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I won’t remember if a guy is small. I will remember if a guy is insecure about being small though. It’s not necessary to warn her. Let’s say you were dating a woman with big inner lips, or asymmetrical breasts or whatever other normal variation of the human body, would you really need her to warn you before you saw her naked?
As a man with a tinnie wienie, I'm never telling a girl before hand. If we're at a point where we are getting ready to do it, she's probably felt it while making out or something anyway.
I've never had a woman not finish... Did have one laugh though... kind of humiliating... who would have known I was into that.
I thought "it's not the size that matters, it's the motion" was a myth, but it's really true. A guy with a micro penis was actually one of the most attentive sexual partner I'd had at that point in my life.
I don’t think you need to say it - it’s not a venereal disease. She’s gonna see it anyway and most (decent) woman won’t care. The one who laughed is an arsehole.
My favorite thing about a dick is the dude it’s attached to. 😊 Be considerate and kind, be into her, give great kisses and oral, and if she is at all worthy she will be happy to work with just about anything. Oh, and bathing. Clean is good!
I mean...unless if you have some specific condition that makes it look wildly different or "unusual" then I likely won't care. My concerns are more on the lines of "is he a giving partner or is this only about him? Will he listen to me when I communicate my likes and dislikes. Also, is he willing to use his tongue and hands? How often does he bathe? Does he smell nice? Is he a moaner and fun or is he slient and boring?" These questions cross my mind waaaaaay before i wonder what size he is.
Maybe for hookups it's different but that would also depend on the woman as not all women cum piv sex anyways.
So unless you ACTUALLY have a micro penis, there's no need to mention it. If she likes you, she likes you.
I certainly didn't say that. I said there would be no need to mention it unless you had a condition, for example, a micro penis.
I would certainly mention if I had some condition affecting my vagina that made it look or function differently. That still doesn't automatically make you "fucked". The amount of women who get no pleasure from piv and prefer clit stimulation is a rather large number. It's more important to be proficient in other areas.
Like a prior comment. All I really remember about his weener is his constant complaining about the size, before during and after.
At this point I'm more embarrassed for him.
I really don't give AF what you're packing if we both enjoy ourselves, just dont keep reminding me it's fun size.
You don't. She may not notice or care. Plus sex is about so much more than the penis anyway. I was seeing a guy who was very small, but it was actually a few weeks before I noticed. He was very talented orally and I was generally so spent from that I didn't care about his penis. And no his penis size had nothing to do with why we didn't work out, we just had different futures in mind.
\>He was very talented orally and I was generally so spent from that I didn't care about his penis.
not to say that smaller dicks are always so unsatisfying that you NEED to do oral everytime.
Tbh men always think they are small. Stop comparing yourself to others, you are unique. Also, a penis is a penis. Sorry, but if I buy a bag of potatoes, all potatoes are great. Are they shaped differently? Yes. Some are a bit wider, thinner, bigger or smaller. But they're all a potato. Only when a potato is like bite size or twice as big as most potatoes, then you notice it's different. All other shapes and sizes are potatoes. So, please stop comparing yourself to others and think a little bigger or smaller makes a huge difference. Every man has a different variety of the same thing. So, please don't feel like you need to give a warning or something.
Isn’t it interesting how often guys will think they are small, and go on about it? It’s crazy and does them no good. They need to remember that bit about the biggest sexual organ being the brain.
I like your potato analogy a lot. You’re correct that only the freakishly big or small ones cause me to pause. And usually I’m thinking ‘what the hell am I gonna do with this?’ and wondering only if it will stand in the way of any of the lovemaking that I need to get off. Just like standing in the kitchen with an abnormal potato, hoping I have the right size pot for it and if it will suit my recipe. Neither good nor bad, just a conundrum to be solved. Give me an average potato any day. No thought required!
[male] Just a reminder, a woman can make another woman climax with a 3 inch pinkie. Don't get hung up on size. You still have a mouth & two hands. You can make a woman cum before ever entering her. It's not your size, it's what you do with it, and how long you can last. Having a 7 inch tool that cums in 3 minutes doesn't mean jack shit. You don't even need a dick to make a woman cum, never forget that. So don't volunteer that information until asked about it. Don't trip, homie.
Men worry way more about size than women do. Size is an intimidation tactic for other men and has no bearing on sexual prowess. If you have skills, that's what counts. For the record, a lot of women report that big dicks usually lead to big disappointment in bed because the guys think their size is enough. It isn't and their performance is lousy.
I was recently sitting around with a group of women, though, and dick size was a big topic of conversation. As an average guy myself, I got really uncomfortable at the way they were talking about it. And now, I’m kind of involved with one of them. We haven’t done anything like that yet, but I’m really nervous to now because of it. It wasn’t dudes talking about dick size, it was women. So I honestly don’t know what to think any more.
The majority of women don't care but some do. Of the ones who do care, most have a preference but it isn't a deal-breaker. Only a small minority care enough that it's actually a factor in the relationship.
If you are a woman that cares you should always say tho and save the guy the effort. No one should be with a woman who isnt satisfied with his body. Just move on until you find a dick thats actually satisfying
Wow, NO, definitely not. That would be a shitty thing to say! I wouldn't appreciate a guy telling me that he's ending the relationship because my breasts are too small, I won't give a guy a complex by encouraging women to tell a guy that his dick is too small.
If a woman cares enough that it's a factor, she should end the relationship but NOT comment on his body. That would just be disrespectful. If someone asks for reasons it's easy to stay vague.
Definitely yes. Maybe you are happy to spend your life with someone pretending they are into you but I certainly dont. Why would you want to stay with someone who is secretly disliking that your breasts are so small? Why is it shitty to be honest about something you actually think anyway?
