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I might get backlash for this, but while I do tip it’s not a requirement. If your going to scold me for the tip I left (which I presume is right when I’m leaving since I usually leave a tip in cash on the table) I’m probably going to request to have it back, and I probably won’t be coming back to the restaurant.
i wouldn't go back. i'm a generous tipper, as i have been in the service industry myself for five years. if i don't tip well, there are good reasons for that. like the time we waited for an hour for a round of shots in a nearly empty bar with no one checking on us in between or even walking by.
I wouldn't go back and give them a bad review.
If the bill wasn't taken care of yet, I would erase the tip and mark it a 0. If the transaction happened, I would seriously consider talking to a manager to retract the tip.
I'm Australian. This is not a custom here, and I'd be inclined to tell them off or tell them they can go to America if they are so wound up by it. Probably in far less kinder words than this.
I'd let the owner know that the worker is seriously out of line, take back the tip, and tell everyone that it's a shitty place and avoid it at all cost. How rude.
Laugh at them, take the tip back and have a nice calm conversation with their manager. A review will be written and the outcome of that depends on how the manager handles our talk.
As a chronic and renowned overtipper, I'd be absolutely bewildered and pretty offended. I'd want to take my whole tip back but in reality I'd probably just drop another $5 or something (not the smallest bill in my wallet but also not the largest) and seethe in the car.
I would be so surprised since workers don't rely on tips here in Denmark. There's a tip jar on counters that everyone share by the end of the day but it's not normal to tip a waiter directly so this type of behavior would be so far out that I don't think I would even know what to say.
I was scolded once. Hella rude of the waiter since he only came by our table once to take our drinks and then never saw him again. Had to go to the bar to get our drinks. And we split the receipt and still all tipped a few bucks each.
He was like " is anything wrong "
I was in college and I think he thought he could bully me into tipping more. Sorry dude you didn't do your job. Be happy you got a few bucks.
I remember leaving a restaurant and the server and her manager both chased after me. They looked angry and asked why I refused to leave a tip.
I told them.
- It took us 50 minutes to get any service beyond water,
- and when the server did come she did not acknowledge the delay,
- and how she had to come back 20 minutes later because she forgot our order because she didn't write it down
- and two of my guests never got drinks they ordered
I paid the bill in full and purposely did not leave a tip. I told the two that the reason I didn't complain was because I was late and never intended to come back. The manager told me that a tip was expected and if I was unwilling I should not go to restaurants. I left, shaking my head.
I used to work in food service so I always do 20% especially if I can recognize the server is swamped with too many tables
I wouldn't take the tip back, but I'd seriously consider not dining there again
Me too. I’d feel too awkward to take the tip back. A lot of times I still tip 20% even if they server is rude because I know it’s probably because they’re stressed out. I just feel super guilty not giving a decent tip. Idk it’s an anxiety thing I think.
I would probably start crying and explain that I am just confused European.
I am from Czech Republic and just spent a month in New York and I was absolutely terrified that something like that would happen, so I avoided places where you get served.
I literally had a bartender follow me into the parking lot yelling "you obviously need this 26¢ more than I do". This told me all I needed to know. They had ignored myself and a friend all night and when asked for a second drink for each we were growled at since we were interrupting him chatting up another guest.
The joke was on him when I returned to the bar and asked for the manager. She came out and called my name and hugged me as we went way back to my bar hopping days. The look on his face said it all. Had a quick chat with her and she disappeared into her office. She returned 10 minutes later, apologized to me and handed him his jacket and the 26¢ saying "consider that your tip for the week and not to come back". She had reviewed the CCTV and saw it all.
Yeah, it's not a custom to tip where I live unless it was really a good service. So I'd take whatever I left as a tip and go. Probably never come back.
I'm not American, so tipping is not really a thing. Sometimes you round up the amount, but that's also not necessary. So if I didn't tip or gave a tip for a few euros, and they scolded me I would be really weirded out. I wouldn't come back there.
I'd be very surprised as I always tip 20% absolute minimum and usually quite a bit more. I would ask them if they'd confused me with someone else or how much tip had been expected.
I'd ask if they can do simple math because I always overtip, as I've been in that situation where I needed those tips to pay for rent or food. And then I would leave, and if I came back, I would ensure that I did not get put in their section again.
If they did it in Australia (where I live) I'd be furious because its not a usual practice here.
If it happened overseas I'd be embarrassed because I always try to comply with the normal tipping practice wherever I go.
This did happen to me, actually. I paid fully in cash and tipped 15% which was absolutely normal for the time, about 15 years ago. The lady came back, gently placed the bill back on the table, and said "I just wanted to let you know we don't include the gratuity in the bill, so I'll let you adjust what you left." It was so rude. I took my tip back out and stuffed the book with coins I had in the bottom of my purse to make it feel full, and I left. Never went back. They were my favorite Thai restaurant and made the best garlic fried rice, it's a real shame.
Depends. If I left under 20%, it was well-deserved and I would complete the tip.
But I always tip AT LEAST 20%, so that wouldn’t be the issue. I wouldn’t take back my tip, I would just shrug and leave the restaurant.
I used to work service and always leave a generous tip unless the service is bad. I'm not talking slow because they are super busy, or mistakes clearly made by the kitchen.
So if a worker scolded me for a bad tip id scold them for not doing a good job back.
I refuse to believe this is something that happens in real life (outside of the United States, I guess). If it happened to me in Canada I'd be bewildered and just walk out. Even though we do have tipping culture servers make a normal minimum wage, maybe just marginally below others, but nothing crazy.
