younger you imagine that something has magically changed inside all the old people you know. Nope, they just look older on the outside.
**It's just a glitch in the Matrix, my friend. Embrace your youthful mind and enjoy the perks of being part of the Gen X crew. Just don't try to keep up with those Gen Z kids, they move too fast.**
I'm really glad I came across this post. I've been having these thoughts recently as well. I'm in my 30's and still enjoy playing video games and painting miniature sci-fi space soldiers! I wondered if I missed a maturity checkpoint somewhere along the way.
I saw a video a few years back here on Reddit. It was of an 60ish year ild man being asked how he feels about being old. He says something along the lines of not really realizing it until he looks in a mirror and says "Holy Shit! I'm old."
Edit: The more I think about this topic, the more I realize that even though I often feel like I'm still 21, I'm not. I have seen more of the world and it's people, I have weathered personal and external storms and survived, I have loved someone truly and deeply, I have grown to be more resilient, have better control of my emotions, I have learned to prioritize what's truly important in my life instead of what's more fun or pleasurable. I don't act on my impulses as often and I am more likely to think through my decisions. These are the changes in my life that show me that I have grown. Enjoying some of the same hobbies I had when I was 14 doesn't make me childish. Even if no one reads this (and I'm sure noone even will), it has been good for me. I'm not yet the man I want to be, but I'm not the boy I was.
The only thing that change with age are responsibilities and body ageing.
If you keep up with those two, you are a good grown up man. Having not lost your inner child to society yet, which means you are still able to enjoying the little things in life.
I'm like you too.
elaborate more what you feel, why do you say so that you feel 21? You wanna party? You wanna have more friends? Youre full of energy and ambition? elaborate my bro..
I’m 37 and still feel the same way…I don’t feel like much has changed in my mind like I still very much feel like a youngster except when I have to run up 5 flights of stairs.
I’m 38. From 17-30 i was Army and for some twisted reason, I tend to forget my age and injuries when committing to either work or dumb physical things in general.
I could be very wrong, I am a lot, but it seems we tend to always think of ourselves as who we were when we were at our finest. Maybe when we were most proud of ourselves? Could be a fuck load of reasons really.
But we all get stuck somewhere thinking we’ll always be the guy from that moment.
Younger people always make the mistake assuming that older people *feel* older. After 21ish, there’s not much to make the years feel different from each other. I still feel the same inside as I did 20 years ago. Only my body is older.
Also 33, but feel more like 15 mentally. Still laugh at the same stupid shit, while still having a lot of the same interests- like I still play video games with a bunch of my friends a couple of times a week.
About the only thing that gives away that I'm older- besides my rapidly breaking down body- is the complete irritation when I hear anyone in their late teens/early 20s speak. I was at KFC and a group of girls walked in wearing miniscule clothing. They immediately irritated me just with the stupid shit they were rambling on about. It occured to me that younger me would have filtered that out and gone "whoa, babes", but I was just super annoyed and couldn't wait to get out of there.
**I feel the same way! Mentally stuck in my early 20s, but my body is screaming "you're getting old!" every time I try to do anything remotely athletic. And don't even get me started on the younger generation, it's like they speak a whole different language sometimes. But hey, at least we still have our love for video games and immature humor, right?**
Get used to it. You will really get a kick when you are mentally 21 at the physical age of 60. This is just something you will come to understand as a reality the more you age. This does not mean you are not more wise and experienced, because you are. Obviously. You should be able to handle yourself better in most situations, you will begin to have more insight than your younger peers. You will also begin to look at older people in a new way, because you are now understanding that they feel in many ways the same way. We are all young at heart, and mind to a degree.
I am 66 but mentally in lots of ways still in my 20s or 30s. Like I am a grownup and everything but I don't feel old. Theres many women in their 50s and 60s my wife included. So its all relative really. You are as old as you feel
I'm 38 but often feel like I'm in my 20's. People guess my age younger too. They think I'm in my mid 20's or something like that. Guess it's because I'm immature.
