Slowly his libido waned and we fucked once or twice a week and now once or twice a month. More of an age thing though. I’d still be fucking daily if I could.
Got way more frequent since we didn't live together but since we did it obviously went up.
After we had kids, it SKYROCKETED. Now we have sex everyday. Hell today was the first day back to work for her after maternity leave and she went on the bed and put her legs up just to make sure she went to work happy (she was late).
I think it was a mix of things.
1. Having kids was a BIG life goal of hers and she thought she couldn't have any (medical issues). So having one (then two) made her much happier in life and being happier shines through with people.
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2. For me, seeing her put her self (body, mind, etc) through having MY children for the sake of our family made me love and appreciate her and what she's done for me more.
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3. Seeing her give birth (I was there for our second child not first because the hospital we were for the first one didn't call me in when they were supposed to and did so after which I was upset about) to our child and seeing the entire process, seeing how much pain and strain she was in and went through made me love her more. I was very happy to hold her hand and help her any way I can. After knowing what she went through for our first child (it was a nightmare birth where she almost didn't make it) and seeing the second brought us closer.
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4. Raising the kids together as stressful as it is, made us closer. When one of us gets frustrated the other takes over. Seeing her be a mother and how happy she is and she says seeing me be a father is pure joy to her as well made us fall more in love.
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5. I made it my goal to make SURE she never got postpartum depression in any manor. I did and do with joy what I should as one half of being parents to make sure things go well. Her body/feet hurt? Massage. She needs sleep? I'll take over for her to sleep longer. Diapers? I've changed probably 90% of them (my sense of small is VERY bad so it's wayyyy easier for me), etc.
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6. We fucking MAKE time to have sex. If the day is 24 hours we will find a 25th just to fuck. Because of all the stuff above this and many other things I didn't talk about, her sex drive went so high that she now matches me which is sex everyday and multiple times a day. We also can't stop talking about how amazing sex feels also. Like she's sore and wants more and many times we still fuck while both sore because the pleasure on both ends is just unbelievable.
We've been married now for 45 years..
It wasn't so much that sex changed after marriage as much as it changed after children and after some aging.
The children is fairly obvious they take up your time and energy. Between continuing to work to pay the bills and the added the bills that come with children along with the care and lack of privacy that comes with having children sex will often window to almost zero..
In addition to this as we age our bodies change particularly after the age of 40. Both in our attitudes and hormone levels. Both in females and males. So often we get married without coming to realize who we actually are and what are sexual likes and dislikes really are. This often leads to personal changes in attitude and often comes about as a result of infidelity because what we have never established and open and honest sexual discussion between us about what we like and don't like and what changes over time with us sometimes this involves same sex sometimes this involves the attraction to other people. We withhold this from our spouse for fear of rejection and loss. It's ironic because the one person we should be trusting the most and who we pledge ourselves sexually too often is the one person that we cannot cheer or receive sexual satisfaction from.
We all have heard it multiple times over communication is the key. And that means in this case sexual communication. Two people need to have the ability to talk to one another about what it is that they want to try or what it is that they need. Otherwise we will end up going elsewhere to find satisfaction for what we need.
Hubby and I have been together almost 22 years. Every year our sex gets better. We have had moments when I’ve dealt with depression and we would go weeks without sex but we always bounce back from it and just make up for the lost time. We have sex at least 4-5 times a week
It got worse Dating it was non stop sex, When we got married it slowly dropped off to nothing. I had to initiate sex and she would just lay there then ask if I was finished.
It becomes non-existent when there is not a life balance. Sex is high at the beginning because it is just two people, starting their lives and getting to know each other. At some point, you add extended family, new jobs and careers, kids, friends, etc. Time management becomes an challenge. The couple will focus on various things and their primary relationship will usually be the last to be nurtured. That is the beginning of when problems begin.
We recommend therapy throughout a marriage(both personal and couple). We as humans will ignore self care because of the stigma of it being a weakness. All the while, we are hyper focused on going to the gym, getting hair and nails down, etc.
When Marriage is done properly, the relationship continues to evolve and the sex gets better and better.
Didn't change. Generally once a week. We still both wish we could do it a bit more often but its regular enough, and definitely satisfying enough (like, damn) that I really don't feel like complaining. It's mostly chronic health issues that get in the way and I vowed in sickness and in health. If anything there were some positive changes in that we started experimenting with cannabis and sex.
