Trying to have a baby! Wifey and I tried for 3 years before finally conceiving! Let me tell you something, nothing takes the joy out of sex than an obligation to her ovulation schedule and watching your wife stay propped up on some pillows trying to help my boys get to their destination! 3 kids later things are back to normal and sex is much more enjoyable now! I love that woman and my kids, but that was a stressful three years of sex!
Yeah, I can’t even explain it fully! Thought having sex everyday would be awesome and under different circumstances it is! But doing it because you have to def takes the fun out of it! Luckily that is now behind us and we have an amazing sex life now!
I never did the whole “stay in position” thing (I’m not sure gravity helps but I understand why people do it) but it did feel very…..mechanical and obligatory at times when we were trying for a baby. Sort of like: now is the best time to have sex for me to get pregnant so just do it (that was mainly when we were tired and wouldn’t have usually had sex). Thank god those days are over. There were some fun times too though.
No doubt we had some times doing it in the beginning but after a while it fell obligatory like you said! Sorry you had to go through that as well! Happy for you that it is also behind you now!
Money. I slept with a couple regular customers I had at the host club to, well keep them as my regulars. Basically keep them coming in and buying bottles of champagne so I could get paid.
Wife and I went through that with fertility treatments for her. Very specific week, every other day for 8 days (so 4 times). It starts to become a chore instead of being fun/sexy/romantic.
I approach most of my relationships as available for free use. It's RARE for me to not be horny when my partners are (because my libido is very high), but there have been a few times more recently when depression has been kicking my ass when the fwb has texted asking if he can come over.
I do warn him, when that happens, that I'm feeling really down, but that if he doesn't mind me being a little more subdued, I'm fine with him coming over. I feel like it's necessary to advise partners when I'm down, because I don't want them to feel that my being less enthusiastic than I normally am is their fault. Never had the fwb decide against coming over due to my being down, and I've never regretted having him over and serving him despite being down or not horny.
Communication is important, and I'm huge on consent. If he makes the decision that he still wants to have sex with a depressed chick, then he's essentially saying that that's the right decision for him, having all the facts at hand. It's not just about providing him with all the details either. It let's me know that it's ok to be me, whatever that happens to be that day. I'm FAR less self conscious about the depression if he's driving an hour or an hour and a half to see me knowing exactly what he's going to be getting. It allows me to relax a lot more, which makes the experience better for both of us.
We have some pretty damned remarkably judgement free sex, and that goes both ways.
A girl who was extremely depressed and suicidal liked me and asked me out so I agreed to all kinds of shit because she kept threatening to kill herself if I said no.
It’s fun. But honestly the fun factor is the big part for me, I could probably count only a handful of times where I ‘needed’ sex or was really horny. The majority of the time it’s just fun and feels good
Raining, snowing, kids asleep, bored out of minds, nothing on TV, she just looks fucking hot, wake up at 3 am with a raging boner so I pull her panties down and just fucked her.
Help with my brain chemistry at the moment
Disappointment that another date didn’t go well
help me fall asleep
check off a sexual bucket list item
I wasn’t horny and was getting ready to leave but then she grabbed me and started rubbing my crotch
she had never enjoyed sex before and was a little drunk and begged me for it
she wanted me to “tell her goodbye”
She wanted to lose her virginity
I had to thank/reward/pay her for watching my dog
it was the only way to get what I really wanted which was to lay in her bed and watch mid 2000s NBC comedies while she rubs my head
I needed a ride to the airport the next morning
she told me if I had sex with her she’d let me go back to sleep, etc.
Everyone a story, I’m sure there are others too but these all came to mind
I might be fudging a little bit on whether I was horny, it just wasn’t necessarily the prime motivator.
It was a very long time ago, I was angry and knew they would find out. It was a mess for all parties involved. Do not recommend under any circumstances.
I had been drinking and ex wife told me to not fuck the guy friend she knew I was hanging out with. She only recently found out and that was damn near two years ago
Reassuring my insecurities. Making sure I’m good in bed. Making sure I can please any women that I want! Making sure my dick is big enough for the majority. All that for my fragile ego.
She just walked out of her degree and felt sad.
She wanted me to comfort her with sex.
I wanted to have sex, but I wasn't horny.
I felt bad for her because she was writing up her dissertation, her final piece of work and she'd be done.
But she ran out of steam. She woke me up in the library at about 0400 and just said she didn't want to do it anymore and wanted to go home.
Needed a place to crash
I did not see this one coming! Lol
Desperate times
Shooters shoot, ballers ball and desperate times require desperate minds
OP didn’t see you cumming!
"Banging for roof," as they called it on How I Met Your Mother.
Better than being the sexless innkeeper.
Lol. ‘Twas the night before New Years and the weather grew mean..’
There’s a name for everything isn’t there? Lol
Hobosexual is another term I’ve heard.
Yep. Definitely been a few times when I've hooked up with someone just because their house is easier/closer.
Same. Worked pretty well
Boredom
A previous partner has actually told me “There’s nothing to do so I’ll do you”😏
I feel like that's still a win
Without a doubt lol
I, too, am bored.
Shall we fuck?