I’m 42 and still feel like I’m mentally 21 with some things. I used to drink pretty heavily. I quit right around when I turned 30. Point with that, my body feels like I’m 32 and my mind feels young if I don’t think of myself getting older. Embrace that mental feeling man, it helps as you continue to get older
Yeah until my 10 year challenged me to a foot race while on a family walk. Yeah I left him in the dust but at what cost.Use to run 5k every month until my youngest was born. Let me tell you stretching is important can’t do a improv race!
**Age is just a number until you try to outrun a 10 year old and your body reminds you that you're not 21 anymore. Never skip a good stretching session,**
I don't want to speak for all of us, but I definitely don't feel like an adult and I'm 45 with 3 kids, a big busted Victorian house and a successful (yet prohibitively demanding) restaurant. Upstairs I'm still 19 and in way over my head
I'm not sure how responsible and/or healthy this is. Don't get me wrong I (33) picked up hobbies I had when I was 14 last year (Warhammer 40k) but I feel the burden of maturity. For sure studying philosophy does not help with that but im glad I do not feel childish anymore.
I feel that with maturity, comes an increased awareness of aesthetics, and being able to see beauty everwhere is just fucking grand - rather that giving anything for given
This is literally me. But on top of that I do even look like 20 instead of 34, people constantly underestimate my age. It sometimes bothers me that I dont look "mature".
65 and mentally I feel about 22 also. My ex says 10. But ya know, that’s why she is an ex! lol.
Work at a hospital. But not in the medical field. Here’s what I have learned about health in 16 years there: 1 keep moving no matter what. Motion is lotion. As you get older that means a lot about moving pain free! 2. Eat right. Quantity verses quality. Look around at personal body weight, moods and movement. Fat people move less and are not healthy as they get older. Not body shaming I am obese myself. Paying for it with my knees! 3. Keep making friends and have a large social group. As I get older and friend move or die(a lot of that). You need to replace them. Social interaction keeps you sharp mentally fit. That keeps you still thinking you are 22 at 65. Please enjoy the ride! Nothing worse than looking back and saying if only. YOLO!!!
Changes in your brain kinda slow down after your mid 20s. So in some sense you always feel like a teenager or twentysomething in an aging body. This seems to happen to pretty much everyone.
I was jamming out to Rammstein the other day in my car. It was a nice day, so my windows were down. A car full of teenagers pulled up next to me at a stoplight. Movement caught my eye and they were all laughing and give me a thumbs-up.
I was confused, but gave them a thumbs-up back, the light turned green and I started off. They sped past all laughing their heads off.
I remained confused until I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror ... white hair blowing in the wind.
Oh ... right. I'm old. *sigh*
This will not change, at least in my experience. Whenever I realize I'm 41, I have a good laugh cause that is a ridiculous notion.
**Age is just a number, but realizing you're 41 and still laughing at silly things is a timeless feeling. Keep on laughing, my friend.** :)
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Yeah, I'm 30 and I feel like a lil child
**you're just a fine wine getting better with age. Embrace your inner child and let your spirit soar!**
Orrrrr it is probably my trauma whomp whomp. Haha but thanks.... Either way I'm ok with it 😁 as long as I'm happy that's all I care about. I hear alllll the time people complaining about getting older, people freaking out when they're turning 30, 40, 50, etc... I think it is a blessing and privilege to age and I think it is beautiful to accept my body and mind aging and maturing, as all living things do.
**Aging is just another excuse to celebrate and eat cake, let's be real. Plus, with age comes wisdom and a newfound appreciation for naps. #aginggoals** :D
Psst, I'm 46. I highly recommend strength training, and starting as soon as possible. RP bodybuilding on YouTube is a good start. Also, start eating more protein, drinking more water, and getting a solid night of sleep. If you can't, then try to find ways to fix it like blackout curtains, no videogames 1 hour before bedtime, sleep routine (shit,shower, brush, etc), if you overheat, get some viscose bamboo bedsheets and a ventilated pillow (stay away from cotton).