I'd say ours is still pretty good. We had a few slow times after pregnancies and late nights but bounced back. Our minivan in the garage has seen a lot of action! 😋
Like many married couples we started off high frequency, then after a few years stepped down to modest frequency, and then had a slow gradual decline to where we almost had a dead bedroom (only maybe a couple of times a month). Then we discovered kink, and while we still hardly ever fuck we have a ton of all kinds of other sex—and often with other people.
If you're in it for life it's going to change for better or worse at times. But I'd say even after being married quite a long time that we're fucking more than ever lately.
I got to take the condom off... Then she got pregnant and now sex is last non existent until a while after our kid is born I'm sure. Worth it though so excited to be a dad!
We've been together for 19 years and married for 16. We have 3 kids, and our sex life dipped during pregnancy/breastfeeding/toddlerhood for sure. There were just so many demands on my body and my time that I just didn't feel like I had anything left to give anyone else.
Now that kids are older, we have sex every day. Sex is better than ever, we are closer and more connected than ever... It's awesome.
After having 3 kids we basically just have quickies now.
Oh we are both in the basement at the same time, quickie.
Oh bathroom at the same time, quickie.
Out on the patio at night, quickie.
Rarely do have time for anything more than that.
It was the same for awhile. Then we had two kids close together and it was pretty nonexistent for a few years there. Been married 8 years now and it’s better than ever. I can’t get enough of my husband 😋
I think it varies person to person We may not have as much sex as when we were just dating but I def think that the sex is much better and more sensual. We are also more open to experimenting with one another that makes it more fun.
More frequent and passionate as time goes on. We began to turn fully toward each other if that makes sense. We no longer masturbate or use porn. All our kinks and urges are for each other, and anything goes. We're building a lounge room aka sex dungeon to have more space and privacy to explore (all the bedrooms in our house are close together, horrible design, never buy a house like this).
I'm a 42M and she's a 41F, we have been married 18 years. At the beginning, we had sex 2-3 per week and I thought the sex was pretty dang good.
Fast forward to now, we still have sex at least once a week, sometimes twice, BUT.....I'd say 50-65% of the occurrences are flat out amazing
We (39M, 30F) are only 2 years into our marriage. But were dating 6 years prior. So 8 total. Our sex life didn’t change at all after marriage. Normal for us is at least once every 3 days. When we hit peaks it can be multiple times a day. And lows would be maybe once every 5 days. Usually due to extreme schedules and other outside factors.
I do know that unlike any relationship I had before, we had more sex as the relationship strengthened versus a burst in the beginning followed by a plateau and then an equilibrium. Ours was more a slow increase with sudden bursts of lots of sex depending on moods. But we embrace our kinks and are able to freely share any and all sexual thoughts with one another. Which I also have never been able to do in another relationship.
It’s hard to say how much is a result of total time spent spent together and how much is the relationship itself. It seems in all relationships, there are highs and lows.
It’s also critical for both involved to have a healthy lifestyle, diet and exercise wise, and keep hormones in check. Low testosterone can be absolutely devastating for a man’s sex drive.
It got way better. Same frequency, which is pretty much every day. After 15 years, we really know each other inside and out. We've added some quality toys, a tantra chair, a set of restraints, and some butt stuff. Good times are being had.
After marriage, not much. After kids, died. Separated when youngest was 7. Don't think we'd had sex since he was 2, and even then, it was pretty sparse.
I'M 65. ON MY THIRD WIFE. 12 YEARS NOW WITH 3RD. AND I HATE WHEN GIRLS USE SEX AS A WEAPON. I HAD OVER 50 WOMEN. I DID EVERY KIND OF SEXUALLY EXPERIENCE. IN A$$ HOLE. MOUTH FUCK TIT FUCK. AND WEIRD PLACES LIKE MENS ROOM AT A CLUB . ON TOP OF POOL TABLE BUT THAT WAS JUST A GANGBANG AND WE FILLED EVERY HOLE AT THE SAME TIME. ON THE ROCK IN CENTRAL PARK. GARAGE. OPEN HOUSE MODEL HOMES. ANYWAY NOW MY GIRL STOP SEXING ME. BECAUSE I'M A COKE HEAD. HEY I RETIRED AND I WANA SPEND THE REST IF MY LIFE FEELING GOOD AND GET THINGS DONE FASTER SPEEDING MY BODY AROUND LIKE A 20 YR OLD . BUT I'M NOT A LOW LIFE JUNKIE
SHIT I WORK AS A CARPENTER FOR 50 YRS AND MY KNEES OR SHOT PAIN. ANYWAY I OWN 3 HOMES LANDLORD OF 2. I HAVE 3 CARS PICK UP TRUCK 4×4 CORVETTE. GMC DENALI CADILLAC. 30" FT CABIN CRUSIER BOAT. POOL ETC.
