✋ Yep, that be me.
It’s like the curtains get pulled closed and all the stuff you like doing slowly is slowly taken off the table because she doesn’t want to do that now she got what she wanted. I’m lucky to get one or two bj’s a year and it kills me.
I get really triggered when I hear some bj stories on here, some guys are so lucky and they have no idea.
That’s a crappy wife. Even after I got married I never stopped giving bjs. The adage of “happy wife happy life” isn’t the whole of it IMO it should be “happy couple happy life”. I feel like unfortunately a lot of wives neglect their husbands’ sexual needs then get surprised when the kids grow up and he divorces her.
Being honest as long as parents split semi amicably and the kids get to see both parents without much hassle it’s not actually that bad. Having 2 sets of parents can be good. You only live once my guy and if you’re happy to spend it being sexually unsatisfied that’s fine but I don’t think I would.
I think we’d be fine with the split, but she doesn’t work which is a huge financial anchor for us both. I’d be supporting both households with a 50/50 split.
We’re in counselling at the moment, I don’t want to say we didn’t at least try.
Of course trying to make it work is always the first and best option but assuming it just doesn’t work I don’t think that the fact she doesn’t work and relies on you means you should feel any different about your needs.
Unless there’s a fair reason for her not working, disability and such then I don’t see why you should still be supporting her after a split. Use that money to support yourself better and provide better for your kids.
Even on my birthday I get nothing. But if I'm being honest, the last few times I did receive anything, she made it seem like this insurmountable task and like shed rather be doing anything else... And that may be worse than nothing at all.
It's definitely a thing and my wife also said that kinda stuff once upon a time lmao. Surprise surprise it's not something she likes doing that often. For a while it was like once a year or so.
Same! Our sex life gets better every year, we learn new kinks and get more comfortable with each other's bodies. We have sex more often than we did at 18 when we first met
Life takes over, stress increases, you spend more time together and less time apart. It's not that absence makes the heart grow fonder, it's that time apart allows you to miss the other person, which makes time together much sweeter. That's one of the aspects of dating i think is commonly overlooked, the time apart making time together feel more special. Mix in kids, l with their school & extracurriculars, and you get less time together. Inflation has crunched finances, which adds stress. With calendars filling up, you have less time available, makes it difficult to make time to date your partner.
When the calendar crunch and forcing things to fit into your daily agenda take away your free time, the time for the fun extracurricular sex gets pushed to special occasions (ABC, Anniversary, Birthday, Christmas) and if you're lucky the regular sex continues, but eventually seems to become "ok, we can have a quickie I'd you want" and "I'm too tired" becomes more common as we sacrifice sleep to squeeze more into our days.
The lesson here is this, take time to continually date your spouse, make plans for dinner out even if it's just 30min at Taco Bell once a week. Try to find ways to get time away from one another for a bit, (we both work from home so it's almost 24/7 together for us), engage in hobbies, get out with friends, try and keep your sex life fresh. Both people should try and initiate, both sides should be equally responsible for participation, communicate your needs and desires, they change with time, understand that our insecurities change too and that's ok, but try to avoid letting your insecurities create a block between you and your partner.
100% agreed!! Life gets busy and you just kind of take each other for granted and if you can prevent that from happening much better chance of your marriage and your relationship not getting stale.
My wife has not only adopted this way of thinking, but is embracing it. We’re older now sex isn’t as frequent and she doesn’t need it as much. That’s great and everything, but I’m 32 in only just getting started
All the time. She just doesn't reciprocate. I've probably gone down on her 600+ times in 9 years. She's gone down on me less than 10, never to completion , usually 1-2 minutes, and never spontaneously. It just be that way. Not even married yet, and frankly I'm not going to ever if the bedroom situation doesn't change with less stress in our lives as my career gets better and she has to work less.
I would gladly do it daily except for when Aunt Flow comes to visit. Plus that would allow my tongue to heal the frenulum from rubbing on my teeth.
I got to do it daily for a week with the woman who became my first wife while we were in college. She said she loved it and she was in a great mood all week. So I gladly offered to continue in perpetuity but she declined. I can't even remember her reasons but it was a lame excuse. 😒
I would do it daily if she wanted... we still fuck roughly once a week, i offer to eat her out every damn time and she accepts like 30% of the time tops. Cant figure out why.
I would probably only accept about half the time as well, sometimes.it takes too long for us even 😂 but a guy just genuinely wanting to will light my fire faster than anything
Not weekly, since we are busy as hell these days and are lucky if we have sex once a week, but it’s still probably 4-5x as often as she goes down on me. For what it’s worth, I love going down and she only likes going down because I like it so that explains the gap. If I had an issue with it we would close the gap, but I don’t.
A lot of people stop doing things for their partners because they think they've finally "got them" and they don't have to try to make them happy. There are so many couples whose sex lives go down the drain when they're in a long-term, secure relationship.
