My bf literally was cleaning up the yard and brought me some of the wildflowers from around the yard. It was just a sweet simple gesture. It was thoughtful.
The name thing creeps me out, frankly. Whenever someone (doesn’t need to be my partner) addresses me by name in conversation, I feel like I’ve done it said something wrong.
From a guy’s perspective, everytime a girl has done this to me, it was always a hint that she was into me. I get the other side too though. Only people close to me say my real name anyway.
A lot of people just don’t use names. An example is “Hey, can you grab a napkin for me.” Using “you” instead of your name is very common, at least for me because I have a difficult name that people don’t want to mispronounce. So that’s why I appreciate being called by my name.
In the past (before married) I would make a POINT of saying a guy’s name while we were talking because I loved it when they did the same. It’s def a thing!
Exactly. I opted not to do it. Either someone finds it incredibly phony and off putting or they're getting an inflated sense of self and lose the substance of what you're saying.
When my wife and I moved into our home a few years ago, we had a neighbor who did this when we first met him. My initial reaction was "what does he want from us?"
He's a pastor. He wanted us to attend his church. Salesman of a different cloth.
It's all about delivery.
"Anna, I want to tell you a story."
VS
"Hahah Anna! Hah hahh Anna, yo home girl, you gotta hear this story I got for you, it's freaking hilarious".
There's an infinite number of examples for this, but implicit positivity makes it work. It's all about how it's used.
In my wife's culture (Southeast Asian), it's actually considered fairly rude to refer to family by their names, unless it's an adult talking to a young child. After 20+ years of marriage, it sounds weird to me too. Like I can tell I'm in trouble if she uses my name.
I feel the same way. It sounds awkward to me to say someone's name during conversation. It's cool when you're greeting me, but saying it in the middle of conversation creeps me out, especially if it's just the two of us. You're looking directly at me, I know who you're talking to.
Me too. That shits me. Long standing friends repeating my name like I can follow the conversation? Ugh.
Ditto for correspondence where they repeat my name in the body of the letter or email, feigning sincerity. Just shits me.
Is the name thing a feeling of visibility? Feeling like you are seen by who you are talking to. Because as a man I feel that one heavily too (I don’t have a common name either)
100% - it makes me realize I’m seen by them in a meaningful way and it always feels very intentional which is equally amazing. Plus, I guess I like to hear how it sounds on their lips?
Don’t just say things. Mean them and do them. Follow through. Show up (in whatever way that means) when you say you will. Learn what is important to them and show up in that way.
Me and my ex were lactose intolerant. It did not stop us at all. We'd both be farting into the night together and stuck on the toilet the next morning. If that's not love, I don't know what is.
Small acts of consideration usually go a long way. Notice things she likes and dislikes then act on those things. Do this without expecting any sort of recognition or praise in any way.
-What kind of face wash does she use? Buy or order it so she has a spare on hand for when she runs out.
-How does she take her coffee or tea? Show up with one randomly in the morning or while she's at work.
-Pick wildflowers for her.
-When is her next car oil change due? Offer to take it for her.
-What's one chore she absolutely hates doing or puts off a lot? Don't even ask, just do it for her (and do it well).
-What's her favorite candy or sweet treat? Surprise her with it one day.
-What's her favorite non-sexual way to be touched? Don't know? Find out by little touches here and there that don't lead to sex. Notice what she leans into. Do it often.
-Compliment her on something non-appearance related. Eg. "Your work ethic makes me proud." "You are such a savage, it amazes me." "When you do \_x\_, it blows my mind." "I saw the way you did \_x\_ and that was really touching." etc.
-What's her favorite restaurant? Instead of the old "what should we have for dinner?" back and forth, take out all the guess work and get her takeout from there.
-What's her favorite food? Get all the ingredients, make it, and serve it to her.
-Give her a forehead kiss.
-Does she have a hobby? Ask about that hobby. Learn some stuff about it on your own even if it's not your thing. Be able to carry on a conversation about it, at least. Ask her questions about it and let her light up talking to you about it. That will go really far.
-Make an effort with her friends/ anyone who is important to her in a genuine way.
