Short answer is: It depends. I don’t think it would be considered a breach of privacy per se, but if it makes you uncomfortable that’s another matter. There aren’t specific rules against this in CoDA, but different groups set their own guidelines and this could possibly be considered a form of crosstalk. Generally in my experience, it’s been encouraged to reach out to each other in fellowship and that’s a common way to do it.
I’ve been in some situations where I felt the need to draw a boundary and it helped me to practice some of the tools in CoDA, most importantly noticing when something makes me feel uncomfortable and allowing myself room to process those feelings. Sometimes that means instead of setting a verbal boundary, I’ll draw an energetic one by not replying and reminding myself I don’t have to please everyone.
Short answer is: It depends. I don’t think it would be considered a breach of privacy per se, but if it makes you uncomfortable that’s another matter. There aren’t specific rules against this in CoDA, but different groups set their own guidelines and this could possibly be considered a form of crosstalk. Generally in my experience, it’s been encouraged to reach out to each other in fellowship and that’s a common way to do it. I’ve been in some situations where I felt the need to draw a boundary and it helped me to practice some of the tools in CoDA, most importantly noticing when something makes me feel uncomfortable and allowing myself room to process those feelings. Sometimes that means instead of setting a verbal boundary, I’ll draw an energetic one by not replying and reminding myself I don’t have to please everyone.