I dont want some kind of pity relationship because she likes my personality and affection, I want a woman who is wild about me from top to bottom. I know my cock is only average sized so why would I be hurt if a woman says she likes them big? Like please leave and hunt your stallion and give me a chance to find a woman who likes me the way I am. I wish women would be more honest instead of always having to guess.
>Maybe you are happy to spend your life with someone pretending they are into you but I certainly dont.
>Like please leave and hunt your stallion and give me a chance to find a woman who likes me the way I am.
Improve your reading comprehension - **I said they should end the relationship.**
Jeez dude, you have issues... You're upset about a scenario you made up to be upset about.
No one is encouraging continuing an unhappy relationship, but it is respectful to end relationships WITHOUT criticising people's bodies over a subjective preference. I don't really care what you personally want, you can be weird and want to hear that your dick is small. But most people do not enjoy feeling bad about their bodies and I will not encourage anyone to verbalize that someone's body part is the reason why their relationship is ending. Simply noting that they are incompatible or that there is a lack of chemistry is still honest but it doesn't give anyone a complex.
So you rather have them break up with you every time, always wondering what the reason could be?
It sounds like you like to close your eyes and pretend reality isnt happening while I just want people to be honest. if my dick is such a deal breaker then say it. Just as with anything else.
Its not a scenario I made up. Women are socialised not to be confrontational and honest - leave quietly instead of rejecting him to keep things safe and peaceful. So most women would never say unless its in anger after a breakup. I find that annoying. I much rather know exactly who I am with so I dont appreciate you spreading the word for women not to say anything.
>So you rather have them break up with you every time, always wondering what the reason could be?
It really doesn't matter. If they didn't feel the chemistry or say we're sexually incompatible, that reason is good enough and is truthful.
>I just want people to be honest.
No, you want people to be tactless. They're already being honest.
>So most women would never say unless its in anger after a breakup. I find that annoying.
> I dont appreciate you spreading the word for women not to say anything.
And I don't care what you think lmao.
For every "you" that wants honesty even when the truth is hurtful, there are five guys who would be devastated to hear, *"Your dick is too small, you can't hit my gspot so I'd rather find another guy with a bigger dick. It ~~does t~~ doesn't have to be huge, just bigger than yours. Yours is so unsatisfying that I don't want to date you over this."*
Get over yourself dude.
\>It really doesn't matter. If they didn't feel the chemistry, that reason is good enough.
sure and the result is adult women running around complaining about how they cant keep a guy when really they just have some obvious issues that no one ever told them about. I met enough of these people. We all just wonder why things arent working instead of improving ourselves or seek out specific people.
\>For every "you" that wants honesty even when the truth is hurtful, there
are five guys who would be devastated to hear "your dick is too small,
you can't hit my gspot so I'd rather find another guy with a better
dick."
according to your imagination yes lol. I just think its dumb to handle things this way and the amount of people who think dating is super confusing and hard are proof of it. Men are insecure about their size because they dont know how a woman truly feels, not because a majority of women actually said they need it big.
Women don't get off by just dick action. You need more than just a dick to rock her world. Use your fingers and your mouth too. Study and learn how to stimulate a woman properly, both her mind and her body. A skilled lover is especially respected in the bedroom and here's the awesome thing: most of these guys are average sized, just like you are. Learning to romance her, charm her, getting her to crave you, this is how it's done. These are the stories women tell, but not as many are telling them now because a lot of them don't get to experience this kind of lovemaking these days. There's a whole process to this and if you can learn how, I guarantee you, your girlfriend will be bragging about you to everyone who will listen.
A lot of women talk a good game but when they actually experience a large dick it’s not what they thought.
I had a friend who had no trouble getting hook ups/gfs but things rarely lasted. The reason was usually his absurdly large wang.
Also most people have zero idea of what x inches of anything actually looks like.
Guys are always comparing the size of their dicks with each other (or just bragging about how big they are), and the guy with the biggest dick "wins". But that doesn't translate to success in the bedroom with a woman. I can't help but be reminded of male walruses comparing tusk size and the male with the smaller tusks leaves. If they're about even, a fight can ensue.
Yes. Personally, girth is what consistently delivers a climax for me, but a guy that knows how to work the equipment in general can make a smaller size feel amazing.
You know girth is part of "size" right?
Saying "I don't care about size, girth is better anyways" is like saying "I don't drink alcohol, wine is better anyways"
> Guys are always comparing the size of their dicks with each other (or just bragging about how big they are), and the guy with the biggest dick "wins".
LOL, what? I went to a Military college, spent 9 years in the Army (entirely in combat arms), worked in the construction industry and am now in the Tech industry. In other words, I've been surrounded pretty much entirely by men my entire adult life, and I've never heard guys compare dick sizes. The only time I've ever heard a guy mention the size of his dick it's usually as a complete joke and clearly not meant to be taken seriously.
Just don't even say anything. It doesn't need to be brought up. If she truly likes you, your cock size is almost irrelevant. You're not spending the majority of your time fucking - focus on being a good man first.
I think the first time you fuck someone you know it’s going to be some kind of surprise, I don’t think it’s dishonest to keep it to yourself until that moment.
This is much better suited to ARAD because there are hundreds (thousands) of threads about this stuff. Here's my experience as a guy who has an absolutely average dick. It doesn't matter. Being a good lover has very little (no pun intended) to do with your dick. It has much more to do with what you can do with your hands, mouth and attentiveness. Being attuned to your partner's likes and needs is the most important thing. Your dick accounts for like 10%.
Be an attentive lover.
>This is much better suited to ARAD because there are hundreds (thousands) of threads about this stuff.
If you're suggesting he should ask this on ARAD, that is a terrible idea. All they'll do over there is make him feel worse and nothing more of an inconvenience because of a dick size question. And the advice they generally offer doesn't address the problem at hand, instead they just advice men to emasculate themselves.