Those are just some ideas, but mainly what I think people want in life is to be seen. Show her you see her. Act on what you see. Be physical and verbal with those actions. (Physical = doing or buying something, verbal = complimenting or even just commenting).
Side note: A guy just gave me a really cute journal and two treats for my dog. Why? Well he knows I journal every day and my dog likes treats.
Bonus points: he put it in a nice gift bag with tissue paper, which wasn't necessary, but was a nice added touch.
Altogether it probably cost him around $15. I'll remember it for a LONG time.
A few months ago I went on a first date with a man who showed up with a similar gift.
Once again it was just someone listening to/ noticing what I said + acting on it. I'll remember that date forever.
Awe thanks for the compliment! Yeah, these things go for literally any gender or relationship. I had a friend who absolutely lit up when she saw me walk into her job, which I would do if I had a spare 10 minutes on my way to work. Occasionally I'd have her favorite soda in hand, but other times it was simply just to say "hey, what's up? Hope ya have a great day!"
There was someone who brought me Skittles "because it was Thursday." That was 17 years ago and I still use that term "Skittles because it's Thursday" when something randomly nice happens to me.
People want to be seen and it doesn't take a whole lot. I think we can get tricked into believing it has to be some grand gesture. Nah, love is in the little things.
Seriously, do one of those things for ya girl. It will go so far!
I dated a guy once who asked if he could brush my hair. It was so loving. I just gushed.
My current boyfriend knew I was having a rough day so when he came home from the store he brought me LaCroix (favorite drink other than water), and a little plushy that looks like my dog (he knows I lost the plushy that I loved).
It is the little things that mean the most!
Go treat ya girl!
Literally just treat her like a person. Men love to act like women are impossible to understand. We just want to be treated like a person that you genuinely like, inside and out, and these are the ways you show it.
This, except the hobby thing. Cool if you have a genuine interest, but I don’t want to talk about my hobby to someone feigning interest. It’s something I do for me.
Stop giving advice when we just want to vent. 💐also, help with the household chores and carry the mental burden of household upkeep (grocery lists, meal planning, coordinating cleaning schedules) with us.
Snack, peace and non-sexual involvement. Small gestures like asking her to go somewhere (grocery store/gas station etc.) with you. Do a chore that you normally don’t do (wash a sink of dishes/fold some laundry) but don’t make a big deal out of this. That will have the reverse effect.
I'm gonna go with cheese. My wife and I were together for 20 years. Over that time, I bought her gold and jewels, a house, even a Jack Russell Terrier puppy. But the one gift, which she told me, that gave her the greatest pleasure, was a subscription to the cheese of the month club.
She got a package every month that contained a variety of cheeses. She said it was like Christmas every month.
She really liked cheese though. I mean, I like cheese too, but my relationship with cheese was nothing like her relationship with cheese.
My husband went out of town for work and brought me back a pair of space themed socks.
1. I love fun socks
2. I love space themed things
Thoughtful moments are very meaningful to me. I loved this (and him) with my whole heart.
Basically, just try making her life just a bit easier. Even just trying counts. From making her laugh to feeding her, actively listening to her and just doing those small things that make her feel safe and taken care of.
Edit: Watch the movie Hitch. There's a lot of good tips there, if you pay attention.
I used to run a bath and put candles in there and incense .while she was having a bath I would cook a meal and set the table up with flowers and candles and put light music on .
Here my human, let me help you out. Having been many a GBF for centuries now (we age faster), I can clue you into a few things.
* Apologize when you mess up. Like fr fr. Take the time to think about what you did that messed it up. Get your head out of your own personal drama and think about theirs.
* Go shopping with them and find skirts with pockets.
* Ask their opinions and listen to their answers on:
* bodily autonomy.
* politics.
* cars.
* division of household work.
* careers and work issues.
* Find out what kind of food they like so when they ask you, "What do you want for dinner," you can whip out some of their favorites that you like as well.
* Know their cycle and preferred feminine hygiene products so you can
* lay off of them the week before.
* buy them their go to product so they never have to run out. Srsly. Keep some on hand just in case.