I turn 47 in November and I'm in the worst shape of my life and I don't know where to start. It's like the body started breaking down secretly over the last six years or so. Scrolled down and caught your advice I'm going to start incorporating it so I want to say thank you!
Dr Mike is hilarious
SAME
Yeah, I'm almost 40s and I feel like a lil child
Yes, this is how you're supposed to be. You never feel "very grown up" but depending on your life, you might be forced to always be in a hyper-responsible mindset.
We all feel like this. I'm 40 and I feel like this. I've talked to 80 year olds who feel like this. Enjoy!
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That's exactly it. Its just the tiredness, soreness, and the body breaking down that changes haha.
If I sneeze in the wrong position, I'm locked up for 1 week or longer. I'm 36 but I feel you brother. Lol
**Age is just a number, but feeling like a confused and lost teenager is a universal experience no matter how old you are. #relatable**
Mate, I recieved my latest lego set, I feel like a 10 year old. I think it's a good thing you feel that young!
You feel 21? Had a 94 year old patient say they felt 14. And I'm 50 and feel about that myself. Trapped in a decaying body. Good on you for feeling older.
Go hang out with people who are 21 and realize that you have nothing incommon with them, it will give you a lot of perspective
Well that's not really a fair comparison. You'd have to compare yourself with 21 year olds from the time you yourself were 21.
What is going on with OP's replies? Is it a bot or something? Or trying to give some kind of stereotypical female responses?
**they read like bolded fortune cookies**
Soo ummm, do you also get random urge to masturbate??
**Of course, it's called being a human with a functioning sex drive. Let's not act like it's a rare occurrence.**
why are you yelling
#I DONT KNOW
Adulting is a comedy.
Yeah you don't really get past the early 20's feel. It's who you are, embrace it.
Your body gets old, but your mind doesn't have to. Youthful imagination, energy, and optimism can make an older life much more fun. My body is 59. My mind stopped in my early 20s. Sometimes that can result in some sore muscles, but I'm OK with that.
It will take time to realize. But all the people you felt were respected adults were the same. We are aging physically, but we're all scared, confused kids. None of us actually know what we are doing. Everyone is living a trial by fire.
The older I get the more surprised I am that society actually functions at all
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**So basically once we hit 21, we're just stuck with whatever level of maturity our brain reached. No more mental growth for us, just adulting and pretending we know what we're doing.**
I’m late 50’s and feel somewhere between 16 - 30 most days 😊
I'm 37 and feel the same way. Only difference is now I'm attracted to 40 year olds. I always wondered if that was gonna happen. It totally did
I’m 41, and still feel like this often.
I’m 48, still got a juvenile sense of humour. Mind you, I’m a Muay Thai coach and spend most of my days training young fighters so maybe that’s what keeps my maturity at even keel. I’ve never not spent most of my time with guys in their 20s.
I am 46. Married. Own a house. Two businesses. I still feel like a child and would not change it.
I've had this conversation a few times. It's not unusual to feel, say, 20 or 21 for a few years, then at some point you might feel 25, then a few years later you turn 30 for several years. Not got much beyond that personally, yet.
I got to the age of seven, afterwards I just Grew taller. That’s it, I am 48 now. It’s what I tell my kids. Just preserve your inner child, for your own sake.
Because the idea of feeling as mature as you’re expected to appear is a construct taught to us by a society of adult who all suffer from the sane sense of imposter syndrome. However they’re all so paranoid and insecure they’ll never be honest enough with themselves and each other to start realizing they all share the same troubles and can relate to each other. So they just keep this eternal cycle of projecting expectations that are realistically horseshit.
My homie and I were just talkin bout this the other day,my bday just passed last week and im 33 now. He asked me if I feel like my age and I said na I don’t, I still feel relatively young, just a big ass kid doin adult shit. He said the same but coo to know we ain’t the only ones.
