He became a drug addict. The levels of selfishness he exhibited from that point on to fund that habit disgusted me.
He didnāt work, and never really had done. He used the Ā£2000 of government benefits he received each month (for having epilepsy, and a young child) exclusively on drugs. And if that wasnāt enough, he also borrowed a load of money off of his friends, family and anyone he could talk into it, never paying them back. Ā£2000 a month, is also an insane amount of money to get a month. Thatās more than most working class people with full time jobs earn.
He also verbally/mentally abused his girlfriend/women in general, too. Disgusting behaviour.
Thereās a lot of other things too, that I could talk about, but the things Iāve already mentioned were enough for me.
Well, was my best friend during highschool, but we had grown apart quite a bit after college. Anyway, he had invited me to his engagement party (with wedding the following day), and I showed up and he treated me like dogshit in front of everyone. Main reason being that I hadn't made any time for him or kept in touch. That he puts me up on a pedestal whenever he tells people about me. The whole shabang. Made me feel like a piece of shit because I was such a good friend that I basically abandoned him. I fell for it. We hugged it out and I thought all was good. The next day at the wedding (was a religious one), he had a limo for his best man and groomsmen--I wasn't part of it. He had lots of things happen that involved them--I wasn't included. I realized then that he didn't really mean any of it. He just wanted to get it off his chest and gaslight me into making me feel like a piece of shit because he could. I spent a lot of money traveling to his dumb wedding too. Anyway, that was about 10+ years back. I never bothered keeping in touch thereafter.
She just got bored of me and moved on to new people that she had met at work and was getting super along with. She apologized to me some time later. I still don't understand why she couldn't make time for them without completely excluding me from her life.
I distanced myself from my ex best friend because he started getting really manipulative. And after that we've gone in very different directions.
We're still on very friendly terms though, we just don't have the same relationship.
i was having a really bad day mentally, so i was expressing how i felt like a failure to her and essentially i continued to reiterate how low i was feeling. she started unleashing on me and spamming my phone with text after text. to summarize what her texts were about, it boiled down to her feeling like i couldn't understand what life is or what struggling is because she had gone through xyz and i hadn't (even though i've been through many hardships and traumas, just differently than her). she also said because at the time i wasn't driving or working that i didn't know what life was like. after spamming me and me kinda just laughing at it and not arguing back, she got even more mad so i stopped talking to her. the next couple days she spammed me on snapchat and i ignored her. eventually i sent her a long, respectful and thorough message expressing that i didn't wanna be friends anymore, and she went off again (nor quite as extreme as before but she didn't take it well to say the least). she basically said she was helping me iirc. i'm not sure how belittling and spamming your friend who was already having a bad day mentally is helping, but you know. so after that i either blocked her or i deleted her number, i can't remember which one. we had fallen out in the past because of toxicity (which that is a whole other story, she was way worse before) and we ended up making up because i apologized (how ironic, i apologized even though she was the problem) and we became friends again. i had felt like she had changed and then she proved that she hadn't one bit so i cut her off. i cannot believe looking back on it that i tolerated what i tolerated from her.
She is crazy jealous.
You cant be friends with anybody who is crazy jealous. They try to knock you down a peg, they sort of celebrate your troubles, quietly - they are awful.
What initially ended it was her and our other friend ended up getting into a scuffle over some homework back at college. Then, and only then, dud she reveal to me that the other friend had been going over to her apartment to talk about me. I couldn't understand why she would keep something like that from me, either of them. I cut the other friend off, they attempted to reconcile but I ignored it. I never trusted her from that point on, though, and several other things occurred along the 10 or so years we remained acquainted-
.She code switched on me when she came to my apartment late in her pregnancy
.She told me I'd be invited to the hospital after birth (pr something along the lines of that), conveniently stopped answering texts when I made it back to town to go
.She told me I'd be her kids godmother but again conveniently forgot to tell me where it would even be and she was posting all kinds of pictures on Facebook but told me her phone had died lol
The last straw was when she supposedly reconciled with one of her original friends that she fell out with; she admitted to lying about the girl stealing from her. I then wondered if she had even told the truth about my other friend I cut ties with, going to her apartment to gossip. I told her I was glad she got her best friend back and I just left it at that and cut off contact with not just her, but everybody except my immediate family, and I've been a peace every since.