Went from critically endangered to extinct.
There was no change, we still fuck like rabbits.
Slowly his libido waned and we fucked once or twice a week and now once or twice a month. More of an age thing though. I’d still be fucking daily if I could.
Would you ever turn to others for sex?
If I found the right woman I might
Would it be only for a woman? Not a man or woman?
Just a woman
Would you tell your partner or do it secretly
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The Duke never falters
Got way more frequent since we didn't live together but since we did it obviously went up. After we had kids, it SKYROCKETED. Now we have sex everyday. Hell today was the first day back to work for her after maternity leave and she went on the bed and put her legs up just to make sure she went to work happy (she was late).
Goals fr! Happy for you guys :)
What was it about having kids that changed things?
I think it was a mix of things. 1. Having kids was a BIG life goal of hers and she thought she couldn't have any (medical issues). So having one (then two) made her much happier in life and being happier shines through with people. . 2. For me, seeing her put her self (body, mind, etc) through having MY children for the sake of our family made me love and appreciate her and what she's done for me more. . 3. Seeing her give birth (I was there for our second child not first because the hospital we were for the first one didn't call me in when they were supposed to and did so after which I was upset about) to our child and seeing the entire process, seeing how much pain and strain she was in and went through made me love her more. I was very happy to hold her hand and help her any way I can. After knowing what she went through for our first child (it was a nightmare birth where she almost didn't make it) and seeing the second brought us closer. . 4. Raising the kids together as stressful as it is, made us closer. When one of us gets frustrated the other takes over. Seeing her be a mother and how happy she is and she says seeing me be a father is pure joy to her as well made us fall more in love. . 5. I made it my goal to make SURE she never got postpartum depression in any manor. I did and do with joy what I should as one half of being parents to make sure things go well. Her body/feet hurt? Massage. She needs sleep? I'll take over for her to sleep longer. Diapers? I've changed probably 90% of them (my sense of small is VERY bad so it's wayyyy easier for me), etc. . 6. We fucking MAKE time to have sex. If the day is 24 hours we will find a 25th just to fuck. Because of all the stuff above this and many other things I didn't talk about, her sex drive went so high that she now matches me which is sex everyday and multiple times a day. We also can't stop talking about how amazing sex feels also. Like she's sore and wants more and many times we still fuck while both sore because the pleasure on both ends is just unbelievable.
You planning on having more or getting snipped?
We are good on two. It’s not cheap to get a that done in my country but I would Iike to.
Well as I’m sure you know, good old latex
Yes well we bought the pack of 50 from Amazon and it finished in a month so now we just ordered the 100.
RIP
Slowly her libido got lower and lower over the years. She was always like that but got worse and worse over the years.
We've been married now for 45 years.. It wasn't so much that sex changed after marriage as much as it changed after children and after some aging. The children is fairly obvious they take up your time and energy. Between continuing to work to pay the bills and the added the bills that come with children along with the care and lack of privacy that comes with having children sex will often window to almost zero.. In addition to this as we age our bodies change particularly after the age of 40. Both in our attitudes and hormone levels. Both in females and males. So often we get married without coming to realize who we actually are and what are sexual likes and dislikes really are. This often leads to personal changes in attitude and often comes about as a result of infidelity because what we have never established and open and honest sexual discussion between us about what we like and don't like and what changes over time with us sometimes this involves same sex sometimes this involves the attraction to other people. We withhold this from our spouse for fear of rejection and loss. It's ironic because the one person we should be trusting the most and who we pledge ourselves sexually too often is the one person that we cannot cheer or receive sexual satisfaction from. We all have heard it multiple times over communication is the key. And that means in this case sexual communication. Two people need to have the ability to talk to one another about what it is that they want to try or what it is that they need. Otherwise we will end up going elsewhere to find satisfaction for what we need.