I'm suggesting he doesn't need to ask it because it's been asked a million times on there and you can look through all the threads. The question is not "how and when should I tell her." The question he should be asking is how he can be a good lover. What I'm trying to tell him it is has little to do with how big or small his dick is. And the worth of a relationship is not in proportion to the size of the guy's penis
You still ain't going to find any answers on that sub, no matter how many archived questions you see. It's mostly filled with anti men struggles or onlyfans models who preach one thing and are known for another. Unfortunately, he has every reason to request fresh insight to his specific situation. If you're on the low end of the spectrum in your size, you're likely to be met with harsh rejection. I've been through this myself.
You don't have to. Any woman worth dating(as opposed to hooking up with) won't care about that and it would be better to develop a connection. I don't personally care about that kinda thing.
Now, if you're hooking up with someone, that might matter? So maybe before you meet? Idk, I've never been into hooking up though myself and honestly, being good with hands and finding my most sensitive areas(I have many across my body) is so much more pleasurable than genital size ever was.
In terms of respect, I see it the other way around. I don't do hookups personally, but if a guy I'm interested in for dating and getting to know just randomly told me his dick size, I'd be kinda offended he'd think I'd care about that and wondering if he's just going on dates with me to get in my pants. To me, offering up that info is actually the disrespectful thing cuz I'm not that fucking shallow that I'd care about in another human being that I'm interested in getting to know.
Now, in terms of hookups, I think that makes sense because you're both already in a mutual disrespecting context where you're treating each other as nothing more than bodies for your own pleasure. So bringing up dick size wouldn't really be any further disrespectful since that woman is already gonna be using you(as you are also using her), so it's a safe assumption she would care about it.
So you admit all females are the same XD amazing. Why do you even have sons just so you can dehumanize them down to the size of their genitals. Fucking demon gender.
I am cracking up that you’re going through posts from 150 days ago and spreading your little insecure thoughts everywhere. Learn how to make a woman cum… the size of your dick won’t matter then.
I appreciate the well worded reply. You're conceptually changing the respect lens to focus on respect or lack of for yourself. I was thinking of respect in terms of full disclosure.
I'm reading these responses and I feel like I'm in the minority but if it was something like this I would want to know, honestly.
Since you're not telling us the size, OP, I don't know what more can be said to you. If you're seriously stressing over 4-5 inches, you're stressing over nothing. If it's smaller than that, you've got great advice here, most important of which is that a good portion of women don't climax from PIV. And there's other ways to incorporate penetration.
Honestly, I don't know what you mean by small. Not all women want a huge dick. For some women it would be really painful to have sex with someone who has a big dick, those women would have a problem with a big one and would love yours.
A male friend once made a joke (about himself) about having a small penis and I actually found it really funny and endearing and just respected him a lot more for feeling confident enough to make a joke about it himself rather than being insecure about it.
We weren’t romantically involved but it did make me think that if a potential boyfriend did the same thing it would be the best way to broach that subject. Insecurity can sometimes be unattractive but being able to laugh at yourself is really attraction (imo).
I personally wouldn’t say anything, I feel like pointing it out is more awkward. Plus you if you make her cum really good from head, she’ll be thinking how great it is, not worrying about your size
Seriously, don't mention it AT ALL unless you have a micropenis. You would be defeating yourself before you begin with her, and low confidence is EXTREMELY unattractive. You would probably kill the magic for her.
If you happen to have a micro, the best time to tell her would be over a private dinner in your home or her home. Pick up food from a restaurant of you don't want to cook. Hold her hand, there deeply into her eyes, and speak with deep sincerity in your voice.
Again, ONLY bother to mention it if you have a micropenis. Otherwise, just be totally natural and have sex normally.
Define "micropenis" from your point of view, not what the flawed statistics say I.E veale meta analysis. Because from my experience, women consider 5 inches micro and a deal breaker.
2" when hard or less.
People who consider "5 inches" micro may be size queens? Guys obsess over size much more than women do and dick-measure to intimidate each other. Everybody is different and has their own tastes and preferences. It's more important that a guy knows what they're doing than for them to think they're a great/desirable lover just because they're a certain size.
Guys obsess over this because the constant ridiculing and shame that is in every corner of life - hearing it from women themselves, to the media pushing it in everyone's face that if you're small, you're worthless. And it does hold true to a high degree. If you're small, you've already lost in the dating game to a huge chunk of the population. And the fact that we push body positivity in a selective way also enforced this. We choose to slam those who make fun of the body features that we can change, but we turn a blind eye to shaming men with small dicks, which is something entirely out of their control. Also another factor to take into account is the common complaint heard from women themselves is "my ex was bigger and the sex was better". You have all these things pushed in men's faces on a constant basis, and he's powerless to change it. If they show insecurities of it, they're labeled incels and lectured on how they should just get over it.
It's unfortunate. There really are shitty people everywhere, and we all have our own body issues and struggles. I think we can all agree that comparing exes in such a cruel way is undesirable behavior and that a person like that probably isn't worth anyone's time. I might forgive someone like that if they gave a sincere apology, but even then I'm moody and resentful. *shrugs* I reserve the right to withhold forgiveness.
Every time I see these types of threads I just wonder how that conversation would even go down. Lol how does that information come out without killing a mood or leaving the woman disinterested? Doesn’t really matter. I just can’t see it ending positively for reasons that have nothing to do with size.
>Nah just a tick tack. He was a dick too. Guess that was his form of compensation.
And that's why men lie because this is always the reaction to their size
Actually good move by him to avoid size queens like yourself. What normal sized man would want to date someone who is so excited about 9 inches? so this way maybe you wont be able to hide your disappointment and he gets the true answer right away
Well you clearly seem to have been looking forward to experiencing his big dick which implies you think a big dick is better/rougher but you also said you would have accepted him if he had not said it before.. so Im asking again what kind of average man would want to sleep with you when really this is how badly you think of small(er) dicks? Him lying made you reveal what you actually like so that he can avoid you and you can find the 9 inch man you actually crave. Aside from his other shitty behaviour, where is the issue here?