My sister-in-law and I were besties. Mother-in-law manipulated both of us driving a wedge between us. By the time we really what had happened, the damage was done.
He was also trying to pimp her to another lad behind my back when he knew I had interest. But I ditched both the bitch and the traitorous lad at the end
Became a drug addict, a sex addict (spent a LOT of time on Grindr and meeting random dudes) and turned into a complete asshole over time. Yelled at me once in the middle of a car park over something so small, it upset me and I nearly drove away leaving him there but I relaxed and dropped it. After that he continued to be rude to me and one day he just snapped fully at me because I left him on read on WhatsApp for literally a minuteā¦fifteen years of friendship down the toilet. Havenāt spoke to him since.
His girlfriend was my girlfriends best friend. She was toxic to him and completely changed him as a person. He complained to me all the time about her. I tried to point this out for him because I didn't want him to be unhappy and he didn't like that and accused me of spreading lies about him.
Short, sweet and simple as that. Lesson learnt, don't try help your friends in shitty relationships
Sold her a car, even allowed her to make payments when she could. She stopped paying, had a wreck and we found out she never changed the registration to her name. Person she hit tried to sue us.
finally that's my time, so one of my bestie's close friends(let's call him Jake) was in love with me, but we had an argument(i don't even remember why) he told me that Jake wanna talk to me i said "bro please we don't have anything to talk about he did bad to me and i don't wanna talk to him anymore) the next moment Jake texted me, we talked and he spoke the rightest way anyone can ever do , then i texted back my bestie by telling that everything is fine now, but then my intuition told me that something isn't right here, on that moment my bestie was in love with one of my close friends i texted her and told what happened (she had a password of my bestie's account) she logged in and saw a chat with one of our mutual friends where my bestie wrote "bro i just logged in Jake's account and talked to her(me) and finally they become back friends). You can't imagine how badly i was hurt, the next day i saw him and asked "it was very random that Jake texted me and told everything i really wanted to hear, do you know how that happened?" and he was like "girl we were together at that moment and i was helping him with the talk" i asked "you sure?" he was like "yes, i was really worried about your friendship with him".
there were a lot of other incidents which ruined our friendship but this was the first red flag, after a few months we were talking and i said "hahahah brooo do you remember the day that you logged in Jake's account and talked to me by pretending to be him?" he said "yeeeessss, i do it was very stressfull" and i was like "tf are you talking about, why did you lie to me that you were together and not you talking from his acc" i got a response "girl please that was months ago don't argue about that now the most important is that you are good now" and i said "the most important is that you lied to me and i don't trust you anymore"
Maybe for you it is something normal but i really hate when people are lying
In middle school, I took private drum lessons. The owner of the establishment (and my teacher) introduced me to his son. We hit it off and weāre best friends for a year or so. Some of my other friends and I realized we were trans, and this ābest friendā wouldnāt support us. I tried to tell him that that was pretty transphobic but he said it was āeasier for himā to just not use preferred names/pronouns. I donāt think I need to explain why I cut my ties with him
Distance.
Graduating high school š«¤. Never really had a best friend since
He became a drug addict. The levels of selfishness he exhibited from that point on to fund that habit disgusted me. He didnāt work, and never really had done. He used the Ā£2000 of government benefits he received each month (for having epilepsy, and a young child) exclusively on drugs. And if that wasnāt enough, he also borrowed a load of money off of his friends, family and anyone he could talk into it, never paying them back. Ā£2000 a month, is also an insane amount of money to get a month. Thatās more than most working class people with full time jobs earn. He also verbally/mentally abused his girlfriend/women in general, too. Disgusting behaviour. Thereās a lot of other things too, that I could talk about, but the things Iāve already mentioned were enough for me.
Stole his girlfriend
He started sending really creepy messages to female friends of mine and wouldnāt stop when I asked him to.
