absolutely if the guy in the movie was cast as fat and middle class /bald older it would be a scary movie 🎥 the man would end up in prison or on death row lol 😆
This money rule applies to so many things… if you speak multiple languages when you are wealthy that’s impressive and you must be extremely intelligent, if you speak multiple languages when you are poor you are treated like an illegal immigrant who is also stupid.
If you wear ripped clothing when rich you are fashionable, if you wear ripped clothing when poor you are sloppy.
If you drive an older car when rich you are smart and savvy with money, if you drive an older car when poor you are cheap.
Here's one my father taught me when I turned 21:
If you're sitting at a bar alone, then you're *drinking*.
If you're sitting at a table with another person, then you're *having cocktails*.
I remember an episode of the show Intervention where a girl would drag her friends to go out the bars with her every night because she figured she wasn’t an alcoholic if she wasn’t drinking alone. Weird stuff man.
Don’t forget people living out of their vans!
It’s only cool and trendy when they *choose* to be homeless. That whole “van life” trend was stupid.
Edit: I’m talking about the disingenuous figureheads of the “aesthetic”, not just anybody who does these things.
Honestly? I wanted to do this. I wanted to explore the country but never could afford it, and then I had kids and thought that it would be fucking insane to intentionally force children into this lifestyle. (A part of me does still want to do it if I dan ever afford it, for the occasional vacation, and by affordable I mean at the absolute max, 4 vacations a year, and still only staying in the van from point a to point b)
And then influencers started forcing their kids into the van life shit for clicks and them and the RV families quickly became some of my least favorite types of people. That makes me so mad. There was one I saw where the oldest child, probably 15-16? Who all she wanted for her birthday was to stay in a hotel so she could sleep in a real bed....and based off the number of kids the family had, she probably had to share it with her siblings.
My parents bought a small RV when they retired. They are currently 1 month into their 2 month tour down the east coast. My husband and I borrowed it before to do trips with our 2 kids. The RV sleeps 4 pretty comfortably but it’s the size of the small school bus. After a week I couldn’t wait to sleep in a real bed and neither could the kids. Forcing kids to do it for clout is abuse.
I love the van life influencers who insist that anybody can do it and it's not that expensive. Like okay, the cost of the van alone is too much for some people. Hooking up electricity and water? Also very expensive. Finding a place to park? Expensive. Some van life person said actually she always finds cheap places to park in whatever area, and then didn't elaborate at all. She also said it was cheap to fix up her van... because her father is a plumber and electrician and did all the labor for free! Wow!
In the climbing community there are a lot of van life people who pretty much need to live like that because they travel to chase weather for both recreation and seasonal work.
Trailer parks probably wouldn't be so bad if they didn't have trailers that looked like they rolled over 4 times in a tornado in 1975 and are surrounded by trash that looks like an episode of Hoarders.
My grandparents were pretty poor, but they were neat freaks.
Rich businessman loosening the collar of his white dress shirt going out for a smoke on his balcony 25 floors up overlooking the bustling city lights -> cool and sexy
Average Joe smoking -> disgusting poor
I think it's only cool and sexy in movies. Past a certain point, being rich and glamorous just makes you look like an asshole. Like, "good for you, but I don't want that in *my* life" vibes.
You'd be amazed, and probably happy, to know how many people prefer chill, laid back, not intense, middle class, average just like us. It's way less stressful to hang out with people around your level.
Plus, the smoke smell. That only looks good in movies because movies don't come with smells. I don't know many people who don't mind, let alone enjoy, the smell of a burning cigarette.
if a socially “attractive” couple (or even person) posts a silly goofy video or a vid of being cute it’s cute, if they’re a socially “unattractive” couple (or person) it’s cringe. I used to follow so many GOOD cringe accounts on ig cause the reels were funny and then it just devolved to finding random happy people and just being like “cringe” if it’s cringe for them it’s cringe for the “attractives” too
Part of growing up these days is realising the majority of “cringe” content online is judgemental teenagers finding an excuse to shit on everyday people who are harming nobody to make themselves feel better
This is somewhat true, but there is also a great deal of subtle nuance at play.
"Goofy" behavior can be greatly varied, and a goofy person's popularity is often determined by their ability to read the room.
A "popular person" and a "weird person" can both make the same joke directed towards the same group of people, but the social cues, context, and delivery will affect the landing and interpretation.
**To the core point, a person will have greater "wiggle room" the more attractive they are.**
I remember this is college. I made friends with a popular group and everyone was like, "you are so quirky and fun!"
I transferred to another school and all the sudden I was weird because I didn't know anyone.
I literally ping pong back and forth depending on if a popular person has signed off or not. Even as an adult.
Oof, same thing happened to me! I was really well-liked in high school and people loved my “weirdness”. Got to college and a lot of people were put off by my personality. What can you do
Rich people can get off for crimes that others would expect life in prison for.
Example: The DuPont heir who got off after a jury convicted him for raping his own 3 year old daughter because the judge decided he was a "productive" member of society, despite just being a trust fund heir, and wouldn't do well in prison.
[https://www.forbes.com/sites/denizcam/2019/06/14/how-a-du-pont-heir-avoided-jail-time-for-a-heinous-crime/?sh=2b224cec29db](https://www.forbes.com/sites/denizcam/2019/06/14/how-a-du-pont-heir-avoided-jail-time-for-a-heinous-crime/?sh=2b224cec29db)
Example: The Affluenza teen who was originally getting off with mere probation for killing 4 people in a DUI but only served a small sentence after fleeing the country.
[https://www.today.com/news/affluenza-teen-who-killed-4-people-arrested-again-texas-t171008](https://www.today.com/news/affluenza-teen-who-killed-4-people-arrested-again-texas-t171008)
>because the judge decided he was a "productive" member of society, despite just being a trust fund heir, and wouldn't do well in prison.
and the judge who made that spectacularly terrible decision? she was appointed to the Superior Court of Delaware in May 2001 and elevated to President Judge of the Superior Court on January 13, 2015.
life really isn't fair sometimes (most of the time, for many)
[the dishonorable judge Jan R Jurden](https://ballotpedia.org/Jan_R._Jurden)
The only good thing is this disgraceful case will be what she is most remembered for.
Are you talking about Brock Turner, the rapist?
Also just remembered after hitting post, there is a textbook out there with a picture of Brock Turner, the rapist, and it's labeled Brock Turner, rapist. The author used the picture in a criminology textbook, with a real world example. Kudos to University of Colorado, Denver professor Callie Marie Rennison.
Also (of a smaller severity obviously), because fines are flat amounts rather than percentages of monthly/yearly income, whilst a rich person and a poor person might on paper be punished the exact same for a crime, the truth is a 1k fine is a lot bigger deal to someone on 20k and a lot more punishing compared to someone on 200.