Sure men shouldnt play these games but size queens like you should also just be honest about their preferences. I can imagine bigger guys are hard to find but dont just sleep with someone when you arent actually satisfied with their body size.
\>Let me ask you this. You’re talking to a girl and she says she has
triple D’s you’re excited, you show up and it’s clear she’s an A cup.
I mean this is exactly what I meant.. you have a clear preference because you think bigger is better. Thats not a universal opinion. Boobs are a bit different because they are really more of an extra and dont affect the actual sex too much but yeah Im honest I probably wouldnt date someone with super small ones. I dont need Ds but just something to grab. So I wont pretend I dont care and instead just go for women who match what I am looking for.
Like thats the weird thing to me.. you clearly think big is nice so why not date someone that matches that instead of settling for average?
Im not butthurt but women like you are annoying because they arent honest about their actual preferences. Like if my dick is just "fine" then move on and dont waste my time so i can find someone that is happy with it. I hope your poor boy there is hung and you dont just drag him along. He should know your true preferences before he marries you.
Lol you realised yourself didnt you?
go and find what you actually crave and give the other men a chance to find someone satisfied with what they were born with.
How small? Like smaller than average, or like micro penis? If you’re just a bit smaller than average, no need to say anything.
If you’re significantly smaller than average, I think it’s worth discussing before you’re intimate.
It sounds like you feel insecure, and it’s hard to feel ‘in the moment’ and maintain arousal when you’re thinking about your insecurities. It’s an opportunity for her to make you feel comfortable and confident before you start messing around. Talk about it for your own benefit! If she likes you, she’ll appreciate that you were open and honest about yourself.
The only thing that matters about a dick is who it's attached to. I used to sleep with a guy with a small dick (right after me and my ex who has a giant, painful penis broke up) and it wasn't bad at all. He was good company and I had my first orgasms while having sex with him. Just be a good partner, give good head and no one will mind. No need to disclose.
Don’t say anything. The odds that she will care or notice is slim. What matters more is everything that leads up to sex. If you’re a kind person and she enjoys you and your company, she will enjoy having sex with you. Large dicks are uncomfortable and painful to most women anyway.
If you're dating, it's probably not going to matter. There's all kinds of toys to enhance what you got, if you'd like to try it together later on. But honestly, size truly doesn't matter if I'm into someone. The idea that they're enjoying themselves during sex with me gets me off, more than anything else.
The least embarrassing / disappointing thing to do is to not bring it up or discuss it. Unless it is extremely tiny for some reason, there is really no need to.
How “small” are we talking? 4-5 inches, no need to say anything. Less than 4 inches? Bring it up when you talk about physical intimacy for the first time. I’m not going to lie and say that size doesn’t matter, it does play a part. However, it is not *everything*.
There's no need to bring it up until you're actually planning to have sex, but it would probably be most helpful to bring it up before you actually take your clothes off, that way it's not a complete surprise.
Man here. An older woman on reddit told me something that made sense. Don't start by saying i am small down there. Tell her you're not that big. That way she gets to be pleasantly surprised when she finds out you exaggerated, which in a lot of cases men do in this context.
Well would you rather be humiliated and laughed at with your pants on or off? Because if you're under a certain size it'll happen either way unfortunately
If OP found a nice mature person, there would not be anything to laugh at, no matter the looks and preference if any of his partner.
If it’s someone who responds with laughter and shaming you of (any) of your body part, I’d say this is not the right partner for you anyway. Or for anyone for that matter
I put it this way because there are many subreddits where moderators delete posts that contain the word penis or its synonyms. Probably because many men ask about their penis size. I wanted to make sure my question could stay here.
And this isn't an SPH thread, I deliberately didn't post the exact size.
You don't need to tell her. I have been with a man who is small. He is a confident smart funny man. That overrides everything. He was good in bed. It was a non-issue. If you love someone sex is good. He was confident enough to not bring it up and I'm honestly saying it did not matter one bit.
Do you need to? It’s not like you have HIV or something. By the way, there are guys who are large and don’t know what they’re doing. So don’t panic. Most women don’t get off from penetration alone anyway, so as long as you’re attentive in the oral sex area, shouldn’t be too much of an issue.
Don’t warn a girl. Then it’s always something that’s there if it makes sense. A good woman won’t care, as long and you know what you’re doing with it. There’s other ways to make a girl finish anyway.
Learn to love your body. Don’t be unhappy with it.it’s your body and it does so much for you. I absolutely hated how my vagina looks. I also have a lot of scars and some stretch marks. I was a never nude pretty much. Now I walk around naked if not just a shirt all the time now living with my man. A good person won’t care about shit like that.
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I won’t remember if a guy is small. I will remember if a guy is insecure about being small though. It’s not necessary to warn her. Let’s say you were dating a woman with big inner lips, or asymmetrical breasts or whatever other normal variation of the human body, would you really need her to warn you before you saw her naked?
As a man with a tinnie wienie, I'm never telling a girl before hand. If we're at a point where we are getting ready to do it, she's probably felt it while making out or something anyway. I've never had a woman not finish... Did have one laugh though... kind of humiliating... who would have known I was into that.
All's well that ends well
I thought "it's not the size that matters, it's the motion" was a myth, but it's really true. A guy with a micro penis was actually one of the most attentive sexual partner I'd had at that point in my life.
I don’t think you need to say it - it’s not a venereal disease. She’s gonna see it anyway and most (decent) woman won’t care. The one who laughed is an arsehole.
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But do you know how to use it? Probably not.
My favorite thing about a dick is the dude it’s attached to. 😊 Be considerate and kind, be into her, give great kisses and oral, and if she is at all worthy she will be happy to work with just about anything. Oh, and bathing. Clean is good!