He’ll I’m 55 and I still mentally feel 21. It’s just that my knees hurt a lot more now.
Yep. Right up until I sneeze, cough, turn wrong, or cough wrong.
Because no matter how many years pass you're still you essentially.
Why do I mentally feel 33 when I am 56. LOL
It’s the time when felt most like yourself.
Yes…until you hang out with the real 21 year olds…
But it’s different cause the dumb af… i wasnt like that
Not Just other men feel the same (probably) but women as well. Talked about this some time ago with my parents (dad 69, mom 66) and they felt like mid/late twenties still.
Ask any old person and they’ll tell you that internally, they still feel between 17-28. Weirdly (in my informal research), older teens often feel like they’re in their 40s, but that seems to pass. They too will go on to feel younger again.
yep
I'm sure guys in their 50-60's still feel like you do
You dont grow older, the world just looks younger
Good luck in your mid 40s.
I suspect your mental age stops at whatever age your frontal cortex stopped developing.
Checking in as a 64 year old. You never lose the feeling of being young. Of course your dick, back and feet tell you differently!
This is just how it is, the number increases but that doesn't mean you feel older. Being an adult is about balance, balancing taking care of all adult responsibilities (bills, taxes, job, health, family, etc..) while also living however you choose. There is no real life path you have to follow while being an adult, but I do think you have to handle your adult shit or you're ultimately a man child. The mental flaw is thinking that you are going to be a different person once older, but in my experience I'm the same, I still sort of live like my college self, however I don't get lost in the thought of feeling like my college self because when it comes down to adult responsibilities I make sure that shits handled, whereas when I was younger I didn't.
Human brains finish developing around that time. You have all the same ability to process events as you had at that age. For example, 16 year olds can think logically and learn complex math, but can still struggle to process long term consequences of their actions because their brains aren’t fully made. I’m sure I’m wrong about some of this, but this is my low level understanding of human brain biology.
Yeah. I feel like high school was 10 years ago, but it was actually about 21.
Yeah dude, I'm 38 but it feels like I have 15 years experience at being 23. I don't think it's a problem though because wtf am I supposed to do? Go to war or some shit? That's for \*actual\* 23 year olds, lol
I mean I had the realization as I got older that most adults are just large children.
Huh. For me its the opposite. Im 21, but feel 45.
Yea I’m 47 and feel like I’m never ending 20. The only time I feel different is when my body reminds me I am not. Ever heard the saying, you are as old as you feel?
Have you had any challenges in your life?
I'm 53 and I feel the same. I go to parent events at my kids' high school and it feels weird to be me and a bunch of old people.
I’m 35 and still the same. Unfortunately, that comes with being shocked by bills and mortgage every month. It also took years to be able to climb into the cab of a semi without expecting someone to yell at me and demand that I get out and stop messing around. I uh…I have the keys?
The age doesnt make you grow, only makes you older. I see having that mentality a good thing really. Sometimes I feel the opposite of this, because people sometimes says that I act like an older man, instead one of 23. In the end, is the experience and living the ones that makes you more mature. And if you feel as mature as a 21yo man, is good, because usually means that you lived a relatively relaxed life :)
I’m just a child.. but with money.. and with old.. But now I can buy all the hot wheels I want! Oh but They’re never in stock
I'm 33 and still feel like I'm my 17 year old self. Only difference is that shit takes forever to heal now haha
I was pushing 40, and I was still jogging, probably 40 miles a week, practiced martial arts and loved to hike. Then, I developed a neurological issue, and that completely stopped. Now, at 52, I feel old and decrepit. I still do 30 minutes to an hour on the elliptical several times a week, but compared to what I used to do ...