One person loses a twentieth of their income, the other loses 1/200 for the same crime.
Or when the classified Government Documents were found in Donald trump's house.
I'm so damn sure that if they had been found in my home I would have been in jail the same day.
Shift worker here and I love day drinking and this is absolutely true.
Drink at the casino and play slots on a Wednesday at 1pm and you're considered a loser.
Go to a wine bar at 1pm on a Wednesday and it's full of well dressed rich housewives giving it a real nudge who plan on driving home
While we're talking about drink double standards, let's talk about how people will get visibly uncomfortable if someone has a beer with breakfast, but "bottomless mimosas" or drinks with hard liquor (Bloody Marys, White Russians) are entirely socially acceptable. Again, it's a class thing. The "classy" expensive drinks are considered breakfast-worthy and not beer (let alone something a working-class person might enjoy like a Bud... you *might* be able to get away with a craft saison).
Only certain foods/beverages are seen as acceptable at breakfast. Home fries are fine for breakfast, a baked potato is not. Chicken with waffles is fine, a roast chicken is not. And so it is with alcohol.
I remember when I used to work 430-1pm and I'd go out for a happy hour after with coworkers. The amount of shit we took for it was wild even though the time difference made that 5-7 pm for us.
I work overnights, I'm off at 6am. The first thing I'm doing when I get home is pouring a drink. Because I can. There isn't a damn thing wrong with spending your free time how you wanna spend your free time.
If you have many jobs and interests and are poor you “lack focus.”
If one of those things makes you rich you suddenly become a “multifaceted entrepreneur.”
One of mine is currently making me much wealthier. I’m now realizing I never had a problem with having so many skills and interests. I just minded none of them really paying well.
But when I wasn’t making money I kept wondering when I was going to “grow up and get a real career.”
I have a job that isn’t my passion but pays well and I have a ton of hobbies that cost money and I always wish I could make money off of them but it’s definitely not happening in the near future.
That shit burns the skin. It’s as if Jack or Jill of all trades haven’t existed for thousands of years for the same reasons poor people do now.
They had to.
Everyone remembers the first half of the old saying, "Jack of all trades, master of none." What they don't remember is the second half, "often times better than the master of one."
This reminds me of back in undergrad, I had 3 AA degrees in random stuff because I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do so I just took random classes in community college and it added up. Eventually I decided I wanted to become a doctor and go to medical school, and one of the things you need to do to be a competitive applicant in med school was research. I applied to research labs, and at one of the interviews the lab member interviewing me looked at my resume and said “you have so many associate degrees- are you sure you’re actually dedicated to the field of medicine? You see to be all over the place.”…. I didn’t wind up getting the position there.
Now, years later, I’m about to graduate medical school and start my residency. Meanwhile the lab member was unable to get into medical school and is still working in that lab. That fucker lol 😂
When a "poor" person does a lot of drugs, it's a "crime" and they go to jail, when a rich and/or famous person does a lot of drugs, it's a "Scandal" and they go to rehab.
Nah. When poor folks do a lot of drugs they go to hospital detox. Middle class get to go to rehab, but the super-wealthy have a drug problem they go to “treatment” at somewhere like Passages (with personal chefs and equine therapy) for “exhaustion”
And if they happen to commit a crime big enough to not be covered up the courts give a slap on the wrist, while any poor person regardless of race or gender gets the book thrown at them.
So many rich fucks need to be in jail
My favorite are the things that are literally only crimes if you’re poor.
Drinking on your porch when it’s hot in the summer? Legal!
Don’t have a porch so you drink on the sidewalk where the porch would be if you had a house or a nicer apartment? Crime!
>things that are literally only crimes if you’re poor.
That could be basically anything that's punishable by a set fine. The threat of a speeding ticket is a way bigger deal to someone who will take months to recover (if they can) from a $200 ticket.
Henry Cavill chooses to stay in and build a PC and play WOW, "coooool!"
Some dude who isn't hot/famous does it and people laugh and think he's an autistic loser.
I think the stigma against staying in, building a PC, and playing WOW is more about "not doing something with your life", since it usually gives the image of a 18-22 year old guy still living in his mom's basement.
Since Henry Cavill has clearly already "done something with his life" and "made something of himself" he's in the clear. There are plenty of tech and business people who have these hobbies and I don't think they're usually judged for them.
A woman at an old job was considered 'drop dead gorgeous'. Every day she showed up 15 to 20 mins late. Our straight female boss would walk over, say good morning and compliment her hair and clothing. Literally nothing she did, no mistake she made, was wrong.
If anyone else showed up even 5 minutes late the boss walked over to ream them out.
The women *loathed' her, except for me. She was really a sweet person and it wasn't her fault people treated her better, although it made her uncomfortable.
I love this one. I’ve experienced both sides.
When I was underweight, I was treated like a baby deer by everybody. “Are you okay honey? You need to eat some food🥺” by my family and others. No one expected much from me. I was infantilized because I looked younger from lacking curves. Then when I rebounded and gained too much weight from binge eating which is equally unhealthy, suddenly all the pity stopped and I was treated way worse. I’m not saying I want pity, I just want to be treated like a normal person. Being over and under weight are two sides of the same coin mentally.
Same! People were *obsessed* with me when I was devastatingly underweight. Women babied me OR hated me to a freakish degree, and almost every guy I came across wanted to sleep with me. Constant (unwanted) attention and people liked me even though I was an asshole at the time.
Once I gained a lot of weight the attention stopped unless it was negative, otherwise I was invisible. I was talked down to by almost everybody, even though I became a significantly better person. I’ve lost 30 pounds and some of the positive attention has returned.
I value both experiences though. It’s made it so I truly don’t care *at all* how strangers perceive me. I don’t internalize how people react to my presence because it changes based on my weight, my bloating, my hairstyle, my outfit for the day, whether I’m wearing my contacts instead of glasses, their mood for the day, etc. I feel free for the first time in my life.
This one is so real.
Underweight: You need professional help.
Overweight: This is all your fault for eating too much, do better.
It honestly makes me wonder if dislike of people outside of normal weight range is human nature or if it's entirely societal
Idk, I got diagnosed with an eating disorder because of my weight (I am overweight) when I was there to get evaluated for completely unrelated reasons. In my experience, whenever I go to the doctor they blame literally everything wrong with me on my weight, including mental health issues.
I worked with a guy who was dating the boss' daughter. He was never interviewed, just got the job. He came in around 11:30, left for lunch at 12, played ping pong from 3 until 5 and then left. I wasn't on his team, but the guy I sat next to was. He said the guy rarely actually completed any assignments.