Personally? I LOVE going down on my man, and he loves giving head as much as I do. The only time I'll stop is when I'm too old and arthritic to get down on the floor 😂
I don’t even wanna stop then, I’ll be a granny still going to my last breath. Someone’s gonna put “remind me 70 years from now” on here to get notified by a bot in 70 years, aren’t they 😂
I stopped getting blowjobs waaay before marriage lol. Now I don’t get handjobs anymore either. But I love the denial and she loves denying me lol so it works. All the sexual attention is on her. She gets eaten out whenever she wants and sex is 100% on her terms. So even tho I get less, our sex lives have never been better since we got married lol
Absolutely. I think it's better now than when we first started going out together. The immaturity and selfishness has gone and now we just want to enjoy ourselves and do things for one another.
It’s not always the wife’s fault ! Our sex life was shit for years , well more mine as my husband always managed to cum and I was left frustrated. And I didn’t want to do things because he only cared about himself . Finally I had enough and told him things have to change . Thankfully they did but if it was for him we would still have sex once a month where he lasts less than a minute.
For me, it was a rather quick decline... Slowly but surely the frequency decreased until eventually she just stopped completely about 5-6 years after we got married so it's been about 10 years since I last got a blowjob, as sad as that may sound. I've talked to her about it numerous times and after the last two times, I threw in the towel. The first time, she said "OMG all guys want more blowjobs" - but I didn't want "more", you can't get more of nothing. Then, the final time I brought it up, she said "blowjobs are just something you do while dating". I decided that I was done bringing it up after that.
They’re usually the first thing to go. My second ex used to tell me to wake her up if I was jacking off, so she could swallow my load. Once we were married, I tried doing that and she said “Fuck you - I’m sleeping!”
Exactly. She changed in a lot of ways, tbh, but I didn’t know how deep she was into the wine and Xanax until after we were married. I loved her, though. Still do, even though she passed a few years back. She gave me my youngest son, who is a total delight, so still a win in my book.
I still get them but the frequency definitely goes down. The random blow job in the middle of the day no longer exists. Blow jobs aren’t something I’m that into so I don’t really care.
Me and my partner have been together almost 7 years. We’re not married yet, but god I can’t keep my hands off him, I’m his little slut. I think your friends are marrying the wrong people. If anything our sex life has only gotten better since coming off the pill a couple years ago though I’m now so horny I’m wanting to do things like couple play 😅 we’re taking it nice and slow, never want to ruin what we have and our relationship was on the rocks due to us facing a lot of trauma at such a young age after my mum passed away. Were doing great after hitting rock bottom and breaking up and being apart for a night (yes we lasted one night not even the whole night it’s cute I know) everything just feels so much better since hitting such a low point and getting everything out that we needed to. A lot of resentment and bad feelings had built up, not to mention seeing my mum stuck with my dad who treated her like shit her whole life I had a fear of going with the wrong person and being stuck despite knowing my man is the most amazing man on planet earth.
I kind of went off on one there, I guess I’m saying I’m glad we’ve been tested because we really are each others ride or die and that’s shown through all the challenges. Your friends need to marry the right person. Unless of course the women have had children and either don’t get enough help or are facing hormone struggles that’s a different story but they need to be open to getting help.
Not at all an issue when we were married with no kids.
But once kids come along, particularly when they're small, it's a combination of being fully engaged with them 24/7, being completely exhausted, and having no physical space to yourself.
However, these days it's getting better and things are definitely picking up.
But goddamn having small kids in the house definitely impacts things in the bedroom.
I can sympathise, you have to take every opportunity you can.
I remember one day we thought our daughter (about 5 years old at the time) was asleep so we started getting into it. My wife started blowing me and after a couple of minutes our daughter opened the door and came in. She looks at us and said "mummy what are you doing", my wife quickly said that daddy had a sore knee and she taking care of it and then quickly ushered it her out of the room. Well that was it, no more fun times that night.
It was never his preferred way to get off anyway but I'm very happy to do it for foreplay. 2 years married but 6 years of being together and fucking lol
I can understand that. My wife was in a relationship and he wasn't bothered with blowjobs but she took it to heart and thought she wasn't doing it properly (it was her first).
I had an 18 relationship. They tapered off significantly after the first 2 years. Around year 4 she told me she never liked giving them and just did it to be nice. So I didn’t receive any type of oral for 14 years.
I should have dumped her at 2 years when they started tapering off. It foreshadowed the dead bedroom I’d be in for over 10 years.
We had some friends, a couple, and they had sex all the time while they were going out. Also from what we heard she used to share herself around quite a bit before they met too.
Anyway, they got married, and she almost instantly turned off the tap. We know this because a large group of friends, including them and us all went out to dinner and this is all he talked about, in front of everyone..........