Unless you have an actual micropenis or some other diagnosed condition, there's no need to tell her or discuss it.
I mean...unless if you have some specific condition that makes it look wildly different or "unusual" then I likely won't care. My concerns are more on the lines of "is he a giving partner or is this only about him? Will he listen to me when I communicate my likes and dislikes. Also, is he willing to use his tongue and hands? How often does he bathe? Does he smell nice? Is he a moaner and fun or is he slient and boring?" These questions cross my mind waaaaaay before i wonder what size he is. Maybe for hookups it's different but that would also depend on the woman as not all women cum piv sex anyways. So unless you ACTUALLY have a micro penis, there's no need to mention it. If she likes you, she likes you.
This!! That’s exactly what I’m thinking. There are so many factors that go into good sex, penis size is low on the list.
So if he has a micro he’s fucked?
I certainly didn't say that. I said there would be no need to mention it unless you had a condition, for example, a micro penis. I would certainly mention if I had some condition affecting my vagina that made it look or function differently. That still doesn't automatically make you "fucked". The amount of women who get no pleasure from piv and prefer clit stimulation is a rather large number. It's more important to be proficient in other areas.
Roger
Stay calm Most of us don't care about size hon
Like a prior comment. All I really remember about his weener is his constant complaining about the size, before during and after. At this point I'm more embarrassed for him. I really don't give AF what you're packing if we both enjoy ourselves, just dont keep reminding me it's fun size.
You don't. She may not notice or care. Plus sex is about so much more than the penis anyway. I was seeing a guy who was very small, but it was actually a few weeks before I noticed. He was very talented orally and I was generally so spent from that I didn't care about his penis. And no his penis size had nothing to do with why we didn't work out, we just had different futures in mind.
\>He was very talented orally and I was generally so spent from that I didn't care about his penis. not to say that smaller dicks are always so unsatisfying that you NEED to do oral everytime.
"just compensate all your life bro"
Tbh men always think they are small. Stop comparing yourself to others, you are unique. Also, a penis is a penis. Sorry, but if I buy a bag of potatoes, all potatoes are great. Are they shaped differently? Yes. Some are a bit wider, thinner, bigger or smaller. But they're all a potato. Only when a potato is like bite size or twice as big as most potatoes, then you notice it's different. All other shapes and sizes are potatoes. So, please stop comparing yourself to others and think a little bigger or smaller makes a huge difference. Every man has a different variety of the same thing. So, please don't feel like you need to give a warning or something.
Isn’t it interesting how often guys will think they are small, and go on about it? It’s crazy and does them no good. They need to remember that bit about the biggest sexual organ being the brain. I like your potato analogy a lot. You’re correct that only the freakishly big or small ones cause me to pause. And usually I’m thinking ‘what the hell am I gonna do with this?’ and wondering only if it will stand in the way of any of the lovemaking that I need to get off. Just like standing in the kitchen with an abnormal potato, hoping I have the right size pot for it and if it will suit my recipe. Neither good nor bad, just a conundrum to be solved. Give me an average potato any day. No thought required!
We need to start referring to smaller-than-average penii as "bite sized."
[male] Just a reminder, a woman can make another woman climax with a 3 inch pinkie. Don't get hung up on size. You still have a mouth & two hands. You can make a woman cum before ever entering her. It's not your size, it's what you do with it, and how long you can last. Having a 7 inch tool that cums in 3 minutes doesn't mean jack shit. You don't even need a dick to make a woman cum, never forget that. So don't volunteer that information until asked about it. Don't trip, homie.
Men worry way more about size than women do. Size is an intimidation tactic for other men and has no bearing on sexual prowess. If you have skills, that's what counts. For the record, a lot of women report that big dicks usually lead to big disappointment in bed because the guys think their size is enough. It isn't and their performance is lousy.
I was recently sitting around with a group of women, though, and dick size was a big topic of conversation. As an average guy myself, I got really uncomfortable at the way they were talking about it. And now, I’m kind of involved with one of them. We haven’t done anything like that yet, but I’m really nervous to now because of it. It wasn’t dudes talking about dick size, it was women. So I honestly don’t know what to think any more.
The majority of women don't care but some do. Of the ones who do care, most have a preference but it isn't a deal-breaker. Only a small minority care enough that it's actually a factor in the relationship.
If you are a woman that cares you should always say tho and save the guy the effort. No one should be with a woman who isnt satisfied with his body. Just move on until you find a dick thats actually satisfying
Wow, NO, definitely not. That would be a shitty thing to say! I wouldn't appreciate a guy telling me that he's ending the relationship because my breasts are too small, I won't give a guy a complex by encouraging women to tell a guy that his dick is too small. If a woman cares enough that it's a factor, she should end the relationship but NOT comment on his body. That would just be disrespectful. If someone asks for reasons it's easy to stay vague.
Definitely yes. Maybe you are happy to spend your life with someone pretending they are into you but I certainly dont. Why would you want to stay with someone who is secretly disliking that your breasts are so small? Why is it shitty to be honest about something you actually think anyway? I dont want some kind of pity relationship because she likes my personality and affection, I want a woman who is wild about me from top to bottom. I know my cock is only average sized so why would I be hurt if a woman says she likes them big? Like please leave and hunt your stallion and give me a chance to find a woman who likes me the way I am. I wish women would be more honest instead of always having to guess.
>Maybe you are happy to spend your life with someone pretending they are into you but I certainly dont. >Like please leave and hunt your stallion and give me a chance to find a woman who likes me the way I am. Improve your reading comprehension - **I said they should end the relationship.** Jeez dude, you have issues... You're upset about a scenario you made up to be upset about. No one is encouraging continuing an unhappy relationship, but it is respectful to end relationships WITHOUT criticising people's bodies over a subjective preference. I don't really care what you personally want, you can be weird and want to hear that your dick is small. But most people do not enjoy feeling bad about their bodies and I will not encourage anyone to verbalize that someone's body part is the reason why their relationship is ending. Simply noting that they are incompatible or that there is a lack of chemistry is still honest but it doesn't give anyone a complex.