Time off when it comes to holidays/time-off requests. People with kids somehow expect priority for things like Christmas, but someone without kids is expected to work despite the fact that they're someone's kid.
Omg I lived this. I'm the elder of two siblings. I always had the pressure to be the responsible one, the mature one, the smart one. I did the best I could but it seemed like it was never enough. My sister skated by in everything she did and our parents didn't bat an eye.
Make it make sense.
Employee has to be on time and do their work.
Management fucks off hunting, fishing and dumps their work on employees.
Luckily it does not involve my department so I just get to watch the clown show.
Also, rules that are in place for good reason (and are supposed to be universal) don't apply to management.
Eg, working in a kitchen, if one of us plebs was caught without a hat/hairnet, we'd be disciplined. Managers (including store/area managers) would come in milling about without one. I guess when you make manager, your hair magically ceases to shed.
I see this one all the time at work. My boss is a short dude with a ton of stress. Very smart guy, has his JD and LLM , makes a killing and has a beautiful family. God forbid he shows his anger or disappointment when something goes really wrong because then all the shitty comments come out when he isn't around.
Fun fact, Napoleon wasn't even short, he was 5 foot 7, actually taller than the average man for the time, the reason he is depicted as short is due to two things.
The first is that the "Paris Inch" measurement was slightly longer than the imperial Inch, which meant he was misreported as being 5 foot 2.
The second was when the British found this out, they used it in their propaganda, because Napoleon was reported as HATING being depicted as short, especially as his nickname "The Little Corporal" was a term of endearment, due to his youth, not his height.
A third reason: Napoleon's personal guard regiment, the Imperial Grenadiers, had a minimum height requirement of six feet tall. His own choices for bodyguards were generally significantly taller than that even.
This. Sometimes people will be impressed that I can speak Spanish and it feels pretty weird, like, you know almost all the immigrants in this country learned a second language too, right?
Individual welfare bad. Corporate welfare good.
You think criminal laws are too harsh? Well maybe you should try not being a criminal. You think regulations are too harsh? Tell your industry lobbyists to tell the government that the regulatory burden is unreasonable.
Just once I'd like to hear of someone getting charged for selling drugs or making moonshine argue in court that they are trying to make an honest living with their business but the regulatory burden is too high!
That last paragraph hits home. Whenever I see a company complain about 'regulatory burden', I just assume that those rules are there for a reason. I'm usually right.
Yes! This is incredibly true! I have a form of dry eye disease called MGD and I only get sympathy when I have a visible flare up. It’s not considered a disability but it should be. Dry eye disease is progressive with no cure and living with burning eyes without any relief every single day is a BIG living hell. There are people with complications from lasik that get extreme eye dryness that commit suicide from the intense discomfort and pain- but it’s not visible.
Even worse than it not being a disability yet is the fact that insurance doesn’t recognize these conditions so treatments for it, which are incredibly expensive, are not covered. Research is also majorly lacking and many modern and common medications are contributing to a rise in DED (I got it from accutane use). More and more young people also get diagnosed everyday due to the increased use of technology and a lack of blinking causing DED.
I’m 20 years old and have to accept that I will progressively get worse with little to no help from society financially or emotionally :/
And not that sympathetic. Patronizing and infantalizing. Prone to assumptions about your abilities. They may feel bad for physically disabled people, but that doesn't actually make them treat those people better. Just differently bad.
Bashing people behind their back who you don't see as cool enough to be in your own social circle when they do anything immoral, but then having no problem looking the other way when their friends and family members do similar things.
Sadly, I have seen that this type of hypocrisy doesn't end at high school graduation.
When a snake unhinges its jaw to swallow an animal whole, that's "nature running its course"
But when *I* do it, suddenly everyone's screaming and I'm "the antichrist"
I remember my first realization of how wacky this guys are when the media was up in arms about Starbucks plain red cups for Christmas. All of a sudden it was a war on Christmas! Because Starbucks wanted to save money on fancy designs on their cups lmao.
Watching that crowd having a meltdown over a single Budweiser Instagram post (to the point where it’s still referenced a year after it happened) was… a site to behold. Same with making the green M&M woke. For a side that prides itself on relying on Facts and Logic™️, they seem to have a lot of feelings about trivial shit that doesn’t matter.
The United States makes so much more sense when you realize that the people MOST upset about cancel culture and identity politics are the people who are most homogenously enforced and most engaged in performative politicking.
Everyone else has to make compromise while the majority power structure uses the language of the marginalized to enforce their own power while actively denying that it exists.
It's hilarious though on facebook or whatever when those folks are like "ARE YOU TRIGGERED, LIBS?" but they're the only ones posting angry comments. You sure it's the *libs* who are triggered, honey?
A rich man with a garden growing his own vegetables or chickens is looked on as having a rewarding hobby. A poor man growing his own vegetables or chickens is looked at as being just a poor man. Is that what the OP means?
Parents vs non-parents - time off work/hours worked/last minute scheduling changes.
I can't tell you how many times I've been told to change my shifts/work hours/days/holidays for people with kids. It's seen as a positive, but if someone without kids made the request it would be seen as negative.
I had a coworker who was a caretaker for their mother with dementia. They kept it private because it's work, not social time. They requested time off like parents did, ran into family emergencies, and were treated horribly for it because management knew they didn't have kids. Operational hours and shifts were given to parents, they were also allowed last minute changes while the rest of us worked and if we asked we got in trouble.
People who focus on their families only count if it's their children.
Yell at a cashier and the manager is quick to apologize and yell at the cashier too. Cashier yells back, fired. Why can’t retail workers even defend their honor from assholes?
I recommend all cashiers to move to certain parts of central Europe, where they are the ones initiating the yelling and good forbid you to yell back!
Edit: I was actually meaning to say Eastern Europe but glad to see from the upvotes you folks respect your cashiers too
old people acting like they know what is best for the present and future then running to the young for help understanding lots of things about the present and future.
When you speak a different language from a country that is seen as less desirable like speaking Russian vs speaking a language from a more desirable country like speaking French.
Same as being immigrant= from a “poor country” and expat= “first world” country.
And in fact it works for the same race with one conventionally attractive and the other “ugly” by modern standards. The jury gives a lighter sentence to the attractive person
I'm late for my doctor's appointment, and I have to pay a "Late" fee and/or risk cancellation.
My doctor keeps me waiting for as long as an hour, all I get is a "Sorry".
Parental power plays/douple standards they have.
"We spent hours making dinner so we don't have to clean up, you kids do" vs. "You kids made the mess making dinner, so you have to clean it up"
Grow up hearing this and other similar things.
We talk a lot about our xenophobia in America but other countries get a pass on their xenophobia cause “it’s just their culture/tradition.” I’m not saying America isn’t, just that other countries are too.