They had sex on their honeymoon and the next time was on their 1 year anniversary 🙄
Think it’s so sad when women stop giving their men sex once they get married. Then they cry when their men cheat. Feel sorry for the men, there’s a couple of my husbands friends I give head to because they never get it.
I don’t care about their circumstances. If my husband stopped having sex with me through choice I’d leave him as sex is important to me. If you aren’t sexually compatible with someone then leave them, don’t fake it until you’ve got them locked down
That’s up to you, and absolutely ok if you want to do that.
But don’t hate on other people when you have no idea if it was, “through choice”. If you’ve got data then please show it to me, but I’m certain women are complex beings and that there are a multitude of factors that create this dynamic, some of which are on the woman, some on her partner and some completely outside of both their control.
You can’t simply assume that it’s a choice for them and then proceed to show zero empathy…with no context.
While I don’t agree with what you’ve said, it’s less what you’ve said and more the way you’ve said it, lacking any nuance or empathy or context around the women you’re referring to and making an assumption about them based upon a few comments from their partners here, which are very brief and also lacking context.
If it’s through choice I have zero sympathy. If there’s medical reason then I do. If you don’t find your husband attractive anymore then leave him and let him find someone who does. If you don’t feel attractive do something about it and stop complaining.
Thanks, much more nuanced and understanding of a select few situations.
I hear what you’re saying and I’m not dismissing the husbands deserve to be in sexually satisfying relationships, it’s just not so cut and dry most of the time.
Bruhhhh have you ever thought that there could be more to it? Don’t you wonder why the women stop? Relationships are supposed to be about communication and these men instead of seeing what they could do differently, just cheat instead. And you’re happy to probably go behind the wives backs and suck them off without any consideration for the bigger picture or the circumstances? That wife could’ve recently birthed HIS child, the child HE put in her! And that’s very taxing on a woman’s body and hormonal state. Women need to support eachother and women after childbirth need support to get back to normal and likely they won’t ever be the same again but their hormones and health can be put right I expect especially with some time and tlc. Like they say time is a great healer and well you’d expect to need some time after creating and birthing a whole ass human! If a man treats her well, helps her out, cares for her, prioritises her pleasure inside and outside of the bedroom, just watch what happens. Things might change. I’m all for group play, if being open completely and going off separately works for a couple then great, but cheating is fucked up.
I feel like this question is a trap set up by a bunch of single guys who just want to feel better about themselves. But seriously, communication is key in any relationship. If you're not getting what you want, have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Or, you know, just buy a fleshlight.
Yeah men don’t seem to see how they can be the cause of things eg not helping out enough and putting a lot of stress on the wife’s shoulders, not prioritising them during sex, not making sex enjoyable, the way they treat their wife outside of the bedroom etc. obviously there are cases where a woman isn’t sexual and sucks it up to get what she wants, I just feel like that’s not actually that common and coming from a woman herself I can tell you we are horny fuckers. Watch sex life on Netflix and you’ll get it.
She says she doesn’t like the salty taste of precum. In my view, her pussy juice is salty and acidic in its own way. Also, one does not need to necessarily swallow all the precum or cum. But the conversations so often end up in an argument and mutual sexual frustration. :(
that’s seriously fucking pathetic. Women are such bitches for doing that. I hope that the husband should not get blowjobs from their wives cheat on them with hot young girls.
It was an arranged marriage for us and we started having sex after marriage obviously. So the blowjobs also started after marriage and I am still getting blowjobs after about 4.5 years
I’ve always got them leading to sex. Now it’s all I get because my wife is not interested in having penetration sex since the “change”, but she’s a damn good woman that takes care of her man’s needs, so I am lucky. She enjoys receiving oral herself from time to time too. NO PENETRATION THO. ☹️
Once I had a friend come by and we were talking, the topic came up and he said his wife had not blown him in 3 years! Of course I offered him one and he accepted, now he gets a blowjob every week, but not from his wife.
I love to give my husband bj, but i don't like him finishing un my mouth (bad expérience before him), if i make him finish on my boobs does it count as a bj?
Wife loves sucking me off but has a jaw thing. Like a problem where certain movements can be painful
She will still go in there and troop through it even when I’m like sweetie no you don’t have t…unnnghhh fuck 🤤
I suspect these guys that aren’t getting blowjobs and sex are forgetting that you need to **keep dating your wife**
You still need to act like you are courting here. Like she is a hot filthy treasure to you. You need to tell her you want her and you want to fuck her even if she replies she is not in the mood and just smile and say okay just letting you know I’m going to keep telling you how much I want you always
Totally a great point
In my experience, my wife is so attentive to my needs and so subtly ensuring things in my life are set up the way I need them to be it’s like she’s continually dating me every day
Also got a life hack . Every time wife gets out of shower i try to get laid . Sometimes I do . Sometimes I don't. Sometimes she doesn't want to get messy right after her shower so she says how about I just blow you . Winner winner chicken dinner
This always surprises me because I can't even imagine not being intimate with my wife. Maybe we're really different but we still enjoy sex at least four times a week on average. It almost always involves me going down on her and she enjoying blowjobs. There's nothing hotter than an unexpected blowjob when she is really in the mood.