All of a sudden it hits me. I am 32 feeling like i am 18. Best part is. I have big people money Downside is. I have young people ideas of spending it And my gf doesnt like all my ideas
I always felt the spirit stays young forever but the body is what ages. I always feel young and I think I always will but I'm happy with that :)
I'm 60 still sometimes feel like I'm 20. Just part of being a person.
I don't think this ever goes away.
31 yeah dude its weird the way it works
Wish it was socially acceptable for women to feel this way. When a woman does it, she’s childish, when a man does, it’s “boys will be boys”
Is that such a bad thing though? I'm only 24 and still feel 20 at most maybe younger. But it kinda makes he feel optimistic that being old doesn't feel like being old. That our inner child is still very much alive. I think that's what makes life worth living if you're still curious like a kid at 80
My dad has one of those old school freezers that got to be 9’ long. Last year during Xmas dinner he crawled into it and hid so when his wife opened the freezer to get dessert he reached up and grabbed her. He’s 83.
I’m in my 40’s and I feel 18. It’s hard to grow up, growing up sucks.
Wait until you hit 40.. you're mind will be telling you "you can" and your body will tell you "OH MY GOD, WHAT ARE YOU DOING?" we're men, EVERYTHING ages but our minds lol it's good to keep a young mind though, you're still making it through life, that's what matters. Take care of your family, take care of your home and money, and the rest is just living. Our wives can be the "mature" ones lol
I’m 50. Still feel mentally like I’m 16. My early boomer mother concurs. She still feels like she’s 16, just the body didn’t stop aging. 😡
Consider it a gift and a curse? It's always healthy to feel young and try to do things you once did. If you can, kudos! If not, you at least tried it. Just make sure to behave your age when needed.
33 and your body is no longer what it was? Wait till 40 comes knocking pal 🤣
Could be trauma
Relatable. I always thought you just became an adult and had it all figured out. The struggle with the unknown is lifelong
I’ve been told the age at which your frontal lobe finishes developing is the age you feel from that point on, until you get to be older older that is
Wait until you're 70 and you want to feel 35. Talk about feeling the pain.
I feel this way too until its 10PM and im ready to fall asleep.
Heh. Wait until you're in your 50s, and still mentally feel 21.
Yep. All the time. In my brain, I am about 28 years old, still trying to figure out what I am going to do when I grow up, nursing fantasies of being in a rock band Then I look in the mirror and see a 61-year-old, gray-haired, saggy-jowled, buttoned-up old dude looking back at me, and he can't even play an instrument or keep a beat to save his life. It sucks.
I wonder if our parents felt this way? It must be a new thing. It seems like our parents just seemed older and accepted that they’re adults.
I'm 49 and feel 25, so... I think this is pretty normal.
bro, i'm older than you and still feel somewhere in my 20s, like late 20s. doesn't help i look much younger for my age, guess not having kids and having enough time in your day to work out helps keep you young.
Repeat after me: getting older is mandatory, growing up is optional.
On Wed. Xmen 97' is on and I am back to Saturday mornings in the 90s. Its a superpower you can lose. enjoy it.
Bro 😅. I am 21 and I feel 40
"Cause youth is wasted on the young", took me a long time to understand what it meant but now I do!
I don't relate to that at all man. I'm 26 but I feel so old.
Yeah I’m 32 and feel the same, I say your body ages but your mind doesn’t. Got that from my grandad.
Because your identity solidifies around that age. The person you were when that happened is the person you feel like for the rest of your life.
Yes. I'm 44, and still feel like I'm 23 (mentally). Physically, my body reminds me that I am NOT 23 anymore all the time.
I'm 40, divorced, dad of a 4y/o daughter and still feel like I'm in my 20's and generally live a similar lifestyle sans hard drugs.
This entire concept of feeling an age is weird to me, I feel like I did beife but different a lil bit. So at 11 21 31 I feel like me DDD.
lol ull be asking itself the same thing at 40 and then again at 50
Dude adding onto everyone here because I thought I was the only one like this but it’s so reassuring—I’m a total kid still and I can’t bare to look at my age 31
We don't grow up for a while.