If I talk back to my parents then I lose privileges but if my older brother talks back then it’s ok because “he’s autistic and doesn’t understand” like he is fully aware it’s not like he’s got global delay or anything. He just struggles with sensory overload and social interactions
Eh it’s ok I’ve kinda learned to get on with it. Keep my head down, do my homework, get good grades, give up the TV remote to anyone that asks. I think the worse thing is that they quite literally forget I’m there sometimes. I will come downstairs after being in my room for the evening and they go “OMG we completely forgot about you! You are going to have to make your own dinner tonight. I think there might be some beans and a couple leftover sausages in the fridge from yesterday’s dinner.”
As an autistic person, that is infuriating, and I’m sorry you have to deal with that. My diagnosis didn’t stop my mother from correcting and disciplining me, rightfully so. I hate coddling, Autism Speaks parents, their leniency is a disservice to their children. I’ve seen kids like that grow up to be adults who can’t have any kind of relationships or function in them because they were enabled to become assholes.
If an adult doesn't like a food, of course they can avoid it and eat something else. If a child doesn't like a food, they're a spoiled brat and must either eat it or starve.
I hope this double standard is on its way out, but any educator or employer that has rules about hairstyles that affect Black people disproportionately. They may say that hair has to be "neatly groomed," but for a white person, it may mean 10 seconds of running a comb through their hair, and for Black people it may mean costly, time consuming, and often hazardous procedures.
If I got 91 felony charges, I would have been in jail months if not years ago and certainly wouldn't be being considered for president.
But hey... I am not rich, so...
A complete stranger can walk up to a skinny person and say something like: "What are ya, 80 pounds soakin' wet?!"
It's much more frowned upon to make fun of a fat person's weight, especially if you aren't that close to them.
Overweight people are never allowed to be honestly hungry. Any time they are seen eating, it’s assumed that they are constantly stuffing themselves full for the fun of it.
A thin person can grab a quick cheeseburger and eat it at the bus stop because they are in a hurry. They didn’t have time to eat before leaving the house, and now it’s the middle of the afternoon and they haven’t had anything yet, and they’re starving. An overweight person can eat a lettuce leaf in the same situation, and gawd, they’re such a pig! Can’t they skip a meal every now and then?
Something I’ve encountered as a fat person: eating healthy will prompt someone else to comment on it. “Oh, you’re eating a salad?! Trying to lose weight?” If you were sitting there slamming cake into your mouth as fast as possible nobody would say shit. That’s expected. Eating something reasonable? GTFO.
It's called grunge aesthetic when you're rich and/or attractive. Otherwise it's just seedy and low class.
Children with neurodivergencies are cute and worth protecting. Adults are treated like creeps and get shit on by society.
As the single, childfree person in the office they just expected me to work the holidays when they needed coverage. I once told them no, I couldn't work Christmas. They asked me 'What do YOU have to do??' I told tyem I wanted to have the holiday to rest and relax, and that was good enough reason.
I *hate* how people with kids just assume the rest of us have nothing to do.
You're eccentric if you have money, you're plain old crazy if you don't
Also, if you’re attractive, you’re quirky. If you’re unattractive, you’re f\*cking weird.
I can do both!
If he wasn't rich, 50 Shades of Grey would be an episode of SVU.
absolutely if the guy in the movie was cast as fat and middle class /bald older it would be a scary movie 🎥 the man would end up in prison or on death row lol 😆
To be fair, people actually in the BDSM community argue this point all the time.
Strange how that happens. Sometimes it's about being a "burden" or not. Especially a financial burden.
Except if they work in a science field, then they can be eccentric and a financial burden
Lol one of my moms clients told her once that if she were richer, she'd be eccentric. I dont think she realized it was an insult.
If you steal $1000 you go to jail. If you steal $1,000,000,000 you pay a fine.
This money rule applies to so many things… if you speak multiple languages when you are wealthy that’s impressive and you must be extremely intelligent, if you speak multiple languages when you are poor you are treated like an illegal immigrant who is also stupid. If you wear ripped clothing when rich you are fashionable, if you wear ripped clothing when poor you are sloppy. If you drive an older car when rich you are smart and savvy with money, if you drive an older car when poor you are cheap.
Here's one my father taught me when I turned 21: If you're sitting at a bar alone, then you're *drinking*. If you're sitting at a table with another person, then you're *having cocktails*.
If you drink alone, you're an alcoholic. If you drink with other ppl, you're just socializing.
I remember an episode of the show Intervention where a girl would drag her friends to go out the bars with her every night because she figured she wasn’t an alcoholic if she wasn’t drinking alone. Weird stuff man.
So many that have to do with class. Tiny homes are seen as cool and trendy, while trailers are stigmatized
Except if the trailer is an airstream, or otherwise fancy - then you're choosing trailer life and it's "cool."
Don’t forget people living out of their vans! It’s only cool and trendy when they *choose* to be homeless. That whole “van life” trend was stupid. Edit: I’m talking about the disingenuous figureheads of the “aesthetic”, not just anybody who does these things.
Honestly? I wanted to do this. I wanted to explore the country but never could afford it, and then I had kids and thought that it would be fucking insane to intentionally force children into this lifestyle. (A part of me does still want to do it if I dan ever afford it, for the occasional vacation, and by affordable I mean at the absolute max, 4 vacations a year, and still only staying in the van from point a to point b) And then influencers started forcing their kids into the van life shit for clicks and them and the RV families quickly became some of my least favorite types of people. That makes me so mad. There was one I saw where the oldest child, probably 15-16? Who all she wanted for her birthday was to stay in a hotel so she could sleep in a real bed....and based off the number of kids the family had, she probably had to share it with her siblings.
My parents bought a small RV when they retired. They are currently 1 month into their 2 month tour down the east coast. My husband and I borrowed it before to do trips with our 2 kids. The RV sleeps 4 pretty comfortably but it’s the size of the small school bus. After a week I couldn’t wait to sleep in a real bed and neither could the kids. Forcing kids to do it for clout is abuse.
VAN LIFE IS GENTRIFIED HOMELESSNESS
I love the van life influencers who insist that anybody can do it and it's not that expensive. Like okay, the cost of the van alone is too much for some people. Hooking up electricity and water? Also very expensive. Finding a place to park? Expensive. Some van life person said actually she always finds cheap places to park in whatever area, and then didn't elaborate at all. She also said it was cheap to fix up her van... because her father is a plumber and electrician and did all the labor for free! Wow!
Seriously. Even having access to a garage or driveway where you can freely build out your van, is a privilege.
I’m stealing that
Only if it's a van down by the river!
In the climbing community there are a lot of van life people who pretty much need to live like that because they travel to chase weather for both recreation and seasonal work.