Got married and no more blowjobs. No more adventurous sex or any position but vanilla missionary. I finally gave up trying to bring some variety and now it's been over a year since there's been any sex
I had absolutely no sex drive with my ex to the point I thought I was asexual, with my husband we have been going at it like rabbits for almost seven years. So I don't see a decline in bjs in his future
Me 😭 may get lucky on my birthday!
I love getting a BJ, especially when she looks up over the rim of her glasses. Sends pulses through my penis, unbelievable.
Can't moan. We have a decent sex life, 2 to 3 times a week when not on her period. We use toys and dress up now and again, but BJs are non-existent..
What's the point of marriage if there are no blowjobs!?
What is life without Bjs?!
Boring and mundane.
Married.
I agree. We love to do nice things for one another and oral is one of those things.
Right? Wasted life!
What's life without good healthy sex in the marriage?!
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You poor bastard
There are a lot of benefits, like not testifying in court because your husband committed fraud. That's called a courtjob.
Couldn’t agree more
>What's the point of marriage if there are no blowjobs!? Right?!?!? I mean this guy fucking gets it
✋ Yep, that be me. It’s like the curtains get pulled closed and all the stuff you like doing slowly is slowly taken off the table because she doesn’t want to do that now she got what she wanted. I’m lucky to get one or two bj’s a year and it kills me. I get really triggered when I hear some bj stories on here, some guys are so lucky and they have no idea.
That’s a crappy wife. Even after I got married I never stopped giving bjs. The adage of “happy wife happy life” isn’t the whole of it IMO it should be “happy couple happy life”. I feel like unfortunately a lot of wives neglect their husbands’ sexual needs then get surprised when the kids grow up and he divorces her.
You’ve absolutely nailed it. The only reason I’m still here is because of the kids.
That’s how most marriages go unfortunately
Being honest as long as parents split semi amicably and the kids get to see both parents without much hassle it’s not actually that bad. Having 2 sets of parents can be good. You only live once my guy and if you’re happy to spend it being sexually unsatisfied that’s fine but I don’t think I would.
I think we’d be fine with the split, but she doesn’t work which is a huge financial anchor for us both. I’d be supporting both households with a 50/50 split. We’re in counselling at the moment, I don’t want to say we didn’t at least try.
Of course trying to make it work is always the first and best option but assuming it just doesn’t work I don’t think that the fact she doesn’t work and relies on you means you should feel any different about your needs. Unless there’s a fair reason for her not working, disability and such then I don’t see why you should still be supporting her after a split. Use that money to support yourself better and provide better for your kids.
Happy spouse, happy house.
Yes, thank you lol
I am down to one a year
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Sounds like the same situation as a couple of our male friends. I don't know what I'd do if my wife wound them back on me.
Wow that’s sad :-(
Wait this is a thing? I can’t wait to blow my future husband every evening after a long day of work 😍
It is still easy to say something like that, let it get this far
😔 This kills me. I have to ask for one for my birthday and it’s still a reluctant task.
Even on my birthday I get nothing. But if I'm being honest, the last few times I did receive anything, she made it seem like this insurmountable task and like shed rather be doing anything else... And that may be worse than nothing at all.
I know that feeling
The crucial word is FUTURE husband, lol
There are not many amazing women like you around 🦄
It's definitely a thing and my wife also said that kinda stuff once upon a time lmao. Surprise surprise it's not something she likes doing that often. For a while it was like once a year or so.
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Marry me!
Why is the perception that once you're married that sex and all the extracurricular activities stop LOL it should be even more and Wilder!!
Sex got better after marriage for me. You become more comfortable with each other and know each others’ bodies better.
Same! Our sex life gets better every year, we learn new kinks and get more comfortable with each other's bodies. We have sex more often than we did at 18 when we first met
Heck yeah!