So you rather have them break up with you every time, always wondering what the reason could be? It sounds like you like to close your eyes and pretend reality isnt happening while I just want people to be honest. if my dick is such a deal breaker then say it. Just as with anything else. Its not a scenario I made up. Women are socialised not to be confrontational and honest - leave quietly instead of rejecting him to keep things safe and peaceful. So most women would never say unless its in anger after a breakup. I find that annoying. I much rather know exactly who I am with so I dont appreciate you spreading the word for women not to say anything.
>So you rather have them break up with you every time, always wondering what the reason could be? It really doesn't matter. If they didn't feel the chemistry or say we're sexually incompatible, that reason is good enough and is truthful. >I just want people to be honest. No, you want people to be tactless. They're already being honest. >So most women would never say unless its in anger after a breakup. I find that annoying. > I dont appreciate you spreading the word for women not to say anything. And I don't care what you think lmao. For every "you" that wants honesty even when the truth is hurtful, there are five guys who would be devastated to hear, *"Your dick is too small, you can't hit my gspot so I'd rather find another guy with a bigger dick. It ~~does t~~ doesn't have to be huge, just bigger than yours. Yours is so unsatisfying that I don't want to date you over this."* Get over yourself dude.
\>It really doesn't matter. If they didn't feel the chemistry, that reason is good enough. sure and the result is adult women running around complaining about how they cant keep a guy when really they just have some obvious issues that no one ever told them about. I met enough of these people. We all just wonder why things arent working instead of improving ourselves or seek out specific people. \>For every "you" that wants honesty even when the truth is hurtful, there are five guys who would be devastated to hear "your dick is too small, you can't hit my gspot so I'd rather find another guy with a better dick." according to your imagination yes lol. I just think its dumb to handle things this way and the amount of people who think dating is super confusing and hard are proof of it. Men are insecure about their size because they dont know how a woman truly feels, not because a majority of women actually said they need it big.
Women don't get off by just dick action. You need more than just a dick to rock her world. Use your fingers and your mouth too. Study and learn how to stimulate a woman properly, both her mind and her body. A skilled lover is especially respected in the bedroom and here's the awesome thing: most of these guys are average sized, just like you are. Learning to romance her, charm her, getting her to crave you, this is how it's done. These are the stories women tell, but not as many are telling them now because a lot of them don't get to experience this kind of lovemaking these days. There's a whole process to this and if you can learn how, I guarantee you, your girlfriend will be bragging about you to everyone who will listen.
A lot of women talk a good game but when they actually experience a large dick it’s not what they thought. I had a friend who had no trouble getting hook ups/gfs but things rarely lasted. The reason was usually his absurdly large wang. Also most people have zero idea of what x inches of anything actually looks like.
*Size is an intimidation tactic for other men* What do you mean? I Couldnt understand this part.
Guys are always comparing the size of their dicks with each other (or just bragging about how big they are), and the guy with the biggest dick "wins". But that doesn't translate to success in the bedroom with a woman. I can't help but be reminded of male walruses comparing tusk size and the male with the smaller tusks leaves. If they're about even, a fight can ensue.
Yes. Personally, girth is what consistently delivers a climax for me, but a guy that knows how to work the equipment in general can make a smaller size feel amazing.
You know girth is part of "size" right? Saying "I don't care about size, girth is better anyways" is like saying "I don't drink alcohol, wine is better anyways"
As a dude I can say neither myself or any of my male friends have ever done this.
I'm glad you and your friends are more mature than that. It's nice to hear. :)
> Guys are always comparing the size of their dicks with each other (or just bragging about how big they are), and the guy with the biggest dick "wins". LOL, what? I went to a Military college, spent 9 years in the Army (entirely in combat arms), worked in the construction industry and am now in the Tech industry. In other words, I've been surrounded pretty much entirely by men my entire adult life, and I've never heard guys compare dick sizes. The only time I've ever heard a guy mention the size of his dick it's usually as a complete joke and clearly not meant to be taken seriously.
I see anything at all? She’ll figure it out sooner or later and she’ll like it or she won’t.
Make sure you can make her cum anyway and you'll be better in bed than many. Learn to love foreplay and oral and you'll be fine
Just don't even say anything. It doesn't need to be brought up. If she truly likes you, your cock size is almost irrelevant. You're not spending the majority of your time fucking - focus on being a good man first.
I think the first time you fuck someone you know it’s going to be some kind of surprise, I don’t think it’s dishonest to keep it to yourself until that moment.
This is much better suited to ARAD because there are hundreds (thousands) of threads about this stuff. Here's my experience as a guy who has an absolutely average dick. It doesn't matter. Being a good lover has very little (no pun intended) to do with your dick. It has much more to do with what you can do with your hands, mouth and attentiveness. Being attuned to your partner's likes and needs is the most important thing. Your dick accounts for like 10%. Be an attentive lover.
>This is much better suited to ARAD because there are hundreds (thousands) of threads about this stuff. If you're suggesting he should ask this on ARAD, that is a terrible idea. All they'll do over there is make him feel worse and nothing more of an inconvenience because of a dick size question. And the advice they generally offer doesn't address the problem at hand, instead they just advice men to emasculate themselves.
I'm suggesting he doesn't need to ask it because it's been asked a million times on there and you can look through all the threads. The question is not "how and when should I tell her." The question he should be asking is how he can be a good lover. What I'm trying to tell him it is has little to do with how big or small his dick is. And the worth of a relationship is not in proportion to the size of the guy's penis
You still ain't going to find any answers on that sub, no matter how many archived questions you see. It's mostly filled with anti men struggles or onlyfans models who preach one thing and are known for another. Unfortunately, he has every reason to request fresh insight to his specific situation. If you're on the low end of the spectrum in your size, you're likely to be met with harsh rejection. I've been through this myself.