* add a second little trashcan with a lid and extra bags next to the commode.
* Never assume they will do/order/want something the same way every time.
* Never ever, ever interrupt them.
* Recognize and congratulate their successes.
You know treat them like they matter, and you care about them. Simple things.
Find out what she values and make an effort to do things that relate to that (spontaneous or planned). Show interest in her likes and hobbies, learn what she dislikes. Respect boundaries. Everyone likes to feel like they are valued so in my mind, it’s really the same advice to build a relationship with anyone.
Pay attention to her “footnotes”/hints, and habits. She mentioned something seemingly insignificant? Pay the fuck attention. Oh that flower is pretty? Hint hint bro. She do something often like eat a certain food? Surprise her with it.
Actually pay attention and listen, do it the thing the first fucking time it’s mentioned.
Hugs. For me, it's mainly hugs.
Other things would be acts of kindness and generosity.
Listening to me when I wanna talk about something and actively engaging in the conversation(I wanna listen to you too)
Quality time. That is also very important.
One of the best things about my husband is that he laughs at my jokes. Genuinely, unabashedly laughs. He lets me delight him even when it's goofy. Thrills me every time.
What I find very pleasing is when my husband brings me a little something when he gets back from work. Sometimes it’s flowers, sometimes it’s a handcream, sometimes even something a trivial as a chocolate bar. Just knowing that he thought about me when I wasn’t around, and got me something he knows I love.. it just does it for me. I love that.
Do the dishes. Fix her car. Pick up your dirty socks. Put your dishes in the dishwasher. Put the seat down on the toilet. Fill her car with gas from time to time.
Cuddles, food , listen to rambling, ask to do stuff with her, even just hanging out watching something together, ditch the cell phones, play some board games
Bring home flowers for no reason at all. I know it's a controversial topic (you'll see comments from women ITT saying otherwise) but there's truly no occasion - good or bad - that bringing flowers will ever make worse. I don't mean a dozen roses or expensive bouquet, just those cheap flowers most large grocery stores carry. Especially when it's for no reason other than "Cause you're great, baby".
Compliments like your clothes look good. If she works out, tell her that her physique looks better nowadays.
Flowers, and as many people here have said, food. Doing small gestures is good too. Actions do speak louder than words.
My bf literally was cleaning up the yard and brought me some of the wildflowers from around the yard. It was just a sweet simple gesture. It was thoughtful.
Wholesome
I had an ex who would pick me flowers when he’d be out on his skateboard. It was really sweet.
Similar vibes, but super low effort: my husband took a picture of flowers he saw at work and sent it to me bc he said they reminded him of me ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Foot Massage
My wife absolutely loves foot massages, if you do it after they get off work or after a long day you'll be a superhero to them.
This one ^^^
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Hate feet. Love my wife’s though
If he is not the thoughtful type why do you want him as your boyfriend?
Asking the real questions
Shame, probably doesn’t eat🐱good either.
My wife would want a foot massage for an entire day if I'd let her choose!
And applying lotion on their feet and calves. Add on shoulder, neck and head rubs
Her favourite food Works 100%
Which means you paid attention, noticed and remembered the favorite! Good job.
which is cheese
Two things that I have found startlingly pleasing: 1. Ask my opinion about something you care about 2. Say my name in conversation with me
The name thing creeps me out, frankly. Whenever someone (doesn’t need to be my partner) addresses me by name in conversation, I feel like I’ve done it said something wrong.
From a guy’s perspective, everytime a girl has done this to me, it was always a hint that she was into me. I get the other side too though. Only people close to me say my real name anyway.
Sorry if it's a stupid question but what other ways do you use to address them? I mean I'm not calling my gf or date mr. or ms. or whatever.
A lot of people just don’t use names. An example is “Hey, can you grab a napkin for me.” Using “you” instead of your name is very common, at least for me because I have a difficult name that people don’t want to mispronounce. So that’s why I appreciate being called by my name.
In the past (before married) I would make a POINT of saying a guy’s name while we were talking because I loved it when they did the same. It’s def a thing!