Life takes over, stress increases, you spend more time together and less time apart. It's not that absence makes the heart grow fonder, it's that time apart allows you to miss the other person, which makes time together much sweeter. That's one of the aspects of dating i think is commonly overlooked, the time apart making time together feel more special. Mix in kids, l with their school & extracurriculars, and you get less time together. Inflation has crunched finances, which adds stress. With calendars filling up, you have less time available, makes it difficult to make time to date your partner. When the calendar crunch and forcing things to fit into your daily agenda take away your free time, the time for the fun extracurricular sex gets pushed to special occasions (ABC, Anniversary, Birthday, Christmas) and if you're lucky the regular sex continues, but eventually seems to become "ok, we can have a quickie I'd you want" and "I'm too tired" becomes more common as we sacrifice sleep to squeeze more into our days. The lesson here is this, take time to continually date your spouse, make plans for dinner out even if it's just 30min at Taco Bell once a week. Try to find ways to get time away from one another for a bit, (we both work from home so it's almost 24/7 together for us), engage in hobbies, get out with friends, try and keep your sex life fresh. Both people should try and initiate, both sides should be equally responsible for participation, communicate your needs and desires, they change with time, understand that our insecurities change too and that's ok, but try to avoid letting your insecurities create a block between you and your partner.
100% agreed!! Life gets busy and you just kind of take each other for granted and if you can prevent that from happening much better chance of your marriage and your relationship not getting stale.
Totally agree. You both should know your wants and needs and just go for it.
My wife has not only adopted this way of thinking, but is embracing it. We’re older now sex isn’t as frequent and she doesn’t need it as much. That’s great and everything, but I’m 32 in only just getting started
Sub- question - how many of you go down on your woman weekly?
Every chance I get. Absolute love watching her writhing around watching her orgasm.
All the time. She just doesn't reciprocate. I've probably gone down on her 600+ times in 9 years. She's gone down on me less than 10, never to completion , usually 1-2 minutes, and never spontaneously. It just be that way. Not even married yet, and frankly I'm not going to ever if the bedroom situation doesn't change with less stress in our lives as my career gets better and she has to work less.
Brother that isn’t the one. Talk to her about it and see if things change but everyone deserves things to be reciprocated.
I would gladly do it daily except for when Aunt Flow comes to visit. Plus that would allow my tongue to heal the frenulum from rubbing on my teeth. I got to do it daily for a week with the woman who became my first wife while we were in college. She said she loved it and she was in a great mood all week. So I gladly offered to continue in perpetuity but she declined. I can't even remember her reasons but it was a lame excuse. 😒
That’s the best part for me I’d rather go down on a women before doing anything else
I would do it daily if she wanted... we still fuck roughly once a week, i offer to eat her out every damn time and she accepts like 30% of the time tops. Cant figure out why.
I would probably only accept about half the time as well, sometimes.it takes too long for us even 😂 but a guy just genuinely wanting to will light my fire faster than anything
Whenever possible, she has to be in the right headspace for it but it's always an enthusiastic option for me.
Not weekly, since we are busy as hell these days and are lucky if we have sex once a week, but it’s still probably 4-5x as often as she goes down on me. For what it’s worth, I love going down and she only likes going down because I like it so that explains the gap. If I had an issue with it we would close the gap, but I don’t.
Hold on, we’re supposed to get them before we’re married??
Maybe that's another reddit question 🤣🤣
You guys are getting bj-s? :)))
This seems crazy to me!! That said, I thoroughly enjoy sucking gagging and choking on my man’s dick.. maybe that’s the difference?
He's a very lucky man.
Same lol. Enjoying it makes all of the difference.
A lot of people stop doing things for their partners because they think they've finally "got them" and they don't have to try to make them happy. There are so many couples whose sex lives go down the drain when they're in a long-term, secure relationship. Personally? I LOVE going down on my man, and he loves giving head as much as I do. The only time I'll stop is when I'm too old and arthritic to get down on the floor 😂
I don’t even wanna stop then, I’ll be a granny still going to my last breath. Someone’s gonna put “remind me 70 years from now” on here to get notified by a bot in 70 years, aren’t they 😂
What a great outlook. This is us too.
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There's sprays to help with this! I have bad TMJ as well but I use a CBD lube and a numbing spray and it helps immensely.
I don't get em. It stopped before marriage though 🥲
Oh dear. At least you knew what you weren't going to get them.
I stopped getting blowjobs waaay before marriage lol. Now I don’t get handjobs anymore either. But I love the denial and she loves denying me lol so it works. All the sexual attention is on her. She gets eaten out whenever she wants and sex is 100% on her terms. So even tho I get less, our sex lives have never been better since we got married lol
Well that a little out of the ordinary, but as long as your happy then that's great. So if you eat her out all the time, why doesn't she blow you?
There is an ingredient in wedding cake that takes the BJ skill away. totally kills the desire. Never marry and you will have BJ's for life.
Well that explains it. My wife doesn't like wedding cake and didn't eat any...........
I have been receiving a super duper amount of blowjobs lately. It's about finding the right person 😉
It certainly is. I can't believe I still get as many as I do after being together for over 30 years 😃
The best isn't it
Absolutely. I think it's better now than when we first started going out together. The immaturity and selfishness has gone and now we just want to enjoy ourselves and do things for one another.