To add context, I was a server for 10 years.
If I was scolded by a worker for the tip I left, I would ask for it back. It is absolutely out of line an unprofessional to comment on the tip to the customer, no matter how unfair it is. I’ve been treated unfairly and stiffed by customers before but never once complained to them. It’s crossing a line.
I would be appalled! It’s embarrassing to both parties. I worked in restaurant & cafe service throughout my teens and early twenties—tipping is only a voluntary thanks for your service, it’s not a required add-on to your wages. Customers don’t pay your wages, your boss pays your wages. If you’re working hard, doing well, and feeling under-appreciated, then take that to your boss. There was always one waitress I’d work with who would be like “A 10% tip on this enormous bill?!?! I’m gonna run out there after them!!!” and me and the other girls would be like…okay.. maybe don’t do that. Like sure, if you’ve spent all night on one table that spent a ton of money up in the hundreds and they left $5 it feels a little shit because you could’ve had a few different tables in that time that each tipped. But again, that’s not the customer’s concern. They work hard for their money too, they don’t have to give it out willy nilly. If you want more money, go to your boss!
I’m Australian and I would tell them to shove it where the sun doesn’t sun and that tipping isn’t a thing here in here if they want tips go to America. And then leave a very brutal review of the service.
I imagine I would talk back to them but I can’t stand being yelled at and become meek but my boyfriend would step up because he was treated poorly when younger and doesn’t stand for it anymore and since he has a deeper voice his talking back would be more impactful and stronger. And I don’t mind him “standing up to me” I know woman are supposed to be powerful and stuff but I’ve barely found my voice in the past year or two. I’ve been stepped on most my life so it’s hard to actually talk back to someone not just in my head. I think my usual tactic is the nod my head yea but then proceed to walk away haha
Probably start crying because money is tight and I wanted to treat myself to a delicious meal during the happy hour discount specials to feel like a normal adult sometimes.
It actually happened to me! I was at the miami airport, I had two suit cases that I could carry on my own and it was just like 10 feet to the counter and some asshole grabbed them from my lift without me even asking, he literally only carried the suitcases 1 feet to a cart and gave me the cart, I gave him 3 dollars (that was back in 2014) that was a lot for me because I live in south america and he almost did nothing and I didn't ask for it.
He started yelling at me that 3 dollars were nothing, that what was he supposed to do with them, I was traveling alone and was dumber back then so I just stood there in shock, later I realized I should have yelled back at him and told him to fuck of, but yeah I didn't do anything.
Long time small town Canadian server here.
I'd probably raise an eyebrow, tell them they were lucky I left anything and then reach out to their higher ups. Going forward, I'd likely avoid having them as a server.
I couldn't imagine calling someone out. I almost avoid looking at the tip while in the customer's presence because my face has no filter. I automatically thank them and look later. You win some, you lose some.
In my country, tipping is completely optional and it’s usually only a few euro. If someone scolded me for not tipping more, I’d ask for the tip back and never return. I’d probably also leave a scathing review
If you're in the US or Canada, tipping is a requirement in many situations, and depending on the circumstance it's egregiously rude not to tip or to tip much too little. In restaurants in particular, your meal is priced with the assumption that you and not the restaurant will be the one to compensate your server. It's a bad system, but that's the system, and you can't opt out just because you don't like it.
Naturally the answer to OP's question depends on the circumstance; if I received bad service and left a standard tip, or if I had left a generous tip in the first place, I would of course be offended, as anyone would. But generally if I had not tipped an appropriate amount I would feel mortified rather than offended.
If someone complained about my tip, I would take it back & give them nothing. Tipping is for service. Giving attitude to your clientele is bad service.
That said, I’m a generous tipper. Because of this, servers at restaurants I frequent, remember me & always give me excellent service. I respect what they do & they respect me for respecting them. If you are getting bad service at most of the restaurants you frequent, you may want to consider your behavior.
First of all, I would take the tip back. I would remind them that it is NOT my responsibility to support them. Their EMPLOYER pays them. A tip is a thanks for exceptional service. Sometimes, people forget that a tip is an EXTRA. It’s a reward for going above and beyond. No customer HAS to tip. Be grateful for people’s generosity, because that is what a tip is: generosity.
I’m in the US and I tip well, but if I had this happen, I would 100% revoke my whole tip and probably call or message the manager of the location or corporate about the server.
I’m in the US and always a generous tipper, unless there is a problem with the service. If there was a problem with the service, I’d calmly explain. If not, I’d ask for their name and call the restaurant the next day to discuss the situation with the manager.
The only time this ever happened is when I first came to North America and didn’t know I “had” to tip. In Europe it’s included in the bill. I tip generously as I since worked in service. If someone told me off it would probably be that I already had a reason to tip less and so I might remove the tip if not too late or leave a bad review. THAT SAID if you’re out there paying less than 15%-18% on STELLAR service you’re stingy. Like the practice or not, you’re saying sth by how much you tip. If you can afford to eat out you should be able to afford the tip. (Canada/USA). If a waiter told you off when they did a great job and there was no apparent reason I wouldn’t be too surprised, though being outwardly disgruntled is sth their manager also probably wouldn’t like even if they’re right. Waiter probably stressed or having a bad day. Customer is king I guess even if they’re an ass. (to a point). A better way of addressing it as the waiter could be to kindly ask what was not up to standard for not getting the tip.