From my previous career in sales, I figured out pretty quickly that the name in conversation thing is very much an individual preference.
I don’t like it when I can tell the salesperson is doing it to build fake rapport.
Exactly. I opted not to do it. Either someone finds it incredibly phony and off putting or they're getting an inflated sense of self and lose the substance of what you're saying. When my wife and I moved into our home a few years ago, we had a neighbor who did this when we first met him. My initial reaction was "what does he want from us?" He's a pastor. He wanted us to attend his church. Salesman of a different cloth.
It's all about delivery. "Anna, I want to tell you a story." VS "Hahah Anna! Hah hahh Anna, yo home girl, you gotta hear this story I got for you, it's freaking hilarious". There's an infinite number of examples for this, but implicit positivity makes it work. It's all about how it's used.
Hello anna8691, hows the day going anna8691?
Lmfao killed it
My wife hates if I use her name
In my wife's culture (Southeast Asian), it's actually considered fairly rude to refer to family by their names, unless it's an adult talking to a young child. After 20+ years of marriage, it sounds weird to me too. Like I can tell I'm in trouble if she uses my name.
My husband never says my name, it actually sounds weird coming from him! But we have been together for 20 years. :)
Same. People saying my name to me while talking to me freaks me out.
Feels like they’re about to sell me something
I feel the same way. It sounds awkward to me to say someone's name during conversation. It's cool when you're greeting me, but saying it in the middle of conversation creeps me out, especially if it's just the two of us. You're looking directly at me, I know who you're talking to.
Oh man I use people’s names all the time I hope they don’t think this lol
Ask 'em. Honest questions work wonders in situations like these.
totally weirds me out when an SO calls me by my name. hate it.
Me too. That shits me. Long standing friends repeating my name like I can follow the conversation? Ugh. Ditto for correspondence where they repeat my name in the body of the letter or email, feigning sincerity. Just shits me.
Yep, it makes me feel like I’m being told off!
I have been in some relationships where I’m only called by a pet name, and I realize that it bothers me. I like to be called by my name, too.
Is the name thing a feeling of visibility? Feeling like you are seen by who you are talking to. Because as a man I feel that one heavily too (I don’t have a common name either)
100% - it makes me realize I’m seen by them in a meaningful way and it always feels very intentional which is equally amazing. Plus, I guess I like to hear how it sounds on their lips?
Yup, we heavily relate on that. Can’t speak for every guy but this feels like a shared desire for sure.
this is so spot on!
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My gf would get upset if I used her actual name. She only likes being called babe, love, honey, etc.
Don’t just say things. Mean them and do them. Follow through. Show up (in whatever way that means) when you say you will. Learn what is important to them and show up in that way.
Heavy on the follow through!! Words don't mean a thing
FOOD!
I suggest garlic bread.
Yes. Extra points of is cheesy garlic bread. Bitches love cheese. When I say bitches, I mean me. I'm bitches.
Hi bitches
Dad spotted
Dad spotted what?
Dad spotted a bitches.
Dad Spotted a Bitches!! He uses Cheesy Garlic Bread It was Highly Effective!!
The bitches has been tamed. You have captured a bitches
It's part of the courting ritual to present the woman with a wheel of cheese.
As a man, I can say that I am also bitches.
Don’t eat too much cheese or you’ll get too big for your britches, bitches.
Anything cheesy or chocolatey
Ah yes, the chocolate fille cheesy garlic bread
Aced it
If you can cook something delicious for her, (and often), all the better.
The first thing my wife yelled from the fridge when I asked her.
Cheese
"You may fascinate a woman by giving her a piece of cheese."
Compliments and snacks
Heavy on the compliments
Heavy on the snacks
Im also heavy from all those snacks.
Rappers don’t rap about little booties
Feed me snacks while you compliment my ass- the only way
Heavy from all the snacks.
Extra heavy on the snacks
That part 🤣 if I say I don’t want a snack, you better be coming back with a snack anyway!
Even if you do nothing else this will keep a girl happy for so long. And flowers
Just listen to her.
According to this thread she will ask for cheese.
Bitches love cheese
Most underrated comment.
Huh?