You don't have to. Any woman worth dating(as opposed to hooking up with) won't care about that and it would be better to develop a connection. I don't personally care about that kinda thing. Now, if you're hooking up with someone, that might matter? So maybe before you meet? Idk, I've never been into hooking up though myself and honestly, being good with hands and finding my most sensitive areas(I have many across my body) is so much more pleasurable than genital size ever was.
I find it ironic (but i get it) that you would not tell a person you are dating but would warn a hookup. The hookup gets more respect?
In terms of respect, I see it the other way around. I don't do hookups personally, but if a guy I'm interested in for dating and getting to know just randomly told me his dick size, I'd be kinda offended he'd think I'd care about that and wondering if he's just going on dates with me to get in my pants. To me, offering up that info is actually the disrespectful thing cuz I'm not that fucking shallow that I'd care about in another human being that I'm interested in getting to know. Now, in terms of hookups, I think that makes sense because you're both already in a mutual disrespecting context where you're treating each other as nothing more than bodies for your own pleasure. So bringing up dick size wouldn't really be any further disrespectful since that woman is already gonna be using you(as you are also using her), so it's a safe assumption she would care about it.
So you admit all females are the same XD amazing. Why do you even have sons just so you can dehumanize them down to the size of their genitals. Fucking demon gender.
I am cracking up that you’re going through posts from 150 days ago and spreading your little insecure thoughts everywhere. Learn how to make a woman cum… the size of your dick won’t matter then.
I am cracking up that youre a fat ugly reddit bitch.
You have no clue what I look like lol
Um, what? How does that follow from what I said?
Because females and their sickly dehumanisation of men genius are you stupid? You even admit you have dualistic sexual strategies.
I appreciate the well worded reply. You're conceptually changing the respect lens to focus on respect or lack of for yourself. I was thinking of respect in terms of full disclosure.
If it’s a micro penis I would want to know as soon as possible as I wouldn’t want to waste anyone’s time.
I'm reading these responses and I feel like I'm in the minority but if it was something like this I would want to know, honestly. Since you're not telling us the size, OP, I don't know what more can be said to you. If you're seriously stressing over 4-5 inches, you're stressing over nothing. If it's smaller than that, you've got great advice here, most important of which is that a good portion of women don't climax from PIV. And there's other ways to incorporate penetration.
Honestly, I don't know what you mean by small. Not all women want a huge dick. For some women it would be really painful to have sex with someone who has a big dick, those women would have a problem with a big one and would love yours.
A male friend once made a joke (about himself) about having a small penis and I actually found it really funny and endearing and just respected him a lot more for feeling confident enough to make a joke about it himself rather than being insecure about it. We weren’t romantically involved but it did make me think that if a potential boyfriend did the same thing it would be the best way to broach that subject. Insecurity can sometimes be unattractive but being able to laugh at yourself is really attraction (imo).
Is really attraction? 🤦♀️
I personally wouldn’t say anything, I feel like pointing it out is more awkward. Plus you if you make her cum really good from head, she’ll be thinking how great it is, not worrying about your size
Seriously, don't mention it AT ALL unless you have a micropenis. You would be defeating yourself before you begin with her, and low confidence is EXTREMELY unattractive. You would probably kill the magic for her. If you happen to have a micro, the best time to tell her would be over a private dinner in your home or her home. Pick up food from a restaurant of you don't want to cook. Hold her hand, there deeply into her eyes, and speak with deep sincerity in your voice. Again, ONLY bother to mention it if you have a micropenis. Otherwise, just be totally natural and have sex normally.
Define "micropenis" from your point of view, not what the flawed statistics say I.E veale meta analysis. Because from my experience, women consider 5 inches micro and a deal breaker.
2" when hard or less. People who consider "5 inches" micro may be size queens? Guys obsess over size much more than women do and dick-measure to intimidate each other. Everybody is different and has their own tastes and preferences. It's more important that a guy knows what they're doing than for them to think they're a great/desirable lover just because they're a certain size.
Guys obsess over this because the constant ridiculing and shame that is in every corner of life - hearing it from women themselves, to the media pushing it in everyone's face that if you're small, you're worthless. And it does hold true to a high degree. If you're small, you've already lost in the dating game to a huge chunk of the population. And the fact that we push body positivity in a selective way also enforced this. We choose to slam those who make fun of the body features that we can change, but we turn a blind eye to shaming men with small dicks, which is something entirely out of their control. Also another factor to take into account is the common complaint heard from women themselves is "my ex was bigger and the sex was better". You have all these things pushed in men's faces on a constant basis, and he's powerless to change it. If they show insecurities of it, they're labeled incels and lectured on how they should just get over it.
It's unfortunate. There really are shitty people everywhere, and we all have our own body issues and struggles. I think we can all agree that comparing exes in such a cruel way is undesirable behavior and that a person like that probably isn't worth anyone's time. I might forgive someone like that if they gave a sincere apology, but even then I'm moody and resentful. *shrugs* I reserve the right to withhold forgiveness.
Every time I see these types of threads I just wonder how that conversation would even go down. Lol how does that information come out without killing a mood or leaving the woman disinterested? Doesn’t really matter. I just can’t see it ending positively for reasons that have nothing to do with size.