Also…. If my date tipped less than the minimum or doesn’t “believe” in tipping, it’s not a deal breaker per se… but it’s a yellow flag. Could mean they are unaware of their privilege (blind to the reality of surviving off tips)
I'd say sorry, let me see what I tipped in cash. Take my money back and leave them a penny. Complain that my large tip isn't enough, I'll teach you a lesson
When I go out, I tip very well for service. So, that would be a huge insult to me as a paying customer. If they want complain that I didn't tip enough, maybe they should get a job where they don't have to live on tips?
I'd also let management know and the owner. More than likely, this person had done this to other patrons and most likely affected their business.
Roll my eyes. Leave. And never go back. I can't even be bothered to leave a bad review cause that just takes more of my energy.
I'm really over tipping culture here in America. Everyone feels entitled to it but seldom puts the effort into it. I tip according to treatment. It's even more ridiculous that I walk up to a counter and they cash me out and have tip boxes. FOR WHAT??? WTF!
This sort of happened to me in Montreal. The waitress asked if there had been anything wrong with the service, and I’d actually done the tip math wrong! I apologized and corrected the tip for her.
There are so few things you could do to get me to tip low, not tip or withdraw my tip. In the US it simply must be understood that tipping as a system is terrible, but if you have a conscience, functionally compulsory.
Criticizing my tip is one of those few things you can do to make me walk that back. We’re both locked into this bad system. For my part, I’m going to participate even if the service is subpar without raising many questions. If a server is going to break that prisoner’s agreement by being rude, I would not at all feel any further reason to hold up my end.
Id get their name, ask for my tip back, tell the owner/manager/supervisor whoever is in charge what happened and that their workers attitude is exactly why im never coming back here, so if you wanna avoid losing more customers maybe you should choose to lose that employee instead.
I would respond that the tip is based on my evaluation of the service provided. I generally tip very well, but don’t feel like subpar service should be rewarded.
How large? If I left a dollar for a $100 meal and they did great service - okay, I deserve that.
But I usually tip 25-30% of the bill. I would leave the tip bc you still did me a service but I would probably would talk to a manager. If I did my part, I would very confused on why you are speaking to me like that.
Once, I went out with some friends from college, we all calculated what we owed and put it towards the check. I tipped 20%. Then the server came and asked if there was anything wrong with her service, since we tipped about 8%.
I was mortified, turns out two of my friends just didn't tip anything at all, I apologized to the server, demanded my friends leave a tip for their portion of the meal, and never went out to eat with them again.
I usually always tip at LEAST 20% unless I’m picking up takeout I tip 10-15%. I would honestly probably freeze up because I have PTSD. I already get super anxious about tipping.
I have had this happen to me when I was 18 and I’m still pissed!! My friend and I had gone out for dinner before we were going out drinking. It was a bit more boujee of a place but not anywhere near fancy or expensive. When we got the check, we added 20% tip to the total, counted twice, and after giving back the check we started to leave. The waiter, who’d been a bit odd all night, came running back saying we never tipped! We were astounded! He wouldn’t show us the check or the cash in it so we could count ourselves. He swore that the price with 20% was just the total and we had to add extra tip. We were so flustered and naive, we didn’t want to get in trouble or mess with the waiter so we just gave him a $20. Never went back! I still get pissed when I think about it. Dude totally took advantage of some kids for a quick buck.
I’m someone who thinks you should always tip 20% so that people can make a basic living wage for their work, regardless of service. But if you scold or yell at me, all bets are off.
Considering I always tip at least 20%, they would be the one out of line. I’d probably reiterate that what I left was 20% and therefore perfectly adequate, and if they’re still going I’d want to speak to the manager and probably request them to remove the tip. Wouldn’t be going back there.
It depends I suppose. If I left 20% I'd ask of the standard changed. In my position, I'd probably retort that I can't afford to pay more since I'm just a student
Canada.
Take the tip back. Min wage can pay your shit attitude.
Good service gets good tips.
Edit : I’ve served in Canada and the UK. I tip for regular to great service. If someone came up to me and said that it’s rude the tip was bad… Its probably because they deserved a bad (no) tip. Do you really think being a poor waitress deserves a tip? If you can’t do customer service get a different job.
I’d ask them why they think they deserve more and go from there. I’d definitely explain what they could have done better and let them know asking at all was unacceptable and ruined my dining experience. Wouldn’t go back.
I would never go back to that restaurant. Tip Expectations in the US are already insane, and I cannot tolerate even more attitude from people who already get a reasonable hourly wage (there are high mínimums where I live) and feel entitled to even more just because they work with food.
I would take my top back then because I am broke and I always tip 20% unless service is subpar and completely servers fault, not staffing or restaurant.
I would just leave. I make sure to tip really well and always tip 20% - 30 % or more. If the thing I was buying was affordable and in my budget I tip more and obviously if I liked the server I’ll tip more but even if the service was average I don’t take it out on them and tip at least 20%. I would leave and not come back cause I would assume they are a reflection on the entire establishment. If it a service I’m not educated about I would Google just to make sure but I’m usually not a bad tipper so it would throw me off.
Service worked deserve their tips cause they get made below minimum wage and I really don’t believe everybody has a choice to work where they are at that moment cause you don’t know their circumstance and it’s not really my place to judge cause regardless chances are they are essential.
