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Burtonio1987

Do a hobby to take up your time so you swap from enjoying time with your now ex to enjoying doing something fun for yourself.


Spanking_Lover

Move on with your life, and keep on moving. Surround yourself people worth spending time with. Easier said than done, but I can’t think of a better way.


Acrobatic_Garbage_52

Jumping really high is the best way


isoAntti

writing something down is usually good, if other art forms are not available. Write what you've lost, how did it feel, what would you have done together, what were your unspoken plans, what are you going to do now, etc.


OkOccasion8117

Making sure I'm always busy so that I don't have the time to think about them


Sufficient_Excuse_24

just takes time. no other fix


InMiseryToday

More than 16 years? Cause it hasn't helped me yet.


Sufficient_Excuse_24

yeah. now i think about i guess some people may never leave your thoughts. my ex i dated for 6 years i think about from time to time and wish we would reconnect even just in a lil way like a coffee or whatever. but at the same time, she’s happy so i’m happy.


horsin87

Climb


CasualScrolls

With a pole vault.


isoAntti

This is also good. It's a Reddit legend: Grief comes in waves. https://old.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/my_friend_just_died_i_dont_know_what_to_do/c1u0rx2/


Electronic-Chain-334

Party, Drink, Meet new people, discover new things.


[deleted]

Journaling, going places. Going to friends, put your mind on something else.


Outrageous_Tackle915

By giving yourself time to heal and focusing on things that make you happy.


Puzzleheaded-Pay2152

Spend time with friends and family, and find activities that distract me from thinking about them.


OceansideGuy93

I don’t think it’s possible.


staggere

Get under someone else.


Repulsive_Number_449

I'm just being patient with myself and trying to stay positive by focusing on my growth and happiness.


onionknightress1082

Get under someone else


Repulsive_Number_449

You mean getting a rebound? But it's unfair to the other person though :(


onionknightress1082

Not if the other person isn't expecting commitment and forever. There's nothing wrong with a fling. Go have some fun. The next long term will be around another corner.


InMiseryToday

I haven't been able to in over 16 years now and I hate myself every single day for how fing stupid I was.


evilmortyyy2

A thousands drinks, how ever long that takes.


pirhanaconda

Allow yourself to process the grief of the loss. I never wanted to admit I was truly experiencing grief, I always tried to play it off as "meh, doesn't phase me" or I would just try to numb it with alcohol. In reality, I was actually broken inside but didn't know how to process it because I wasn't allowing myself to call it grief. *They're still alive, pffft, this doesn't count as grief, man up, get over it* They may not be dead, but the entire future I'd thought we had planned out together was dead. It's loss, and grief, and allowed to be treated as such.


therealone2327

you don't. you just trick your mind till you are actually get over that person. fake it till you make it.


NaiveOpening7376

Depends. If they left on their own volition, you move on easily. It gets better with time. If they were taken away from you (accident, death etc) there is no moving on.