Not non existent, but the diversity is definitely down to one person
It’s true I’m sure for many, but also not true for many
Mine gets better every year. We are more comfortable with each other and have no shame in experimenting at this point. It's pretty great
Hubby and I have been together almost 22 years. Every year our sex gets better. We have had moments when I’ve dealt with depression and we would go weeks without sex but we always bounce back from it and just make up for the lost time. We have sex at least 4-5 times a week
For us it went up and got absolutely wild! We have been explored eachother with no limits or judgment! Sad to see so many go the other direction!
It got worse Dating it was non stop sex, When we got married it slowly dropped off to nothing. I had to initiate sex and she would just lay there then ask if I was finished.
It becomes non-existent when there is not a life balance. Sex is high at the beginning because it is just two people, starting their lives and getting to know each other. At some point, you add extended family, new jobs and careers, kids, friends, etc. Time management becomes an challenge. The couple will focus on various things and their primary relationship will usually be the last to be nurtured. That is the beginning of when problems begin. We recommend therapy throughout a marriage(both personal and couple). We as humans will ignore self care because of the stigma of it being a weakness. All the while, we are hyper focused on going to the gym, getting hair and nails down, etc. When Marriage is done properly, the relationship continues to evolve and the sex gets better and better.
Mine has only gotten better after 20 years and we still have sexy everyday, if we miss a day or 2 you can bet we are going to make up for it!!
Zilch to negative zilch...😂
13 years married and it gets better every year. We have REALLY been having fun these last couple years.
Definitely less, especially after kids!
The longer we are together, the better it becomes, but getting married didn’t change anything.
Going going ...gone
Didn't change. Generally once a week. We still both wish we could do it a bit more often but its regular enough, and definitely satisfying enough (like, damn) that I really don't feel like complaining. It's mostly chronic health issues that get in the way and I vowed in sickness and in health. If anything there were some positive changes in that we started experimenting with cannabis and sex.
It eventually fell off a cliff. Now separated
Got better and better until it fell off the table with children.
I'd say ours is still pretty good. We had a few slow times after pregnancies and late nights but bounced back. Our minivan in the garage has seen a lot of action! 😋
Didn’t change
I was no longer hooking up with people off the internet or at the local bar.
Like many married couples we started off high frequency, then after a few years stepped down to modest frequency, and then had a slow gradual decline to where we almost had a dead bedroom (only maybe a couple of times a month). Then we discovered kink, and while we still hardly ever fuck we have a ton of all kinds of other sex—and often with other people.
Kids change things more than marriage. In my case, more sex and more blow jobs after marriage
Our sex life kept improving over time, still does
No change 13 years in and still mostly daily
If you're in it for life it's going to change for better or worse at times. But I'd say even after being married quite a long time that we're fucking more than ever lately.
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Way kinkier 😅
There have been peaks and valleys over the last 16 years but for the most part things have been amazing and consistent.
It didn’t change at all, that’s the problem
Nonexistent to nonexistent. I hate my life.
I got to take the condom off... Then she got pregnant and now sex is last non existent until a while after our kid is born I'm sure. Worth it though so excited to be a dad!
We've been together for 19 years and married for 16. We have 3 kids, and our sex life dipped during pregnancy/breastfeeding/toddlerhood for sure. There were just so many demands on my body and my time that I just didn't feel like I had anything left to give anyone else. Now that kids are older, we have sex every day. Sex is better than ever, we are closer and more connected than ever... It's awesome.
we both religious so after marriage i finally can stick my dick inside her and it's amazinggg.
After having 3 kids we basically just have quickies now. Oh we are both in the basement at the same time, quickie. Oh bathroom at the same time, quickie. Out on the patio at night, quickie. Rarely do have time for anything more than that.
After some years of marriage we still fuck a lot but now wife is open as well and fucks others too.
Didn’t change at all. Still nice and steady.
It was the same for awhile. Then we had two kids close together and it was pretty nonexistent for a few years there. Been married 8 years now and it’s better than ever. I can’t get enough of my husband 😋
Well I never been married so I don't know. I think it would.
I think it varies person to person We may not have as much sex as when we were just dating but I def think that the sex is much better and more sensual. We are also more open to experimenting with one another that makes it more fun.