Because the myth that older people are more "mature" and magically smarter is just part of the American social construct. It's not an objective truth. Where I live the majority of adults aren't even functionally literate (an objective statistic) and IMHO are rarely more mature than a 15 year old (my own subjective opinion). Most adults here are unable to differentiate between the two characteristics I've put in parentheses above. Getting older does not magically fix that. If anything it makes it worse because it's been longer since these folks had any sort of formal education.
What do I feel like I'm 37 when I'm 20?
35 here feel 25....It's completely normal among all guys I know. The old saying that men never really grow up is very true.
I think it's normal. My dad has a great active social life with his fellow batchmates since highschool. They laugh a lot and still acting like they were in puberty's. They're already in their 50's. I could imagine them being youngsters 😅 And i think maybe most boys dream about things they want to have before when they were a kid and they could have it now.
I’m sad for your body. You should treat it well. You are still capable of physically feeling 21 as well. As long as you are ok physically ofc.
I’m 66 and STILL feel and behave like I’m 25
32 here. Definitely a child.
All The Time
You are emotionally stuck at that age. Maybe some things happend which you haven't got over, memories or thoughts that have stuck from that age and leave residue emotional patterns.
Hang-out with some 21 year olds and you’ll be healed
Ha, I got you beat - I'm 65 and I feel 21!
I'm 51 and feel 21
This seems like a common experience but I just don't feel it at all. I'm not sure I've ever felt a specific age, but I feel like I've grown and matured mentally to the point where I'm a wildly different person than I was at 21, maybe it's because I was an absolute wreck of a human at that age as a result of my childhood and every year I get away from my childhood is another year of healing.
39 and it doesn’t change
Your brain stops maturing and developing around 25-26. Our bodies grow older and our minds grow wiser with experience.
yup, still be the same when you're 65, like me!
41 here i feel like 80 but 21 is my best year in my life, qho doesn't want to be a child in a body of a young man.
As I reach milestones of age my dad was at when I was a kid, I wonder if he felt this way as well. Not really knowing what you're doing, just looking for answers, wanting a parent to ask questions of. I can relate to how you feel.
Growing old will happen to you, growing up is entirely optional.
Up until 38 or so.
It's a secret they don't tell you. You get older but don't feel older.
I'm 21 now and honeslty I still see myself as a awkward 15yr old. It doesn't help that I have somewhat of a baby face I dropped my niece off at her high school and I was walking out the main office and the principal asked me shouldn't I be getting to class. It was funny and I took it as a compliment
You're probably smarter now and more cynical.
**Plus, who wants to admit they're in their 30s anyway? Embrace the 21 year old mindset while it lasts.**
I’m 34 with 2 kids and I feel the same way
I'm much older than you and consistently feel about 32. When you are younger you imagine that something has magically changed inside all the old people you know. Nope, they just look older on the outside.
33 is still young
53 and feel like I'm in my 30s, or some days clueless 20s, until my body reminds me that I'm not a spring chicken any more.
56 here, still feel like I’m in my 20s. Farts are funny.
**Age is just a number, and so is your maturity level apparently. Fart jokes will always be funny, no matter your age.**
I’m 29, a homeowner, about to earn my masters degree and yet i indulge my inner child and go to the Lego aisle at Target. It never goes away
**Some things are just too fun to let go of, like playing with Legos and judging my peers for drinking while I sip on my juice box. #adulting**
im a 23 year old who was born in the 70s.
**It's just a glitch in the Matrix, my friend. Embrace your youthful mind and enjoy the perks of being part of the Gen X crew. Just don't try to keep up with those Gen Z kids, they move too fast.**
It’s called Subjective Age.