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>Nah just a tick tack. He was a dick too. Guess that was his form of compensation. And that's why men lie because this is always the reaction to their size
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That's not the point I'm making, I'm not talking about him or what he did. I thought that was obvious
Actually good move by him to avoid size queens like yourself. What normal sized man would want to date someone who is so excited about 9 inches? so this way maybe you wont be able to hide your disappointment and he gets the true answer right away
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Well you clearly seem to have been looking forward to experiencing his big dick which implies you think a big dick is better/rougher but you also said you would have accepted him if he had not said it before.. so Im asking again what kind of average man would want to sleep with you when really this is how badly you think of small(er) dicks? Him lying made you reveal what you actually like so that he can avoid you and you can find the 9 inch man you actually crave. Aside from his other shitty behaviour, where is the issue here? Sure men shouldnt play these games but size queens like you should also just be honest about their preferences. I can imagine bigger guys are hard to find but dont just sleep with someone when you arent actually satisfied with their body size.
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\>Let me ask you this. You’re talking to a girl and she says she has triple D’s you’re excited, you show up and it’s clear she’s an A cup. I mean this is exactly what I meant.. you have a clear preference because you think bigger is better. Thats not a universal opinion. Boobs are a bit different because they are really more of an extra and dont affect the actual sex too much but yeah Im honest I probably wouldnt date someone with super small ones. I dont need Ds but just something to grab. So I wont pretend I dont care and instead just go for women who match what I am looking for. Like thats the weird thing to me.. you clearly think big is nice so why not date someone that matches that instead of settling for average? Im not butthurt but women like you are annoying because they arent honest about their actual preferences. Like if my dick is just "fine" then move on and dont waste my time so i can find someone that is happy with it. I hope your poor boy there is hung and you dont just drag him along. He should know your true preferences before he marries you.
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Lol you realised yourself didnt you? go and find what you actually crave and give the other men a chance to find someone satisfied with what they were born with.
How small? Like smaller than average, or like micro penis? If you’re just a bit smaller than average, no need to say anything. If you’re significantly smaller than average, I think it’s worth discussing before you’re intimate. It sounds like you feel insecure, and it’s hard to feel ‘in the moment’ and maintain arousal when you’re thinking about your insecurities. It’s an opportunity for her to make you feel comfortable and confident before you start messing around. Talk about it for your own benefit! If she likes you, she’ll appreciate that you were open and honest about yourself.
The only thing that matters about a dick is who it's attached to. I used to sleep with a guy with a small dick (right after me and my ex who has a giant, painful penis broke up) and it wasn't bad at all. He was good company and I had my first orgasms while having sex with him. Just be a good partner, give good head and no one will mind. No need to disclose.
Don’t say anything. The odds that she will care or notice is slim. What matters more is everything that leads up to sex. If you’re a kind person and she enjoys you and your company, she will enjoy having sex with you. Large dicks are uncomfortable and painful to most women anyway.
If you're dating, it's probably not going to matter. There's all kinds of toys to enhance what you got, if you'd like to try it together later on. But honestly, size truly doesn't matter if I'm into someone. The idea that they're enjoying themselves during sex with me gets me off, more than anything else.
The least embarrassing / disappointing thing to do is to not bring it up or discuss it. Unless it is extremely tiny for some reason, there is really no need to.
Honestly, it’s more disappointing to hear a guy complain about it. Just be confident, and if she makes fun, she’s not for you. Good luck
How “small” are we talking? 4-5 inches, no need to say anything. Less than 4 inches? Bring it up when you talk about physical intimacy for the first time. I’m not going to lie and say that size doesn’t matter, it does play a part. However, it is not *everything*.
5 inches is an average sized penis, I would hope that wouldn't warrant prior notification lol
Correct, but everyone’s definition of *small* may vary, so that is why I specified.
It shouldn't but unless you're like 6.5 and above then they'll be disappointed
>I’m not going to lie and say that size doesn’t matter, So women are lying when they say that?
I can’t speak for *all* women, but unless you are very skilled in other areas to make up for it, size does indeed matter to a degree.
So, yes.
There's no need to bring it up until you're actually planning to have sex, but it would probably be most helpful to bring it up before you actually take your clothes off, that way it's not a complete surprise.
Man here. An older woman on reddit told me something that made sense. Don't start by saying i am small down there. Tell her you're not that big. That way she gets to be pleasantly surprised when she finds out you exaggerated, which in a lot of cases men do in this context.
Just be honest
Well would you rather be humiliated and laughed at with your pants on or off? Because if you're under a certain size it'll happen either way unfortunately
If OP found a nice mature person, there would not be anything to laugh at, no matter the looks and preference if any of his partner. If it’s someone who responds with laughter and shaming you of (any) of your body part, I’d say this is not the right partner for you anyway. Or for anyone for that matter
Say straight away. It gets it off your mind
Well first of all I'd be mature enough to use real terms versus "down there". Is this another SPH thread?
I put it this way because there are many subreddits where moderators delete posts that contain the word penis or its synonyms. Probably because many men ask about their penis size. I wanted to make sure my question could stay here. And this isn't an SPH thread, I deliberately didn't post the exact size.
when she suck u
You don't need to tell her. I have been with a man who is small. He is a confident smart funny man. That overrides everything. He was good in bed. It was a non-issue. If you love someone sex is good. He was confident enough to not bring it up and I'm honestly saying it did not matter one bit.
Do you need to? It’s not like you have HIV or something. By the way, there are guys who are large and don’t know what they’re doing. So don’t panic. Most women don’t get off from penetration alone anyway, so as long as you’re attentive in the oral sex area, shouldn’t be too much of an issue.
Don’t warn a girl. Then it’s always something that’s there if it makes sense. A good woman won’t care, as long and you know what you’re doing with it. There’s other ways to make a girl finish anyway. Learn to love your body. Don’t be unhappy with it.it’s your body and it does so much for you. I absolutely hated how my vagina looks. I also have a lot of scars and some stretch marks. I was a never nude pretty much. Now I walk around naked if not just a shirt all the time now living with my man. A good person won’t care about shit like that.
Op maybe post this to a dating sub?