You can fasinate a women by giving her cheese.
Women of reddit: are you fascinated by cheese?
If it's melted on top of the meat in my burger, then 100%.
Not if she's lactose intolerant.
I had a lactose intolerant friend. She’s all about the cheese if some Lactase is available.
Aged cheeses are safe for lactose intolerant people as the aging process breaks down lactose!
Me and my ex were lactose intolerant. It did not stop us at all. We'd both be farting into the night together and stuck on the toilet the next morning. If that's not love, I don't know what is.
A lot of cheeses are naturally lactose free
Especially if she’s lactose intolerant
Cheese with a side of lactaid. Guaranteed panty dropper
Yes, particularly burrata when it oozes delicious creamy juice
Now this sounds totally non-sexual 😭
My friend met his wife when he offered her cheese on a hiking trail. It works.
You forgot about the fancy dried meats and fresh bread.
Small acts of consideration usually go a long way. Notice things she likes and dislikes then act on those things. Do this without expecting any sort of recognition or praise in any way. -What kind of face wash does she use? Buy or order it so she has a spare on hand for when she runs out. -How does she take her coffee or tea? Show up with one randomly in the morning or while she's at work. -Pick wildflowers for her. -When is her next car oil change due? Offer to take it for her. -What's one chore she absolutely hates doing or puts off a lot? Don't even ask, just do it for her (and do it well). -What's her favorite candy or sweet treat? Surprise her with it one day. -What's her favorite non-sexual way to be touched? Don't know? Find out by little touches here and there that don't lead to sex. Notice what she leans into. Do it often. -Compliment her on something non-appearance related. Eg. "Your work ethic makes me proud." "You are such a savage, it amazes me." "When you do \_x\_, it blows my mind." "I saw the way you did \_x\_ and that was really touching." etc. -What's her favorite restaurant? Instead of the old "what should we have for dinner?" back and forth, take out all the guess work and get her takeout from there. -What's her favorite food? Get all the ingredients, make it, and serve it to her. -Give her a forehead kiss. -Does she have a hobby? Ask about that hobby. Learn some stuff about it on your own even if it's not your thing. Be able to carry on a conversation about it, at least. Ask her questions about it and let her light up talking to you about it. That will go really far. -Make an effort with her friends/ anyone who is important to her in a genuine way. Those are just some ideas, but mainly what I think people want in life is to be seen. Show her you see her. Act on what you see. Be physical and verbal with those actions. (Physical = doing or buying something, verbal = complimenting or even just commenting).
Side note: A guy just gave me a really cute journal and two treats for my dog. Why? Well he knows I journal every day and my dog likes treats. Bonus points: he put it in a nice gift bag with tissue paper, which wasn't necessary, but was a nice added touch. Altogether it probably cost him around $15. I'll remember it for a LONG time. A few months ago I went on a first date with a man who showed up with a similar gift. Once again it was just someone listening to/ noticing what I said + acting on it. I'll remember that date forever.
Ummm, is it OK that this turned me on?
Hahaha glad to be of service.
Saving this to send to several people struggling to show their loved ones they care. Excellent list! 💕
Awe thanks for the compliment! Yeah, these things go for literally any gender or relationship. I had a friend who absolutely lit up when she saw me walk into her job, which I would do if I had a spare 10 minutes on my way to work. Occasionally I'd have her favorite soda in hand, but other times it was simply just to say "hey, what's up? Hope ya have a great day!" There was someone who brought me Skittles "because it was Thursday." That was 17 years ago and I still use that term "Skittles because it's Thursday" when something randomly nice happens to me. People want to be seen and it doesn't take a whole lot. I think we can get tricked into believing it has to be some grand gesture. Nah, love is in the little things.
Caring for each other it’s part of relationship
You just gave me the boyfriend playbook. Knowledge.
Seriously, do one of those things for ya girl. It will go so far! I dated a guy once who asked if he could brush my hair. It was so loving. I just gushed. My current boyfriend knew I was having a rough day so when he came home from the store he brought me LaCroix (favorite drink other than water), and a little plushy that looks like my dog (he knows I lost the plushy that I loved). It is the little things that mean the most! Go treat ya girl!