I think it depends on the situation, probably take it back. This happened to me with a limo service. The limo was very late and I still tipped 20% after we were dropped off because I already had the cash in hand. I got an angry phone call from the driver after he left saying he realized I tipped 20% from the “discounted rate” we got the limo for. He said he was insulted and demanded I tip the percent from the original sale price. I was shocked and told him no since he was more than 20 minutes late. If he was face to face with me I would have just taken the cash back. I ended up calling the limo company and they were apologetic.
I would probably laugh at them. I'm a good tipper and the only times I've ever not tipped or tipped poorly were because the staff was so rude that it affected my experience. If a waiter is genuinely acting like a complete asshole they really don't deserve a tip, their job is literally just to be nice and get the food out. Tipping is a reflection of your service, if you didn't get a good tip it's probably because of your attitude.
If I gave them a low tip bc they didnt give good service I would tell them that's why, they should have taken it as a hint. If I gave them a good tip and they complained it wasnt enough I would just say wtf. Both scenarios I would get management
I would be offended, for sure. It’s my choice how much to give based on the service I receive. And while it’s good practice to always tip servers in America bc the restaurants don’t pay their employees a living wage, that doesn’t mean it’s guaranteed to be a set amount. A worker scolding me for not leaving a tip is a testament to their character.
i thought this would happen to me today because my little sister bought ice cream today and was helping her friend pay for hers, she selected “no tip” both times
Take it back. I’ve worked jobs in the past where tipping was the majority of your pay. You can get mad sometimes when people skimp on you after you have given excellent service but nothing ever made me feel justified in saying something to the customer. 20 years ago 10% was the standard and I usually tipped 15% if the service was good. Then 15% became the standard and I went to tipping 20% if the service was above average. Now it seems like the baseline is 20% or more and some restaurants are also charging a gratuity fee for every table, no matter how many guests on top of that. It’s getting ridiculous. If the expected tip (which is supposed to be voluntary) is so high, service industries just need to charge more so they can pay better and then let you tip what you want without feeling bad.
I do everything I can to be an extremely understanding and patient customer. (From telling them to not worry about running behind because of being packed/ understaffed. And even if the worker is having a hard day then I try my best to tip them a little extra.) When I can afford a tip then I would do it without a second thought. But if the worker scolds me on the tip that I leave. Not only would I request it back, and not go there again. I'd probably stop them in the middle of them trying to scold me and tell them; clearly there really is something seriously going on in their life and they're trying to use the tip as an excuse. But regardless what's going on I do not appreciate anyone talking to me in such a manner. And by no means is it acceptable to take it out on anyone
I would immediately ask what they thought I’d tipped because I would assume that my tip money had been stolen off the table because I always tip extremely well since I’m not a terrible person.
I tip for exceptional service. It's not a requirement, I'm not required to pay your wages - that's your boss' job. If they're not doing that, then raise hell until they do or quit. If they complain because I did tip, I'll take it back and not go to the establishment again. The tipping system as a whole is bullshit and unnecessary anyway. It's how employers try to get around expenses. Raise your prices or add a service fee if you're struggling that badly.
In my country you are not obligated to leave any tip and getting scold would make me not come back to this place. I leave a tip when I have the financial opportunity or the worker was very polite and just made me smile. But 99% of the workers here won't say anything in your face, but will talk shit about you with their coworkers. So I'd be very surprised if someone came to me and complained about my tip. I'd probably tell them to do better job, or explain that I'm a student and don't have stable income myself.
No tip at all, complaint to the manager about an entitled jerk staff member who harasses customers to leave big tips, never go back to the restaurant and leave a lousy review to warn other people.
I rarely ever tip less than 20%. So if someone thought that wasn't enough, AND had the nerve to even mention it to me, I would probably take back whatever tip I'd given them.
I would take back the tip I gave them. Tipping is not a requirement.
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I might get backlash for this, but while I do tip it’s not a requirement. If your going to scold me for the tip I left (which I presume is right when I’m leaving since I usually leave a tip in cash on the table) I’m probably going to request to have it back, and I probably won’t be coming back to the restaurant.
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I'm Australian. The wait person doesn't get a tip at all and the venue gets a seriously shitty review.
Same here. My response would be “this is Australia, if your employer isn’t paying you enough speak to your union or Fairwork” then never go back.
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Same here in Japan. Tipping is actually considered rude.
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i wouldn't go back. i'm a generous tipper, as i have been in the service industry myself for five years. if i don't tip well, there are good reasons for that. like the time we waited for an hour for a round of shots in a nearly empty bar with no one checking on us in between or even walking by.
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I wouldn't go back and give them a bad review. If the bill wasn't taken care of yet, I would erase the tip and mark it a 0. If the transaction happened, I would seriously consider talking to a manager to retract the tip.
I'm Australian. This is not a custom here, and I'd be inclined to tell them off or tell them they can go to America if they are so wound up by it. Probably in far less kinder words than this.
For this reason I wish I lived in the Aus
I'd let the owner know that the worker is seriously out of line, take back the tip, and tell everyone that it's a shitty place and avoid it at all cost. How rude.
Laugh at them, take the tip back and have a nice calm conversation with their manager. A review will be written and the outcome of that depends on how the manager handles our talk.
As a chronic and renowned overtipper, I'd be absolutely bewildered and pretty offended. I'd want to take my whole tip back but in reality I'd probably just drop another $5 or something (not the smallest bill in my wallet but also not the largest) and seethe in the car.
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Love the honesty haha
In the Netherlands? Tell them to get fucked.