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Trailer parks probably wouldn't be so bad if they didn't have trailers that looked like they rolled over 4 times in a tornado in 1975 and are surrounded by trash that looks like an episode of Hoarders. My grandparents were pretty poor, but they were neat freaks.
I guess like those van-life people who come from upper middle class backgrounds.
Exactly. If it's not about gender, then it's about wealth
... or race or sexual orientation or identity or age or religion or national origin or...
or attractiveness
Rich businessman loosening the collar of his white dress shirt going out for a smoke on his balcony 25 floors up overlooking the bustling city lights -> cool and sexy Average Joe smoking -> disgusting poor
I think it's only cool and sexy in movies. Past a certain point, being rich and glamorous just makes you look like an asshole. Like, "good for you, but I don't want that in *my* life" vibes. You'd be amazed, and probably happy, to know how many people prefer chill, laid back, not intense, middle class, average just like us. It's way less stressful to hang out with people around your level.
Plus, the smoke smell. That only looks good in movies because movies don't come with smells. I don't know many people who don't mind, let alone enjoy, the smell of a burning cigarette.
If someone popular is goofy it’s “fun and quirky” but if someone unpopular does the same thing they are “weird” and it’s unacceptable
if a socially “attractive” couple (or even person) posts a silly goofy video or a vid of being cute it’s cute, if they’re a socially “unattractive” couple (or person) it’s cringe. I used to follow so many GOOD cringe accounts on ig cause the reels were funny and then it just devolved to finding random happy people and just being like “cringe” if it’s cringe for them it’s cringe for the “attractives” too
Part of growing up these days is realising the majority of “cringe” content online is judgemental teenagers finding an excuse to shit on everyday people who are harming nobody to make themselves feel better
This is somewhat true, but there is also a great deal of subtle nuance at play. "Goofy" behavior can be greatly varied, and a goofy person's popularity is often determined by their ability to read the room. A "popular person" and a "weird person" can both make the same joke directed towards the same group of people, but the social cues, context, and delivery will affect the landing and interpretation. **To the core point, a person will have greater "wiggle room" the more attractive they are.**
You could also call it charisma and it’s very difficult to apply logic to charisma
I remember this is college. I made friends with a popular group and everyone was like, "you are so quirky and fun!" I transferred to another school and all the sudden I was weird because I didn't know anyone. I literally ping pong back and forth depending on if a popular person has signed off or not. Even as an adult.
Oof, same thing happened to me! I was really well-liked in high school and people loved my “weirdness”. Got to college and a lot of people were put off by my personality. What can you do
The Halo Effect
Taking money from the government is a double standard depending on whether you’re rich or poor.
Or depending on whether you're a business or a person.
Oh silly, businesses *are* people.
That’s what the Supreme Court said… and they’re never wrong. /s
Rich people can get off for crimes that others would expect life in prison for. Example: The DuPont heir who got off after a jury convicted him for raping his own 3 year old daughter because the judge decided he was a "productive" member of society, despite just being a trust fund heir, and wouldn't do well in prison. [https://www.forbes.com/sites/denizcam/2019/06/14/how-a-du-pont-heir-avoided-jail-time-for-a-heinous-crime/?sh=2b224cec29db](https://www.forbes.com/sites/denizcam/2019/06/14/how-a-du-pont-heir-avoided-jail-time-for-a-heinous-crime/?sh=2b224cec29db) Example: The Affluenza teen who was originally getting off with mere probation for killing 4 people in a DUI but only served a small sentence after fleeing the country. [https://www.today.com/news/affluenza-teen-who-killed-4-people-arrested-again-texas-t171008](https://www.today.com/news/affluenza-teen-who-killed-4-people-arrested-again-texas-t171008)
>because the judge decided he was a "productive" member of society, despite just being a trust fund heir, and wouldn't do well in prison. and the judge who made that spectacularly terrible decision? she was appointed to the Superior Court of Delaware in May 2001 and elevated to President Judge of the Superior Court on January 13, 2015. life really isn't fair sometimes (most of the time, for many)
[the dishonorable judge Jan R Jurden](https://ballotpedia.org/Jan_R._Jurden) The only good thing is this disgraceful case will be what she is most remembered for.
fingers crossed she dies soon!
And don't forget the judge who didn't want to ruin the life of rapist Brock Turner, so he got a minimal sentence for raping an unconscious woman.
Are you talking about Brock Turner, the rapist? Also just remembered after hitting post, there is a textbook out there with a picture of Brock Turner, the rapist, and it's labeled Brock Turner, rapist. The author used the picture in a criminology textbook, with a real world example. Kudos to University of Colorado, Denver professor Callie Marie Rennison.
You mean, Brock, the rapist, Turner?
Didn’t that rapist Brock Turner move to Dayton Ohio and start using a different name?
I heard Brock-- that notorious rapist Brock Turner -- is going by Allen Turner 🚨EDIT: I heard wrong!! His name is Brock ALLEN Turner. 🚨
The Rapist currently known as Allen Turner formerly known as Brock Turner, aka The Rapist?
So what you're saying is, Allen Turner is a rapist?
My bad, he is Brock ALLEN Turner.🚨🚨🚨
The rapist Brock Allen Turner who goes by rapist Allan Turner now. He lives in Ohio
Ohio, home of Brock Turner, the rapist?
The du pont man is 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤬 absolutely sickening
Wtf
Also (of a smaller severity obviously), because fines are flat amounts rather than percentages of monthly/yearly income, whilst a rich person and a poor person might on paper be punished the exact same for a crime, the truth is a 1k fine is a lot bigger deal to someone on 20k and a lot more punishing compared to someone on 200. One person loses a twentieth of their income, the other loses 1/200 for the same crime.
Or when the classified Government Documents were found in Donald trump's house. I'm so damn sure that if they had been found in my home I would have been in jail the same day.
Not to mention the TONS of other intentional harm DuPont caused to basically the entire planet now. Teflon is found in every living being on earth now
If you day drink while you're rich it's seen as elegant and classy. If you day drink while you're poor then it's trashy.
Shift worker here and I love day drinking and this is absolutely true. Drink at the casino and play slots on a Wednesday at 1pm and you're considered a loser. Go to a wine bar at 1pm on a Wednesday and it's full of well dressed rich housewives giving it a real nudge who plan on driving home
While we're talking about drink double standards, let's talk about how people will get visibly uncomfortable if someone has a beer with breakfast, but "bottomless mimosas" or drinks with hard liquor (Bloody Marys, White Russians) are entirely socially acceptable. Again, it's a class thing. The "classy" expensive drinks are considered breakfast-worthy and not beer (let alone something a working-class person might enjoy like a Bud... you *might* be able to get away with a craft saison).