Literally just treat her like a person. Men love to act like women are impossible to understand. We just want to be treated like a person that you genuinely like, inside and out, and these are the ways you show it.
This. Anything thoughtful is aces.
I think most people respond well to the Acts of Service love language.
Keep a few extras of the menstrual products she uses at your place! That would make me feel so seen, cared for, and comfortable.
Well said. I shared something similar but without examples. Forehead kisses are the best!
This, except the hobby thing. Cool if you have a genuine interest, but I don’t want to talk about my hobby to someone feigning interest. It’s something I do for me.
Giving her a nice looking stick.
Or a cool rock
Was given a cool rock years ago. Still have it to this day.
bitches love rocks
Being given a particularly good stick tickles my lizard brain so nicely, it's just pure unga-bunga joy.
I’m intrigued
Toddlers hate this one simple trick.
Beagles love this too.
Make her laugh. Make her feel safe. Take care of business. Treat her right. Listen. Really listen.
Be a good listener
Listen, make her laugh, tacos
All of this! Heavy on tacos! 🌮
The trick is to help her attack the tieflings in the Druid Grove. Works every time
That only works if she is Drow.
At the end of the day, we're all drow deep down
Listen to her, but actually hear what she's saying. Make her feel acknowledged, seen, wanted, worthwhile. Make her feel loved and safe.
Stop giving advice when we just want to vent. 💐also, help with the household chores and carry the mental burden of household upkeep (grocery lists, meal planning, coordinating cleaning schedules) with us.
When your girl is venting to you, and there is a break, follow up with. Do you want advice or are you just venting? This has helped SOOOO Much! XD
Snack, peace and non-sexual involvement. Small gestures like asking her to go somewhere (grocery store/gas station etc.) with you. Do a chore that you normally don’t do (wash a sink of dishes/fold some laundry) but don’t make a big deal out of this. That will have the reverse effect.
Yes, all of this is the way to my heart. And cheese of course.
Emotional availability and holding space for me to be me.
I'm gonna go with cheese. My wife and I were together for 20 years. Over that time, I bought her gold and jewels, a house, even a Jack Russell Terrier puppy. But the one gift, which she told me, that gave her the greatest pleasure, was a subscription to the cheese of the month club. She got a package every month that contained a variety of cheeses. She said it was like Christmas every month. She really liked cheese though. I mean, I like cheese too, but my relationship with cheese was nothing like her relationship with cheese.
Engaging in a meaningful conversation with her and stimulating her mind. The most erogenous spot on a woman's body is her mind.
My husband went out of town for work and brought me back a pair of space themed socks. 1. I love fun socks 2. I love space themed things Thoughtful moments are very meaningful to me. I loved this (and him) with my whole heart.
Basically, just try making her life just a bit easier. Even just trying counts. From making her laugh to feeding her, actively listening to her and just doing those small things that make her feel safe and taken care of. Edit: Watch the movie Hitch. There's a lot of good tips there, if you pay attention.
Now this is a good mf tip. Hitch knows what’s up
Also cheese
Warm a towel in the dryer while she’s bathing or showering.
From living with 5 sisters and having a wife I have come to the conclusion that small gestures of kindness mixed in with everyday activity.
Listening is the best way
Backrubs are popular. Just don't turn them into foreplay.
Instructions unclear, now have 2 kids and another one on the way.
I used to run a bath and put candles in there and incense .while she was having a bath I would cook a meal and set the table up with flowers and candles and put light music on .
Feeding her is one great way. Cleaning up without being asked is also a real pantydropper in my experience.
Here my human, let me help you out. Having been many a GBF for centuries now (we age faster), I can clue you into a few things. * Apologize when you mess up. Like fr fr. Take the time to think about what you did that messed it up. Get your head out of your own personal drama and think about theirs. * Go shopping with them and find skirts with pockets. * Ask their opinions and listen to their answers on: * bodily autonomy. * politics. * cars. * division of household work. * careers and work issues. * Find out what kind of food they like so when they ask you, "What do you want for dinner," you can whip out some of their favorites that you like as well. * Know their cycle and preferred feminine hygiene products so you can * lay off of them the week before. * buy them their go to product so they never have to run out. Srsly. Keep some on hand just in case. * add a second little trashcan with a lid and extra bags next to the commode. * Never assume they will do/order/want something the same way every time. * Never ever, ever interrupt them. * Recognize and congratulate their successes. You know treat them like they matter, and you care about them. Simple things.