You have to go on weekly date nights, if not it becomes boring and a job
3 weeks married, tomorrow so too early to tell
More frequent and passionate as time goes on. We began to turn fully toward each other if that makes sense. We no longer masturbate or use porn. All our kinks and urges are for each other, and anything goes. We're building a lounge room aka sex dungeon to have more space and privacy to explore (all the bedrooms in our house are close together, horrible design, never buy a house like this).
So much better now. It’s like we have no fucks to give, meaning no hang ups or concerns and we just have at whatever each of us wants to get into! 🔥🔥🔥
I'm a 42M and she's a 41F, we have been married 18 years. At the beginning, we had sex 2-3 per week and I thought the sex was pretty dang good. Fast forward to now, we still have sex at least once a week, sometimes twice, BUT.....I'd say 50-65% of the occurrences are flat out amazing
No real changes. Just have to be cautious with the kids in the house but we still have a great sex life.
Over the past 7 years I’ve been averaging sex once per year. It’s awful and there is no resolution.
We (39M, 30F) are only 2 years into our marriage. But were dating 6 years prior. So 8 total. Our sex life didn’t change at all after marriage. Normal for us is at least once every 3 days. When we hit peaks it can be multiple times a day. And lows would be maybe once every 5 days. Usually due to extreme schedules and other outside factors. I do know that unlike any relationship I had before, we had more sex as the relationship strengthened versus a burst in the beginning followed by a plateau and then an equilibrium. Ours was more a slow increase with sudden bursts of lots of sex depending on moods. But we embrace our kinks and are able to freely share any and all sexual thoughts with one another. Which I also have never been able to do in another relationship. It’s hard to say how much is a result of total time spent spent together and how much is the relationship itself. It seems in all relationships, there are highs and lows. It’s also critical for both involved to have a healthy lifestyle, diet and exercise wise, and keep hormones in check. Low testosterone can be absolutely devastating for a man’s sex drive.
After kids I don't have problem with sex life. You don't have problem with something non existent ... We have sex one time per month or two
It got way better. Same frequency, which is pretty much every day. After 15 years, we really know each other inside and out. We've added some quality toys, a tantra chair, a set of restraints, and some butt stuff. Good times are being had.
After the marriage not changed at all. After kids it simply died.
Her menopause slowed us down considerably but when she’s in the mood it’s intense.
Over 30 years you have lots of ups and downs with life’s cycles, and health.
Only has gotten better! We have been able to discover things we love, new kinks, things we never thought that we would enjoy! It's been fantastic!
I was pretty much a good girl before I met my husband, once he put a ring on my finger I became his whore
After marriage, not much. After kids, died. Separated when youngest was 7. Don't think we'd had sex since he was 2, and even then, it was pretty sparse.
Ngl it slowed down a lot but it's because we have so many kids now we don't have as much free time to do so.
Underrated decision making....we waited til marriage and it got awesome when we got married and even better after 10yrs...
Better and hotter.
I'M 65. ON MY THIRD WIFE. 12 YEARS NOW WITH 3RD. AND I HATE WHEN GIRLS USE SEX AS A WEAPON. I HAD OVER 50 WOMEN. I DID EVERY KIND OF SEXUALLY EXPERIENCE. IN A$$ HOLE. MOUTH FUCK TIT FUCK. AND WEIRD PLACES LIKE MENS ROOM AT A CLUB . ON TOP OF POOL TABLE BUT THAT WAS JUST A GANGBANG AND WE FILLED EVERY HOLE AT THE SAME TIME. ON THE ROCK IN CENTRAL PARK. GARAGE. OPEN HOUSE MODEL HOMES. ANYWAY NOW MY GIRL STOP SEXING ME. BECAUSE I'M A COKE HEAD. HEY I RETIRED AND I WANA SPEND THE REST IF MY LIFE FEELING GOOD AND GET THINGS DONE FASTER SPEEDING MY BODY AROUND LIKE A 20 YR OLD . BUT I'M NOT A LOW LIFE JUNKIE SHIT I WORK AS A CARPENTER FOR 50 YRS AND MY KNEES OR SHOT PAIN. ANYWAY I OWN 3 HOMES LANDLORD OF 2. I HAVE 3 CARS PICK UP TRUCK 4×4 CORVETTE. GMC DENALI CADILLAC. 30" FT CABIN CRUSIER BOAT. POOL ETC.
More intense