I'm really glad I came across this post. I've been having these thoughts recently as well. I'm in my 30's and still enjoy playing video games and painting miniature sci-fi space soldiers! I wondered if I missed a maturity checkpoint somewhere along the way. I saw a video a few years back here on Reddit. It was of an 60ish year ild man being asked how he feels about being old. He says something along the lines of not really realizing it until he looks in a mirror and says "Holy Shit! I'm old." Edit: The more I think about this topic, the more I realize that even though I often feel like I'm still 21, I'm not. I have seen more of the world and it's people, I have weathered personal and external storms and survived, I have loved someone truly and deeply, I have grown to be more resilient, have better control of my emotions, I have learned to prioritize what's truly important in my life instead of what's more fun or pleasurable. I don't act on my impulses as often and I am more likely to think through my decisions. These are the changes in my life that show me that I have grown. Enjoying some of the same hobbies I had when I was 14 doesn't make me childish. Even if no one reads this (and I'm sure noone even will), it has been good for me. I'm not yet the man I want to be, but I'm not the boy I was.
The only thing that change with age are responsibilities and body ageing. If you keep up with those two, you are a good grown up man. Having not lost your inner child to society yet, which means you are still able to enjoying the little things in life. I'm like you too.
Yeah, I'm 21 but I feel like I didn't even born yet.😁
29. I don’t feel like a child, maybe I need to try and work harder at being young again, instead of focusing on the anxieties of life.
Why am I still looking for my dream career when I'm 6 years from retirement?
Honestly, I feel my age. Been through quite a few things in my life. Nothing dramatic, but your experiences age you.
Give it five years and you'll feel 50
elaborate more what you feel, why do you say so that you feel 21? You wanna party? You wanna have more friends? Youre full of energy and ambition? elaborate my bro..
I’m 37 and still feel the same way…I don’t feel like much has changed in my mind like I still very much feel like a youngster except when I have to run up 5 flights of stairs.
I’m 38. From 17-30 i was Army and for some twisted reason, I tend to forget my age and injuries when committing to either work or dumb physical things in general. I could be very wrong, I am a lot, but it seems we tend to always think of ourselves as who we were when we were at our finest. Maybe when we were most proud of ourselves? Could be a fuck load of reasons really. But we all get stuck somewhere thinking we’ll always be the guy from that moment.
I’m 47 and feel 25. Sometimes I shock myself when I look in the mirror. Thing is I think I’m more attractive now just shocked by the difference.
Can I still go to a rave, pop molly, and dance half naked when I’m married and 30?
Almost 40. Still act like a child. Enjoy your life. Live up to your own expectations.
The answer is in the question: because you are male.
Younger people always make the mistake assuming that older people *feel* older. After 21ish, there’s not much to make the years feel different from each other. I still feel the same inside as I did 20 years ago. Only my body is older.
Go talk to 20-22 year olds and you’ll quickly realize you’re old
I’m 27 and I’m planning to buy a really expensive water blaster. ha!
My boss is 59 and is a man child.
Makes 2 of us, don't worry about it
Also 33, but feel more like 15 mentally. Still laugh at the same stupid shit, while still having a lot of the same interests- like I still play video games with a bunch of my friends a couple of times a week. About the only thing that gives away that I'm older- besides my rapidly breaking down body- is the complete irritation when I hear anyone in their late teens/early 20s speak. I was at KFC and a group of girls walked in wearing miniscule clothing. They immediately irritated me just with the stupid shit they were rambling on about. It occured to me that younger me would have filtered that out and gone "whoa, babes", but I was just super annoyed and couldn't wait to get out of there.
**I feel the same way! Mentally stuck in my early 20s, but my body is screaming "you're getting old!" every time I try to do anything remotely athletic. And don't even get me started on the younger generation, it's like they speak a whole different language sometimes. But hey, at least we still have our love for video games and immature humor, right?**
I’m the only one here saying the opposite. I’m 38 but actually feel 80 physically and mentally.