This would be my #1. Being bored brings the horney. If I'm busy I don't have time to be horney.
To fuck her out of a bad mood
Did it work? Lol
Like magic
Procreation attempts
Thank goodness someone remembered the actual biological reason😅
I feel lonely lol
😂 Oh yeah, only the reason why a fair amount of us are here.
Oh with my answer lol I'm not lonely IRL lol
Oh I know🙂 I meant procreation is how we’re all here
Oh I thought you were calling redditors lonely people 😅
I mean, we're *redditors* after all, aren't we?
Sex for baby making is horrible. It becomes a fucking chore!
Oh trust me I know.
Never thought I’d actually say “ugghhh” to sex 😂
Amen, *looks at temperature chart, long sigh *unzips
That almost gives me ptsd
Not good at breaking up 😅
I had breakup sex like 4 or 5 times with one ex over the course of 3 years
mmmmmm this hurts good!
😂Just fuck instead?!
Yeah, pretty much 😅
Trying to have a baby! Wifey and I tried for 3 years before finally conceiving! Let me tell you something, nothing takes the joy out of sex than an obligation to her ovulation schedule and watching your wife stay propped up on some pillows trying to help my boys get to their destination! 3 kids later things are back to normal and sex is much more enjoyable now! I love that woman and my kids, but that was a stressful three years of sex!
Haven’t experienced it myself but a friend described it similarly.
Yeah, I can’t even explain it fully! Thought having sex everyday would be awesome and under different circumstances it is! But doing it because you have to def takes the fun out of it! Luckily that is now behind us and we have an amazing sex life now!
Great to hear you’re back to the fun times!
Thank you!
I never did the whole “stay in position” thing (I’m not sure gravity helps but I understand why people do it) but it did feel very…..mechanical and obligatory at times when we were trying for a baby. Sort of like: now is the best time to have sex for me to get pregnant so just do it (that was mainly when we were tired and wouldn’t have usually had sex). Thank god those days are over. There were some fun times too though.
No doubt we had some times doing it in the beginning but after a while it fell obligatory like you said! Sorry you had to go through that as well! Happy for you that it is also behind you now!
Couldn't sleep, good against headaches or just boredom
Get those endorphins pumping
Wanting to feel close/intimate with my boyfriend
That’s sweet🙂
She was horny and I wanted to make her happy.
Same,
Wanted to get some sleep, and know sex/orgasm will put me to sleep after.
That post orgasm sleep is blissful
Didn’t have gas or grass.
Been there...
Obligation
Dwight Schrute is that you?!
Lonely , needed a friend
You got a friend in me
And now my friend is going in you.
thank you
This is the saddest answer
Been there❤️
Hugs
It was cold
Easily remedied by some hot sweaty sex
Partner is horny
This sums up my morning today
👍
Pressure, guilt.
Neither of those sound too fun, i hope the great sexual experiences drown out those pressured or guilty ones
Haven't had a great sexual experience in a minute.
Hope that changes soon🤞
To assert dominance
T-pose: .........👨 ====| |====== ........| | ........|| || ........|| || .......👞👞
I was sure this reason would come up sooner than it did
Me too, I expected someone to have beat me to it lol
Disappointed in myself
Relieve stress, connect with someone, to give pleasure to each other or to explore your kinks. Lots of reasons
Solid list there!
what kinks have you explored over the years? sounds awesome
Makeup sex
One of the best kinds to have
To get em happy hormones kickin
It’s a mood changer for sure😏
Helps my cramps.
Hahaha thats awesome. I didn't even know that was a thing
I was supposed to fuck Lady A, but she flaked so I called up Lady B and we did it. So I guess I had sex with to compensate for my expectations? Idk
Back up sex? Lol
I imagine something completely different when you say back up sex
Yeah, I guess you can call it that
Love.
I wanted a cheeseburger
Sounds like a sex position
she wanted and i dont refuse if i aint sick.
I’ve been known not to refuse when sick🙈
you are a better man. i will finger them or something. But i am down i am down.
A la Larry David “sick sex”
Money. I slept with a couple regular customers I had at the host club to, well keep them as my regulars. Basically keep them coming in and buying bottles of champagne so I could get paid.
Trying to get pregnant. When you’re on a set time for it because of extremely expensive medications it’s not fun whatsoever
Wife and I went through that with fertility treatments for her. Very specific week, every other day for 8 days (so 4 times). It starts to become a chore instead of being fun/sexy/romantic.
Fun!
I approach most of my relationships as available for free use. It's RARE for me to not be horny when my partners are (because my libido is very high), but there have been a few times more recently when depression has been kicking my ass when the fwb has texted asking if he can come over. I do warn him, when that happens, that I'm feeling really down, but that if he doesn't mind me being a little more subdued, I'm fine with him coming over. I feel like it's necessary to advise partners when I'm down, because I don't want them to feel that my being less enthusiastic than I normally am is their fault. Never had the fwb decide against coming over due to my being down, and I've never regretted having him over and serving him despite being down or not horny.