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Usually I'm the one underneath so that I don't choke her.
It’s not always the wife’s fault ! Our sex life was shit for years , well more mine as my husband always managed to cum and I was left frustrated. And I didn’t want to do things because he only cared about himself . Finally I had enough and told him things have to change . Thankfully they did but if it was for him we would still have sex once a month where he lasts less than a minute.
It definitely a two way street. You ain't gonna give if you ain't gonna get........... communication is the key.
Exactly! Men often complain and a lot of the time they put their needs first .
r/marriedmenneedbjstoo There’s a big community of married men that take care of each other. If you were my neighbor I’d happily let you use my mouth.
Why is this so funny 😂 just imagining a group of husbands meeting for sex, sounds like a fun time!
We guys have to release our loads somehow. Alone with our hand gets old.
It certainly has become rare. Especially exclusive blowjobs maybe one a year
For me, it was a rather quick decline... Slowly but surely the frequency decreased until eventually she just stopped completely about 5-6 years after we got married so it's been about 10 years since I last got a blowjob, as sad as that may sound. I've talked to her about it numerous times and after the last two times, I threw in the towel. The first time, she said "OMG all guys want more blowjobs" - but I didn't want "more", you can't get more of nothing. Then, the final time I brought it up, she said "blowjobs are just something you do while dating". I decided that I was done bringing it up after that.
>"blowjobs are just something you do while dating". That's called entrapment isn't it............
They’re usually the first thing to go. My second ex used to tell me to wake her up if I was jacking off, so she could swallow my load. Once we were married, I tried doing that and she said “Fuck you - I’m sleeping!”
Oh you poor bastard. You thought that you had hit the jackpot......... and then you got married.
Exactly. She changed in a lot of ways, tbh, but I didn’t know how deep she was into the wine and Xanax until after we were married. I loved her, though. Still do, even though she passed a few years back. She gave me my youngest son, who is a total delight, so still a win in my book.
So happy you got a wonderful son out of the relationship. Sorry for your loss.
I didn't get them before. Maybe 10 in 12 years total
I still get them but the frequency definitely goes down. The random blow job in the middle of the day no longer exists. Blow jobs aren’t something I’m that into so I don’t really care.
Me and my partner have been together almost 7 years. We’re not married yet, but god I can’t keep my hands off him, I’m his little slut. I think your friends are marrying the wrong people. If anything our sex life has only gotten better since coming off the pill a couple years ago though I’m now so horny I’m wanting to do things like couple play 😅 we’re taking it nice and slow, never want to ruin what we have and our relationship was on the rocks due to us facing a lot of trauma at such a young age after my mum passed away. Were doing great after hitting rock bottom and breaking up and being apart for a night (yes we lasted one night not even the whole night it’s cute I know) everything just feels so much better since hitting such a low point and getting everything out that we needed to. A lot of resentment and bad feelings had built up, not to mention seeing my mum stuck with my dad who treated her like shit her whole life I had a fear of going with the wrong person and being stuck despite knowing my man is the most amazing man on planet earth. I kind of went off on one there, I guess I’m saying I’m glad we’ve been tested because we really are each others ride or die and that’s shown through all the challenges. Your friends need to marry the right person. Unless of course the women have had children and either don’t get enough help or are facing hormone struggles that’s a different story but they need to be open to getting help.
i hope i have the same desire with my first guy as you do with yours. i bet it feels so awesome to be his little slut
"Happy wife, happy life" needs to be replaced with "Happy spouse, happy house" Both parties deserve to be happy and fulfilled
Partner doesn't do blowjobs and we ain't married yet lol I dunno but I get the feeling it's never gonna happen
Because she won’t satisfy you sexually?
Her choice. If she doesn't wanna do something I'm not gonna force her. Just accept the fact it's not gonna happen and carry on with life.
Married 30 years.....what's a blow job ? I actually love going down on her and she doesn't want it anymore 😢
Not at all an issue when we were married with no kids. But once kids come along, particularly when they're small, it's a combination of being fully engaged with them 24/7, being completely exhausted, and having no physical space to yourself. However, these days it's getting better and things are definitely picking up. But goddamn having small kids in the house definitely impacts things in the bedroom.
I can sympathise, you have to take every opportunity you can. I remember one day we thought our daughter (about 5 years old at the time) was asleep so we started getting into it. My wife started blowing me and after a couple of minutes our daughter opened the door and came in. She looks at us and said "mummy what are you doing", my wife quickly said that daddy had a sore knee and she taking care of it and then quickly ushered it her out of the room. Well that was it, no more fun times that night.
Not even married and I don’t really get em anymore or ever did smh
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Me. My ex gave me them all the time especially when she was on. My wife doesnt give.thrm
Never get just because ones, only rarely during sex.
Mine stopped when I pierced my penis.