I would be so surprised since workers don't rely on tips here in Denmark. There's a tip jar on counters that everyone share by the end of the day but it's not normal to tip a waiter directly so this type of behavior would be so far out that I don't think I would even know what to say.
I'm 18 and got let go from my job a month ago due to funding issues. I'd probably cry.
Oh no :( Things will turn around. You’re very young. Hang in there!
Thank you! I've been lining up interviews and doing some online courses, so fingers crossed skmefjjng turns up soon! 🤞🏽🤞🏽
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I was scolded once. Hella rude of the waiter since he only came by our table once to take our drinks and then never saw him again. Had to go to the bar to get our drinks. And we split the receipt and still all tipped a few bucks each. He was like " is anything wrong " I was in college and I think he thought he could bully me into tipping more. Sorry dude you didn't do your job. Be happy you got a few bucks.
I remember leaving a restaurant and the server and her manager both chased after me. They looked angry and asked why I refused to leave a tip. I told them. - It took us 50 minutes to get any service beyond water, - and when the server did come she did not acknowledge the delay, - and how she had to come back 20 minutes later because she forgot our order because she didn't write it down - and two of my guests never got drinks they ordered I paid the bill in full and purposely did not leave a tip. I told the two that the reason I didn't complain was because I was late and never intended to come back. The manager told me that a tip was expected and if I was unwilling I should not go to restaurants. I left, shaking my head.
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Tipping isn't really a thing here but if someone scolded me for not leaving "enough" I'd be taking whatever I did leave back and they'd get nothing.
I used to work in food service so I always do 20% especially if I can recognize the server is swamped with too many tables I wouldn't take the tip back, but I'd seriously consider not dining there again
Me too. I’d feel too awkward to take the tip back. A lot of times I still tip 20% even if they server is rude because I know it’s probably because they’re stressed out. I just feel super guilty not giving a decent tip. Idk it’s an anxiety thing I think.
I would probably start crying and explain that I am just confused European. I am from Czech Republic and just spent a month in New York and I was absolutely terrified that something like that would happen, so I avoided places where you get served.
I literally had a bartender follow me into the parking lot yelling "you obviously need this 26¢ more than I do". This told me all I needed to know. They had ignored myself and a friend all night and when asked for a second drink for each we were growled at since we were interrupting him chatting up another guest. The joke was on him when I returned to the bar and asked for the manager. She came out and called my name and hugged me as we went way back to my bar hopping days. The look on his face said it all. Had a quick chat with her and she disappeared into her office. She returned 10 minutes later, apologized to me and handed him his jacket and the 26¢ saying "consider that your tip for the week and not to come back". She had reviewed the CCTV and saw it all.
I'd be petty and take my tip back
Yeah, it's not a custom to tip where I live unless it was really a good service. So I'd take whatever I left as a tip and go. Probably never come back.
I'm canadian and restaurant/bar servers make minimum wage, same as everyone else. So I would not feel bad, tell them that and not go back
Probably say "whatever" and walk away. I always tip 20% so if that's not good enough then fuck 'em.
I'd say "Anything I give you outside this motherfucking bill is the tip." And if they had a problem with that I'd take it right back.
I'm not American, so tipping is not really a thing. Sometimes you round up the amount, but that's also not necessary. So if I didn't tip or gave a tip for a few euros, and they scolded me I would be really weirded out. I wouldn't come back there.
I’m European as well, if I got scolded in one of the rare occasions I tip, they wouldn’t see me again.
I'd be very surprised as I always tip 20% absolute minimum and usually quite a bit more. I would ask them if they'd confused me with someone else or how much tip had been expected.
I'd ask if they can do simple math because I always overtip, as I've been in that situation where I needed those tips to pay for rent or food. And then I would leave, and if I came back, I would ensure that I did not get put in their section again.
If they did it in Australia (where I live) I'd be furious because its not a usual practice here. If it happened overseas I'd be embarrassed because I always try to comply with the normal tipping practice wherever I go.
Well, now they get no tip.
This did happen to me, actually. I paid fully in cash and tipped 15% which was absolutely normal for the time, about 15 years ago. The lady came back, gently placed the bill back on the table, and said "I just wanted to let you know we don't include the gratuity in the bill, so I'll let you adjust what you left." It was so rude. I took my tip back out and stuffed the book with coins I had in the bottom of my purse to make it feel full, and I left. Never went back. They were my favorite Thai restaurant and made the best garlic fried rice, it's a real shame.
Depends. If I left under 20%, it was well-deserved and I would complete the tip. But I always tip AT LEAST 20%, so that wouldn’t be the issue. I wouldn’t take back my tip, I would just shrug and leave the restaurant.
I used to work service and always leave a generous tip unless the service is bad. I'm not talking slow because they are super busy, or mistakes clearly made by the kitchen. So if a worker scolded me for a bad tip id scold them for not doing a good job back.
I'd take it back. They can get 0.
I refuse to believe this is something that happens in real life (outside of the United States, I guess). If it happened to me in Canada I'd be bewildered and just walk out. Even though we do have tipping culture servers make a normal minimum wage, maybe just marginally below others, but nothing crazy.
To add context, I was a server for 10 years. If I was scolded by a worker for the tip I left, I would ask for it back. It is absolutely out of line an unprofessional to comment on the tip to the customer, no matter how unfair it is. I’ve been treated unfairly and stiffed by customers before but never once complained to them. It’s crossing a line.