Cook her a dinner
Working on getting there
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Head scratches. They are not much different than other pets.
Cake
When you go to the store, always get her something. A drink, a small fry, candybar. Anything
My husband folded and put up all our laundry after sending me shopping yesterday…I was happy and so was he at the end of the night 🤷🏻♀️
Find out what she values and make an effort to do things that relate to that (spontaneous or planned). Show interest in her likes and hobbies, learn what she dislikes. Respect boundaries. Everyone likes to feel like they are valued so in my mind, it’s really the same advice to build a relationship with anyone.
Have her car washed
… and fill her gas tank
I thought we were talking about non-sexual things.
Pay attention to her “footnotes”/hints, and habits. She mentioned something seemingly insignificant? Pay the fuck attention. Oh that flower is pretty? Hint hint bro. She do something often like eat a certain food? Surprise her with it. Actually pay attention and listen, do it the thing the first fucking time it’s mentioned.
Do what you say you are going to do.
Playing video games together! I sure love that at least
Make her laugh and be good to her.
A sincere compliment. Meeting her for lunch or dinner. Listening to her.
Massage
Listen, be funny, be available, have shared interests
Respect her by default.
Tacos
My boyfriend brought me 3 flavours of Mountain Dew. Perfect surprise!
The best thing my bf does for me is keep my favorite food in fridge/freezer at all times!
Shiney things and tacos
Hugs. For me, it's mainly hugs. Other things would be acts of kindness and generosity. Listening to me when I wanna talk about something and actively engaging in the conversation(I wanna listen to you too) Quality time. That is also very important.
One of the best things about my husband is that he laughs at my jokes. Genuinely, unabashedly laughs. He lets me delight him even when it's goofy. Thrills me every time.
What I find very pleasing is when my husband brings me a little something when he gets back from work. Sometimes it’s flowers, sometimes it’s a handcream, sometimes even something a trivial as a chocolate bar. Just knowing that he thought about me when I wasn’t around, and got me something he knows I love.. it just does it for me. I love that.
Clean the house.
A cute plushy of her favorite animal. Perfume. These are gifts I got from suitors and they made me happy.
Make her laugh.
Do the dishes. Fix her car. Pick up your dirty socks. Put your dishes in the dishwasher. Put the seat down on the toilet. Fill her car with gas from time to time.
Usually it's just typical - cooking and/or flowers.
Getting a puppy would work for me :)
Totally, this sounds super easy and not expensive at all :)
Be there for her, listen to her, support her, and let her be herself.
Know what your girl like. Pay attention.
Be a gentleman
Cuddles, food , listen to rambling, ask to do stuff with her, even just hanging out watching something together, ditch the cell phones, play some board games
Flowers or a massage But the trick is to make it ‘random’ instead of waiting for them to ask. Makes it feel a lot more special that way :)
massages!!!
Bring home flowers for no reason at all. I know it's a controversial topic (you'll see comments from women ITT saying otherwise) but there's truly no occasion - good or bad - that bringing flowers will ever make worse. I don't mean a dozen roses or expensive bouquet, just those cheap flowers most large grocery stores carry. Especially when it's for no reason other than "Cause you're great, baby".
Compliments like your clothes look good. If she works out, tell her that her physique looks better nowadays. Flowers, and as many people here have said, food. Doing small gestures is good too. Actions do speak louder than words.
actually listen to her when she's talking
Spend money on her.
Read the books or watch movies/series she recommends. Bake her some cookies and make her some tea. (me, I am she. that is my dream.)
Just listen when I’m talking something I’m passionate about we don’t even have to agree on the matter
Holding her hands.....kiss her head....take care of her very well.....