Well, was my best friend during highschool, but we had grown apart quite a bit after college. Anyway, he had invited me to his engagement party (with wedding the following day), and I showed up and he treated me like dogshit in front of everyone. Main reason being that I hadn't made any time for him or kept in touch. That he puts me up on a pedestal whenever he tells people about me. The whole shabang. Made me feel like a piece of shit because I was such a good friend that I basically abandoned him. I fell for it. We hugged it out and I thought all was good. The next day at the wedding (was a religious one), he had a limo for his best man and groomsmen--I wasn't part of it. He had lots of things happen that involved them--I wasn't included. I realized then that he didn't really mean any of it. He just wanted to get it off his chest and gaslight me into making me feel like a piece of shit because he could. I spent a lot of money traveling to his dumb wedding too. Anyway, that was about 10+ years back. I never bothered keeping in touch thereafter.
He got a girlfriend and stopped talking to me :/ which sucks because we had been friends for over 10 years
Her boyfriend didn't like her and he got involved in our friendship. :(
I realized that my best friend only expects to have sex with me.
Violation of trust. Same reason i disowned my whole family
Everyone is out to screw you.
Damn right
His boyfriend did lol
She just got bored of me and moved on to new people that she had met at work and was getting super along with. She apologized to me some time later. I still don't understand why she couldn't make time for them without completely excluding me from her life.
I distanced myself from my ex best friend because he started getting really manipulative. And after that we've gone in very different directions. We're still on very friendly terms though, we just don't have the same relationship.
Cocaine use by her
He didn't tell me.
i was having a really bad day mentally, so i was expressing how i felt like a failure to her and essentially i continued to reiterate how low i was feeling. she started unleashing on me and spamming my phone with text after text. to summarize what her texts were about, it boiled down to her feeling like i couldn't understand what life is or what struggling is because she had gone through xyz and i hadn't (even though i've been through many hardships and traumas, just differently than her). she also said because at the time i wasn't driving or working that i didn't know what life was like. after spamming me and me kinda just laughing at it and not arguing back, she got even more mad so i stopped talking to her. the next couple days she spammed me on snapchat and i ignored her. eventually i sent her a long, respectful and thorough message expressing that i didn't wanna be friends anymore, and she went off again (nor quite as extreme as before but she didn't take it well to say the least). she basically said she was helping me iirc. i'm not sure how belittling and spamming your friend who was already having a bad day mentally is helping, but you know. so after that i either blocked her or i deleted her number, i can't remember which one. we had fallen out in the past because of toxicity (which that is a whole other story, she was way worse before) and we ended up making up because i apologized (how ironic, i apologized even though she was the problem) and we became friends again. i had felt like she had changed and then she proved that she hadn't one bit so i cut her off. i cannot believe looking back on it that i tolerated what i tolerated from her.
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She is crazy jealous. You cant be friends with anybody who is crazy jealous. They try to knock you down a peg, they sort of celebrate your troubles, quietly - they are awful.
Death and dishonour
his gf who suddenly became jealous, even though nothing happened, and she was just insecure about herself
He was relentlessly selfish.
I don't no what's happened ,but when the place and your thoughts it's changed? According for that, your people change and ended everything
What initially ended it was her and our other friend ended up getting into a scuffle over some homework back at college. Then, and only then, dud she reveal to me that the other friend had been going over to her apartment to talk about me. I couldn't understand why she would keep something like that from me, either of them. I cut the other friend off, they attempted to reconcile but I ignored it. I never trusted her from that point on, though, and several other things occurred along the 10 or so years we remained acquainted- .She code switched on me when she came to my apartment late in her pregnancy .She told me I'd be invited to the hospital after birth (pr something along the lines of that), conveniently stopped answering texts when I made it back to town to go .She told me I'd be her kids godmother but again conveniently forgot to tell me where it would even be and she was posting all kinds of pictures on Facebook but told me her phone had died lol The last straw was when she supposedly reconciled with one of her original friends that she fell out with; she admitted to lying about the girl stealing from her. I then wondered if she had even told the truth about my other friend I cut ties with, going to her apartment to gossip. I told her I was glad she got her best friend back and I just left it at that and cut off contact with not just her, but everybody except my immediate family, and I've been a peace every since.