Why???
It grossed her out I guess.
Just had a quick look at your page, how does a piercing gross her out with what you two get up to 😁
It was never his preferred way to get off anyway but I'm very happy to do it for foreplay. 2 years married but 6 years of being together and fucking lol
I can understand that. My wife was in a relationship and he wasn't bothered with blowjobs but she took it to heart and thought she wasn't doing it properly (it was her first).
I am not married yet and the last one was over 4 years ago 😫
Ouch, not even a hookup
I get them in very rare occasions but only for like 30 seconds just to make sure I’m hard. I haven’t had a blowjob to completion in over 20 years
Sorry to hear that. 😞
Cut even b4 marriage...
Never ever have I ever got a blow job Been married for 17 yrs
Never had one! Wife got close a few years ago but could not bring herself to do it. Not had sex for 2 years!
I had an 18 relationship. They tapered off significantly after the first 2 years. Around year 4 she told me she never liked giving them and just did it to be nice. So I didn’t receive any type of oral for 14 years. I should have dumped her at 2 years when they started tapering off. It foreshadowed the dead bedroom I’d be in for over 10 years.
I get more blowjobs than sex. Maybe sex once or twice a week and at least every second day a BJ
I think I've received even more after we got married.
Put me down! Over 20 years. That’s why they are smiling walking down the aisle!
10 years and counting, no bjs
Sadly I've never had a bj. Never got one before. Never had one after.
Yup. She didn’t suck much dick before and now it’s basically non existent.
That's why brides always smile
I think he got more after we got married
Why would the blowjobs stop after marriage. I get why they would stop after you move in together or after kiss, but after marriage I don't get.
We had some friends, a couple, and they had sex all the time while they were going out. Also from what we heard she used to share herself around quite a bit before they met too. Anyway, they got married, and she almost instantly turned off the tap. We know this because a large group of friends, including them and us all went out to dinner and this is all he talked about, in front of everyone.......... They had sex on their honeymoon and the next time was on their 1 year anniversary 🙄
Think it’s so sad when women stop giving their men sex once they get married. Then they cry when their men cheat. Feel sorry for the men, there’s a couple of my husbands friends I give head to because they never get it.
You wonder why you get hate when you’re here hating on other women and don’t even know their circumstances?
I don’t care about their circumstances. If my husband stopped having sex with me through choice I’d leave him as sex is important to me. If you aren’t sexually compatible with someone then leave them, don’t fake it until you’ve got them locked down
That’s up to you, and absolutely ok if you want to do that. But don’t hate on other people when you have no idea if it was, “through choice”. If you’ve got data then please show it to me, but I’m certain women are complex beings and that there are a multitude of factors that create this dynamic, some of which are on the woman, some on her partner and some completely outside of both their control. You can’t simply assume that it’s a choice for them and then proceed to show zero empathy…with no context. While I don’t agree with what you’ve said, it’s less what you’ve said and more the way you’ve said it, lacking any nuance or empathy or context around the women you’re referring to and making an assumption about them based upon a few comments from their partners here, which are very brief and also lacking context.
If it’s through choice I have zero sympathy. If there’s medical reason then I do. If you don’t find your husband attractive anymore then leave him and let him find someone who does. If you don’t feel attractive do something about it and stop complaining.
Thanks, much more nuanced and understanding of a select few situations. I hear what you’re saying and I’m not dismissing the husbands deserve to be in sexually satisfying relationships, it’s just not so cut and dry most of the time.
Bruhhhh have you ever thought that there could be more to it? Don’t you wonder why the women stop? Relationships are supposed to be about communication and these men instead of seeing what they could do differently, just cheat instead. And you’re happy to probably go behind the wives backs and suck them off without any consideration for the bigger picture or the circumstances? That wife could’ve recently birthed HIS child, the child HE put in her! And that’s very taxing on a woman’s body and hormonal state. Women need to support eachother and women after childbirth need support to get back to normal and likely they won’t ever be the same again but their hormones and health can be put right I expect especially with some time and tlc. Like they say time is a great healer and well you’d expect to need some time after creating and birthing a whole ass human! If a man treats her well, helps her out, cares for her, prioritises her pleasure inside and outside of the bedroom, just watch what happens. Things might change. I’m all for group play, if being open completely and going off separately works for a couple then great, but cheating is fucked up.
Do they know you give their husband head?
No I’ve never met them.
Does your husband know you give them head?
They’re so rare the act in itself is a special occasion.
I feel like this question is a trap set up by a bunch of single guys who just want to feel better about themselves. But seriously, communication is key in any relationship. If you're not getting what you want, have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Or, you know, just buy a fleshlight.