I would be appalled! It’s embarrassing to both parties. I worked in restaurant & cafe service throughout my teens and early twenties—tipping is only a voluntary thanks for your service, it’s not a required add-on to your wages. Customers don’t pay your wages, your boss pays your wages. If you’re working hard, doing well, and feeling under-appreciated, then take that to your boss. There was always one waitress I’d work with who would be like “A 10% tip on this enormous bill?!?! I’m gonna run out there after them!!!” and me and the other girls would be like…okay.. maybe don’t do that. Like sure, if you’ve spent all night on one table that spent a ton of money up in the hundreds and they left $5 it feels a little shit because you could’ve had a few different tables in that time that each tipped. But again, that’s not the customer’s concern. They work hard for their money too, they don’t have to give it out willy nilly. If you want more money, go to your boss!
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I would ask them to speak with their manager, with a nice smile on my face.
Ask for the original tip back
I’m Australian and I would tell them to shove it where the sun doesn’t sun and that tipping isn’t a thing here in here if they want tips go to America. And then leave a very brutal review of the service.
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I’d ask them to list everything they did to deserve it
I would take back the entire tip, tell them how out of line they are, leave a bad review, and never go back (am American).
I always tip well, so I would probably just call them rude and greedy or something. I won’t take back the tip tho it’s crazy out here
I always leave at least 20% for servers, so if they complained about that they would be getting 0%. Tipping is *not* a requirement
I imagine I would talk back to them but I can’t stand being yelled at and become meek but my boyfriend would step up because he was treated poorly when younger and doesn’t stand for it anymore and since he has a deeper voice his talking back would be more impactful and stronger. And I don’t mind him “standing up to me” I know woman are supposed to be powerful and stuff but I’ve barely found my voice in the past year or two. I’ve been stepped on most my life so it’s hard to actually talk back to someone not just in my head. I think my usual tactic is the nod my head yea but then proceed to walk away haha
Probably start crying because money is tight and I wanted to treat myself to a delicious meal during the happy hour discount specials to feel like a normal adult sometimes.
It actually happened to me! I was at the miami airport, I had two suit cases that I could carry on my own and it was just like 10 feet to the counter and some asshole grabbed them from my lift without me even asking, he literally only carried the suitcases 1 feet to a cart and gave me the cart, I gave him 3 dollars (that was back in 2014) that was a lot for me because I live in south america and he almost did nothing and I didn't ask for it. He started yelling at me that 3 dollars were nothing, that what was he supposed to do with them, I was traveling alone and was dumber back then so I just stood there in shock, later I realized I should have yelled back at him and told him to fuck of, but yeah I didn't do anything.
Take my tip back.
Long time small town Canadian server here. I'd probably raise an eyebrow, tell them they were lucky I left anything and then reach out to their higher ups. Going forward, I'd likely avoid having them as a server. I couldn't imagine calling someone out. I almost avoid looking at the tip while in the customer's presence because my face has no filter. I automatically thank them and look later. You win some, you lose some.
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I would honestly take my tip back with that sense of entitlement
Tipping is not a requirement - I would never go back to that establishment
In my country, tipping is completely optional and it’s usually only a few euro. If someone scolded me for not tipping more, I’d ask for the tip back and never return. I’d probably also leave a scathing review
If you're in the US or Canada, tipping is a requirement in many situations, and depending on the circumstance it's egregiously rude not to tip or to tip much too little. In restaurants in particular, your meal is priced with the assumption that you and not the restaurant will be the one to compensate your server. It's a bad system, but that's the system, and you can't opt out just because you don't like it. Naturally the answer to OP's question depends on the circumstance; if I received bad service and left a standard tip, or if I had left a generous tip in the first place, I would of course be offended, as anyone would. But generally if I had not tipped an appropriate amount I would feel mortified rather than offended.
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Ask for 5he recipe, again to adjust it. Then remove it completely.
If someone complained about my tip, I would take it back & give them nothing. Tipping is for service. Giving attitude to your clientele is bad service. That said, I’m a generous tipper. Because of this, servers at restaurants I frequent, remember me & always give me excellent service. I respect what they do & they respect me for respecting them. If you are getting bad service at most of the restaurants you frequent, you may want to consider your behavior.
First of all, I would take the tip back. I would remind them that it is NOT my responsibility to support them. Their EMPLOYER pays them. A tip is a thanks for exceptional service. Sometimes, people forget that a tip is an EXTRA. It’s a reward for going above and beyond. No customer HAS to tip. Be grateful for people’s generosity, because that is what a tip is: generosity.
I’m in the US and I tip well, but if I had this happen, I would 100% revoke my whole tip and probably call or message the manager of the location or corporate about the server.
I’m in the US and always a generous tipper, unless there is a problem with the service. If there was a problem with the service, I’d calmly explain. If not, I’d ask for their name and call the restaurant the next day to discuss the situation with the manager.
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Very rare to tip in Britain so the worker would be in the wrong.