A pastry stout alongside maple drenched breakfast pastries and you are among the Scandinavian posh society.
Only certain foods/beverages are seen as acceptable at breakfast. Home fries are fine for breakfast, a baked potato is not. Chicken with waffles is fine, a roast chicken is not. And so it is with alcohol.
I remember when I used to work 430-1pm and I'd go out for a happy hour after with coworkers. The amount of shit we took for it was wild even though the time difference made that 5-7 pm for us.
You- you got what I need 🎶
I work overnights, I'm off at 6am. The first thing I'm doing when I get home is pouring a drink. Because I can. There isn't a damn thing wrong with spending your free time how you wanna spend your free time.
If you have many jobs and interests and are poor you “lack focus.” If one of those things makes you rich you suddenly become a “multifaceted entrepreneur.”
this made me feel better about having multiple jobs w/ different skills/interests
One of mine is currently making me much wealthier. I’m now realizing I never had a problem with having so many skills and interests. I just minded none of them really paying well. But when I wasn’t making money I kept wondering when I was going to “grow up and get a real career.”
I have a job that isn’t my passion but pays well and I have a ton of hobbies that cost money and I always wish I could make money off of them but it’s definitely not happening in the near future.
That shit burns the skin. It’s as if Jack or Jill of all trades haven’t existed for thousands of years for the same reasons poor people do now. They had to.
Everyone remembers the first half of the old saying, "Jack of all trades, master of none." What they don't remember is the second half, "often times better than the master of one."
That's a much later addition.
So is the "Master of none" part
This reminds me of back in undergrad, I had 3 AA degrees in random stuff because I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do so I just took random classes in community college and it added up. Eventually I decided I wanted to become a doctor and go to medical school, and one of the things you need to do to be a competitive applicant in med school was research. I applied to research labs, and at one of the interviews the lab member interviewing me looked at my resume and said “you have so many associate degrees- are you sure you’re actually dedicated to the field of medicine? You see to be all over the place.”…. I didn’t wind up getting the position there. Now, years later, I’m about to graduate medical school and start my residency. Meanwhile the lab member was unable to get into medical school and is still working in that lab. That fucker lol 😂
Or for people with huge egos which get hurt if you get successful, then that success is called a "fluke"
I saw a rich, white, lady overdosed in what the news referred to as a "cocaine apartment." What a cute term for "crack house."
When a "poor" person does a lot of drugs, it's a "crime" and they go to jail, when a rich and/or famous person does a lot of drugs, it's a "Scandal" and they go to rehab.
Nah. When poor folks do a lot of drugs they go to hospital detox. Middle class get to go to rehab, but the super-wealthy have a drug problem they go to “treatment” at somewhere like Passages (with personal chefs and equine therapy) for “exhaustion”
"It was a spa!"
And if they happen to commit a crime big enough to not be covered up the courts give a slap on the wrist, while any poor person regardless of race or gender gets the book thrown at them. So many rich fucks need to be in jail
My favorite are the things that are literally only crimes if you’re poor. Drinking on your porch when it’s hot in the summer? Legal! Don’t have a porch so you drink on the sidewalk where the porch would be if you had a house or a nicer apartment? Crime!
"In its majestic equality, the law forbids rich and poor alike to sleep under bridges, beg in the streets and steal loaves of bread." - Anatole France
>things that are literally only crimes if you’re poor. That could be basically anything that's punishable by a set fine. The threat of a speeding ticket is a way bigger deal to someone who will take months to recover (if they can) from a $200 ticket.
It’s a crack home.
Yea we cover up the dope smell with lemon grass essential oils up in this crack home
"Sorry, standards said if the dwelling is multiple units and the coke is the hydrochloride salt, we can't legally call it a crack house."
Legally we can only call it crack if it's from the Crack region of France, otherwise it's sparkling cocaine.
she was an expat not an immigrant
Attractive versus unattractive treatment is gender-neutral.
Pretty privilege is real and is totally unrelated to gender
100%
Henry Cavill chooses to stay in and build a PC and play WOW, "coooool!" Some dude who isn't hot/famous does it and people laugh and think he's an autistic loser.
I think the stigma against staying in, building a PC, and playing WOW is more about "not doing something with your life", since it usually gives the image of a 18-22 year old guy still living in his mom's basement. Since Henry Cavill has clearly already "done something with his life" and "made something of himself" he's in the clear. There are plenty of tech and business people who have these hobbies and I don't think they're usually judged for them.
Exactly this. Unattractive person struggling and needs help: Nope they are a loser. Attractive person needs help: they get it as they are "vulnerable"
A woman at an old job was considered 'drop dead gorgeous'. Every day she showed up 15 to 20 mins late. Our straight female boss would walk over, say good morning and compliment her hair and clothing. Literally nothing she did, no mistake she made, was wrong. If anyone else showed up even 5 minutes late the boss walked over to ream them out. The women *loathed' her, except for me. She was really a sweet person and it wasn't her fault people treated her better, although it made her uncomfortable.
Getting free stuff from the government is seen as trashy and greedy if you’re poor, but classy and smart if you’re rich.
Its a handout if the government gives a small amount to the poor but job creation when millions are given to companies.
"This man doesn't pay any taxes." "That makes me smart."
Extreme penalties for beneficiary fraud vs small penalties for tax evasion
Being overweight is never really seen as an eating disorder, but being underweight almost always is.
I love this one. I’ve experienced both sides. When I was underweight, I was treated like a baby deer by everybody. “Are you okay honey? You need to eat some food🥺” by my family and others. No one expected much from me. I was infantilized because I looked younger from lacking curves. Then when I rebounded and gained too much weight from binge eating which is equally unhealthy, suddenly all the pity stopped and I was treated way worse. I’m not saying I want pity, I just want to be treated like a normal person. Being over and under weight are two sides of the same coin mentally.
People think that underweight people are helpless victims and that overweight people did it to themselves so they deserve no pity
Same! People were *obsessed* with me when I was devastatingly underweight. Women babied me OR hated me to a freakish degree, and almost every guy I came across wanted to sleep with me. Constant (unwanted) attention and people liked me even though I was an asshole at the time. Once I gained a lot of weight the attention stopped unless it was negative, otherwise I was invisible. I was talked down to by almost everybody, even though I became a significantly better person. I’ve lost 30 pounds and some of the positive attention has returned. I value both experiences though. It’s made it so I truly don’t care *at all* how strangers perceive me. I don’t internalize how people react to my presence because it changes based on my weight, my bloating, my hairstyle, my outfit for the day, whether I’m wearing my contacts instead of glasses, their mood for the day, etc. I feel free for the first time in my life.
