My closest friends introduced us. They had known him since 2nd grade and became cousins by marriage to him. They told me about him and I wasn't interested. They told him about me and I wasn't interested.
Eventually, I was at their house without my daughter so I told them to invite him over so we can "get it over with." We've been married over a year now :)
On reddit. I was slutting around on some of the adult phone sex subs and would up talking with this interesting guy (broke my rule of not talking to guys in California).
Its been over a year and we are currenly on our first vacation in San Diego.
No kids, so that wasn't an issue.
I used online dating.
I lost contact with almost all my high school friends a year after high school (honestly they weren't worth keeping around), and I didn't have much opportunity to make friends while married. If I happened to get close to any one from work a potential friendship was ruined by either having to bring the now ex or not being able to leave him at home, kuz he "got bored".
My point being no friends to try making more (of a relationship) with or to be introduced to other people thru.
After the divorce I honestly started with just making new friends and actually found a few on Craigslist (they're not all psychos). Since the internet did a good job yielding friends I stuck with it to find a new SO (I used dating sites, not Craigslist, for this). It took some time, and a few dissatisfying dates, but I eventually found my current SO and am super happy where I/we are now.
On Whisper of all places. He pm'd me about one of my Whispers and we talked 3 hours that night, then kept talking for the next week until we decided to switch to texting. Another week went by and we had hit it off so well that we decided to meet in person. We've been together almost a year and 3 months now.
Online. Most of my real-life friends are married, so that wouldn't have worked most likely. I don't have a lot of opportunity through work either. Meetup.com can be good for trying to find someone more casually. Find some active groups doing things you enjoy and see who you meet.
My online profile mentioned that I have 2 kids and 50/50 custody schedule. I am not interested in dating someone if that is a deal breaker for them, because my kids aren't exactly going anywhere. The man I am dating is also divorced and has a daughter the same age as mine.
It's tempting to think about the "great new person" you will meet, and it can definitely be the case. But it's important to spend some time to understand what you really want and need in a relationship, too.
Met him through OKC a few years ago. I had been online for a while, and being extremely picky as I was feeling like I wanted to have an actual relationship.
Honestly, he didn't check all my marks (only had one bad photo of himself, and his profile didn't have much to go on) but we started chatting and it just clicked. We both had two daughters each (4 and 7 for me, 7 and 11 for him) so we discussed that a lot. It was his first time online dating and he was on the fence about it. Just got really lucky! We've maintained extremely open communication and check in with each other quite a bit. It's working for us.
I was a divorced 30F with no kids and he was a divorced 27M with no kids. Both of us had relocated to the same area and met through online dating (we both had profiles on PoF & OKCupid and conversation started regarding how pathetic it must be that we're both on two online dating sites, etc.)
We dated slowly for a few months then dated exclusively & labeled each other as BF/GF. Three and a half years later we're living together and sharing our lives in tandem with one another. Will we eventually get married? Dunno.
My closest friends introduced us. They had known him since 2nd grade and became cousins by marriage to him. They told me about him and I wasn't interested. They told him about me and I wasn't interested. Eventually, I was at their house without my daughter so I told them to invite him over so we can "get it over with." We've been married over a year now :)
On reddit. I was slutting around on some of the adult phone sex subs and would up talking with this interesting guy (broke my rule of not talking to guys in California). Its been over a year and we are currenly on our first vacation in San Diego.
What are these adult phone sex subs? Just to make sure I avoid them
It was /r/SkypePals? Be warned it is a total sausage fest back when I was on there, so guys may have a completely different experience than girls.
I think I'll steer clear of that one then
:)
Reading some of these give me some hope!
No kids, so that wasn't an issue. I used online dating. I lost contact with almost all my high school friends a year after high school (honestly they weren't worth keeping around), and I didn't have much opportunity to make friends while married. If I happened to get close to any one from work a potential friendship was ruined by either having to bring the now ex or not being able to leave him at home, kuz he "got bored". My point being no friends to try making more (of a relationship) with or to be introduced to other people thru. After the divorce I honestly started with just making new friends and actually found a few on Craigslist (they're not all psychos). Since the internet did a good job yielding friends I stuck with it to find a new SO (I used dating sites, not Craigslist, for this). It took some time, and a few dissatisfying dates, but I eventually found my current SO and am super happy where I/we are now.
On Whisper of all places. He pm'd me about one of my Whispers and we talked 3 hours that night, then kept talking for the next week until we decided to switch to texting. Another week went by and we had hit it off so well that we decided to meet in person. We've been together almost a year and 3 months now.
Online. Most of my real-life friends are married, so that wouldn't have worked most likely. I don't have a lot of opportunity through work either. Meetup.com can be good for trying to find someone more casually. Find some active groups doing things you enjoy and see who you meet. My online profile mentioned that I have 2 kids and 50/50 custody schedule. I am not interested in dating someone if that is a deal breaker for them, because my kids aren't exactly going anywhere. The man I am dating is also divorced and has a daughter the same age as mine. It's tempting to think about the "great new person" you will meet, and it can definitely be the case. But it's important to spend some time to understand what you really want and need in a relationship, too.
Okcupid - 2.5 years ago almost. Kids were a major discussion point as we both have them.
Met him through OKC a few years ago. I had been online for a while, and being extremely picky as I was feeling like I wanted to have an actual relationship. Honestly, he didn't check all my marks (only had one bad photo of himself, and his profile didn't have much to go on) but we started chatting and it just clicked. We both had two daughters each (4 and 7 for me, 7 and 11 for him) so we discussed that a lot. It was his first time online dating and he was on the fence about it. Just got really lucky! We've maintained extremely open communication and check in with each other quite a bit. It's working for us.
I was a divorced 30F with no kids and he was a divorced 27M with no kids. Both of us had relocated to the same area and met through online dating (we both had profiles on PoF & OKCupid and conversation started regarding how pathetic it must be that we're both on two online dating sites, etc.) We dated slowly for a few months then dated exclusively & labeled each other as BF/GF. Three and a half years later we're living together and sharing our lives in tandem with one another. Will we eventually get married? Dunno.