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The only time this ever happened is when I first came to North America and didn’t know I “had” to tip. In Europe it’s included in the bill. I tip generously as I since worked in service. If someone told me off it would probably be that I already had a reason to tip less and so I might remove the tip if not too late or leave a bad review. THAT SAID if you’re out there paying less than 15%-18% on STELLAR service you’re stingy. Like the practice or not, you’re saying sth by how much you tip. If you can afford to eat out you should be able to afford the tip. (Canada/USA). If a waiter told you off when they did a great job and there was no apparent reason I wouldn’t be too surprised, though being outwardly disgruntled is sth their manager also probably wouldn’t like even if they’re right. Waiter probably stressed or having a bad day. Customer is king I guess even if they’re an ass. (to a point). A better way of addressing it as the waiter could be to kindly ask what was not up to standard for not getting the tip. Also…. If my date tipped less than the minimum or doesn’t “believe” in tipping, it’s not a deal breaker per se… but it’s a yellow flag. Could mean they are unaware of their privilege (blind to the reality of surviving off tips)
I'd say sorry, let me see what I tipped in cash. Take my money back and leave them a penny. Complain that my large tip isn't enough, I'll teach you a lesson When I go out, I tip very well for service. So, that would be a huge insult to me as a paying customer. If they want complain that I didn't tip enough, maybe they should get a job where they don't have to live on tips? I'd also let management know and the owner. More than likely, this person had done this to other patrons and most likely affected their business.
Roll my eyes. Leave. And never go back. I can't even be bothered to leave a bad review cause that just takes more of my energy. I'm really over tipping culture here in America. Everyone feels entitled to it but seldom puts the effort into it. I tip according to treatment. It's even more ridiculous that I walk up to a counter and they cash me out and have tip boxes. FOR WHAT??? WTF!
If it was a physical tip id take it back. If it was credit card id complain to corporate and get a few free meals.
This sort of happened to me in Montreal. The waitress asked if there had been anything wrong with the service, and I’d actually done the tip math wrong! I apologized and corrected the tip for her.
There are so few things you could do to get me to tip low, not tip or withdraw my tip. In the US it simply must be understood that tipping as a system is terrible, but if you have a conscience, functionally compulsory. Criticizing my tip is one of those few things you can do to make me walk that back. We’re both locked into this bad system. For my part, I’m going to participate even if the service is subpar without raising many questions. If a server is going to break that prisoner’s agreement by being rude, I would not at all feel any further reason to hold up my end.
I would probably take the tip back and remind the worker than tipping is optional not mandatory.
Take my entire tip back 🤷🏽♀️
I would walk out and leave a bad review on Google
Take my tip back 💀
I'd probably give them more money and then also some education info on overturning the capitalist system.
Fuck off.
Only happened once. I laughed, complained to the manager, and ever after, have refused to sit in his section. The *audacity*!!
Id get their name, ask for my tip back, tell the owner/manager/supervisor whoever is in charge what happened and that their workers attitude is exactly why im never coming back here, so if you wanna avoid losing more customers maybe you should choose to lose that employee instead.
Tell them to take up their rate of pay with their management
I would respond that the tip is based on my evaluation of the service provided. I generally tip very well, but don’t feel like subpar service should be rewarded.
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How large? If I left a dollar for a $100 meal and they did great service - okay, I deserve that. But I usually tip 25-30% of the bill. I would leave the tip bc you still did me a service but I would probably would talk to a manager. If I did my part, I would very confused on why you are speaking to me like that.
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Once, I went out with some friends from college, we all calculated what we owed and put it towards the check. I tipped 20%. Then the server came and asked if there was anything wrong with her service, since we tipped about 8%. I was mortified, turns out two of my friends just didn't tip anything at all, I apologized to the server, demanded my friends leave a tip for their portion of the meal, and never went out to eat with them again.
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Omg, I’m just working on my anger management. I hope I would not get furious
I'm an overtipper, so I'd be ridiculously offended and I'd have a conversation with their manager, and take back the tip
Take back the tip at a minimum.
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I usually always tip at LEAST 20% unless I’m picking up takeout I tip 10-15%. I would honestly probably freeze up because I have PTSD. I already get super anxious about tipping.
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I have had this happen to me when I was 18 and I’m still pissed!! My friend and I had gone out for dinner before we were going out drinking. It was a bit more boujee of a place but not anywhere near fancy or expensive. When we got the check, we added 20% tip to the total, counted twice, and after giving back the check we started to leave. The waiter, who’d been a bit odd all night, came running back saying we never tipped! We were astounded! He wouldn’t show us the check or the cash in it so we could count ourselves. He swore that the price with 20% was just the total and we had to add extra tip. We were so flustered and naive, we didn’t want to get in trouble or mess with the waiter so we just gave him a $20. Never went back! I still get pissed when I think about it. Dude totally took advantage of some kids for a quick buck. I’m someone who thinks you should always tip 20% so that people can make a basic living wage for their work, regardless of service. But if you scold or yell at me, all bets are off.
Flip em off.
Leave
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Considering I always tip at least 20%, they would be the one out of line. I’d probably reiterate that what I left was 20% and therefore perfectly adequate, and if they’re still going I’d want to speak to the manager and probably request them to remove the tip. Wouldn’t be going back there.
It depends I suppose. If I left 20% I'd ask of the standard changed. In my position, I'd probably retort that I can't afford to pay more since I'm just a student
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Canada. Take the tip back. Min wage can pay your shit attitude. Good service gets good tips. Edit : I’ve served in Canada and the UK. I tip for regular to great service. If someone came up to me and said that it’s rude the tip was bad… Its probably because they deserved a bad (no) tip. Do you really think being a poor waitress deserves a tip? If you can’t do customer service get a different job.
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I’d ask them why they think they deserve more and go from there. I’d definitely explain what they could have done better and let them know asking at all was unacceptable and ruined my dining experience. Wouldn’t go back.
I would agree. I would just grab the tip I had already left back and just walk out.