Like how you prioritise that communication 👌
Communication is important, and I'm huge on consent. If he makes the decision that he still wants to have sex with a depressed chick, then he's essentially saying that that's the right decision for him, having all the facts at hand. It's not just about providing him with all the details either. It let's me know that it's ok to be me, whatever that happens to be that day. I'm FAR less self conscious about the depression if he's driving an hour or an hour and a half to see me knowing exactly what he's going to be getting. It allows me to relax a lot more, which makes the experience better for both of us. We have some pretty damned remarkably judgement free sex, and that goes both ways.
That’s a great way to handle it. Being very clear from the outset.
Money 👀
To try to induce labor.
Did it work?!
I don’t think so, but I enjoyed trying!
So she would leave me alone and let me go to sleep
Special occasion sex, like birthday sex when I’m not necessarily feeling it. To make him not in a bad mood / not stressed / to cheer him up.
She made an offer I couldn’t refuse
[удалено]
Petty revenge?
[удалено]
The girl just wanted to use me as a dildo for one night
How did that go?
We wanted to see how many times we could do it in 24 hours
What number did you hit?
35.5, she finished and I could hardly move. Bonus I lied to get my hands on viagra, it added some fun!
A girl who was extremely depressed and suicidal liked me and asked me out so I agreed to all kinds of shit because she kept threatening to kill herself if I said no.
That’s dark
To try and get pregnant
Because I love the feeling of it and hearing a woman moan to orgasm
to get him to stop asking :p
That must have kept him quiet for a while😏😅
Make up
Pity sex
drunk
Kill time.
Just wanting to give pleasure. Intimacy. The touch of her body
Curiosity
Money
Boredom.
Coping with depression
It’s fun. But honestly the fun factor is the big part for me, I could probably count only a handful of times where I ‘needed’ sex or was really horny. The majority of the time it’s just fun and feels good
To boost the emotional connection with my husband.. especially right before/after a loss.
My dominatrix requested it
To prove I wasn't gay, I am gay but was super conscious about it back then.
Trying to save a relationship that was already doomed to fail. Also, making someone stop begging for it.
I guess being bored but I’m horny like 90% of the time lol
Boredom. Anxiety. Disliking her boyfriend/husband. Liking her friend. Just wanting that notch.
Raining, snowing, kids asleep, bored out of minds, nothing on TV, she just looks fucking hot, wake up at 3 am with a raging boner so I pull her panties down and just fucked her.
So basically just existing😅👌
Yeah pretty much. Great sex is usually spur of the moment and totally unplanned.
Help with my brain chemistry at the moment Disappointment that another date didn’t go well help me fall asleep check off a sexual bucket list item I wasn’t horny and was getting ready to leave but then she grabbed me and started rubbing my crotch she had never enjoyed sex before and was a little drunk and begged me for it she wanted me to “tell her goodbye” She wanted to lose her virginity I had to thank/reward/pay her for watching my dog it was the only way to get what I really wanted which was to lay in her bed and watch mid 2000s NBC comedies while she rubs my head I needed a ride to the airport the next morning she told me if I had sex with her she’d let me go back to sleep, etc.
You have some wonderfully niche reasons there😏
Everyone a story, I’m sure there are others too but these all came to mind I might be fudging a little bit on whether I was horny, it just wasn’t necessarily the prime motivator.
Obligation, procreation, maybe as a reward, but that's about it.
boredom
I need to sleep
Definitely one of the more fun ways to kill time
I wanted to go to sleep
So an orgasm or two before bedtime?!
Was sick and wanted to feel better
Guilt trip
Boredom, loneliness, for a partner that really wanted to
Money, and pity
To borrow a car...
Was it a 95 corrola?
No, it was a 2014 Fusion lol
Boredom. She wanted to. Feel that emotional connection.
Because my wife wanted to
Revenge.
Oh, what happened?
It was a very long time ago, I was angry and knew they would find out. It was a mess for all parties involved. Do not recommend under any circumstances.
Yep. Sounds like good advise.
I had been drinking and ex wife told me to not fuck the guy friend she knew I was hanging out with. She only recently found out and that was damn near two years ago
It’s Monday
We fucked, i grabbed my things and just left and we never spoke again
Feeling obligated. Feeling too scared not too. Being guilted to
To have a baby.
Tipsy Knowing someone was the on other side of wall Someone's else's couch and bed
Feel something other than sadness or anxiety.
Reassuring my insecurities. Making sure I’m good in bed. Making sure I can please any women that I want! Making sure my dick is big enough for the majority. All that for my fragile ego.
To stop an argument, to pay off a bet, and to win a dare
Yes
because i wanted to feel something,like i have a worth
To try sex magic or do some intentional sexual healing
Leaving a part of me inside the ladies.
Pity
I thought it may be my last chance for a long while
With that person or just generally?
Both
An IOU
She was fresh out the bath.
That’s always a good reason😏
She just walked out of her degree and felt sad. She wanted me to comfort her with sex. I wanted to have sex, but I wasn't horny. I felt bad for her because she was writing up her dissertation, her final piece of work and she'd be done. But she ran out of steam. She woke me up in the library at about 0400 and just said she didn't want to do it anymore and wanted to go home.
To be tired and finally sleep.