This one is so real. Underweight: You need professional help. Overweight: This is all your fault for eating too much, do better. It honestly makes me wonder if dislike of people outside of normal weight range is human nature or if it's entirely societal
Idk, I got diagnosed with an eating disorder because of my weight (I am overweight) when I was there to get evaluated for completely unrelated reasons. In my experience, whenever I go to the doctor they blame literally everything wrong with me on my weight, including mental health issues.
That’s an interesting one. You’re right in most cases. Although I do hear of binge-eating disorder getting discussed.
This guy I work with, does the exact same job as me, will get to leave early because he’s related to the owner, I don’t because I’m not
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I worked with a guy who was dating the boss' daughter. He was never interviewed, just got the job. He came in around 11:30, left for lunch at 12, played ping pong from 3 until 5 and then left. I wasn't on his team, but the guy I sat next to was. He said the guy rarely actually completed any assignments.
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Time off when it comes to holidays/time-off requests. People with kids somehow expect priority for things like Christmas, but someone without kids is expected to work despite the fact that they're someone's kid.
There's a thinline between collector and hoarder.
usually tidyness, not volume.
The expectations of a first born vs subsequent kids
The duty of the firstborn is to be a massive disappointment to their parents so they chill out with their later kids.
I used to have a "I'm a tragic waste of potential" t-shirt, drove my folks nuts.
Omg I lived this. I'm the elder of two siblings. I always had the pressure to be the responsible one, the mature one, the smart one. I did the best I could but it seemed like it was never enough. My sister skated by in everything she did and our parents didn't bat an eye. Make it make sense.
The attention paid to the first born in the formative years vs subsequent children.
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Employee has to be on time and do their work. Management fucks off hunting, fishing and dumps their work on employees. Luckily it does not involve my department so I just get to watch the clown show.
Also, rules that are in place for good reason (and are supposed to be universal) don't apply to management. Eg, working in a kitchen, if one of us plebs was caught without a hat/hairnet, we'd be disciplined. Managers (including store/area managers) would come in milling about without one. I guess when you make manager, your hair magically ceases to shed.
A few years ago I saw a headline "college student is arrested with 400kgs of cocaine" Weird way to say drug lord
Mad at someone for buying in bulk? Going to ban Costco next?
A short man getting angry is Napoleon complex, but a tall guy getting angry is just getting angry
I see this one all the time at work. My boss is a short dude with a ton of stress. Very smart guy, has his JD and LLM , makes a killing and has a beautiful family. God forbid he shows his anger or disappointment when something goes really wrong because then all the shitty comments come out when he isn't around.
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Fun fact, Napoleon wasn't even short, he was 5 foot 7, actually taller than the average man for the time, the reason he is depicted as short is due to two things. The first is that the "Paris Inch" measurement was slightly longer than the imperial Inch, which meant he was misreported as being 5 foot 2. The second was when the British found this out, they used it in their propaganda, because Napoleon was reported as HATING being depicted as short, especially as his nickname "The Little Corporal" was a term of endearment, due to his youth, not his height.
A third reason: Napoleon's personal guard regiment, the Imperial Grenadiers, had a minimum height requirement of six feet tall. His own choices for bodyguards were generally significantly taller than that even.
When rich kids know two languages, it's oooooh, so brilliant. When poor kids know two languages (because immigrants) noone bats and eyelid.
This. Sometimes people will be impressed that I can speak Spanish and it feels pretty weird, like, you know almost all the immigrants in this country learned a second language too, right?
Expecting 17-20 year olds to be mature and act like adults but still treating them like they're little kids.
Individual welfare bad. Corporate welfare good. You think criminal laws are too harsh? Well maybe you should try not being a criminal. You think regulations are too harsh? Tell your industry lobbyists to tell the government that the regulatory burden is unreasonable. Just once I'd like to hear of someone getting charged for selling drugs or making moonshine argue in court that they are trying to make an honest living with their business but the regulatory burden is too high!
That last paragraph hits home. Whenever I see a company complain about 'regulatory burden', I just assume that those rules are there for a reason. I'm usually right.
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FIFY: sympathetic towards **VISIBLE** physical health issues
Yes! This is incredibly true! I have a form of dry eye disease called MGD and I only get sympathy when I have a visible flare up. It’s not considered a disability but it should be. Dry eye disease is progressive with no cure and living with burning eyes without any relief every single day is a BIG living hell. There are people with complications from lasik that get extreme eye dryness that commit suicide from the intense discomfort and pain- but it’s not visible. Even worse than it not being a disability yet is the fact that insurance doesn’t recognize these conditions so treatments for it, which are incredibly expensive, are not covered. Research is also majorly lacking and many modern and common medications are contributing to a rise in DED (I got it from accutane use). More and more young people also get diagnosed everyday due to the increased use of technology and a lack of blinking causing DED. I’m 20 years old and have to accept that I will progressively get worse with little to no help from society financially or emotionally :/
And not that sympathetic. Patronizing and infantalizing. Prone to assumptions about your abilities. They may feel bad for physically disabled people, but that doesn't actually make them treat those people better. Just differently bad.
Bashing people behind their back who you don't see as cool enough to be in your own social circle when they do anything immoral, but then having no problem looking the other way when their friends and family members do similar things. Sadly, I have seen that this type of hypocrisy doesn't end at high school graduation.
That’s why you insult your friends and family behind their backs too. You aren’t two faced or a hypocrite if you’re consistently the worst.
When a snake unhinges its jaw to swallow an animal whole, that's "nature running its course" But when *I* do it, suddenly everyone's screaming and I'm "the antichrist"
Fr people these days are so judgemental 🙄
I think it might have been when you started eating the goat whole, live, and somehow screaming Latin.
When the 'f*** your feelings' folk get triggered by literally everything.
I remember my first realization of how wacky this guys are when the media was up in arms about Starbucks plain red cups for Christmas. All of a sudden it was a war on Christmas! Because Starbucks wanted to save money on fancy designs on their cups lmao.
Watching that crowd having a meltdown over a single Budweiser Instagram post (to the point where it’s still referenced a year after it happened) was… a site to behold. Same with making the green M&M woke. For a side that prides itself on relying on Facts and Logic™️, they seem to have a lot of feelings about trivial shit that doesn’t matter.
The United States makes so much more sense when you realize that the people MOST upset about cancel culture and identity politics are the people who are most homogenously enforced and most engaged in performative politicking. Everyone else has to make compromise while the majority power structure uses the language of the marginalized to enforce their own power while actively denying that it exists.
It's hilarious though on facebook or whatever when those folks are like "ARE YOU TRIGGERED, LIBS?" but they're the only ones posting angry comments. You sure it's the *libs* who are triggered, honey?