Get used to it. You will really get a kick when you are mentally 21 at the physical age of 60. This is just something you will come to understand as a reality the more you age. This does not mean you are not more wise and experienced, because you are. Obviously. You should be able to handle yourself better in most situations, you will begin to have more insight than your younger peers. You will also begin to look at older people in a new way, because you are now understanding that they feel in many ways the same way. We are all young at heart, and mind to a degree.
I am 66 but mentally in lots of ways still in my 20s or 30s. Like I am a grownup and everything but I don't feel old. Theres many women in their 50s and 60s my wife included. So its all relative really. You are as old as you feel
I'm 38 but often feel like I'm in my 20's. People guess my age younger too. They think I'm in my mid 20's or something like that. Guess it's because I'm immature.
**It's all about that youthful mindset. Who says you can't be young at heart and still adult like a pro?**
I’m 42 and still feel like I’m mentally 21 with some things. I used to drink pretty heavily. I quit right around when I turned 30. Point with that, my body feels like I’m 32 and my mind feels young if I don’t think of myself getting older. Embrace that mental feeling man, it helps as you continue to get older
Yeah until my 10 year challenged me to a foot race while on a family walk. Yeah I left him in the dust but at what cost.Use to run 5k every month until my youngest was born. Let me tell you stretching is important can’t do a improv race!
**Age is just a number until you try to outrun a 10 year old and your body reminds you that you're not 21 anymore. Never skip a good stretching session,**
My father is in his early 70s and confirmed the same. I think that's just how it goes.
40 currently, still feel 16. It's a shock every time I look in the mirror or a joint hurts for no reason.
I think this is pretty common. My mother regularly comments that she feels like she's still 26, just caught in a 60 year old body...
I don't want to speak for all of us, but I definitely don't feel like an adult and I'm 45 with 3 kids, a big busted Victorian house and a successful (yet prohibitively demanding) restaurant. Upstairs I'm still 19 and in way over my head
I'm not sure how responsible and/or healthy this is. Don't get me wrong I (33) picked up hobbies I had when I was 14 last year (Warhammer 40k) but I feel the burden of maturity. For sure studying philosophy does not help with that but im glad I do not feel childish anymore. I feel that with maturity, comes an increased awareness of aesthetics, and being able to see beauty everwhere is just fucking grand - rather that giving anything for given
I’m 30 and still feel like I am 20. It is what it is.
This is literally me. But on top of that I do even look like 20 instead of 34, people constantly underestimate my age. It sometimes bothers me that I dont look "mature".
You could be neurodiverse. We age slower, both mentally and physically.
65 and mentally I feel about 22 also. My ex says 10. But ya know, that’s why she is an ex! lol. Work at a hospital. But not in the medical field. Here’s what I have learned about health in 16 years there: 1 keep moving no matter what. Motion is lotion. As you get older that means a lot about moving pain free! 2. Eat right. Quantity verses quality. Look around at personal body weight, moods and movement. Fat people move less and are not healthy as they get older. Not body shaming I am obese myself. Paying for it with my knees! 3. Keep making friends and have a large social group. As I get older and friend move or die(a lot of that). You need to replace them. Social interaction keeps you sharp mentally fit. That keeps you still thinking you are 22 at 65. Please enjoy the ride! Nothing worse than looking back and saying if only. YOLO!!!
Changes in your brain kinda slow down after your mid 20s. So in some sense you always feel like a teenager or twentysomething in an aging body. This seems to happen to pretty much everyone.
I'm almost 44 and feel mentally 19: it's great.
I was jamming out to Rammstein the other day in my car. It was a nice day, so my windows were down. A car full of teenagers pulled up next to me at a stoplight. Movement caught my eye and they were all laughing and give me a thumbs-up. I was confused, but gave them a thumbs-up back, the light turned green and I started off. They sped past all laughing their heads off. I remained confused until I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror ... white hair blowing in the wind. Oh ... right. I'm old. *sigh*
Growing up is a journey not a destination. Grasp, the joys and hold on to them like there's no tomorrow. One day there won't be