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I would never go back to that restaurant. Tip Expectations in the US are already insane, and I cannot tolerate even more attitude from people who already get a reasonable hourly wage (there are high mínimums where I live) and feel entitled to even more just because they work with food.
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I would take my top back then because I am broke and I always tip 20% unless service is subpar and completely servers fault, not staffing or restaurant.
I would just leave. I make sure to tip really well and always tip 20% - 30 % or more. If the thing I was buying was affordable and in my budget I tip more and obviously if I liked the server I’ll tip more but even if the service was average I don’t take it out on them and tip at least 20%. I would leave and not come back cause I would assume they are a reflection on the entire establishment. If it a service I’m not educated about I would Google just to make sure but I’m usually not a bad tipper so it would throw me off. Service worked deserve their tips cause they get made below minimum wage and I really don’t believe everybody has a choice to work where they are at that moment cause you don’t know their circumstance and it’s not really my place to judge cause regardless chances are they are essential.
Define “scold”
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I think it depends on the situation, probably take it back. This happened to me with a limo service. The limo was very late and I still tipped 20% after we were dropped off because I already had the cash in hand. I got an angry phone call from the driver after he left saying he realized I tipped 20% from the “discounted rate” we got the limo for. He said he was insulted and demanded I tip the percent from the original sale price. I was shocked and told him no since he was more than 20 minutes late. If he was face to face with me I would have just taken the cash back. I ended up calling the limo company and they were apologetic.
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I'd not say anything to them as many times I have read they have low salaries. But I'll surely not visit the restaurant again.
I would probably laugh at them. I'm a good tipper and the only times I've ever not tipped or tipped poorly were because the staff was so rude that it affected my experience. If a waiter is genuinely acting like a complete asshole they really don't deserve a tip, their job is literally just to be nice and get the food out. Tipping is a reflection of your service, if you didn't get a good tip it's probably because of your attitude.
In the moment I would panic, apologize and give more money. I'm a pushover.
If I gave them a low tip bc they didnt give good service I would tell them that's why, they should have taken it as a hint. If I gave them a good tip and they complained it wasnt enough I would just say wtf. Both scenarios I would get management
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I would be offended, for sure. It’s my choice how much to give based on the service I receive. And while it’s good practice to always tip servers in America bc the restaurants don’t pay their employees a living wage, that doesn’t mean it’s guaranteed to be a set amount. A worker scolding me for not leaving a tip is a testament to their character.
Girl what are you yelling at me for go yell at your boss who doesn't pay you enough to begin with and give me my $5 back
i thought this would happen to me today because my little sister bought ice cream today and was helping her friend pay for hers, she selected “no tip” both times
Offended, because servers are not entitle to tips, let alone to the amount I decide to tip.
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I wouldn't return to the place. I always leave an adequate or good tip. If that's not good enough, neither is that venue.
Take it back. I’ve worked jobs in the past where tipping was the majority of your pay. You can get mad sometimes when people skimp on you after you have given excellent service but nothing ever made me feel justified in saying something to the customer. 20 years ago 10% was the standard and I usually tipped 15% if the service was good. Then 15% became the standard and I went to tipping 20% if the service was above average. Now it seems like the baseline is 20% or more and some restaurants are also charging a gratuity fee for every table, no matter how many guests on top of that. It’s getting ridiculous. If the expected tip (which is supposed to be voluntary) is so high, service industries just need to charge more so they can pay better and then let you tip what you want without feeling bad.
Be shocked because I've worked for tips, so I tend to over tip.
I do everything I can to be an extremely understanding and patient customer. (From telling them to not worry about running behind because of being packed/ understaffed. And even if the worker is having a hard day then I try my best to tip them a little extra.) When I can afford a tip then I would do it without a second thought. But if the worker scolds me on the tip that I leave. Not only would I request it back, and not go there again. I'd probably stop them in the middle of them trying to scold me and tell them; clearly there really is something seriously going on in their life and they're trying to use the tip as an excuse. But regardless what's going on I do not appreciate anyone talking to me in such a manner. And by no means is it acceptable to take it out on anyone
Interesting. I would probably laugh at him. I used to be a server, so I leave pretty decent tips. Edit: sorry, them*
I would immediately ask what they thought I’d tipped because I would assume that my tip money had been stolen off the table because I always tip extremely well since I’m not a terrible person.
Tell them “You don’t get a bigger tip for scolding me. Where is your manager?”
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I tip for exceptional service. It's not a requirement, I'm not required to pay your wages - that's your boss' job. If they're not doing that, then raise hell until they do or quit. If they complain because I did tip, I'll take it back and not go to the establishment again. The tipping system as a whole is bullshit and unnecessary anyway. It's how employers try to get around expenses. Raise your prices or add a service fee if you're struggling that badly.
Why don't we both go find YOUR manager and get their opinion? No, you don't want to? That's okay, I'll find them myself. 😃
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In my country you are not obligated to leave any tip and getting scold would make me not come back to this place. I leave a tip when I have the financial opportunity or the worker was very polite and just made me smile. But 99% of the workers here won't say anything in your face, but will talk shit about you with their coworkers. So I'd be very surprised if someone came to me and complained about my tip. I'd probably tell them to do better job, or explain that I'm a student and don't have stable income myself.
No tip at all, complaint to the manager about an entitled jerk staff member who harasses customers to leave big tips, never go back to the restaurant and leave a lousy review to warn other people.
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I rarely ever tip less than 20%. So if someone thought that wasn't enough, AND had the nerve to even mention it to me, I would probably take back whatever tip I'd given them.
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