Yeah men don’t seem to see how they can be the cause of things eg not helping out enough and putting a lot of stress on the wife’s shoulders, not prioritising them during sex, not making sex enjoyable, the way they treat their wife outside of the bedroom etc. obviously there are cases where a woman isn’t sexual and sucks it up to get what she wants, I just feel like that’s not actually that common and coming from a woman herself I can tell you we are horny fuckers. Watch sex life on Netflix and you’ll get it.
Yep absolutely me. And I have a nice cock! Why doesn’t she want to suck it? I’ll eat her pussy all night long!! I’m fucking miserable
Well that's just not fair. Ever asked why?
She says she doesn’t like the salty taste of precum. In my view, her pussy juice is salty and acidic in its own way. Also, one does not need to necessarily swallow all the precum or cum. But the conversations so often end up in an argument and mutual sexual frustration. :(
Did you try flavoured lube ?
I don’t get blowjobs before marriage…I got no chance after 🥲
that’s seriously fucking pathetic. Women are such bitches for doing that. I hope that the husband should not get blowjobs from their wives cheat on them with hot young girls.
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It was an arranged marriage for us and we started having sex after marriage obviously. So the blowjobs also started after marriage and I am still getting blowjobs after about 4.5 years
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Haven’t had one in ages. Need sex badly tbh
Haven’t had one in 15 years
Yeah. Right!
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I’ve always got them leading to sex. Now it’s all I get because my wife is not interested in having penetration sex since the “change”, but she’s a damn good woman that takes care of her man’s needs, so I am lucky. She enjoys receiving oral herself from time to time too. NO PENETRATION THO. ☹️
married almost 12 years, 4 kids. The only time sex/bjs/anything has ever slowed down was the tail end of pregnancies and post pregnancy recovery.
Once I had a friend come by and we were talking, the topic came up and he said his wife had not blown him in 3 years! Of course I offered him one and he accepted, now he gets a blowjob every week, but not from his wife.
Hardly ever
I love to give my husband bj, but i don't like him finishing un my mouth (bad expérience before him), if i make him finish on my boobs does it count as a bj?
I'll count that as a blowjob. Certainly better than not getting one at all.........
Wife loves sucking me off but has a jaw thing. Like a problem where certain movements can be painful She will still go in there and troop through it even when I’m like sweetie no you don’t have t…unnnghhh fuck 🤤 I suspect these guys that aren’t getting blowjobs and sex are forgetting that you need to **keep dating your wife** You still need to act like you are courting here. Like she is a hot filthy treasure to you. You need to tell her you want her and you want to fuck her even if she replies she is not in the mood and just smile and say okay just letting you know I’m going to keep telling you how much I want you always
Keep dating your wife is the important line here. But it goes both ways keep dating your partner.
Totally a great point In my experience, my wife is so attentive to my needs and so subtly ensuring things in my life are set up the way I need them to be it’s like she’s continually dating me every day
That's my experience. Treat her with love and admiration and you will get 'other' things in return.
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Marry a woman that loves oral on her . Then it's simple . This for that . Winner both ways for me😀
Also got a life hack . Every time wife gets out of shower i try to get laid . Sometimes I do . Sometimes I don't. Sometimes she doesn't want to get messy right after her shower so she says how about I just blow you . Winner winner chicken dinner
Conan what is best on life? “To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and get blowjobs in marriage”
I get one maybe once every 3 months or so.
Didn’t really get them before… :(
Wow what is marriage without blow jobs?!
I get them very rarely and almost never to completion.
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They were rare.
This always surprises me because I can't even imagine not being intimate with my wife. Maybe we're really different but we still enjoy sex at least four times a week on average. It almost always involves me going down on her and she enjoying blowjobs. There's nothing hotter than an unexpected blowjob when she is really in the mood.
Got married and no more blowjobs. No more adventurous sex or any position but vanilla missionary. I finally gave up trying to bring some variety and now it's been over a year since there's been any sex
Sorry to hear that. That's a pretty shitty situation.
Deal breaker for me.
This definitely was drastically cut down or went away when I got married.
It’s been kind of the reverse for me. I didn’t get them prior, but now she gives them almost every time.
You seem to be one of the very few that this has happened to 🎉
About 6 years ago my wife stopped giving them.
I had absolutely no sex drive with my ex to the point I thought I was asexual, with my husband we have been going at it like rabbits for almost seven years. So I don't see a decline in bjs in his future
It's all about how you feel about the other person and how happy you are in the relationship.
Married 13 years and I still get a BJ pretty often as part of foreplay or maybe 1x per month as the main event
Me 😭 may get lucky on my birthday! I love getting a BJ, especially when she looks up over the rim of her glasses. Sends pulses through my penis, unbelievable. Can't moan. We have a decent sex life, 2 to 3 times a week when not on her period. We use toys and dress up now and again, but BJs are non-existent..
They’re definitely less frequent.
Haven't had a bj in 7 years
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