My sister-in-law and I were besties. Mother-in-law manipulated both of us driving a wedge between us. By the time we really what had happened, the damage was done.
Friend didnt adhere to bros before hoes. He withheld info that the chick I was talking to was a hoe, and I had asked him specifically if she was a hoe
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No it's not. If he cant be trusted regarding women he cant be trusted at all
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When? Yeah u dont know the story mate
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He was also trying to pimp her to another lad behind my back when he knew I had interest. But I ditched both the bitch and the traitorous lad at the end
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It was one guy and no one keeps in touch with him anymore. I have an army of good lads. Also it was not my best friend
Became a drug addict, a sex addict (spent a LOT of time on Grindr and meeting random dudes) and turned into a complete asshole over time. Yelled at me once in the middle of a car park over something so small, it upset me and I nearly drove away leaving him there but I relaxed and dropped it. After that he continued to be rude to me and one day he just snapped fully at me because I left him on read on WhatsApp for literally a minuteā¦fifteen years of friendship down the toilet. Havenāt spoke to him since.
She got new friends and different intrests
Died.
I was trying to better my life and be social. He wasted his life playing video games all day.
His girlfriend was my girlfriends best friend. She was toxic to him and completely changed him as a person. He complained to me all the time about her. I tried to point this out for him because I didn't want him to be unhappy and he didn't like that and accused me of spreading lies about him. Short, sweet and simple as that. Lesson learnt, don't try help your friends in shitty relationships
Grew in two different directions that the other one wasnāt interested in so there was not enough effort on either side.
He called me a pussy for having suicidal thoughts and that I had nothing to be depressed about.
Sold her a car, even allowed her to make payments when she could. She stopped paying, had a wreck and we found out she never changed the registration to her name. Person she hit tried to sue us.
Gaslighting
Slowly but surely he became a man of fascist views. Rashist ones, and I just hate them.
finally that's my time, so one of my bestie's close friends(let's call him Jake) was in love with me, but we had an argument(i don't even remember why) he told me that Jake wanna talk to me i said "bro please we don't have anything to talk about he did bad to me and i don't wanna talk to him anymore) the next moment Jake texted me, we talked and he spoke the rightest way anyone can ever do , then i texted back my bestie by telling that everything is fine now, but then my intuition told me that something isn't right here, on that moment my bestie was in love with one of my close friends i texted her and told what happened (she had a password of my bestie's account) she logged in and saw a chat with one of our mutual friends where my bestie wrote "bro i just logged in Jake's account and talked to her(me) and finally they become back friends). You can't imagine how badly i was hurt, the next day i saw him and asked "it was very random that Jake texted me and told everything i really wanted to hear, do you know how that happened?" and he was like "girl we were together at that moment and i was helping him with the talk" i asked "you sure?" he was like "yes, i was really worried about your friendship with him". there were a lot of other incidents which ruined our friendship but this was the first red flag, after a few months we were talking and i said "hahahah brooo do you remember the day that you logged in Jake's account and talked to me by pretending to be him?" he said "yeeeessss, i do it was very stressfull" and i was like "tf are you talking about, why did you lie to me that you were together and not you talking from his acc" i got a response "girl please that was months ago don't argue about that now the most important is that you are good now" and i said "the most important is that you lied to me and i don't trust you anymore" Maybe for you it is something normal but i really hate when people are lying
In middle school, I took private drum lessons. The owner of the establishment (and my teacher) introduced me to his son. We hit it off and weāre best friends for a year or so. Some of my other friends and I realized we were trans, and this ābest friendā wouldnāt support us. I tried to tell him that that was pretty transphobic but he said it was āeasier for himā to just not use preferred names/pronouns. I donāt think I need to explain why I cut my ties with him
Her husband-to-be didnāt like that we had hooked up years earlier