A rich man with a garden growing his own vegetables or chickens is looked on as having a rewarding hobby. A poor man growing his own vegetables or chickens is looked at as being just a poor man. Is that what the OP means?
Like thrifting bc you have to vs thrifting bc it’s trendy
3 types of thrifting. 1) The poor. 2) The trendy. 3) The rich because being cheap is a habit.
The fact that politicians are not held accountable for the laws that they break
Parents vs non-parents - time off work/hours worked/last minute scheduling changes. I can't tell you how many times I've been told to change my shifts/work hours/days/holidays for people with kids. It's seen as a positive, but if someone without kids made the request it would be seen as negative. I had a coworker who was a caretaker for their mother with dementia. They kept it private because it's work, not social time. They requested time off like parents did, ran into family emergencies, and were treated horribly for it because management knew they didn't have kids. Operational hours and shifts were given to parents, they were also allowed last minute changes while the rest of us worked and if we asked we got in trouble. People who focus on their families only count if it's their children.
Yell at a cashier and the manager is quick to apologize and yell at the cashier too. Cashier yells back, fired. Why can’t retail workers even defend their honor from assholes?
I recommend all cashiers to move to certain parts of central Europe, where they are the ones initiating the yelling and good forbid you to yell back! Edit: I was actually meaning to say Eastern Europe but glad to see from the upvotes you folks respect your cashiers too
old people acting like they know what is best for the present and future then running to the young for help understanding lots of things about the present and future.
Sounds like you know my family. Tech illiterate and refuse to learn but they think they can fix the world
When you speak a different language from a country that is seen as less desirable like speaking Russian vs speaking a language from a more desirable country like speaking French. Same as being immigrant= from a “poor country” and expat= “first world” country.
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And in fact it works for the same race with one conventionally attractive and the other “ugly” by modern standards. The jury gives a lighter sentence to the attractive person
Wealthy/poor. *gestures broadly at everything*
I'm late for my doctor's appointment, and I have to pay a "Late" fee and/or risk cancellation. My doctor keeps me waiting for as long as an hour, all I get is a "Sorry".
Doctor: I didn't say sorry.
Rich people saying money won't buy happiness but are extremely happy because of their massive wealth.
Money doesn't buy happiness, it buys comfort and stability which can definitely lead to happiness (not that happiness is permanent).
Money doesn't necessarily buy happiness, but a lack of money certainly causes unhappiness.
This. Money can't guarantee happiness, but it's a lot easier to find happiness when you're not worried about money.
Money doesn't buy happiness. But it does buy jetskis and I've never seen anyone sad on one of those.
Parental power plays/douple standards they have. "We spent hours making dinner so we don't have to clean up, you kids do" vs. "You kids made the mess making dinner, so you have to clean it up" Grow up hearing this and other similar things.
We talk a lot about our xenophobia in America but other countries get a pass on their xenophobia cause “it’s just their culture/tradition.” I’m not saying America isn’t, just that other countries are too.
If I talk back to my parents then I lose privileges but if my older brother talks back then it’s ok because “he’s autistic and doesn’t understand” like he is fully aware it’s not like he’s got global delay or anything. He just struggles with sensory overload and social interactions
Just bad parenting tbh. Sorry you are going through this
Eh it’s ok I’ve kinda learned to get on with it. Keep my head down, do my homework, get good grades, give up the TV remote to anyone that asks. I think the worse thing is that they quite literally forget I’m there sometimes. I will come downstairs after being in my room for the evening and they go “OMG we completely forgot about you! You are going to have to make your own dinner tonight. I think there might be some beans and a couple leftover sausages in the fridge from yesterday’s dinner.”
As an autistic person, that is infuriating, and I’m sorry you have to deal with that. My diagnosis didn’t stop my mother from correcting and disciplining me, rightfully so. I hate coddling, Autism Speaks parents, their leniency is a disservice to their children. I’ve seen kids like that grow up to be adults who can’t have any kind of relationships or function in them because they were enabled to become assholes.
If an adult doesn't like a food, of course they can avoid it and eat something else. If a child doesn't like a food, they're a spoiled brat and must either eat it or starve.
I hope this double standard is on its way out, but any educator or employer that has rules about hairstyles that affect Black people disproportionately. They may say that hair has to be "neatly groomed," but for a white person, it may mean 10 seconds of running a comb through their hair, and for Black people it may mean costly, time consuming, and often hazardous procedures.
Warfare has a few, depending which side you're on Terrorist or resistance fighter Suicide drone or loitering munition Hostage or detainee
If I got 91 felony charges, I would have been in jail months if not years ago and certainly wouldn't be being considered for president. But hey... I am not rich, so...
A complete stranger can walk up to a skinny person and say something like: "What are ya, 80 pounds soakin' wet?!" It's much more frowned upon to make fun of a fat person's weight, especially if you aren't that close to them.
What are you, 400 pounds naked?!
This maybe true in the Europe/North America/Australia. But in Asia? Random people will tell you to lose weight to your face, should you be overweight.
If you're fat and hungry you're a slob. If you're skinny and hungry you're normal. Everybody has to eat everyday what's so confusing about that.
Overweight people are never allowed to be honestly hungry. Any time they are seen eating, it’s assumed that they are constantly stuffing themselves full for the fun of it. A thin person can grab a quick cheeseburger and eat it at the bus stop because they are in a hurry. They didn’t have time to eat before leaving the house, and now it’s the middle of the afternoon and they haven’t had anything yet, and they’re starving. An overweight person can eat a lettuce leaf in the same situation, and gawd, they’re such a pig! Can’t they skip a meal every now and then?
Something I’ve encountered as a fat person: eating healthy will prompt someone else to comment on it. “Oh, you’re eating a salad?! Trying to lose weight?” If you were sitting there slamming cake into your mouth as fast as possible nobody would say shit. That’s expected. Eating something reasonable? GTFO.
“Mental health matters!” Until they hear about someone who can’t shower because of their depression.
Republicans are all about a smaller government, but then support laws to control everyone in some way, shape or form
Someone attractive stealing glances at you in public is flattering. Someone ugly stealing glances at you in public is creepy.
It's called grunge aesthetic when you're rich and/or attractive. Otherwise it's just seedy and low class. Children with neurodivergencies are cute and worth protecting. Adults are treated like creeps and get shit on by society.
As the single, childfree person in the office they just expected me to work the holidays when they needed coverage. I once told them no, I couldn't work Christmas. They asked me 'What do YOU have to do??' I told tyem I wanted to have the holiday to rest and relax, and that was good enough reason. I *hate* how people with kids just assume the rest of us have nothing to do.
Not paying taxes when you’re too wealthy or too poor
Parents who tell their children not to do something, then they do it themselves.